Frame is about you. The reality you live. How you view your world. It’s said over and over again, but most men will never understand the true meaning of living for themselves. Many will burn bright for others, while forgetting to shine the spotlight on the actual person burning themselves up; the guy in the mirror.

Being away from the space for the last number of years has been nice, as all I hear from some of the few MRP/TRP Reddit veterans I speak with on occasion is that everyone creating content is becoming poor and losing ad revenue from YouTube; therefore, they have to go out and get a real job. Love it.

This past weekend, I came across an article that highlighted different ways people love, respect, and/or want to be around you. It was the equivalent of going out for a steak dinner, except getting all of the other fixings without the steak. Solid sides, but no actual meat on the plate.

The best way to judge whether someone values you is by their investment in you. Relationships are two-way streets. If your side of the (loose term) relationship with that individual is being met; therefore, then you have a “relationship” that benefits you. If you aren’t receiving your side of the relationship, then you have no investment in it.

Relationship = Time + Energy + Investment

The mainstream, the swamp, and any of the self-help guides try to dress up every situation as being super unique. It’s not. The baseline is still the same. Whether it’s a woman in the dating rotation, your LTR, your client, a friendship; any type of human interaction. Is your investment being matched, or not? Figure it out. This is not an excuse to be a selfish prick as well. Self-analysis from your side before crying that “no one likes me” or you struggle with your relationships. Walk away when it doesn’t serve you and commit when it does.

It’s that time of year. Summer.

Time off, extended leave sessions, laid-off vacationers, light work days at the office, and early exits from work. All so you can go to that weekend BBQ with your extended family, hang out with your cousins, engagement parties, anniversary parties, and other unsolicited events that most of you would rather say “no” to than go to.

These events come with plenty of female family members between the ages of 19 and 90 years of age who will be excited to be a major part of the hen house party with the other hens. Female family members get to come together to gossip and pry into people’s lives in order to give unsolicited advice to someone’s career, dating/relationship life, and personal life. Most of these female’s have nothing else going on in their lives for 300~ odd days a year, so when these events and weekends come up, this is what they live for…

A man who doesn’t have his life centred around “him” will be hen-pecked into oblivion and start to change the progress he makes in his life for old, fat post wall cunts, beta Billy’s or the know-it-all boss girl cousins on their way up the corporate ladder, in order for you to be a “better man” for society. This is what we call: lighting yourself on fire to keep others warm… The poor man’s, beta male strategy. It’s been overused, over-consumed, and has a 100% failure rate in every single man’s life, until the grave or the noose come; whatever comes first.

STFU

It’s said over and over again, but shut your mouth. Are you looking for drama? STFU. Are you unhappy because your ego got bruised from some 20 year old niece or cousin? STFU. Is your Aunt trying to get you to marry the nice gal across the street? STFU. There is a reason why STFU is the staple and starting point for every man. Know how to use it.

“No”

It’s a full sentence. Use at your own discretion.

Broad Topics Only

I will never understand men who open up their guts and soul to these women at these events. It’s gross. Be a man. These women want to gather your personal information to be used against you at some point. UEMcGill and UncleVaz had it right from the start. Not everyone is against you, but they will always keep ammo aside for the moment they need it, even if that means nuking or throwing a grenade into your personal life. This goes twice as much for your extended family female members. Always keep everything surface level only. The point is to say hello, share a few laughs, and not dig into all the personal areas of your life. Keep the deep-level stuff for yourself to run through, or do it with close (male) family members or friends. Keep these women away from your personal life. Yes, that includes women in the dating rotation…

Avoid Giving Advice

This will be counter to what most people expect here, because of “family”, we all have to help, right? Nope. Not at all. Giving advice to extended (female) family members that you only see once or twice a year (max) is a waste of time. Advice in general is a waste of time. Those will autocorrect and learn, while others will never actually do the work. Female family members are no different than the women we date or get into a relationship with, or weak, emotional men who ask questions without doing any of the work. Wasting your time giving advice and check-in’s are not what you are there for. This is all sidebar 101 stuff by the way, but trying to give life advice to your pharma drugged cousin, baby mama cousin with two different baby dada’s, or the “coaster” in life is a waste of time. You aren’t a therapist for anyone else but sorting your own damn life out.

Jealousy Is A Bitch

We live in a society of unhappy, ungrateful, and lazy cunts. This leads to people who are unhappy with their life, which then leads to playing the victim card for their personal choices as an adult, which will then shoot venom at you for the progress you make in your life. People are jealous and envious of others. That doesn’t exclude these people… I have seen firsthand an extended cousin of mine sort his life out from some poor health and life choices to become a high SMV man, only to have some of the unattractive cunts and beta males try to drag him back in the crowd (crabs in a bucket). Not only do unattractive people online and in the real world want you to go down to your level, but many women in your family will want you to be the simple, beta male plow horse. Don’t be fooled, these kinds of people hate seeing individuals thrive.

Face Time

These events are for you to share face time with the “crowd” only. Some of you might have close relationships with other family members, but that’s what small get togethers are for, not large crowd events. To be the guy that announces key life problems or achievements in front of a group of 50/60~ odd people is weird as fuck… Blend in with the crowd. Mingle, say your hello’s, hug your 95 year old grandmother, keep it surface level, and then make your way. It’s really no different from those of you who deal with the corporate or consulting world; when showing up to see your C-Suite client across the country for a “drink” does the trick for keeping him onboard with stroking you a cheque for another year. Everything is a game. Be aware of the game and the situation. Rule #14.

It’s that time of year. Weddings. The invites, emails, phone calls, texts, and RSVP in-mails come flooding in prior to the summer wave. It’s always distant friends, second cousins, family members who you would rather fly far away from than move toward, and the odd rando-ex-co-worker who you forgot even existed.

You have been there. I have been there.

Too cynical for you? Probably.

Do I hate weddings? No. Not at all. I used to bartend weddings, and a couple of my family members (close cousins) had some bangers. Weddings can be fun when you attend the ones that you want to attend. That’s the key… Nobody should be attending a wedding of a person or people they have zero relationship with or do not have some kind of consistent, regular contact with. Yes, this includes extended family and distant cousins whom you see once every three years and forget about until they sit in front of you.

Attending a wedding as a guest is an opportunity cost.

The gift + travel + hotel/lodging + outside expenses + your time = ∞

This calculation should be done. Every. Single. Time. You receive a wedding guest invite to click or submit the ‘RSVP’ in a timely manner.

Your time is the most valuable asset in this world. The older you get, the less of it you receive, while your value level increases. Wasting time, money, and energy on people you don’t value and who don’t value you is void. There is no point. Are there exceptions to the rule? Yes. Is there a grey area? Absolutely. That said, if you are a functioning adult with your own life to sort out and not a teenager, college student, or a drop out of life, those areas move further away each year.

I made this choice earlier in the week. As I’m writing this post (the inspiration). I have two weddings on the table (so far) for the summer.

The first wedding is in July, with one of my female, younger cousins. I have “known” her my entire life, but I am far from close with her. Hell, I never met the fiancé. They live in another state/province, which makes building a relationship like that extremely difficult. Even then, this cousin and I have never been close. You can stick the term “family” on it, but that doesn’t mean we have that kind of a “relationship”, which some of you will very much understand.

The second wedding is in August. This is with my older cousin, who has been like an older brother to me for most of my life. I got the invite earlier this week, and he wanted to call the other day to fill me in on the plans. He is on the “small list” of people whom I will go out of my way for, come hell or high water. We have both been there for each other at certain points in our lives. Good times and down times. This wedding is also outside of my city and where he originally grew up. Plus, I like his fiancé. Everything lines up perfectly well.

So, out of the two options I have shared, which one do you think I chose? Option two.

Life is full of choices. As I discussed in prior posts, you will be the bad guy to some people in their story. That’s okay. Choosing what you prefer and what you want is the best way to live life. In both scenarios, time has to be taken off, adjusting the weekly agenda, preparing for the “lead up” events (we all know that come along with weddings), and making tough choices. People won’t like it. In fact, some female family members don’t like my choice, but it’s “my” choice (RE: insert an Aaron Clarey female impersonating voice when hearing the word NO!). Sucks for them, it’s my life.

You can be the “nice” guy (boomer, beta Billy/Karen) that runs over to every wedding to be the “good boy” and get your affirmation from the covert contract you played out in your head. For you covert-filled guys, just because you are standing clapping at someone else’s “accomplishment” doesn’t mean you will get that back from them. For those of you who are happy with your life and those you value in it, you can share your value, time, and energy with those people who embrace you, for you.

Drive-by autists and retards will not understand this post.

The Guardian recently had a post and video talking about how the “manosphere” has ruined modern dating. Fark. Unattractive women running to the mainstream to cry about their issues not getting fucked by men they find attractive is a news story @ 10.

The MRP sidebar and the old-school TRP/PUA Reddit content from a decade back talked extensively about why and how to avoid unattractive behaviours. Hell, Stoney (Rian Stone) was the one who popularized the MRP term, “Be Attractive, Don’t Be Unattractive”, when it came to the overall art of a man building a successful MAP. Now, every TRP content creator and LARPers alike use this term and own it. The term came from MRP, faggots. Give credit to those who came before you and helped share the road map.

The majority of people in this world do not and will not take responsibility for their shitty choices. I would argue that men and women would rather take more responsibility for their professional life compared to their personal life. I have travelled all over the world. One thing is infinite in this world - human biology. We are wired to be as lazy as possible, while still being able to cross the line to get the checklist done in our daily lives. Some people do this better than others. Regardless of the poor choices, no one wants to take responsibility for the actions that were made, which in turn gave a certain result.

I reference Married Red Pill and OYS a lot. There is a good reason for this… Being able to take responsibility for your life and the choices you make is key to building the life you want. Life is hard. There are down periods, dark periods, small wins that inch you in the direction you want to go in, and of course, side-pitches that can go either way. Ultimately, you have to take responsibility for your path. You are dealt cards, and you play your hand, while doing the best you can in your circumstance. No one said there were “guarantees” of the dream life you were sold in school. That’s a fucking fantasy, not the real world.

So, when you see a 40-year-old cunt complaining about, “Men don’t value me!”, or you see a divorced 38-year-old man stating, “I hate all women!” — these people never once took responsibility for their actions. The truth of the matter is that these people will never take responsibility for anything that happens in their lives. Being a victim pays in this world; especially, if you live in the West. No one is coming to save you. No one is coming with your dream “spouse” or “house” that will have all your wishes inside.

Take responsibility for your life, or suffer the fool’s errand of being the special unicorn.

This post on /r/askmrp lit up a discourse of discussion on MRP last week.

Quite a few TRP/MRP veteran users came out of the woodwork to add their 0.02 cents. It was a pleasure to read most of their comments, as it reassured me that those who have actually internalized the fucking sidebar and those who still can’t see actions for what they are. Furthermore, I saw someone share a post from some TRP content creator on Substack, completely missing the point.

Having a “bratty” woman is not a positive…

It’s a negative.

Per my comment to OP on his OYS post this past week: “If you are in a relationship with this kind of a woman, you will be in a constant battle with the fact that she is truly never 100% on board with you and the relationship, which is her job, not yours. It will constantly go between times of nothing at all to times of something all the time; no in-between…” - stop falling for the illusion. Too many men get stuck in the middle, become a dancing monkey, and fall right into her frame.

I normally don’t share comments from threads here, but for this topic, I have no choice. This is sidebar 101 material and echoes an old post that I made a few years back, “The Levels of Interest”, where the majority of men spend their time dealing with a woman who is hot and cold. It’s not cute, it’s not fun, and no sane man will rationally tell this lie to himself, unless he has failed to have a woman in his life (in any capacity) for over six months. It’s always a YOU problem first, not her. This is my main issue with the TRP crowd and why I can’t stand them. There is way too much focus on her, her, her, she, she, she - fuck that noise.

Your frame, your boundaries, your attractiveness, and your choices dictate this behaviour happening to you.

Comments On Why “Bratty” Behaviour Is A Negative, Not A Positive

Important-Okra-8740

Yeah, idk I’m gonna get downvoted here but IDGAF.

The “brat” thing isn’t cute. Its annoying. Recalcitrant, bratty, or otherwise annoying behavior in a woman isn’t ‘cute’ just because they have tits and act nice afterwards.

If I have to put a bitch in her place, I will. But I’m not doing it because I enjoy it, I’m doing it because just like the silhouettes in my toolbox - that’s where this thing goes... in its fucking place.

If I knew the exact shape and size of the tool I wanted, and I’d already laid out the cutout for it to go - then the tool I bought kept having to get beat into the correct shape... I’d rather just go get the right fucking tool. You know, the one that actually fits in it’s proper place. Maybe it’s just me. I used to think the brat thing was cute, too.

Good on you for testing out new shit; even better that it worked.

P.S if she’s into spanking (they all are) get yourself a nice thuddy flogger. As much as they like spanking, they like being flogged more. I think Dr. Thuddy is the brand typically recommended... idk i bought mine a few years ago.

Praexology

The “women only want to fuck when they feel safe” bit is annoying as fuck. They want to fuck when they are horny, and 99% of them have roughly the same path to getting there.

It’s like you’re hoping the rest of us will be party to your confidence jerk off sesh, might be fun but I grip hard. Sure, she might have some psychosexual attachment to the idea of stability in response to her bad mood. Frame setting is sexy, but if you start gloating about it, it flips it back into a boy who is playing a role.

You dont roleplay sexual vibrance, you role play a character. You fuck because youre a man who fucks, not because youre wearing the mask of a man who fucks.

HornsOfApathy (Mod/ Red Beret)

Fuck this.

All my thoughts on brats. Bottom line they need never worth your time and is just a BP recipe for a BP guy who is LARPing dominance.

You’re just not there yet. Shes topping from the bottom and you dont wven know it. You dont like being dominant? Ok. Then just be you and DO what you want. Thats dominant behavior. It is better than larping.

Why you dont want this.

businessstravel

I’m late to your post, but I want to give you some outside context. I have read your OYS posts as well. Something you need to realize is that this behaviour isn’t unique with your wife, but it’s with all women in different sections (i.e. ONS, dating rotation, LTRs, etc.). That “bratty behaviour” you are referring to you stems from a woman being in the “so-so” area, or middle of the row of interest.

For example, it is no different from meeting a woman out that you click with, asking for her number, while her response is wanting to exchange socials and do a song and dance for you two to go out together. It’s scamming behaviour. You fall into her frame and it can turn you into a dancing monkey. Keep the hammer down on your lifts and working more on your inner game.

The regulars commenting are spot on. This improves (or doesn’t) with the more attractive you make yourself and what you are willing to put up with. Based on the post and some of your recent OYS posts, you are still too much into your wife’s head (she, she, she) and it ultimately doesn’t matter. She either follows your lead or doesn’t.

RP_Savage001

Put boundaries, hold frame and fuck her...go figure this stuff works. Lol.

Environmental-Top346 (OYS)

She’s throwing her attitude around because she knows you have no other options. You are still fat, small, weak, and unattractive. Just imagine how much easier her moods would be to brush off if you had two other 8s from yoga class who you could call tonight and weren’t a skinnyfat weak bitch who can’t even figure out how to eat in a surplus.

There is a difference between having a “fun woman” and a “brat” in your corner. Follow the TRP quick trick advice, get TRP quick trick results. If you haven’t figured that out yet, I suggest you stop by the sidebar (again). It’s not a naughty kind of fun you are getting from her; it’s a LARPing illusion of a dancing monkey routine done by you.

It’s Friday, late afternoon/evening. I got off early from a week of on-site client work, as well as coming off a conference in Vancouver that I attended last week.

A few topics popped into my head for writing a Substack post around networking and socializing. It occurred to me over the last two weeks how terrible some people are at communication and know how to articulate what they want. This goes both ways: personal & professional environments. It doesn’t matter if you are working in a boardroom or chatting up the hawtie standing next to you. This works across all levels.

This post will be told to you while I eat food and enjoy one of the many bottles of free wine I received from one of my contracted clients I worked with this week. I apologize ahead of time for any typos or poor errors that you may come across. Take everything at face value

Conversations

The goal of a conversation is to get to know someone and exchange info. That’s it. It takes place with two people (sometimes more) and is a way to learn about something, meeting someone new, or expanding on ideas and previous topics.

Conversation starters work well with ‘Old Man Game’ for those of you who suck at starting them. Keep everything light off the bat. Nothing serious or too hyperbolic. You are trying to get into the social fabric of someone new who may not be a long-term staple in your life. Casual conversations lead to strong conversations. Every. Single. Time. I have yet to deal with someone who came off strong (i.e. sales guy) where, after the first sentence that was spoke, I already hated their guts and wanted them to fuck off. This is where your social game needs to come through; otherwise, you need to double down on your eye contact, posture, and verbalization of words if you still do not know how to talk with people.

There are pros and cons of conversations that will see your future with that individual. It’s important to understand those cues. To be able to understand these cues, you need a lot of face time and experience in the field to get your social game up to a point where you can scope out where the conversation is leading you, if there is a “net positive” from your end, or if you are wasting your time. I will run through some points to keep in the back of your head.

Positive:

• Two-Way: A flowing conversation is a telltale sign that both parties are interested (surface level).

• Kino: Light touch and organically walking back into each other’s personal space.

• Excitement: Getting on with someone or exchanging shared ideas or interests.

• Referral: You are reminding them of someone or are interested in linking you up with [X] person.

• Future: A reference to a connection for both parties.

Negative:

• One-Way: Are you driving the conversation and asking all the questions? Not good.

• Moving Away: People who are not leaving in an organic manner (i.e. conversation ends with both parties agreeing).

• Mood-Swing: Unpredictable, emotional responses that leave you confused about where the conversation is going.

• Too Personal: Trying to get into your political, religious, and personal beliefs to cause a monologue.

Contact Exchange

Watching how the contact exchange takes place will bring the entire conversation full circle. Pay attention closely to the reaction from the individual and the details laid out in front of you.

Personal:

Exchange phone numbers. That’s it. If any woman or potential male friend/colleague is looking at another form (i.e. Facebook, Instagram, whatever the fuck new app on the market), they are either 1. Not interested, or 2. keeping you as an orbiter/on the back burner. Do not waste your time with people who are not interested in you. The biggest mistake that people tend to make a waste of time on the “so-so” crowd that are one foot in, with the other off the street. They are exactly the kinds of people to avoid having in your life. Value who you are and what you can offer; unless, you do not have anything to offer.

Professional:

Exchange email (bare minimum). That’s it. The bulk of any professional conversation will be started on email; unless, either one of you decides to go straight to the phone number for future chats. This is fine, but depending on your organization or the kind of work you do, exchanging personal contact info is frowned upon in the “Corporate America” space. If someone is only interested in you following them on LinkedIn, that’s a polite way of them telling you to fuck off. Switching business cards and swapping emails are the biggest green lights, at least in the initial stages. It’s even more of a green light if they are as interested as you in exchanging info and continuing the conversation.

This is different from my usual posts on here, as it’s more of a rant about something that came up this week.

As per the title of this post, anyone… I mean, anyone who uses their newly born child, a health scare with a family member, or their wedding as a flex in their search for a new job for their future career prospects; you, sir/ma’am, are a fucking retarded faggot. Fuck you and your self-riotous ego flex. No one cares or will give you any sort of flexibility, particularly not any sane organization looking to add to its team.

A few days ago, I logged into my LinkedIn to check some of my updates that stack up on a weekly basis. I can’t bear to touch the “newsfeed” section, as all the garbage posts make me want to puke. Fuck you, Peter Thiel, for this shit. To only come across a woman who used to be in a relationship with an old friend of mine back in the high school and college days, showing off her new baby that she spawned with her husband. Quitting her old job and going on mat-leave probably wasn’t the best choice, but alas.

The post was garbage. Hundreds of likes, dozens of comments, and her profile being shadow banned in the future from headhunters who despise that kind of flexing. If you didn’t already know and need to hear it again. No one fucking cares about your family or your extra-curriculars in the professional working world. No one. Grow the fuck up. I have yet to see anyone fawn over this kind of discourse in person; especially, in the office setting.

That old saying, “high school never ends, it just repeats in different stages”, is one of the most accurate quotes I have read. The amount of ego flexing and covert contracts in a post about being a new mother and looking at a new chapter made me want to puke. You aren’t special. Again, no one fucking cares other than you. It’s bad enough to see a woman do this, but even worse to come across a guy crying on LinkedIn about getting divorced and looking for that next chapter to “help with his wounds” during the healing phase - fuck off.

Your CV, professional background, and networking skills are what will land you the next opportunity, not some sad sack, pathetic bitch of a story that you flaunt to strangers online who don’t give a fuck about you.

Go fuck yourself.

Sincerely,

Every normal person in the professional world

One of my favourite posts from UEMcGill, for that matter, in the MRP sub is Know Your Walk Away Point.

It’s the perfect example of know your value, what you are willing to put up with, understanding the wiggle room when weighing the options, and executing your fate. I always found it a shame that it never got more popular or praise in MRP, even though it’s around a decade old at this point. There are a handful of takeaways I always keep in mind when preparing to walk away from a situation or someone I know that once my back is turned, I won’t be heading back.

Preparation:

You need to fully understand what you are planning on doing. Whether you are walking away from a job, walking away from a cunty woman in the dating rotation, planning on leaving your LTR/wife of 10 years, severing ties with a family member - it’s all the same. Self thought and disciplined debate in your head should be brainstorming before a decision is made. Do I need this person in my life? Do they add value to me? Do I see a resolution to [X] issue(s)? Where do I see myself afterward; estimated outcome? Do the work. Don’t make a decision before you have planned out the prep work beforehand.

Execution:

Once you have made your decision, you execute in the way that serves you best, whether that is directly saying “it’s over” or “I’m done”, completely walking away without a trace, or giving the option for dialogue before you leave. These are the only ways you can execute a walk off from someone or a situation. Once you have made your choice, you need to stick with it. No pussy-footing the issue or using this as a way to cause drama. Make your fucking choice.

Side Note: Dialogue

If you decided to execute with a dialogue that included some form of a negotiation, you will need to figure out what side of the coin you stand on. What are your negotiables? What are your non-negotiables? Where can a treaty be signed where both parties will be happy? Only you can decide these. Even going with the dialogue method, you will still need to have the same spine as the guy walking away (ghosting) and the guy stating “it’s over” and be willing to walk.

Fall Out:

Once you have made your choice, the fall out will proceed behind you. Not in a bang, but in most cases, it will be a wimper. Whatever you chose as the plan of action, stick to it. The harpy cunt from the dating rotation is trying to cause drama? Blocked. The toxic job you decided to leave gives you a counter offer? Ignore. The family member who used you is trying to slither his way back into your graces? Nope. Your frame will be tested. It will be up to you to deal with the outcome you chose; for better or worse.

I might be alone on this one, but I find it fascinating when you see a breakup coming a mile away for a guy; especially, in a situation where you have enough background data to sort through, which will predict the future. Even then, one of the iron-padded ideals from Married Red Pill is accepting that everything in life has an expiration date. That said, the subtle undertone of that realization is that certain choices you make for yourself can help with the timeline on both extremes.

Over a month ago, a mid-20s guy who I worked with on a project last year got dumped by his, well-off family’s money, mid-20s white Mexican gal. I saw the breakup coming well over a year ago, just for not understanding some of the basic concepts that are drilled down within the sidebar on MRP, and even through the early day TRP columns and links that were useful. It’s not only about gaining knowledge with age, as that’s completely wrong, considering the number of retarded 65-year-olds rolling around. But fundamentally, putting together your experience, your understanding of information provided, and building out your own knowledge pallet to refer to as you get on with your life.

This is why Married Red Pill pushed from the start the importance of building a MAP to develop a base, followed by getting your training wheels on the ground, until you push forward with the ship you build yourself, along with the tool belt strapped to you.

“I went above a beyond for her…”

• Everything ends.

• Everything has an endpoint.

• Everything was never meant to be “long-term” or “guaranteed” in life.

As we enter this dreary fall in the Northern Hemisphere, I already know of two couples who pulled the eject handle. It’s funny for me as both of them were white dudes with white Mexican broads. Nothing like seeing wannabe bros banging out about being in a relationship with a Mexican woman; not impressed, dudes… We have all been there and got the t-shirt, but I digress…

Both of these guys played the standard playbook of how to fuck themselves with women when they listen too much to their feelz, instead of them actually thinking with their brains and watching what the women do, not say. There were different mistakes made on both sides that definitely sped up the closing in breakups, but I will mesh them together for you here.

Social Media Obsession

• Women don’t want you making posts or videos about them, no matter how much they want you to do it for them. It’s their job, not yours. Showing her off? Commenting on everything she does? Forcing an inorganic communication constantly? Ego boosting? Yeah, this shit doesn’t work. You aren’t a chick, she is… Unless you decided to swing that direction (no judgment here).

Long Distance

• I’m sorry, but long distance relationships never work; unless, there are certain circumstances that warrant it being an option (i.e. Husband working abroad on a 6 month contract while the wife stays home with the kids). I have heard more men in their 20s, 30s, and 40s bang on about the option of doing a long-distance relationship compared to women. Sure, they may suggest it to you, but it’s a way for them to either have you accept being demoted to a plate (dating phase) or have you initiate the breakup.

No Boundaries

• Come on in, I have no border! Not only does a country with a lax border policy get fucked over, but so do you! Saying yes to every request, caving on emotional manipulation, and fearing the outcome of losing your unicorn will always end with you as a shmuck without a spine. No woman wants to fuck or be around a man long-term who doesn’t have any self-respect, no matter what her mouth noises are preaching, which is usually the exact opposite of this topic.

Not Accepting The “Bad Guy” Role

• Men have been and will always be the bad guys. Talking with men who are middle-aged and still can’t wrap their minds around that concept is wild to me. You will be the bad guy. Take up that title as an honour. It doesn’t matter how nice you are or how much of a villain you are. You will be the asshole in her eyes at the after-party with her thoughts, her friends, her family, and her socially constructed society. Accept your role in society and get over it. She will as well, or not, but it doesn’t matter what she thinks, right?

Not Saying ‘No’

• No. It’s a full sentence. Use it. You have been told for years now - pussy.

In the past 10 months; particularly, in the last couple of weeks because of various events, there has been a massive push from single wawman between the ages of 32 and 46 for a more “christian”, “god-like”, and an overall “religious” push to help with their own agenda. What’s that agenda you ask? Getting the lovely, inexperienced middle aged beta male looking for the tradcon unicorn that is their holy spirit of a dream.

George Carlin famously said that you have to be asleep to believe the American Dream. When we dive in deeper to that statement, the overall meaning is that everything you see in the world is marketed bull shit. Everyone knows exactly what they are doing. They are just trying to find an audience that does not 100% understand what the seller is trying to get in order to achieve their desired outcome. If you are not willing to own yourself, someone else will gladly own you at your expense and their gain (short and/or long term).

I have mentioned in previous posts that MRP had an issue around 2016/17 with all of the “wannabe” trads looking to fix their shitty relationships and experiences with women. Even though they were unwilling to look at the bigger problem in their life, which was and always has been the guy standing in the mirror. UEMcGill made a comment a handful of years back on how stupid and easily manipulated modern day tradcons are as women, the government, big business, and any other entity’s look to take advantage of the dutiful schlub. Please stand here, sir.

Any guy who takes anything a single middle aged woman says around her faith, love, and views on religion seriously, deserve to be ass-raped in a divorce court. If you are that stupid to believe any word that drops out, then I have some land to sell you at low-tide currently available. No one is truly on your team except you. That single, newly turned to Jesus and Gawd middle aged white woman isn’t going to save you or your ballsack. Get the fuck over it.

I found out last night that one of the Latina ladies I used to date a few years ago has a long-time university friend who got engaged last night. It’s pretty funny to me, considering a year and a half back, I was dirty dancing with said woman and a friend of hers at a Latina club night. However, like many of these situations, everything comes full circle.

The funny story about this one in particular is that I never knew she had a boyfriend until she moved back to Central America. When she spent two to three years studying in my city, she was acting like a typical college girl. Studying at university, going out with friends, having fun at different events, and of course, dating the odd guy and getting fucked along the way. Nothing else to see here…

The amazing aspect of her dating strategy was the fact that the guy she got hitched to was going to medical school back in her home country. They had known each other since high school, along with their families intermingling and having a long-standing relationship. She managed to get the guy to “wait for her” until she moved back home for them to start dating after years of courting from this guy. She pretty much speed ran them to a relationship right away, which has now formed into an engagement. This was all in the matter of less than 12 months… Amazing strategy on her end.

Most women will always have a “backup” guy in the distance, particularly a low SMV beta provider type who will take anything that comes their way. This is nothing new, as it’s all in the MRP sidebar. That said, very few women know how to run this strategy and make it follow through on proper execution. I have seen this in the past with women I dated. In particular, one of my most recent plates with whom I broke things off early on in the year, after dating her for almost two and a half years. I ran into her and her new bf at the liquor store on Wednesday afternoon, and she was proud to tell me she was in a “committed relationship” - I was happy for her.

Here is the deal… You have to set the boundaries from the beginning. It’s not just in what you say, but it’s with your body language, what you are willing to put up with behaviour-wise, dealing with the investment in you, as well as analyzing the long-term benefit. Men get “forced” into relationships or engagements with women because of their fault, not the women’s fault. If she told you to wait around until she is ready, and all you do is sit like a good little boy for her to come around since she is your boss, you have no one else to blame but yourself.

I found out over the Easter long weekend, that one of my old plates amiga’s (mid-20s, white Mexican with crazy hair) fucked another dude a few months back while being on a trip with her mom and friend in South East Asia. All of this while being in some live-in “3-year” relationship with a nice, tradcon type of guy so many fucks want to be. I had to laugh out loud a little bit as 1.) I’m open to being in her line of sight 2.) MRP sidebar info over the years proves to be true (again x 1000), and 3.) Having the woman lead doesn’t make the dating or relationship timeline last longer.

Even more interesting in this situation is that they are still together. The fact that he is a good, hardworking tradesman (electrician) that every tradcon tells you to be because it gives you a steady income and the women will like you more, all means more of a reason to stay for both parties. I actually can’t believe the number of Trump 1.0 trads that are still out of the closet from 2016, telling you that “being the perfect plow horse” will make everyone love and respect you. I’m getting older since I remember trends re-appear again that everyone wants to claim are “fresh”, “new”, “agile”, and of course, “future proof” - all of which is BS.

I still remember MRP getting these crop of Jordan Peterson and Trump 1.0 worshippers back in 2016/17 that tried to “slide into their OYS posts” how they were going to be the perfect leader. A way for them to make sure everyone respected them. That lead to 48 OYS posts later where they still didn’t have frame and were too scared to make a decision around their woman - fags. Just because some backwater Reddit sub or a mid-tier YouTuber with a few thousand followers tells you that being the perfect tradcon will make women want to be around you forever and every man wants to be doesn’t mean it’s true… You know, everyone is out for their own agenda, right?

Claiming that you are the oak for her to land on, claiming that you will accept disrespect, claiming that you will always be there through rough waters, doesn’t make you some special trad that everyone will respect until kingdom come. It makes you a weak, pathetic man-child who doesn’t have values that he lives his life on because that’s what the man in the mirror wants. Being the same old, predictable guy that all women secretly hate, doesn’t make them want to stay around longer. Every Sunday you play board games together? Jesus, aren’t you a bottle of fun for her juices.

The recent trend of “new” tradcon content I have been seeing over the last 6 months is making me ill. If you are that stupid enough to believe and follow all of that to heart, you deserve the love and misery you get with that choice.

As per normal, unless something comes into my crawl, I don’t have the interest in making a post. I logged into my discord this evening with two X/Twitter threads sent to me from a Reddit guy. Both posts made me shake my head at how retard the new, current crop of retards are that have stumbled into the space. It’s almost like this new generation of guys want to suck so bad in their life that they attach themselves to figure heads instead of using both their heads. This isn’t even an age issue either, it’s a timeline issue where guys get so attached to their phones, social media pages, and Youtube channels; rather, than actually reading the fucking books on the MRP sidebar and taking action with a MAP…

The first thread (now deleted by OP - pussy), talked about how he was disappointed at a party he was invited too. Basically rambled a bunch of BS how he didn’t have a good time, had a tough time interacting with people, and clearly was jealous that other guys were getting attention from the wawman… The second thread (see below) is from a retard that clearly has zero conception of “game” and no clue on how “night game” actually works… It’s almost like these fucks are too lazy to actually practice any of the shit they read from the sidebar; or, didn’t bother to read because “I’m a lazy faggot” - retards…

Out of both threads I read through, there are some basic concepts the new retards need to get their top head around to actually have a fulfilling life with other people and women…

You Have To Be Social

It’s almost like some of us have to repeat this concept - over & over. It doesn’t matter if you are an introvert or an extrovert, you have to develop a personality and know how to interact with strangers. Otherwise, you will be the fuck standing in the corner at a house party or a guy who doesn’t understand how people fuck around with each other and have fun. Your personal life, professional life, family life, and dating/relationship life will all suck ass or continue to suck ass in most of your cases.

Understand Night Game

I don’t understand guys that go to house parties or the clubs that don’t know the first fuckin’ rule. Do you know what that rule is? Have fun. It’s that easy. If you are going out to the club alone, get your ass on the dance floor and dance with everyone else. If you are going to a house party, go around and chat up everyone in attendance. This isn’t rocket science… Some of you autistic nerds suck-ass with night game and it’s all because you aren’t having fun. If you aren’t in the mood to have fun, or you want to be a bitch; then for fuck sakes, go home.

Fuck Your Feelings

A lot of you are soft… You can’t take another guy shitting on you. You can’t take a woman turning you down. You can’t take a conversation ending abruptly because someone new doesn’t want to talk to you. Get the fuck over it. I’m so glad I’m away from my BT X/Twitter account to avoid all you sad sacks running online after something happens to look for a dopamine hit, just like some thot you all bitch about but can’t even fuck her because even for her, you are too much of a pussy. Develop thick skin or fuck off back home.

Stop Looking Like Shit

You don’t take care of yourself and you dress like a schlub. You haven’t gotten a haircut or a beard trim in 18 months and it shows. You forget to shower on the regular and smell like piss the moment you walk by someone. You forget to wash your hands after you have a wild explosion in the bathroom because your diet is full of sugar and toxic food. You always wear the same shirt with the mustard stain for two weeks straight before putting on the ketchup stained shirt. Your gut pokes out of your jeans when you zip them up. Do I have to say anymore?

Stop fucking talking. Stop fucking bitching. Start putting in the time to improve in the areas you suck at, or completely fuck off. Thank god for the new MRP 1 month to 90 day bans.

For the past two and a half weeks, I have been ballz-deep in a client contract where half the work I was paid for was attending afternoon and evening functions with their clients, VIP attendees, sponsors, and special guest lists. Truthfully? It was a smashing success for me. Even though I had “paper pushing” and email tasks to get done for the client, that impact was minimal in comparison to all of the in-person schmoozing I was doing with everyone throughout the entirety of the event. Every MRP sidebar reference was shown with a giant spotlight.

Let’s work through my post-report results, shall we?

Physical Attraction Matters More Than You Think…

• No one; especially, women of a certain social status wants to be dealing with unattractive schlubs at these kinds of events. Unfit, unkept, and smelly men get kept at a distance, while physically in shape men who smell good and are tidy; clean up (pardon the pun) all the on-lookers. The only men who say “looks don’t matter” are guys who don’t bother taking care of themselves and want to point the finger (RE: most TRP content creators). If your lifting and diet are on point, along with your grooming being above average, you will be a beacon point for people to converse with and want to be around. You can be the pig with lipstick that makes everyone laugh, but no one wants to come too close to the pig, let alone take it home…

What You Wear Says More About You Compared To Your Words…

• Your style is the beacon point on top of your physical fitness and grooming. Before you even open your mouth to someone, you have said a paragraph of words with your style. Choose your style wisely… Figure out the style that suits you, whether it’s collared shirts, premium shirts with fit, v-neck premium fits, blazers, sport coats, jeans, dress pants, slip-in shoes, high-tops — etc. Just because everyone is wearing a blue blazer with grey jeans and high-top brown boots, doesn’t mean you have to match them. Your style highlights who you are as a man. Lean into what you like, and what looks good on your body, and expand your taste. During five VIP evening cocktail nights with ‘talent’, I had five different outfits that were all based around a similar style that I rocked. People take notice; especially, those who want to use it as an opener to start a convo with you.

Your Social Game Is Challenged By 1000%…

• You are in control of how your experience is with everyone you interact with; not the other way around. Make a habit of getting to know the key people involved with the event/function, remember their names, and make sure to check in with them regularly. Make these people your allies and someone you can trust in the event of something going sideways. When it comes to new people and guests, go out of your way to introduce yourself and have a little small talk. Let them know who you are and that you are interested in their presence. Let them know that you are happy with their attendance and connect with them on a surface level. Throughout an event or evening, a few of these people will come back to you and it will give you a chance to dive deeper in conversation, while already having a baseline of who they are, why they are in attendance, and maybe sharing some common interests. You have to be “on” at all times and willing to talk with everyone. Don’t be a mute, sitting at the bar or standing in the corner looking at your phone, or only limiting yourself to a couple of people. Get your social game on point.

Focus On The People, Not You…

• Don’t make the mistake a lot of people make by telling everyone how awesome you are… I guarantee you that at these kind of events and functions, you will be meeting people who have more interesting stories compared to you, have lived a well-adventured life, and probably have more dough than you as well. Sit down, shut up, and open your ears. For those of you who struggle with this concept, focus on the 2/3 rule. They should be talking twice as much as you. This is more important if you are dealing with this from a work perspective. Why? Because you want these people to not only want to enjoy meeting new people, but open the door for more opportunities down the road. Developing those relationships that will ‘potentially’ give you headway in either a personal or professional setting. Keep the conversations fun, light, and as engaging as possible. Shut your goddamned mouth on gender dynamics, red pill, politics, or religion-based subjects. Why? Because you look like a fucking faggot in the ‘real world’ when in discussions. I can’t stress this enough to some of you, as I guarantee you lot are the small percentage that I try to avoid at these functions.

Know When To Zero In…

• As you have mingled with people throughout the event, you will realize that there will be at least one or two people you mesh with the best. Whether you have an overlap of interest from your career, similar hobbies or outside interests in life, or you just get on well — that is when you develop those interactions. One of the key aspects of attending these events is to “hopefully” develop new seeds for potential personal or business relationships with new people you have met to blossom. Keep the conversations going with these people the entire night or time of the event. Don’t be afraid to get personal and share aspects of your life with these select individuals who are invested in you and want to learn more about what makes you tick. The best way to know when to zero in on someone and have a deeper conversation is when they actively show their interest in you. It is not surface-level talk at this point around the event, venue, the business function, or what you do. The onion is peeling… Generally speaking, individuals who put forward with deeper conversations with you at these events are for the following: a.) they want to build their professional network, b.) they are open to doing business with you in some way, shape, or form, and c.) they are open to a new friend. Even at a large attended weeklong conference, you may only get one or two of these people. Don’t confuse someone with being respectful and pleasant for them wanting to dig any further with you…

**Hosting Tip**: Go Above And Beyond For Your VIPs…

• If you are involved with the actual hosting of an event, you not only need to do everything that I have mentioned here but also go above and beyond to make sure the key people in attendance are having a wonderful time. It’s not about everything going perfectly, but it’s about listening to these individuals and letting them know they have been heard. As I was one of the key people to be a part of the organization that put on this event as a special advisor, my goal was to make sure my soft skills came in handy for all situations. As long as the VIPs were happy, listened to, and all were having a good time; that was all I cared about. When problems do occur, it’s not necessarily the goal of fixing a specific issue; it’s being an ear for someone to vent to. People want to be heard. People want to know that they are being thought of in a special light; especially, if those key individuals that you have to deal with have any enquires. If you are prepared to go above and beyond for those individuals, you will be paid off in dividends down the road…

Last year (2024) and early this year (2025) [for those who read this post in the future…] has been interesting for me professionally. Even though some contracts didn’t go the way I wanted or intended, they did show me the power of being likeable to the right people. The old saying; “What goes around, comes around!” isn’t just a quote, it’s reality. In fact, it’s a way that you should live your life that is not talked about enough. Probably because it doesn’t “sell” with its sexiness, or whatever…

In the past two months, I have had new work opportunities from connections I made with people last year through my demeanour, personality, and my ability to be a value add. It’s something I have been good at throughout my life when it comes to knowing who to build relationships with and those to avoid. When things got tough for me on my end last year, those relationships that were developed from being a likeable guy who can deliver - came full circle.

Going into this week, I’m solidifying a couple of short-term client contracts, while working on a mammoth deal for me to work abroad again on a new project. All of this fruition would not have happened if I was a flat-out prick or faggot to those who were willing to give me opportunities to begin with. No one wants to help the reckless loser who shot down opportunities or assistance when the pendulum swings the other way around. Actions, decisions, and moments from the past will come back to your future, but not on the timeline that you think will happen…

The key to being likeable is getting shit done, showing that you have value, putting in extra time on initiatives YOU care about, and not being a kiss-ass in the process. One of my friends mentioned something to me a couple of years back that I think about a lot… Whenever you can be of value to someone (which you deal with/care about), make sure you exhaust all options on the front. Even if it’s not the best decision business-wise, for your pocketbook, or for you at the moment, all of those moments will be repaid to you in the future - karma.

Everybody wants something for themselves, along with kicking down the latter on their way up. However, hardly anyone is willing to put their hand up and ask; “How can I be of assistance to you?”, without getting their ego in the way, the covert contract, and whatever else emotional baggage to your swollen head. If you want to make strides further in life, you have to be willing to show those around you the value you can offer them. Those relationships that foster; keep them, untrue them, and check on them. Otherwise, enjoy being a bitter, unlikable faggot that no one wants around the older you get.

I have been wanting to put together a post like this for the last three years, after I backed away from a lot of the social platforms, discord groups, and of course, the plethora of YouTube channels involved in some way, shape, or form within the space. Now is the time - long, long overdue. As time has gone on, one aspect remains clear to me… The majority of those involved in the space are retards. The same guys that repeat the same shit every other day gets old; real quickly…

The Number 1 Obsession

Part of the major reason I keep stepping back from the space; particularly, the social and streaming side of it is because of the constant talk about ‘sex’. The problem with 98% of the content creators who are involved a lot or a little in the space don’t seem to understand that sex is the bare minimum. Let me explain… If you are a somewhat attractive man, having sex with women in your life is just the baseline of attraction. It says nothing more than that…

In Married Red Pill, the half-joking comment was the following: Blue pill guys put women up on the pedestal, Red pill guys put pussy on the pedestal, and Married Red Pill removes the pedestal and throws it in the trash. As time continues to push forward, the ultimate obsession with sex I see with guys who have been around the content side of the space for over a handful of years now (some much longer, we are talking a decade here) is pathetic. If you are making your life around getting your dick in pussy the entire time, you have proved that you have no real value to offer yourself other than settling for whatever scraps you get - faggots.

Your A Lost Cause

WhineMorePlease, Horns of Apathy, and Praexology have been the most consistent guys on this topic. Just because you started getting laid on a somewhat regular basis, doesn’t make you as “awesome” as you think you are. Congrats. You became just attractive enough to get your dick wet… Not that impressive in the grand scheme. The counter argument these guys and myself receive is; “I’m doing what I want, so what?”. Yeah, but bragging about having sex isn’t impressive. Newsflash… Dudes that do get laid on a regular basis when they want and with who they want do not constantly talk about it, brag about it on their social platforms, or try to strong-arm some moral police angle in a debate.

If you are a guy reading this post and feel the need to constantly open your mouth to people, or run online to post about getting laid with some harpy cunt, you sir, are a faggot. No one cares about your sex life more than you do. Discussing and analyzing sex constantly puts you in a special area of retardation that proves you aren’t as interesting or great of a guy as you bang on about. The ultimate point of a guy running his MAP is to become a man who is worth respecting, someone who has value to offer people and ultimately build the life that he wants for his new present and future.

The guys that “finally” get attractive enough to get laid and runoff, are the first ones to return with their tail between their legs since they realized they LARPed the entire time… This is the equivalent of the majority of content creators out there who bang on about sex 24/7 - ponder that…

It’s that time of year in the calendar when everything starts to wind down for a lot of people; school, work, extracurriculars, etc. The holidays loom for the majority of the world once December hits, as most people are off on trips with their family, drunken escapades with friends, back-to-back holiday parties, and the constant increase of the insecurity level to acquire “more” stuff. It’s almost as if the middle of November until January 2nd has the same playbook every single year. 

The Emotional Insecurity 

During this time, I love to stay cuddled up in a chair, with some spiked black coffee, all cozy with some blankets, having the fireplace channel on in the background, as I wait to see the plethora of emotional men puke their guts on MRP for me to have a holiday chuckle. I’m not sure why, but it seems like guys that are trying to work through their MAPS always go off the deep end this time of year. The entire emotional highs and lows seem to break all of them, while some of them snap completely. Forgetting everything they have been trying to digest and actively work on for the last four, six, eight, or even twelve months. 

All the time and energy for guys trying to build up their “frame” from the ashes or the never was, gets thrown into the basement closet. They turn themselves back into plow horses. Full-blown cattle that is on display. Trying to please everyone, which includes but is not limited to their family, their boss, their co-workers, their friends, their extended family, the dog, the cat, the neighbour, the piece of ass at Circle K, and of course, their most prized possession - their unicorn. Everything that is supposed to be from their perspective completely turns on its head. Just like some random heads-or-tails match that you would play out of the blue with your sibling at your grandparents' house. 

You Are A Mountain

Your frame is tested during these times. No more than a new guy still trying to unfuck his former belief systems and get the train back on the tracks. There is something about this time of year where the autism seems to crank up to make sure that “everyone and everything is great”, while completely forgetting about the guy who wipes his ass and brushes his teeth every single day. Just because there are more events than usual in your household does not mean it’s time for you to step off the work you continually put on with yourself. When a storm comes rolling through the valley, what does the mountain do? Does it run away, or does it weather the storm? Does it move at all during any period of time or any season? No.

Public Service Announcements shouldn’t be needed each year, but sometimes, these messages must be emphasized. The problem is the fucks that need it the most are the ones most destined to ignore it or fail to heed the warning signs. Sit down, shut your mouth, and breathe. In and out. Deep breaths. You are still alive? Good. Excellent! Now keep doing what you have already been doing up to this point and prioritize what you need and want to do during this time. You are Zwitzerland. You aren’t playing one side more than the other. The side you are on the same side as the guy who wipes his ass and brushes his teeth every single day. Prioritize yourself during this time before you get emotionally fogged and go down the rabbit hole of every other spurg you see out and about throughout the holidays. Oh, and don't forget to keep lifting and not become a beached whale, fatty.

You will be tested…

This week on Reddit, I read a post from a guy who is diligently working on his MAP post divorce, who was in a situation with a plate in his dating rotation he has been seeing for a handful of months. His situation got me thinking to how many guys used to ask this question in AskTRP, TRP, and on Rollo & BlackDragon’s old blog posts. How much of your time do you invest with a woman? It’s actually so simple, yet brilliantly easy to understand.

“Invest as much time as she is investing in you..” - UEMcGill

When you are dating a woman, the amount of time she invests in you is arguably more important compared to when you are in a relationship or married. Why? Because you have to actively make time to see each other face to face more compared to a relationship (live-in) or marriage. If you read the MRP sidebar, you would understand from books such as Rational Male and Pook, that matching a woman’s investment of timing into you is the best course of action. It’s the old adage of why texting and talking on the phone for logistics became the main rule of thumb for retards new to this space.

To go back to the gentleman that I referenced in the beginning of my post, the main deal he brought up was how this woman he has been dating for around 6 months only tends to see him once every two weeks. He noticed a pattern a couple of months into dating her. The simple answer here, not the autistic TRP or Incel viewpoint is that this woman is only investing in seeing this guy once every two weeks. It’s a brilliant dating strategy, to begin with. In general, once a week (max.) for women in the dating rotation, or even over a week; two or even three weeks isn’t that bad either. You need lots of time when dating someone, not spending every other night with them.

There are a few reasons why this benefits you… 1. It gives you time for other options on your end, 2. If you are a guy who has ONEitis issues, you can actually work on untucking your co-dependent self, 3. It shows that you have a higher SMV compared to all the other needy fucks trying to hang out with her. Matching a woman’s investment in you is the best way forward - period. Even married guys over in MRP trying to untuck their unattractive behaviours will get the cold shoulder from their wives for weeks before even getting a sniff of “date night” in their direction. Learn to understand the waves that women give you while you are dating or in a relationship with them. 

Do your thing and stick with it. If a new girl is giving you the pattern as a once-in-a-month guy, so be it. You have other options. You match what she gives. It’s all a part of the game, whether you like it or not. Don’t be the guy begging a girl you are dating to be with you 24/7, then wonder why she next/ghosts you 5 months into dating you. On the flip side, however, if you are getting your time disrespected, that is when you state your boundary and move the fuck on, or whatever the hell your plan is in that situation. If a woman is investing in you and bringing value, then reward her for the time and energy she is putting in. If not, you can then categorize her as a less important priority and get other options while she wonders “Where is that guy?” in the meantime.