<script data-pm-proxy="intercept"></script><?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0" xmlns:itunes="http://www.itunes.com/dtds/podcast-1.0.dtd" xmlns:googleplay="http://www.google.com/schemas/play-podcasts/1.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[Dharmachild]]></title><description><![CDATA[The Dharmachild collection--ranging from ecology and evolution, biology and physics, to creativity, human ancestry and psychology--cracks concepts, sparks wonder, leaves prejudices out, mystery in, and lands us small, weird human creatures right into life]]></description><link>https://dharmachild.substack.com</link><image><url>https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!TqTC!,w_256,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F5e30a6d7-b3a3-48bf-abe6-f19eb969f192_1280x1280.png</url><title>Dharmachild</title><link>https://dharmachild.substack.com</link></image><generator>Substack</generator><lastBuildDate>Thu, 03 Sep 2026 19:37:18 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="/__u/dharmachild.substack.com/feed" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><copyright><![CDATA[Jaya Julienne Ashmore]]></copyright><language><![CDATA[en]]></language><webMaster><![CDATA[dharmachild@substack.com]]></webMaster><itunes:owner><itunes:email><![CDATA[dharmachild@substack.com]]></itunes:email><itunes:name><![CDATA[Jaya Julienne Ashmore]]></itunes:name></itunes:owner><itunes:author><![CDATA[Jaya Julienne Ashmore]]></itunes:author><googleplay:owner><![CDATA[dharmachild@substack.com]]></googleplay:owner><googleplay:email><![CDATA[dharmachild@substack.com]]></googleplay:email><googleplay:author><![CDATA[Jaya Julienne Ashmore]]></googleplay:author><itunes:block><![CDATA[Yes]]></itunes:block><item><title><![CDATA[For Transformation]]></title><description><![CDATA[This is an extract from Jaya&#8217;s online mini-talk and guided meditation on 9 April 2026.]]></description><link>https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/for-transformation</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/for-transformation</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Jaya Julienne Ashmore]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sat, 01 Aug 2026 11:58:53 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!1NCB!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F73cc9d97-df68-44f5-80ed-37ad168e931a_1111x1584.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>This is an extract from Jaya&#8217;s online mini-talk and guided meditation on 9 April 2026. It was released on July 11, as a featured meditation in the &#8220;Connection and Lab&#8221; channel on Open Dharma&#8217;s Patreon, the </em><a href="http://www.patreon.com/dharmacosm">Dharmacosm</a>.</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="/__u/substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!1NCB!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F73cc9d97-df68-44f5-80ed-37ad168e931a_1111x1584.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="/__u/substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!1NCB!, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/w_424, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/c_limit, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/f_webp, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/q_auto:good, 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8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a></figure></div><p><em>Art by Jaya Ashmore &#169; 2026<a href="http://www.patreon.com/jayaashmore"> www.patreon.com/jayaashmore</a> <br></em></p><p><strong>I think that we have a chance now for some transformation.</strong></p><p>The way that it seems to me, human beings&#8212;at the very beginning of our lives and at the very end of our lives&#8212;have a chance for transformation. And in the middle we&#8217;re a bit more stubborn. And unreachable. Less tender. Less shaken by the weirdness.<br></p><p>So even if it&#8217;s a hard time, and it&#8217;s easy to feel wrong or wrongness as a main focus, I would ask you to consider getting into how this may be <em>a perfect time for being in touch with reality</em>. Rather than being better at something or making something better.</p><p>And of course, you&#8217;ll still do the work that you can do. But from this place of r<em>ecognizing how weird this all is</em>, the work will flow better anyway. Putting central what&#8217;s central&#8212;rather than putting judgments in the way.<br></p><p>And if you feel well and progressing, then: letting go of time. And hope. Even though it&#8217;s not in your hands, it&#8217;s easier to step off the wheel from the top, on an up.</p><p>So just in case, this time now&#8212;and maybe these few years now&#8212;may be sometimes harder, sometimes easier, but maybe overall a bit harder than we would like. Maybe even a lot harder than we would like. But that it can also be a time of letting even suffering be for the good&#8212;for transformation. Rather than proof of what&#8217;s wrong with us. Rather than a reason to shut down.<br><br>Please feel that whatever is going on&#8212;an up or down&#8212;wherever you are, and whatever inner unfolding landscape you find yourself in, you can...<br>Be in touch with reality.<br>In all its weirdness.<br>In all its:<br>Can&#8217;t be thought-ness.<br>Can&#8217;t be spoken-ness.<br><br>And what about trusting more? Trusting your ability to feel a quality of wholesomeness or wholeness rather than hope or fear.<em><br><br>(The meditation begins...)</em><br><br>Please be comfortable if you can. Just resting into the little bit or a lot of comfort that&#8217;s possible today. Leaving room for wherever is uncomfortable in a growthful way&#8212;where you feel unsettled or uneasy in a creative way. Leaving room for that, not as a thought process, but as an organic process.<br></p><p>Body and consciousness, more than thinking, have their growing edges going on all the time.<br></p><p>So being open to rest, and comfort, and simplifying, and relieving burdensomeness. And also being open with the shakiness and uneasiness of transformation going on.<br><br>Resting into the restfulness.<br></p><p>So that there is room for what is in more of a place of unease in transforming.</p><p>Letting go of maps and assumptions, and resting into more intimacy with here.<br><br>With here and with now, and through here and now, into spaciousness and timelessness.<br></p><p>When possible, in its own timing, and its own way.</p><p><a href="http://www.jayaashmore.org">www.jayaashmore.org</a></p><p></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://dharmachild.substack.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="/__u/dharmachild.substack.com/subscribe"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" 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for]]></title><description><![CDATA[From head and disconnection to heart and embodied nonduality]]></description><link>https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/we-are-what-we-long-for</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/we-are-what-we-long-for</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Jaya Julienne Ashmore]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 24 Feb 2026 12:38:35 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!N8t6!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F7dbe7009-4e21-42c4-bf1a-fe1650482045_1600x1099.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="/__u/substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!N8t6!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F7dbe7009-4e21-42c4-bf1a-fe1650482045_1600x1099.jpeg" 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8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a></figure></div><p><br>What if we are what we long for?<br><br>What if we have what we need&#8212;not through being a separate individual who has a<br>complete set of everything, forever. (Where would we put it all? How would we manage<br>it all?)<br><br>What if we connect with what we need through a shift from head to heart?<br><br>A shift into receptivity.<br>Receptivity to nondual reality.<br><br>When we go &#8220;out there&#8221; to try to get love or awakening, we&#8217;re not here to receive it.<br><br>Going &#8220;out there&#8221; means being guided by thoughts and expectations&#8212;small mind.<br><br>Going &#8220;out there&#8221; means being driven by a feeling of not-enoughness, and a fear of that bottomless hole.<br><br>How could we find vastness and subtlety with such small-mind tools?<br><br>On the other hand, whether we&#8217;re feeling high or low, large or small, the innermost heart can feel a &#8220;yes&#8221; to what we love most&#8230; what our cells and being know is most<br>important.<br><br>What is the felt experience of freely receiving even a little care, reciprocity, or love?<br><br>How does it feel to love freely?<br>What does it feel like when you find yourself even a little bit free&#8212;free from demand, free to feel enoughness? A little bit of relief, a little space, or friendliness. A little laugh, a little awe.<br><br>What happens if we let ourselves love what we love&#8212;and just humbly and wholeheartedly feel our way along, guided by an open heart rather than by thinking?<br>Actively knowing that we can&#8217;t know through our usual thoughts, we leave room for another way of knowing, moving and meeting life inside and out.<br><br>It&#8217;s easy to try to go outside of ourselves for what we don&#8217;t feel inside. We get entranced by promising ideas, workshops, ancient texts, images, and practices of something special.<br><br>It&#8217;s so easy to forget we may be trying to feel&#8230;with a tool that can&#8217;t feel. Trying to<br>discover with a tool that only knows how to play the past. Trying to trust with a tool that only knows how to doubt. Trying to open with a tool that is about contraction.<br><br>We often miss what we&#8217;re looking for because we&#8217;re looking for something recognizable&#8212;something we can re-cognize with our small mind, something that will<br>match our small expectations.<br><br>Sometimes, we miss what we&#8217;re searching for because we&#8217;re so sure that it&#8217;s out there, and then we don&#8217;t receive it in here. Even when we succeed in getting something from out there, we can&#8217;t enjoy it for long&#8212;can&#8217;t have it, digest it, incorporate it, create with it, thrive with it, share it, circulate it.<br><br>What we want and need is something we don&#8217;t have a good name or image or<br>description for. It doesn&#8217;t promise us anything. It doesn&#8217;t play on our potential to feel not-enough.<br>It&#8217;s in here and out there.<br>And so are we.<br>Our heart can rest into that kind of paradox.<br>And resting, leaving life a little freer in and around us, we rediscover the power of<br>receptivity&#8212;how much can come through us when we let it, when we let life move in an unprogrammed way.</p><div><hr></div><p><strong>&#8220;We are what we long for&#8221;</strong><br><br>ONLINE PROGRAM WITH JAYA ASHMORE<br><br>March ~ April 2026<br><br>This two-month online program is about this shift from head and disconnection,<br>to heart and an embodied nonduality.</p><p>We will meet weekly, for Dharma talks, conversations and deep listening.<br><br>Tuesdays 18:30-19:30 CET (that&#8217;s 12:30-13:30 ET)<br><br>~ Note: no session on March 31st<br>~ There are also options to join the Signal group for this program, one-to-ones with Jaya, and weekly inquiry listening in pairs, with questions that Jaya suggests in accord with the 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8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a></figure></div><p><em>Art by Jaya Julienne Ashmore &#169; 2025, available on <a href="http://www.patreon.com/jayaashmore">www.patreon.com/jayaashmore</a></em></p><p></p><p>Big questions, small practices, deep listening, &amp; heart-led shifts of consciousness ~ into the embrace of aliveness, for the benefit of the whole. <a href="https://forms.opendharma.org/view.php?id=80285">&#8220;Weaving Life&#8221;</a> is an online gathering happening in January - February 2026. You&#8217;re welcome to join.</p><p>Along the last decades, I&#8217;ve had the sense of society coming unwoven&#8212;through doubt, distraction, dissociation and disassembling of community. Our culture seems to leave gaps in loving support, inside us and between us. People, cultures, species&#8230;we are falling through. </p><p>I&#8217;d like to be part of life&#8217;s reweaving. </p><p>Examples of reweaving include the way an insight reorganizes the psyche. The way it feels good and is good for us to be in touch with other people. To have and to give support. To create and to listen. To lie on the ground, to see the sky, to eat the berry, to hear the water. To feel how being in our juiciest connectedness is good for us and for the world. </p><p>And part of reweaving is to rediscover how we humans can dovetail together&#8212;each coming with our specific leanings, doubts, compassions, growing edges and wonderings...each of our paths distinct yet mutually generous. </p><p>Each of us finding and resting into what helps us and what calls us. </p><p>Each of us getting a visceral sense of what kind of difference our listening presence makes in us and in others&#8230;What kind of difference it makes when we hear our life calling or feel our heart move.</p><p>What kind of differences happen when we rest into aliveness? When we trust joy and tenderheartedness more than contracted mind.</p><p>Each of us listening together to the heartbeat of this shared moment in history.</p><p>When we weave and are woven into life, life can circulate in and through us more gorgeously&#8212;as finer love, simpler kindness, more creative intelligence and help. As a sense of purpose beyond words. As joy, friendship, wonder, resonance, insight, transformation, awakening.</p><p>The goodness of the flow is abundant, good for us and for the common good. </p><p>In this homeward shift to let life flow in and through us, trust is a key.</p><p>But we cannot force trust. </p><p>What might help trust to emerge naturally?</p><p>Before saying more about themes of this online gathering~ here&#8217;s an overview of the structure. </p><p>How will we explore?</p><p>~Dharma talks and dialogues, every two weeks</p><p>~Optional Signal group</p><p>~Optional organically emerging gatherings</p><p>~Deep listening practices&#8230;each optional so you can adjust your participation level to specific needs and leanings: </p><p>Trios with Jaya &amp; other participants </p><p>Inquiry in pairs with other participants</p><p>One-to-ones with Jaya</p><p>We will do our best to schedule listening trios to fit the schedules of those who join. There is limited space for Trios.</p><p>~</p><p>And back to a few more questions and pathways towards trust that are calling me these days ~</p><p>Questions </p><p>What reorients us, helps us remember what is important?</p><p>What allows wider circulation of our deepest resources?</p><p>What helps us know, in embodied and transcendent ways, that we are part of&#8212;that we cannot exist apart from&#8212;this wider organism of life, wider breath, of life wider than biology?</p><p>What tends us towards awakening? Towards the happiness of service to life&#8212;the gladness of not being dominated by thinking, habit and conditioning. Our sail full of wind, heart free, mind in trust.</p><p>Some potential elements of a path we will explore ~ different flavors of trust, or of an open mind, heart and body, through which life can reweave itself in our world: </p><p>Okayness ~ lowering the alarm and feeling enoughness</p><p>Wonder</p><p>Appreciation</p><p>Flow and presence ~ where the quality of our being and doing is important for right now, rather than only towards an outcome</p><p>Intuition and creativity~ where we&#8217;re willing to be weird, or simple, exploratory, or timely and specific, etc&#8230;</p><p>Responsiveness ~ including in subtle ways, such as when someone comes to mind and we can just simply reach out with a little connection</p><p>Connecting in the web of life and care ~ growing, harvesting and/or cooking food, for example</p><p>Community ~ being present with people we are close to and people we don&#8217;t know as well</p><p>Kinship ~ acknowledging aliveness in all creatures, and even in a nondual way in all things</p><p>Availability ~ working to come out of the trance of busyness, right-and-wrong and other agendas</p><p>Spontaneity ~ leaving space for unexpected co-emergence</p><p>The mystery of trust&#8212;not in someone or something</p><p>I&#8217;m so glad to have these easy ways to gather with anyone who wishes to join me in this loving exploration. </p><p><a href="https://forms.opendharma.org/view.php?id=80285">You can register here.</a></p><p>Welcome!</p><p></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/weaving-life?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email&utm_content=share&action=share&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Share&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="/__u/dharmachild.substack.com/p/weaving-life?utm_source=substack&amp;utm_medium=email&amp;utm_content=share&amp;action=share"><span>Share</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://dharmachild.substack.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="/__u/dharmachild.substack.com/subscribe"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p><p></p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[What to Do?]]></title><description><![CDATA[Unbinding life]]></description><link>https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/what-to-do</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/what-to-do</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Jaya Julienne Ashmore]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 18 Sep 2025 18:03:20 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!9gdD!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe530df5e-89a3-4341-884d-f4fae55690ac_1099x1600.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="image-gallery-embed" data-attrs="{&quot;gallery&quot;:{&quot;images&quot;:[{&quot;type&quot;:&quot;image/jpeg&quot;,&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/e530df5e-89a3-4341-884d-f4fae55690ac_1099x1600.jpeg&quot;},{&quot;type&quot;:&quot;image/jpeg&quot;,&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/5dedf172-e7fe-44ac-a34f-ecd976d7f372_1097x1600.jpeg&quot;},{&quot;type&quot;:&quot;image/jpeg&quot;,&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/68d34873-2ab1-47e1-bb2a-5f375e9536a9_1091x1600.jpeg&quot;}],&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;'Being part of the shift ~ Being the shift' ~ Jaya Ashmore on www.patreon.com/jayaashmore (c) 2025&quot;,&quot;alt&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;staticGalleryImage&quot;:{&quot;type&quot;:&quot;image/png&quot;,&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/9b383b65-c71f-445d-bf16-646abaf4a569_1456x474.png&quot;}},&quot;isEditorNode&quot;:true}"></div><p></p><p>You are not alone if you are not sure what to do in this crazy and mysterious life&#8212;uncertain of what could be adequate or fulfilling or even worthwhile.<br><br>If you&#8217;re lucky enough&#8212;and have listened and crafted and failed and kept going enough&#8212;to feel 100% aligned with what you do&#8212;or with something you sometimes do&#8212; wonderful. <br>Be grateful, to yourself and to all that helped you come into this life so fully.<br><br>And please note: Don&#8217;t think that everyone should do what you do. Don&#8217;t think everyone should do it the way you do it.<br>Also, don&#8217;t assume no one wants to join you, if invited sincerely.<br>The more right you feel, the harder it may be to hear you, much less join you.<br>How right do you feel, on a scale of one to a hundred?<br>Be that careful. Be that tender. <br>Are you 50% certain of your rightness? Please consider being 50% more aware of ways you might not be listening&#8230;ways you might be doing what you&#8217;re trying to undo.<br><br>How about a few Dharma questions that may help us get out of our own way in finding what to do? <br>What to do, not instead of what you already do&#8212;not instead of calling your grandmother and your government. Not instead of supporting those who support life. <br><br>What to do, alongside and throughout all the things we already find integral to our lives?<br><br><br><strong>1. What about those who went before us? </strong><br><br>Are we so special? Are these times so unprecedented?<br><br>People have walked their original, bare-bones, razor&#8217;s-edge paths in all kinds of imperfect and even terrible situations. Rumi was a refugee from war. Many Zen poems walk us through landscapes of famine, flood and battle. <br>Who knows why tragedy is with us throughout history?<br>Some people say that suffering is here to help us wake up. That&#8217;s nice. I think there&#8217;s no logical explanation. I think it&#8217;s beyond comprehension; mind-blowing. <br>And realizing that we can and do live beyond comprehension is indeed part of waking up.<br><br>Also mind-blowing: <br>We have capacities that can help us live a real life&#8212;generous and free. Throughout time, people have sometimes found ways to stay true to what is important, in all kinds of conditions&#8212;the worst, the good, and the most ordinary. People have sometimes found ways to help others do the same.<br>Housewives, warriors, vegetable sellers, royalty. <br>Some Indian sages did their meditation and ceremony in forest ashrams, and considered the protection of nearby towns and villages to be part of their spiritual life. Not that the sages would go into politics, but that the political forces would be influenced by the sages&#8217; meditative power. Today, this idea sounds laughable, but maybe there&#8217;s room for some new approaches. Alongside what else you already love doing.<br>Maybe there are ways to be here. Maybe each of us can find our ways to stay true and be of help, too.<br><br>What to do? How to know what to do?<br><br><br><strong>2. How much does thinking help? How wise is emotion?</strong><br><br>Very occasionally, a helpful thought comes up, doesn&#8217;t it? From some gracious alignment with life and love. Through someone&#8217;s loving listening. When just arising from a meditation or a nap.<br>But how often has a helpful thought come out of trying to figure out what to do? <br><br>When we care about something, including the question of What to do?, we may worry about it. We want to get it right. When we worry about something, we may tend to think a lot about it.<br><br>Does worrying help? Does worrying offer up our best thinking? (If not, what does?)<br>It&#8217;s easy to believe that worrying helps us connect with what&#8217;s important. A sense of lack, a problem to be solved or battled, can give a rush of energy. It gives us an occupation. We may feel like at least we are engaged with the problems; &#8220;at least we care.&#8221; <br><br>But are we empowered, or have we just shifted to alarm from the self-sustaining energy of love?<br><br>Worry is where we fall, when we can&#8217;t bear how much we care. <br>Does worry bring you closer to what you care about? It&#8217;s a contraction, not an opening. It&#8217;s activity spent in ourselves. Lack helps us feel conveniently, solidly, certainly inadequate.<br>In reactivity, we lose. In the spell of lack, we lose ourselves, our togetherness; we lose our openness. We lose access to our best wisdom.<br><br>I recommend letting the thinking-emotional self be the last part of you to know what you&#8217;re up to.<br>Just humbly get on with your best guesses, with your juiciest unflashy why-not experiments, with your persistent riding along in the undriveable vehicle you find yourself in&#8212;your body, mind and life-stream.<br>When we don&#8217;t rely on thinking and emotion as if they were friends, we are more open to other guides, other ways of knowing.<br><br><br>How to know what to do?<br>Not by reactive thinking.<br>Not by emotional charge.<br>Not from a belief in lack as the fundamental nature of things.<br><br><br><strong>3. If not lack, then&#8230;where is enoughness anyway?</strong><br><br>Many of us get stuck in feeling like an individual particle&#8212;we lose our wave. <br>We keep on forgetting that we are somehow already in the middle of being alive, and therefore probably filled with life. A life we didn&#8217;t make and don&#8217;t understand. A life that interweaves among many seeming individuals. A life that blinks between matter and energy and space&#8230;<br><br>Life is so ungraspable, it is no wonder that so many people feel a sense that something is missing. (And many people who don&#8217;t seem to be conscious of feeling not-enoughness, sure seem to be acting it out.) Our individual power to act and influence society is not enough by itself. We&#8217;re not even in control of our own inner control freak.<br>But maybe the feeling of lack can be a kind of starting point. A starting point for discovery of what we really are. <br><br>Rather than shame and blame about our not-enoughness, we might start to accept that it&#8217;s true: as a separate individual, I am not enough to solve the problems of the world. As a separate individual, I don&#8217;t feel quite right. Something is not quite settled. Something is missing. <br><br>Also: as seemingly separate individual, I sure notice a lot of grace&#8212;or shall we call it luck, the things happening but not in my control: heartbeat, outbreath, color. <br>Am I what I thought I was?<br><br>Enoughness is in the wave we already are. Moving together, without regard for thought or emotional charge.<br><br>So.<br>Because we care, we need to break up with thought and emotion as our primary guides.<br>We need fresher news, more nuanced and human communication. Because we care.<br>We need deeper, subtler responses. <br><br>Because we care, let&#8217;s practice engaging those spiritual muscles that stay, that hold space for life to come through. Muscles that allow us to remember again what is already here. That allow us to feel the wave. To be the wave.<br>Muscles like intrinsic belonging, like feeling welcome exactly as we are. Like not knowing, but staying wholeheartedly in anyway&#8230; And being already in, we find that we are already participating&#8212;already in life. We&#8217;re in. <br><br>We can shed reactivity for responsiveness&#8230;and then let responsiveness sprout into ongoing participation. Not just responding to things that happen, but being part of the happenings. From shutdown to engagement to a free and open mind and life.<br>If we are already part of the whole, and we participate with openness, perhaps we can feel what is starting to happen before it happens. To hear the news before it becomes news. Maybe sometimes we can participate in ways that protect life and support awakening. And whatever happens, we may be less stuck in shock. Whatever happens, we can love; we can be in it together, letting it rest on the ungraspable wave.<br><br><br>And meanwhile, speaking of news&#8230;when you hear, see or read it, please notice: what is happening with your breath? Are you breathing? How far down into your belly or legs? What is happening with your body? <br>Is your breath halting, diaphragm tensing, presence leaving the ground or heart collapsing? Do you have a lower body?<br>Feel it all gently, and feel how life wants to be. In your breath, and in your body. <br>How life wants to be free from this interference. This interference with the heart.<br><br>It&#8217;s so hard to bear the tragedies&#8230;the mysteries&#8230;and even the beauty.<br>But we need our openness; we need our wave; we need to care&#8230;like we need to breathe.<br>When you fall into blame and shame, please notice: where and in what way are you hurting? <br>What pain pushed you into duality? <br>Is duality serving you or life?<br>Isn&#8217;t it a dead end?<br>Please restfully receive: What do you really need?<br>A hug, a mug, a swim, a cry, a run, a shout, a hand, a canvas, a conversation, a pen, a song, a rest?<br>Whatever sweet release or simple support you may need&#8212;it will not be the answer resolving all the suffering of the world&#8230;or that of a friend or even ourselves. <br>But the connection delivers us back into the ungraspable here. Where, together, we have so many resources. And life&#8230;it&#8217;s so weird. Who knows what could happen if we get weird, too?<br>When we don&#8217;t rely on rightness or wrongness as a friend, we are more open to other friends, other kinds of power, vividness and connection.<br><br><br><strong>4. Wonder.</strong><br><br>Like other kinds of openness, wonder helps us connect with reality. Connecting, we realize we are part of reality. Being part of reality, we can enjoy being moved by life. This is where we might be moved to act, to do, without knowing why. Without knowing how we found out what to do. Not needing a comprehensible reason and being willing to be moved anyway are a great start. And enjoying is a simple key.<br><br>Let us remember every day how weird this world is. It&#8217;s not only our suffering that is beyond comprehension. <br><br>An ear. A cell. An atom. An electron. An elephant. <br>A solar storm. <br>A thought. <br>We are born! We eat food that comes out of the ground!<br><br>Accepting mystery, we grow our capacity to bear what we thought was unbearable. Not through growing callouses. Trying to think it through was indeed unbearable, but perhaps reality is a different challenge.<br><br>Perhaps our heart can stay here as we befriend ungraspability&#8230;as we discover that spaciousness that can act like a spine, from which everything else can organize, hang, move.<br><br><br><strong>5. What if non-duality is not just a concept?</strong><br><br>In reactivity, we tend to lose track of reality&#8212;and its nondual nature. In hard times, it&#8217;s easy to feel against-ness. We see walls everywhere, and in turn, we cut off. It&#8217;s hard to perceive a wall and not build a wall of our own. It&#8217;s easy to fall into the aggression of those may indeed be out to get us.<br>Instead, in deep rest, we could organize around what we are longing for&#8212;rather than around its lack. Opening towards care where possible, we could have room to ask questions. <br>We could have complex conversations that lead away from the answers we demanded&#8230;and perhaps meander into community. <br>We could find out how much of a world each person is. <br><br>We could find out how much we have been blocking exactly what we most need, and how many doors are open right now.<br><br>We could find that we already have some answers to the question, What to do?<br>We may have been doing something fulfilling all along&#8212;just under our own radar. Something perhaps unsophisticated, unglamorous, embarrassing. Miniscule; electrifyingly non-egoic. <br>We could let this pursuit, this happening, this practice, this doing come out of the corners. We could acknowledge what we love and how. And we could find out that we need company to keep remembering that it might be enough to keep following this unmapped path.<br><br>Maybe your singing or photography or lolling around or patience&#8212;your unoccupied presence&#8212;is a protective spiritual force for society. Who knows? Life is weird enough, and we are desperate enough, that it might be worth a try.<br><br>Whatever you do, let it be love. Let it organize around ungraspability. Around openness. <br>Let your thinking self be the last to know.<br>Let what you do be the (sometimes terrifying, embarrassing) enjoyment of the unfettered, whole heart.<br>And note: please don&#8217;t be too right about it.<br><br></p><h1>"What to do?" online program with Jaya Ashmore </h1><p><strong>October 1 - December 15, 2025</strong></p><p>To register: https://forms.opendharma.org/view.php?id=77803 </p><p>Email: shahar@opendharma.org <br><br>This online gathering is for adaptive support and encouragement towards unbinding this precious life&#8212;leaving room for each person&#8217;s uniqueness and our common need for togetherness.<br>Jaya would like to work closely with a small group of dedicated meditators, exploring the question of discernment and freedom of action both in meditation and in the world.<br><br>~ What specific ways are you noticing goodness or fruition in meditation, and what are you feeling called towards in meditation?<br>~ What about freedom of action in the world&#8212;what works well for you and where do you feel you are in a more uncertain, messy process?<br><br>Each of us is probably aware of some inspirations for shaky or exciting next steps&#8212;inwardly and outwardly.<br>And we are probably also unaware or helpless with other places where we want and need to let go of something and come more fully into our lives.<br><br>With a sense of being in unique yet human process alongside others, we will also encourage individual trails to open up. Someone may want support and encouragement towards doing more art or activism, or getting to know plants, playing with pranayama, or just resting without any agenda.<br><br>~ Dharma talks with Jaya and the whole group&#8212;We will normally meet on 2 Mondays per month, 4.30-5:45 pm CET.<br>(Followed by the regular weekly online meditations at 6 pm CET, open to all.)<br>Dharma talk and meditation dates:<br>October 6th and (Sunday) 19th.<br>November 3rd and 10th.<br>December 1st and 15th.<br><br>~ Deep listening trios, with Jaya<br>Every 3 weeks or so you will meet with another participant and Jaya in a group of 3 for listening inquiry of about 30 minutes. Jaya will propose a relevant question to inquire into, and you can always propose the question you would love to be asked instead.<br>You will each have a 10-minute turn as a speaker, and as either a more active listener or a witness.<br>Not a regular small group meeting, this is a focused deep listening practice.<br>*Trios will be scheduled on weekdays (Monday-Thursday) sometime within the following time frames: 9am-12pm, 2-4 pm, 4-7pm and 7-9pm Spain time.</p><p>~ Inquiry pairs. In the optional weekly one-to-one inquiry practice, you will be paired each week with a new partner from the group for inquiry on a relevant question.<br><br>~ Optional weekly small group with other participants (without Jaya). We will provide suggestions for structuring the meetings. Perhaps participants would like to take turns keeping track of the time, etc.<br><br>~ Sharing group on the Signal app, for ongoing connection and sharing. This group helps us stay in touch between live sessions, and is highly recommended.<br><br>~ If there is enough interest: We will meet for "Mindless Gatherings"&#8212;a time when you can come online and do your thing while being together with others in a virtual space.<br><br>~As always, you can sign up for one-to-ones with Jaya at <a href="https://calendly.com/jayajulienne/25min">https://calendly.com/jayajulienne/25min</a></p><p></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/what-to-do?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email&utm_content=share&action=share&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Share&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="/__u/dharmachild.substack.com/p/what-to-do?utm_source=substack&amp;utm_medium=email&amp;utm_content=share&amp;action=share"><span>Share</span></a></p><div class="directMessage button" data-attrs="{&quot;userId&quot;:217743576,&quot;userName&quot;:&quot;Jaya Julienne Ashmore&quot;,&quot;canDm&quot;:null,&quot;dmUpgradeOptions&quot;:null,&quot;isEditorNode&quot;:true}" data-component-name="DirectMessageToDOM"></div><div class="subscription-widget-wrap-editor" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://dharmachild.substack.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe&quot;,&quot;language&quot;:&quot;en&quot;}" data-component-name="SubscribeWidgetToDOM"><div class="subscription-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p class="cta-caption">Dharmachild is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support Open Dharma, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.</p></div><form class="subscription-widget-subscribe"><input type="email" class="email-input" name="email" placeholder="Type your email&#8230;" tabindex="-1"><input type="submit" class="button primary" value="Subscribe"><div class="fake-input-wrapper"><div class="fake-input"></div><div class="fake-button"></div></div></form></div></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[On generosity]]></title><description><![CDATA[The connection between dana and joy]]></description><link>https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/on-generosity</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/on-generosity</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Jaya Julienne Ashmore]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 30 Jul 2025 13:02:57 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/169638789/d2bdb972f0fd10d1e51a376c85cffc15.mp3" length="0" type="audio/mpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong>If you break the cherry tree</strong></p><p><strong>where are the flowers?</strong></p><p><strong>But in the spring time, see how they bloom!</strong></p><p><strong>The vast flood</strong></p><p><strong>Rolls onward</strong></p><p><strong>But yield yourself.</strong></p><p><strong>And it floats you upon it.</strong></p><p><strong>~Ikkyu,</strong></p><p>transl. Robert Blythe</p><p></p><p>The word <em>dana</em> in Sanskrit means the human power to recognize what gives essential support to life, and to nurture that support&#8212;like knowing the value of water compared to gold. We experience this power when we listen with openness, and the listening brings a qualitative shift in the conversation. When we let go of what is not needed, we can feel the relief and freedom of <em>dana</em>. <em>Dana</em>, usually translated as <em>generosity</em>, is a practice of trust that there is enough. Tradition tells us that generosity is the basis for all other spiritual growth.</p><p>Teachings towards living a fulfilled life are priceless gifts&#8212;passed down for generations without a fixed charge. Teachers and students mutually support each other. In this spirit, within Open Dharma, teachers and organizers offer our time and skills freely. We are embodying a revolutionary economic model of enough-ness and friendship, rather than obligation or debt. This way, each one of us can feel more free, already intrinsically valuable to the whole, supported by the whole, and sharing responsibility for the welfare of the whole. The modern idea of paying a fixed fee for a workshop or coaching session can trigger &#8220;small mind&#8221;&#8212;trying to "own" something or "get our money's worth." This consumer mindset blocks us from feeling our power and the fresh &#8220;happening&#8221; of Dharma.</p><p>The tradition of generosity allows participants, organizers and teachers to give and receive from a place of fullness. Sometimes people ask how we survive on <em>dana</em>, as if it were impossible that people would freely give enough support. But <em>dana</em> has ensured the unbroken flow of spiritual teachings for centuries. And somehow, since 1999, freely given donations have been enough&#8212;enough to bring us all the way here, and for teachings, retreats and resources to happen. With your gifts the flow goes on.</p><p>Thank you to Jaime Hagel and Ghadir Shafie for this video.</p><p>www.jayaashmore.org </p><p>www.patreon.com/jayaashmore</p><p>www.patreon.com/dharmacosm</p><p></p><p><strong>Willing to die,<br>You give up<br>your will. Keep still<br>until, moved<br>by what moves<br>all else,<br>you move.</strong></p><p></p><p><strong>~Wendell Berry</strong></p><p><strong>(US, 1934-), New Collected Poems</strong></p><p></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/on-generosity?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email&utm_content=share&action=share&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Share&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="/__u/dharmachild.substack.com/p/on-generosity?utm_source=substack&amp;utm_medium=email&amp;utm_content=share&amp;action=share"><span>Share</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://dharmachild.substack.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" 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href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/building-the-habit-of-hero/202011/the-hearts-electromagnetic-field-is-your-superpower">This article</a> breaks open our concepts about the human heart inviting us into what is already happening there: </p><p>&#8220;Research is proving the heart may be as intricate as the brain, referred to as <em>"the little brain."</em> The heart-brain actually sends more communication to the head-brain than the other way around.&#8221;</p><p>It invites us into the heart&#8217;s electromagnetic field and how we can support &#8216;heart-brain coherence&#8217;, (the energetic alignment and cooperation of heart, mind and emotions).</p><p>My deep rest meditation <a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/4amUnovMd5CLJyJnFZq7ez">&#8216;The heart&#8217;s rest&#8217;</a> is an invitation into this support and is available for free on <em><a href="https://www.patreon.com/posts/deep-rest-hearts-123071194">Dharmacosm</a></em> on Patreon and <em><a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/4amUnovMd5CLJyJnFZq7ez">OpenDharmaCosm</a> </em>on Spotify.</p><p>With love.</p><p>May the heart&#8217;s electromagnetic field be your superpower.</p><p>https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/building-the-habit-of-hero/202011/the-hearts-electromagnetic-field-is-your-superpower</p><p>For more resources and support:</p><p>www.jayaashmore.org</p><p>www.patreon.com/jayaashmore</p><p>www.patreon.com/dharmacosm</p><p>www.facebook.com/opendharma</p><p>www.instagram.com/opendharma</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1515681300827-de75e75e8081?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwzMXx8aGVhcnR8ZW58MHx8fHwxNzQyMDcwMzU2fDA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.0.3&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" 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Let that discomfort be a living guide. If the focus on lack is uncomfortable, why?<br>Perhaps it's life intelligence...the beginning of letting life simply disregard non-food.<br>And be open to food.<br></p><p>A slime mold explores its environment and recognizes food as food. It simply stops hanging out with non-food. It simply moves towards safety and nourishment.<br></p><p>We could unleash this directness in ourselves, and shift from the natural pain of focusing on lack...and shift into an openness to what we need.<br>Even if I don't have food, I could stay tuned to how I love or would love food.</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="/__u/substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!rntj!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F0697e545-cc7b-46bb-af65-2119fd669a4d_2323x1549.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="/__u/substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!rntj!, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/w_424, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/c_limit, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/f_webp, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/q_auto:good, 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15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a></figure></div><p>This image of slime mold is from the New Forest National Park website, taken by photographers Jim and Dawn Langiewicz. You&#8217;ll find more photos on the <a href="https://www.newforestnpa.gov.uk/discover/plants-fungi/slime-moulds/">New Forest website.</a></p><p>I love the amoeba as metaphor, and as kindred practical intelligent fact.</p><div id="youtube2-2L8Uk6WVjwc" class="youtube-wrap" data-attrs="{&quot;videoId&quot;:&quot;2L8Uk6WVjwc&quot;,&quot;startTime&quot;:null,&quot;endTime&quot;:null}" data-component-name="Youtube2ToDOM"><div class="youtube-inner"><iframe src="https://www.youtube-nocookie.com/embed/2L8Uk6WVjwc?rel=0&amp;autoplay=0&amp;showinfo=0&amp;enablejsapi=0" frameborder="0" loading="lazy" gesture="media" allow="autoplay; fullscreen" allowautoplay="true" allowfullscreen="true" width="728" height="409"></iframe></div></div><p>You can listen to or read an article on <a href="https://www.harvardmagazine.com/2021/11/right-now-can-slime-molds-think?utm_source=email&amp;utm_medium=newsletter&amp;utm_term=stewardship&amp;utm_content=slimemold&amp;utm_campaign=102921">recent Harvard studies of slime mold</a> and watch an old video of <a href="https://youtu.be/2L8Uk6WVjwc">slime molds solving mazes</a>.</p><p>"...a unicellular organism that grows to be centimeters-to-meters large and sometimes contains thousands of nuclei..."</p><p>"They keep time...exhibit memory...detect objects at a distance...</p><p>They can even recreate the hyper-efficient Tokyo subway map when oat flakes&#8212;their favorite food&#8212;stand in for population centers."</p><p>"Many people conceive of cognition as a 'chemical process driven by neurotransmitters in the brain,' says Levin, but slime mold 'gives us some insight into different forms of intelligence.'&#8221;<br></p><p>Dogen again, with more context.<br></p><p><em>The real way circulates everywhere...<br>And yet,&#8230; if the slightest discrimination occurs, you will be lost in confusion.<br>You could be proud of your understanding, or acquire outstanding wisdom&#8230;<br>Still, if you are wandering about in your head, you may miss the vital path of letting your body leap.</em></p><p></p><div class="subscription-widget-wrap-editor" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://dharmachild.substack.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe&quot;,&quot;language&quot;:&quot;en&quot;}" data-component-name="SubscribeWidgetToDOM"><div class="subscription-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p class="cta-caption">Thanks for reading Dharmachild! 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Here we set sail into the world of creativity and the senses. </em></p><p><strong>Here you&#8217;ll find resources under the headings of:</strong></p><ul><li><p>CREATIVITY AND INSPIRATION</p></li><li><p>ART AND ART HISTORY</p></li><li><p>SPEAKING AND WRITING</p></li><li><p>MUSIC AND SOUND</p></li><li><p>SEEING AND WATCHING</p></li><li><p>TOUCH AND TASTE</p><p></p></li></ul><ol start="5"><li><p><strong>ECOS</strong></p></li></ol><p><em>Ecos in latin means habitat, environment, home. This is a place to pull up a chair and read about this life. The ordinary as the extraordinary and the head-turn to wholeness.</em></p><p><strong>Here you&#8217;ll find resources under the headings of:</strong></p><ul><li><p>PHYSICS AND CHEMISTRY OF LIFE</p></li><li><p>EARTHLY CREATURES</p></li><li><p>HUMANS, HABITAT, COMMUNITY</p></li><li><p>LIVING LIFE WELL</p></li><li><p>TIME AND DEATH&nbsp;</p></li><li><p>ECO SKILLS AND SUSTAINABILITY</p></li><li><p>FINANCE, GENEROSITY AND DANA</p></li></ul><p></p><p>Happy diving in!</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1501084291732-13b1ba8f0ebc?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHw1NXx8bGVhdmVzJTIwdHJlZXxlbnwwfHx8fDE3MTgyODU2OTd8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.0.3&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" 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He digs back into the great-grandparents of the very word old and finds &#8220;one who causes depth and fullness by being deep and full&#8221;&#8230;He finds &#8220;nourishing&#8221; and &#8220;leaving center stage.&#8221;]]></description><link>https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/a-call-for-old</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/a-call-for-old</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Jaya Julienne Ashmore]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 21 Oct 2018 20:56:47 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/5aea572c-1a44-4b87-a523-0e29abffe05e_631x300.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Stephen Jenkinson is rattling the cages again in his book <em>Come of Age: The Case for Elderhood in a Time of Trouble</em>.<br>He digs back into the great-grandparents of the very word <em>old</em> and finds &#8220;one who causes depth and fullness by being deep and full&#8221;&#8230;He finds &#8220;nourishing&#8221; and &#8220;leaving center stage.&#8221; <br>He finds the possibility of not &#8220;confusing &#8216;the human lifespan&#8217; with &#8216;life.'&#8221;<br>&#8220;<em>Elderhood is the antidote to personal growth</em> and the fret of personal inadequacy that drags it along.&#8221; (his italics)</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="/__u/substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!-P9r!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fd99a0828-2be3-4510-832a-37e613fa722a_631x300.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="/__u/substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!-P9r!, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/w_424, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/c_limit, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/f_webp, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/q_auto:good, 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15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a></figure></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[The body, real life, and context matters: gaps and mathematics]]></title><description><![CDATA[Thanks so much to Omer Orit for researching these questions for me.]]></description><link>https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/the-body-real-life-and-context-matters-gaps-and-mathematics</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/the-body-real-life-and-context-matters-gaps-and-mathematics</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Jaya Julienne Ashmore]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 18 Oct 2018 16:35:44 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!CpoA!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F8c2f0c1e-0054-47f2-9703-e40d2a765e18_2365x1073.png" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="/__u/substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!CpoA!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F8c2f0c1e-0054-47f2-9703-e40d2a765e18_2365x1073.png" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div 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Culturally, we are getting more aware of how implicit bias shrinks the confidence and minds of those looked down upon.<br>And I have heard rumors of cutting-edge educators who haven&#8217;t accepted that as inevitable.</strong><br><strong>And it turns out, interdependence and the mutual co-arising of Gautam Buddha&#8217;s night of awakening makes all the difference. We could also think about this as a shift into the right hemisphere&#8211;context, physical place, and relationships matter.</strong></p><p><strong>Here&#8217;s a buffet of links to research and resources on dissolving gaps in learning and mastery and being at home in powerful areas of thinking called math and science.<br></strong></p><p>Ashley Stewart in Australia introduced real life into her math and science classes in Bunbury, Australia&#8211;when kids got to make their own mobile phone chargers, attendance went to 100% and stayed there. Kids were psyched to teach their parents what they had learned at school, and parents were happy to learn it.<br>Who wouldn&#8217;t be inspired to make a bike-fed phone charger?<br><a href="https://www.abc.net.au/news/jacqueline-lynch/8248970">(Jacqueline Lynch with ABC in Australia)</a><br><a href="http://Ashley Stewart in Australia introduced real life into her math and science classes in Bunbury, Australia--when kids got to make their own mobile phone chargers, attendance went to 100% and stayed there. Kids were psyched to teach their parents what they  had learned at school, and parents were happy to learn it.  (Jacqueline Lynch with ABC in Australia)  ttps://www.abc.net.au/news/2017-11-11/homemade-mobile-chargers-sparks-indigenous-interest-stem/9135326">https://www.abc.net.au/news/2017-11-11/homemade-mobile-chargers-sparks-indigenous-interest-stem/9135326</a></p><p>In some countries and contexts, it seems like boys, from early adolescence onward, are &#8220;better at&#8221; some kinds of math problems than girls.<br>But first of all, it depends on which country you are in&#8211;in India girls may do &#8220;better&#8221; across the board, according to our friend wikipedia:<br><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_gaps_in_mathematics_and_reading">https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_gaps_in_mathematics_and_reading</a><br>But what is going on in those countries where girls perform less well in math?<br>One researcher found that the boys naturally used body movements as they solved these problems. When girls were encouraged to use similar movements, the gender gap dissolved in this math area.</p><p>Andrew Fuller advises: Let maths be physical, make sure girls know you like them, and override cliques.<br><a href="http://andrewfuller.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/Teaching-Girls.pdf">http://andrewfuller.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/Teaching-Girls.pdf</a></p><p>And Panorea Baka has created &#8220;Maths dance&#8221; to help kids and adults of all kinds to learn mathematics in dance.<br><a href="http://www.mathsdance.com/">http://www.mathsdance.com/</a><br><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pQVYfC8WLIo&amp;feature=youtu.be">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pQVYfC8WLIo&amp;feature=youtu.be</a></p><p>Malken Rosenfeld talks of &#8220;Whole Body Math.&#8221;<br><a href="http://www.malkerosenfeld.com/">http://www.malkerosenfeld.com/</a></p><p>And Jeremy McCarthy brings together a number of resources about how important context and situational influences are&#8211;how unconscious cues can dampen girls&#8217; mathematical spirits.<br><a href="http://psychologyofwellbeing.com/201110/men-are-better-at-math.html">http://psychologyofwellbeing.com/201110/men-are-better-at-math.html</a></p><p>McCarthy cites research by Sommers &#8220;on influencing the gender gap with subtle situational shifts.&nbsp; Women do better on math problems, for example, in a room full of other women, than they do in mixed company.&nbsp; And if students perform the math test wearing swimsuits,&nbsp;(further highlighting gender differences [I&#8217;ll let you read the book to learn about how they engineered that study!]) the gender gap widens.&nbsp;&nbsp;If the students hide their obvious physical differences under sweaters, the gender gap in math skills narrows again.&#8221;</p><p>McCarthy: &#8220;But people can also use priming for their own personal benefit to focus and amplify their own goal pursuits.&nbsp; I learned about this research from goals expert <a href="http://www.carolinemiller.com/">Caroline Miller</a>, author of &#8220;<a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1402779984/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=spamanageme0e-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=217145&amp;creative=399369&amp;creativeASIN=1402779984">Creating Your Best Life: The Ultimate Life List Guide</a>,&#8221; who suggests using primes as a deliberate way to take control of your own motivation and behavior, and get the results you want.&#8221;</p><p>(And by the way&#8230;:)<br>&#8220;One example of how she uses primes to help her clients is by encouraging people to power up their passwords and email addresses by choosing words that reflect the values, goals or states of being they want to accomplish.&nbsp; Typing this word every day is a subtle reminder that helps keep those values at the forefront of the mind.</p><p>McCarthy also learns that, in some contexts, young women&#8217;s spark for math and science dies down in the face of a relationship, as if she has to choose between love of a partner and love of the mind and science.<br><a href="http://psychologyofwellbeing.com/201108/love-or-science.html">http://psychologyofwellbeing.com/201108/love-or-science.html</a></p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Simply ask, “What are your priorities?”]]></title><description><![CDATA[And what are you willing to sacrifice?]]></description><link>https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/simply-ask-what-are-your-priorities</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/simply-ask-what-are-your-priorities</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Jaya Julienne Ashmore]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 27 Sep 2018 10:18:52 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!TqTC!,w_256,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F5e30a6d7-b3a3-48bf-abe6-f19eb969f192_1280x1280.png" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>And what are you willing to sacrifice?</p><p>Atul Gawande brings us to the fruitful edge of accepting our mortality, and I would borrow his very questions to help us not only die but also live gracefully.</p><p>Enjoy more in my post on jayaashmore.org here:</p><p><a href="http://2018/09/27/Just-simply-asking-people-What-are-your-priorities">2018/09/27/Just-simply-asking-people-What-are-your-priorities</a></p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Who is home? a collective growing edge]]></title><description><![CDATA[The custom of having summer holidays from school sprang out of the collective shift from country to city living.]]></description><link>https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/who-is-home-a-collective-growing-edge</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/who-is-home-a-collective-growing-edge</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Jaya Julienne Ashmore]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sat, 22 Sep 2018 16:13:57 GMT</pubDate><enclosure 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/__u/substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!9oaz!, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/w_848, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/c_limit, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/f_webp, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/q_auto:good, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F8f274749-31c5-4c71-b1cb-58338d96e819_450x244.jpeg 848w, /__u/substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!9oaz!, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/w_1272, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/c_limit, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/f_webp, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/q_auto:good, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F8f274749-31c5-4c71-b1cb-58338d96e819_450x244.jpeg 1272w, /__u/substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!9oaz!, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/w_1456, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/c_limit, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/f_webp, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/q_auto:good, 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Our shift from basing households on the housewife to founding our lifestyles around career, leaves many essential gaps. Together, we search for another way to feed ourselves and raise children. We&#8217;ve tried pre-washed lettuce and take-out to make food hassles evaporate, and we&#8217;ve tried after-school care and play dates to stand in for family while parents work..<br>I don&#8217;t have any answers today, but would like to share this article about the time-gap between the end of the school day and the end of the conventional work day.<br>I don&#8217;t think the answer is making school longer, unless kids are unsafe at home.</p><p>I do think that this challenge can stimulate us to grow collectively and creatively towards a way of truly living that we do not regret.</p><h3>&#8220;Why Does the School Day End Two Hours Before the Workday?</h3><p><em>This mismatch creates a child-care crisis between 3 and 5 p.m. that has parents scrambling for options.</em></p><p>By Kara Voght<br><a href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/09/school-day-parents/569401/">https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/09/school-day-parents/569401/</a></p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[For families to thrive]]></title><description><![CDATA[Highlights from a wonderful interview with Esther Perel:]]></description><link>https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/for-families-to-thrive</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/for-families-to-thrive</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Jaya Julienne Ashmore]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sat, 09 Jun 2018 12:59:47 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!TqTC!,w_256,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F5e30a6d7-b3a3-48bf-abe6-f19eb969f192_1280x1280.png" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong>Highlights from a wonderful interview with Esther Perel:</strong></p><p><strong>~We have come to expect relationships to complete us in a way that used to be reserved for religion.</strong><br>~We don&#8217;t know about women&#8217;s sexuality because it is hidden&#8211;the cost has been too high, and in 9 countries women can still be killed for straying.<br>~The challenge for women is to remember to their own needs and not to let all their energies drain outwards&#8230;How do we connect with our aliveness?<br>~The continuity of family depends on healthy relationships between partners, who have a relationship within a network of other important relationships.</p><p>Esther Perel <br>~ an interview with Mia Freedman</p><p><a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/0ZNfCDZp8iXhCoN0MdfRCe?si=6z0QOTzVRB-IbNAvbTjGQQ">https://open.spotify.com/episode/0ZNfCDZp8iXhCoN0MdfRCe?si=6z0QOTzVRB-IbNAvbTjGQQ</a></p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[luck following love]]></title><description><![CDATA[I love how the word amateur literally means lover.]]></description><link>https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/luck-following-love</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/luck-following-love</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Jaya Julienne Ashmore]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 23 Feb 2018 18:23:59 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!3MVN!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ff17484a6-0c96-434c-8bb8-cd4ce55e7835_1200x675.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="/__u/substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!3MVN!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ff17484a6-0c96-434c-8bb8-cd4ce55e7835_1200x675.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" 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15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a></figure></div><p>I love how the word <em>amateur</em> literally means <em>lover</em>.<br>How often is our real love something we do &#8220;on the side&#8221; but where we get our main helping of fulfilment? And also where we get most in touch with life.</p><p>Amateur astronomist Victor Buso in Argentina loved the stars, and&#8211;while playing around with his new camera on his enormous telescope&#8211; just happened to get a photo of a supernova.</p><p><a href="https://mobile.nytimes.com/2018/02/21/science/supernova-photo-camera.html?referer=https://t.co/1KczdvDnV2?amp=1#click=https://t.co/1KczdvDnV2">https://mobile.nytimes.com/2018/02/21/science/supernova-photo-camera.html?referer=https://t.co/1KczdvDnV2?amp=1#click=https://t.co/1KczdvDnV2</a></p><p>Wendell Berry sings in praise of remaining amateurs&#8211;not buying into the creep towards &#8220;professionalization.&#8221; In a mainstream culture where even children are getting professionalized in school and out, Berry&#8217;s love of love and people and the world sounds even more relevant:</p><p>&#8220;Professional standards, the standards of ambition and selfishness, are always sliding downwards towards expense, ostentation, and mediocrity. They tend always to narrow the ground of judgment. But amateur standards, the standards of love, are always straining upward toward the humble and the best. They enlarge the ground of judgment. The context of love is the world.&#8221;<br>(pg 77, What Are People For, Wendell Berry.)</p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[The pleasure of blowing our minds]]></title><description><![CDATA[What could be more fun than letting go of an old and incorrect assumption or limitation?]]></description><link>https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/the-pleasure-of-blowing-our-minds</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/the-pleasure-of-blowing-our-minds</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Jaya Julienne Ashmore]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 21 Feb 2018 10:54:32 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!TqTC!,w_256,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F5e30a6d7-b3a3-48bf-abe6-f19eb969f192_1280x1280.png" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>What could be more fun than letting go of an old and incorrect assumption or limitation?<br>What could be more important than freeing the mind, as parents and people growing a more alive and life-loving culture?</p><p>Mind-blowing <strong>discovery</strong>, technology, and new visions of our planet and human history in the Mayan jungle with <strong>awesome role model</strong> Albert Lin in the &#8220;Mayan Snake Kings&#8221; <a href="http://video.nationalgeographic.com/video/news/180201-lost-treasures-maya-snake-king-ngc">video </a>below, embedded in the National Geographic <a href="https://news.nationalgeographic.com/2018/02/maya-laser-lidar-guatemala-pacunam/?utm_source=NatGeocom&amp;utm_medium=Email&amp;utm_content=wildscience_20180212&amp;utm_campaign=Content&amp;utm_rd=652823020">article</a>.</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2" target="_blank" href="https://dharmachildcommunity.wordpress.com/2018/02/21/the-pleasure-of-blowing-our-minds/engineer-explorer-mayans/" 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/__u/dharmachild.substack.com/w_1456, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/c_limit, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/f_auto, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/q_auto:good, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fd80e5da4-ca6a-4efa-b2e0-8a3c0e737410_300x216.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"></picture><div></div></div></a><p>One of the most wonderful human capacities and feelings is <strong>letting our minds discover their own &#8220;limiting assumptions&#8221;</strong> and breathe, breeze, and break right through them.<br>Nancy Kline has analyzed the way deep listening fertilizes breakthroughs in her <a href="http://www.timetothink.com/thinking-environment/">&#8220;time to think&#8221;</a> work. Her work originated with a wish for diversity and justice:</p><p>&#8220;&#8230;we cannot think for ourselves until we can think as ourselves. And to think as ourselves, we must feel respected for all of our group identities. In 1996 it became clear that the key block in a person&#8217;s thinking is usually an untrue assumption lived as true. And soon we noticed that untrue assumptions are also the driving force of group oppression, the killer of diversity.<br>A couple of her articles:<br><a href="http://www.timetothink.com/uploaded/Fine%20Point%20Diversity%20PDF.pdf">http://www.timetothink.com/uploaded/Fine%20Point%20Diversity%20PDF.pdf</a><br><a href="http://www.timetothink.com/uploaded/Fine%20Point%20Feel%20Untruth.pdf">http://www.timetothink.com/uploaded/Fine%20Point%20Feel%20Untruth.pdf</a></p><p><a href="https://news.nationalgeographic.com/2018/02/maya-laser-lidar-guatemala-pacunam/?utm_source=NatGeocom&amp;utm_medium=Email&amp;utm_content=wildscience_20180212&amp;utm_campaign=Content&amp;utm_rd=652823020">https://news.nationalgeographic.com/2018/02/maya-laser-lidar-guatemala-pacunam/?utm_source=NatGeocom&amp;utm_medium=Email&amp;utm_content=wildscience_20180212&amp;utm_campaign=Content&amp;utm_rd=652823020<br></a><br><a href="http://video.nationalgeographic.com/video/news/180201-lost-treasures-maya-snake-king-ngc">video.nationalgeographic.com/video/news/180201-lost-treasures-maya-snake-king-ngc</a></p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Story-listening together]]></title><description><![CDATA[Wonderful, original stories to listen to&#8211;including stories tailored to help guide children or families through specific challenges such as moving home, first days of school, sibling rivalry and so on.]]></description><link>https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/story-listening-together</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/story-listening-together</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Jaya Julienne Ashmore]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sat, 17 Feb 2018 19:30:45 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!TqTC!,w_256,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F5e30a6d7-b3a3-48bf-abe6-f19eb969f192_1280x1280.png" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Wonderful, original stories to listen to&#8211;including stories tailored to help guide children or families through specific challenges such as moving home, first days of school, sibling rivalry and so on. The &#8220;sparklestories&#8221; team also offers a series of podcasts coupling stories with tips, perspectives and guidance for parents.<br>I often love to listen as much as my kids do.<br>You can find a lot of stories free on soundcloud or subscribe to their full library.</p><div class="soundcloud-wrap" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://api.soundcloud.com/users/103726128&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;description&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;thumbnail_url&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;author_name&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;author_url&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;targetUrl&quot;:&quot;&quot;}" data-component-name="SoundcloudToDOM"><iframe src="https://w.soundcloud.com/player/?auto_play=false&amp;buying=false&amp;liking=false&amp;download=false&amp;sharing=false&amp;show_artwork=true&amp;show_comments=false&amp;show_playcount=false&amp;show_user=true&amp;hide_related=true&amp;visual=false&amp;start_track=0&amp;url=https%3A%2F%2Fapi.soundcloud.com%2Fusers%2F103726128" frameborder="0" gesture="media" scrolling="no" allowfullscreen="true"></iframe></div><p><a href="https://www.sparklestories.com/">https://soundcloud.com/sparklestories/story7-purple</a></p><p><a href="https://www.sparklestories.com/">https://soundcloud.com/sparklestories/bonus-story-the-council-of-fools<br>sparklestories.com</a></p><p><a href="https://mailchi.mp/sparklestories/parenting-with-heart?e=17c9e78eb0">https://mailchi.mp/sparklestories/parenting-with-heart?e=17c9e78eb0</a></p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Midwifing “big mind,” birthing insight]]></title><description><![CDATA[&#8220;Many African-American midwives in rural southeastern US of the 20th-century were proud that they could &#8216;plow like men, and pick cotton by moonlight.&#8217; They said they were uneducated but that midwifery put their &#8216;big minds&#8217; to work.&#8221; (pg.]]></description><link>https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/midwifing-big-mind-birthing-insight</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/midwifing-big-mind-birthing-insight</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Jaya Julienne Ashmore]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 15 Feb 2018 09:39:11 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!TqTC!,w_256,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F5e30a6d7-b3a3-48bf-abe6-f19eb969f192_1280x1280.png" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<h3>&#8220;Many African-American midwives in rural southeastern US of the 20th-century were proud that they could &#8216;plow like men, and pick cotton by moonlight.&#8217;&nbsp;They said they were uneducated but that midwifery put their &#8216;big minds&#8217;&nbsp;to work.&#8221; (pg. 63,&nbsp;Listen to Me Good, Margaret Charles Smith and Linda Holmes.)</h3><h3>I love the idea of &#8220;putting the &#8216;big mind&#8217; to work&#8221; in birthing babies. Over 10 years ago, when I was pregnant, I wrote an article for my newsletter asking questions about what spiritual birth is and what we could learn from literal pregnancy about supporting and midwifing spiritual birth.</h3><h3>Feel welcome to read more here: <a href="http://www.jayaashmore.org/single-post/2018/02/15/midwifing-and-birthing-big-mind">http://www.jayaashmore.org/single-post/2018/02/15/midwifing-and-birthing-big-mind</a></h3>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[2 favorite lists for when we know we don’t know]]></title><description><![CDATA[As a mother of 2 young kids, I noticed that I got way more advice than I asked for&#8211;including from strangers on the street.]]></description><link>https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/2-favorite-lists-for-when-we-know-we-dont-know</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://dharmachild.substack.com/p/2-favorite-lists-for-when-we-know-we-dont-know</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Jaya Julienne Ashmore]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 12 Feb 2018 10:00:02 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/7689e243-2e81-43f5-ac0a-12ecd745eacb_300x212.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<a class="image-link image2" target="_blank" href="/__u/substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!20G0!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F6976202c-beae-4221-9bfb-68bfb658a381_300x212.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="/__u/substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!20G0!, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/w_424, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/c_limit, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/f_webp, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/q_auto:good, /__u/dharmachild.substack.com/fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F6976202c-beae-4221-9bfb-68bfb658a381_300x212.jpeg 424w, /__u/substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!20G0!, 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fetchpriority="high"></picture><div></div></div></a><p>As a mother of 2 young kids, I noticed that I got way more advice than I asked for&#8211;including from strangers on the street. The younger my kids were, the more people seemed to feel the need to intervene and the less experience and confidence I had to go on. <br>I knew I did not know what I was doing, but I also knew that others could not be so certain of their opinions.<br><em>(The very cool graphic above was created by my friend Danielle Singer&#8230;see more at end of post.)<br></em><br>Being parents at the confluence of cultures (as we are at this time in human history), leaves lots of basic questions open.</p><p>Like food. Like sleep.<br>What to feed a baby or 5-year-old and when. How much sleep to encourage at what ages.</p><p>There is the freedom to do things differently&#8211;we are less likely today to believe a doctor who warns a mother to ignore her daughter&#8217;s cries. Many of us today are still unraveling the trauma from a grandmother who &#8220;had to&#8221; stuff her ears for hours to block out their infant mother&#8217;s cries.<br>But we are also sometimes in a vacuum of wholesome culture, such as Ayurvedic knowledge of seasonal foods. Many mainstream markets have the same foods year-round, and much of it pre-packaged with its very own preservatives and plastic.</p><p>So even though generalized lists and averages can be inappropriate, they can also reassure and give a working hypothesis to start from.</p><p>Two favorite lists helped me at least scratch a minimal foundation for healthful living with my young kids. I still refer to the info from time to time.<br>One is about sleep. One is about food.</p><p><em>But first let me rave. Sleep for the parents, as well as quiet time in the night, is crucial for the health and well-being of our children.</em><br><em>I have found that our modern model of 8-hour adult sleep misses out on some of the most delicious hours for spiritual adults, especially parents. After the unpredictable sleep of the earliest breastfeeding times, I often found that getting up the first time I woke up gave me something I most needed: sacred alone-time with a candle, some silence and a yoga mat. </em><br><em>And then back to sleep! This second sleep tends to be deep, rich and fulfilling&#8211;and along with a short afternoon nap, gives the right number of total sleep hours.</em><br><em>Little did I know I was unearthing the wholesome pre-industrial lifestyle of a first and second sleep. The space between first and second sleep shows up in literature and journals as a time for prayer, lovemaking, letter-writing, musing. And meditation. The silent quality of that time of night restores alignment with what is important.</em></p><p>Here&#8217;s the sleep list.</p><p><strong>From the National Sleep Foundation</strong></p><ul><li><p>Newborns (0-3 months): Sleep range narrowed to 14-17 hours each day (previously it was 12-18)</p></li><li><p>Infants (4-11 months): Sleep range widened two hours to 12-15 hours (previously it was 14-15)</p></li><li><p>Toddlers (1-2 years): Sleep range widened by one hour to 11-14 hours (previously it was 12-14)</p></li><li><p>Preschoolers (3-5): Sleep range widened by one hour to 10-13 hours (previously it was 11-13)</p></li><li><p>School age children (6-13): Sleep range widened by one hour to 9-11 hours (previously it was 10-11)</p></li><li><p>Teenagers (14-17): Sleep range widened by one hour to 8-10 hours (previously it was 8.5-9.5)</p></li><li><p>Younger adults (18-25): Sleep range is 7-9 hours (new age category)</p></li><li><p>Adults (26-64): Sleep range did not change and remains 7-9 hours</p></li><li><p>Older adults (65+): Sleep range is 7-8 hours (new age category)</p></li></ul><p>Here&#8217;s the food list.<br>A basic chart about how much water to use when cooking grains, and how long to cook them. <br>Eating food that is cooked at home with love (and a basic working hypothesis!) sounds like a good start.<br>Putting the grains on the stove to cook while you do something else is reasonable.<br>For cooking dried beans, look here: <a href="http://www.cookingmanager.com/complete-guide-cooking-dried-beans/">http://www.cookingmanager.com/complete-guide-cooking-dried-beans/</a></p><p>I originally used a chart in the book <em>Super Baby Food</em>&#8211;a book full of good ideas that is as extreme as many self-help books. <a href="http://www.superbabyfood.com/">http://www.superbabyfood.com/</a></p><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" 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