If you told me when I was 30 that I would be writing these words, telling you I’ve been sober for 6½ years, I would’ve thought you lost your damn mind.

For so many reasons, the first being: I loved wine. I loved the way it paired with a gorgeous meal at dinner parties or restaurants, always making the experience feel like a party for your senses. I loved wine nights with my girlfriends. And after becoming a mom, it became the treat I thought I deserved at the end of a nonstop day. I loved how it helped me calm down and relax.

But along the way, something changed. And the truth is: I knew it all along.

Here’s the real story I’ve never shared before about why I quit drinking.

But first, let’s go back in time for a minute to share my relationship with alcohol. Because we all have one...

The Party Years

In my late teens and all of my twenties, I drank to get drunk, and often blackout drunk. It was the norm where I grew up in Connecticut. We’d go to the woods and drink copious amounts of beer till we got caught by the cops - sometimes they’d join us - I know, so ridiculous, but at the time we thought it was hilarious. I’d go to college parties drinking vodka, and it gave me that fun, buzzy feeling where I couldn’t notice my insecurities. As soon as I had 2 drinks, I felt free and suddenly confident to do things I never would have had the courage to do as an insecure teenager. Yet, it didn’t take many drinks for me to forget what I said or did the night before, only to be overwhelmed with embarrassment the next day. Yet not enough embarrassment to stop.

When I was living in Florida at 21 years old, I drank champagne every day. Every single day, and lots of it. Was it fun? Yes. And did I make a lot of stupid decisions? An even bigger yes.

It didn’t matter that I worked three jobs. I’ve always had a strong work ethic. When I wasn’t working, I was drinking with friends and smoking weed (never hard drugs, because I was scared of them), but still, this led me into some really dangerous situations. One night when I was partying with friends in West Palm Beach, I was attacked by three guys in the back stairway of a nightclub. And yes, I was drunk.

I screamed loud enough that my friend came running down the back stairs to make sure I was OK, and they finally fled. They’d ripped my clothes, hit me plenty of times, and sexually assaulted me. By the time I walked down the stairs to the outside, I was so disoriented I couldn’t think straight.

A friend looked at me and said, “Ash, we’re calling the cops. You have a black eye, and you’re not OK.”

The cops arrived and got my story. No charges were placed, nobody took me to the hospital, and I went home that night sick to my stomach. I knew in my gut I had to get out of Florida. I was hanging with the wrong crowd, and I could see the scary direction my life would continue to go if I stayed.

As much as I wish this was my wake-up call, it wasn’t.

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They’re BACK! Well, technically this is the first Sensual Sunday on my favorite corner of the internet, Substack. I used to create these years ago for my mailers, and so many of you have asked me to bring them back. So, I couldn’t be more thrilled to share the first one with you today!

As I’m writing this to you, I’m sipping my cacao and feeling that delicious sensation of being a little love drunk, extra relaxed, heart wide open.

I’ve been thinking a lot about how our culture is obsessed with optimization, performing, and self-improvement. And I don’t know about you - but I’m over it. This passion project was born out of a deep desire, truly a yearning, to create for creativity’s sake. No agenda. No five-step protocols. No “make it a habit.” Just a few simple pleasures each Sunday, from my real life to yours, as a little permission slip to enjoy being alive.

So let’s get into it, shall we?

Your Invitation

Sensual Sundays are my invitation to you: slow down, enliven your senses, and enjoy life’s simple pleasures.

Beach Walks for the Soul

Lately, I’ve been loving walking the beach on Sullivan’s Island. I’ve been craving the ocean air, and even though it’s blistering hot, it’s still so blissful being there. Sullivan’s is my favorite island in Charleston, and I have to say, the second my feet hit the sand, a level of calm and feeling at home comes over my whole body. I’ve always lived by the beach, which I feel very lucky to say, and it’s the place I go to connect with nature, with the creator, and with myself. Of course, I also love hanging out with family and friends and playing all day, swimming, making tons of fun memories. Yet my daughter isn’t into the beach as much this summer.

So for the past two weeks, I’ve been taking solo walks for my soul. I leave my phone and sandals in the car and relish the beauty of nature. There’s something about staring at the ocean while walking the beach, how vast and expansive it is. It reminds me how small we really are, how endless the possibilities are, and how lucky we are to live on this beautiful planet. I often talk to my spirit guides and the creator while I’m walking. I ask them to share anything they want me to know right now, about my life, about the collective, and any way I can be of service. And I always get downloads. Every single time. I think my channel is more open, and I’m more willing to receive, when I’m on the beach.

Recently, I was ready to let go of a lot of old stories that, quite frankly, had been weighing me down for years. I was just FED UP with them, you know that feeling? So I took a swim in the sea and released them. I told the creator and my guides my intention to fully surrender, and I let the ocean waves wash over me as I released it all. I’ve gotta say: I felt a million times lighter. The ocean is the greatest cleanser of our energy, in my opinion.

The Cacao Ritual

Onto the next delicious pleasure: I’m into drinking cacao again. I took a break for over a year, and I’ve gotta say, this new Anima Mundi cacao is so delicious I can’t recommend it enough. Here’s the link. It’s super easy to make: I love 2 tablespoons with a big dollop of honey and cinnamon. The effects I feel from cacao are unlike anything else: I become so chill, creative, sensual, and relaxed in my feminine energy. It’s like all the chatter of the world telling us to constantly be productive just disappears, and I become incredibly present. I’m loving drinking it again.

The Song

If this is your first time reading Sensual Sundays: music is always a part of it, and so is Sunday Dinner. I’m obsessed with music, always have been, and I’ve created a Sensual Sundays playlist that’s been accumulating a vast array of incredible artists over the past couple of years. You can access the full playlist here. But every Sensual Sunday, I share one featured song.

This week, I cannot get enough of Olivia Dean featuring Leon Bridges singing “The Hardest Part.” This duo, my goooood, it’s a PURE DREAM. I hope they create more music together. The song’s a few years old, but it hits every time. I’ve had it on repeat.

Sunday Dinner

Lastly, Sunday Dinner. I’m getting my groove back with big Sunday meals. I grew up in an Italian family where you did not miss Sunday Dinner. Ever. It didn’t matter how old we were or what was going on in our lives; everyone was home for Sunday Dinner, and I loved the tradition. So I’m doing my best to keep it alive for Siena, myself, and our family, mixing in new recipes each week. This week I’m giving this one a go: The Eggplant That Drives Everyone Crazy. I’ll let you know how it goes, but it looks crazy delish.

As you can see, this is about just enjoying life. I’m not “recharging so I can be productive later.” I’m not optimizing my rest. I’m just... enjoying my life. Being IN it. And my nervous system knows the difference between rest that’s earned and rest that’s simply allowed.

So here’s your invitation this Sunday: pick ONE pleasure and let it be slow. The coffee without the phone. The shower that lasts a little longer. The music while you cook. The walk with no destination. Whatever your version is, let yourself have it fully, without turning it into self-improvement.

What’s your simple pleasure today? Tell me in the comments; I want to build a whole collection of these from you all.

Enjoy every last drop of it.

I love you,
Ash

The number one question I get during walks with my girlfriends, on client calls, at dinner parties, over text, is always some version of: “How do I know if it’s my intuition or just my mind?”

I have asked myself this question a thousand times, and now I’ve answered it for others so many times I could do it in my sleep.

We hear about intuition all the time, but HOW does it actually speak? Is it your gut? Is it a knowing that crosses your mind? We’re going to get into what a lot of people are missing in this whole conversation about intuition. But first, let’s talk about what happened last week with so many of you.

On a whim, I posted a little intuition test on Instagram, and hollllly, I never could have imagined that hundreds of you would play it with me and get it right. If you haven’t played it yet, play here, it’s so fun!

Which confirmed what I’ve been saying for years: You Already Know. You always do. Your intuition is communicating with you all day, every day. And it has the answer to any question you have. The knowing was never the problem. Where I see people get tripped up is ACTING on it.

And I get it. We’ve been conditioned to focus so much of our energy on logic. We do things only when they “make sense” to our minds. But intuition knows a helluva lot more than your conditioned mind, and it always knows what’s in your highest good in any given moment.

My mission in life is to help you, and everyone I encounter, trust your intuition more than anything. So first, let’s start with what intuition is: it’s knowing the truth without intellectual reasoning.

The Scariest Part Isn’t Trusting It

I’m sure you can think of plenty of moments in your life when you had that strong knowing. I’ll tell you a story about when I did, and I was so scared to trust it for a million different reasons.

I’ve had intuitive downloads since I was a little girl, knowings that came true, and I spent years not fully trusting them (the longer story of that little girl and her abilities is for another day). But here’s the thing I wish I would have known sooner: the scariest part is not trusting your intuition. It’s ACTING on it. Even when, and especially when, it defies logic.

I know because at 40, I walked away from the life I once dreamed of having. I got divorced. And I need you to understand what that actually felt like on the inside: my mind was working OVERTIME manufacturing reasons to stay. The logic, the security, the fairytale- my mind had all of it organized into a beautiful presentation. And underneath all of that noise, my intuition was screaming one thing: it’s time to leap. My body knew it was true. I had no evidence or guarantees it would all work out. Just the knowing that it was the right choice for my soul.

I chose the knowing. It defied every logical thing. And it was the most important decision I’ve ever made.

Intuition Is a Felt Sense

Now, here’s what people get confused about with intuition. People think the goal is learning to HEAR your intuition. But your intuition is a felt sense. Yes, sometimes you can hear it, but sometimes it shows up in other ways. You’ve gotta be connected to your body to feel it. And according to Human Design, it’s a myth that everyone has a gut intuition, which may be a relief for you.

I can’t recommend knowing your Human Design chart enough, for a million different reasons, but one of the main ones is that it shows you how intuition speaks through YOUR body specifically. There’s gut intuition, splenic, mental, emotional, and ego. Jenna Zoe is my favorite teacher on HD, and you can pull your whole chart for free here.

With all of that said, I think we all have an inner knowing that comes over us in certain moments. Because intuition IS divine guidance, flowing through you. And it’s time, now more than ever, to trust that divine knowing over the noise in the world. Because that noise is getting louder, and there’s more of it than ever, trying to distract us from trusting the powerful source we have available within us in any given moment.

It’s time to stop outsourcing that knowing.

Why do we do it?

Because of the conditioning that lives in our subconscious, based in fear. Whenever you transform your consciousness from beliefs based in fear to beliefs based in love, it becomes easier and easier to trust that intuitive guidance. The real work is becoming a clear enough channel to trust what comes through, and that means transforming your consciousness. I call it unclogging the pipes.

When your nervous system is stuck on high alert, and your subconscious is running those old fear programs, everything sounds like static. Is it intuition? Is it anxiety? Who can tell! Nobody, because the pipes are clogged. But when you regulate your nervous system and rewire those old beliefs? The voice isn’t hard to hear at all. It never was.

And I’ll just say it: anything that numbs you, clogs you. Alcohol, endless scrolling, staying busy so you never have to feel. Whatever your version is, it’s worth getting honest about, because you cannot numb selectively. When you quiet the noise, whatever it is for you, you will be amazed at how clear, how in tune, and how trusting of yourself you become. (Getting sober six and a half years ago cleared my channel like nothing else; that’s a whole letter of its own coming soon.)

And Then the Magic Starts

AND THEN the trippy part starts for you. Because the more you unclog, the more synchronicity and real-life magic start happening in YOUR life. Daily. You’ll start seeing what’s coming into your life AS it’s happening, like watching puzzle pieces come together in real time. You already knew it was going to happen; you just didn’t know exactly how, and then you witness the universe work its magic right before your eyes. Isn’t this wild?

And I need you to know about intuition: it’s not a special gift for special people. It’s not reserved for psychics or monks or people who meditate three hours a day. It’s simply what a clear channel feels like. It’s what YOU feel like, underneath the static. You were born with it and you will die with it.

Intuition vs. Anxiety

And since I get asked this all the time: how can you tell the difference between intuition and anxiety? Here’s the simplest way I know to say it. Anxiety analyzes everything and assesses threat. Intuition analyzes nothing. It simply supports the knowing, and every cell of your body recognizes the truth. It’s a powerful resonance. The tricky part, let’s be honest, is not letting the mind talk you out of it.

It’s kind of amazing how the body speaks for the soul, and eventually it gets too loud to ignore. But god, we’re good at ignoring the subtle clues in the beginning, aren’t we?

What I Want You to Walk Away With

So here’s what I want you to walk away with. If your life looks great on paper but you feel like you’re going through the motions, you are not stuck. You are not broken. And you are definitely not missing intuition. Somewhere along the way, it just stopped feeling safe to act on it. That safety can be rebuilt. And on the other side is the most magnetic and freeing experience of your life: being completely anchored in your own knowing.

You already know. You’ve always known. The only question is: are you ready to act on it?

If you’re ready to unclog the pipes and trust your intuition like never before, this is exactly the work I do with my clients. If you want to explore what that could look like for you, book a clarity call and let’s talk. There’s nothing I love more.

So tell me: what’s the thing your intuition keeps whispering that your logic keeps arguing with? Let’s talk about it.

I love you,
Ash

If you’re going through a divorce, or you know somebody going through a divorce, send this letter to them. And save it, because you’re gonna want to come back to it when you need a little inspiration or a lift, when you’re in the throes of how challenging it is.

Because today I’m sharing the upsides. And there are a lot of upsides.

First of all, we all know the downsides. The heartbreak, legalities, the drama, the manipulation. It doesn’t have to be that way, but it can often turn into that, unfortunately. I’m not here to pretend any of that isn’t real. I’ve lived this, and it was the most challenging transformation of my life.

And there is another side of this story that almost nobody tells you. So here it is.

You get to romanticize your life.

Remember, you’re the author of your story, and you get to treat yourself the way you want to be treated, now more than ever. Take incredibly good care of yourself. Buy your own flowers. Make this the chapter of being the love of your own life, and discover what that actually means at this stage of your life. Cook yourself gorgeous and delicious meals with beautiful music playing in the background, and candles lit all over your house. Take yourself on a date to your favorite restaurant. Treat yourself like the queen you are, and watch how the world responds to that energy. It will give you people who love, respect, and appreciate you for who you truly are.

You get to swim in your own energy.

If you were with your spouse for a while, you were influenced by their energy. It’s hard not to be. Their energy likely affected your point of view, your self-esteem, and even your other relationships without you even realizing it. But now that you’re on your own, you get to dance in your own energy!!! Now you get to discover who YOU are, your rhythms, your tastes, your inner knowing, uninfluenced. Your clarity is going to come rushing back, and that, in its own right, is such a gift.

If you have kids -

This might be controversial, but...

I think the divorce schedule of every other weekend is actually kind of the ideal schedule for parents. You get the break every parent needs to be fully present and appreciate the time you have with your kiddos.

Now, do I miss my daughter like crazy when she’s with her dad? Yes, of course. Do I wish I was with her every day, all day? Yes, of course I do. To be totally transparent, giving up time with her was hands down the hardest part of our divorce. I cried for more hours than I can count thinking about how much I would miss her, and all the moments I was scared of missing.

Thankfully, she has a great dad who adores her, and I know that when she’s with him, she’s getting quality time with him. So over time, I decided to focus on counting my blessings there.

Now that the dust has settled and we’ve had a new normal for years, I can say that once I accepted the reality of our schedule, I decided to make the most of my solo time. And I recommend you do the same thing too.

I know it can be tough, especially in the beginning. It’s easy to feel guilt and worry about your kids. A lot of women find it impossible to give themselves permission to relax and enjoy the time they have to themselves, especially if they were in a toxic or abusive relationship. If this is you: your nervous system is used to being on high alert. And it needs to know you’re no longer running from a tiger (both metaphorically and literally).

If you feel like you can’t relax, like your nervous system won’t give you permission to enjoy your own life while your kids are at their other home, I want you to hear this: that’s not a character flaw. That’s your mind and body trying to keep you safe based on an old program, and you can change that.

I coach a lot of women going through divorce, and helping them close trauma loops and rewire their subconscious is completely life-changing. Because it allows your mind and body to fully let go of the stress from the past, and as a result, you turn that past trauma into wisdom with a healthy new perspective. And before you know it, it feels OK to allow yourself to enjoy this new chapter.

When you give yourself permission...

To do what you really want to do, it’s so damn freeing. I’m in my forties, but whatever age you are, do you realize what a gift it is to begin again as an adult at this stage of your life? To discover what you love. Try new things. Be artistic. Spend time with new people. Go on dates. To have SO much fun and fall in love with life in a way you never knew was possible.

Not to mention, when you are with your kids, you’re way more present and ALIVE, because you’re no longer running on empty. And you’re no longer making decisions from guilt. We both know your kids can feel that energy. Distance really does help the heart grow fonder. Your bond will only deepen with them, because when you’re with them, you will really BE with them, more present and aware of how precious your time together is.

This past Solo Sunday, I slept till 9:30 am, had a slow morning enjoying my coffee, and went for a walk on the beach. It was glorious to be by myself, not overly scheduled; I got to just flow before my daughter came home that night. I felt fully rested, so when she arrived, we had a dance party in the kitchen and spent most of the night laughing.

This isn’t me bragging. I'm sharing this to expand your mind about what's possible, by showing you what's on the other side of the throes. Because a few years ago, I couldn’t have imagined a morning like the one I had, feeling this peaceful. And now it’s just... my life.

You get to make this the most incredible new chapter of your life, and if you carry that intention with you in your heart every day and your actions are aligned with that intention - ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE. I mean that with everything in me.

If you want support during this season of change, book a clarity call, and we can explore what’s possible for you. I love helping people going through divorce turn it into the greatest homecoming party of all time.

Sending so much love,
Ash

The Lion’s Gate Portal is OPEN and the energy today is absolutely electric.

8/8 is one of the most potent manifestation days of the year. The sun in Leo, Sirius rising, and the whole cosmos basically rolling out the red carpet for you.

Because here’s the reality, you guys: astrology is a supportive force. The cosmos energetically support bringing movement to fruition. And on any given day, you can pivot and make changes in your life, because you are a powerful cocreator. When you ask to be guided by your highest self, you’re being guided by the strongest, most powerful source you have, instead of trying to get there with your mind.

And the more you trust your vision, AND take action on what you hear (which is key), the more you move through the discomfort of letting go of old identities, old ways of being, old ways that felt comfortable. You know the ones. “It’s just safer to keep doing this.” “Stay in this relationship.” “Keep people pleasing.” Not really going after the dreams you feel in your heart. Not saying the thing about that uncomfortable relationship dynamic. Whatever it is for you: now’s the time, you guys.

That means showing up for yourself every day and taking action towards the dreams that have been placed in your heart, because they’ve been placed there for a reason. Your dreams are different than my dreams, which are different than your best friend’s dreams. And those desires did not land within you by accident.

So here’s my invitation: let this be FUN. Zero pressure. The universe is loving and supporting you every step of the way, and today the cosmic forces are literally working in your favor.

Play with me for a second. If you knew you couldn’t get it wrong, what would you boldly claim as yours?

I created these journaling prompts to help you really gain clarity about what that life is, what you’re being called to create, and, equally if not more important, what it’s time to let go of, with your mindset, your beliefs, your habits, your ways of being- so that what’s meant for you can find you.

Grab your journal, get cozy and quiet, and let your highest self do the talking. No perfect answers required, just honesty and a little or maybe a lot of courage.

1. Get quiet enough to truly hear yourself, and invite your highest self to guide and reveal the answers. Who am I being called to become? What am I being called to create and share with the world? What dreams am I bringing into fruition? Get detailed, and feel the energy as if they are already here.

2. What am I no longer available for? What old ways of thinking and being are not serving me? What outdated habits are holding me back, keeping me staying the same and playing smaller than the life I want to live?

3. In what ways am I being inauthentic, doing things in the old paradigm way of thinking I have to prove myself or perform in order to be successful, receive love, or feel worthy?

4. If I wasn’t scared of being seen for who I really am, what dreams would I pursue with passion and my whole heart?

5. What am I ready to receive and fully hold, knowing I am worthy of having it?

6. What’s the action I can take today to show myself and the universe that I am ready to embody this version of myself and live in this timeline?

And my favorite part: that last prompt asks for one aligned action TODAY. One small, bold move that tells the universe “I’m ready.”

Have fun with this practice. And tell me in the comments: what are you boldly claiming this portal season? I want to celebrate with you.

Sending so much love,
Ash

August is gonna be one of the best months of your entire life. You know how I know? Because we’re gonna make you a MAGNET for abundance in every area of your life. Your relationships, your money, your work, your health, your joy. All of it.

Here’s what I know after 13 years of doing this work: abundance isn’t something you chase down. It’s something you become an energetic match for. The women I watch receive the most, the love, the opportunities, the money, the serendipitous encounters that make life feel straight-up magical, are not the ones hustling the hardest. They’re the ones whose nervous system, beliefs, and daily attention are all tuned to the same frequency: it’s already here, already mine, and more is already on the way.

That’s what this month is about. And we’re starting right now, together. So get out a piece of paper, I mean it. Go grab one, I’ll wait.

Step one: write out all the areas where you already have abundance, joy, meaning, fulfillment, and love in your life.

And this is not just money, you guys. This is any area of life where you have what you desire, and it feels full, meaningful, and it brings your heart joy.

As an example - do you love your pets? I was walking my dog this morning and I just love him so much, when I focus on our relationship I feel the appreciation swell in my heart.

Now think of any aspect of your life - Do you live in an area that’s beautiful? Do you have your health? Does your family have their health? Do you have a job that you love? Are you surrounded by friends that you adore, or maybe they live all over the country, but you have people in your life that you love and adore? Maybe it’s that you have an abundance of security in your bank account.

Write it ALL down. Every single area where you feel abundant in your life.

Because here’s the truth most manifestation content completely skips: you cannot magnetize from lack. This list isn’t a cute gratitude exercise. It’s proof to your nervous system that abundance is ALREADY your reality. And what your body believes is real, it draws more of. This is the moment your magnet turns on.

Now, let’s turn your magnetism all the way up.

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Can we talk about how much we love to complicate the shit out of things as human beings? I’m laughing as I type this, and I hope you’re laughing as you read it. Because with the best of intentions, we can make the most simple things in life far more complex than they need to be.

For instance, let’s talk about the wellness industry, shall we?

I’ve been talking to so many people about this. What helps us achieve that state of wellness and deep connection within is actually quite simple.

Buuuut as the wellness industry has completely exploded with capitalism driving the bus, the messaging in the industry tells you that buying a shit ton of things and stacking them into a 50-step routine is what you need in order to feel good.

And listen, I love a good serum and face mask, and I love a morning routine. However, I think the capitalism part of this has gotten a littttle out of control. People are worried that if they don’t fit it all in, they’re failing at life or they’re going to feel awful all day. The talk of perimenopause, peptides, hormones, microplastics, protein, collagen, a perfectly balanced nervous system (which nobody has, by the way), and everything else getting thrown at us on a daily basis... it’s too much.

It’s leading people to become MORE controlling, stressed, and rigid in their lives. And not to state the obvious, but that’s kind of the opposite of well.

We all know it’s way more simple than all of this. Our bodies and intuition are telling us by the tension they’re carrying. And we’re the ones complicating it by feeding the machine. Which also means we’re the ones who can change it.

So let’s get to the heart of it. What’s going to make you feel well and deeply connected to yourself starts with actually slowing down. Quieting the noise of the outside world. Being in nature. Going for a walk with your favorite beverage. Being with yourself, no distractions, listening to what your intuition already knows.

Not just listening, but acting on what you hear. And that may mean making some tough decisions about stuff you’ve been avoiding. Like speaking your truth in relationships you’re genuinely not happy in. It might mean changing your job and taking the risk to pursue your passions, even though you’re not completely clear on the financial landscape of that choice. But you’re going to take the risk anyway, because it truly makes your soul come alive, and trust that the universe wouldn’t place that desire in your mind and heart repeatedly if it weren’t meant for you - so it will work out one way or the other. It might mean giving up the booze, or at least scaling way back, because you know that drinking makes you feel like crap and clouds your judgment, not just in the moment when you have a great buzz, but for days after.

This kind of honesty is hard, and almost easy to avoid with all of the distractions in life. But lying to yourself is causing far more dis-ease and lack of wellness than what kind of products you’re using. This kind of radical honesty is what sets you free. And your nervous system will feel so safe and balanced, because you’re really listening to it and acting on it’s wisdom. It will make a random Tuesday feel like vacation.

And we’re all being tasked with this mission right now, whether we like it or not, because a new paradigm is upon us. It arrives in 2027. Human Design has been predicting this since the 1980s. Astrology is talking about it too. Jenna Zoe is my favorite person to follow and learn all about it, I highly recommend following her and learning more.

Essentially, the new paradigm is a new collective consciousness, and to be a part of it, it’s asking ALL OF US to take radical responsibility for our lives. You may have noticed how you’ve become a stronger energy reader over the past few years, and essentially now you can’t pretend that you’re unaware. But, and it’s a big but, if you are pretending and shoving the things you don’t want to look at under the rug, the consequences are becoming bigger and louder. I don’t mean that in a scary way. The universe loves you and all of us and it’s trying to get us to pay attention and show up fully, authentically, as the people we’re here to be. So it’s showing us all of the areas we can clean up - where we’re being inauthentic and making choices from a place of proving, ego, scarcity in order to BE the people we’re super proud of being.

Spoiler Alert : None of those things have to do with a cold plunge.

So here’s how this ties into the wellness industry: it’s time to stop doing shit that drains your energy or makes you feel like crap. Or believing you have to do so many things in order to look a certain way, to then feel accepted and loved by society. Again, none of this stuff is inherently wrong. It’s about the consciousness and intention you’re doing it from. And if you’re doing these things to ‘fix yourself” to finally feel good enough, whole or worthy - that’s a losing game. Because believing you are all of those things begins and ends within. Get your subsconsious on board with those beliefs - that you are inherently worthy, whole, capable and enough - then watch your entire reality change - no $250 serum required.

So let’s simplify it. Eat food that comes from the earth. Be around people who are great for your nervous system. Do more of the stuff you love, and let go of the stuff, people, and experiences that stress you out. Have more fun, like lots of fun. Play. Act like a kid. Be creative. Take time away from screens. Make memories with the people you love. Sing, dance, cook. Simple, nourishing things that give us meaning and joy in life.

None of that requires getting on a vibration plate. Not to hate on the vibration plate, I’m sure it works. But somewhere along the way, the wellness industry lost the plot about actual wellness, and I don’t know about you, but I’m so freaking sick of all of that.

Wellness is about living WELL. Living from your soul and allowing yourself to flow with life, rather than feeling like you need to control and perfect your way through it.

Let’s take a break from buying 100 things in order to potentially feel good. And you certainly don’t need a 15 step morning routine in order to feel connected to yourself.

Instead of spending so much money on wellness stuff, and believing that the things we need are outside of ourselves in order to feel good, let’s try the opposite. Let’s start doing more of the things that already exist within us. The things that are so easy to access, and that actually feel good for the long term.

Do a morning check-in, maybe meditate a little bit, however it feels good to you. Ask what it is that your soul’s here to create today, and how you can live from your soul while being of service to the world in your own unique way. Do more of the shit you love. Stop overbooking your schedule. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself. Prioritize pleasure and sensuality. See how good you feel.

This is why we all love Europeans so much. They’ve got it down, don’t they? They don’t overcomplicate things. They let themselves enjoy pleasure for the sheer act of just enjoying life, without checking off things on a to-do list. They bask in a great meal, being surrounded by beauty, community, family. They prioritize leisurely time doing nothing. But in my opinion, what they’re really doing is fully living.

What do you think? Are you with me? Tell me in the comments.

Sending you so. much love,
Ash

We talk a lot in the wellness world about the big tools: the breathwork, the meditation, the cold plunges, the protocols. And listen, I love a good practice that elevate my energy. But some of the most powerful things you can do for your nervous system are so simple, free, and so underrated that a lot of people aren’t talking about them.

But let’s get into it, shall we?

1. Prioritize play.
It’s so easy to get clicked into all our responsibilities that we forget life is meant to be enjoyed. Do something you haven’t done since you were a kid. Ride the bike. Do cannon balls into the pool. Rollerblade (my personal fave). Play the silly game. Heck, even have game night. It’s summer, give yourself permission have a damn good time without needing documenting a single second of it. Just notice how different you feel when play becomes a regular part of your life instead of a reward you have to earn.

2. Take a real break from social media.
I know, I know, it goes without saying. But when’s the last time you actually did it? Twenty-four hours. Even forty-eight. Completely off. When you’re not being bombarded with information every few minutes, something amazing happens: you become really, truly present. Your nervous system is more chill and you can hear and even feel your intuition more clearly.

3. Just let yourself be.
We lost the art of this one somewhere along the way with all this technology. No screens. No book. No podcast. Not even a “productive” rest activity. Just you, being. It might feel a little hard at first, your system isn’t used to it, but relax into it. Trust it. Your nervous system remembers what to do.

4. Write a letter to someone you love.
This one’s fun! Pick somebody you really love and write them a letter telling them exactly what they mean to you. Handwrite it on paper. Take your time with it. Pour your heart into it. And notice what happens in your own body while you do: how full your heart feels. Love regulates us in both directions, giving it works just as well as receiving it.

5. Speak kindly to yourself.
Self-talk is such a huge part of how your nervous system functions every single day. So be really, really loving toward yourself, the way you would be with a young child. “I’ve got you. I believe in you. I trust you. I trust that we’re being guided.” Those kind, encouraging words go so much further than you think. Your body is always listening.

That’s it. No apps, no purchases, no perfect protocol. Just five ways to remind your nervous system that it’s safe to be and fully live life without pressure or need to perform.

Try one this week, leave a comment and let me know how it goes.

I love you,
Ash

“From my very first conversation with Ash Cebulka, I felt welcomed, understood, and completely at ease. She has such a warm and compassionate spirit, and talking with her always felt natural, affirming, and encouraging.

Through Human Design and PSYCH-K®, I gained a deeper understanding of qualities, instincts, and patterns that had always been a part of me. Instead of feeling that I needed to become someone different, I learned to recognize, appreciate, and accept the person I had been all along.

Our work also helped me release much of the shame I had carried about my past struggles with addiction. Ash created a safe, judgment-free space where I could view my experiences with greater compassion and recognize that my past does not diminish my worth or define the fullness of who I am.

Ash’s guidance also brought clarity to relationships I needed to release because they were no longer serving me. I learned that I did not have to rush to repair every fracture or assume responsibility for fixing every relationship; I could step back and allow time and my Creator to bring healing where it was meant to occur.

Most meaningfully, this work has helped me walk with greater strength and grace along the lifelong grief path of losing both my father and my daughter. While grief remains a part of my story, I feel more grounded and better able to carry both my sorrow and my love without losing myself. I am deeply grateful for

Ash’s care, wisdom, and encouragement, and I wholeheartedly recommend her services to anyone seeking self-acceptance, healing, clarity, and meaningful transformation.” - Kendra

If you’re curious about this work, here’s the simplest way I can describe it: I blend PSYCH-K, somatic nervous system regulation, Human Design, and intuitive embodiment to help you come home to who you truly are in my signature Owning It Method.

We reset the nervous system so your body feels safe, creating the change your heart and soul so deeply desire. Human Design as your energetic blue print and map back to yourself. It highlights the conditioning you received from the outside world, that’s blocking you from living in alignment. And PSYCH-K helps you rewire those subconscious beliefs and close trauma loops that are running the show, so you can fully embody your most authentic and magnetic self. Not becoming someone new. Recognizing, appreciating, and accepting who you’ve been all along, exactly like Kendra said.

If you’re tired of repeating old patterns in relationships and other areas of your life, and you’re ready to create the kind of change that lasts... click here and we can chat about options for you.

Sending so much love,
Ash

Whether you’re brand new here or you’ve been with me for years, I wanted to write you a post that gives you the full download on my story and my WHY. Because most of you know pieces of me, but very few of you know the whole wild ride.

And I want to name something first. The spiritual and wellness space, as beautiful and nurturing as it is, has gotten a little... much. A little rigid. A little perfectionistic. One more morning routine to master, one more protocol to follow, one more version of getting life right. That is not what this page is. I’m not here to hand you another should. God knows we’ve all had enough of those.

Yes, I’m a transformational guide. Yes, we’ll talk about the nervous system and the subconscious and intuition and all the tools I love. But underneath all of it, this Substack is really about one thing: coming home to yourself and living from your soul. Every subject I write about, healing, relationships, purpose, motherhood, pleasure, the psychic stuff, is just another doorway back to the same place. You, fully you, flaws and all, actually living your life instead of performing it.

So if you’re in a season of change, or you’re building a life that feels more genuinely YOURS, you’re exactly where you belong.

Okay. Now let’s get into my story, because it’s not a straight line by any means. Grab your favorite beverage and buckle up. We’re going on one hell of a ride.

I must have been 7 years old here - this at my grandparents anniversay party (they had 13 children, my moms #9 and I have over 50 cousins, I loved a good bow and wearing loud colors - haha)

I’m a transformational guide who’s completely obsessed with helping people come home to themselves. And once you read my story, you’ll understand why.

I know a thing or two about dark nights of the soul, what it feels like to abandon yourself for years, change careers multiple times, and how freaking liberating it is to finally unapologetically be yourself.

I’m a single mom to the light of my life, my daughter Siena, who is just as spicy as she is sweet. I’d have it no other way! These days you’ll find me in Charleston, raising her, guiding my clients, and building the things I’ve been dreaming about for years. This Substack is one of them.

I’m so many other things, but honestly, more than anything, I’m a lover of life. Have been since I was a little girl.

I was always an energetic, curious, free-spirited kid. I LOVED people, and was endlessly curious about them. I was also fearless. I loved adventure, especially if it meant being active. When I was 7 years old, I went straight down a black diamond mountain by myself while I was on a ski trip with my parents. I had the time of my life and thought it was an absolute blast. My mom, understandably, almost had a heart attack.

I grew up in Connecticut, where I always felt like a black sheep. I had a very loving family, and my parents were, I guess, what you would call bohemian. They encouraged us to pursue what we were genuinely interested in and never tried to make us fit into a box. Which wasn’t the norm. My mom was talking about intuition for as long as I can remember. But in Connecticut, people cared about what your parents did for a living and what Ivy League school you were going to, and I honestly could have cared less about either.

People weren’t very friendly in Connecticut. And meanwhile, I was this outgoing, free-spirited, curious kid who loved people and wanted to know everyone’s story. So it was hard to be in that environment.

I was also really sensitive. I felt, knew, and even saw things, and didn’t know why I knew them. I’d get these intuitive, psychic downloads out of nowhere, and then the things would come true. I didn’t really know how to navigate those gifts. But we’ll get to that part in other posts!

I was bullied a lot starting in 6th grade, in pretty extreme ways. And those experiences made me turn inward and start to question if it was actually safe to be myself, and if I could trust people. I internalized it all, and my carefree, let’s-try-anything, life-is-one-big-adventure spirit started to shrink in order to fit in and feel safe.

Right around that time is when I started controlling food and how I looked, which turned into anorexia. It lasted a decade. I got really sick, and by the time I was sixteen I was admitted into a mental institution, where I spent a total of a year in and out of programs. I saw it all. Everything you can imagine. Girl, Interrupted style.

I didn’t know it at the time, but those turned out to be some of the greatest catalysts of my life.

By twenty-one I was in my last stint at a hospital, and I promised myself I was never going back. Thankfully, I kept that promise.

And here’s how the healing actually started. My dad was watching me cut my food into a million pieces at the dining room table, and he said, “You know, Ash, you’re the only one who can choose to focus your thoughts on something more positive. No doctor can do that for you. And if you took thirty percent of your energy and pointed it toward something more positive, you could do anything. You could be a rocket scientist if you want to.”

Naturally, I rolled my eyes as far back in my head as they could go. I had no interest in being a rocket scientist. And it was extra annoying because my dad worked at Cape Canaveral, oversaw the launch pad being built for NASA, and worked with rocket scientists all day long.

Then my mom sweeps in, the artist that she is, and goes, “Ash, every time you have one of those negative thoughts, you’ve just gotta redirect it. Choose something else. Envision your happy place. Go to the beach in your mind. Focus on something positive. Over and over and over until you’ve built a new way of thinking.”

A lightbulb went off. Holy shit. They’re right. If my thoughts have been making me sick, and created this hell, then my thoughts can make me well.

That was it. At twenty-one I became obsessed with positive psychology, spirituality, quantum physics, law of attraction, all of it. I made healing my mission and my actual full-time job, because it was. I’d knocked on death’s door enough times. And against all odds, against everything the doctors said would happen, I completely healed from anorexia. Overnight? God no. It took a while. But I’ve been completely healed for over twenty years now. And none of it happened in a doctor’s office. It happened because I radically rewired my subconscious, on my own.

I didn’t know it yet, but I’d just done the exact work I’d end up teaching to thousands of people all over the world.

Around 23, I opened my first business with my mom, called Cose Belle. It was a clothing and furniture store in downtown Charleston. It was an absolute dream come true, and so much fun to pursue my passions and loves for fashion & home decor. We had the store for 10 years. I loved getting to know the Charleston community. Our regulars became lifelong friends as we shared wine and cheese and had a blast making our lives beautiful together.

As the years went on, I had a healthy relationship with my body now, and I’d helped hundreds of women in the dressing room year after year, I realized it did not matter what color, what size, what background a woman had. They all shared something in common: being really critical of their looks.

So I decided our store would have a no-negative-self-talk policy. I told the women, I encourage you to speak kindly about yourself in our dressing rooms, or I will politely ask you to leave, and hopefully that encourages you to be kinder to yourself. I only ever had to ask one woman to leave. She later thanked me.

Then the holy-shit-is-this-really-happening year happened, I was 28.

I was toying with the idea of starting another business, a gourmet cookie boutique, right when cupcake stores were just coming out and were aall the rage. I had an investor and was working on the business plans when the unimaginable happened.

My oldest brother, my idol, my best friend, my favorite person, tragically died by suicide.

To say I was shattered is an understatement. Everything in life didn’t make sense anymore. And while I felt it ALL, I went into GO mode, moving fast, trying to take care of my mom, our business, this new cookie business I was opening, and focused on moving forward. But simultaneously, I dove DEEP into past life regressions, past lives, Akashic records, anything that could help me understand how we’re all interconnected and what our soul actually is. I needed to know where he went, and what we are. That search changed me forever.

And I have to tell you what losing my brother opened, because it was so much more than grief.

His death was a spiritual awakening for me. It opened me up the mystical aspects of life.

The cookie business did happen, and I fully thought THAT was going to be my platform for helping people. It was called Yes You May Cookies. Every cookie was an original recipe and named with a positive affirmation. Yes You May was a life motto, about giving yourself permission to fully live and enjoy your life.

When I was little I wanted to be Mrs. Fields SO badly (if you’ve had the cinnamon sugar cookies, you get it), and for a year, that dream materialized. I just quickly realized I didn’t want to make twelve hundred cookies a day for the rest of my life. During that year I got married, and it became blaringly apparent I wanted a different life than what having a retail store would require of me. I wanted to help people in a deep and meaningful way.

And that’s when a friend offered me a spot in her lifestyle design coaching course - serendipitous to say the least. Everyone in my life had been telling me for years I should be a coach. So I finally did it, intuitively it just felt right. And the second I did I opened my business, and I’ve been doing it ever since.

13 years later, I still love what I do - it’s a calling way more than it’s a career. Helping people come home to who they truly are, move through the huge challenges and the everyday ones, and strip away every barrier between them and their real selves is a joy that’s hard to put into words. For many years I was helping women launch purpose-driven careers, and what I realized was, even deeper than that, I was helping women cultivate a great relationship with themselves.

Seven years in, I got certified in PSYCH-K, which lets me help people rewire their subconscious and nervous system, and close trauma loops - it was the most game-changing thing I’ve ever learned. It’s how I finally closed the trauma loop around my brother’s death. The grief I’d been carrying for over seven years that came roaring back after I gave birth to my daughter. Doing this inner work compleletely in every single way - I was no longer rattling with this inner anxiety that I couldn’t shake no matter what.

Adding PSYCH-K, then Human Design, completed the picture. And somatic release made the whole thing the deepest transformation I’ve experienced in my own life. And now, I watch it happen with my clients over and over again.

Beyond any credential or certifications: I’ve lived every corner of this work.

It’s what helped me heal and grow into a woman I’m proud to be, especially after losing my brother to suicide, healing from a decade of anorexia, and navigating divorce after fifteen years with my former husband.

The divorce, honestly, might have been the most challenging transformation of all. Divorce strips you down to your soul. It shows you what actually matters, and it removes all illusions from your life, including friendships that won’t come with you into your next chapter. I call it a great filtration system. And if you take the invitation, it becomes the most incredible opportunity to come home to your truest self. I took it and RAN with it.

I felt like I had to reintroduce myself to people who’d known and loved me my whole life, because I was a completely different person. I let go of everything that was never mine to begin with, all the armor, the whole personality I thought I had to wear to be loved in that relationship, and honestly in life.

And I made myself a promise: I’d go to New York City as often as possible until I remembered who I was. Every other week, for years, until the city became another home and I recognized the woman walking around in it. Not who I’d been for forty years. Who I actually am now.

Because here’s what getting divorced really was for me: the ultimate opportunity to stop the habit of abandoning myself in relationships. That habit ran deep, and ending it changed everything. It’s also exactly why I love helping other people stop that habit in themselves, because I know what’s waiting on the other side of it.

And I want to say this part out loud too: I am SO proud of the relationship my former husband and I have, of how we handled our divorce, and of the family we’ve built with our amazing daughter. Divorce showed me that endings can be done with love. Thankfully, ours was.

Now I’m living my life exactly the way I want to, surrounded by the most incredible people and I’m having a blast.

The divorce cracked open something else too. If my brother’s death was my spiritual awakening, the divorce is when I had my psychic awakening. One of the most intense, exhilarating, mind-bending experiences of my life. But we’ll get into that later. I promise.

So that’s the ride. And it’s why this space exists.

My intention here is simple.

To build a community of people who are all remembering how to OWN IT and come home to their most authentic selves. To be radically honest about what that journey looks and feels like, both from personal experience and from helping thousands of people over the years. And because I want to spread LIGHT, and so much positive inspiration, with bold honesty, into the world.

At the end of the day, I've always been deeply curious about people's souls. Even drunk at parties in my twenties, I was the one asking people about theirs. I've always been able to see who people truly are beneath the masks, which I guess is what led me to this work to begin with. It's why everything I've created is about helping you come home to your soul, in the most nurturing, loving, and lighthearted way.

Because we’re all ultimately here to be the fullest expression of who we truly are, flaws and all. Nothing about life is getting it perfect. It’s about fully living it. So this is home for the ones choosing to live intuitively. Letting go of the performance and the shoulds. Trusting divine guidance above everything, and taking the wild ride of owning every aspect of your life, knowing you’re a powerful creator here to live out your greatest dreams, and that doubt along the way is completely normal.

Here’s what I promise you. Real stories of transformation, mine and others’. Everything I know about rewiring your consciousness so you can set yourself free. The things I notice, because I do have a gift for hearing what’s being said underneath it all. And the intuitive, metaphysical, psychic, whatever-you-wanna-call-them downloads, because they’ve been coming through since Connecticut and they keep on coming.

All of it so you can squeeze the juice out of life, have a hell of a good time doing it, and build a loving, lighthearted, trusting, resilient relationship with yourself.

Because I think that might be the whole secret: when we have a great relationship with ourselves, everything else in our lives is an extension of it.

I’m so happy you’re here.

I love you,
Ash

P.S. Now it’s your turn. What brought you here? Leave a comment or hit reply and tell me your story. Let me know what you want to hear more about! I read every single one. And yes, the psychic awakening story is coming. I promise.

I don’t think we’re being tested. I think that’s a lie.

It’s a fear based belief system from the old paradigm, and it’s keeping us stuck in boxes we were never meant to fit into. Believing we’re being tested feeds the narrative that there’s some great big parent out there, aka The Universe or God, that’s judging us all day long and basically grading us based on how we performed our lives during that day.

Um, no. I just don’t think that’s true.

I’m sure I’ve shared about tests in the past, because I fell into the trap of this teaching too. So consider this letter a public declaration of setting it down for good.

Why in the World Would The Most Loving Force In The World Test You?

The Creator that created all of us, whatever force you believe in, God, the Universe, Spirit, loves you so much. It wants you to have everything you came into this life to experience. It wants you to know with every cell of your being that you’re whole and worthy, and you don’t have to do a damn thing to prove that other than know it in your heart.

The Creator wants you to be fully self expressed and authentic.

It wants you to let go of any thought, habit, or persona you’ve adopted because you thought you had to be something else in order to receive what your heart desires. You don’t have to be anything other than FULLY YOU. You’re here to enjoy this life every single day as much as you possibly can. There’s no need to perform your way through it.

I don’t believe the Creator takes this life as seriously as we all do here on earth. I mean, not to state the obvious, but that’s fear trying to make us get perfect at life.

The Creator loves every single aspect of us, including our insecurities, fears, and the things we judge ourselves for. It sees and loves ALL OF IT, and still wants us to know that we’re whole, worthy, and deserving exactly as we are.

A love like that doesn’t grade you. And you did not come here for a performance review.

This great lie about being tested feeds perfectionism in spiritual practices and at its worst, leads people to believe they just won’t get it right in this life and there’s something inherently wrong with them.

And here’s what it does to your body. When you believe life is testing you, you brace against it. Shoulders up, jaw tight, always a little on guard, wanting to ‘get it right.’ You can’t be in love with something you’re bracing against.

But when you know life is inviting you? You get to soften, and be curious again. You get to fall back in love with the mystery of it all, the not knowing what’s coming, the trusting that whatever arrives is here FOR you. That’s the relationship with life you were built for.

Your Body Doesn’t Even Have a Pass/Fail Setting

Here’s what sealed it for me, and it comes straight from the work I do every day.

You were given an inner compass, your intuition. In Human Design we call it your authority, and for many of us it’s the sacral, that visceral gut response that lights up with yes or contracts when it’s a no. (Not all of us have a sacral intuition. You might have emotional, splenic, ego, mental or lunar authority, which we can get into in another post.)

Think about what that compass actually measures. It doesn’t have a pass/fail setting. It has never once graded you. It only knows what makes you come alive and what doesn’t.

Why would a Creator who was testing you give you a compass that can’t measure tests?

It wouldn’t. Because it isn’t. You already know your own truth. You were never waiting on the Universe to hand you a progress report.

Now, Invitations. That’s Different.

It may give you invitations. And those invitations are here to expand you, to elevate your consciousness, to help you grow and see what’s possible, to help you let go of your old conditioning.

They may show up looking exactly like what everyone would call tests. A moment where you’re being given an opportunity to either give in to fear and reactivity, or you can trust yourself. Trust the divine timing. Trust the moment you’re standing in.

The friction is real. But the friction isn’t a judge marking your paper. It’s the feeling of a soul getting bigger than the box it’s been living in.

But it’s not a test, you guys.

Feel Into Your Body Right Now

Don’t take my word for it. Literally feel into your body, right now, in this moment.

Think about a challenge you’re facing. Maybe it’s your finances, your career, or a relationship. One of those three buckets.

Now tell yourself this and notice how it feels in your body: this is an invitation to grow and to become who I’m here to be.How does that feel in your body?

And now feel into: this is a test, and I’m either going to pass or fail. How does that feel in your body?

Whichever one feels most expansive, that’s your answer.

I know which one mine chooses, every single time. That’s not a coincidence. That’s the compass doing the only thing it was ever built to do: point you toward your most aligned life.

I’m still practicing this, by the way. There are days the old grading-parent voice sneaks back in, usually when I’m tired or the stakes feel high. So consider this a note between two friends practicing, not a teaching from someone on high who’s figured it all out.

What’s the situation in your life that changes shape when you hold it as an invitation instead of a test? Let me know in the comments. And if this letter moved or inspired you, please share it with anyone you think it’d help.

It’s such a joy to be here with you. Here’s to owning it, every aspect of our lives, together on this wild and beautiful journey of life.

I love you,
Ash

I couldn’t help but think about how many years I’d spent putting everyone else’s needs before my own. Especially my husband’s. Until I became a shell of myself. The best way I know how to explain that feeling is that I was walking around my house feeling like a tea kettle on top of the stove with the heat on full blast, and no water in it. I was rattling. My nervous system was kind of screaming at me. It’s pretty amazing how clearly our body communicates with us. Sometimes our mind takes a minute, or years, to catch up.

After a slow drip of a million different events and conversations, I realized I was done waiting for my husband’s permission, or anyone else’s for that matter, to live the life I actually wanted to live.

The only person who could give me that permission was me. And the second I did, I felt a surge of energy flow through my veins that felt like the best fireworks show you’ve ever seen. I felt electric and euphoric.

(I actually did a photoshoot with my friend Nickie when I was in this state of euphoria It was the first time in my life I enjoyed being photographed - at the end of the shoot I ripped my clothes and ran to the ocean - this was the actual sunset… I mean, mother nature showing off! )

It might sound obvious to some. Of course that permission has to come from oneself. But after spending a lifetime people pleasing, in a fawn state, according to the nervous system, I was so used to running my life choices by everyone else. Most of the time completely unconsciously. It was just a habit.

And I don’t think this is that uncommon, especially in today’s world. We’re caught in a constant feedback loop with social media. Our text messages went from being simple messages back and forth to something you can now heart, thumbs up, or question. And while those may seem small and insignificant, to our brains it all adds up to outside approval. Which is why I’m going to live a more analog life this summer, but more on that later.

After putting everything I had into our marriage, I realized it just wasn’t working. And giving myself permission to want something else for my life had a ripple effect far beyond leaving my relationship. It trickled into every area of my life. Being bold and honest in other relationships, which meant attracting some incredible new people and letting go of others, where we just weren’t aligned anymore.

I started taking bigger risks in my career and having more fun. I traveled more often.

I basked in my sensuality and womanhood. I returned to my roots in so many ways, doing things I loved simply for the pleasure of doing them. I learned how to slow down and get out of proving energy, which has been quite the journey.

As I did, I felt a different kind of settledness in my own skin. The kind where you can feel that you’re glowing from the inside out, because you feel fully alive. Thankfully, this energy has continued, with the exception of last year, which was incredibly challenging and full of great lessons. But we’ll get to that later.

So many people are pivoting right now, in careers and relationships. They’re questioning everything. Their careers, their relationships, where they live. They’re asking themselves if the life they’re living is truly in alignment with their values. And while I know it can be scary to think about making major changes in your life, especially when they don’t make sense to the people closest to you, right now, more than ever, our souls are asking us to fully embody our most authentic selves. And the only way to do that is by giving yourself permission first.

Permission to let go of proving energy. You’ve always been inherently worthy and enough. Permission to let go of everything you thought you had to do or be in order to be loved and successful. You’re lovable exactly as you are. Permission to change your damn mind, whenever you want. Permission to let yourself play, be in your sensuality, slow down, be creative, have fun, and savor life and the people you share it with.

And I promise you, the second you give yourself that permission, the universe rushes in with the right people, opportunities, and experiences to help you fully step into that new chapter in a way you never could have imagined.

Sending so much love,

Ash

And what I am about to share may shock you.

The fastest way I have seen women fully heal from these relationships is to let go of the label.

Stick with me here. I am not saying their behavior was not what it was. Manipulative. Abusive. Shitty. The description fits to a tea. I am not asking you to gaslight yourself about what happened. I am not asking you to make it smaller than it was. I would never.

What I am saying is this.

When a woman stays focused on what they did, what they are still doing, and how they are trying to make her life hell, she stays victimized by the person she is no longer in relationship with. They still have the keys to her nervous system. They are still the center of her story. The relationship technically ended, but energetically they are still the main character in her life.

And that is exactly where she stays stuck.

The real power, the real healing, the real freedom come from somewhere else entirely.

It comes from elevating her consciousness.

It comes from rewiring the subconscious beliefs and the nervous system patterns that made her an energetic match to that dynamic in the first place. Not because the abuse was her fault. It was not. But because the door BACK into her power has always been an inside job. And it has been waiting for her the whole time.

Here is what I have watched happen, again and again, in the women I work with.

She begins to see the gift in what the relationship taught her. Not as a spiritual bypass. Not as a way to let them off the hook. But as a reclamation.

She sees that through every painful interaction, through every moment of disrespect, through every betrayal, she was being woken up. Woken up to remember her worth. To remember she was never meant to make herself small for anyone. Woken up to the version of her that was always inside, waiting to be returned to.

And then she does the deeper work.

She goes to where the patterns actually live. The subconscious. The nervous system. The body’s old beliefs about what love is and what she deserves to receive.

This is where the rewiring happens. This is where PSYCH-K, somatic work, Human Design, and spiritual practice meet her at every layer at once. Body. Mind. Soul. Spirit.

And as those beliefs change at the root, everything else changes too.

Her thoughts shift. The internal monologue that used to tell her she was too much or not enough quietly dissolves. Her words shift. The way she speaks to herself, the way she speaks about herself in public, the way she speaks to other people. Her actions shift. She is no longer led by her insecurities. She is living from her wholeness.

She closes the trauma loops her body has been running for years.

She begins to operate from the innate knowing that she has high self-worth, that she is deserving of love, of pleasure, of safety, of the very best this life has to offer.

And here is where it gets wild.

The energetics with her ex begin to shift on their own.

Because she is no longer focused on them, their behavior stops rattling her. She is focused on living her most beautiful life. She is busy becoming the woman she actually came here to be.

And what happens then?

They stop focusing on her. Because they are no longer getting their fix. The energy they used to extract from her by triggering her is no longer flowing. She is no longer an energetic match to the dynamic.

So they move on to find someone else they can get that energy from.

Not because she did anything to them. Because she did everything FOR herself.

This is what queen energy actually is. It is not performative. It is not aesthetic.

It is the embodied state of a woman whose subconscious and nervous system have been rewired to know, at the deepest level of her being, that she is whole. That she is worthy. That she is the powerful creator of her life.

When she lives from that frequency, old toxic dynamics cannot reach her. She is simply not an energetic match to them anymore.

And the person who is meant to meet her in her wholeness, the partner who can actually see her, who is regulated enough to love her in the way she deserves to be loved, becomes possible. Because she is finally in the energetic state that magnetizes them.

It is not that you will become perfect. Nobody is perfect. We all have insecurities. We all have days. We all have moments where we contract.

What changes is the BASELINE. The default frequency you are operating from.

When you are operating from low self-worth, you are unfortunately a magnet for people who are evasive, manipulative, or who can match you in that low frequency. That is not your fault. It is your nervous system’s old belief about what love is supposed to feel like, expressing itself through your relationships.

When you are operating from high self-worth, your nervous system seeking SAFETY in regulation rather than safety in familiarity, you become a magnet for entirely different relationships. Real healthy reciprocal ones. The kind where someone sees you in your wholeness and meets you there.

This is the work.

And it is available to you the moment you are ready.

So if you are reading this and you are in the messy middle of healing from a relationship with a narcissist, please hear me.

Let yourself feel everything you need to feel about what happened. Let it be as big as it actually was.

AND.

Know that the next chapter of your healing is not in continuing to study their behavior. It is in returning to yourself. In rewiring the parts of you that were always wired for more than that dynamic could offer. In remembering that you are the powerful creator of your life.

No one has power over you unless you give it to them.

The moment you stop giving it, you get it all back.

That’s the doorway where the most beautiful chapter of your life begins.

And it is closer than you think.

If you are ready for the work, my doors are open.

Sending so much love,

Ash

Women want to soften.

To carve out their own unique path in life. A path that actually feels good in their mind AND their body, and doesn’t require a 3-hour self-care routine for their nervous system to be balanced. A path that doesn’t look like anything else they’ve seen.

They’re over the performative nature of life. What people show on Instagram and TikTok isn’t alluring anymore. They are tired of the curated lives. They are tired of pretending this exhausting pace of life feels normal. They’re craving authenticity and genuine connections.

They want a life so deeply fulfilling that they don’t want to reach for their phone for a quick distraction. A life where they’re so present, they don’t even think about taking pictures of it to show on the internet. A life that is for them, not for the feed.

They want to slow down and soften into their hearts. Connect with kind, generous, and inspiring people. They want to be surrounded by beauty.

They want to spend more time with the people they love. To create from their soul, without giving a single shit about how it performs in the outside world.

They are over generalized self-help advice, because they are realizing the wisdom they need has been living quietly inside them the whole time. They want to spend more time listening to that wise voice within, and removing anything that blocks it.

They want to receive love, support, and abundance with ease and knowing they are worthy of it. They want to stop spending all of their days giving to the point of depletion. They can feel the way the scales have been tipping too far into the masculine energy of doing, doing, doing, and they’re ready for more balance. More quiet. More relaxation, laughter,and ease.

And quite frankly, more joy, more fun, and pleasure.

✺

The new way looks like this.

A slow morning with no agenda. A long walk with someone you love. A meal no one photographs. A creative project you make because your soul asked you to, with no plan to share it. An afternoon when you do nothing and call it sacred. A friendship that deepens because you finally have the space to show up for it. A body that feels safe enough to receive. A life that fits you, instead of one you are trying to fit into.

It looks and feels like ease. Because you’ve given yourself permission to stop performing and start fully living.

✺

And yes, of course, you are still able to get done what you need to in a day. And yes, you are still successful. You’ve simply adjusted and preserved your energy. Now it’s easier to listen to the wisdom of your body, so that your success is built on who you really are and the authentic life you want to live, rather than the performance of who you believed you had to be.

This shift is happening everywhere.

If this is the part of you that is waking up too, you are not alone. You are right on time. This is the work I do with women. This is the conversation I am having every day. And this is the life I am building for myself in real time, alongside the women I walk with.

If something in you is whispering yes, I would love to hear it. Hit reply and tell me what is rising for you. Or book a clarity call if you are ready to walk this together.

The old way is over.

The new way is quieter, deeper, more beautiful, and so much more honest.

I am so glad you are here.

Sending so much love,

Ash

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I’m curious if you’re experiencing it too.

It’s the habit of abandoning yourself.

This can show up in many different ways, but it’s often the source of the most drama and frustration in your life. In romantic relationships. In business partnerships. In family relationships.

A few ways this could show up

It’s not speaking up in your partnership, even though you feel like your needs aren’t being considered, and the resentment quietly builds.

It’s in the moments you put your desires to the side so you can make sure the kids and your spouse are taken care of, yet at the end of each day, you’re exhausted.

It’s feeling disrespected and undervalued at work, yet not speaking up because you don’t want to rock the boat.

It’s the moments, big and small, where you choose someone else’s comfort over your own truth.

I’m going to give you a tool today to help you make decisions from a place of high self-worth and start shifting into that identity.

This is the work I do with so many of my clients inside The Owning It Container, and I’m going to give you a sneak peek.

The Practice

Close your eyes and take three deeply nourishing breaths.

As you breathe, imagine deeply anchoring into your high self-worth. Knowing with every cell of your being that you are whole. That you are worthy. That you are complete exactly as you are.

Really feel that energy in your body.

Now, from that energy, knowing with every cell of your being that you are worthy, that you are whole and complete, that your worthiness is inherent, you don’t have to do anything to be more worthy. You simply are because you are alive.

From that energy, knowing that you deserve the best that love and life have to offer, what would you do differently in the relationship that’s causing tension for you?

You already know. The answers are already inside you.

Really listen to what your intuition tells you. What action can I take? What is the boundary I can set? How can I respect myself in this situation?

And then the key is to act on the guidance you receive.

“Working with Ash gave me the courage to do what my heart always knew, and I haven’t looked back since. My relationships have deepened because my relationship with myself is better than ever. It’s like a weight has been lifted and my soul finally feels free.”

— Anne

If you want to know more about how to anchor into your highest self-worth, Book a Clarity Call and we can discuss what’s possible for you.

Sending so much love,

Ash

In the whirlwind of change, there are endless identities that die.

Sometimes, it feels like you need to reintroduce yourself even to the people closest to you because nothing about you is the same.

You shed layers of who you thought you were, sometimes minute by minute. Old versions of you simply can’t and won’t come with you into this new chapter.

Which leads to inevitably confronting parts of yourself you thought you’d already healed.

“Really, this again? I thought I’d already healed my low self-worth stuff?” Nope - there are a few more layers.

Divorce will not so gently nudge you to pull back the hood and face those old fears and beliefs that led you to abandon yourself, to shrink your desires, and guard your heart. Any thoughts that lead you to believe you aren’t deserving of having the best this life has to offer will become blaringly apparent.

There’s no sugar coating it - all of this can feel brutal and exhilarating at the same time.

Because you grieve having spent so much of your time and energy believing you were anything but worthy, and see all the ways that showed up in what you tolerated in your marriage and how you behaved.

At the same time, you have zero interest in playing the victim card, so you focus your powerful life force on celebrating the fact that you get to consciously choose to think, speak, and act differently, now.

As you courageously change, your inner strength and love grow.

Which is great, because you’re being asked over and over again to fully step into your high self-worth during and after divorce. If you choose to take the invitation, you get to embody your wholeness in a way you never have before - so you stop repeating those old patterns, some of them generational, woven through every relationship you’ve ever had.

And as you live from that state of wholeness, you start to walk through life differently - it can feel like you’re gliding. Serendipity starts to flow to you.

You stop forcing outcomes, feeling like you have to prove you’re capable or worthy, and instead you just know you are - it’s not up for debate.

Life becomes more intuitive, and you find yourself being way more present.

You don’t feel the need to reach for quick fixes like the quick dates, the someone-to-make-you-feel-better-for-an-evening, or believing that stupid saying “the best way to get over someone is to get under someone new.” When the reality is, afterward, you feel like shit.

Those choices are often made from reactive consciousness.

Instead, you’ve made a deal with yourself; not everyone has access to your energy. It’s sacred, and you treat it as such. You get honest about who you want to spend your time with and how you want to spend your energy in a way that feels truly fulfilling.

So you start to really treat yourself like the queen you are. Taking really good care of your mind, body, and soul because you love yourself. As you slow down, you remember what you’re truly passionate about, making time for your hobbies, and it awakens your creativity and sensuality.

When you decide this as an opportunity to come home to your wholeness, it becomes abundantly clear that one of the greatest loves you’ll ever have will be the relationship you have with yourself

But the key is - you have to actually use this moment. Not as a chance to blame, to point the finger, to make it all about what your ex did and how they wronged you. While all of those things may be true - that’s not how you heal and grow. That’s a recipe for repeating the same cycle with a new face, a new name, in a new chapter.

If you really want to heal and grow, to experience life in a way that’s more fulfilling than anything you’ve known, to meet the partner who sees you fully and wants the absolute best for you, your version of a dream come true - the inner work is the doorway.

Elevating your consciousness. Allowing yourself to receive and trust in life’s divine plan. And speaking of the divine, deepening your connection with the divine is essential in coming home to your most authentic self. This is the recipe.

The more you believe it only gets better from here, the more you’ll see it.

Sending so much love,

Ash

It’s great news, actually.

Because anybody who’s paying attention can feel their body and hear their intuition, and it’s showing you a new reality is unfolding. It probably feels a bit confusing because we still live in a paradigm that’s driven by hustle, hard work for a little reward, in order to create financial security. But those old ways are dying fast, and our bodies know this before our minds can fully catch up.

As Jenna Zoe said:

“The world is changing fast. Every structure, every business, every institution that is built on low consciousness will crumble. Only integrity and alignment will survive. So investing in your integrity will be your biggest bet for success.”

A few ways to be in integrity and aligned as the world shifts underneath us:

1. Be your most authentic self in every area of your life.

2. Be mindful of your words. Evil speech (gossip, whether it’s true or not) is the fastest way to sabotage blessings in our lives. Avoid it at all costs.

3. Choose unity over division. When you choose connection over separation, compassion over judgment, love over being right, you are building a consciousness that will hold your blessings, not just for you but for the collective we are all a part of.

As the old systems of capitalism and consumerism crumble, we’re left with what we were always meant to return to.

Our souls.

And our souls were never caught up in this game.

It was the conditioning from the outside world that told us we had to strive endlessly. Work tirelessly. Push, prove, perform in order to feel worthy and lovable. To believe we actually matter in this society.

But that was always a lie.

And We’re All Waking Up

It’s why so many of the people I talk to, clients and friends, the ones who built the lives they were “supposed” to want, are quietly wanting to say f*ck it to all of it. They haven’t made any drastic moves yet. But they feel pulled to spend way more time with the people they love. To be off-screen and in nature way more often. To actually make time for hobbies, to have way more fun, and to spend less time working. Many want to live simply.

They’re ready to live a life that isn’t measured by how big the house is, what car is in the driveway, how many accolades are on the wall, how much the career has accumulated, or how many dollars are in the bank.

Instead, every day they can’t deny the craving of a life measured by what lights their soul on fire. What makes their heart feel full, warm, and genuinely happy. They want to be a helluva lot more present in their day-to-day life, especially with the people they love.

They’re ready to discover what awakens that childlike curiosity. You know, the things you could spend hours doing even if you never made a dollar from it, because it fulfills you that deeply.

That is what people are actually desiring because they’re listening to their souls rather than their ego.

And that is what we get to have in the new paradigm if we let ourselves trust what our intuition is already telling us. Trust that it can be done differently.

And before you worry: your needs will be met. Of course you will still have money. Of course you will still be taken care of. We’re just remembering that it doesn’t have to be so hard, that we can live a life with way more ease.

The more of us that elevate our consciousness, the more we know in our bones we don’t have to buy into the old lies of working tirelessly, being tied to your computer and phones, and then every once in a while enjoy your life. That paradigm is dying. And it’s time for us to realize there’s another way to create true safety, security, and stability.

For My High Achievers

The new paradigm is going to reward you in ways you can’t even begin to imagine if you take the leap and trust what your intuition is telling you. And it’s all about making time to do the things you genuinely love. Things you would do if no one were watching and all of your needs were fully met.

How would you spend your free time? Start doing more of whatever that is.

You’ll start to notice the downloads and clarity pour in like a waterfall.

If you want help removing the blocks and conditioning that are keeping you in the old paradigm, stopping you from allowing your life to be easier and more fun, Click here to schedule a clarity call. I’d love to connect.

Sending so much love,

Ash

It’s not the tiredness that comes from a hard day. It’s the tiredness that lives underneath everything, the kind you can’t sleep off, because even when your body stops, your mind doesn’t.

You’re still planning, managing everything, including your never-ending to-do list and making sure everyone around you is okay.

From the outside, you look like you have it together. Because you do. You’re capable, you make things happen, and people count on you probably more than they even realize.

But internally, something feels off. Like you’re running a race you didn’t sign up for, toward a finish line that keeps moving. And in your rare quiet moments, sometimes you wish you could opt out of the race altogether.

You’re not failing if you have these thoughts. This is what happens when a woman has been living inside a consciousness that was never actually hers to begin with.

The Wounded Masculine Isn’t Personal. It’s Collective.

The wounded masculine isn’t something that’s wrong with you. It’s a consciousness women absorbed collectively, over generations, because the world asked us to.

We built our lives inside systems designed entirely around masculine energy. Productivity over presence. Working like machines in our careers, at home, with schedules so insanely busy we can’t think straight. Output over intuition. Doing over being. And to succeed, to be taken seriously, to make it, women learned to operate by those rules.

So we optimized, hustled, and over-delivered. We ignored our body’s cycles and pushed through burnout. We wore busyness like armor and called it ambition.

And we did the same thing in our relationships. We over-functioned. We gave more than we received and told ourselves that was just how we were built. We pushed away support without even realizing it because somewhere along the way, needing anything started to feel like weakness.

And it worked. Until it didn’t.

What this looks like externally:

• Always doing, planning, pushing, producing

• Over-functioning in relationships

• Difficulty receiving help, love, or rest

• Decision-making from pressure, urgency, or fear

• Worth tied to how much you do for others and how much you achieve

What it feels like internally:

• A body that’s tight, wired, braced

• Anxiety humming under the surface

• Exhaustion masked by adrenaline

• Intuition drowned out by overthinking

• Resentment that builds quietly — why am I always the one doing everything?

At its core, this consciousness is driven by a lack of felt safety. So the system does what it knows: it controls, manages, and stays in motion.

Until it doesn’t anymore.

What It Looks and Feels Like to Live in Your Divine Feminine

The divine feminine is not passive. It’s one of the most powerful states a woman can live in. It just feels completely different from everything we were taught to value.

A woman in her feminine moves through her day differently because she knows she’s whole, worthy, and complete exactly as she is. She has nothing to prove.

She walks slower, not because she has nowhere to be, but because she’s actually present. She notices beauty and lets it move her. She allows her intuition to inform her routines rather than being rigid. She’s in her sensuality not as a performance, but as a quiet, embodied aliveness. She prioritizes play and having fun. She feels her life rather than just managing it.

She creates from a place of joy rather than forcing output, and paradoxically, she’s more successful because of it. Not despite the softness. Because of it. She flows. And as a result, things come to her opportunities, abundance, the right people, because that’s what happens when a woman is truly magnetic.

And in her relationships? She finally receives the love, support, and reciprocity she’s always craved because she’s no longer blocking it. She lets people show up for her. She lets love in and allows herself to feel cherished. She stops managing everything alone and discovers what it feels like to be truly held. And it’s everything she wanted.

She honors the rhythms and cycles of her body. She trusts her body’s wisdom over her mind’s noise because her body has access to an intelligence her mind can’t fully conceive of. She receives compliments without deflecting. She rests without guilt. She lets herself bask in pleasure for the sheer enjoyment of it, with no agenda. She surrounds herself with beauty because she loves it.

What it looks like externally:

• She moves with intention, not urgency

• Her decisions feel aligned rather than forced

• She creates from joy and flow

• Things come to her

• She’s deeply loved and supported, and she fully lets it in

• People don’t just see her - they feel her

What it feels like internally:

• A grounded, open exhale in the body

• Trust in herself and the divine even when things are uncertain

• Clear, consistent intuition

• Emotional fluidity

• A sense of fullness rather than constantly chasing

• Pleasure that doesn’t have to be earned first

The Part Most People Miss

Every human has both energies. Healthy feminine: flow, intuition, receptivity, creativity. Healthy masculine: structure, direction, protection, action.

The goal isn’t to be one. It’s to be integrated to have access to both, and to know which one the moment is calling for.

For so many of the women I work with, the healing journey looks like this: softening out of survival-mode masculine... and slowly, gently, remembering how to feel safe in their feminine again.

You can’t think your way into that. You can’t hustle your way there. The shift happens at the subconscious and somatic level, where the old programming actually lives. Beliefs like I have to earn my rest. I can only rely on myself. My value is based on what I produce. These aren’t conscious thoughts. They’re running quietly underneath everything, shaping every decision, every relationship, every moment.

Rewiring them is what creates the shift. Not more discipline. No more hustle. Not another morning routine.

It’s something your nervous system allows when it finally feels safe enough.

That’s the work we do together, and it changes everything.

If this resonates, this is exactly what we work on inside my 1:1 container. Subconscious reprogramming, nervous system healing, and coming home to the version of you who no longer has to force anything. In your work, your body, and your relationships.

Click here to schedule a clarity call.

Sending so much love,

Ash

I want to interrupt that for a sec.

I love astrology. I think understanding the energy of what’s moving around us is a beautiful tool. But I’m watching so many of us absorb these messages and feel a kind of pressure rising in our chest — I have to act. I have to make the move. I have to do something big, right now, or I’ll miss it.

And I just want to remind you of something:

What is meant for you will always find you, and you cannot get this wrong.

The Old Paradigm in New Clothes

Here’s the thing nobody is naming. Taking “bold action” from a place of fear and scarcity isn’t actually bold. It’s the old paradigm dressed up in spiritual language.

When you act from fear of missing out, even fear disguised as urgency, even fear disguised as “the cosmos is telling me to” — it reinforces the exact energetic state in your mind and body that you’re trying to shift out of. Your nervous system encodes it. We act from scarcity. We chase, grip, and try to control.

And then we wonder why the results feel hollow. Why the next thing we have to chase shows up so quickly. Why nothing ever feels like enough.

That’s not the path.

The new paradigm is so different, and honestly, so much softer than we’ve been taught to believe is allowed.

It’s becoming your own best friend and trusting yourself. Not just to take action, but trusting your soul-led desires, the ones that are obvious when you’re not trying to prove yourself.

It’s trusting that the universe has you, that you’re being divinely guided, and that you already know in the deepest part of your soul what is meant for you. When you remove the blocks of fear and scarcity that have been crowding the channel, the answers get so clear. So loud. So obvious.

And then you know exactly what to do — and if you don’t know, you have to trust it will be revealed in time.

The action that comes from that place is the bold action. It just doesn’t always look the way the old paradigm trained us to expect it to look. Sometimes it’s quieter. Sometimes it’s slower. Sometimes the boldest thing is the choice to not move at all yet.

Start Here Today

If nothing else, take this with you:

Be so loving and nurturing toward yourself today. And then sit with this question —

What is the bold action my soul wants me to take? The thing I know is right for me, especially if I didn’t feel like I had to prove a damn thing to anyone?

Don’t answer it from your head. Drop into your body. Let it be quiet for a minute. See what rises.

That answer? That’s the one.

An Invitation

If this is landing for you and you want to go deeper, I’d love for you to join my friend Claire and I for our Aligned Event.

It’s called Aligned: An Opportunity to Connect With Your Soul, and it’s happening Saturday, May 16th, from 10–11:30 AM EDT, online.

Claire is an energy healer, and I mean incredibly gifted. She’ll be guiding us through clearing the energetic blocks that keep us locked in fear and scarcity, the ones that make us second-guess what we already know. And then I’ll be guiding you through the nervous system work so your body can actually receive what’s underneath those blocks and take action from a place of wholeness, not pressure.

It will be recorded, so if you can’t make it live, you’ll have the energy healing and the nervous system tools to come back to again and again. Honestly, that might be one of my favorite parts - being able to drop into that frequency whenever you need to recalibrate.

Doesn’t that sound nourishing?

We would love to have you there. You can save your spot here:

Reserve your seat for Aligned

Sending so much love,

Ash

Today is a massive day. Another astrological moment, and evidently, this is one of the most important moments of our lives, with six planets in Aries. Which means the intentions we set and actions we take today are shaping an entirely new future. There’s no turning back. Your life will never be the same.

Which is incredibly exciting, and I just want to say - in case you’re facing a lot of fear, or you’re in grief, or you’re in indecision - that I freaking believe in you.

Whatever decision you make, whatever actions you take, the most important thing you can do is to make those bold moves from the energy of being your own best friend.

I think you’re going to learn how to do that if you haven’t already. To love yourself through it rather than be hard on yourself. Rather than beating yourself up.

To be so freaking loving to yourself, more than anybody ever has been in your entire life. And then create change from that space.

And you know what? I think you’re going to like the way it feels.

I think there are a lot of really incredible things ahead of you. And I think the more you choose to be your own best friend, you’re going to see that life really wants you to have everything you desire and so much more.

Spirit, God, the universe, whatever it is you believe in - that higher being, I call it Creator - wants you to have so much more than you could ever imagine. There are more blessings on their way to you than your mind could ever conceive of.

And if you’re facing challenges right now, it’s because your soul signed up to overcome them, so that you could remember your wholeness.

It may show up in overcoming a controlling nature. Or a belief in low self-worth. Or scarcity. Or whatever it is. We all have our lessons. Trust me, I have plenty of my own I’m overcoming.

But the more you overcome those and remember the wholeness inside you and your high self-worth, that’s when all the blessings start to pour in. Because you’re no longer believing in the illusion that the shiny carrot - the money, the accolades, the relationship is going to fill you.

That’s all an inside job.

And the more you realize that, the more amazed you are by life. Truly.

Let me know how it goes.

With so much love always,
Ash