Holding onto them was.

And honestly...

I wish someone had told me that years ago.

Because it would’ve saved me one of the most heartbreaking experiences of my life.

Manifestation worked perfectly.

But that was actually the problem.

When I first discovered the Law of Assumption, I became obsessed.

I was learning everything I could.

Affirming.

Visualising.

Changing my assumptions.

Doing all the things.

Then one day...

It happened.

My SP manifestation started unfolding.

Right before my eyes.

Like, in the 3D!

And I don’t just mean they text me.

I mean...

It unfolded better than I could’ve ever imagined.

They were telling me I’d changed their life.

That I was everything they’d ever wanted.

Their dream woman.

They were calling me “baby.”

Talking about the future.

It honestly went from zero to a hundred so quickly that I couldn’t quite believe what was happening.

*Insert whiplash 😂

I remember thinking...

Holy shit.

This actually works.

I’d done it.

I’d manifested my SP.

Except...

What I didn’t realise was...

I’d manifested them, yes!

But…I hadn’t become the version of me who could actually hold onto the relationship.

And trust me...

Those are two completely different things.

On the outside, everything looked perfect.

On the inside...

I was an absolute anxious mess.

I couldn’t relax & just enjoy being with them.

I was watching them.

Watching how long they’d taken to reply.

Wondering if their message felt different.

Looking for reassurance.

Trying to work out if they were okay.

If we were okay.

If something had changed.

They cancelled seeing me once...

And my nervous system went through the roof.

The overthinking ramped up “they don’t want to see me”

Nothing felt safe.

Instead of just enjoying this incredible relationship I’d manifested…

And worked hard to manifest!

I was constantly trying to make sure I didn’t lose it.

Looking back now...

I can see exactly what I was doing.

But at the time...

I had absolutely no idea.

Because they started saying things like...

“I’m scared.”

“I’m not ready.”

And instead of realising...

“Hang on... I’m the one writing the script here.”

I became their therapist.

I was trying to fix them.

Trying to convince them.

“But we’re so good together.”

“Look how amazing this is.”

“Of course you’re ready.”

I was spending all of my energy trying to convince somebody to choose me...

When they’d already told me I was their dream woman.

Can you see it?

Today I look back and think...

Why was I trying to convince somebody to choose their dream woman?

If I’m their dream woman...

They’re lucky to be with me.

They’d had hit the jackpot!

They should be convincing me!!

Afraid of losing their dream woman!

But I didn’t see it like that back then.

Because my self-concept hadn’t changed.

My nervous system hadn’t changed.

I was still expecting to lose the people I loved.

I was still expecting not to be chosen.

So even though I’d manifested the relationship...

I was experiencing it through the exact same anxious version of me.

Who’s anxiety had sabotaged all her other relationships

And sadly, this one was going to be no different.

I remember one day walking through the woods, on the phone to my friend, crying so hard I could barely get my words out.

And I remember saying...

“I just don’t feel worthy.”

I don’t even remember thinking about it.

It just came out.

Looking back now...

It makes complete sense.

I’d got everything I’d been asking for.

Everything I’d been affirming for.

And I still didn’t believe I was enough to keep it.

A few weeks later...

It happened.

Exactly what I’d been terrified of.

They ended the relationship.

And the craziest part?

The reasons they gave...

Were almost word for word the things I’d been fearing.

I remember sitting there listening to them thinking...

Oh my God.

They’re literally saying everything that’s been going round and round in my head.

I was watching my assumptions being spoken back to me.

Right in front of my eyes.

It was like watching a car crash that I couldn’t stop.

Because I didn’t know what I know now.

I gave it too much power.

I was giving them too much power.

I was devastated.

Absolutely devastated.

I cried.

I begged.

I couldn’t understand it.

I remember saying to my friend afterwards...

“No... they won’t let their dream woman go.”

“They won’t.”

Because that’s what they’d told me.

That I was everything they’d ever wanted.

So my brain couldn’t make sense of it.

How can somebody tell you you’re their dream woman... and still not choose you?

That heartbreak changed my life.

It was so painful seeing it play out exactly as I was assuming but feeling powerless to stop it.

It lit a fire under my belly.

No more was I going to keep creating this sh*t!

Because for the first time...

I couldn’t blame them.

I couldn’t say they were avoidant.

Or not ready.

Or emotionally unavailable.

I’d watched myself manifest them into my life, perfectly.

They repeated my assumptions word for word.

So I knew I’d created that.

Which meant I also had to accept that I’d created what happened next.

That was one of the most confronting moments of my life.

But it was also the moment I truly got my power back.

Because I realised something I will never forget...

You can manifest movement.

You can manifest attention.

You can manifest someone telling you you’re the love of their life.

But if your self-concept and your nervous system haven’t changed...

Holding onto that relationship is a whole different ball game.

You will keep creating the exact circumstances that led you here.

And that’s exactly why I teach what I teach today.

So let me show you what I had to change after that heartbreak to manifest my now husband, who chose me so intentionally from day 1 (he bought my engagement ring within 3 months, no convincing needed) and even more importantly, to be able to hold onto him without sabotaging it

🔒 Everything above is what I’d post on social media.

Everything below is the conversation we’d be having if we were sitting opposite each other over an overpriced vanilla iced oat latte with all the trimmings…

The only difference is… this conversation will probably cost you less than the coffee. 😂

Because let’s be honest…

You have worked HARD to manifest your SP…

And you’re terrified of fucking it up again.

You’re desperate not to go through another heartbreak.

So below, we’re getting into the part nobody taught me:

How do you stop your old self-concept, old relationship patterns and old fears from quietly taking over and derailing your happy ever after?

And more importantly...

How do you create the relationship you actually want to experience and hold onto it.

Keep reading to discover…

• The self-concept mistake that allowed me to manifest someone calling me their “dream woman” while STILL creating the ending I feared - and exactly how to affirm for your SP, so you can create movement without your old self-concept quietly sabotaging the relationship.

• How to stop manifesting little pieces of your relationship - the text, the apology, the date, them coming back - and start creating the actual outcome you want: being securely chosen, committed to and loved consistently.

• The biggest mistake I made with my old SP - and what I did completely differently when manifesting my husband. Plus exactly what you need to do to ensure you are able to hold onto your SP and manifest the outcome you want.

• How to catch yourself slipping back into the old version of you BEFORE it sabotages your relationship again - including the 9 specific behaviours I now recognise immediately as signs.

• What I actually do TODAY when my husband does something I don’t prefer - the simple process I use to identify what my 3D is reflecting and consciously change the story instead of spiralling, fixing or trying to change him.

• Why your nervous system can keep dragging you back into the relationship you’re trying to leave behind, even when you’re affirming the complete opposite - and what I changed so secure love actually felt safe enough to hold.

• A journal exercise that will expose the relationship script you’re STILL expecting to happen, even if your SP came back exactly as you wanted tomorrow.

• Plus, my 7-day challenge for putting this into practice immediately so you can start catching the old relationship story and consciously choosing the one you actually want to experience.

Step inside my love, we have alot to cover…

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F*CK.

That hurts.

You open Instagram...

And there they are.

Smiling.

Holding hands.

Looking happier than ever.

Or maybe they tell you they’ve met someone.

Maybe a friend mentions they’re dating.

Maybe they’ve even changed their profile picture.

And suddenly...

Your stomach drops.

You don’t just think...

“Oh... they’re seeing someone.”

Your brain does what it’s always done.

“See... it’s over”

“Of course they’d choose someone else.”

“Why would they come back to me now?”

And before you know it...

You’re comparing yourself to them.

What do they have that I don’t?

Are they prettier?

Funnier?

More confident?

Less anxious?

Did they do something differently?

Would they have stayed if I’d been more like them?

You’re thinking... “how does she know?”

This was me too… guilty as charged 😂

Back then, I genuinely thought a third party was the biggest obstacle you could have when manifesting someone.

I mean...

How are they supposed to choose you...

When they’re already choosing somebody else?

It felt like the END.

Case closed.

Except...

It wasn’t.

The thing that completely changed everything for me wasn’t getting rid of the third party.

It was realising the importance I was giving them, in my reality.

In my movie... like, hello?! I'm the main character! 😂

Because if I’m honest...

It was never really about them.

Not even a little bit.

It was about what their existence seemed to confirm.

That I wasn’t chosen.

And when I realised that...

The penny DROPPED.

I started looking back at every relationship I’d ever had.

Different people.

Different circumstances.

Different excuses.

But underneath every single relationship...

It was the same story.

A different reason...

Why they couldn’t choose me.

And that’s when I realised something that completely changed the way I saw third parties forever.

Maybe they weren’t the problem.

Maybe they were simply reflecting the story I’d been believing about myself all along.

That I wasn’t chosen.

And suddenly...

Everything made sense.

Every relationship I’d ever had flashed before my eyes.

The times I’d bent over backwards trying to be “easy” so they wouldn’t leave.

The times I’d pretended I didn’t have needs because I didn’t want to scare them off.

The times I’d accepted the bare minimum because at least they were still there.

The times I’d convinced myself, “If I could just be a little more patient... a little less emotional... a little more understanding...” then they’d finally choose me.

The weekends I’d kept free... just in case they wanted to see me.

The messages I’d stared at, trying to work out what they really meant.

The times I’d made them my whole world...

While completely abandoning myself.

It all made sense.

It was as clear as day…I did all of those actions in the hope that they would finally choose me.

Because I assumed I wasn’t chosen.

So of course I kept experiencing reasons why they couldn’t choose me.

My reality was just faithfully reflecting back my assumption.

That’s when the penny DROPPED more.

If I’d created the story...

I could create a different one.

If I started seeing myself as the woman who was chosen...

Then why would there be a reason for someone else to be chosen instead?

Goodbye third party.

I hear you, I hear that little voice in your head thinking….

“Easy for you to say, Candice.”

Trust me...

I thought exactly the same thing.

I once had an SP who had a third party.

The circumstances did NOT look favourable.

And yes... I manifested the third party away.

They even started comparing me favourably to the third party. 🤭

Let me show you how...

🔒 Everything above is what I’d post on social media.

Everything below is the conversation we’d be having if we were sitting opposite each other over an overpriced vanilla iced oat latte with all the trimmings...

The only difference is... this conversation will probably cost you less than the coffee. 😂

Because let’s be honest...

This is usually the point where you’d look at me and ask...

“But Candice... what do I do if they’re already with someone else?”

“Should I ignore the third party?”

“How do I stop comparing myself to them?”

“How do I actually become the version of me who’s chosen?”

Here’s what I’d tell you.

It’s the exact approach I used when the person I wanted was already in a relationship... and the same one that’s helped thousands of my clients stop feeling like the second choice and finally become the version of themselves who naturally expects to be chosen.

Keep reading to discover...

✨ Why a third party shows up in the first place... they’re never actually the problem and that’s why you can manifest them away.

✨ The two affirmations that completely changed how I saw the third party... and why those two sentences changed everything.

✨ Exactly what I did when the person I wanted already had a girlfriend... that eventually led to them breaking up, him comparing her to me, and completely changing the way I saw third parties forever.

✨ The mistake almost everyone makes... affirming for ten minutes, then spending the next twelve hours collecting evidence against it... and how to stop unknowingly keeping the third party in your reality.

✨ Exactly what to do when you see them together, see them on social media, or catch yourself comparing yourself... so you stop spiralling and stop giving the third party power in your reality.

✨ The exact question I ask myself every time I get triggered by a third party... so I stop spiralling and come back to the version of me who’s already chosen.

✨ Plus my “I Am the Only Option” Secure Method EFT tapping session to help you stop spiralling every time you think about the third party.

How powerful this this tapping is…

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The funny thing is…

At the time, I genuinely believed I was manifesting.

Looking back now… I can clearly see that I wasn’t 🙈

I actually saw them nearly every day.

So if there was ever going to be movement… Surely I’d see it. Right?

I remember sitting there thinking… “This can’t be working.”

Because if it was…

Surely I’d see something.

A text.

A little more effort.

A sign.

Anything.

Instead… Every day felt like a constant game of… “They definitely like me.”

Five minutes later… “Actually… maybe they don’t.”

Honestly… It was exhausting.

I see this so much in my community and with my clients.

They’ll tell me, “Candice… I’ve been manifesting my SP for a year.”

Have you though?

Or…

Have you spent a year TRYING to convince yourself it’s working while checking every five minutes to see if it’s worked yet?

Because they’re two completely different things.

It wasn’t until I realised what I’d been doing wrong….

That they confessed their feelings for me ONE WEEK LATER.

Exactly as I assumed.

Turns out, they liked me the WHOLE TIME.

I just couldn’t see it.

The craziest part?

They didn't suddenly start liking me that final week.

They repeated my assumptions back to me WORD for WORD for the past 5months.

The only thing that changed...

Was what I finally accepted as true.

Here’s the question I wish someone had asked me back then...

If I genuinely believed they liked me...

Why was I spending every interaction trying to work out IF they liked me?

That question hit me like a ton of bricks.

Because I realised...

I wasn’t living as the woman who already had it.

I was living as the woman who was desperately trying to find out IF she was going to get it.

And those are two completely different people.

Here’s what I didn’t tell you yet…

What actually changed. What I did differently in that final week that took me from five months of checking to manifesting my SP in one week.

That’s the part I break down properly in this post - the exact shift, the self-concept work, the three mistakes that quietly keep almost everyone stuck in “waiting” instead of “receiving.” It’s the same approach that manifested my husband, and the one I’ve since walked thousands of clients through.

You can read it here 👉 [I Manifested My SP In One Week (After 5 Months of Doubt)]

They repeated my assumptions back to me, word for word. But only after I did this.

Psst… After 4 MONTHS of manifesting her SP, she read this EXACT post… and within HOURS he confessed his love. 👀

You can read it here 👉 [I Manifested My SP In One Week (After 5 Months of Doubt)]

I remember sitting there thinking...

“This can’t be working.”

Because if it was...

Surely I’d see something.

A text. A little more effort. A sign.

Anything.

Instead...

Every day felt like a constant game of...

“They definitely like me.”

Five minutes later...

“Actually... maybe they don’t.”

Honestly...

It was exhausting.

The funny thing is...

At the time, I genuinely believed I was manifesting.

Looking back now...

I can clearly see that I wasn’t.

I see this so much in my community & with my clients….

Because they’ll tell me,

“Candice... I’ve been manifesting my SP for a year.”

Have you though?

Or...

Have you spent a year TRYING to convince yourself it’s working while checking every five minutes to see if it’s worked yet?

Because they’re two completely different things.

And trust me...

I know because I was you.

Years ago, I was manifesting someone I actually saw nearly every day.

So if there was ever going to be movement...

Surely I’d see it.

Right?

Well...

Yes.

And no.

Because here’s the weird part.

I was seeing movement.

I just didn’t recognise it for what it was.

One day they’d say something...

Or look at me in a certain way...

Or we’d have a moment together...

And I’d walk away thinking...

“Oh my God... they definitely like me.”

I’d feel excited.

I’d think...

“It’s working!”

Then...

The next day they’d do something that didn’t fit that story.

Maybe they wouldn’t say much.

Maybe they’d act differently.

Maybe they wouldn’t respond how I’d expected.

And suddenly...

“Actually... maybe they don’t like me after all.”

Then I’d get another little bit of movement.

Then I’d doubt it again.

Then another little bit of movement.

Then more doubt.

For five months...

That was my reality.

Little bits of movement.

Followed immediately by me questioning them.

And looking back now...

It makes perfect sense.

Because what was I doing?

Exactly the same thing.

One minute...

“They like me.”

Next minute...

“No they don’t.”

“Yes they do.”

“No they don’t.”

I wasn’t certain.

I was constantantly wavering.

So guess what they reflected back to me?

Uncertainty. Wavering.

Looking back now...

I don’t think they were confusing at all.

I was.

Because every time I got a glimpse of my manifestation…

I was asking the 3D to reassure me that it was true.

Instead of living in the end...

I kept asking my reality for permission to believe my own assumptions.

Think about that.

If I’d genuinely accepted they liked me...

Why was I analysing every interaction to find out IF they liked me?

I hadn’t accepted it.

I was waiting for the 3D to convince me first.

But how could the 3D convince me when it is only a reflection of ME.

And as long as I kept doing that…

I stayed in the state of TRYING.

Trying to manifest.

Trying to work out if it was happening.

Trying to find movement.

Trying to read the signs.

Trying to interpret what everything meant.

I wasn’t living as the woman who already had it.

I was living as the woman who was desperately checking whether she was getting it.

And they’re two completely different states.

Eventually...

I couldn’t do it anymore.

I remember standing in my kitchen one afternoon, just cleaning up, when my brain started doing what it always did...

“But what if...”

And I actually said it out loud.

“No, Candice.”

“It’s done.”

“Let it go.”

It wasn’t me trying to convince myself.

It felt like a decision.

I’d finally reached the point where I thought...

“If everything I believe about manifestation is true... then this has to be true too.”

I’d seen enough evidence in my life to know imagination creates reality.

So instead of asking the 3D to prove it...

I decided to trust what I already knew.

Every time my brain wanted to analyse...

I’d interrupt it.

“It’s done, Candice.”

“They’re going to tell you they like you.”

That was it.

No checking.

No analysing.

No trying to work out whether today’s interaction meant something different from yesterday’s.

I’d made my decision.

I finally stopped looking to the 3D for confirmation.

I accepted it as true.

And I let it unfold.

About a week later...

They told me they liked me.

Exactly as I’d assumed.

But honestly...

That wasn’t even the craziest part.

The bit that completely changed how I understood manifestation happened afterwards.

We sat down together.

And naturally...

Five months of questions came pouring out of me.

“What were you thinking when this happened?”

“What about that day?”

“When you looked at me like that... what did that mean?”

“When you said this... what were you actually feeling?”

I wanted answers to everything I’d spent months analysing.

And I honestly couldn’t believe what I was hearing.

Everything.

Literally everything.

Every assumption I’d been affirming.

Every story I’d imagined they were thinking.

Every thought I’d assumed they were having.

They repeated it back to me.

Word.

For.

Word.

It was insane.

One thing still makes me smile.

Months earlier, I’d had this really random thought.

“I bet Instagram just keeps showing them my videos.”

It just popped into my head one day and felt completely natural.

Then after we’d got together, I asked them,

“When did you realise you liked me?”

They laughed and said,

“I was sitting there one night and your Instagram videos just kept coming up. I just kept watching them all & I realised, this isn’t normal… I must really like her”

I just sat there smiling.

Because it was another assumption...

Repeated back to me.

It was insane.

They hadn’t suddenly started liking me that final week.

They’d liked me the ENTIRE TIME.

Looking back...

The movement had been there all along.

I just kept interrupting it with doubt.

Every time they reflected my assumption that they liked me...

I’d look for another sign.

Another reassurance.

Another piece of proof.

And that’s when the penny DROPPED.

Manifestation wasn’t slow.

It wasn’t delayed.

In fact, manifestation was instant.

They were always receiving the script.

The problem was...

I kept changing it.

One minute I was giving them,

“They like me.”

The next minute,

“Actually... maybe they don’t.”

Then,

“No... they definitely do.”

Then,

“Maybe I’m making this all up.”

I was giving them a different script every few hours.

So that’s exactly what I experienced.

Hot.

Cold.

Movement.

Doubt.

Movement.

Doubt.

It reflected me perfectly.

I was so obsessed with the movement...

That I couldn’t receive the manifestation.

That’s why I don’t believe the question is,

“Is manifestation working?”

I think a much better question is,

“What script have I consistently been giving them?”

Because the Law of Assumption is beautifully simple.

You either live as the version of you who already has it...

Or the version of you who’s constantly asking whether they’ll get it.

Those two people think differently.

Feel differently.

Behave differently.

And because of that...

They create very different realities.

One gets their manifestation.

And one keeps TRYING to get their manifestation.

So the question is?

What script have you been consistently giving them?

Okay, I know you’re thinking… “I get it Candice, it all makes sense but HOW do I actually do this? I’m tired of waiting!!”

I hear you, I want you to get your SP too so let’s get into it!

🔒 Everything above is what I’d post on social media.

Everything below is the conversation we’d be having if we were sitting opposite each other over an overpriced vanilla iced oat latte with all the trimmings…

The only difference is… this conversation will probably cost you less than the coffee. 😂

Because let’s be honest…

This is usually the point where you’d look at me and ask…

“Okay… but what does this mean?”

“Should I text them?”

“What do I actually do now?”

Instead of spending the next three hours replaying every message, analysing every conversation, and trying to figure it out on your own.

Here’s what I’d tell you.

It’s the exact approach I used to manifest my husband… and the same one that’s helped thousands of my clients stop chasing, stop overthinking, and create secure, healthy relationships.

Keep reading to discover…

• How to stop wavering… even when the 3D is showing you the opposite… so that you can persist and receive the relationship you want.

• The exact shift that made me get into the state of “it’s done” so that I received my SP a week later.

• How to keep your faith even when it looks like nothing is happening, so you stop recreating more waiting and start allowing your manifestation to unfold.

• Exactly what I do every time I notice myself spiralling, so you know how to shift back into the state where your manifestation can actually come to you.

• The subtle behaviours that reveal you’re still chasing your manifestation pushing it away, so you can finally shift into the state of already having your relationship.

• The self-concept exercise that helped me stop questioning whether my SP could choose me and start naturally believing I was someone they would want.

• The three mistakes almost everyone makes that unknowingly pull them back into waiting instead of receiving.

• A simple 7-day challenge to help you stop asking, “Is it working?” and start thinking, feeling and responding like the version of you who already has the relationship so you can naturally receive it in your 3D.

Pull up a chair my love, it’s about to get juicy!

Psst… After 4 MONTHS of manifesting her SP, she read this EXACT post… and within HOURS he confessed his love 👀

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Everything was going perfectly at first, wasn’t it?

They couldn’t get enough of you.

They were texting first. ALL the time.

It feels so good…doesn’t it??

Making plans.

Calling you beautiful.

Talking about the future.

You were so relaxed, enjoying the feels!

Able to be yourself….

Not overanalysing everything.

You just KNEW they liked you.

You could feel it.

You liked them too.

This one is different, you thought.

And then something changed, didn’t it?

Out of nowhere it feels like.

It hits you like a ton of bricks!

Maybe you slept together.

Maybe you opened up emotionally.

Maybe you realised…

“Oh shit… I actually really like this person.”

And suddenly…

Everything felt different.

And before you know it, EVERYTHING WAS DIFFERENT.

And you desperately just want to go back to the beginning…

Where you weren’t on edge.

Where you felt good and they were making you feel so special!

And you felt like you had all of their attention.

And no matter what you do…how much you try….

You can’t get rid of the sinking feeling in you that things have changed

And the anxious voice in your head telling you that you’re losing them.

“How could this be?? What happened?? What did you do??”

You’re desperately searching for the answers.

My love…let me tell you what the answer is.

Because I wish someone had told me this and saved me yeeeeeaaarrrsss of heartbreak.

They didn’t change.

You did.

Before you roll your eyes thinking “No Candice, they did!!!”

Stay with me because what I am about to show you… literally stopped me from being the woman that every man pulled away from…

Heartbreak city!!! I know it well…

To now being married to a man that has NEVER pulled away from me…

Not even when I am being my imperfect, messy self and I’m pregnant so sometimes those hormones just take over you know!!

But he is always there for me open hearted, loving me unconditionally and ready to do whatever he needs to to make things better.

But trust me when I say…. he’s not a magical unicorn that suddenly I just found after 36 years of the same pattern…

It’s because I know EXACTLY what I am about to tell you…

And no, this didn’t just work for me before your mind tries to tell you “it won’t work for you” - you’re not special (said with so much love)

It’s literally transformed thousands of my clients relationships too, over and over again.

So buckle in…

For years I thought I was just attracting avoidants.

Honestly, when I first discovered attachment styles, it felt like someone had finally explained my entire dating history.

“They’re avoidant.”

Everything made sense.

The hot and cold.

The mixed signals.

The disappearing acts.

The relationships that felt incredible one minute…

…and heartbreaking the next.

I stayed in one relationship like that for FOUR YEARS.

Four years of someone pulling away every time we got close.

If we argued…

Silence.

DAYS of silence.

And I would completely fall apart.

My whole body would go into panic.

Crying my eyes out with pain.

Staring at my phone.

I would do anything to just make the feeling stop.

I needed reassurance.

I needed them to tell me everything was okay.

I need them to tell they weren’t leaving me.

I needed them to choose me.

Again.

And again.

And again.

It was exhausting.

Then that relationship ended.

They called me crazy when they left… I sure did feel it but I wasn’t and neither are you!

And do you know what happened?

Exactly the same thing.

Different people.

Same story.

I’d meet someone.

We’d have an incredible connection.

They’d tell me they’d never met anyone like me.

We’d text constantly.

I’d think…

“This is different.”

Then, a few weeks later…

I’d get the dreaded text… you know the one…

“I genuinely think you are so incredible & I have never met anyone like you BUT…”

“I’m not ready for a relationship.”

Or…

“I’m scared of how strongly I feel.”

Or they’d simply disappear. Gone!

Again.

And again.

And again.

So naturally…

I blamed avoidants.

Because that’s what everyone else was telling me to do.

But eventually, I had to ask myself…

Why did this keep happening to me?

Different people.

Different circumstances.

Yet somehow…

The same story.

I had friends who got into relationships without living in a constant push-pull cycle.

Commitment was easy for them, they weren’t hearing the same excuses I was.

They weren’t spending every day wondering whether someone still wanted them.

Meanwhile…

I was experiencing the same heartbreak over and over again.

Different faces.

Same feeling.

That’s when I realised…

Maybe this wasn’t about continually meeting avoidants.

That somehow just seemed to be everywhere I was, like they had a tracker on me or something? LOL!

Maybe there was a pattern.

And maybe…

The pattern was ME.

The Law of Assumption completely changed how I saw this.

The Law of Assumption teaches that your assumptions don't simply describe your reality, they create your experience of it.

Even the versions of people that we experience.

Suddenly it all made sense.

I assumed people would pull away from me. I looked for it. It’s all I had known love to be.

Long before I’d even met these people. My childhood attachments were people leaving me or neglecting my needs. I learnt that if I did have needs, or I wasn’t perfect, or didn’t make their happiness my responsability then people would leave me.

So then the narrative became…they’re avoidant. Hell, I probably believed I only attracted avoidants too.

So that’s EXACTLY what I kept creating. More avoidance.

I was selecting more of the version of them I desperately didn’t want.

I know this works because I no longer experience avoidance in my relationships. Neither do the thousands of clients who've been through my programs.

People think calling someone avoidant is harmless.

I don’t.

Every time I called someone avoidant…

I expected more avoidance.

I looked for more avoidance.

And I experienced more avoidance.

I thought I was simply describing what had already happened.

But I was continuing to decide who they were.

“They pull away.”

“They’re inconsistent.”

“They’re scared of commitment.”

“They always disappear when things get serious.”

And once that became the story…

Everything they did was seen through it.

A slower reply meant they were pulling away.

A cancelled plan meant they were losing interest.

A difficult day meant they were becoming distant.

I kept looking at them through the version I had already decided they were…

And kept experiencing more of that version.

But here’s the part I couldn’t see at the time.

While I was so focused on them avoiding me…

I was avoiding myself.

I was abandoning my own needs.

My own peace.

My own life.

My own happiness.

My focus had completely left me…

And landed on them.

Today, I don’t believe those are two separate things.

I believe the avoidance I kept experiencing was mirroring the avoidance I had towards myself.

And it started before they ever appeared to pull away.

It began in a moment so small…

You probably don’t even notice it.

At first you’re relaxed when you first meet them… maybe you’re not even so into them

But things start going well.

You’re enjoying getting to know them.

Then one day…

Something shifts.

Maybe you’re intimate.

Maybe you tell them something deeply personal.

Maybe you realise…

“I actually don’t want to lose this person.”

That’s the moment.

You’ve caught feelings.

You’re attached.

There’s nothing wrong with catching feelings.

It’s what happens next that changes everything.

They leave your house.

Or the date ends.

You get home.

And suddenly…

There’s a feeling in your body.

It’s subtle at first.

But you know it.

That slightly edgy feeling.

That tightness in your chest.

That little voice saying…

“What if they don’t feel the same?”

“Did I do that too soon?”

“Will they still want me tomorrow?”

Nothing has happened.

You haven’t seen any evidence.

But internally…

Everything has already started to change.

“They should be home by now.”

“Maybe they’ll text in a minute.”

“They’re probably just busy.”

Five minutes later…

“They would’ve normally text by now.”

Ten minutes later…

“Maybe I said too much.”

Twenty minutes later…

“I knew this would happen.”

Do you see it?

Nothing has changed…

Except you.

You have gone from…

“This feels fun.”

…to…

“I NEED this to work.”

Your focus has gone from enjoying the relationship…

To trying not to lose it.

Now, FEAR has entered the chat.

You’re no longer seeing them through the lens of the person who couldn’t get enough of you.

You’re now seeing them through the lens of someone that could lose interest, become inconsistent and pull away any minute.

Because that’s what you have experienced before…

But not just as an adult, this all started subsconsciously long before as a child.

And you’re nervous system is preparing you for it.

Trying to protect you from having to feel that familiar pain

Before anything has even happened…

But it’s sabotaging you. Destroying the relationships you want.

Creating more of the painful pattern you are ready to break free from.

I can see it so clearly now.

It wasn’t that they randomly woke up one morning and decided to pull away.

The shift started inside me first.

Every.

Single.

Time.

And once I finally understood that…

Everything changed.

Because if the pattern started with me…

It meant I finally had the power to change it.

And so do you.

So you might be thinking…

So how do you stop abandoning yourself the moment you catch feelings?

How do you stop expecting and selecting the version of them who pulls away?

And how do you become the version of you who naturally experiences secure, consistent love instead of the same anxious push-pull dynamic?

That’s exactly what I’m going to show you next.

🔒 Everything above is what I’d post on social media.

Everything below is the conversation we’d be having if we were sitting opposite each other over an overpriced vanilla iced oat latte with all the trimmings…

The only difference is… this conversation will probably cost you less than the coffee. 😂

Because let’s be honest…

This is usually the point where you’d look at me and ask…

“Okay Candice… but what does this mean?”

“Should I text them?”

“What do I actually do now?”

Instead of spending the next three hours replaying every message, analysing every conversation, and trying to figure it out on your own.

The next part is what I’d tell you.

It’s the exact approach I used to manifest my adoring husband… and the same one that’s helped thousands of my clients stop chasing, stop overthinking, and create secure, healthy relationships.

Please don’t take my word for it…

Inside the rest of this article you’ll get:

✨ The 7 signs you've already abandoned yourself (save this checklist so you can catch the pattern before it spirals and poof… they’re gone!)

✨ The exact 3 questions I ask myself every time I notice I’m spiralling (these completely changed how I respond in relationships... and how people respond to me).

✨ Exactly how secure me responds when someone takes six hours to reply... and when they cancel plans (compared to how anxious me used to react).

✨ A simple 7-day challenge to retrain your brain to stop obsessing over them and start feeling like the priority in your own life again.

Because that's when you become theirs too. 😉

✨ Plus one of my favourite Secure Method EFT tapping sessions to regulate your nervous system when someone pulling away has triggered you.

Okay... pull up a chair.

Because this is the part where everything changes.

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You’re staring at your phone.

Again.

You’ve reread the last message.

You’ve checked whether they’ve viewed your story.

You’ve opened Instagram...

...closed it...

...opened it again.

You’re trying to work out what their silence means.

Babe...

Can we have a chat?

Because I’m about to say the thing you probably don’t want to hear.

What You NEED To Hear..

No contact is not why you don’t have your SP.

The meaning you’re giving to no contact is why you don’t have your SP.

Every time they pull away...

Every time they leave you on read...

Every time there’s silence...

You make it mean something.

You make it mean...

I’m not chosen.

They’ve moved on.

I’ve been abandoned.

Nothing is working.

It’s over.

I was stupid for believing this could happen.

And if you're trying to manifest your SP during no contact...

...but silence is still deciding whether you feel chosen or rejected...

You’re not persisting.

You’re reacting.

You’re letting the 3D tell you who you are.

And we’re not doing that anymore, babe.

Because that’s exactly what’s keeping you stuck.

Because if you have an abandonment wound...

No contact doesn’t feel like silence.

It feels like proof.

Proof they don’t want you.

Proof love leaves.

Proof it’s happening again.

Proof you were right to fear this all along.

Except...

It isn’t proof.

It’s a trigger.

Those are two completely different things.

You’re not reacting to silence.

You’re reacting to what silence means about you.

That’s why no contact hits so hard.

Not because silence is final.

Because silence activates the version of you that already expects rejection.

This Is The Part You Probably Don’t Want To Hear...

I love you...

But I’m going to lovingly call you out for a second.

You’re not persisting.

You’re monitoring.

You affirm for ten minutes...

Then spend the rest of the day checking.

Checking your phone.

Checking Instagram.

Checking if they’ve viewed your story.

Checking for signs.

Checking whether manifestation is finally “working.”

Let me ask you something...

How is your nervous system ever supposed to believe you’re chosen...

...when you’re asking the 3D for permission to feel chosen every five minutes?

What You NEED To Hear..

That isn’t persistence.

That’s letting the 3D tell you who the f*ck you are!

And yes...

I can say that because I used to be exactly that woman.

Severely anxious.

Completely consumed.

I chased.

I begged.

I overanalysed everything.

One unanswered text could completely change how I felt about myself.

One delayed reply could ruin my entire day.

Actually...

Sometimes it ruined my entire week.

I’d convince myself I’d done something wrong.

I’d read into every emoji.

Every full stop.

Every hour that went by without a text.

Been there.

Done that.

Got the t-shirt.

I attracted push-pull.

Avoidance.

Inconsistency.

All the pain that comes with never quite feeling chosen.

My nervous system was constantly waiting for somebody else to decide whether I got to feel safe that day.

So when I tell you I understand what no contact does to an anxious attacher...

I really mean it.

And I also know this.

I’ve manifested people back...

From blocks.

From ghosting.

From silence.

From no contact.

But I wasn’t always the woman who could do that.

For years...

No contact completely broke me.

I’d spiral.

Obsess.

Replay conversations.

Check my phone every few minutes.

Convince myself every day of silence meant I’d lost them.

Sound familiar?

Then something changed.

Not because no contact disappeared.

Not because I suddenly became some enlightened robot who never got triggered again.

I’m human.

Of course I noticed the silence.

The difference was...

I stopped letting the silence decide who I was.

One of the first times I experienced that shift was after a week of complete silence.

Nothing.

No contact.

The old version of me would’ve spiralled.

This version of me didn’t.

Instead...

I regulated my nervous system.

Changed my self-concept.

Changed the story of them.

They came back pursuing me.

Later...

I found out they’d been stalking my socials the whole time...

...and lying in bed thinking about me.

This message landed in my inbox recently from a client...

I’ve watched clients manifest people back after months of ghosting.

Months of silence.

Months of believing it was over.

And I don’t mean some random...

“Hey.”

I mean...

Love songs.

Birthday invitations.

Flights booked.

Holidays together.

Real pursuit.

A completely different version of the same person.

Every.

Single.

Time.

The shift was the same.

They stopped giving the silence authority.

They stopped acting like no contact was some special exception to how manifestation worked.

They stopped letting the 3D tell them who they were...

...and remembered they were the source.

Before we get into what to do instead...

There’s another mistake almost everyone makes.

And honestly...

It’s the reason people finally get movement...

...and then lose it.

I call it worshipping the movement.

We’re going to unpack that in a minute because once you see it, you’ll never look at your SP’s texts the same way again.

What You NEED To Hear..

The second you start worshipping the movement...

You’ve given your power straight back to the 3D... or worse, your SP.

So let me say the thing you need to hear...

Not the thing you want to hear.

The problem isn’t the no contact.

The problem is what you keep making no contact mean.

If that stings...

Don’t run from it.

Get curious about it.

Because that’s usually where everything starts changing.

If you’ve read this far and you’re thinking...

“Okay... but what do I actually do instead?”

That’s exactly what we’re getting into next.

🔒 Everything above is what I’d post on social media.

Everything below is the conversation we’d be having if we were sitting opposite each other over an overpriced vanilla iced oat latte with all the trimmings…

The only difference is… this conversation will probably cost you less than the coffee. 😂

Because let’s be honest…

This is usually the point where you’d look at me and ask…

“Okay… but what does this mean?”

“Should I text them?”

“What do I actually do now?”

Instead of spending the next three hours replaying every message, analysing every conversation, and trying to figure it out on your own.

Here’s what I’d tell you.

It’s the exact approach I used to manifest my husband… and the same one that’s helped thousands of my clients stop chasing, stop overthinking, and create secure, healthy relationships.

Inside the rest of this article you’ll get:

✨ The questions that expose why one unread message still has the power to ruin your whole day.

✨ My step-by-step plan for exactly what to do when no contact is triggering you.

✨ The reason you get movement with your SP but then they pull away or it stops (and how to change that so movement becomes consistent)

✨ The shift that stops you checking your phone every five minutes looking for proof.

✨ The EXACT affirmation I used when no contact used to completely trigger me… and the same one I still give to my clients today. Trust me, this one alone changed my relationships.

Okay... pull up a chair.

Because this is the part that changes everything 🩵

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If you’d told me two years ago I’d be sitting here, happily married, pregnant, writing this article…

I’d have laughed in your face.

Seriously.

Today, I’m married to the man I manifested.

He bought my engagement ring within three months.

Proposed after seven.

We got married on a beach in LA.

We’re expecting our first daughter.

And honestly…

The stats are right there.

But that’s not actually why I’m telling you this.

I’m telling you because a couple of years ago…

My life looked completely different.

Anyone who knew me before Todd would’ve told you my love life was a complete sh*t show

I was the friend who dominated every dinner talking about the latest man who’d hurt me.

I’d put my phone on the table.

Open the messages.

Read them for what felt like the hundredth time.

Then I’d look at my friends and say,

“It just doesn’t make sense.”

“He told me he’d never felt like this before.”

“He told me I was everything he’d ever wanted.”

“I could feel it.”

“So why would he just let me go?”

Then I’d start doing what I always did.

“Maybe he’s just scared.”

“Maybe he really isn’t ready.”

“Maybe work genuinely is too much right now.”

“Maybe he just needs time.”

I’d analyse every word.

Every message.

Every excuse.

Trying to find the one thing that would make it all make sense.

How could somebody love me… but not choose me?

Meanwhile desperately hoping they would just text me and say, I made a mistake… I miss you.

Spoiler alert… it never happened back then.

Looking back now…

I honestly don’t know how I expected anything to change.

Every single day I was focused on the fact we were in no contact.

Every conversation with my friends was about him.

Every thought was about him.

Every time I picked up my phone, it was because of him.

Everything revolved around him choosing me.

I never even questioned that.

I just accepted that my job was somehow to get him to choose me.

And that was the biggest clue.

Then I learnt about the Law of Assumption.

The manifestation principle that changed everything for me.

And honestly…

It was like someone had finally switched the light on.

I realised I’d spent years expecting not to be chosen.

I assumed I wasn’t chosen.

So how could they possibly choose me?

Every relationship I’d ever had flashed before my eyes.

Different man.

Different excuse.

Same ending.

That’s when it finally clicked.

My reality had never been happening to me.

It had always been reflecting me.

Reflecting what I believed about myself.

Reflecting what I assumed to be true.

And if my reality was just a reflection…

Then changing the reflection was never my job.

Changing me was.

And that’s exactly what I did.

That’s why my life looks completely different today.

That’s why my husband chose me so intentionally from day one.

Not because he was different.

Because I was.

Anyway…

If I woke up tomorrow in no contact with my SP, knowing everything I know now…

There’s absolutely no way I’d do what I used to do.

Because now I understand how the Law actually works.

I understand that my reality is always reflecting what I believe to be true.

So if I woke up tomorrow…

I wouldn’t spend another second trying to change them. Begging, pleading, convincing them.

I’d bring it straight back to me.

Here’s exactly what I’d do instead.

1. I’d Know I created this. Which means I can change it.

The first thing I’d do is take full responsibility for creating where I am right now.

Not because I’d sit there blaming myself.

Absolutely not.

Because the second I take responsibility…

I also take my power back.

You can’t believe you have the power to manifest someone back…

…but refuse to take responsibility for what’s already been created.

It doesn’t work like that.

If you believe you have the power to create your future…

You also have to accept you created where you are now.

Otherwise you’re saying,

“I have the power from today onwards…”

”…but somehow I had no power yesterday.”

That doesn’t even make sense.

The old version of me?

Called them avoidant.

Said they were scared of intimacy.

Said work was too stressful.

Said they weren’t ready.

I was completely focused on them.

Completely focused on the no contact.

Completely focused on everything I didn’t want.

So of course…

That’s exactly what I kept experiencing.

Today?

I’d say,

“Okay. This is where I am.

I created it.

Which means I can change it.”

That changes everything.

2. I’d decide I’m done telling the old story.

Then I’d do is decide I’m done telling the old story.

I know.

That probably sounds impossible right now.

Because you’re thinking,

“But Candice… that’s what happened.”

I know it happened.

I’m not asking you to pretend it didn’t.

Cry.

Scream.

Journal.

Talk to your friends.

Be angry.

Do whatever you need to do.

But then make a decision.

I’m done carrying that story into today.

Because every time you replay the breakup…

Every time you reread the messages…

Every time you tell yourself,

“They left me.”

“They don’t want me.”

“I’m in no contact.”

You’re keeping yourself in the exact reality you’re trying to leave.

The past only has power because you keep bringing it into the present.

Knowing what I know now…

I’d decide I’m done telling that story.

Not because it didn’t happen.

Because I don’t want to keep creating more of it.

3. I’d get brutally honest about what story I’ve been believing about me.

I’d take a mirror to myself.

Not to judge myself.

To understand myself.

I’d get really honest.

What have I been believing about me?

Because your reality will always tell you.

Mine did.

I believed I wasn’t chosen.

I believed people left me.

I believed love never stayed.

I believed I had to earn love.

I believed I had to convince someone to choose me.

I didn’t realise those beliefs were writing the script.

I just thought I kept meeting the wrong men.

Looking back now…

Every relationship was showing me the same thing.

Not a different person.

The same belief.

So I’d write down every belief I could find.

Because you can’t change something you’re not even aware you’re believing.

4. I’d change the story I’ve been telling about them.

Then I’d get honest about the story I’d been telling about them.

This was a big one for me.

Because I always had a reason.

One person wasn’t ready.

One person was too busy with work.

One person was scared of his feelings.

One person thought we wanted different things.

Different man.

Different excuse.

Same ending.

I always ended up feeling exactly the same way.

Not chosen.

That’s when I realised…

The circumstances kept changing.

But my story didn’t.

So I’d stop repeating the story I’d been giving them.

And I’d decide the story I actually wanted instead.

Who are they now?

How do they see me now?

How do they feel about me now?

Because YOU are always the one writing the script so I’d make sure I’m giving them the right script.

5. I’d stop reacting like the woman who’s not chosen.

Then I’d go straight to my Secure Method EFT tapping.

Because I already know I’m going to be triggered.

No contact isn’t just a thought.

Your body is reacting too.

Your nervous system is telling you you’re abandoned.

You’re in danger.

You’ve lost the person you love.

And if I stay in that state…

I’m going to keep thinking, feeling and reacting like the woman who’s not chosen.

At the same time I’d be building my self-concept.

Chosen.

Loved.

Prioritised.

Safe.

The woman who expects to be chosen.

Because that’s exactly what my Secure Method EFT is designed to do.

It changes the story in your body and your self-concept together.

That’s why I created it.

Because I wanted the fastest way to become a completely different version of me.

6. I’d decide the ending… then i’d live there.

Then I’d decide the ending.

Not the next text.

Not whether they’d watched my story.

Not whether they’d unblocked me.

The ending.

What do I actually want?

Do I want to be married?

Living together?

Building a family?

Then that’s where I’d live.

Because the old version of me would’ve celebrated a breadcrumb.

A text.

A “Hey.”

Movement.

Today?

I don’t care about any of that.

Because if my end is marriage…

Why would I make a text message my goal?

I’d write the story of me.

I’d write the story of them.

I’d write the story of us.

And I’d keep coming back to that script every single day.

7. I’d persist no matter what I see.

Then I’d persist.

Not because I’m trying to make something happen.

Because I know something now that the old version of me had absolutely no idea about.

You’re never actually in no contact.

Read that again.

You’re never actually in no contact.

They are always getting the script.

Every thought.

Every assumption.

Every belief.

Every story you’re telling.

They’re reflecting it all.

The only question is…

What script are you giving them?

So no matter what my senses were telling me…

No matter what my eyes could see…

No matter what my reality looked like…

I’d keep giving them the script I actually wanted.

Chosen.

Loved.

Prioritised.

Wanted.

Together.

Married.

Because if they’re always getting the script anyway…

Why would I keep giving them the one I don’t want?

“They don’t want me.”

“We’re in no contact.”

“They’re avoidant.”

“They don’t care.”

Don’t you see?

Go right back to the beginning of this article.

That woman sitting with her friends.

Reading the messages.

Analysing every excuse.

Waiting for her phone to light up.

She had absolutely no idea she was giving them that script every single day.

She thought she was just describing reality.

She wasn’t.

She was creating more of it.

That’s why the text never came back then.

Because every single day…

I was focused on the reality I didn’t want.

Today?

I know what I’m seeing today is only reflecting the assumptions I’ve been living from.

So I don’t give all my attention to what’s right in front of me.

I give my attention to what I’ve decided is true.

In my mind…

We’re together.

We’re in contact.

I’m chosen.

I’m loved.

I’m the priority.

That’s the script I keep giving.

Because I know today’s reality reflects yesterday’s assumptions…

And tomorrow’s reality reflects today’s.

So today…

If I was sitting at that same dinner table with my friends…

Phone on the table.

Messages open.

Asking,

“How could somebody love me… but not choose me?”

I’d smile.

Because now I know the answer.

I was never waiting for them to choose me.

I was waiting to become the woman who expected to be chosen.

And the second I became her…

Everything changed.

If this made you think differently about no contact…

Share it with someone who’s still sitting there staring at their phone waiting for a text.

It might be exactly what they need to hear today.

With love,

Candice

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If you keep attracting emotionally unavailable people, avoidants, hot and cold behaviour, rejection, abandonment or relationships where you never fully feel chosen, this episode will help you understand WHY.

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I explain:

• what self-concept really is

• how your beliefs and assumptions create your relationship patterns

• why anxious attachment is an identity/state

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• why you keep repeating the same experiences in love

• how to identify your triggers and core beliefs

• how to start reprogramming your self-concept

• why affirmations alone sometimes don’t work

• how the nervous system impacts manifestation and relationships

• why EFT tapping helps you feel safe being chosen, loved and secure

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I also share my own journey from anxious attachment, chasing emotionally unavailable relationships and feeling unchosen… to becoming secure, loved, engaged and pregnant through changing my self-concept and nervous system.

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This episode will help you start shifting the identity that is creating your current reality so you can stop recreating painful relationship patterns and finally feel secure, chosen and deeply loved.

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My program ⁠⁠Create Your Secure Relationship⁠⁠⁠⁠ shows you exactly how to reprogram your self-concept and nervous system so you naturally attract and sustain the relationship & desires you actually want.

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Because the truth is, it wasn’t about “trying harder” or doing more. It was about what I was still holding onto underneath -fears around responsibility, subconscious beliefs from my childhood, and patterns in my nervous system that didn’t feel safe to hold what I truly desired.

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I talk about:

• The hidden beliefs that were blocking me without me realising

• How anxious attachment and hyper-independence were showing up

• Why your nervous system has to feel safe to receive what you want

• The identity shifts I had to make around responsibility, trust, and motherhood

• How I used my Secure Method EFT tapping to reprogram these patterns

• Letting go of timelines and fully accepting it as done.

Whether you desire a baby, a relationship, or any manifestation - this episode will help you see what might still be sitting underneath the surface.

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Because it’s not always about what you’re doing… it’s about who you’re being and what your body believes is safe to receive.

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In this episode, I break down how to attract a new partner using the law of assumption and why your relationships keep repeating the same patterns (even with different people).

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This isn’t about luck, timing, or “meeting the right person.”

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It’s about your self-concept.

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I share exactly how I intentionally manifested my fiancé, the shifts I made to stop attracting avoidant and inconsistent partners, and how you can do the same to create a secure, committed relationship.

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Inside, we cover:

• Why you keep attracting the same relationship patterns

• How your self-concept shapes who you attract

• What it actually means to “manifest a partner”

• The identity shift that changes everything

• How to stop settling for situationships or inconsistency

• The 3 stages of manifestation (reprogramming, response, reflection)

• How to take aligned action without chasing

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If you’re ready to stop repeating the past and finally experience a secure, consistent, loving relationship - this is for you.

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✨ Ready to change your relationship patterns fast?

My program Create Your Secure Relationship⁠⁠ shows you exactly how to reprogram your self-concept and nervous system so you naturally attract and sustain the relationship you actually want.

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Includes a pathway specifically for:

• Shifting a current relationship

• Reconnecting with someone from the past

• Attracting a completely new partner

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Join here: Create Your Secure Relationship

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In this episode, I’m showing you how to change the way someone treats you in a relationship without chasing, using the law of assumption and self-concept work.

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Because here’s the truth:You don’t need to have the same conversation over and over again.You don’t need to beg or your needs to be met.And you don’t need to wait for someone else to change.

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👉 You change and the dynamic changes.

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Inside this episode, I break down:

• Why your relationships keep repeating the same patterns

• How your self-concept is shaping how people treat you

• The truth about avoidant behaviour (and what it’s really reflecting)

• How to shift inconsistency, lack of effort, and emotional unavailability

• Why you’re not being prioritised (and how to change that)

• How to stop feeling unsupported in relationships

• The real reason you’re chasing commitment — and how to become chosen instead

• How to stabilise your nervous system so you stop reacting and start creating

• Practical steps to shift your relationship without chasing, begging, or over-explaining

This is the work that changes everything.

When you shift your identity, your beliefs, and your nervous system…people naturally show up differently.

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My program Create Your Secure Relationship shows you exactly how to rewire your self-concept, regulate your nervous system, and shift your relationship dynamic in as little as 8 weeks.

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Includes a pathway specifically for:

• Shifting a current relationship

• Reconnecting with someone from the past

• Attracting a completely new partner

Plus if you join now, you'll get a live group call with me to personalise the work to your situation.

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I share the exact shifts I would make if I wanted to reconnect with someone from the past, including how to change the old story, stop focusing on the 3D, regulate an anxious nervous system, and start embodying the version of you who feels chosen, secure, and deeply loved.

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Inside this episode, we cover:

• how anxious attachment patterns recreate abandonment, ghosting, and inconsistency

• why your self-concept affects how people show up for you

• how the Law of Assumption applies to reconnecting with someone from your past

• why no contact, being blocked, or what they said does not have to be the end

• the role of EFT tapping and nervous system rewiring in manifesting love

• why holding on to the old story keeps people from coming back

• what it really means to “live in the end” when manifesting a relationship

• how to stop chasing, checking, and looking for validation outside of yourself

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If you’ve been asking questions like:
Can I manifest someone back?
Can I reconnect with someone from my past?
How do I use the Law of Assumption when I have anxious attachment?
How do I stop abandonment patterns from repeating in love?

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This episode is for you.

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If you want to go deeper, my programme Create Your Secure Relationship is designed to help you rewire anxious survival patterns, shift your self-concept, and apply this work to one of three outcomes: reconnect with someone from your past, attract a new secure relationship, or transform your current relationship.

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Listen now if you’re ready to stop repeating the same painful cycle in love and start becoming secure, chosen, and deeply loved from the inside out.

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You’ve been told to “just assume you have it.”

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To “live in the end.”

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To “stop checking the 3D.”

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But when you’re in no contact… when you’re trying to manifest your SP back… when you’re shifting a current relationship… or when you’ve never experienced healthy love before - it doesn’t feel simple.

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In this episode, I break down:

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• Why anxious attachment makes it harder to stay in the state of the wish fulfilled.

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• How hypervigilance and checking the 3D delays your manifestation.

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• Why your nervous system is wired for loss (and how that affects manifesting an ex back or new love).

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• The real meaning of “feeling is the secret”.

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• How self-concept and safety within yourself changes everything

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I share my own journey from severe anxious attachment to manifesting my fiancé, shifting past relationships, and helping clients reconnect with someone from the past, attract secure love, or transform their current dynamic...

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If you’ve been doing the affirmations, the techniques, the Law of Assumption work - but still feel anxious, triggered, or stuck - this will give you the clarity you’ve been missing.

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You’re not failing at manifestation.You just need it explained in a way that understands your nervous system.

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And if this resonates, join my free 7-day series: Seven Manifestation Mistakes Anxious Attachment Makes When Manifesting Love - where I break down the patterns that could be blocking you without you even realising.

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You might not be double-texting.

You might not be chasing in obvious ways.

You might even look secure on the outside.

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And yet… you’re still not being chosen.

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In this episode, I’m breaking down the subtle, unconscious ways people with anxious attachment are still chasing love without realising it - and why simply “acting secure” doesn’t change your relationship outcomes.

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I share my own personal stories, client patterns, and the six chasing archetypes I see over and over again in people who want love, stability, and commitment - but keep recreating the same painful dynamics.

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We cover:

• The difference between secure behaviour and anxious survival strategies

• How anxious attachment shows up as fixing, proving, pleasing, performing, waiting, or hyper-independence

• Why you can stop chasing on the surface and still sabotage love underneath

• How self-concept and subconscious beliefs determine who chooses you

• Why being “low maintenance”, overly understanding, or hyper-independent is still chasing

• How these patterns keep recreating partners who don’t fully choose you

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If you’ve ever thought: “Why am I still not chosen even though I’m doing everything right?”

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This episode will help you see exactly what’s happening - clearly, honestly, and without blame.

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Find out your dominant chasing archetype

Most people don’t just have one - but there is usually one that runs the show underneath.

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👉 Take the free Chasing to Chosen Quiz here

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When you know how you’re chasing, it becomes much easier to stop sabotaging love without realising it.

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Ready to shift from chasing to being chosen?

If you recognise yourself in this episode, the work to change these patterns is inside my Chasing to Chosen Masterclass.

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👉 Watch the Chasing to Chosen Masterclass here

And if you’re trying to manifest love, shift a current relationship, or attract someone new - make sure you listen to next week’s episode. Hit FOLLOW so you don't miss it!

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If you’re ready to experience this work directly, explore my masterclasses or my signature program ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love ⁠⁠⁠⁠where The Candice Tamara Secure Method™ is taught in full.

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In this episode of the F*CK TRAUMA Podcast, I explain why they’re not choosing you - and why it has far less to do with them than you’ve been led to believe.

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If you keep finding yourself in cycles of anxiety in love, attracting emotionally unavailable partners, or waiting, chasing, and hoping to be chosen, this episode will connect the dots for you.

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SHARE this with your friends also stuck in these cycles

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This is not surface-level dating advice.This is the belief underneath everything.

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I’m breaking down the “not chosen” wound - a subconscious belief formed in childhood that says:

• I’m not a priority• I don’t matter as much as others• Love isn’t safe• I have to earn being chosen

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And how this belief silently shapes your relationships, your attachment patterns, and even who feels “right” to you.

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In this episode, I share:

• Why anxious attachment is rooted in self-concept, not other people

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• How the not chosen belief causes people to pull away, ghost, or say “I’m not ready”

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• Why you end up chasing reassurance, texts, effort, or commitment

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• How “waiting to be chosen” actually creates more rejection

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• Why people who do want to choose you can feel uncomfortable or boring

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• How this wound shows up not just in romantic relationships, but in family, friendships, work, and money

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• The exact shift that changed every relationship in my life - including attracting my fiancé

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I also explain how the Law of Assumption works in relationships, why people are mirrors of your internal beliefs, and why awareness alone is not enough to create lasting change.

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If you’ve ever thought:

“Why does this keep happening to me?”
“Why does it always start well and then fall apart?”
“Why do I feel anxious the moment I care?”

This episode will land deeply.

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And if you’re ready to stop understanding this pattern and actually shift it, I’ve created a new masterclass called From Chasing to Chosen.

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Inside the masterclass, I guide you through reprogramming the not chosen belief at the subconscious and nervous system level, so you’re no longer reacting, spiralling, or self-abandoning in love and instead begin embodying the version of you who expects to be chosen.

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Watch From Chasing to Chosen masterclass

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✨ Next episode: I’ll break down the specific behaviours that show you’re unconsciously waiting to be chosen - even when you think you’re not. Hit FOLLOW so you don't miss it!

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If you’re ready to experience this work directly, explore my masterclasses or my signature program ⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love ⁠⁠⁠where The Candice Tamara Secure Method™ is taught in full.

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But no one really explains what choosing yourself actually means or how to do it in a way that doesn’t leave you burnt out, overwhelmed, or feeling like you’re doing it wrong.

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In this episode of the F*CK Trauma Podcast, I’m breaking down what choosing you really means, why so many people misunderstand it, and how to start choosing yourself in a way your nervous system can actually hold.

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This episode is especially important if you struggle with anxious attachment, self-abandonment, people-pleasing, burnout, or feeling like you’re constantly pushing yourself from survival.

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Because choosing yourself isn’t about cutting people off, acting unbothered, forcing confidence, or playing it cool.

It’s about building self-trust, internal safety, and boundaries with yourself first - so you stop sabotaging, overriding your body, or abandoning yourself for relationships, goals, or outcomes.

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In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What choosing yourself actually looks like in real life (not the Instagram version)

• The most common ways people misunderstand and get choosing themselves wrong

• Why forcing change, discipline, or “motivation” often leads to burnout and self-sabotage

• How anxious attachment and survival patterns show up when you don’t feel safe with yourself

• Three simple ways to start choosing yourself today by building trust with your body and nervous system

• Why small, consistent actions matter more than intensity, overhauls, or willpower

• How choosing yourself internally changes your relationships externally - without trying to control or chase the outcome

This episode is the foundation.

Before we talk about the chosen wound, anxious attachment patterns in relationships, or why you keep chasing to be chosen, we have to start here - with safety, self-trust, and learning how to stay in relationship with yourself.

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If you’ve ever wondered:

• Why does choosing myself feel so hard?

• Why do I keep abandoning myself for people, goals, or validation?

• Why do I burn out every time I try to change or improve my life?

This episode is for you.

Take the pressure off.
Start where you are.

And learn how choosing yourself actually begins - quietly, gently, and powerfully.

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If you’re ready to experience this work directly, explore my masterclasses or my signature program ⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love ⁠⁠where The Candice Tamara Secure Method™ is taught in full.

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Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠Stop Attracting Avoidants⁠⁠⁠

Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠Stop Them Pulling Away⁠⁠⁠

Signature Program: ⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠⁠⁠

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It isn’t.

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In this episode, I reveal the truth almost no one is teaching:.Your anxious attachment style is not who you are - it’s a state created by the assumptions you hold about yourself, love, and your worth..And when you understand that, everything changes.

This is the foundation of The Candice Tamara Secure Method™ - my signature state-based approach that combines subconscious reprogramming, nervous system regulation, identity work, and the Law of Assumption into one cohesive, transformational framework.

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Inside this episode, I take you deep into:

✨ Why anxious attachment isn’t an identity - it’s a conditioned state.✨ How subconscious assumptions become your lived experience.✨ How your nervous system stores old emotional imprints.✨ Why awareness alone isn’t enough to create change.✨ The mechanics of shifting into a secure state.✨ The three pillars of The Candice Tamara Secure Method™: • Belief Reprogramming • Nervous System Regulation • Secure Identity Embodiment.✨ How state-shifts transform your relationships and your life

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This is where psychology meets consciousness.Where the nervous system meets the Law of Assumption.Where you stop trying to “fix” yourself and step into a new state of being.

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Your attachment style was learned.It can be unlearned..And the path back to security is far more powerful and far more possible than you’ve been told.

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If you’re ready to experience this work directly, explore my masterclasses or my signature program ⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love ⁠where The Candice Tamara Secure Method™ is taught in full.

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Free Masterclass: ⁠⁠Becoming Secure You⁠⁠

Masterclass: ⁠⁠Stop Attracting Avoidants⁠⁠

Masterclass: ⁠⁠Stop Them Pulling Away⁠⁠

Signature Program: ⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠⁠

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In today's episode of the F*CK TRAUMA Podcast, I’m breaking down one of the most perspective-shifting teachings you will ever learn about relationships:

Why avoidants show up the way they do, and how the Law of Assumption can transform the dynamic completely.

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Not by chasing.Not by fixing.Not by abandoning yourself.
.But by understanding self-concept, your nervous system, and the inner story that avoidants mirror back to you.

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Inside this episode, you’ll learn:

✨ Why anxious attachers are drawn to avoidants
✨ What the “abandonment mirror” actually is
✨ How your inner assumptions create avoidant patterns
✨ Why avoidant behaviour feels so familiar to your body
✨ How changing your identity changes how THEY show up
✨ How to shift the story of them and the story of you
✨ Embodiment practices to step into secure, chosen energy

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This is the deeper layer behind everything I teach:
You are not powerless in your relationships, and avoidants are not “fixed this way.”

They reflect your inner world and when you shift, they do too.

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If you haven’t listened to these episodes yet, start here:

They’ll give you the perfect foundation for today’s teaching:

🔹 You Can't Change Them Until You Change You (Self-concept & Law of Assumption)

🔹 Transform Your Relationships with the Law of Assumption

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Free Masterclass: ⁠Becoming Secure You⁠

Masterclass: ⁠Stop Attracting Avoidants⁠

Masterclass: ⁠Stop Them Pulling Away⁠

Signature Program: ⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠

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In today’s episode, I’m diving deep into self-concept, the Law of Assumption, and how your inner state quietly creates the relationship patterns you keep experiencing - especially if you struggle with anxious attachment, relationship anxiety, or attracting emotionally unavailable partners.

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You’ll learn:

✨ Why you can’t change someone’s behaviour without first changing your own self-concept
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✨ How the Law of Assumption shapes your relationships (even when you don’t realise it)
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✨ Why inconsistency, mixed signals and emotional unavailability keep showing up
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✨ How your nervous system and inner child influence your relationship patterns
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✨ The deeper reason you attract avoidants or hot-and-cold partners
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✨ How to shift into the identity of being chosen, prioritised and emotionally safe
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✨ What happens when you change the story you’re telling about love
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✨ How to use your triggers as data in relationships instead of spiralling into anxiety

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This is the episode that finally helps you understand why the same patterns repeat, why people don’t change when you try to fix them… and how to transform your relationships from the inside out.

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If you’re ready to stop chasing love, stop attracting avoidants, and become the securely-attached version of you who naturally attracts emotional safety and consistent love — this will be life-changing.

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Want to go deeper?

Free Masterclass: Becoming Secure You

Masterclass: Stop Attracting Avoidants

Masterclass: Stop Them Pulling Away

Signature Program: Anxious to Secure in Love

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