That’s no way to live.

Eventually, the indecision becomes more painful than the truth.

That’s usually when people finally make a choice.

And so…I say this with love, dear readers:

Babe,
It’s time to shit or get off the pot.

The Merry-Go-Round

Kk, this is hell.

I know.

If you’re stuck in that place where you can’t decide what to do about your relationship…
the voice in your head probably sounds something like this:

I might be ready to leave?

Yeah… I think I am.

I know I am…?

Well…

I’m not sure.

Today that’s how I’m feeling anyway.

I’m fed up.

I can’t do this anymore.

I’ve literally given it my all — I have nothing left to give.

But I just don’t think I can do this alone.

And round and round it goes.

Flip. Flop.
Flip. Flop.

But Is This Worth Fighting For? 🤔

It’s time to cut the bullshit.

You’ve gotta sit down
and take a hard look at what’s going on in your relationship.

I’m not talking about a little fight here or there.

Or the hot make up sex after.

No.

I’m saying: take a big picture view.

What is life like for the two of you — most of the time?

Consider the following questions

and be brutally honest with your answers.

It’s the only way to finally get off the merry-go-round.

The 80/20 Rule

Question 1 📝 What percentage of the time are you happy?
And what percentage of the time are you miserable
(or anything besides happy and content)?

If you have 80% happy and 20% struggling — that’s a pretty solid relationship.

That was not the case for me.

Deep down I knew that it wasn’t going to get any better.

I was coming 90% to him and he’d meet me with 10%.

That’s not sustainable.

It’s exhausting.

Do You Even Like Each Other?

Question 2 📝 Are you happy to come home at the end of the day to see your partner?
Do they greet you with enthusiasm?

We’ve Lost That Loving Feeling

Question 3 📝 How do you feel when you spend time with them
one-on-one (no screens)?

Does it feel like a breath of fresh air?
Easy and full of love, joy, and light?

Is There Mutual Respect?

Question 4 📝 Does s/he treat you respectfully, both with words and actions?

Is It All Talk and No Action?

Question 5 📝 When you bring an issue to their attention,
how do they handle it?

Forget what they say.

How does their behavior change?

Do they make a significant effort?

Do they sustain the changes over a period of time?

Does S/He Qualify For In-Law Privileges?

Question 6 📝 Is this a relationship you would want your children to live out?

Does this fulfill your expectations
for how you’d expect a loved one or child to be treated?

You would want someone who cherished
your child like the amazing and special gem that they are.

Is your partner meeting that standard the majority of the time?

But Do They Love You? How Do You Know?

Question 7 📝 In what ways do they show you love?
Can you think of concrete examples?

The five love languages are: physical touch,
compliments, gifts or surprises, quality time, and acts of service.

Can you think of specific examples
of how they show love to you
in any of those categories on a regular basis?

Not just surprising you with flowers once a year.

Do they make the effort, month after month and year after year?

Fatherly Advice

Question 8 📝 What would you tell your child
to do if they were the one in this relationship?

If they were unhappy and hurting
the majority of the time
over X number of months/years,
what advice would you give?

Forget About the Price Tag

Question 9 📝 If money wasn’t an issue at all,
would you still be this conflicted in your decision?

No Baby, No Cry

Question 10 📝 If you didn’t have kids together,
would we even be having this conversation?

Or would you have left a long time ago?

The Tipping Point

We all know how much work is involved in relationships.

At times it’s effortless
and others, it’s a struggle.

Every relationship has its ups and downs.
The difference is:
you should have more good than bad times.

And you should still be able to wake up every morning and say:

Yes, this is my person.

Yes, I still choose you.

Yes, we’re in this together,

and what we have is worth fighting for.

Should I Stay Or Should I Go?

I’m going to outline your options.

You can either:

Choose to stay
and make peace with your struggles,

Or

Acknowledge that you’re not happy,
and fucking DO something about it.

Because here’s the truth your friends and family won’t tell you:

You have more agency than you think.

The door’s not locked.*
It never was.

You just have to decide

whether you’re ready to walk through it.

The True Path to Happiness

Staying is a choice.
Leaving is a choice.

But staying stuck?

Trust me — that’s a slow bleed.

And it’s not going to bring you peace.

✨

Footnote:
I can’t take credit for the “door isn’t locked” metaphor.
I read it in Glennon Doyle’s book, Untamed.
I highly recommend that you check it out — it’s powerful.

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You’re human.

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If you’ve ever gone along with something you didn’t want… this is for you.

Let me set the scene

You’re with a new person.

You two are making out, touching, teasing, and everything’s going great.

Then your partner starts to move south...

and suddenly you realize

Oh, sh*t

they’re about to go down on you,

and you’re just
Not Cool With It 😬…

Some of us are terrified to speak up because they worry about their partner’s reaction.

Unfortunately, I can’t tell you the magic method for avoiding hurting your partner’s feelings.

The good news?

I definitely have tips for how to best approach this situation.
And if you do it correctly, it will greatly reduce your chances of accidentally hurting their feelings.

It boils down to two things:

timing
and delivery.

The Strategy

Maybe you’ve already guessed it;

But the truth is:
You’ve got to be gentle in your approach
and you need to choose the right moment.

Timing: When to have the talk.

👉 As soon as possible.

The longer you wait, the more difficult it will be to bring it up.

Also, if you’re with a new partner,
you’ll need to have the safe sex talk anyway, right?

So you’ll be having an awkward convo with this person either way 😝.

Might as well kill two birds with one stone.

Translation?

This is the perfect opportunity to bring up your preferences RE: oral sex
(or whatever sex thing you don’t wanna do).

👉 you’re going to mention it right after the discussion about testing/using protection.

Delivery: How you say it.

The delivery will make a huge difference in the outcome of your convo.

Frame it as a conversation where you’re offering info

and

👉 you are interested in learning about her preferences, too.

So we’re not going to just blurt out:
“I really don’t like blowjobs.”

👉 first, pose this same question to her: What are your likes and dislikes in bed?

Ask if there is anything you should avoid doing when you’re together.

Is there anything that she absolutely hates?

Any sex acts that are off the table?

What are some things that she LOVES when it comes to sex?

You could also ask her what is the best way to help her reach the big O.

When there’s a pause in the conversation and it seems like she’s said her piece,

👉 that’s when you share your likes and dislikes

👉 state them in a neutral way:

I love when my partner ___.
I’m not a fan of ___. It’s just not my thing.
But I do really enjoy ___.

Final Thoughts On Strategy

Believe it or not,

this is a totally normal conversation to have

and discussing these preferences
is just another piece of the puzzle
when it comes to being a considerate partner.

So, you can relax a little,
because you’re not really bringing up anything “weird” or uncomfortable.

You’re simply opening up the lines of communication
so that you both can have a really fantastic time in bed.

And, just like the safe sex convo,

👉 it’s much easier to do it before the clothes come off.

Today’s post was inspired by a question I received from a reader.
If you’ve got a burning question of your own, my inbox is open.

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There’s a window the morning after you’re with someone.
It’s still fresh in their mind.

The way you reacted.
The intensity.
The closeness.
The electricity between you.

Their brain is replaying everything.
Attraction is strongest when emotions are still fresh.

This is your chance to crank it up a notch 🔥.

The potential for lasting impact is huge.

But most people completely miss it.

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The Most Underrated Move — Ever

The easiest way to spark intensity and build chemistry outside the bedroom?

Simple. Send them a morning after text.

The impact of that one little text message:

• reinforces attraction
• deepens connection
• boosts confidence
• creates anticipation for next time

In other words?

He won’t be able to stop thinking about you.

Here are some messages that do exactly that.

Make Him Crave More of You

Your feedback reinforces the experience and creates craving for next time.

And — believe it or not — men often worry whether they did well.

A little reassurance goes a long way.

The more specific you are, the more powerful the effect.

Examples:

• “I keep thinking about last night… I loved all of it.”

• “Last night was intense! In the best way…”

• “You were dangerously sexy last night. I’m not sure you realize the effect you have on me.”

• “God, you were incredible.”

• “I keep replaying last night in my head. It was incredible.”

• “I’m still feeling the effect of you.”

• “I slept so well after being with you.”

• “Last night was amazing.”

• “The way you looked at me right before things got heated… I can’t stop thinking about it.”

• “I loved how you took control. That was so hot.”

• “You bring out a very naughty side of me… I like that.”

• “I keep remembering _______ (fill in something he did). God, that was hot.”

• “Thank you for taking such good care of me.”

• “I woke up wanting you again.”

• “You made it very hard to focus on anything else today … 😈 in the best way.”

• “You’re incredible. Just thought you should know.”

Build His Anticipation

Anticipation activates desire.

This is how you’ll get him daydreaming about the next time he has you alone.

Examples:

• “I need your hands on me again soon.”

• “I want to be good for you.”

• “I can’t wait until the next time you get me alone.”

• “I think I’m overdue for some attention.”

• “I keep thinking about being under you.”

• “I’m craving you today.”

• “The chemistry between us is incredible. I can’t wait to feel that again.”

• “Next time I see you, I might have to tackle you and rip your clothes off.”

• “I can’t wait for you to get me alone and have your way with me.”

• “I’m thinking about you naked right now 😏.”

• “If you had me there with you right now, what would we be doing?”

• “I need you right now.”

The Importance of the Morning After Text

The biggest secret about morning after texts isn’t the wording.

It’s the feeling behind them.

Appreciation.
Desire.
Anticipation.

When someone knows they affected you,
they remember it.

And they’ll be hungry to experience it again.

They don’t need to be explicit.

They’re about impact.

And they’re meant to reinforce the intensity from the night before.

Reaction is one of the strongest attraction signals you can give someone.

And by sending a morning after text, what you’re really saying is:

I wanted you.
I felt you.
I’m still thinking about you.
I want to have that again.

And when a man receives that message,
it hits deep.

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Yes, Give Me Hotter Sex

Here’s how to make a dominant man lose his mind in bed.

Not with what you do — but with what you say.

A lot of submissive women think dirty talk is about saying the right words.

It’s not.

It’s about what those words do to him.

Dominant men respond to:
trust, surrender, anticipation, and permission.

They want to feel that they affect you.

That you want them.
That you’re offering yourself to them.
And that their control is sexy to you.

Once you understand that, everything changes.

So if you’ve ever wondered:

“What should I say to drive him crazy?”

I’ve got you.

1️⃣ Tell Him the Effect He Has on You

When he hears how he affects you, his brain registers success — and dominance intensifies.

Examples:

• “You make me feel so small when you look at me like that.”

• “I love when you take control of me.”

• “I can’t think straight when you touch me.”

• “You make it impossible to behave.”

Why this works:
You’re reinforcing his power and competence.

2️⃣ Ask For What You Want — But In His Frame

A submissive doesn’t have to be passive.

You can request things in a way that invites his dominance instead of competing with it.

Examples:

• “I want you to use me tonight.”

• “I need you to put me in my place.”

• “Can you make me behave?”

• “I want to feel your control again.”

The key difference:
You’re not giving orders — you’re offering yourself.

3️⃣ Describe Your Anticipation

Dominant men love knowing you’re thinking about them ahead of time.

Examples:

• “I keep thinking about what you’re going to do to me later.”

• “I’m already nervous in a good way.”

• “I don’t think I’m going to be very good when I see you.”

• “I can’t stop thinking about being yours again.”

Anticipation is fuel for dominance.

4️⃣ Respond In The Moment (Very Important)

Silence kills energy.

He wants feedback that tells him:

• he’s doing well

• you’re affected

• you’re present

Examples:

• “Yes… just like that.”

• “I love when you take charge.”

• “I’m yours.”

• “That feels so good.”

• “Please don’t stop.”

Simple, direct language works best.

5️⃣ Reinforce His Authority

This is huge for many dominant men.

Examples:

• “You’re in control.”

• “I like when you decide.”

• “I trust you.”

• “You always know what I need.”

• “I belong to you right now.”

Authority affirmation builds confidence and intensity.

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Because mismatched libidos don’t fix themselves.

Here’s the deal.

Nobody wants to be rejected in the bedroom.
Nobody wants to feel like a pest.
So why are we pretending
that this conversation doesn’t matter?

What are your “must haves”
when searching for a partner?

It’s not that we don’t want
to be wined and dined.
We do!
We love that #princesstreatment.

It’s just…

Life is short.

Identifying your non-negotiables
when searching for a partner just makes sense.
A bit of reflection
will save everyone time, money, and energy.

I’m not going to let some hottie
spend his resources on me if I don’t see
a potential relationship for us —
no matter how sweet, kind, or funny he is.

I don’t need a Prince Charming that badly —
am I right, ladies?

It’s 2026. Like Miley says,
we can buy our own flowers 💁🏻‍♀️.

Incompatibility?
Yeah… That’s a Dealbreaker, Babe.

I mentioned the other day that
I have a higher than average sex drive.

And so for me, that’s
on my “must have” list
of qualities in a partner.
We’ve got to be on the same page
when it comes to expectations around sex.

If we’re not compatible in that department?

Then it’s not ❌ going to work.

It’s time to
stop investing in relationships
when y’all are just not a match!

Bottom line?
Screen for sexual compatibility
before building something long-term.

The tricky part is how to go about doing that.

The Double Standard No One Talks About

How do you filter out
the ones who have a low libido?

You might be thinking:
Isn’t the answer obvious, Kk? …
😒
Just ask him
how often he wants to have sex!

But, it’s not that simple.
There’s that whole
double standard thing.

Most of society operates on the belief
that women aren’t supposed to
want sex / enjoy sex / crave it often.

And that it’s not “ladylike”
to have a high sex drive.

But we can’t help how we’re wired 🤷🏻‍♀️.

The heart wants what it wants, ya know?
or in this case,
maybe it’s:
the hooha wants what it wants … 💀

Second Chances
Deserve Better Choices.

Listen☝️

📣 I don’t wanna be made
to feel like I’m a PEST
for wanting it frequently.

And I sure as hell
don’t want to be turned down on the regular.

Because —
Been there, done that 😤.

I’ve been involved with people in the past
who either had a a low libido
or simply had zero interest
in bridging the gap.

I’ve got a second chance at happiness now.
Not many people can say that.

Let’s make the most of it, shall we 😉?

So… How Do You Actually Ask?

It’s delicate 😬.

Especially when
you’re trying to make a good impression
and NOT come off sounding like
you’re crazy or obsessed with sex 🙈.

Do I just blurt it out?

Excuse me, Sir,
do you have a few moments to answer this survey?

Sexual Compatibility Survey
📝

1. How often do you prefer to have sex
   with your significant other?
   How many times per week is ideal for you?

2. What are the two love languages
   that resonate the most with you?
   Which ways are you most likely to show you care?
   (Love languages: words of affirmation, acts of service,
   physical touch, gifts, or quality time)
   
   Side note — every single guy I’ve asked
   has said “quality time” is their love language.

3. And I wanna be like
   Quality time
   Is that spent IN THE BEDROOM?
   Or… ??

   Babe —

   HOW exactly
   would we be spending that time? 👀
   
   Cause your girl’s got needs…

   
   💀 haha
   I’m cringing internally as I type this
   😳 So embarrassing 🙈
   But we’re just gonna
   push through the discomfort 😆.
   

4. How do you handle it
   if your significant other is in the mood
   and you aren’t ?

5. How often do you turn your partner down
   when s/he initiates?

6. Is it “weird” to you
   if your partner has a high sex drive?

7. Have you ever
   had an argument about sex?

8. Do you initiate sex often?

9. Have you had a relationship
   where you had mismatched sex drives?
   How did you handle it?

Is Vulnerability the Price We Pay
for Alignment?

Ugh.

Kill me now,
because I am way too embarrassed to ever have this conversation
with someone I like / want to date.

It’s so much easier to talk to a stranger about this
vs someone you have feelings for or have a crush on.

If someone on the internet judges me,
I can just tell them:
✌️ Bye. There’s the door 👉 🚪
Hate to see you leave,
but we love to watch you walk away 😉.

But if it’s someone you’re actually interested in?

The fear of rejection is much stronger.
And therefore, the stakes are higher.

Do you have
any advice to share?

🧏🏻‍♀️

Drop it in the comments 👇

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And then I’ll report back with any failures or successes 😆

You already know
that you can count on me
for the dirty details
when it comes to my embarrassing

— but also kinda hilarious —

confessions &
steamy hookups.

I don’t ❌ gate keep

‘Cause I’m shameless like that 😉

KIDDING!

I don’t hold back.

Because pretending that you’re perfect
isn’t nearly as fun as:

✔️ #carpediem-ing the shit out of your life

✔️ making mistakes

✔️ and keeping it 💯 along the way

… Am I right?

XOXO,

Kk

💋

His reaction made it crystal clear — I’d uncovered an emotional bomb 💣.

Accidentally sent him a screenshot
with my open search tabs visible!

One of them was his mother’s obituary.

We hadn’t even had our first date 😳.

But First … A Quick Cyber Stalking Session

Met Jason online. Started dating casually.

I make it a rule to look up background information
before meeting with all of my dates in person.

Safety ✅ is super important when it comes to online dating.
You can never be too careful!

So when Jason asked me to text him
to firm up the details for our first date,

I took his number and searched Google with it.

Sure enough, the usual stuff popped up:
address, names and ages of relatives, etc.

I searched for arrest records, too. Nothing.

In fact, I found very little on him — aside from basic personal data.

But I was really into this guy; and, honestly?

That excitement only fueled my curiosity.

So I kept digging🕵️.

And I found…the obituary for his mom!

Oh, sh*t!

Curious? Or Just Plain Nosy?

Apparently Jason’s mom had passed more than fifteen years ago.

After skimming through the article and learning the basics —

died at age 50.
Cherished daughter, sister, mother…
Survived by her children, Jason and Timothy (names changed).

I decided to just leave it alone.
He’d tell me about his family when he was ready.
Right?

But… 👀

You Know What They Say About Curiosity and The Cat…

I’d heard a lot about his ex
with whom he shares two children.

Much of that was … negative.
Just really did not portray her in the best light.

Yes, I know — always take what they say about the ex
with a grain of salt. Two sides to every story, etc.

What can I say? Curiosity got the best of me…
and I went ahead and googled her, too.

Such a nosy little thing I am, eh? 😅

Caught Red Handed 👀

Anyway, I finally gave up
when I didn’t find much about him or his ex.
I walked away from the computer,
leaving the tabs open.

Several hours later,
I took a screenshot of something I wanted to show Jason.

Sent it to him without looking at it carefully,

and … uhhhh… 🫣

I didn’t realize the open tabs
were included in the screenshot!

Fuckkkkk 😳🫣

Sooo awkward and embarrassing!

He was not an iPhone user, so I couldn’t click “unsend” on the text.

I was internally freaking out. What had I done?!

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Excuse Me, M’am. Can I help you with something?

He didn’t get mad,
but he did seem to be caught off guard.

“Why are you googling my mom?” he asked.

And I stammered,
“I swear I didn’t! But her obituary popped up when I googled YOU.”

(Truth!)

The Bomb 💣

He made a comment that implied
there was some trauma there from his past;

a heartbreaking and terrible event related to his mom.

I got the feeling that his pain was still fresh —
lingering just under the surface.

Guilt crashed over me as I realized how shocking it must have been
for Jason to see that obituary up on my screen.

Like a bucket of ice water poured over him — sudden and unpleasant.

I assured him that I didn’t learn anything remarkable about her.

But, y’all, I felt really bad —

I’d accidentally unearthed an emotional bomb 💣.

If you like messy dating stories… you’ll probably enjoy this one too 👇

The Loss of a Parent

The death of Jason’s mom hit a soft spot within me.
I really felt for him as I was reading her life story.

He was just 20 when his mom died.

She had left Jason and his younger brother
in the care of their grandparents.

That was hard enough for me to learn.

But then came another sharp pang
— a mix of regret, pain, and sadness —
stemming from my own past.

I’ve mentioned before that I lost my dad, too.

He was 56 and I was in my early twenties.

And just like their story, he and I were very close.
And a lot was left unresolved between us.

Not only was I robbed of a significant amount of time,
happy moments and milestones —

but something else has been eating away at me.

I didn’t have the opportunity before he died,
to make the repairs to our relationship
that were so very needed.

I’ve gone into more detail about that here.

And, given my recent separation from my husband,

I would have loved to have my dad here with me.

When All You Really Want…Is What You Can’t Have

This year has been hell for me.

My dad was such a family first kind of man.

He would have dropped everything in a heartbeat
in order to be here.
I just know it.

To have him still around
would be such a gift.

To lean on, ask advice.

To receive encouragement.

Or maybe a shoulder to cry on.

And so, yes;

just like Jason,

I still feel that ache today — almost 13 years later.

Playful Teasing

We moved past the topic of his mom,
and he said
“Saw you were snooping on Tracy (name changed), too.”

He laughed pretty hard about me googling the ex 🙈.

Listen, I think most people do get curious
about ex partners
and look them up on social media or whatever.

Particularly the serious ones.

It’s normal to want to learn about their past
when you’re dating someone new 🤷🏻‍♀️.

Jason said “you’re never going to live this down!”
in a joking way.

We hadn’t even been on a single date!

I think that only added to my embarrassment when I was caught googling him.

I’ve really got to be more careful with this stuff;
I think I’m pretty slick but I’m obviously not 🤦🏻‍♀️🤣.

✨

Ever have something like that happen to you —
where you weren’t as stealthy as you’d hoped? 🤪

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Or have you ever caught someone
cyber stalking YOU?

Haha kidding.
It was more like cyber sleuthing 🔍 … Right?

When you’re the one with a high drive
and EVERYONE
has an opinion about it.

Especially
if you also happen to be
— gasp — female.

How often is too often
when it comes
to asking for intimacy?

For most of my adult life,
I kinda assumed something was
”wrong” with me.

Too needy.
Too sexual.
Too focused on physical connection.

I didn’t realize until recently
that libido mismatch
is incredibly common.

And —
that wanting sex
more often than your partner
doesn’t make you “weird”
or
“obsessed with sex.”

It just makes you human.

Still… that doesn’t stop people from commenting 😅…

And some of these experiences
have shaped how I’ve come to think about
libido and compatibility.

Things I Hear Regularly
as a Female with a High Libido

Here’s a list of things that partners
have said to me over the last few months … 🫣

“Wow, you weren’t kidding.
You do have a high sex drive!”

Me (via text): I’m horny. Let’s hang out.
Him (via text): When are you NOT horny? 🙄 🤪

Me: giving him “the look”
Him: “Wow your drive is insane.
That’s wild.”

“It’s all just sex, sex, sex with you, isn’t it?”

“Lmao. I guess someone’s horny again.”

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Me, whispering to a guy friend
while my date’s in the restroom:
“he says he can’t keep up with me 🫣.”

Him: “Girl, who CAN keep up with you?!
You’re literally always in the mood.”

Me: “is that really a bad thing, though?”

Him: “ 🤷🏻‍♂️ … depends, I guess?”

“You want more? You can’t be serious.
We just went three rounds!
THREE. ROUNDS.
My dick’s about to fall off.”

“Don’t get me wrong. I like sex.
But spending time together
is more important to me.
Talking …
Getting to know each other.
It can’t just be us, naked,
all day, every day.
You know?
I need an emotional connection, too.”

“Why are you humping my leg?”

“I need a break. My hand’s cramping.”

“Not tonight.”

“No, seriously.
Let’s just watch the movie.”

Him: “It’s like
you’re obsessed
with sex …”

Me: Protesting

Him: “You do talk about it a lot.”

Here’s the part
nobody really talks about:

Being the higher-drive partner
can mess with your head.

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• Am I pressuring them?
• Why do I want this
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• Will I ever find someone
who matches me?

Desire is supposed to feel exciting.

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it can lead to insecurity really fast.

I used to think
having a high sex drive
was a problem.

Now?

I view it as
a) data
and
b) a personal preference.

Not a character defect.
Not a moral issue.

It’s just how I’m wired.

Compatibility matters.
Chemistry matters.

And yes —
there absolutely are
people out there
who will be on the same page.

You’re not the only one
who craves regular sex
and connection.

I haven’t found
a perfect match yet…

but I’m a lot less worried
than I used to be.

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There is absolutely nothing wrong with you
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High libido isn’t a flaw.

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He fists a hand in her hair and forces her to look toward the glow of the bonfire.
“See them? Laughing? Talking? Not a clue I’ve got you bent over like a filthy little whore.”

He holds her hips still, no escape from how deep he buries himself.

“I’m going to cum in you right here, where anyone could walk past,” he snarls.
“You’re going home full. And you’re not letting a single drop slip out until I say so.”

Sex on the Beach

He tugs her wrist, pulling her deeper into the dark, away from the bonfire and the music. They settle on a secluded spot by the dunes, the sound of waves crashing nearby.

He has her lie in the sand on her back. His mouth goes straight to her pussy, tongue licking her clit while his fingers slide inside.

She writhes in the sand, head moving side to side as she tries not to make noise.

She weaves her fingers through his hair as he licks and sucks harder between her legs.

He pauses only long enough to growl, “Say it.”
She whines, trembling. “Say what?”
“That you’re my little beach slut.”

He thrusts his fingers even deeper between her legs.
“Say it loud. I want someone to hear you admit it.”

She blushes, but does as she’s told.
He rewards her with “Good girl.”

When she moans too loudly, he muffles her with his hand. He can feel her clawing his wrist. Her nails break the skin. Her legs shake as she cums again and again on his tongue. The juices are sweet and he savors the taste.

”Fuck. That’s hot,” he thinks.

He finds her reactions to be so arousing. He’s lost count now — has no idea how many times he’s sent her over the edge. He smiles to himself, enjoying the moment.

He orders her to get on all fours, ass in the air. She feels cool sand under her knees.

His cock pushes into her wet pussy, sinks deeper, inch by inch, until she lets out a hiss. It stings as he stretches her, but she craves more of him.

Wants his thrusts. Needs him to use her. She lets out another low hiss when he begins to pound a steady rhythm from behind.

“God, you take me so well,” he whispers.

He presses her chest down, arching her ass higher as he slams into her.

She fights to keep from squealing and groaning in pleasure.

He groans, loving every little sound she makes.

He fists a hand in her hair and forces her to look toward the glow of the bonfire.

“See them? Laughing? Talking? Not a clue I’ve got you bent over like a filthy little whore.”
“If someone rounds that corner,” he says, “they’ll get the perfect view of me fucking the need right out of you.”

His pace turns feral.
“I won’t stop. Not even then.”

He fucks her hard and deep, encouraged by her moans and whimpers. He growls in her ear, “That’s it. Take it. You love being a good slut for me, don’t you?”

He continues to pound her from behind, hot breath in her ear as he growls, “You’re mine. Do you understand me?”

She nods and let’s out a “yesss.”

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His hands slide up her ribs, thumbs and index fingers finding their targets. He uses a gentle but rhythmic tugging motion on her soft breasts — just how she likes it. He hears her moan appreciatively.

Then his fingers make their way to find her nipples. He tugs gently on them, and then begins rubbing with his thumbs, back and forth, stimulating them. He feels a gush of wetness coming from between her thighs.

He chuckles. “You do love your tits played with, don’t you?”

He pulls out and leaves her on all fours. Orders her to stay still, eyes down, ass up. She does as she’s told.

“Are you my little beach slut?”

“Yessss,” she breathes.

“Do your holes need more attention?”

“Yes, Daddy. Please. I need you to fuck me.”

He chuckles and spanks her ass, making her jump in surprise.

He drags his thumb back along the entrance to her wet pussy, slow enough to make her beg again.

He slides his thumb deeper inside her slit, moving up and down continuously. The pressure is just enough to make her gasp.
“That’s it… look how perfect you open for me.”

She lowers her head, forehead resting in the sand. Her hips rock and she moans as he continues his teasing.

He instructs her to lie down in the sand on her back. His hand slides down her stomach, fingers finding her clit, and he circles it slowly, deliberately, the way he knows will unravel her.

He watches her face as she smiles and moans with pleasure.

“That’s it,” he breathes, brushing her hair off her shoulder so he can watch her reaction. “Let yourself go. I love seeing you like this.”

He continues with rubbing her clit as he begins to push his cock into her. Deeper, inch by inch, until her low moan turns into a helpless cry.

He holds her still. All she can focus on is the fiery, steady stretch of him filling her, claiming her, combined with the attention to her clit.

He thrusts in and out; continues the teasing and fucking.

“Give me more,” he says. “Cum for me. Let me hear my pretty girl fall apart.”

“Yes, Daddy! I love that! Please don’t stop!”

She tries to lift her hips, desperate for more, but his grip stops her instantly.
He chuckles.

“Greedy girl,” he whispers. “You want it so badly, don’t you?”

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And then the house goes quiet.
And the tears come anyway.

The middle of the night.
That’s when it finds me.

When the anger
and the resentment
and the sadness
cut the deepest.

During the day?
I’m fine.

I don’t think about you.
And I definitely don’t miss you.

And if I do think about you, it’s mostly:

Thank fucking God
I finally chose me.

You were never going to change.
You would’ve strung me along
for another five, ten, twenty years.

Making promises
with zero follow through.

How many
“I can’t do this anymore”
talks
can you have
before your spouse
finally pulls the damn plug?

How long
did you think it would take
for me to say:

Enough.
I won’t continue to be held here.
Out of guilt or obligation.
When all you do is hurt me.
With your indifference and your disinterest
and the way you act
like you just barely “tolerate” us.

Don’t you see
that me and the kids are a fucking GIFT?
And you’re wasting it.

Choosing to do anything else but spend time with us.

Choosing to ignore me
as I walk around the house in something sexy
hoping
that maybe this time
you’ll give me the attention I’m craving.
But you don’t even look my way.

Do you know how much that hurts?

I’m tired of keeping up the charade.
Posting the happy family photos to social media.

Making excuses to my friends
as to why you never show up to events.

Or why everyone else’s husband
is at Home Depot with us
on a Saturday morning,
doing the monthly craft project,
and mine is nowhere to be seen.

‘Cause he fucking chose to stay home
rather than be here with me and the kids.

I don’t know how to build this damn birdhouse!
And it’s embarrassing
to have to ask Monica’s husband
to help our daughter assemble it.

Why aren’t you here?
Why don’t you want to be here?

Some men would kill to have a family like ours.
But with you, it’s a battle
for even the smallest of things.

“Come to the playground with us?”

I already know what the answer will be
before you’ve said it out loud.

You act like it’s a chore
to make time for your wife.

But I’ve got other men
telling me I’m gorgeous and sexy.
They drool over my lingerie pics.

Yeah, those same ones
I took for you.
Remember how I excited I was?
Waiting impatiently
to see your reaction.
And then I died inside.
Again.
‘Cause you barely glanced at them.

How many more of those cuts
do you think one person can take?

Acacia’s husband
has kept every spicy pic she’s ever sent him
in a folder on his phone.
Going back six years – all of ‘em.

But you can’t even be bothered to say
“You look hot, babe”
when I send you one.

So I guess I’m wanted by other men.
But it doesn’t cancel out this pain I feel.
‘Cause all I really want is you.
But you don’t want me.

Why don’t you want me?

I’ve asked myself that question for years.
I’ve considered all the possibilities.
My friends are sick of hearing about it.

I wonder if those other men
only think I’m sexy because
I know the secret to taking hot pics.

Or maybe I AM sexy,
and like, totally fuckable …
And you’re the one who’s crazy?

For not wanting me.
For making excuses whenever I initiate.
For choosing to sleep in separate bedrooms.
For shutting me out.

Who the hell knows?

But here’s what I do know:

This IS hell for me, babe.

“Do I throw out everything we’ve built or keep it?
I’m getting tired,
Even for a phoenix
Always risin’ from the ashes,
Mendin’ all her gashes

Stop, you’re losin’ me
I can’t find a pulse
You’re losin’ me

And I’m fadin’
Thinkin’
Do something, babe
Say something
Lose somethin’, babe
Risk something
‘Cause you’re losin’ me”

— Taylor Swift

So, tell me.
How long did you think I’d stay?
How many times
would I let you break my heart
before I’d finally reach my breaking point?

I’m just grateful
that I finally woke up and left.
That I found the courage
to blow up my life.
You were never going to appreciate what you had.

I’m proud that I’ve done a pretty kick ass job so far.
Without you.
Without your help.
Without extended family to lean on.

Pulling more than my weight but making it look easy.

‘Cause that’s what women do, right?
We’re dying inside, but you’d never know.

‘Cause from the outside?
She’s a fucking boss.

The kids are happy, thriving.
Everyone tells us
it’s just so “wonderful”
how well we’ve all adjusted
to this new chapter.

“Whatever you’re doing, keep it up.”
That’s what the teachers say.

I want to scream:
It’s me
I’m the one doing it
Every request for help
is met with resistance
Every attempt to co-parent
as a team
is blocked by stonewalling
But in public
he’s happy to claim half the credit

What a fucking sham.

“Daddy has magna-tiles and playdough and chalk and bubbles at his house.”

I know, babe. ‘Cause I packed all of that for you guys when he moved out.

“At Daddy’s house we have unicorn and dinosaur themed bedsheets and decorations.
And in the playroom we have mermaid wall stickers. And this comfy double armchair recliner where the three of us can snuggle and read stories before bedtime.”

I know, baby.
Mommy is the one who got all of that for you.
Mommy found those twin bed frames and that recliner on Facebook marketplace.

She’s the one who scored the bedding and room decorations from her local “buy nothing” group.

Mommy is the one who swallowed her pride and signed you up for the social services programs in town.

She’s the one who did her best to keep from turning red at the checkout line at Kohl’s when they were showing their tax exempt certificate to the cashier.
Silenced the voice inside that was asking if anyone in line had noticed.

Mommy’s the one who smiled and said ‘hello’ when she recognized two of our Church friends volunteering at the food pantry last week.
Pushed aside the feelings of shame
and just accepted the bag of groceries with a “thank you.”

Because what else can she do?

She wants you to have an amazing Christmas.
And your dad won’t go above and beyond the monthly amount we agreed on.

He doesn’t want to go 50/50 on the winter coats and boots.
He says you don’t need pretty hair bows or that Disney princess lunchbox.

And Mommy wants you to have nice things.

But, okay...
I’ll pretend like all of that is from “both of us.”

It’s just material shit anyway.

Right?

That’s right. I’m killing it without you.

I’m an amazing mom.

And the only time I miss you
is when the furnace stops working on a Friday night
in the middle of winter.
And the bill is double what it should be
from all the extra charges
for the after hours service call.

Or when a snow storm comes
and I have to shovel by myself.

I don’t miss the being married part.

The pretending.

All the failed attempts to “rekindle the spark” with you.

I don’t miss the way it felt shitty
when you were so nice to every other adult;
but with me
you were irritable
and could never find a smile
or a kind word.

I don’t miss you going through the motions
with a hug
or an I love you
that didn’t feel genuine.

All that time you spent
scrolling on your phone
snapping at the three of us
when we wanted your attention.

So I’m always confused
when these tears come
late at night
when it’s silent.

Because I don’t miss you.

And I don’t want to get back together.

I’m happier alone.
I don’t have to beg for crumbs anymore.

Because after years of work
in therapy
I’ve finally learned
how to give myself
the whole damn pie.

So why do I wanna slash your tires sometimes?
When I hear our daughter’s bubbly voice
telling me her news:

“Guess what, Mommy? Daddy takes us to Home Depot every month to do the free craft!
Next month we’re building and painting a birdhouse!”

“That’s great, sweetie. I’m so glad you get to have that special time with him.”

And that’s when I realize —
I don’t miss you.
And maybe
I don’t hate you.

I’m just sad
because I never got to love
this version of you
that only showed up
after I’d already left.

An outdoor picnic, the taste of watermelon… And the realization that he’s about to have his way with her — right here, right now.

The tension snaps inside her all at once—too much, too fast. Her body betrays her completely, shuddering hard beneath him as she gives in to the orgasm.

She can’t think. Can’t pretend. Can’t hold herself together.

He feels it immediately—the way her body gives up, the sharp intake of breath, the tightening of her muscles around his shaft.

He stills just enough to savor it, a slow grin pulling at his mouth.

“There it is,” he murmurs smugly. “Couldn’t hold it, could you?”

She cries out his name and “fffuuckkkk, yesssss,” which is barely audible as he has her face down, his hand pressing on the back of her neck. Her cheek, nose, and mouth are smooshed into the fabric of the blanket.

The release rolls through her, leaving her shaking, breathless, embarrassingly open.

She feels wrung out and exposed, but she can’t deny how exciting and naughty that was. And just how damn talented he is at making her cum.

“Oh, fuck,” she gasps, voice muffled against the blanket. The cool air on her skin reminds her that she’s completely naked.

This realization sharpens both the feeling of humiliation and the thrill of what they’re doing.

Her flowery sundress lies on the ground next to her. Nipples hardening from the breeze and she feels the air reach both her pussy and her ass. Evidence of her orgasm is dripping down her thigh, coating his cock.

She flashes back to earlier. The romantic picnic, the sweet taste of watermelon, and the way he’d caught her gazing at him. Admiring his sexy body. She’d tried to hide it but — too late.

He’d seen the hungry look in her eye, knew what she wanted. What she craved.

He’d held her gaze for a moment, just before he’d grabbed her chin and pulled her to him, kissing her roughly, hands moving over her shoulders, collarbone, and down to grope her breasts.

Then he’d ripped the dress from her body and growled commands — for her to get on her knees, open her mouth, take his cock.

It had felt raw, animalistic, and exciting.

His hand tightens at her hip, grounding her, reminding her exactly where she is.

He leans down, voice low near her ear. “God, you’re predictable,” he says softly, almost fond. “All that attitude, and you still fall apart the second I push you hard enough.”

He starts to slide his cock in and out, slowly, teasingly.

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I woke up wanting him. Badly. And instead of ignoring it, I texted him.

I wake with a hunger to be touched, teased, and fucked.

“Horny” doesn’t even begin to cover how I’m feeling.

I text you and ask if you’re able to leave work for an extended lunch that day.

I tell you that your slut is craving your cock and how I can’t wait for you to get me alone and naked.

You text back:

“yes, 😈 I’ll clear my schedule for you. Already rock hard just sitting here thinking about it 😋. Don’t forget to leave the door unlocked.”

I imagine you walking in and finding me waiting on the bed, face down, ass up.

Topless and wearing only a lacy thong.

I picture you smiling to yourself and reaching for your collar to undo do your tie and unbutton your shirt while you drink in the view.

Yeah, that’s what I’ll do, I think to myself and head to my lingerie drawer to pick something out.

Then I jump in the shower, picturing your naked body as the hot water runs over my skin and I soap myself up.

I resist the temptation to touch myself.
I hop out, towel off, and rub lotion all over my body.

I want to smell irresistible when you get here.

You pull up to my place, let yourself in, and quickly move to the bedroom.

You’ve always loved how curvy I am and I know you find the view from behind to be mouthwatering.

You were already turned on walking into the house but now that you’re here in the bedroom, with me waiting for you on all fours. Both of us knowing what’s about to come.

Well, your cock is straining against your pants.

You feel a bit of precum leak onto your boxers and you groan internally with the realization that you’ll be struggling to control yourself.

You’re already feeling close to the edge and we haven’t even started.

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Steamy fundamentals that flip her switch from
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Before you get to championship games,
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Sweaty drills, practice plays,
the coach barking in your ear —
yeah, it sucks, but it sharpens your game.

Here are 6 basic “plays”
that separate the amateurs from the all-stars 🏆.

Play # 1. When He’s Down to Film:
Secure the Tape, Secure the Win 🎞

Personally, I do think taking private videos in bed can be very hot.

And holding back the tape and keeping it just for us —
makes it even hotter, am I right?

Our little secret 😉.

And uhhh... yeah... this might be controversial,
but I don’t believe you should have to delete those vids
when you break up —

SO LONG AS YOU DON’T ABUSE THAT PRIVILEGE.

Revenge porn makes my blood boil.

Those videos were a fucking gift.

Her looking hot, making eye contact,
and sucking your cock like a pro.

Her, letting her guard down, moaning and screaming,
and not in her head about all her weird sex noises (😂🙈).

Being authentic with you;

allowing herself to get lost in the moment.

AND SHE CONSENTED
TO HAVING IT ALL RECORDED?!

She did NOT have to do that for you.

So when assholes decide to share, post, or leak them
in order to humiliate the other person?

Trying to shame them or even blackmail them?

That’s disgusting and weak.

Don’t fumble her trust like that.

Real men protect the playbook.

Play # 2. When He Hits Me With The
“I Don’t Like To Share”

Bet you’re surprised to read that 😂.

I don’t mean share partners.

If we’re keeping it 💯, your girl loves

to be shared in bed by multiple guys errr... cough

who said that?

Looks behind her.

When I say: please, no sharing?

I’m talking about those spicy pics
and private vids I send you.

I’m about to hit send and tell you:
“these are just for you — keep ‘em private”

and he responds with an
“of course! trust me — I don’t like to share.”
… 😍🫠

Y’all, that puts my mind at ease
AND makes me feel
like he’s appreciating what I’m sending him.

Other Smoking Hot Plays
with Respect to Private Pics and Vids:

🙌 He doesn’t pressure me to send them
but neither is he taking it for granted.

🙌 He recognizes how special and vulnerable it is
to send that kind of content.

🙌 He doesn’t start making special requests
with specific lingerie or poses, etc.

🙌 He doesn’t give any pushback
when I remind them that they’re private (i.e. no sharing).

Umm.... hello?!
It’s my body
and I get to choose what I share
and with whom!

Just because I send you a pic
doesn’t mean you have claim to me or my body
or how the pics or videos are used.

So please, show your gratitude,

resist that temptation to brag,

and keep it safe and secure.
Alright?

Trust me when I say, that’s the real flex.

Play # 3. When He Doesn’t Have a
Tit for Tat Mentality

He doesn’t make me feel like I “owe” him anything.

As soon as you make me feel obligated to give you head,
it goes from hot to not.
Now it’s a chore and I likely won’t be giving my all to it.

What’s that? 🧏🏻‍♀️
You gave me three orgasms, so now it’s your turn?
No. Get out of here with that!

What’s that? 🧏🏻‍♀️
You gave me ten orgasms,
and also did the dishes,
and mowed the lawn,
and brought me flowers,
and gave me a foot massage,
and paid for dinner?

Babe, I still don’t owe you anything.

Another tit-for-tat fumble:
Threesomes

I tell him how much I love MFM.

He hits me with:
“yeah, ok I might be willing to do that,
IF you’d do FMF with me.
Oh, and I want you to recruit the other female.
Girls can pull other girls so easily.”

Bro 😒.

Not only have you turned my fantasy
into a game of scorekeeping,

but now you’re giving me homework?

No, thanks. Total (lady) boner killer.

Not saying you can’t pitch your fantasies, babe;
but it’s about reading the room.

Timing is everything.

Your turn is coming —

if you don’t blow the drive before you even get possession.

Play # 4. When He Views My Orgasms
as a Win for the Team

Pump up your teammate(s)!

My former partner would literally say
“yesssss” enthusiastically when I would cum.

Y’all. If you think of it that way —

like we’re teammates
and my pleasure is your pleasure?

My win is your win?

Fuck. That’s so 🔥 hot.

And it only makes me want to work harder
when it’s your turn.

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Less talk, more moaning.

Quick doesn’t have to mean boring. Babe, it can actually be mind-blowing.
Here’s how to do it right.

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Y’all know that I love talking about sex and sharing all the dirty details with my readers.

Today, I’m letting you in on a few of my secrets for setting the stage for a sizzling hot quickie with your partner.

Because yes — quickies can be just as intense (and sometimes even hotter) than long sessions IF you build the right tension first.

It all comes down to 5 key components:

1. The Tease 🫦

Dirty messages. Little (sexual) touches. Flirty looks.
You’ve got to get her primed for sex before you even sneak away.

Quickies usually mean less foreplay — so you cannot skip the warm-up.

Dirty talk (or texts), that slow build of anticipation, a hand on her lower back or moving towards her butt, a sexy comment whispered in her ear.

By the time you’re finally alone with her, she should already be wet.

👉 Ideas for texts:
“I can’t stop thinking about bending you over the counter later.”
“You have no idea what those jeans are doing to me right now.”

2. The Prep 🔥

Don’t fumble the logistics. Nothing kills the vibe like stopping mid-heat to leave the room because you forgot something.

• Condom(s)

• Lube (especially important since there’s less time for her body to fully warm up)

• A door that locks (or not… if risk turns you both on 😉)

Small details can make or break the rhythm. Quickies are about momentum.

And don’t underestimate the power of setting the vibe fast.
You, thinking ahead by making sure you smell great, or having music already playing — that kind of prep can make it feel less rushed and more intentionally hot.

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3. The Sex 🍑

I know you’re excited to fuck her. But foreplay — even in a quickie — still matters.

Make out.
Slip in some tongue.
Tease her nipples, finger her, rub her clit.

Use the shortcuts you already know to be effective ways to get her turned her on and ready for you.

Picture it: her back pressed against the wall, your breath hot against her neck, her soft gasp when your hand slides under her clothes.
Hot, right?

And don’t forget the dirty talk — it’s like lighter fluid for a quickie.

“I need you right now” or “I’ve been thinking about this all day” or “your body feels incredible” will make it extra hot.

4. The Aftercare 💋

Even quickies deserve a soft landing.

A few extra minutes of closeness, hugs, a few kisses or whispering something sweet to her.

Those kinds of things are part of the payoff for her when it comes to a quickie.

The tenderness makes it sexy and intimate.

And here’s the best part: that little moment after? It lingers.

It turns a hot quickie into something she can’t stop replaying in her head.

5. The Follow-Up 📲

Want her to crave a repeat? Text her soon after the quickie.

• “I can’t stop thinking about earlier. That was so hot.”

• “I loved when you did X. I’m still hard just remembering it.”

• “I can’t believe how sexy you are. Holy shit.”

It’s flirty. It’s validating. It’s a guaranteed way to keep the spark alive until next time.

And, babe, it goes a long way in ensuring there actually is a next time. These little gestures let her know that you’ve got her on your mind all the time. Not just when your dick is inside her 👀.

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Okay, confession time!

Have you ever had a really hot quickie? 🔥 Where was it? What made it so exciting?

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Have you ever tried a blindfold with your partner?
Here’s 👇 why you should add one to your next bedroom session 😏 …

If she’s dripping before you even touch her… yeah, these definitely work 😏.

Make your next session unforgettable.

The keys to hotter sex?

Confidence. Control. Being in tune with her desires.

And yes — dirty talk.

Babe,

Here’s the truth that she’s not going to tell you:

She wants it dirty.

She’s craving raw, primal sex

with you in control.

She needs you to use these phrases;

and yes —

the fact that they’re so dirty?

It only adds fuel to the fire.

Say them like you own her,

and she won’t just come.

The memory of your sex together —

will live in her head.

Every little naughty detail, playing on repeat.

And she’ll be back for more.

Scroll down for a complete list of dirty phrases to work with (below).

But first — you need to learn how to use them.

I’m giving you the entire playbook.

Everything you need to know about incorporating dirty talk
into your bedroom sessions.

And, babe?

This is how you’re going to get the

“Fuck me harder, Daddy!”

that you’ve been dying to hear.

Do’s ✅ and Don’ts ❌ for Using Dirty Talk in Bed

Do:

✅ Trust the process.
Dirty talk might feel uncomfortable at first,
but trust me —

This is going to level up your sex life
and you’ll be so glad you crossed over to the dirty side 😏.

✅ Maintain eye contact when you say these lines.

✅ Take in every inch of her body with your eyes…
like you’re hungry and want more. Need more.

✅ Say these lines with confidence.
You’re the one in charge. So act like it.

✅ Remember that silence in bed is your enemy.

If you have a brain freeze moment…
And suddenly you can’t recall
any dirty talk phrases to use —

Try this: moan or spank her (if she’s into that),
give a little tug on her hair, or simply
say “Yesss” with a smile and eye contact.

✅ Incorporate a mix of all four categories:
praise, commands, statements,
and questions — whenever possible.

✅ Take mental notes of her reactions —
you’ll begin to register which phrases land well.

You’ll likely notice a theme;
Some women respond well to several categories,
some prefer one over the other(s), etc.

✅ Rotate the phrases you use;
be sure to change it up from time to time.

✅ Atunement (being in sync or on the same page)
with your partner
is necessary for all bedroom activities,
but it is especially important when it comes to dirty talk.

You, being in tune with what excites her and,
on the flip side, what kills the vibe for her?

👉 That’s essential for great sex.

This is where the mental note taking comes into play;
observe her facial expressions, the way her body reacts, etc. —
and flag this data for later.

✅ Provide the appropriate aftercare. More details here.

✅ Prioritize communication outside of the bedroom, too.
The next day — have an in-person debrief
and ask if she has feedback or adjustments for next time.

✅ Rinse and repeat.

Don’t:

❌ Do not smile or joke.
If you make it into a joke, the dirty talk loses its power.
And it becomes… not sexy.

Alright, fine.
You can ✅ smile if you’re giving her a compliment or praise.

But don’t ❌ smile when you’re giving commands.

Instead, aim ✅ for a firm tone and a stern demeanor
when you’re directing her.

❌ Don’t intentionally bite your lip (especially when
you’re looking at her — it’s cheesy).

❌ Don’t forget to ask in advance
if there are certain names or phrases to avoid.
Personally, I don’t love “bitch,”
but I do love hearing “slut” and “dirty girl.”

❌ Don’t lean too heavily into verbal degradation
(unless it’s been pre-approved by your partner).

👉 You’ll want to proceed with caution
for that kind of dirty talk.

There’s so much to say on that ^ topic;
If you’re curious, check out this post
about verbal degradation and BDSM.

The article describes the psychology
and how to incorporate this kink
(in the appropriate way(s))
into your bedroom sessions.

👉 One good line at the right moment can flip the switch.

Master these and then watch

as your sex life transforms —

from good… to f*cking incredible.

If you’re a beginner,

👉 pick 3 or 4 to use ✅ and then add more

in future sessions as you become more comfortable.

Variety is the spice of life —

that’s why I’m giving you more than 50 phrases to keep in rotation.

The Dirty Talk Phrases Women Want to Hear in Bed

1. “You feel so fucking good.”

2. “I want all of you.”

3. “You’re so wet for me.”

4. “God, you taste amazing.”

5. “I love the way you moan for me.”

6. “You’re mine, do you understand me?”

7. “It feels amazing when you do that. Don’t stop.”

8. “F*ck. I could do this all night.”

9. “You’re dripping just thinking about __
   (how I’ll make you cum over and over.. or ..
   you’re thinking about
   how it’ll feel to have my cock inside of you…etc.)”
   State it confidently — like it’s a fact.

10. “You’re so tight…it feels incredible.”

11. “Feeling needy tonight, are we?”

12. “What’s that? You want me to … (make her say it aloud).”

13. “Keep going… don’t stop.”

14. “You like it when I do this, don’t you?”

15. “Your body is mine to play with.”

16. “I can’t get enough of you.”

17. “Look at me.”

18. “You’re making me crazy right now.”

19. “Mmm… F*ck. You take it so well.”

20. “Good girl. That’s it.”

21. “Don’t you dare cum yet.”

22. “You look so sexy like that.”

23. “That’s it… you’re doing so well. Such a good slut for me.”

24. “It gets me so f*cking hard when you do that.”

25. “I want to hear you beg.”

26. “You’re driving me insane.”

27. “I need you.”

28. “You love this, don’t you?”

29. “Can’t wait to see how loud you get when I’m inside you.”

30. “Eyes on me.”

31. “Maybe I should pull out and tease you some more.” (and then do it!)

32. “So needy already.”

33. “Look at you, dripping and begging.”

34. “I love watching that ass bounce.”

35. “Can’t hide how much you want me, can you?”

36. “You’re soaked… that’s hot.”

37. “Yes, scream for me.”

38. “Such a naughty little slut.”

39. “I love when you ride me.”

40. “Stay exactly where you are.”

41. “I’m not done with you yet.”

42. “Your little noises are driving me insane.”

43. “You love when I use you like this, don’t you?”

44. “Whose pussy is this?”

45. “You’re doing a great job. I love that.”

46. “You like that?” pause the action, wait for a response. “Yes, what?” (she answers: “Yes, Sir.” or whatever name). Only then do you continue with what you were doing.

47. “You’re driving me insane with those noises of yours.”

48. “I love hearing you moan. Go ahead, let it out.”

49. “Just like that. Good girl. Cum for me.”

50. “Yes, that feels amazing.”

51. “I love watching my cock move in and out of your pretty pussy.”

52. “You’re incredible.”

53. “I love making you cum.”

54. “Do you like when I touch you like that?” pause “Yeah? You do” with a grin and eye contact.

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Final Notes

It’s not about delivering the perfect lines.

It’s about how you say them.

Low. Rough. Dirty.

With confidence, like you own her.

Like you’re in control.

This isn’t pillow talk. It’s power.

And babe, I’m telling you —

using dirty talk in bed?

👉 That’s the difference between decent sex

and the kind she’ll be replaying in her head for weeks.

💥

I’m dying to know —

Which of these phrases are you planning to try tonight?

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The short list, the dealbreakers, and the glow-up your profile didn’t know it needed.

Tips For Finding a Play Partner

What is a play partner?

Some people call it a lover, others call it a FWB (friend with benefits).
A play partnership is a casual agreement you have with someone about sex.
It involves an ongoing sexual relationship — with no romance involved.

You simply get together to play (play = have sex 😉…get it?).

What’s that, Kk? No strings attached fun?
Yep. That’s basically what a play partner is.

Maybe you’re saying: Sign me up! How do I get one of those? 😝

Keep reading; I’m sharing my tried-and-true advice for finding a great play partner.

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Tip # 1 - The Short List

Make a short list of the top priority items you need in order for the play partnership to work out.
Here are a few of mine👇.
Your short list might look very different depending on the season of life you’re currently in.

My Must Haves:

• Geographically close — I don’t have a lot of time to travel in the car to meet up with someone because I have young kids.

• Compatible sexually — This isn’t always easy to determine without actually testing the waters. But if you two are at very opposite ends of the spectrum (think: a sadist vs someone who leans a little vanilla and doesn’t enjoy pain 🤣) then it’s probably not going to work out.

• Chemistry — That’s self explanatory. This can often be assessed just from swapping messages and pictures, but I’d also recommend doing a video call.
  If the spark is there, you’ll know it.

• Logistics matter — Where, when, and how often you’ll meet.

  Maybe you work overnights and therefore your availability is limited. Or perhaps you can’t have guests at your home, so you need to find someone who can host.

  
  💋 Bottom line: Put some thought into what you need from this person. Getting clear on what you want — i.e. creating the short list — is really helpful when looking for a FWB.

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Tip # 2 - Dealbreakers

Next, brainstorm your dealbreakers. The items that are non-negotiable for you.

Here are some examples👇

1. No smoking or vaping when you’re together.

2. You share the same STI screening habits, safe sex practices, etc.

3. You need someone who is safe and respectful.

4. Maybe you’ve got one absolutely “must have” kink that you require for compatibility in bed. Cool — just know it might make the search more difficult. 😉

Once you’ve got your short list — AKA must haves — and your dealbreakers, you’re ready to start looking 👀 for your needle (needle in a haystack…Get it? 😝).

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Tip # 3 - Stay Open to a Variety of People

Your fav sex positions, your passion for dirty talk or spanking, and your fetish for DP?

Yeah, you’ll likely never find a perfect match for every single sexual preference you have.
Flexibility is key. Some people just aren’t ready for the super kinky stuff.

My advice? Don’t automatically dismiss that newbie who says NO to every idea you bring up 🤭.

You know the ones I’m talking about:
Would you ever try anal sex? No!
Can I cum on your face? No!
How about blindfolding and tying you up so I can do naughty things to you? No!
… you get the idea.
(Guilty of being this person! 🤦🏻‍♀️ Haha. I guess we all start somewhere? 🤷🏻‍♀️ 😝)

💋 Bottom line: If you’re seeing each other consistently, you might just succeed in opening their world up a bit.
This will likely come with time and patience — more on that here in my post below: From Vanilla to Very, Very Dirty — In 6 Steps.

Looking to introduce something new in the bedroom? My suggestions for how to have that conversation:

Tip # 4 - Spread the word

Here’s an example of how this worked for me:

I matched with someone really awesome on a dating app, but our schedules weren’t compatible. We decided to stay connected as friends. Months later, he introduced me to one of his single friends. And that guy ended up being a great fit for me — all because we’d stayed in touch!

💋 Bottom line: Let people know you’re looking, keep in touch with the cool people you meet IRL or online, and you never know.
A friend of a friend type thing and boom! You’ve found your needle. 😍

Tip # 5 - Give your profile a little glow up

Ideas for you to spruce up your online “dating” profile:
Ahem. I see you making a face at your screen.
Sorry, but it’s 2025! Your biggest pool of candidates — regardless of age — will be found online! Get with the program, babe.

• Add additional info to your bio. Write at least a paragraph!

• We want to see more than “I’m not good at bios. If you’re curious to know something, just ask.” Or “Ladies, hit me up!”

• Try to let your personality come through in both your pics and your writing.
  (Maybe you’ll say that you’re terrible at writing. Okay, but at least make an attempt! We appreciate when you’ve made an effort 😉)

• Give some details about your life! What are your favorite hobbies, places to vacation, ideas for first dates? etc.
  
  Listen. If you want her to be able to slide into your DMs, you’ve gotta give her something to work with 😏.
  
  Have you ever tried to think of something to write in a message to a cutie when their profile has zero (personalized) info?

  
  It’s really freaking hard. Maybe try to make it a little easier on us, yeah?

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  Tip # 5 Continued - More ideas for the profile makeover

• Update your pics! It makes a huge difference. Seriously.

• Photos are a great way for you to inject some personality into your profile. Consider adding a pic of you at a sports game if that’s your thing. Ditto for other passions, hobbies, etc. We also enjoy seeing a pic of you with your pet 😉.

• You could ask a friend to take some pics of you. And I do mean just *you.*
  We don’t want to see other females in the pics, and group photos aren’t any better. It adds confusion when we’re swiping (which one are you?).

  Another idea: Set the self timer on your phone.

• Ideally you’d have a mix of headshots, **full body pics,** and candids.
  Candids are photos where you’re not looking directly at the camera.
  
  (Yes, that’s correct — pics WITH clothes on. No one likes receiving a dick pic, okay, buddy?).

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  In case you’re scrolling and missed that last bullet point:

We do not want dick pics. Please. I don’t care if that’s your best feature (in your mind).

Here’s what DOES work:

A sexy pic that leaves something to the imagination.

Let’s say, for example, you remove one article of clothing and pose for a pic with your self-timer? Hell yeah! I will be positively drooling 🤤 over that kind of click bait.

Keep some of that sexy body of yours covered up, you hear me?
Let her imagination wander 😈😈😈..
You can thank me later 😉.

💋 Bottom line: Spruce up your profile, actually fill out your bio, and update your pics! Oh, and save the dreaded D pics for your private collection, alright?

*P.S. — always a good idea to get her consent before sending her any type of pic (whether PG-13 or R rated — ask first).

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He’s posting to his stories but can’t text you back? That’s your sign, babe. The right man won’t leave you “on read.”

Older and Wiser?

We all want to be pursued, courted, flirted with, wined and dined and then taken to bed.

(No? Just me?)

I kid, I kid.

Regardless of your life stage, it’s a basic human desire to be WANTED.

And, y’all, contrary to what you might think, I don’t always “get the guy.”
Sometimes they’re just not that into me. Shocking, I know 😂.

I’m not always the best with, shall we say, reading between the lines.
In other words — picking up the signals he’s giving that are SO Very Clear to anyone with eyes and ears.

🥸🤦🏻‍♀️

The number of times I allowed myself to be someone’s plan b or plan c?

Ugh. I literally cringe at the thought.

So, from someone who’s been there — and made every mistake along the way — I’d like to share some of what I’ve learned with you.

No More Jumping Through Hoops

Here’s the thing: we might be able to see a friend’s situation with perfectly clear vision, but when it comes to our own problems, things can get a bit hazy.

For people-pleasers, especially, (hello! that’s me!) it’s very easy to fall back into old patterns.

Suddenly you find yourself repeating the same mistakes: chasing, begging, or changing who you are in hopes of receiving attention or validation.

Twisting yourself into a pretzel, trying make yourself into something you’re not.

And there are few things I hate more than seeing one of my incredibly smart, beautiful, and talented friends wasting her time on a guy that is just plain not deserving of her.

Pouring your time and energy into someone who won’t show up in the ways that matter. What a waste!

You, my friend, are a gift to those around you.

Please hear me when I tell you:

This “talking stage” or “situationship” is going nowhere.

That guy doesn’t see your value, and you need to cut your losses.

Goodbye to Confusion. Hello to Clarity.

We are not settling for plan B, frozen pizza energy anymore, okay?

We need to reserve our attention and energy for people who are excited to spend time with us.

We will surround ourselves solely with those who recognize our worth and don’t need to be convinced of just how damn amazing we are.

If you’ve been stuck in limbo, confused, or working too hard to keep a guy’s interest, these are the signs it might be time to let go.

1. You Feel Insecure or Confused

If you’re feeling confused, you need to learn to associate that emotion with a resolute “this is not a good fit!” mindset.

Spending time and energy trying to analyze the “hidden meaning” behind his texts, or attempting to gauge his level of attraction or interest in you — those are not healthy behaviors.

The right guy isn’t going to keep you guessing. He won’t leave you questioning your worth.

So if you’re always feeling just a little off balance and never quite sure where you two stand?

Do yourself a favor and close the door on this situation.

Confusion is not chemistry in disguise.

2. He Doesn’t Ask About You

When every conversation circles back to him, that’s not curiosity—it’s self-absorption.

Someone who’s genuinely into you wants to know your world.

He’ll remember little things about you: like the names of your loved ones or your favorite music.
He’ll follow up RE: that exam you were studying for and he’ll ask you how it went.

3. You’re Always the One Initiating

If you stopped texting, replying to his insta story, or suggesting plans… would he ever reach out?

Mutual interest shows up in consistent action.

Someone who appreciates you won’t make you feel like you need to jump through hoops to get — or keep — his attention.

4. He’s “Too Busy” for You or He Doesn’t Want to Commit to Plans In Advance

People make time for who they want to see.

If his calendar magically becomes clear when his buddies ask him to meet for golf, drinks, or chilling — but it’s too full to make plans with you?
Babe, you’ve got your answer.

He doesn’t see you as worth prioritizing.

I know that stings, but it’s time to face the facts.

5. Your Friends Aren’t Sold On Him

Your friends point out the discrepancies:

He’s got time to fold his laundry, but can’t be bothered to call or text you.

He’s been active on social media, but hasn’t responded to your texts in over three days. (cough – been there)

They roll their eyes every time you mention his name, or they’re forever telling you that you deserve better.

Trust their perspective. They can see what you can’t.

6. You’re Changing Yourself to Please Him

If you find yourself hiding your cute little quirks, downplaying your interests or smarts, or pretending to like what he likes.

Babe, you’re not being loved for you — you’re performing.

We need to stop pretending we like acid rock.

No more shrinking ourselves to fit into his life.

7. You Feel Drained After Seeing Him

The right connection leaves you feeling confident, secure, and excited for future dates.
It’s not supposed to be “difficult,” like you’ve just spent three hours trying to put together an Ikea desk and you’re frustrated and exhausted.

And you definitely shouldn’t be squabbling over little things if you’re only a few weeks into talking/seeing each other.

8. You’re Ignoring The Red Flags

He didn’t pick up the tab for your coffee.
You’re always the one asking when he’s free or pushing to make plans.
He snaps at you after a “rough day” or he casually calls his ex a “bitch” and a “gold digger.”
He blows up your phone 50 times during dinner/bath/bedtime with your kids — and then gets annoyed when you don’t reply.

None of that is small. None of that should be brushed aside.

Those alarm bells, and that feeling in your gut? They’re real.

And if you’re seeing behavior like this early on — when people are supposed to be putting their best foot forward? That’s not just a red flag. It’s a neon sign flashing run.

Stop pretending like you two will have that fantasy ending that’s playing on repeat in your head.

The reality is right in front of you. Open your eyes.

9. Talk Is Cheap

Ask yourself:
– Is he respecting my time and boundaries?
– Is he showing up consistently?
– Is he matching my energy (without swinging from zero effort to obsessive texting)?
– Does he treat women well? Does he treat me well?

Words mean very little — anyone can say “you’re sexy” or “you’re beautiful.”
Look at what he does. Does his behavior actually reflect respect, care, and appreciation?

Here’s the bottom line: you don’t lower your standards to make one guy “fit” into your perfect ending.

You hold the line. You keep your crown on.

And you remember that you are the prize. 👑

It’s How We’re Wired

Our attachment is formed in childhood. When love and approval from caregivers were inconsistent, many of us internalized the message: I can “win them over.” I just need to try harder.

That belief follows us into adulthood — into marriages, dating, friendships, and even our careers.
We find ourselves jumping through hoops, chasing, performing, or begging, instead of knowing our worth from the start.

Most of us don’t even realize we’re repeating the pattern until we take a step back to reflect.

The shift happens when you remind yourself:

I’m amazing. If this friend, coworker, boyfriend, or partner can’t see that? Then … bye. That’s their loss.

It sounds simple, doesn’t it? But putting it into action is so freaking hard!

The Universe Has a Way of Sending Make-Up Exams

Sometimes I think life will hand you the same challenge again and again until you finally pass the test.
As humbling as it is to sit for the same lesson on repeat, here’s a silver lining:

You doing the hard work now? It’s a sacrifice that is well worth it.

You’re setting an example for those who are closest to you.

Same Lesson. Different Guy.

So when I find myself ~~answering that late night “you up” text~~ hoping it’ll be different this time, only to get knocked on my ass yet again. LOL

Or I take a chance by sending a risky text with a naughty pic, only to be left ON DELIVERED!?

Like, ummm… excuse me. You didn’t even bother to OPEN the message? THAT’S how unimportant I am to you? WTF?

Told you there’d be some cringeworthy level of embarrassing confessions on my substack!

When I find myself repeating old habits only to fail spectacularly and be left with my cheeks burning, yet again.

Here’s what I’ve realized.

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✨ I Hope She Never Loses Sight of Her Sparkle ✨

The struggle, the falling on my face, the humiliating moments — it’s all energy well spent.

Because if I can raise my little girl to have more self worth?

To know with unshakeable certainty that she is just incredible, and truly a GIFT to everyone around her?

And that she should never, ever settle. Or chase. Or beg.

Then, yes, it’s all worth it.

Every ego-bruising mistake is actually an investment in her self-confidence.

Because one day she’ll look back and think,
“My mom never dimmed her light — she just kept shining brighter.”

So here’s to being left on Delivered… and reframing it as Message Received.

Let’s stop waiting for his text and start writing our own damn story.

Because, babe — if he can’t appreciate your sparkle?

It’s time to find someone who will. ✨

With love,
Kk 💋

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He lets out an exhale when he feels how wet and warm her p*ssy is. He begins to f*ck her slowly, teasingly. They both hear the wetness coming from between her legs — a dead giveaway that she’s loving this, too.
He guides the pace and tugs her hair as he thrusts into her, forcing her head to tilt back each time.

He pulls out, whispers in her ear, “you like that?”
“Yesss,” she moans in response.
“Do you want me to fuck you some more?”
“Mmmmm. Yes.”
He growls, “that’s my good little slut.” He grips her hips tightly and shoves his cock back inside her roughly. She gasps audibly.

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Two fantasies. One poll.

🔥 A bonfire scene with Daddy’s friends.
🚿 A shower stall cluster with soap, skin & moans.

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Scenario 1 : Backyard Bonfire

Daddy and his friends are drinking some beers and sitting around a bonfire. His free use slut is told to kneel by the fire, in front of him. She knows not to make eye contact unless given permission.

Daddy orders in a quiet voice, “Alright my little slut, you can start sucking my cock.”

She eagerly unzips his pants while his friends watch with interest. He glances at them with a smirk, and asks: “How many of you would love a free use toy like her?”

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Now?

I get her.

And honestly… she’s a lot more fun.

Growth is wild.

Especially when it happens
somewhere between your comfort zone…
and your curiosity.

Ten years ago I was vanilla AF.

Your typical good girl:
maybe a little rigid, and definitely a LOT judgy.

Fast forward to today?

Let’s just say my curiosity got the better of me.

And spoiler:
I’m glad it did 😏.

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Here are three things I swore I’d never try — until I did.

1. Call Someone “Daddy” 👀

Once upon a time, the word alone made me cringe.
It felt like something out of a bad porno.

Or maybe
it was just…

not for normal people like me,
with normal sex lives.

You know what I mean —

those of us judgy folks
”regular” peeps
who are likely to think:

Um, wait a minute!
How about that steamy session in the shower yesterday?
That’s not spicy enough for you!?

(Haha wow.
Now, looking back?
Guess I might’ve been a little boring in bed…😝)

In fact, it took me a long time to get comfortable using “Daddy” in bed.

I was almost a full year into exploring in the LS
when I finally got past my discomfort and reluctance.

My play partner at the time was SO excited
when I announced I was finally ready to call him Daddy in bed.
He’d been wanting it for a while,
but it just felt WEIRD to me at first.

The surprising part?

How freaking HOT

and liberating it was for me.

And — how natural it feels to use now.

Need an example?

Maybe: a little “Yes, Daddy!” enthusiasm
slipped into the mix
whenever he’s doing that thing I love…?

Listen, my friend — don’t knock it til you try it 😉!

2. Take Private Videos Of Myself 📱

Gosh, this took me a super long time to get comfortable with, too!

It always made me incredibly uncomfortable
when guys would ask for a pic or vid.

And they didn’t just want to see my upper half, if you know what I mean.

They would ask to see my actual body — all of it.

Full frontal, no censoring.

And then inevitably another request would come —
ahem… you know what I’m referring to.

The “spread your legs for me” kind of pic.

Or the
“show me how you like to be touched, baby”
sort of vid.

Ugh.

Yes, I’m aware.
There are ways to keep spicy pics and vids private.

Like using Snapchat to send self-destructing content, for example.

But, y’all,
I was even reluctant to send those!

So when it came to pleasuring myself on video 😯

and then sharing that video 😱!?

With a partner?!

Yeah, FORGET about it.

With baby steps,
I’ve slowly grown more comfortable with the idea.

Now, at age 36,
I’ve taken a handful of short 5 or 10 second clips;
but only for special partners whom I fully trust.

Not for some Joe Schmo
who thinks he’s entitled to see every intimate part of me 😒.

I’ll add this:

I’ve still never consented
to using toys on myself and sharing those kind of vids.

And believe me — men have certainly requested it.

The bottom line?

We all have our own comfort levels.

I’ve noticed that my own limits —
and my willingness to venture
outside the usual bedroom routine —
have definitely changed through the years.

Edited to add:

Omg…! I just had a flashback.
One time (years ago, when I was vanilla)
I was sexting with someone.

And then he asked for a pussy pic —
and internally I was like …
😱 ahhhh
nooo!

So instead of taking one of my pussy…
I umm…
I searched for a pic from google 😳🙈
and sent it to him.

Lol I’m dying of embarrassment right now 💀

Yep, you read that right.

I literally took some stranger’s pussy pic
and passed it off as mine.

And it was all because I was too shy
to take a snap of my privates 🤣🙈.

3. Have Sex in the Woods 🌲

I’d always pictured bug bites, awkward positions,
and maybe even getting arrested!
Or worse — being caught naked in the act!

Haha — and no,
I didn’t mess up the order of those possible outcomes 🤣.
We’re talking about vanilla me
from ten years ago, remember?

But the reality?

Sex in the woods was thrilling, a little reckless,
and one of those
“I can’t believe I’m doing this right now” moments.

There’s something about fresh air
and the possibility of someone catching a glimpse of us 😈
that makes it intoxicating.

The moral of the story?

A lot of the things
we swear off in our twenties
aren’t actually “no’s”…
they’re just “not yets.” 😉

✨

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