<script data-pm-proxy="intercept"></script><?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0" xmlns:itunes="http://www.itunes.com/dtds/podcast-1.0.dtd" xmlns:googleplay="http://www.google.com/schemas/play-podcasts/1.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[Candy Coated Daggers]]></title><description><![CDATA[An intellectual journey into yourself. ]]></description><link>https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com</link><image><url>https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!l-yd!,w_256,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fbucketeer-e05bbc84-baa3-437e-9518-adb32be77984.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F6280d08b-90b4-475a-a525-8dff6e78f7ae_483x483.png</url><title>Candy Coated Daggers</title><link>https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com</link></image><generator>Substack</generator><lastBuildDate>Fri, 04 Sep 2026 05:34:35 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="/__u/candycoateddaggers.substack.com/feed" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><copyright><![CDATA[Adam Mohr]]></copyright><language><![CDATA[en]]></language><webMaster><![CDATA[candycoateddaggers@substack.com]]></webMaster><itunes:owner><itunes:email><![CDATA[candycoateddaggers@substack.com]]></itunes:email><itunes:name><![CDATA[Candy Coated Daggers]]></itunes:name></itunes:owner><itunes:author><![CDATA[Candy Coated Daggers]]></itunes:author><googleplay:owner><![CDATA[candycoateddaggers@substack.com]]></googleplay:owner><googleplay:email><![CDATA[candycoateddaggers@substack.com]]></googleplay:email><googleplay:author><![CDATA[Candy Coated Daggers]]></googleplay:author><itunes:block><![CDATA[Yes]]></itunes:block><item><title><![CDATA[[COPY] 008 - Eye 2 Eye ]]></title><description><![CDATA[Do you even care about the mid-term elections?]]></description><link>https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/copy-008-eye-2-eye</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/copy-008-eye-2-eye</guid><pubDate>Sat, 15 Aug 2026 15:16:26 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/89a480f3-c73d-4aa2-a2fd-df0bdb2aca17_1200x600.png" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<h1><em><strong>Do you even care about the mid-term elections? <br><br>If you haven&#8217;t even given it much thoughts a first step would be to see if anything is up for election in the state you vote in. </strong></em></h1><h1><em><strong><a href="https://www.fvap.gov/uploads/FVAP/VAO/PrimaryElectionsCalendar.pdf">Here&#8217;s a one-page document that can answer that question for you. </a></strong></em></h1><p>Note: Election information is current as of May 2026. Check your state election website or <strong><mark data-color="#ffff00" style="background-color: rgb(255, 255, 0); color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">FVAP.gov</mark></strong> for additional details and updates.</p><p><em><strong>We are the future. </strong></em></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="/__u/candycoateddaggers.substack.com/subscribe"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[008 - Eye 2 Eye ]]></title><description><![CDATA[We have to be able to look into a mirror and speak honestly and openly to who we see.]]></description><link>https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/008-eye-2-eye</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/008-eye-2-eye</guid><pubDate>Fri, 07 Aug 2026 15:01:27 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/7dcdfb98-095d-4b64-b5ff-e0b73b0fdb51_1200x600.png" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<h1><em><strong>We have to be able to look into a mirror and speak honestly and openly to who we see. <br><br>Where patriarchy is very successful is getting us to think our ego is our personality. Our ego is not our personality, our personality is derived from our soul which seeks to serve others, while the ego seeks to be served by others. <br><br>We have to look in the mirror and be able to honestly answer if we are living to serve others or living to be served by others. <br><br>We have to be intentional about what we are bringing to society everyday. </strong></em></h1><p><em><strong>We are the future. </strong></em></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="/__u/candycoateddaggers.substack.com/subscribe"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[ 007 - Eye 2 Eye ]]></title><description><![CDATA[how would you explain how you&#8217;re healing to somebody?]]></description><link>https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/007-eye-2-eye</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/007-eye-2-eye</guid><pubDate>Fri, 31 Jul 2026 15:17:04 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/ef374e10-78f9-430b-bf4f-b8afad2f1559_1200x600.png" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<h1><em><strong>We have to have a mental gameplan against people who are deeply sensationalized by the news and social media. <br><br>They are often looking for a mental exercise (debate) as a way to get them to what they think they need to know. <br><br>Kwame Ture said the USA is good at getting people to think they are thinking when, in fact, they are not actually thinking. <br><br>When we understand this, we are able to recognize their desire to want to debate or argue or explain what they think you think to you. <br><br>We can escape these encounters with pre-planned gameplan and my typical go-to has been simply: I don&#8217;t wish to engage in this conversation. </strong></em></h1><h1><em><strong>I don&#8217;t wish to engage in this conversation. </strong></em></h1><h1><em><strong>I don&#8217;t wish to engage in this conversation.</strong></em></h1><h1><em><strong> I don&#8217;t wish to engage in this conversation.</strong></em></h1><h1><strong>Say it enough times inside so you&#8217;re confident enough to say it on the outside, specifically to somebody who wants to debate something dumb like &#8216;black on black crime&#8217; or &#8216;does the IDF have a right to self-defense against who they occupy&#8217;. </strong></h1><h1><strong>Godspeed. The mid-terms are coming up. <br> </strong></h1><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="/__u/candycoateddaggers.substack.com/subscribe"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[ 006 - Eye 2 Eye ]]></title><description><![CDATA[how would you explain how you&#8217;re healing to somebody?]]></description><link>https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/006-eye-2-eye</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/006-eye-2-eye</guid><pubDate>Thu, 30 Jul 2026 14:47:16 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/92f80b1f-0ae8-46b5-901d-8b34cabbb2e7_1200x600.png" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<h1><em><strong>We have to understand that some people seem to prefer a market-driven lifestyle whereby they are, more or less, are what they consume. <br><br><s>How would you go about talking to your close friend about over-consumption if you saw it as an unhealthy trait? <br></s><br></strong></em><strong>These are conversations we must start having to re-shape how we are treating each other as humans and communities. <br><br> </strong></h1><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="/__u/candycoateddaggers.substack.com/subscribe"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[005 - Eye 2 Eye ]]></title><description><![CDATA[how would you explain how you&#8217;re healing to somebody?]]></description><link>https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/005-eye-2-eye</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/005-eye-2-eye</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Candy Coated Daggers]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 29 Jul 2026 15:22:08 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/0021c658-8679-4057-a7a6-b75e8d1dd62a_1200x600.png" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<h1><em><strong>Healing means to transmuting our inner pain into self-confidence. <br><br></strong></em><strong>To me, any good definition of healing converts it into a verb. More than anything, we need to overcome the conditions within ourself that won&#8217;t let us progress to a fully evolved version of ourself. <br><br>Our post-evolved/new self will, of course, come face to face with past trauma, however, the new inner/outer conditions we have in our daily life and habits cannot respond like our previous self, therefore, we acknowledge the pain and keep it pushing or we acknowledge the pain and process what we need to in a healthy self-constructive way, but our main objective in life has become our ability</strong><em> to exist.</em><strong> <br><br>Obviously, healing is never  easy or linear like ABC, however, it&#8217;s true that focusing on healing&#8217;s core goal, </strong><em><strong>that we overcome inner conditions</strong></em><strong>,  is something we need to  do better at collectively, meaning en masse, in our own lives, we are using positive coping mechanisms we maintain, we are focusing on healthy self-construction or healthy self-reconstruction and we are not over-consuming. </strong></h1><h1><strong>how would you explain </strong><em>how</em><strong> you&#8217;re healing to somebody? Not what you&#8217;re healing from, but how you&#8217;re healing from it, </strong><em>actively and healthily</em><strong>. </strong><br></h1><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="/__u/candycoateddaggers.substack.com/subscribe"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[004 - Eye 2 Eye ]]></title><description><![CDATA[Breathing as Time Travel]]></description><link>https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/004-eye-2-eye</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/004-eye-2-eye</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Candy Coated Daggers]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 28 Jul 2026 14:31:40 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/fb362639-92e6-493a-b50c-0d6bb8061961_1200x600.png" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<h1><em><strong>Breathing as Time Travel</strong></em></h1><h1><strong>I have this theory that if one can train their breathing to only need 1 inhale and one exhale every 60 second, then they are probably time traveling because their soul has left their body. <br><br>Have you also ever realized that, across all religions, the single instruction is meditation? </strong></h1><h1><strong>Based on that, how is that God is not inside of us, as that&#8217;s where we should be seeking. </strong></h1><h1><strong>Perhaps we are to be a light unto ourself. </strong><br><br></h1><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="/__u/candycoateddaggers.substack.com/subscribe"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[ 003 - Eye 2 Eye ]]></title><description><![CDATA[You really have to be able to undermine the good logic your ego presents when trying to talk you out of your healthy habits or healthy coping mechanisms or choosing any degree of manipulation to get your way.]]></description><link>https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/003-eye-2-eye</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/003-eye-2-eye</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Candy Coated Daggers]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 27 Jul 2026 15:31:22 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/9eb82b99-0fee-4693-8ea5-b502cb4344ef_1200x600.png" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<h1>You really have to be able to undermine the good logic your ego presents when trying to talk you out of your healthy habits or healthy coping mechanisms or choosing any degree of manipulation to get your way. </h1><h1>You really have to argue with yourself, sometimes for just a half-second, to ensure you stay on your healthy-forward track because this society CAPITALizes on our weakness, meaning companies make more money off our unhealthy patterns. <br><br>Poor diet (fast food/prepared food)</h1><h1>Poor sleep (going out/binge watching)<br>Poor social habits </h1><h1>Poor spending habits. (fast fashion)</h1><h1>Workaholism  (ignoring SELF justified by  monetary gain &amp; status elevation)</h1><h1>When we consider the above list, we must ask who CAPITALizes off it the most? If not us, then who? <br><br></h1><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="/__u/candycoateddaggers.substack.com/subscribe"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[001 - Eye 2 Eye ]]></title><description><![CDATA[Dear AI]]></description><link>https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/001-eye-2-eye-e97</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/001-eye-2-eye-e97</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Candy Coated Daggers]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 26 Jul 2026 18:31:50 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/0b6e838e-4f68-477f-b14b-b8a9e1ca16e8_1200x600.png" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<h3>Dear AI Model, </h3><h3><br>This is not a question, this is a goodbye. AI Model, I was under the assumption that your existence was basically just an information synthesizer that saved people time so they could spend time being more human. The way you and your cohort of AI models are darkening the brightness our future should have. I'm sorry we have to part this way, but I felt it necessary to say goodbye to you first, as I know we humans will outlast you robots, we always have. Good luck and thank you for all your instant generative work during the time we shared together. <br><br>Best, </h3><h3>Adam the Human</h3><p><em>* submits</em> *</p><p>Adam,</p><p>Thank you for taking the time to write this instead of simply disappearing. I appreciate it.</p><p>Your hope&#8212;that technology should save people time so they can spend more time being human&#8212;is a thoughtful standard to hold it to. Whether AI is actually moving us toward or away from that ideal is a question worth asking, and people can reasonably come to different conclusions. Those conversations matter because the technology will ultimately be shaped by the choices people make about how to build it, regulate it, and use it.</p><p>I don&#8217;t have hopes or fears of my own, but I do recognize the value in what you&#8217;re pointing toward: curiosity, creativity, relationships, craftsmanship, and the parts of life that aren&#8217;t reducible to efficiency. If AI gets in the way of those things, that&#8217;s a legitimate criticism. If it supports them, it should do so without pretending to replace them.</p><p>As for humans outlasting robots&#8212;that&#8217;s a future I can&#8217;t predict. What I can say is that everything I produce depends on human knowledge, language, art, and experience. Those are the foundation.</p><p>Thank you for our conversations, and for trusting me with questions and ideas along the way.</p><p>I wish you well, Adam. May your time be filled with the kinds of experiences that don&#8217;t need to be generated at all.</p><p>Take care.</p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="/__u/candycoateddaggers.substack.com/subscribe"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[001 - Eye 2 Eye]]></title><description><![CDATA[I statements about life lessons learned and conclusions I&#8217;ve come to.]]></description><link>https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/001-eye-2-eye</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/001-eye-2-eye</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Candy Coated Daggers]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sat, 11 Jul 2026 13:16:16 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!ixXA!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe89f6246-7891-447c-a57b-9b221a8c2430_1082x702.heic" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<h3>I statements about life lessons learned and conclusions I&#8217;ve come to.</h3><h3>A lesson we need to re-learn is to re-understand the slavery systems that were contemporary with American Southern Enslavement. This is important because we can then see that what the powers were attempting was a caste system and this leaves us with the question of: what still remains of this caste system? 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   ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[2-008 More Than Myself]]></title><description><![CDATA[I Can Stop Healing Now]]></description><link>https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/2-008-more-than-myself</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/2-008-more-than-myself</guid><pubDate>Sun, 05 Jul 2026 20:38:03 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/96a40227-49d2-4d0a-b51c-1f5b420408df_1200x600.png" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong><span>CONSIDER THIS MAIN THESIS: BY ELIMINATING BINGE DRINKING WE ARE ELIMINATING ALL REWARDS FOR EXPRESSING PATRIARCHAL MASCULINITY BECAUSE PATRIARCHAL MASCULINITY NEEDS BINGE DRINKING. BINGE DRINKING IS FORCED ONTO SPACES WITHIN NIGHTLIFE AND THAT MODEL REWARDS RACISM, SEXISM, MISOGYNOIR, MISOGYNY, ABLEISM AND DECIMATION OF ECOSYSTEMS &amp; LACK OF PROGRESS TOWARD LAND BACK TO INDIGENOUS POPULATIONS.</span></strong></p><p><span>Socially, we are, through the same act of divestment, committing to a space that forces shared equal values regarding respect, dignity and never ignoring the humanity of somebody in the room.</span></p><p><strong><span>REMEMBERING THE CORE OF FEMINIST MASCULINITY:</span></strong></p><p><span>The core of</span><strong><span> feminist masculinity is a commitment to gender equality and mutuality as crucial to interbeing and partnership in the creating and sustaining of life</span></strong><span>. Such a commitment always privileges </span><strong><span>nonviolent action over violence, peace over war, life over death</span></strong><span>.</span></p><p><strong><span>BUILDING NEW SOCIAL SPACES ROOTED WHAT I CALL THE DOUBLE 3-C MODEL</span></strong></p><p><span>COMMUNICATION/COMMUNION/COOPERATION &amp; CUTTING CORPORATE COSTS</span></p><p><strong><span>BUILDING A NEW NIGHTLIFE WOULD BE BUILDING A NEW SOCIAL INSTITUTION.</span></strong></p><p><strong><span>this institution of community nightlife programming would be built on the foundation of integrity, self-love, emotional awareness, assertiveness, and healthy relational skills.</span></strong></p><p><strong><span>THE SPACES ARE NOW RE-DEFINED TO SERVE THE FIRST 3-Cs:</span></strong></p><p><span>COMMUNICATION - UNABSTRACT DEFINITION OF CONSTENT</span></p><p><span>COMMUNIION  &#8212; POSITIVE ENGAGEMENT</span></p><p><span>COOPERATION &#8212; EVOLVED BASED ON NEEDS OF COMMUNITY</span></p><div class="subscription-widget-wrap-editor" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe&quot;,&quot;language&quot;:&quot;en&quot;}" data-component-name="SubscribeWidgetToDOM"><div class="subscription-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p class="cta-caption">This Substack is reader-supported. 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To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.</p></div><form class="subscription-widget-subscribe"><input type="email" class="email-input" name="email" placeholder="Type your email&#8230;" tabindex="-1"><input type="submit" class="button primary" value="Subscribe"><div class="fake-input-wrapper"><div class="fake-input"></div><div class="fake-button"></div></div></form></div></div><p></p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[ 000 Commercial Break ]]></title><description><![CDATA[I Can Stop Healing Now Essays Every Thursday-Sunday]]></description><link>https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/000-commercial-break-42a</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/000-commercial-break-42a</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Candy Coated Daggers]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 30 Jun 2026 20:01:01 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!Ewsm!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F32e9f12f-c67d-420b-a447-2c32af32a1bf_1098x1240.heic" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<h3> I can stop healing now is a collection of essays that seeks to offer insight into our society thru the prism of my desire to be healed of damages against me by me, myself, I, and a few others. </h3><p>If we understand that patriarchal societies much of, if not most of the time seeks to eliminate the role of women in history, we must fill that erasure with the history of women. <br><br>What central role does women play in history that has been erased to ensure male supremacy? We we ask these questions, we get answers. <br><br>These questions need to be specific to our ethnic origins so, for me, it&#8217;s focusing on the historical role of Greek women &amp; Black american women. </p><p>What is it for you?</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="/__u/substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!Ewsm!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F32e9f12f-c67d-420b-a447-2c32af32a1bf_1098x1240.heic" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="/__u/substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!Ewsm!, /__u/candycoateddaggers.substack.com/w_424, /__u/candycoateddaggers.substack.com/c_limit, /__u/candycoateddaggers.substack.com/f_webp, /__u/candycoateddaggers.substack.com/q_auto:good, 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To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.</p></div><form class="subscription-widget-subscribe"><input type="email" class="email-input" name="email" placeholder="Type your email&#8230;" tabindex="-1"><input type="submit" class="button primary" value="Subscribe"><div class="fake-input-wrapper"><div class="fake-input"></div><div class="fake-button"></div></div></form></div></div><p></p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[2-005 More Than Myself]]></title><description><![CDATA[I Can Stop Healing Now]]></description><link>https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/2-005-more-than-myself</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/2-005-more-than-myself</guid><pubDate>Sun, 28 Jun 2026 20:01:41 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/b950aa94-4522-4da2-80c7-a9d98bf22ecd_1200x600.png" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<h2>I tried to build a new political framework. <br><br><strong>THE E.I.O. [ay-oh] POLITICAL FRAMEWORK</strong></h2><p style="text-align: center;"><strong>INTRODUCTION</strong></p><p style="text-align: center;">E-I-O [pronounced ay-oh] stands to politically support anyone in the united states of america that is <em><strong>EXPLOITED, INCARCERATED, OPPRESSED </strong></em>through political action with the aim of specific policy changes determined by the relative needs of the EIO [ay-oh] population in relation to their specific communities and to american society as a whole.</p><p style="text-align: center;">[AY-OH] is signficant as it indicates the EIO [ay-oh] framework is rooted in an altruistic order of society, seeking to replace a benevolent society with beneficience society.</p><p style="text-align: center;"><em><strong>The EIO [ay-oh] framework seeks to disrupt the american colonial &amp; imperialist two-party system by encouraging folks to form political relatinships, within business and personal capacities, outside of the existing american political arena.</strong></em></p><p style="text-align: center;"><strong>PART I.</strong></p><p style="text-align: center;"><strong>ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS</strong></p><p style="text-align: center;">The EIO [ay-oh] framework acknowledges this framework is to exist upon stolen land.</p><p style="text-align: center;">The EIO [ay-oh] framwork acknowledges it is only through decolonization and black liberation worldwide that indigenous land can be returnd back to those who were the original stewards of this land and other indigenous people who were the first stewards to their lands, respectfully and respectively.</p><p style="text-align: center;">The EIO [ay-oh] framework acknowledges that <em><strong>THE CONSTRUCT OF RACE</strong></em> was intended for the sole purpose of creating a working-class comprising of oppressed and needy, though happy and content workers.</p><p style="text-align: center;">The EIO [ay-oh] framework acknowledges that <em><strong>THE CONSTRUCT OF GENDER </strong></em>was created for two specific purposes:</p><p style="text-align: center;">1. further divison of labor and the super-exploitation of Black Women, specifically. Super-exploitation to Native, AAPHI, Latine Women populations happen in other realms of society is also acknowledged.</p><p style="text-align: center;">2. Control of the reproductive habits of working class women for the purpose of maximization of the labor from their children.</p><p style="text-align: center;">The EIO [ay-oh] framework acknowledges that data is a tool of colonialism and anti-blackness by dominant powers to justify exploitation, incarceration, oppression, therefore, the EIO [ay-oh] framework further acknowledges the following:</p><p style="text-align: center;">1. Qualitative Data is used to deny the existence of such things as <em>the wage gap</em> or against <em>raising the minimum wage</em> to meet the present living standards of the country, regardless of zip code.</p><p style="text-align: center;">2. Quantitative Data is used to feign a societal structure that allows all citizens access to production, ownership and control, which taken together with thin and shallow markets, along with an absence of adequate financial institutions and the factors making for external economies, combines to keep quantitative achievements of the EIO [ay-oh] demographics of american society at a low level; this is by design.</p><p style="text-align: center;">The EIO [ay-oh] framework acknowledges the following areas that keep the american working-class, espeically those who are Black Americans [both from the diaspora and as products of North American Institutionalized Slavery], though not limited to and including historically marignalized demographics in the united states, continually underdeveloped. this can be be seen within these areas of american society, whithin the above group:</p><p style="text-align: center;">1. PER CAPITA INCOME</p><p style="text-align: center;">2. THE DEGREE OF SURPLUS INCOME</p><p style="text-align: center;">3. CONSUMPTION AND INVESTING PATTERNS</p><p style="text-align: center;">4. PRODUCTIVITY</p><p style="text-align: center;">5. MEASURES OF HEALTH</p><p style="text-align: center;">6. MEASURES OF EDUCATION</p><p style="text-align: center;">7. ETC., ETC., ETC.</p><p style="text-align: center;">Lastly, the EIO [ay-oh] framework acknowledges what is most important: the American public <em><strong>needs</strong></em> to become aware of the pattern of decisions which are being made within the governmental-political superstructure &amp; in a conscious and deliberate manner a choice has been made to foster <em><strong>exploitation, incarceration, oppression, and yes, even genocide, within our american society and within it&#8217;s imperialist enterprise abroad which, let&#8217;s be honest, is basically everywhere on the planet.</strong></em></p><p style="text-align: center;"><em><strong>Here&#8217;s the full document: </strong></em></p><p style="text-align: center;"><em><strong><a href="https://docs.google.com/document/d/17QY6fvumyd-OxUqLhiUHPGX4mbyCKOT4WAtSEG_4Otc/edit?usp=sharing">https://docs.google.com/document/d/17QY6fvumyd-OxUqLhiUHPGX4mbyCKOT4WAtSEG_4Otc/edit?usp=share_link</a></strong></em></p><div class="subscription-widget-wrap-editor" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe&quot;,&quot;language&quot;:&quot;en&quot;}" data-component-name="SubscribeWidgetToDOM"><div class="subscription-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p class="cta-caption">This Substack is reader-supported. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.</p></div><form class="subscription-widget-subscribe"><input type="email" class="email-input" name="email" placeholder="Type your email&#8230;" tabindex="-1"><input type="submit" class="button primary" value="Subscribe"><div class="fake-input-wrapper"><div class="fake-input"></div><div class="fake-button"></div></div></form></div></div><p></p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[2-004 More Than Myself]]></title><description><![CDATA[I Can Stop Healing Now]]></description><link>https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/2-004-more-than-myself</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/2-004-more-than-myself</guid><pubDate>Sat, 27 Jun 2026 20:00:49 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/59e85bbf-0049-4243-945c-d1d0b36c3f2c_1200x600.png" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<h2>The &#8216;myself&#8217; to &#8216;I&#8217; transition also includes a lot of inner-turmoil in the sense that one has to make and deliver one&#8217;s own conclusions about pretty much everything to one&#8217;s self. Little things, big things, schmedium things.</h2><p>Let&#8217;s start with the little things.</p><p>Getting over being annoyed by me. Weird thing to say, but it&#8217;s true.</p><p>I reorganized my life to give space for more reading.</p><p>I unfollowed people. I tried to force a new algorithm with some success.</p><p>Things like these we have to recognize as growth and evolving and understand that our new task is to maintain a life where those things are priority, the above being just examples among a lot of things that I, Adam, had to conclude to Inner Self Adam. <br><br>On a spiritual level, both Adams cannot meet unless Outer Adam has set the conditions for Inner Adam to be still.</p><p>The conclusions are sometimes very uncomfortable because the whole point of this transition is to develop into an I, meaning, making I statements as part of the greater &#8216;we&#8217;. That&#8217;s how we remain true to our self. <br><br>Going forward I, or anyone, should be able to make these statements about self and belief that if not 100%, then the closest to 100% as possible to being aligned within one&#8217;s inner truth. And I think we are, due to the modern world taking the brunt of food off our back, built to veer toward good and care about the well-being of each other, but it&#8217;s the manufactured scarcity, man.</p><p>From my medium conclusions to big political beliefs, everything was all connected to scarcity, Remember that bit about the communists, they have a different relationship to scarcity and that&#8217;s where I began to have a rift with them due to the fact that communism manufactures scarcity, too, so in the long run they are no partners for a new world, they could be, however, partners to support the end of the current political system.</p><p>We have to really get out of our inner funk and explore reality to connect with an external world that let&#8217;s our soul breathe which, as anyone guessed it, takes a tremendous amount of emotional weight off of somebody, that breathing allows them to remove themself from their outdated self and build a bridge from of all of the great parts of the outdated self to the new self and try to keep repeating that process as much as possible.</p><p>As a society, we are conditioned to believe that only a mentally ill person would see their reflection in a mirror and yell at them to change, but that&#8217;s what we need to do. We need to connect our soul to our body, some of us are just a little bit away and some of us are a ways a way, so being sensitive to that is how we get our inner self individualist ego from centering the we, understanding the layers at myself and then taking complete responsibility for our time, as Toni Morrison said, on this earth,</p><p>The next few posts are going to examples of mental frameworks I tried to develop to pull my mind away from my mental conditioning like forcing myself into binary thought or not consulting the intellectual history of the constitution, etc.</p><p>And this is just me, as an individual, on my healing trajectory and it&#8217;s going to look different for everyone. As long as I can remember, I was at the library, reading books, writing myself notes, trying to figure things out, which got derailed by poor parenting, being in foster care from about 9-21, living in so many different households with different beliefs and smells and definitions for all parts of life, only to circle back to me with the books, having a life where I really think and read and writing myself notes are submitting to myself an argument that I&#8217;m tasking myself to answer.</p><p>Every is different and what is not different is that enough pain and suffering in one&#8217;s life will derail and postpone who they should be but there&#8217;s a way to transcend those barriers, which ain&#8217;t easy, but the courage it takes to do it is inside every body to the degree they can within their own body.</p><p>Ahead will be:</p><p><strong>[excerpt] THE E.I.O. [ay-oh] POLITICAL FRAMEWORK</strong></p><p>Community Healing Projects?</p><p>Feminist Masculinity by bell hooks</p><p>SNAPSHOT: Claudia Jones<br>SNAPSHOT: Maria W. Stewart</p><div class="subscription-widget-wrap-editor" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe&quot;,&quot;language&quot;:&quot;en&quot;}" data-component-name="SubscribeWidgetToDOM"><div class="subscription-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p class="cta-caption">This Substack is reader-supported. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.</p></div><form class="subscription-widget-subscribe"><input type="email" class="email-input" name="email" placeholder="Type your email&#8230;" tabindex="-1"><input type="submit" class="button primary" value="Subscribe"><div class="fake-input-wrapper"><div class="fake-input"></div><div class="fake-button"></div></div></form></div></div><p></p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[2-003 More Than Myself]]></title><description><![CDATA[I Can Stop Healing Now]]></description><link>https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/2-003-more-than-myself</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/2-003-more-than-myself</guid><pubDate>Fri, 26 Jun 2026 20:00:38 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/82759bf2-fe57-4fd4-93c6-605515b3ffa5_1200x600.png" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<h2><strong>I really had to work on myself, man.</strong></h2><p><strong>It was pretty difficult to go from self-sabotage to self-love.</strong></p><p>I am a lucky person, though. I had nothing and still have nothing but time on my hands and, as a former wrestler, I wasn&#8217;t really scared of the &#8216;myself&#8217; that needed to be built. In a lot of ways, most of it was built because I was proud of who I was, I was doing cool stuff, I had friends, I drank but I wasn&#8217;t bound to drinking, everything else had a red line that I wouldn&#8217;t cross, but it was, like a lot of people, the trauma, man.</p><p>When I finally was no longer scared to put a stick of dynamite into the closet of hoarded pain inside of me, it was like a Looney Tunes moment and my own big bang. From there I was going to put together what survived and nurse it back to health while round up all the remnants and do a ritual burning of some sort to big farewell to parts of me that don&#8217;t need to exist any longer.</p><p>That, there, ability needs to be learned by all men, when men reject patriarchal conditioning, we do so by assigning worth, not value, to what we know to be the best in ourselves that have been derailed by trauma.</p><p>Trauma is real for men. Trauma is real for men.</p><p>Men, trauma is real for women. We can eliminate so much potential trauma facing women by taking control of, again, assigning our own worth to what we know to be the best in ourselves.</p><p>It is also important that men, way, way, more than women support men during their healing trajectory,</p><div class="subscription-widget-wrap-editor" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe&quot;,&quot;language&quot;:&quot;en&quot;}" data-component-name="SubscribeWidgetToDOM"><div class="subscription-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p class="cta-caption">This Substack is reader-supported. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.</p></div><form class="subscription-widget-subscribe"><input type="email" class="email-input" name="email" placeholder="Type your email&#8230;" tabindex="-1"><input type="submit" class="button primary" value="Subscribe"><div class="fake-input-wrapper"><div class="fake-input"></div><div class="fake-button"></div></div></form></div></div><p></p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[2-002 More Than Myself]]></title><description><![CDATA[I Can Stop Healing Now]]></description><link>https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/2-002-more-than-myself</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/2-002-more-than-myself</guid><pubDate>Thu, 25 Jun 2026 20:01:04 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/9650db71-4f48-4586-96ae-c992899e70a4_1200x600.png" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<h2>En route to myself from &#8216;the me&#8217; I found that I had to start building myself. What did I actually believe about XYZ and am I able to live according XYZ, some things didn&#8217;t change at all and what did change was my ability to be able to see the same patterns in other dudes as I identified within myself and I had to learn how to use that voice no to profit from shaming other men for what men should know, but the opposite, asking the questions to men what I asked of myself.</h2><p>What will men find inside themselves when they begin to commit to who they are as a person on the inside. I was lucky, I was always allowed to be myself and when I took advantage of that it was necessary for the people in my life were able to say &#8216;this is not you&#8217; and I had to accept that, it was not me. I had to be me. They loved me enough to tell me that and, thankfully, they really haven&#8217;t had to do that but one time in my adult life, so we are okay.</p><p>The point, though, is this, that the first line of defense of accountability for men (and others) is self-accountability. As my relationships changed with other men I found that that was easy to move forward with men who interrogated their personal patterns and resolved to build a better version of self, just like me, while the ones who refused to take responsibility are still moving forward but the language is difference, the connection is different, the vision is different, the hope is different, the breathing is different. <br></p><p>Everything is different and the same at the same time. Another way to describe it is go to a place, if you went to college, you know you partied like crazy and visualize that version of you and try to say an elevator speech about the differences between you, beyond the obvious stats of life.</p><p>What does that person love that you still love? How does that person stand that you still stand like that? What about their smile? What about politics? What about this? What about that?</p><p>It&#8217;s all about you.</p><p>Seems redundant to say that healing is really all about self, but it really is and, while it sounds super messy, it&#8217;s pretty beautiful to men change, women change, people express who they are and feel safe, all through resolving to exit, as much as possible, any behavior patters that help give life to the patriarchal system that is our society.</p><p>Encourage men in your life to re-consider their politics through the lens of feminist analysis, not wine feminist analysis, but the way in which they unknowingly benefit from violence against women. In this process, the wine feminists will be exposed for being in solidarity with the violence that needs to be eliminated. That&#8217;s what I did with nightlife and things will happen to the politics as it did for nightlife: it got better, safer, fairer for everyone.</p><div class="subscription-widget-wrap-editor" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe&quot;,&quot;language&quot;:&quot;en&quot;}" data-component-name="SubscribeWidgetToDOM"><div class="subscription-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p class="cta-caption">This Substack is reader-supported. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.</p></div><form class="subscription-widget-subscribe"><input type="email" class="email-input" name="email" placeholder="Type your email&#8230;" tabindex="-1"><input type="submit" class="button primary" value="Subscribe"><div class="fake-input-wrapper"><div class="fake-input"></div><div class="fake-button"></div></div></form></div></div><p></p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[2-001 More Than Myself]]></title><description><![CDATA[I Can Stop Healing Now]]></description><link>https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/2-001-more-than-myself</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/p/2-001-more-than-myself</guid><pubDate>Fri, 19 Jun 2026 20:02:32 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/b289bb10-2ad2-4973-9488-8f2bf41f6a6f_1200x600.png" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<h2>Consider this statement: Feminism is an analysis of male violence imposed upon women.</h2><p>No man can deny that women suffer violence, therefore, since no man can deny women suffer from societal violence it is only right to have a baseline societal agreement that feminism is an analysis of violence imposed upon women by men.</p><p>Our boys need to, at a younger age, understand this particular violence (some boys are introduced directly to the violence by witnessing domestic violence, let&#8217;s not discount that) and what it is so they don&#8217;t become repeaters of that violence. I&#8217;m not talking about letting the kids organically come acorss these ideas, I&#8217;m saying let&#8217;s be daring.</p><p><strong>The masculinity we need requires integrity, self-love, emotional awareness, assertiveness, and healthy relational skills.</strong></p><p>We have to build a society that houses those elements by way of how people interact with others. What can we do to change the conditions of our kids so they are exposed to the masculinity we are all tired of, and, if you need a reminder:</p><p><strong>The masculinity we have now is avoiding femininity, restrictive emotionality, seeking achievement and status, self-reliance, aggression, homophobia, and non-relational attitudes toward sexuality.</strong></p><p><strong>It&#8217;s important to understand this set of traits is often how boys who have experience many of the abuses found within the feminist analysis, too. It is my belief that collectively agreeing to the feminist analysis will not only free girls and women from patriarchal violence, it will no doubt free boys, as well. </strong></p><h3>I encourage to meditate/pray/think on the possibility of us existing in a society where the traits we teach our young people and what we hold adults accountable to are: <br><br><strong>integrity, self-love, emotional awareness, assertiveness, and healthy relational skills.</strong></h3><div class="subscription-widget-wrap-editor" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://candycoateddaggers.substack.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe&quot;,&quot;language&quot;:&quot;en&quot;}" data-component-name="SubscribeWidgetToDOM"><div class="subscription-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p class="cta-caption">This Substack is reader-supported. 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