Let’s make one thing clear right off the bat: nobody is saying you need your whole hand, a state-of-the-art vibrator, or a decade of practice to make someone with a vulva feel amazing. The truth is much simpler—and much more focused on the fingers—than internet gossip makes it seem.

According to sex educator Gigi Engle, the real trick is to have your partner “use their index and middle fingers to make clockwise circles around the clitoris.” That’s basically it. Two fingers, some circles, and paying attention to what’s working.

Why Two Fingers Beat One (Sorry, Team Solo Finger)

Here’s the problem with using just the index finger alone: ​​it works, technically, but it’s kind of like trying to paint a wall with a brush with only one bristle. Combining the index and middle fingers gives you more contact area, more control, and, according to Healthline, the option to “slide up and down or side to side across the clitoris and clitoral hood,” which is basically the sexual version of stereo sound instead of mono.

And it doesn’t end there…

If you want to take it even further, there’s also the technique described by Love, Emma: position your index and middle fingers on either side of the clitoris and rub the sides, instead of going straight for central contact. This is a genuinely underrated movement—the clitoris has thousands of nerve endings ( WebMD says there are two to three times more than a penis, for context), so sometimes less direct pressure is felt more intensely, not less.

That being said…

Want to really impress? Love, Emma also describes a technique for doing two jobs with one hand: penetrating with your middle and index fingers while using your thumb to stimulate the clitoris at the same time. It’s basically the sexual version of hitting someone’s head and rubbing their belly at the same time, lol.

And if motor coordination isn’t your strong suit yet, no problem — you can use one hand for internal stimulation and the other for the clitoris, according to Lioness, which suggests gently holding the clitoris “between your ring and middle fingers” while the other hand takes care of penetration.

Well, like I said, a single finger can change everything at the crucial moment; you just have to understand how to use it, lol.

So take advantage of this and put it into practice today. Really test it out with enthusiasm — make your partner feel like they’re on cloud nine, or if you want to try it alone, go ahead. The good thing about this technique is that whether you’re doing it solo or as a couple, it can be made to work.

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Look, missionary is the reliable sedan of sex positions — it gets you where you’re going, no complaints. But even the classics deserve a remix every now and then. Whether you’re a missionary loyalist, a doggy-style devotee, or someone who’d rather skip penetration altogether, there’s a fresh spin here for you. Consider this your permission slip to get a little experimental without reinventing the wheel entirely.

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Go for the 45-degree tilt. Courtesy of sexologist Dr. Janet Brito, this one keeps the intimacy of missionary — eye contact optional, drama not included — while hitting deeper. Lie on your back at the edge of the bed, rest your calves on your partner’s shoulders at roughly a 45-degree angle, then have them pull your hips in so their chest lines up between your breasts and chin. Same energy as missionary, just with better aim.

Try the “lounging goddess” upgrade. A bit more choreography, but worth learning. Lie back with a couple of pillows under your thighs and bring the soles of your feet together, butterfly-style. Lube up your clitoris, then let your partner glide their penis or a toy in slow counterclockwise circles around it — your pace, your rules. Once you’re feeling it (Brito suggests an 8 out of 10), wrap your legs around their calves and start rocking your hips together. If they outweigh you, just flip the script and climb on top. A pillow under your pelvis adds extra sensation if you want to turn the volume up further.

Bring in a wedge. If you want to keep things simple but crank up the intensity, a sex wedge pillow (like a Liberator) placed under your hips angles things for deeper penetration — or just stack a few firm pillows if you’re not ready to invest. Works as a solid add-on to any position on this list, honestly. And if you want to double down, pair a solid steel wand toy with oral for a two-for-one deal.

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