A few months ago, I posted a reel on Instagram saying:

“My Roman Empire is that women are biologically designed to carry children, and our bodies, needs, and experiences are usually different from those of a man’s, even if we never have children, and that it’s important to recognize this.”

To me, this seemed pretty simple and straightforward, and it’s a g…

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OK, so I’ve definitely been thinking about my “addiction” to social media for years, and I know I’m not alone here.

We blame the phones, and understandably so. We can use them to access social media at the literal tips of our fingers, anywhere, anytime, even — or perhaps…

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Welcome back to our summer series, Sovereign woman summer.

This is my personal challenge to myself and invitation to all of you to take radical responsibility for our emotional, mental, and spiritual state and environment.

As I explained a few weeks ago, I’m practicing:

• Holding my feminine frame when faced with overwhelm or spiraling

• Maintaining daily wellness hygiene habits that optimize overall feminine health

• Stewarding my words and resources carefully

• Guarding my “feminine territory” with self-awareness and personal responsibility

Since these are rather broad and vague, I wanted to get down to the nitty gritty of what this means and how it applies to you.

Holding my feminine frame

This means taking responsibility for how I’m reacting to stimulus or stress in my environment.

This begins with my daily rituals and practices that keep me grounded and reduce overwhelm and hyper-vigilance. When I’m creating consistency and stability in the parts of my life I can generally still maintain “reign” over, my nervous system stays calmer and more resilient to unexpected or emotionally evocative events or interactions.

So, this naturally leads into:

Maintaining daily wellness habits

This is the “active” part of taking radical responsibility for our internal state. I’m committing to a few key consistent, “boring” daily wellness habits to keep my nervous system grounded:

• Consistent wake-up and bedtime

• Getting dawn light, outdoors, every day

• Daily morning walk

• Guardrails around phone time

• Consistent meal timing + nutrition

• Daily mobility movement

• Consistent strength training

• Intentional self-care rituals around bathing time

I’d be remiss not to mention that using my Brick device to block distracting apps has been a big game-changer in guarding my time more carefully; you can save 10% with my link if you’d like to try one. It’s definitely money very well-spent.

Also as always the wellness protocol I’m using for nutrition and strength training is Flex Your Feminine, for which I also have a 10% coupon for y’all to use.

Finally, my Pranamat is a big part of my intentional self-care rituals and I’m challenging myself to be using it more regularly this summer because it’s really effective at reducing stress and easing muscle tension, plus it promotes lymphatic drainage which I am always aiming to do in my daily rituals.

Stewarding my words and resources

This is a huge one, and definitely plays into guarding phone time (see above) as well as practicing personal social media etiquette like not responding to contentious comments, blocking people liberally, and muting or unfollowing accounts that pique me. Also, the good old fashioned “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all” is very applicable here.

As for resources, this requires daily diligence in planning meals, errands, and budgeting, but I’m going deeper than simple budgeting discipline. I’m focusing on waste not want not in the kitchen, practicing mending or making do, combing the charity shops for useful, quality items, and exercising contentedness with the plethora of resources I already have.

Guarding my “feminine territory”

Wrapping up the overarching theme of my sovereign woman summer is my mindfulness for my own feminine territory. This means the things in my life that belong to me and are under my sovereignty to influence and control.

This means my body, my home, and my children, but also my environment – the mood I cultivate in my own heart and create with my reactivity and responsiveness.

Again, this has a lot of overlap with and in many ways is the overarching challenge here, so much of it serves the same purpose.

Putting my phone down, turning on some music, tying a cute apron around my waist, and relishing in making dinner.

Taking a deep breath, saying a short prayer, pausing before reacting, and then choosing my words carefully and with love.

Sitting down amid a million unfinished projects to take stock of what’s essential, make a quick list, and start tackling one thing at a time.

Intentionally making space for a slow, nourishing morning, a delicious breakfast, a controlled workout, and gentle walk.

It’s about taking mastery of our own perception and mood and instead of trying to beat ourselves into submission, taking stock of what we need and taking care of what we can tend to and nourish a little bit.

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Hello again, my beautiful friends!

I shared in my last post my desire to share more raw, real, normal life things with you about my life and personal wanderings through feminine wellness/biological femininity and what’s really healed me:

The truth is, I started out this page feeling extremely performative as it was well outside of my comfort zone of fiery…

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I have been going through a radical healing process over the last several years, as I know many others have done in the wake of, well, the last several years of insanity in the world that has forced us to confront our own need for internal stability and healthy relationships and lifestyles.

This page, of course, is a result of this process, and I realized today that there could be no better way to share with you what I’ve learned on my journey through feminine wellness from a solid, Christian perspective than to take you along with me as I continue to walk it.

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Because the truth is, as I’ve often mentioned here and in the private community, the ideal of “Christian femininity” is not becoming something that you’re not to a point that you can turn around and say to other women, “here’s how to be feminine” or “here’s how to be a ‘biblical woman.’”

The ideal of Christian femininity is making peace with the fact that God made you female, and the basic biological and spiritual realities that accompany this.

It’s not about performing “femininity” in our way of dress, our job description, the way we talk about men, or our ideology (while these all can easily be natural offshoots of wholesome peace with femininity), it’s about being at peace in Christ with your struggles, your imperfections, your wounds, and your natural gifts as well as valid needs.

So, I’m not coming here as a woman who is fully healed and has a perfect, objective framework to pass on to you (she doesn’t exist).

I’m coming here as a sister in Christ who is at peace with her femininity and has come to know the Lord through all the pains, challenges, and pleasures of being a woman and embracing my sexual uniqueness.

Sovereign woman summer

Countering the “hot girl summer” trend that has been delightfully parodied for years, my version is “sovereign woman summer,” a season dedicated to taking radical responsibility for my spiritual, mental, and physical environment – which for a woman, are all one in the same.

This is not about personal empowerment or self-actualization, it’s about devoted submission to God and how He made my body and His framework for optimal spiritual health.

My sovereign woman summer is going to be focused on building consistency and structure in the way I organize my life as well as my thoughts, the temporal as well as the spiritual.

Healthy femininity feels safe relaxing into trustworthy masculinity, something we see in its highest form in the practice of Christian spirituality as the person relaxes into the truth, justice, and mercy of God.

This summer, my practice in sovereignty and surrender are going to be aimed at:

• Exercising holding my feminine frame when faced with overwhelm or spiraling

• Maintaining daily wellness hygiene habits that optimize overall feminine health

• Stewarding my words and resources carefully

• Guarding my “feminine territory” with self-awareness and personal responsibility

Over the coming weeks, I’m going to be elaborating much more on what this means, what it looks like, and the actual steps I’m taking in my life to grow in these areas (as well as how it’s working out!)

I’ll have lots of practical tips, example routines, product recommendations, and all that good stuff as well as personal, raw, and intimate insight into biological femininity, self-knowledge, and healing deep-seated wounds.

You’re naturally going to get much more out of this by joining our private community behind the paywall, where I’ll be sharing more in-depth and connecting with you all personally for coaching and support! But please follow along either way, because they’ll still be plenty for free subscribers as well.

I have been deeply impacted over the last through years through my work with Kayla Brooks of Flex Your Feminine, whose fitness protocol has completely changed my life, ripped me open, showed me myself, and helped me to tear down and rebuild long-standing patterns of shame, distrust, and discordance with God the creator.

So, I’d be remiss not to mention that I part of this journey is concurrent with the steps I’m taking through FYF to cultivate a healthier metabolism and get to a set point weight in a way that honors my feminine design and challenges and shapes my character, rather than just prescribes reps and meal plans. I can’t recommend this protocol enough, truly, I can’t do it justice in this brief mention though so check it out yourself to learn more (you can save 10% with my link if you decide to sign up).

I have also formed a bit of my own framework for feminine wellness over on my main page, so we’re going to be following the principles laid out here:

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I’m really excited to share my own personal journey with you all more, and hopefully inspire you to cultivate more ease, stability, and sovereignty in your experience as a woman.

Something that really frustrates me within the “Christian” “trad” space is a harmful idea that the key to a happy marriage is for women to simply suck up their feelings and not voice their concerns or needs to their husbands, as I’ve been writing lately:

Naturally, this message isn’t always conveyed outright, but often implied by “helpful” ma…

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I get a very common comment from ladies who follow my main page, A Homemaker’s Manifesto, and it concerns me.

The comment is usually some version of, “I’m really still unlearning a lot of feminism in my relationship.”

When pressed to elaborate, women usually mean that they have a hard time just being quiet and submissive and cheerful all the time, like a terrible caricature of so-called “biblical womanhood.”

The truth? There was a time when I could relate tot his, when my views were decidedly more legalistic and fundamentalist.

This was when I viewed the role of women in society as performative, rather than inherent and organic. Having emotional needs, disagreeing with your husband, feeling critical about men, or saying anything “negative” to someone else feels, to a dysregulated system poorly interpreting Christianity, like “rebellion.”

Now, to be clear: Scripture calls Christian women to certain very holy and good standards that it is good for us to strive for.

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Yet that striving occurs within the context of submitting our thoughts to Christ, not using our own (non-existent) power to overcome our flaws.

Your femininity is not a flaw.

When your husband is doing something that upsets you, or you disagree with him, or you find yourself angry about male abuse of women in the world at large…

This does not mean you haven’t fully deprogrammed from feminism. At least, not exactly.

The issue isn’t that you still “think like a feminist” because you have feelings that you sometimes urgently need to express.

The issue is that you are trying to suppress unresolved emotional wounds with spiritual performance, and have no idea how to express your feelings or handle them in a way that feels safe to your nervous system.

The truth is, you are still operating the same way a feminist — and anyone else with a disordered worldview — operates, in one specific way: trying to fix yourself through self-powered striving rather than healing.

Let me explain:

You could have the most solid, Christ-aligned-on-paper values about morality and theology, and still be very much stuck in a “works-based” mentality.

You’re striving to prove that you’re a “biblical woman,” or you’re striving to cover your sins with performative “biblical woman” behavior.

In the realm of so-called “biblical womanhood,” women are often taught to look with skepticism on their feelings and to focus on cold, hard, morally righteous obedience instead.

There is so much theological truth to the concept of choosing to obey God over your own heart; this is the lifelong sanctifying process of being saved, 100%.

But acknowledging feelings is not the same as letting them lead — it’s how we bring them to Christ’s feet to be healed.

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The nuance is in the fact that stigmatizing your feelings as wrong does not make them go away. Suppression doesn’t produce holiness. It produces infection.

Consider this analogy to illustrate:

Imagine you had a wound, and instead of examining it, cleaning it out, and treating it with medicine, you tried to cover it up. When the pain got unbearable and infection festered, you angrily rubbed a harsh abrasive in it, trying to scrape away the pain, then covered it up again.

Each time you wrapped it up more tightly, each time the infection oozed out and began to stink, it was worse. You’d be locked in a never-ending and ever-worsening cycle of resenting something for not healing as you refused to treat it.

Our feelings are the same way. As they flare up, it’s a sign that something in our heart is amiss, that there is a wound there — likely one we’ve been neglecting to treat and that has been festering for a long time.

The problem is not that you have feelings; the problem is that you are trapped in a false binary between suppression and pride.

You think your only options are to silence yourself or to explode.

This is a familiar pendulum swing to many women who have experienced trauma, heartbreak, and disordered family life in childhood.

You’re either burying your needs because you’ve learned that it’s safer not to express them, or you’re desperately trying to fulfill your needs through ineffective means, like arguments, passive aggression, resentment, bitterness, or fleshly pursuits like social media scrolling or substances.

The truth is that your basic needs as a human being are totally valid.

This does not mean it’s guaranteed that someone else is going to fulfill them for you.

It does mean that you can rest in the truth that Christ fully understands why you long for perfect love and validation from other human beings.

This is a fully embodied experience — a radical shift you can feel in your body as your nervous system calms, your reactions soften, and your heart begins to trust again. You feel it in your real, lived experience as a woman… and most of all, in the way you experience your emotions.

This is the heart of the work we do here at Created Female, and I’m barely scratching the surface as to how we move into this healthier relationship with our emotions.

If you’re ready to stop covering wounds and start healing them, we’re going to be talking about real, tangible steps you can take to bring about this shift in your own experience inside The Well, our private Telegram space for Created Female’s inner-circle students.

Upgrade today and scroll down for a link, as well as access to our whole archive of resources on nervous system regulation and feminine healing. (Click here to learn more.)

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When God created mankind, He created us male and female.

We tend to take this for granted and don’t give it much thought. The human species, as well as many other species on earth, comes as either male or female.

Yet none of the other creatures were made male and female in His image.

In the natural world, as well as mankind, we accept a simple, fundamental truth: the male and female of the species interact and work together and procreate to produce young (i.e., “fruit”).

What this looks like varies widely depending on the species, but in the human family, we can be assured that the way we interact and relate is by God’s design.

It is certainly a result of the Fall that strife exists between men and women, but it is not a result of the Fall that men and women are different and serve different roles in human relationships, often (especially in our modern age) when we don’t even notice it.

The following series is based on what I’ve gleaned from my favorite books on relationships and male/female design, all of which are listed here if you’re interested in these titles.

But you can see much of what we’re about to discuss in regular, everyday life, in common tropes we all know to be true in the way male and female human beings relate to one another, in novels, movies, sitcoms, popular music, and in our most intimate relationships.

It is also based squarely on objective Christian truth that accepts that we were made male and female in the image of our Creator.

Also, much of what I’m about to say is a very broad generality about the differences between men and women: human beings are incredibly complex and have many different temperaments.

Relationships between men and women are not unlike pregnancy and childbirth; so many women have similar experiences that other women don’t have at all. While heartburn, swollen feet, bizarre cravings, vivid dreams, and heartburn are all very common, plenty of women never experience these things, but may struggle with plenty of other symptoms and experiences that still a great many women would relate to.

In the same way, many men have personalities and traits that are very similar to the husbands of many women, like leaving their socks on the floor and being obsessed with sports, while other men are clean, neat, and responsible, but may still be similar to the “Type B” group in many purely masculine traits, like processing emotional information in a very different way than women do.

This is a general guide to help you understand more about men and how they relate to us, as women, to demystify a lot of confusing habits men can have and encourage healthier communication and more stable relationships.

This is by no means a set of instructions for how to treat the men in your lives, how to fix them, or how to get your way.

It is an invitation to consider how men think and operate for the sake of being a kinder, more compassionate, and wiser woman.

Let’s dive in:

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I think one of the biggest and saddest misconceptions about the human body, from a Christian perspective, is that it’s actually not flawed.

I know, this probably sounds weird, but bear with me:

When mankind was created, God declared us to be “good,” along with the rest of His creation.

He put us in a garden where we would have access to everything we neede…

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I am writing to let you know that after prayerful consideration, I have decided to resume regular posting here on Created Female.

Within the next two days, all posts should be accessible to anyone who had previously signed up for a paid membership, and new upgrades should be accessible as well.

Here’s some of the content we will be building…

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So many women today are carrying far more than they’re designed to, this is a fact.

You can even see it in the heaviness of the way they carry their bodies, and certainly hear it in the anxieties and concerns they express with an air of a woman who believes she is helpless and also required to take care of everything.

One o…

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A lot of women wonder how they can be feminine in a world that largely expects them to “be masculine.”

The truth is, we’re working with a poor definition of what femininity is.

To be feminine is NOT to assume characteristics you don’t currently possess.

It’s to live in alignment with how God created you.

A lot of Christians are used to hearing the concept of “masculine and feminine energy” from new age spaces, and the truth is that there is such a thing, but the truth is, Christianity is a historical and literal truth, which means God created anything anyone would observe as “masculine and feminine energy” and we see in nature this is a real thing.

It is a gross insult to the creation of woman — the crowning glory of the glory of creation, man — as a mere, dirty, “bad” creature who must be conformed to a set of external behaviors she assumes.

The Gospel restores us to how God made us, which was good.

What is “not-good” is for man to dwell alone, and so God created woman.

What is “not-good” is to listen to the luring question, “Did God really say?”

This shows up in our personal lives in “our relationship with the masculine” in the form of fear.

“I want to submit to God’s plan for my life, but what if I don’t get what I want?”

“I want to submit to my husband/to a husband one day, but what if he sins or is hurtful to me?”

“I want to be faithful to my responsibilities, but what if it makes me less feminine to earn money?”

“I want to be a wife and homemaker one day, but what if I pursue a degree and get a career?”

These are each, either literally or generally, examples of questions I get each day, and reflective of my own state of mind so often when I experience the universally human battle between our will and God’s own.

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As women, the lie that an external force can undermine how God created us as female is actually an exact replica of the same “did God really say?”-type question.

Simone de Beauvoir, one of both the most radical and notable feminists of the 20th century and the woman we have to think for the concept that “gender is a social construct,” famously said that “one is not born, but rather becomes a woman.”

If Christianity is objectively true which the Christian professes wholeheartedly that it is, this statement is the direct opposite of the truth about women.

Genesis 1:27 tells us that mankind was created male and female.

So often, as we struggle with insecurity or discomfort with our own womanliness, we are operating from a place of deep-seated and somatic doubt that God made us sufficiently female to be a “real woman.”

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You’ve probably seen reels about “regulating your nervous system” or “coming out of fight or flight.”

But here’s the truth: this is no modern biohack.

It’s just a modern way of naming something that pre-industrial people under…

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Hey ladies,

I have part one of a new lesson posted in the Telegram chat right now for members.

This is a powerful exercise on re-filtering messages we receive regarding “biblical womanhood,” whether that be online, in literature, church, or whatever source you have been impacted by over the years.

This does not just pertain to “biblical womanhood,” either, but any picture or vision of what being a “good wife” or “feminine woman” or “high-value woman” or what have you.

Overall, this is addressing the root cause of lies we believe about ourselves, beginning with how we view ourselves based on other people’s messages.

This is a simple exercise, with powerful results if you take the time to slow down, notice your thoughts, and recalibrate the measure you use to determine you own worth.

Please, if you are able, take the time to read the prompts, meditate or journal the answers, and share with our Telegram group.

I am really looking forward to hearing where this exercise takes you before we move on to part two.

Are you ready? Upgrade to paid or just keep scrolling to access the lesson and discussion in the Telegram chat:

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Hey ladies! I’m very excited to share the following breakdown with you because it is the absolute best place to start with getting more in touch with our own created femininity.

There’s a really powerful reason behind why tracking our cycle actually opens our minds up to a much healthier relationship with our feminine design.

You see, if we approach femininity with the mentality that our emotions or our bodies are in the way of helping us become the woman we want to be, we will always be disappointed and dissatisfied with ourselves, which actually very much enhances and exacerbates emotional and physical stress!

On the other hand, if we approach the way we experience emotions and the way our bodies change and our hormones fluctuate throughout the month from a place of peace with how God made us, we will find so much more peace and wisdom in how to better “manage” the more difficult, painful aspects of being a woman.

Let’s dive in:

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I wanted to kick things up a notch and invite you all to really challenge yourselves to reshape how you view masculinity.

The reason this is so significant is actually not primarily because we want to get along with men.

In fact, when this is our motivation, whether that be within our relationships or in our desire to have a relationship with a man, we are often subconsciously reinforcing our wounded ideas about men to begin with.

Here’s what I mean:

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Wherever you are, whatever you’re doing….stop.

Take a deep breath.

Notice how it feels in your body. Notice where the tension is in your shoulders, neck, lower back, or stomach.

What happens when you begin to think again about what you have to do today, what to make for dinner, if you’ll have time for a workout, how you’l…

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When I was growing up without a concrete spiritual worldview of any kind, it drove me nearly mad how perfect and beautiful nature was and how utterly incapable I seemed to be of putting sense or reason to why it stirred my heart so to perceive it.

It was as though the majesty of the sunset, the grandeur of the mountains, the peace of a gentle rain, and t…

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My mind still reels when I think about the infamous moment when then-Supreme Court Justice nominee Ketanji Brown Jackson cited a lack of biology credentials to explain why she couldn’t answer the question, “What is a woman?”

The uproar was inevitable, yet I’ve always felt that the true significance of this moment was lost on outrage-culture-fatigued Amer…

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