All of us are struggling under capitalism, each of us doing what we can to survive. And while this is true, it is equally true that there seems to be two different “camps” of how and what people are doing to survive: those who are aware of the harm capitalism does and are doing both the inner and outer work of change and disengaging and divesting from the system, and those who are stubbornly not aware and seem to think the harder they try to follow and more importanly, enforce, the rules of capitalism, the safer they will become under these systems of harm.

What I have noticed to be the most distinctive trait between these two general groups is empathy - those with awareness have it, those without, don’t. Those lacking in empathy refuse to be accountable for any harm they cause, whether it is directly related to the systems of oppression and authoritarianism or not. They blame everyone and everything else for their suffering. They strive for success under the terms of capitalism and don’t care who they harm along the way. They believe they are being “good” by following the rules, and being seen as good is incredibly important, but all they are doing is causing more and more harm, pain, and strife, for others and equally so for themselves.

Capitalism is killing us, along with the other systems of harm. The more we can find our ways to disengage, while still trying to survive under theses systems the more we will actually find our ways to peace and community. The most basic way to begin to disengage is to grow our capacity for empathy - to actually care about the other humans we come in contact with, in any capacity. I don’t mean saving everyone, I don’t mean fixing everyone’s problems, I mean actually caring and sitting in the discomfort of another’s, and our own, suffering. To be present to the pain, the frustration. To acknowledge every human is doing the best they can with the resources they have. To break free from the thinking that if we are “good little capitalists” and follow all the rules, we’ll somehow be safe from the social and climate collapse that we are only at the beginning stages of. To come back to our humanity, our compassion, and acknowledge the depth and breadth of our interconnection with each other, to (re)embrace the understanding that what happens to someone else could just as easitly happen to us, and more profoundly is actually also happening to us.

Stepping away from the illusion that following the rules, playing the game, and acting (as opposed to being) “good” is part of what this coming lunar eclipse in Pisces is about. It is bringing opportunities to change, to do and be different, to step away from the lies of the systems of harm and to see the reality, to have clarity around the what actually is, our part in it, and how to begin and or continue our own process of change, both inner and outer.

Once the veil is lifted, we can no longer unsee. Once we realize the stories we’ve been brought up on, that meritocracy, acting “good”, blindly following the rules will somehow keep us safe are all lies, we can’t continue acting as if they are true. Our bodies rebel, our souls rebel, our minds rebel. The dissonance we feel in our bodies and minds is real. We have a choice to either continue ignoring it, being miserable, not taking accountability or responsibility for our own lives and actions, or we can do the work of change by coming home into our bodies, by growing our compassion and connection with ourselves, each other, and the rest of our planet.

If you would like to learn more about me and my work, you can check out my About page here (which needs to be updated, and still will give you a good idea of my own foundations in this work).

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“If you’re desperate for safety, I’m not your girl.” ~ Jeanette LeBlanc

Growth is not “safe.”

Expansion is not “safe.”

Revolution and evolution are not “safe.”

Breaking cycles, disrupting patterns is not “safe.”

Processing our trauma, healing our wounds is not “safe.”

Feeling our emotions & their physical sensations is not “safe.”

Being emotionally, psychologically, spiritually, intimate is not “safe.”

Sharing who we are, honestly, transparently, fully, is not “safe.”

Being rooted in our knowing and Self is not “safe.”

Having boundaries & defending them is not “safe.”

Being curious is not “safe.”

Connection is not “safe.”

Love is not “safe.”

I’m not here to be “safe.” And honestly, you shouldn’t be either.

There was a time when I thought being safe was the goal of living life. I wanted safety so desperately I suffocated myself. I wanted everything known and predictable so badly I stifled myself. I wanted control over every aspect of my life so much I completely lost myself.

When we live with trauma coursing through our bodies and minds, when our attachment wounds are bone deep, when we live in and under systems of oppression that abuse and traumatize us daily, we crave order. We want knowns. We desperately believe we need plans, endgames, final destinations.

We can’t tolerate the unknown, the unplanned, the unpredictable.

We feel so unsafe in our own body and the present moment, we do everything we can to try to feel safe.

And we go about trying to grasp that sense of safeness all wrong.

We look outside for that safeness instead of within.

We keep ourselves small, stifled, smothered, stunted because of fear.

We stifle, smother, and stunt others, too.

We end up feeling trapped. Caged. Alone.

And so do those we are in relationship with.

I’m not here for any of that anymore. I am not here for the suffocation of predictability, the stagnation of clinging only to the known, the stifling of Self in order to “guarantee” being liked and or loved and or accepted.

I’m now here for the chaos of freedom. For the messiness of expansion. For the exhilaration of exploration of the uncharted, unknown.

I’m here for softness and roughness, smooth, gentle curves and hard, sharp edges.

I’m here for complexity and contradictions, nuance and context, the both-and multitudes that are being human.

I’m here to love wildly, deeply. To have my broken open heart hurt again and again because the ecstasy of loving in the now is worth the inevitable grief in the future.

I’m here to fall in love over and over, with friends, family, lovers, myself, animals, trees, rivers, salt water, lush earth, pretty rocks, life itself, being fully alive.

I’m here to connect deeply. Passionately. Honestly. Fully.

I’m here for intimacy. Emotional. Sexual. Psychological. Spiritual.

I’m here for non-linear growth and healing.

I’m here for taking accountability for harm caused and doing the intense and hard work to not cause harm in the same way in the future.

I’m here for clear boundaries.

I’m here for unbridled sex and the sweetness of forehead kisses and holding hands.

I’m here for uncomfortable conversations.

I’m here to leave the world a little better than when I entered it.

I’m here to leave the people I am in relationship with knowing their own worth, their own beauty, their own magic a bit, or a lot, more than when we first met.

I’m here for freedom. I’m here for allowing things to unfold in their own time. I’m here to sit in the sometimes painful place of not knowing.

I’m here for this moment, right now. Savoring and enjoying the heck out of it while I can, knowing once it’s gone, it’s gone.

It’s not easy to be here for all this. It is terrifying at times. It is often uncomfortable. It has required a intense and immense amounds of inner work on my end. It will contine to require me to do the work for the rest of my life.

And I can tell you, it feels so amazing to feel this alive and in the present that all that discomfort, all those tears, all that frustration, all the work, and all those days I just wanted to quit but didn’t, was and is completely worth it.

It is a choice. A daily choice. A moment to moment choice. To be present. To allow the discomfort. To experiece the grief and heartache. So I can also experience the peace, the joy, the pleasure, and everything else this human experice has to offer.

I invite you to make these choices too. To come back into your body. To be present. To hold yourself accountable for your own actions and choices. To let others experience the consequences of their actions. To find your ways to embodiment, (r)evolution, connection, and clarity of Self and how you want to be and do in this life.

This piece was originally published on Insta in August 2020. It has been edited for publication here.

If you would like to learn more about me and my work, you can check out my About page here (which needs to be updated, and still will give you a good idea of my own foundations in this work).

If you are interested in working with me 1:1 and explore the ways you are in relationship and change harmful patterns, come more into your own body and life, please click this link or DM me directly to request a free 30-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit. Please note I am now available to meeting with local clients in-person as well as on Zoom.

To help encourage us all to practice reciprocity and move away from extraction culture, I will be utilizing the paywall on the internal work resources. Having a paid subscription both encourages me emotionally, mentally, and spiritually to continue sharing my work and offers reciprocity for my time and energy to produce this work you may benefit from. If you benefit from these resources and cannot afford the $7 per month subscription fee, please contact me directly and we can work something out.

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It wasn’t like this before : From the archives (July 2021)

As of this writing, my hometown is on fire. Multiple wildfires are burning around and on the outskirts of the city, officials saying one of the fires is the worst in our state history. Thousands of acres have been burned, hundreds of homes destroyed, thousands of people displaced. Currently I don’t know the estimated loss of life due to the fire, and regardless, the air in and around the city is now in the “Unhealthy” to “Very Unhealthy” zones, leaving many struggling to even breathe. As of this writing, the largest fire is still not contained.

What is happening in Spokane is not unique this summer, nor for the several past summers. Growing up we never had a “smoke season” that kept us inside, wildfires were quickly contained, and they never encroached the city or jumped over the river endangering neighborhoods. This is now an annual even in many areas across the country.

This can leave us feeling hopeless, helpless, angry, grief stricken. And frankly, it should, to a point. The hopelessness and helplessness are real to an extent - as individuals and even smaller communities we can only do so much (but we can do some things!), with most of the damage to the enviroment being done by corporations and billionaires. Our anger, frustration, and grief are real, valid, and proof our humanity is still intact.

With the world literally burning around us, our oceans beginning to boil, our brains and bodies constantly in survival mode, trying to get to the end of each day alive and fed, how can any of us focus on slowing down, embodiment, (re)connection with our souls, our selves, each other, the planet? We are overwhelmed, burnt out, beyond exhausted, and terrified of any one tiny thing going wrong to throw everything in our lives into chaos - one visit to the E.R., one client canceling, one flat tire could push us over our already teetering edge financially, emotionally, psychologically, and or physically.

And while so much of our energy is focused on “just” trying to survive, and while things like “embodiment” or “nervous system regulation” or “connecting to nature” seem superfluous, even extravagent, these practices are absolutely necessary for our survivial.

The stress is going to keep piling up. It will continue to affect us - as it should. And, the more we are able to practice coming into our bodies, (co)regulating our nervous systems, finding our ways back to the rest of nature, our own souls, and each other, the more we are rebelling against and moving ourselves out of the systems of harm that are creating all this unnecessary stress, pain, and suffering in the first place.

The last few weeks I have felt “cagey”. I realized I haven’t really left the house or yard in months beyond going to the grocery store. I couldn’t tell you the last time I was on a hike or even to the beach. I haven’t been to the river since May (something I usually do at least once a month from May through September). There’s a number of reasons, the main ones being finances and having multiple projects going in the yard transformation that need my attention, time, and energy. I have been spending a lot of time connecting to and with this little plot of land we live on, learning it, and planning and working on what needs to happen to change it into a relatively self-sustaining food forest. I have been connecting with nature, and it is also true that I have been neglecting my relationships with the salt water and trails that had sustained me over the last decade plus, and my body, mind, and soul are feeling that neglect, in the form of an anxious restlessness and mild depression starting to set in.

Noticing this restlessness and depression is its own accomplishment. Understanding how my own system needs to maintain these various relationships is another. Finding my way back to those relationships is proving slightly challenging in the moment due to air quality, and viscerally understanding their importance is helping me plan, prioritize, and restructure some of my daily/weekly routine and ritual.

A truth is there was a time I wouldn’t have been able to attribute my mood changes to my lack of connection with the trees and salt water, I would only notice how I would feel better after a walk along the beach or spending a few hours out in the trees. That was its own accomplishment of course, and now that I have a deeper understanding of the symbiotic relationship we all have with every part of our planet, I can find my ways to course correction that isn’t about just making me “feel better” but is also about nurturing and nourishing myself, my relationships, and the parts of the planet I can come into contact with.

Embodiment, nervous system regulation, and (re)connection aren’t just about feeling good in our bodies. In fact, I’d argue, we actually feel worse because we are actually finally feeling, acknowledging, and trying to consciously and intentionally manage what is happening internally instead of dissociating, repressing, and or unconsciously self-medicating in ways that are relatively harmful. The point of embodiment and nervous system regulation, to me, isn’t about feeling “good”, it’s about being able to be more present and intentional in all my relationships and to not have trauma, wounding, fear, and or internalized indoctrinations and biases running the show and wreaking havoc.

When we are in the work of (r)evolution, creating change, and supporting others, it is critical that we are able to continually do our own unearthing, unraveling, and unlearning work. We all have blind spots and ways we are complicit to and copliant with the systems of harm so many of us are trying to dismantle. Utilizing the master’s tools is something we all do to varying degrees, and something we all need to intentionally and consciously practice changing.

Being constantly dissociated and “out of our body” is one way the systems of harm keeps us in check. Being dissociated means we are not connecting to the tells our body has for us around what is harmful or helpful, depleting or nourishing, extractive or nurturing. Being dissociated means we are not feeling our intense and immense interconnections with the rest of the planet and cosmos, leaving us feeling isolated and alone and stuck in individualist thinking and practices. Being dissociated means we aren’t seeing our own actual accountability for the state of our lives, and instead are internalizing things that aren’t ours and or externalizing onto others what is ours to correct, heal, and or change. Being dissociated means never feeling the depths of our grief, but it also means never feeling the depths of our, and others, love, joy, compassion, and grace.

Embodiment itself is not a “one and done” type of thing, it is a practice. It will ebb and flow. And certainly dissociation has its place, and I am in no way suggesting we should never dissociate nor that dissociating in and of itself is “bad”. However, the more we are able to be present to our bodies and all its sensations, the more we can be present to our lives, our relationships, our own soul growth, expansion, and (r)evolution.

It is also critical to titrate our practices - meaning we need to move at the pace of our own systems, pushing at our own internal and external contraints but not pushing past them. This, for me, is where nervous system work comes in. It helps to begin building the bridge to coming back into our bodies, not as a way to escape our anxiety, depression, rage, grief, or other emotions, but rather as a ways to acknowledge them, unravel what is related to the present and what is related to the past, and what is rooted in the reality of the world and our lives compared to what we are told to believe is “true” and “real”.

Coming into our bodies gives us the opportunities to connect with ourselves, each other, and the rest of our planet in ways not possible when we live in a dissociated state. It can help us open to possibilities, to see what could be and how to get ourselves, and each other, there. It can facilitate our own creativity and problem solving, breaking through veils and facades of what we’ve been told we can or can’t, should or shouldn’t do. It can bring us home, truly home, to our own souls, to our connected consciousness, to our actual humanity, instead of what we’ve been told the “human experience” is (supposed to be) and is about.

Embodiment, and nervous system work, are gateway drugs, so to speak. They open the doors to a different reality, to different possibilities, to different questions and solutions. They are not a cure-all for all our problems, and they can help us find our ways to moving through our lives more fluidly, less reactively, and in more supportive and (inter)connected ways.

Where and when we begin this journey, is up to us. And stepping into this journey is a vital part of our personal and collective survival and ultimate evolution.

If you would like to learn more about me and my work, you can check out my About page here (which needs to be updated, and still will give you a good idea of my own foundations in this work).

If you are interested in working with me 1:1 and explore the ways you are in relationship and change harmful patterns, come more into your own body and life, please click this link or DM me directly to request a free 30-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit. Please note I am now available to meeting with local clients in-person as well as on Zoom.

To help encourage us all to practice reciprocity and move away from extraction culture, I will be utilizing the paywall on the internal work resources I offer. Having a paid subscription both encourages me emotionally, mentally, and spiritually to continue sharing my work and offers reciprocity for my time and energy to produce this work you may benefit from. If you benefit from these resources and cannot afford the $7 per month subscription fee, please contact me directly and we can work something out.

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Over the last year I have been building a relationship with the yard (land) we currently live on. It’s been an adventure, to say the least. And a surprising one at that. A year ago, we had just barely moved into the house and the extent of my plans for the yard was to build a single raised bed to grow some strawberries, potatoes, and tomatoes. I had no plans or intentions to transform the yard, to bring more native plants in, or to build an urban farm or now food forest. I had no intentions for the yard or my home to eventually become a part of my work, to go back to in person work.

A truth is, I had no idea how moving into this house would transform me. Or maybe more to the point, how it was just the space I needed to nurture and nourish a part of me that had laid dorminant since I was a child. That part of me that wanted to be outside, to play, to make “potions”, to talk with the birds and squirrels and worms, and animals on our small farm, to be in that connected space of knowing and living on a visceral level how not alone I am/we are, how the plants and trees have spirits and personalities, how to live in reciprocity and symbiosis and not pure extraction and domination

We all have this part. This part of us that knows. This part of us that embraces our interconnectedness and interdependence. This part of us that knows how to give and receive, how to listen and use our voice, how to be in relationship with our ancestors and the energy/spirit/soul of the land and all her inhabitants.

The world we live in is traumatizing. We are all living in constant crisis, if it’s not financial instability then it’s rising temperatures and increased “natural disasters”. Most of us are living in survival mode, focused on getting to the next day and paying the next bill, unable to find our ways to deep, nurturing, and nourishing relationship with each other, with the land, with ourselves.

And yet, while I see how so many of us are struggling, I also see so many of us doing that intense work of reconnection.

Breaking down the status quo starts at home, in our own hearts, bodies, minds and in our day-to-day routines with those in our lives. Yes the work in the outer world needs to be done, and if we aren’t doing our inner work, creating change from within, over time we, the collective, will just end up right back where we are now.

Doing our inner work isn’t a one and done task nor is there only one path or way of doing it. And what I am finding for myself, is the more connected I become with the earth and my own body, the more I am able to act and be in ways that more fully align with my own values and soul. The more I nurture and nourish the land, the more I nuture and nourish my body, the more capacity I have for others, the more peace I feel in my life, even as the world burns down around me, and more I trust the timing of my life and universe and surrender to the unfolding that is outside of my control.

And.

It is also true that while I do feel peace and my relationship with the yard and house feeds me in ways I didn’t know I needed, and that I can see and feel where these relationships, and my life and work, are going long term, I still feel that restless frustration of “Are we there yet?!” as I live in the liminal space of the unfolding. I feel the old impulse to try to force or rush and push, to speed things up so we can go to some of the “end points” of this journey. I am human after all.

Trusting the timing of our lives is a practice. It is also an act of rebellion and goes against the status quo indoctrination of needing (and demanding) instant gratification. It is an invitation to sit in the discomfort of the unfolding, of not being where we were but not quite being where we’re going anymore.

Moving into this practice, allowing ourselves to be in a trustfall with the universe doesn’t we mean we sit on the sidelines and let life happen to us. We still have autonomy and agency, however putting down our urgency is where the practice really is.

Creating the life and world we want happens in millions, if not billions, of small, tiny, steps. Often our forward movement feels slow and sloggish, and yet change is still happening, as long as we continue the practices, allow ourselves to be in the ebb and flow of our own expansions and contractions, to unravel our indoctrination and make the world a little better when we leave it than it was when we entered it.

The universe works at its own pace and in its own language. When the nodes moved into Pisces and Virgo last January (2025), my fourth (family and home) and tenth (work in the outer world) houses, I had no idea how my home/family and or work life would shift over the next 18 months. And yet, while I couldn’t have imagined or even dreamed of all the change that took place for me personally over the last year and half, where I am now feels exactly right. All this shifting would have been more painful, or not happened at all, if I hadn’t been able to trust fall with the universe, to take the seemingly strange or spontaneous out of no where events and circumstances in stride, or to trust my own inner knowing and the guidance of my ancestors and guides. It has all been a practice, and a flow of its own timing, and of course the work in these areas of my life continues, even as the nodes shift signs. And it is interesting to look back, to see the influences outside of my own control, and to see how I have grown to be able to be with them instead of allowing fear of change to fight against them.

What has changed for you over the last eighteen months? If you know which houses Pisces and Virgo are for you in your natal chart, do you notice these themes being emphasized as areas of growth, healing, expansion, and or release?

Being able to slow ourselves down and allow ourselves to be in the natural rhythm and timing of the unfolding of life is a practice, and we each have our own roles to play in it all. And, the more we can surrender while also doing our work, the more we may find our ways back to nurturing and nourishing relationships with each other, with the earth and all her inhabitants, and with ourselves.

If you would like to learn more about me and my work, you can check out my About page here.

If you are interested in working with me 1:1 and explore the ways you are in relationship and change harmful patterns, please click the link below (in the Ways for us to connect section) or DM me directly to request a free 30-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit. Please note I am now available to meeting with local clients in-person as well as on Zoom.

To help encourage us all to practice reciprocity and move away from extraction culture, I will be utilizing the paywall on the internal work resources I offer. Having a paid subscription both encourages me emotionally, mentally, and spiritually to continue sharing my work and offers reciprocity for my time and energy to produce this work you may benefit from. If you benefit from these resources and cannot afford the $7 per month subscription fee, please contact me directly and we can work something out.

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We may tell ourselves it wasn’t like this before, and we are both right and wrong.

No, it wasn’t *exactly* like it was before. Because you are a different person now than then. Because it is a different situation. Because they are different people. Because we never love two people the same.

And.

The tears. The literal ache in your chest. The desperately wanting things to be different. The knowing this was inevitable, but sweet Jesus couldn’t we just have more time. The looking outside for answers you already know. This is all similar, familiar, and yet new and raw and fresh.

You’ve been here before. You’ll be here again.

Because you live and love with a broken open heart. Because you know the risk and the inevitable outcome and know all the sweetness, beauty, and magic that came before is ultimately worth it. Because even knowing what you do now you wouldn’t trade a single moment of the past so you could avoid what is in this moment.

And you know there will a tomorrow. And it may not be any better than today and it will be different.

So for now, accept the sweet spaces that allow you rest, to recover, to put salve on that aching chest. Allow the gentle spaces that ask nothing of you and so willingly give. Allow for breath and slowness and quiet and cocooning.

Because this is part of the process. And in six months or a year you may see it all so differently. And there may be another who you swear you never felt this way about but know that is both true and untrue. Or maybe there will be a new beginning or maybe what you see as an ending now eventually evolves into something else, something different, better, more than you dared to dream.

We can’t know the future, not the details, and we know that a future exists. That feelings pass and life moves forward, and at some point, you will too.

This piece was originally published on Insta in July 2021. It has been edited for publication here.

If you would like to learn more about me and my work, you can check out my About page here.

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If your organization may benefit from some “family therapy”, helping seek out the ways members and or the organization itself may be utilizing the tools of the systems of harm and domination and to find and implement new ways of being more in alignment with your organizations values, please reach out as I am currently developing a program to do just that!

To help encourage us all to practice reciprocity and move away from extraction culture, I will be utilizing the paywall on the internal work resources. Having a paid subscription both encourages me emotionally, mentally, and spiritually to continue sharing my work and offers reciprocity for my time and energy to produce this work you may benefit from. If you benefit from these resources and cannot afford the $7 per month subscription fee, please contact me directly and we can work something out.

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We can’t know the unfolding of our lives. As in, we can’t really know the details of where we are going and can only clearly see where we’ve been. We can have an idea of where we want to go, or even feel our calling of what we want to do deep in our marrow, we can even know that certain things will happen, but we can never know all the details of how we can get from here to there. There will be people we want in our lives and others that we want out of them. Some people will leave, and some of those who leave our lives may return, others won’t. Some people weave in and out over years, even decades, until at some point things just click in the right ways and an amazing relationship emerges. Some people will break our hearts in ways we may think we’ll never recover from, and yet, recover we do.

I am a firm believer in expiration dates. For food. For interests. For jobs. For relationships. At somepoint, everything needs to come to an end in one way or another. Generally, we don’t know when a relationship will end, or when the version of it we are currently in will end, but change is inevitable, and if we are living this life right, in my opinion, we shift and grow, and all too often we don’t shift and grow in sync with everyone in our lives at current moment.

We know when it’s time to let go of relationships. We feel it in our guts, in our marrow, in our soul. We sense the grief welling up, and whether we acknowledge it or not, things don’t feel quite right anymore.

Often we ignore our knowing. We don’t want things to end. We love the other person and don’t want them to not be in our lives. Or we are comfortable with how things are and don’t want them to change. So we stuff it down, ignore it, pretend everything is fine, and regardless, the relationship disintegrates, in more painful and hurtful ways than necessary.

Clinging to something or someone that no longer fits who we are now or who we are becoming keeps us stuck and stunted. Our fear of change and the unknown can stiffle us and have us spinning on a hamster wheel, going through the motions, but not really going anywhere.

Letting relationships go is not easy. There is grief. There is sadness. There is a plethora of other emotions. There is learning how to adapt to life without that relationship or person, which is also an opportunity to learn more about ourselves in the process.

In the letting go, we create space. Space for others to enter sure, but more space for us to get to know ourselves more. To see who we are, what we want, what we enjoy. We can focus on our own next level of growth and healing, however that may look, and eventually others who are more aligned with who we are and are becoming, enter into our lifes.

Sometimes relationships go through cycles. Ester Perel talks about how as adults we have five serious romantic/intimate relationships, and she always notes that sometimes all these relationships can be with the same person. (Personally, I feel that five is too small a number, and that we need to expand our narrow definitions and hierarchies around romantic relationships, but that may be a post for another day). What this means is that as we grow, the person or people in our lives grow with us. Our relationships evolve, devolve, shift, morph, ebb, flow. Those who can be in all that with us, are the ones who are in all that with us, for as long as it feels good and right for everyone involved.

It is also true that sometimes it’s about timing. My best friend in my 50s is a woman I met when we were in high school together. We were friends back then but not super close. Over the years we’d lose touch and then find each other again, catch up and then we’d go our separate ways again. Then, about eight-ish years ago, we started coming back together again, and this times things stuck. There was never any pressure from either of us over the years to stay in touch, or to show up in specific ways, and yet we did and here we are. I can’t imagine living this second half of my life without her, and also I know that if the time comes for our paths to part, we each move with love through that next transition and chapters of our lives.

I have other friends who I have known for decades, but none who I talk to daily or even weekly or monthly. Some friends I don’t really have contact with for years. There is always an openness and a welcoming when we do reconnect, and there aren’t hard feelings about the space and time we had apart. I have lovers who I interact with in the same way, we come and go into and out of each other’s lives as it makes sense and feels right. These people are important to me, each relationship has a dee

It’s equally true that there are people who were in my life and I never hear from again. Some died. Some are just living their lives, as I am living mine. This doesn’t mean the relationships weren’t important or meaningful, it means their time came and went and, for whatever reasons, they won’t come back in this life time. Some of these relationships I have grieved, others just slipped away.

The lyrics of Aisah Badru’s Water always hit me in all the right, and tender, places:

So loosen up your grasp

Everything’s not meant to last

Let the rising tide withdraw and go back to the sea

‘Cause you see

People are water, they need to be free

They need to explore more where they want to be

We cannot be keepers of anyone’s key,

We have to love in a way that sets them free

…

People are water, let ‘em be

Let it breathe, let it leave

We can’t hold others back from their own journeys, just as we can’t allow others to hold us back from ours. Honoring the expiration dates of our relationships also means we honor the unfolding of them, in their own time.

All too often folks enter into relationships with expectations, an “end goal”, wanting specific things to happen. People focus on the relationship and its status instead of on the people in it and what each of them actually want or who each of them actually are. We project fantasies and fairy tales, we fall into the social conditioning we’ve all received about “happily ever after” and “until death do us part” and we lose sight of the moments happening right now.

I’ve been there, done that. My marriage was in many ways, based on my own projections and expectations. Towards the end, we were both miserable, and yet I refused to let go for months. I was in denial, I was scared, I didn’t know what would happen or what life would look like if I wasn’t a wife.

And well, here I am. Honestly living a life I never dreamed possible or thought I would want. It’s not perfect, but it is amazing in so many ways.

And I wouldn’t be here if I had continued to cling to that relationship. I wouldn’t be here if I hadn’t allowed myself to grieve that ending, to open up to other unknown possiblities, to be in the flow. I likely wouldn’t have the relationship I do with my bestie now, I definitely wouldn’t have or had the relationships with various lovers I’ve had, and most importantly, I wouldn’t have the relationship I have with myself.

Letting go can be painful. And it can be freeing. Allowing our relationships to move in the ways they need to, to breathe, to expand, to contract; allowing those in our lives to do the same; allowing ourselves to do the same, this is where our growth and healing is; this is where real change, internal and external, is.

The systems of harm want us looking at each other as objects. They want us trying to possess each other, to stay stuck in unhappy relationshps, to buy into the oppressive narratives of what relationships are “supposed” to look like, of which relationships are important, which relationships will finally make us “whole”. They want us stuck, they want us stunted, and they want us constantly striving for fulfillment and satisfaction outside of ourselves. They want us clinging to the status quo, to the “comfort” of the known, to be more concerned with labels and what others think than our actual lived experience or to see the people in our lives, including ourselves, clearly and honestly.

Sometimes we need to let people and relationships go. Sometimes they do return, if the timing is right, if the shifts that needed to happen happened, if there is still more for us to learn from and with each other. Sometimes they don’t return, and others enter our lives, offering us opportunties for new paths and journies, different growth and healing, deeper love, being known and understood.

Unearthing, unraveling, examining, and unlearning our social indoctrination around relationships is intense and life long work. There are layers and layers for each of us to explore, to shift, to morph. Our ability to allow endings (and new beginnings) is a part of the process, it is a part of destabilizing the status quo, it is part of coming home to ourselves and to each other to co-create a world where we all are free, loved, and truly seen.

If you would like to learn more about me and my work, you can check out my About page here.

If you are interested in working with me 1:1 and explore the ways you are in relationship and change harmful patterns, please click the link below (in the Ways for us to connect section) or DM me directly to request a free 30-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit.

If your organization may benefit from some “family therapy”, helping seek out the ways members and or the organization itself may be utilizing the tools of the systems of harm and domination and to find and implement new ways of being more in alignment with your organizations values, please reach out as I am currently developing a program to do just that!

To help encourage us all to practice reciprocity and move away from extraction culture, I will be utilizing the paywall on the internal work resources. Having a paid subscription both encourages me emotionally, mentally, and spiritually to continue sharing my work and offers reciprocity for my time and energy to produce this work you may benefit from. If you benefit from these resources and cannot afford the $7 per month subscription fee, please contact me directly and we can work something out.

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Life can be kinda funny sometimes.

Like the ways it presents opportunities for our own growth. For us to explore and process another layer of our trauma, attachment wounds, social indoctrination.

Like the way it may give us exactly what we believe we want to see if we can actually handle it.

Like the way those mirrors magically appear for us to deeply look at ourselves. Our values. Our desires. Our needs.

Like the way the same life lesson appears over and over and over until we fully learn and integrate it.

You know, funny. Serendipitous. Almost like it’s destiny. Or fate. If one believes in such things.

The way when we say we want to be pushed out of our comfort zones and then approximately 100 million opportunities for that to occur just show up.

The way when we say we don’t want to be ruled by fear, but by love and then we get choice after choice presented to us where we need to decide just that :: fear or love.

How we crave emotional intimacy and community but at the same time are terrified of it, and because of this we find ourselves on a razor’s edge between staying stuck in old harmful patterns or stepping into the wild unknown and breaking them.

We have the choice every day, multiple times a day to move into love, expansion, connection, intimacy, freedom or to remain in fear, contraction, isolation, alienation, stagnancy.

It’s a risk to choose love.

It can be terrifying to do different, to disrupt harmful cycles, to do the work to co-create a world that no longer utilizes the “master’s tools”.

And.

It is the work. It is what processing trauma, growing new neural pathways, being in relationship in nurturing and nourishing ways requires. It is the way to connection. To intimacy. To the new ancient ways of being. With our Self. With others. With our world.

This piece was originally published on Insta in July 2020. It has been edited for publication here.

If you would like to learn more about me and my work, you can check out my About page here.

If you are interested in working with me 1:1 and explore the ways you are in relationship and change harmful patterns, please click the link below (in the Ways for us to connect section) or DM me directly to request a free 30-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit.

If your organization may benefit from some “family therapy”, helping seek out the ways members and or the organization itself may be utilizing the tools of the systems of harm and domination and to find and implement new ways of being more in alignment with your organizations values, please reach out as I am currently developing a program to do just that!

To help encourage us all to practice reciprocity and move away from extraction culture, I will be utilizing the paywall on the internal work resources. Having a paid subscription both encourages me emotionally, mentally, and spiritually to continue sharing my work and offers reciprocity for my time and energy to produce this work you may benefit from. If you benefit from these resources and cannot afford the $7 per month subscription fee, please contact me directly and we can work something out.

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Last summer when we moved into this house I had no idea how the house and yard would change me. It’s the first actual house my youngest has lived in (we always were in townhomes before), and the first with any sort of real yard that he can remember. It’s also the first yard I’ve had as an adult where I have actually wanted to be in it, work with and in it, grow and nurture plants, and eventually have it evolve into a small urban farm (to share food with family, friends, and neighbors).

I grew up on a small farm. We had livestock, mostly dairy goats. Every couple of years my parents bought a steer that we would raise and eventually have butchered and that was our red meat while we raised another one. We had sheep once. And pigs once. And always horses. Growing up there were tons of chores, getting up early to help with milking before school, and again helping with milking after dinner. I spent a lot of time with the animals and it definitely forged my love of goats in particular.

As an adult I swore I would never have a farm again. Way too much work and expense and the struggle I watched my mom experience trying to keep it running, especially after my parents separated.

We never really had a garden, but both my grandmas and all my great aunts did. They would spend hours out in the yard tending to their peonies and roses, herbs and tomato plants. I didn’t understand it back then. It seemed like so much work, as much work as helping maintain the small livestock farm, and frankly I wanted nothing to do with any of it. It also seemed boring, I mean at least the animals had personalities, plants are just… plants (or so I thought when I was young). Looking back I am sure I missed a lot of opportunities to learn about tending to plants and soil, to absorb the wisdom of my elders, but I was a kid, and tired, and just knew I wanted to play, not work.

So late last summer when I decided I was going to start tending to this yard and not just maintain it, but transform it, was a bit of a surprise to me. It wasn’t something I’d thought, and definintely not dreamed, of before. But little by little, the more I did outside, the more I started truly building a relationship with land and its inhabitants. It started with cleaning up years old compost/habitat piles, then moved on to pruning overgrown rhodedendrons and trees, pulling up and out english ivy, holly, and blackberry bramble (which was so satisfying). Next I planted a small rosemary plant, and an oregano and thyme, all by the front gate. Next thing I knew I was researching native plants and how to build raised beds for food gardening.

Of course then came the planting more native plants in the yard (nootka roses, stinging nettle, ocean spray, salmon berry, and thimbleberry) and beginning our experiments in how to build raised beds, trying various and asundry materials and methods. Now my culinary herb garden is built and in its final location with some herbs growing strong (I built it four times in total, and in two different locations) and the medicianl herb garden is also finished and I’ll be planting in after the full moon.

The food garden beds will be built over the late summer/fall/winter, but in the meantime we do have some potatoes and tomatoes in grow bags where the beds will eventually live.

For Summer Solstice this year I made a cardinal cross in the yard (daylight image above) and lit it at sunset allowing it to burn itself out over two hours while I watched the flames, listened to music, and set intentions for this summer season and the year to come. I spent the day at a folding table in the yard, creating vision boards (including one for the house and one for the yard), chattering with the birds and squirrels, listening to music. It wasn’t the Solstice I had orginally planned, but it was the one I was meant to have.

The last year and half has been filled with twists and turns I never even dreamed about. And my life has changed in ways I didn’t know I wanted it to change. I love being in the yard, but now I also love being in the kitchen, preparing food while standing at the large picture window that looks out on one of the maple trees and now my culinary herb garden (and eventually will look out on the goth garden I am planning and prepping for next spring). I have become domestic in a way a part of me has craved but never had the time, energy, or right space for. Now that my kids are older (my youngest is now 12), I’m finding I have more time to dig deeper into my own ancestral roots, which includes a deep connection to the land and our home.

I told a client the other day, I’m like if a Trad Wife could be a raging, man hating, feminist. I love shifting us back to our more ancestral ways, to embrace the truth that I show love by feeding you, and to begin to accept my own emerging crone-hood instead of trying to pretend it isn’t happening.

This evolution didn’t start with our move last summer. This move simply gave me the space to expand what had been beginning to emerge in the years prior, shortly after my ex and I separated. I was growing some herbs in pots in the windsill, carrying on certain food traditions from my grandmothers, doing my own trauma work and neurospicy unmasking, going on hikes and growing a relationship with my favorite trail. It has been a process, that was years in the making, and here I am, in a place I never consciously dreamed of being, but a part of me knew I would be.

The evolution continues. In July I will begin seeing (local) clients in person, in my home. It is another shift in my work, one that I avoided for a long time, and also one that I have been playing with in my mind since our most recent move. I’m dreaming of ways to incorporate reconnection with the land into the work I do directly with folks, expanding my ancestral reconnection offerings and skills, and continuing to bridge the gap between “modern psychology” and actual healing and tearing down the systems of harm that traumatize us daily, if not hourly, and keep us isolated and in non-reciprocal relationships (with each other, the earth, and all her inhabitants).

I invite you to look back on the last eight years of your own life. To consider what has changed for you, what you now long for that you didn’t dream of before, what plot twists helped you realign with your values and knowing, and where there is still opportunities for more shifting and evolving.

Uranus’s shift into Gemini is sure to keep bringing us all plot twists and opportunities for reconnection and evolution. The question is always, will we move with the flow and take advantage of these opportunities, or will we dig our heels in and resist change and growth out of fear of the unknown and doing differently?

If you would like to learn more about me and my work, you can check out my About page here.

If you are interested in working with me 1:1 and explore the ways you are in relationship and change harmful patterns, please click the link below (in the Ways for us to connect section) or DM me directly to request a free 30-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit.

If your organization may benefit from some “family therapy”, helping seek out the ways members and or the organization itself may be utilizing the tools of the systems of harm and domination and to find and implement new ways of being more in alignment with your organizations values, please reach out as I am currently developing a program to do just that!

To help encourage us all to practice reciprocity and move away from extraction culture, I will be utilizing the paywall on the internal work resources. Having a paid subscription both encourages me emotionally, mentally, and spiritually to continue sharing my work and offers reciprocity for my time and energy to produce this work you may benefit from. If you benefit from these resources and cannot afford the $7 per month subscription fee, please contact me directly and we can work something out.

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I want you to know...

...I see you. Your tenderness, your softness, your sensitivity, your magic and beauty and brilliance. I see it all behind that front you put on, the tough I don’t care fuck them attitude you wear, that mask and armor you use to hide and shield yourself.

...I love the whole and holy of you. The mask and everything behind the mask.

... You are so much more than you give yourself credit for.

... Words are not the only language we speak. The language of our bodies express what there are no words for.

... Wherever you go, there you are. You can try to run from your demons but they are always there within you.

... There is time. It’s not too late. All the things you have bottled up can still be shared. All the feelings you have tried to ignore can still be expressed.

... Physical distance doesn’t change how your heart feels. Love and grief know no bounds. Your heart can ache and be full at the same time.

... Yes letting people in is scary as fuck and a huge risk because yes they might leave, and also they might stay. Or they may leave and come back. And yes there will be heartache and most times all the good that came from knowing them makes any heartache worth it.

... Endings don’t have to be The End. Good-byes can actually mean Until Next Time. What a person says or writes, what they mean or feel, and how we interpret it all can all look vastly different.

... We all have things we’ve said and done we wish we could take back. We wish we could change. We wish we could undo. This is where grace, for ourselves and others, becomes most vital.

I want you to know...

... What you have meant to me. What you mean to me. How it feels to be in your presence. How you made my life brighter, fuller, more beautiful and fun.

... You are never a burden. You are never an inconvenience. You are not a mistake or a lesson. I have never, ever been dissatisfied or disappointed with or by you.

... I understand that silence sometimes feels safer. That getting everything exactly right feels more important than just being who you are and allowing the messy to exist. That all those chips on your shoulders are heavy and oppressive.

... I welcome your mess. Your imperfections. And you never, ever, have to prove your worth or value or deserving to me because I already know you are priceless, precious, and holy.

... I’m sorry. I’m sorry I couldn’t hear you. I’m sorry my own past pain came out in the ways it did. I’m sorry I wasn’t more clear and articulate about who you are and what you mean to me.

... We are all human. None of us have any idea what the fuck we are doing most days. ALL of us carry baggage and trauma and fear and pain. None of us are perfect or should be put on pedestals. We are all angels and demons at the same time.

... I believe in you. I believe in me. I believe in us. And together is only way we’ll to get through it all intact.

I want you to know...

... Finding kindreds is rare. And when you meet them you can’t hold on to them. You have to let them and yourself be free.

... Love isn’t about cages or chains or contracts. It doesn’t look like fairy tales and it doesn’t feel like finally being whole. It isn’t about promises of forever or needing to never have doubts.

... Love is about freedom. And ease. And grace. And patience. And compassion. And yes there will be hard times because we are all humans and we are messy and complex and complicated and contradictory. And the hard times can be opportunities for us to become even closer.

... The opposite of love is indifference. All that pain you feel that you are calling hate is really grief and fear. Allow yourself to come back home to love. Again and again and again.

... It’s okay to be scared. To not be sure. To worry. To be weak. To be vulnerable. To need someone. To want someone.

... You are brave. You are brilliant and beautiful and sexy. Strong. Powerful. Sweet. Soft. Handsome. Gorgeous.

... Your feelings aren’t “too much”. You are not “too much”. You are exactly enough. This doesn’t mean you don’t have work to do. It does mean you never have to try to be perfect for me.

... Your thoughts, ideas, viewpoints, perspectives all matter to me. I want to know you. All of you.

... I want you. All of you. The messy. The incomplete. The ugly. The hard. The angry. The sad. Along with the gorgeous. The brilliant. The easy. The joyful. The fun. All of you.

... I see all the good you bring to the world. All you do for those you care about, including me. I appreciate you, all you do and all you are.

I want you to know...

... Growth can be painful. That doesn’t mean we don’t do the work. It means we connect with the people who can hold us through the pain, the mess, and fear of it all.

... It’s okay to allow people to help you.

... Relationships are not one way streets. When you give it is important to also receive. When you shut off people who can be there for you, even in the most mundane ways, you shut off opportunities for connection, growth, and ease.

... Being curious and asking difficult questions will ultimately save you. Making assumptions will rob you of opportunities for deep connection and joy. What you think a person means isn’t always what they actually mean.

... Conflicts don’t need to lead to wars. Ruptures can often be repaired. It is possible to rekindle fires when there is still a spark.

... We can get through this. Communication is key. Connection is key. Being clear with stating our wants, needs, boundaries is key. As is being able to hear each other’s.

... Just because a person has a want doesn’t mean you have to fulfill it. Just because someone asks something of you doesn’t mean you are required to do it or that you somehow failed them because you couldn’t.

... I am here. Right here. To listen. To talk. To hold you and be held by you. Today. Tomorrow. Always. All ways.

This piece was originally published on Insta as a four part series in June 2021. It has been edited for publication here.

If you would like to learn more about me and my work, you can check out my About page here.

If you are interested in working with me 1:1 and explore the ways you are in relationship and change harmful patterns, please click the link below (in the Ways for us to connect section) or DM me directly to request a free 30-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit.

If your organization may benefit from some “family therapy”, helping seek out the ways members and or the organization itself may be utilizing the tools of the systems of harm and domination and to find and implement new ways of being more in alignment with your organizations values, please reach out as I am currently developing a program to do just that!

To help encourage us all to practice reciprocity and move away from extraction culture, I will be utilizing the paywall on the internal work resources. Having a paid subscription both encourages me emotionally, mentally, and spiritually to continue sharing my work and offers reciprocity for my time and energy to produce this work you may benefit from. If you benefit from these resources and cannot afford the $7 per month subscription fee, please contact me directly and we can work something out.

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Embodied Relating Practice Group. A new offering for paid subscribers, meeting two to three times per month, focusing on somatics, embodiment, natural rhythms, reconnecting to intuition, ancestral connection, boundaries, grief metabolization, and collective and individual healing, (r)evolution, and connection. Details, including dates and general itinerary for each gathering, coming soon.

Family Therapy for Organizations and Communities . A program for organizations to work with me to examine they ways they may be utilizing the tools of the systems of harm and to work with staff to help alleviate conflict and co-create a more nurturing and nourishing environment to help align internal culture with the values and work of change the organization is striving for.

Ancestral Healing & Journeying Work - (Re)Connecting to who we were before whiteness. Individual sessions to find reconnection with your ancesters, healing ancestral curses/processing ancestral trauma, and nourishing our ancestral strength and wisdom. If this kind of work interests you, I invite you to reach out so we can set up a 30-minute free consultation to discuss what this work could look like for you by emailing me at raimondi dot gwynn at gmail dot com with “Ancestral Connection Inquiry” in the subject line. You can also learn more here.

*Please note I am slowly moving away from social media. The best way to connect with me and my work is right here.

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Disengaging from the systems of harm is a slow, tedious, intentional, and sometimes scary process. It means rejecting the “rules” society has set for “acceptable” behavior. It means putting ourselves at risk of judgement, of not being able to access and receive the “benefits” that come with following the made up rules. It means being different. It means standing out. It means discomfort.

This is a large part of why people don’t disengage. We humans have grown very accustomed to our creature comforts.

One of my questions over the last few years as dictators have sent down new rules and requirements to federal agencies, is “Why are they listening and doing what the dictators say?” Those in power, in many ways, only have as much power as we give them. For example, what would have happened if when, here in the US, there was a mandate to remove historically accurate signs from our national parks, the park rangers just said No. and didn’t remove or replace the signs? People likely would have lost their jobs, true. And what if their replacements also refused to change the signs? Then what?

The systems of harm bank on our fear of loss of belonging, they prey on our desperate need to be accepted, and feed us propaganda about what it means to be a “good, upstanding citizen” that ultimately only benefits those in power.

One of the subsystems created to keep us in line, and in perpetual debt, is credit rating. While businesses have had systems of rating other businesses for commerce for over a century, it was only in mid last century that they starting rating non-business consumers. It wasn’t until 1989 that FICO scores came into effect, standarizing the credit rating systems. This number now controls our ability, or lack of ability, to buy or rent a home, buy or lease a car, get a line of credit, even get a student loan. (Noting that lines of credit and student loans are tools in and of themselves to get and keep us in debt).

We “earn” or keep a “good” credit rating by paying our credit cards, mortages, and car leases or payments on time. Rent payments are not part of credit scores. Medical payments are not part of our credit scores. Utility payments are not part of our credit scores. Paying in cash for anything is not part of our credit score. The only way to impact our credit score, is by going into debt and then making payments on that debt.

I think it is important to note also, that FICO scores were standarized as divorce rates were studily increasing and more single women, and single mothers, were seeking credit, buying cars and or houses, and going back to college to increase their earning potentional and amassing student debt. Coincidence?

The systems within the systems of harm, created to keep us inline, obeient, compliant, and complict, are assumed. And like much of the rules under these systems, they only work if enough of us follow them.

So I am left again asking - Why are we following them? Why do we pay back loans that are predetory? Why do we pay exorbanent interest on loans to the point we never actually pay down the principal? And what would happen if we just stopped? What would happen if we just stopped paying our credit cards, our student loans? (I want to note here that our need for these loans is a predetory practice - if we could all afford our basic needs (which includes food, clothing, housing, transportation) with our wages, we wouldn’t need credit or loans in the first place).

I know if we stopped paying our housing or car payments that we can lose those things. And while there are plenty of predetory loans out there for these things, and while I strongly and firmly believe housing and transportation should be free and are a human right, I also acknowledgle that becoming houseless or carless in the world right now is not a good or great option.

And what if we started where they can’t do much to us except affect our made up credit score? What if we stopped paying into the systems that keep them working? What if we stopped being complicit and compliant to our own debt and stress in this way? What could they do besides give us a bad credit rating? And does that rating actually matter? It’s made up. It’s a construct. It’s a way to keep the wealthy, wealthy, the poor, poor, and the working class fighting itself because of this (false) sense of lack and scarity.

I’m not saying what you should or shouldn’t do. I am asking questions. I am inviting us all to look at our indoctrination and the ways we have (still) bought into the systems of harm and are still following the rules that don’t actually benefit us in any real way.

A truth is, we wouldn’t need “credit” if food, clean water, and housing were things we didn’t have to pay for or at the least were affordable. A truth is, the extreme cost of everything right now is on purpose - to keep us struggling, to keep us trying to figure out to survive under the systems so we don’t have the time, energy, or creativity to find our ways of existing outside of them. A truth is, if enough of us stopped playing by enough of the rules, the system would falter and crumble.

And. Not everyone is ready to just stop paying our credit cards or student loans. So what are some other smaller things we can do?

• Grow our own food. This doesn’t mean you have to have a garden full of fruits and veggies and or a flock of chickens. Start, perhaps, with growing one herb in a container on your windowsill. Basil seems to do well inside, and can be used in so many different recipes. A couple years ago I started growing basil and mint in pots inside and we used both regularly (the basil in cooking, the mint to make tea) and now am in a house and growing potatoes and cherry tomatoes in grow bags this year (which could also be done on a balcony of an apartment if facing the right direction to get enough sunlight) and prepping parts of the yard for raised beds that will be built this year and planted in next - my point being you can start small and who knows where life may take you).

• Mend clothes instead of replacing or use the fabric to make something else.

• Delete all those screenshots. You know, the emotional support screenshots that you take and then never look at again? Those. Those screenshots live in “the cloud” which isn’t a magical mythical place, but is a server in a data center. The less photos, documents, and screenshots we store on the cloud, the less space they take on servers, the fewer servers needed, the fewer data centers being built. (I recently deleted 10,000 screenshots from my phone. I didn’t even stop to look at them (mostly), just mass deleted.)

• Socialize at home, in a park, at the beach. Instead of going out to a restaurant, cook a meal for your friends, or host a potluck, go for a walk together, share house projects together (I know for me and my ADHD sometimes just having someone present while I do things is helpful, and sometimes I need someone else to help me get started because of overwhelm). Do something “free” to socialize instead of spending money. I’ve been doing this more and more with my friends and family. It also helps my neurospicy brain not get so overwhelmed as it can get in a restaurant or other noisy venue.

• Take up a craft, create art or doodle, play solitaire with an actual deck of cards, play a board game, do a crossword puzzle from a book of puzzles, put together a jigsaw puzzle… (you get the idea), instead of scrolling or playing games on your phone. I’ve been working on this myself too. It’s been fun to create things just to create them.

• Do certain tasks with the moon phases or sun cycles to help reconnect with natural, instead of man-made, rhythms. For example, every new moon I wash my sheets and deep clean my bathroom, every equinox and solstice I wash all my bedding (blankets, mattress cover, pillows) and rotate my mattress. What household tasks can you tie to the rhythm of the moon or sun?

There are dozens, if not hundreds, of sites and accounts to help you detach from the various apps and the companies that seem to have a grip on our lives. I would invite you to do your own research and see where you can start or take the next step in detaching from the systems of harm.

These systems only work because of our compliance. Our compliance exists mostly because we are so afraid of discomfort. But discomfort is part of the human experience. Discomfort opens the doors for our growth: emotional, psychological, and spiritual. Discomfort actually can lead us to greater contentment, joy, and peace.

Change is uncomfortable. A downfall of our current society is that we are taught being uncomfortable is to be avoided at all costs, no matter what, no matter who may suffer because of it. Learning to do new things, different things, unconventional things is often uncomfortable, and this discomfort is necessary if we are to co-create the world we all deserve.

This Gemini New Moon is an excellent opportunity to get into our own minds and really start to question the things we do, the ways we may be complicit, the ways we could do and be different. Our rituals and observances of the lunar phases or solar seasons don’t have to be big, or even productive. Simply acknowling the phase of the moon, and if you want to get really fancy it’s position in the astrological sky, can be a part of your own detatchment from and dislodging of the systems of harm that are breaking all our backs.

If you would like to learn more about me and my work, you can check out my About page here.

If you are interested in working with me 1:1 and explore the ways you are in relationship and change harmful patterns, please click the link below (in the Ways for us to connect section) or DM me directly to request a free 30-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit.

If your organization may benefit from some “family therapy”, helping seek out the ways members and or the organization itself may be utilizing the tools of the systems of harm and domination and to find and implement new ways of being more in alignment with your organizations values, please reach out as I am currently developing a program to do just that!

As Pluto is currently retrograde in my third house, and Uranus just entered my seventh, how I am approaching this space and others is evolving. Witchy Sh!t, and our connection to the rhythms of other parts of nature are still an important part of this, however this is also evolving and shifting. I’m still feeling it all out and I don’t know where it is all going just yet, so stay tuned!

To help encourage us all to practice reciprocity and move away from extraction culture, I will be utilizing the paywall on the internal work resources. Having a paid subscription both encourages me emotionally, mentally, and spiritually to continue sharing my work and offers reciprocity for my time and energy to produce this work you may benefit from. If you benefit from these resources and cannot afford the $7 per month subscription fee, please contact me directly and we can work something out.

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A few weeks ago I shared some of my thoughts around the latest “matriarchy is the way” trend. I’ve sat with my own words, feeling like I couldn’t quite get to the core of why I don’t believe matriarchy is The Answer. Then posted something on ig and all the bells and whistles finally went off. (If you don’t know her work, I invite you to give her a follow!).

Summarizing her post, she asked for details as to how we are actually going to dismantle the systems of harm and domination and cocreate systems of nurturance. She asked who is going to lead. She asked who is going to lead the cause, and more importantly, are we, white people specifically, willing to follow? (These are my words summarizing my interpretation of hers, I encourage you to read the post and make your own conclusions).

At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what philosophical, political, or social system we decide to work towards or adopt. What matters is the inner work required to make the outer work possible and lasting. The inner work that morphs philosophy into reality, words into actions, harm into change and nurturance.

A truth is, too many people are afraid of this immense and intense inner work required to make the monumental shifts from words and philosophies to actions and reality. It is highly self-confrontational work. It has us seeing things we can never unsee again. It will stir up shame and guilt, as well as hopelessness and feelings of inadequacy. It will have us in a constant cycle of unlearning and learning, over and over, going through layer after layer of our own internalized indoctrications and socialization. I requires curiosity, compassion, accountability. It is never one and done. It is a life long practice, and can be as exhausting and even debilitating at times, as it is liberating and joyous.

Another truth is, that it is easy to see how others are doing A Thing “wrong”, to see how the systems of harm and domination show up in others’ actions and words. It is easy to tell others what they have to do different. It is another thing entirely to see ourselves, our own indoctrination, the propaganda we have internalized and believe, the ways we are still complicit and compliant to these systems we live under. White supremacy especially will pull us back again and again with ideas of superiority, meritocracy, and othering, wooing us into believing we are “safe” and “above” it all, and thereby keeping us stuck in the seemingly never ending cycle of harm and abuse.

I see it so regularly, and hear about it even more often : the people who are fighting the hardest in circles of change and revolution are often the same people who are fast to point out what is “wrong” with others but are unable and or unwilling to look at their own actions and how they contribute to the pain and suffering of the world. It is an emotional immaturity that is frustrating at best, and will keep us stuck in these harmful patterns regardless of the work we are doing in the outer world.

It has been said that the only way to get us from where are to where we are meant to be is through bloody revolution. I don’t know now if that is true or not, and what I do know that even if we take down those in power, even if we instill and install new programs and systems, we will end up right back where we are now if the internal work is not being done simultaneously so we actually don’t repeat history yet again.

This doesn’t mean we should all be sitting at home, gazing into our navels while the world spins on. It does mean that while we are doing the outer work, while we are building mutual aid networks, while we are growing our gardens and rehabilitating habitats, while we are breaking down the systems of harm and removing the people in power who benefit most from them being in place, we also need to be looking at ourselves, be curious about our own motives, become aware where our ego is running rampant, to see the ways we other others, to uncover the ways we depend on hierarchies that cause harm, to hold ourselves accountable for our actions and the harm we have (unintentionally) caused, to support others who are also on this journey, without shaming or judging or condescending.

There are a million or more entry points into this deeper work. There are a variety of ways to process and resolve the trauma inflicted upon us by these systems and our social indoctrination. There is no “one right” path, but rather countless paths for us to explore.

The evolution of our social structures happens when millions of us take millions of small, seemingly inconsequential steps. Every time we notice how we are complicit, every time we hold ourselves accountable, every time we do one small thing different, we are breaking down the systems and simultaneously co-creating a world of equity and nurturance.

Is matriarchy the answer? I don’t know. I’m still an anarchist through and through. And what I do know is that neither matriarchy nor anarchy nor any other “alternative” society will succeed if we all aren’t in the intentional and diligent process of doing our internal work and removing the master’s tools from our own arsenals, minds, bodies, and souls.

If you would like to learn more about me and my work, you can check out my About page here.

If you are interested in working with me 1:1 and explore the ways you are in relationship and change harmful patterns, please click the link below (in the Ways for us to connect section) or DM me directly to request a free 30-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit.

If your organization may benefit from some “family therapy”, helping seek out the ways members and or the organization itself may be utilizing the tools of the systems of harm and domination and to find and implement new ways of being more in alignment with your organizations values, please reach out as I am currently developing a program to do just that!

As Pluto is currently retrograde in my third house, and Uranus just entered my seventh, how I am approaching this space and others is evolving. Witchy Sh!t, and our connection to the rhythms of other parts of nature are still an important part of this, however this is also evolving and shifting. I’m still feeling it all out and I don’t know where it is all going just yet, so stay tuned!

To help encourage us all to practice reciprocity and move away from extraction culture, I will be utilizing the paywall on the internal work resources in Witchy Sh!t. Having a paid subscription both encourages me emotionally, mentally, and spiritually to continue sharing my work and offers reciprocity for my time and energy to produce this work you may benefit from. If you benefit from these resources and cannot afford the $7 per month subscription fee, please contact me directly and we can work something out.

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I posted in a note the other day that I’m in another liminal/transitional space. And really, when are any of us not in a space of inbetween and transition? I still don’t know what it all means, or how it will all unfold. I only know that some of the “old” ways are not working for me and something new is trying to come to life

We’re all ever evolving, if we allow ourselves to be. We’re all ever changing, whether we like that or not.

If we allow ourselves to be, we are constantly learning and unlearning, healing and being hurt, evolving and devolving. The older I get the more I notice the rhythm or pattern of this for me personally and I also see it with my long term clients. Certain times of year bring a different energy, different anniversaries of various kinds, different celebrations. The weather changes, our moods and motivation changes. The planets change alignment and so do we.

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If we are to evolve into the people we know we can be, we need to actually be doing the work of being the people we know we can be. This can feel uncomfortable. It can feel “wrong”. It can feel a lot of things that we may misinterpret as “stop” or “don’t do this”. And a truth is, we need to be this these feelings of resistance and discomfort, understand them, thank them for sounding an alarm and then continue doing our work of change, growth, and (r)evolution.

What I have noticed for me, both personally and professionally, is that my body simply won’t let me go back to my older ways of being anymore. I find myself becoming more easily annoyed when others try to pull me into old narratives, I become more quickly agitated when I can sense another isn’t being honest with me or is trying to hide something, I become irritated much more quickly with people who are stuck in fear, selfishness, and or stuck in old paradigmns and narratives. When I take the step back and check in with what I am feeling, physiologically and emotionally, I can recognize why I am feeling what I am and then can decide how to proceed in that particular relationship, what boundaries need to be set, if any, and if and or how I need to redirect my energy towards relationships and situations that feed me rather than drain me.

This can be heartbreaking. It can mean ending relationships parts of me don’t want to end. This can be frustrating. It can mean practicing letting go of trying to control other people’s journeys and focusing on our own path. This can be maddening. It can mean allowing the anger, grief, and every other emotion that comes forward, feeling them, letting them inform us but not control us.

Letting go of what we thought could be, what we wanted to be, is a process. It asks us to grieve and move forward. It asks us to have clarity of what actually is. It asks us to remember that while we absolutely need each other, we dont’ need specific people (even if we want specific people).

When others are unwilling or unable to do their own inner work, to evole out of the old paradigm and narratives, if we choose to stay with them where they are we are also stunting our own growth and evolution. It is a choice, and one we can make if we want, and as I have said before, every choice we make has a consequence.

If we are to create the lasting change in our ways of being with each other and ourselves that ultimately brings peace, harmony, equity, freedom, love, hope, then we need to stop utilizing our old ways of being, we need to stop settling for surface level connections, we need to ground fully into our purpose, our meaning, our truth, our soul. It means we stop trying to manipulate. We stop trying to control. We stop trying to prove our worth and value. Instead we allow and we are.

Allowing others to be where they are, for us to have the clarity of what that actually is instead of projecting who or what we want or think we need them to be, gives us the opportunity to be where we are and to act from that place. It means having self awareness, but also other awareness. To be able to see others as separate from us, even while knowing our interconnectedness and interdependence. It means being the main characters of our own lives, instead of making someone else be.

We all have choices to make moving forward. Now that Uranus is in Gemini for the long haul (~7 years), we can be in the energy that has been building and stirring over the last year. Saturn and Neptune in Aries, Pluto in Aquarius, Uranus in Gemini - these transits speak of revolution, of change, of not allowing what has distanced us from our own humanity to continue doing so. What worked for us, individually or collectively, in the past simply isn’t going to work for us anymore. It won’t feel right in our bodies or our minds.

We all need to find more and more ways of coming back into our body. Back into clarity. Back into the what is, so we can actually create what we want to be instead of fantasizing about it. Back into our autonomy so we can respect, honor, and support the autonomy of others. Back into community, without utilizing the tools of domination, manipulation, or othering.

This is a slow process. Each small step matters. Each shift matters. Each time we do something different than we have before matters. Each time we choose authentic love, connection without loss of self, clarity over projection and fantasy, we are co-creating a world where we are all supported, nurtured, nourished, and cared for. And this all matters.

If you would like to learn more about me and my work, you can check out my About page here.

If you are interested in working with me 1:1 and explore the ways you are in relationship and change harmful patterns, please click the link below (in the Ways for us to connect section) or DM me directly to request a free 30-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit.

In order to help bring inner balance and respect for my energy and writing, I will be utilizing the paywall on self development resources in Witchy Sh!t and occassionally on new writing. Having a paid subscription both encourages me emotionally, mentally, and spiritually to continue sharing my work and offers reciprocity for my time and energy to produce this work. If you benefit from these resources and cannot afford the $7 per month subscription fee, please contact me directly and we can work something out.

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There may be times when an inevitable change is coming and everything in us wants to kick against and fight it.

There may be times when an inevitable change is coming and even though we knew it would come eventually there is still a lot of grief when it finally arrives.

There may be times when an inevitable change is coming and for a moment we fight against it and feel all the weight of the grief and then someone says something to remind you how this change can be different and maybe there doesn’t need to be the fighting against it or the grief.

There may be times in the midst of an inevitable change that we do a thing we know we shouldn’t and everyone tells us not to do but we do it anyway and it turns out it was the best thing we could do to calm our systems and see the possibilities.

There may be times when we see an inevitable change coming and we are able to embrace it. Even in the grief. Even in the not knowing the other side of it all.

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There is a lot of talk online about matriarchy, how it is not the opposite of patriarchy but something completely different. This is true. In many ways matriarchy does not incorporate the hierarchies that patriarchy does and it absolutely centers children and mothers. These are the good things, and the parts of matriarchy that I believe we should weave into the new world and paradigmn we are co-creating.

And.

Many, not all, matriarchal societies were also matrilineal - meaning that assets were passed from mother to daughter, instead of father to son like in patriarchy. How this was often practiced is that boys were considered the “commodity,” they were “sent away” to other communities for marriage and child creating. Boys and men in these practices were considered less valuable than girls and women. They were somewhat expendable, and the father/uncle/grandfather/brother was not considered to be an important part of the communal structure or for early child rearing.

When we have any type of society that casts off or deems any particular part of the community unimportant or of lesser value, we will always create wounds.

Boys who were sent off to marry into other communities suffered the same fear, abandonment, and grief that girls experience in patriarchal culture. Trauma is then created, and spread. Eventually, this turns to rage, to violence, to a demand of being seen, heard, understood.

My theory is that is what was underlying the shift from more matriarchal cultures to patriarchal ones. The pain of men and boys, unattended for generations, came to an ugly head and here we are.

This is not me saying it’s women’s fault by the way. Where we are now socially and culturally is absolutely because of men, and their unhealed ancestral, cultural, and societal wounds. And it is not our, femmes’, responsibility to heal their wounds, it is theirs. We have our own pain and wounding from patriarchy to attend to.

It is me saying, however, that we cannot rely on any previous system or structure for society moving forward. We need to co-create something new and different. Something that takes the wholly beneficial parts of the past and incorporates them into something we humans haven’t experienced in any wide spread way in our history.

We need a culture that centers the safety of children, all children. We need a culture that supports each individual as they are and celebrates the gifts they bring to the greater collective. We should not be considering one child more or lesser than another, we should not be casting children off based on sex or any other standard. We should not be disregarding the experience, wisdom, or knowledge of any elder, regardless of sex or any other standard.

We need to be moving toward a more egalitarian way of existing. No hierarchies. No lesser thans. No casting off.

And.

There is an ancestral feminine rage that runs deep and is coming more and more to the surface. And rightfully so. Given the latest reveal of how rampant misogyny and patriarchy have become (the online “rape academies”), we have a right to be filled with rage, to want to do whatever we can to stop these atrocities.

I won’t say violence isn’t the answer. Violence is both the problem and the solution, in many ways. However, violence cannot be the long term answer. We can’t create a new paradigmn if we are simply swinging to and staying stuck at the other side of the pendulum.

There is much healing that needs to occur. Both internal and external. And men are a main part of the healing that needs to happen. Their wounding is deeper and older than patriarchy. It is swimming in the collective unconscious, in our dna, in the ways of relating that we incorporate that only causes harm, pain, and ultimately trauma.

Inflicting intentional suffering may be a short term solution, and it may even feel good for a moment, but that suffering will only add to the existing suffering, it will only feed it, it will only continue to keep us complicit and compliant to the systems of harm.

Matriarchy is not the same hierarchal structure as patriarchy, but it can be just as cruel and harmful.

Finding our ways back to community, without definitive “leadership”, is a process. It requires our individual inner work to be as vital as any of the work we do in the community and communally.

Anarchy has been propagandized as this horrible chaotic free for all, where there are no rules or structure or agreements. But a thing is, humans are self organizing beings. We witness this every time there is a climate catastrophe and we see communities come together and help each other, each individual in what ever ways they can, with whatever resources they have available, and they do this long before FEMA or any other government agency comes in to “take charge”. We come together and do what needs doing, without asking questions or deciding who is worthy or deserving of help and support, we just do it. In these instances no one asks who voted for who, or what their monthly income is, or any other actually irrelevant questions, we just witness people coming together to help in the ways they can and to receive help. There is no voting or a leader or structuring of counsels to investigate - there are people coming together, and organizing in the ways that make sense for that moment - leaning on those with the experience and skills and perhaps resources necessary for the greater community to survive and move through the current crisis.

That is what anarchy looks like in practice. There is structure, as needed. There is “leadership” as it applies to the given situation. No one person stays in control. No one person is directing things or people they don’t have knowledge or experience in.

Part of our shifting away from the systems of harm needs to include dislodging our desire for permanance, outer authority, and what we have come to call reliability. These ideas keep us as stuck in the paradigmns of harm as anything else.

Life is ever shifting. All the rest of nature moves and adapts with the change of seasons. All the rest of nature moves and adapts to any change as it needs to. And while we can look to the rest of the animal kingdom and see hierarchies, this doesn’t mean that humans need to rely on hierarchies for our existence, survival, or evolution.

Anarchy is an invitation for us to utilize our agency in ways that are both self and collective benefiting. It means that the structure of our “society” is fluid and changes as it needs to, not on some predetermined constructed timeline, but in the rhythm of the earth and stars.

Moving away from a human centered way of being and back into the symbiotic and reciprocal relationship with the rest of nature is not a one and done deal. It requires an immense amount of deconditioning and unlearning. It requires us to simultaneously embrace and celebrate our own and each others autonomy while also embracing and celebrating our interconnectedness and interdependences. It requires us to move away from stagnant hierarchies. It requires us to stop our extractive practices and to learn and live in and with reciprocity. It requires us to walk away from “stuff” and walk towards experiences.

One of my issues with any sort of “passed down” system, whether its matrilineal, patrilineal, or some other structue, is that the focus is on the stuff and making sure the individuals within the specific lineage are provided for by their predessessors instead of by the community. Regardless of who the “wealth” is passed on to, the “wealth” is still being maintained instead of redistributed and shared. Passing down of material items is such a human thing, we don’t see it in the rest of nature, not in the ways we practice it. We have become hoarders instead of sharers. Every home has to have all the tools and resources necessary to keep the home running instead of utilizing communal property practices like tool libraries or communal gardens. We are isolationist and moving away from that and towards collective support and existence will feel strange and the there may be narratives of being “less than” for not “having” some thing or another, but it is a necessary part of our evolution as a species.

Capitalism has us all believing that we each need All The Things (and that there isn’t enough of All The Things to go around). However the more we are able to move away from needing to buy the next new bright shiny thing, and shifting towards at the least buying used and at the best forming communal resources to be shared within our neighborhoods, cities, and towns, the more we will be able to see how all these “individual needs” aren’t individual at all, and that we actually “need” a lot less than we thought when we are able and willing to share resources with each other and with the rest of nature.

I can appreciate the rising call toward matriarchy, it is a natural, and in many ways logical, response to end stage capitalism/patriarchy/white supremacy. And I do not believe it is the answer. We need to help our nervous systems learn to exist without outer structures, we need to learn to rely on our individual autonomy and agency and equally our interconnectedness and interdependence. We need to unlearn our reliance on hierarchy and relearn our own inner knowing and our ability to adapt and shift and morph as any given situation may need us to.

This requires so much inner and outer work, and it can’t be done without both. We won’t see the total shift in a single generation, but it can be achieved more and more over time, with each generation coming closer and closer. It starts with us, now. It started with us days, weeks, months, years ago. The shift into a new way of being has been coming and now we are at another precipice where there will be some dramatic rethinking and restructuring and then the aftermath of adapatation, adjustment, and questioning again.

The more we are each able to be in the flow of the rest of nature, including the sun and moon cycles, the more we will be able to adapt and shift and morph, the more we will be able to co-create a world where all children are centered, where all humans are cared for, where no one is cast off, where we are back in reciprocal and symbiotic relationship with the rest of nature and with each other.

What are your next unlearnings to help you and yours shift into this new way of being and doing?

If you would like to learn more about me and my work, you can check out my About page here.

If you are interested in working with me 1:1 and explore the ways you are in relationship and change harmful patterns, please click the link below (in the Ways for us to connect section) or DM me directly to request a free 30-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit.

In order to help bring inner balance and respect for my energy and writing, I will be utilizing the paywall on self development resources in Witchy Sh!t and occassionally on new writing. Having a paid subscription both encourages me emotionally, mentally, and spiritually to continue sharing my work and offers reciprocity for my time and energy to produce this work. If you benefit from these resources and cannot afford the $7 per month subscription fee, please contact me directly and we can work something out.

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1. Our relationships are so important. Particularly the one we have with the land.

2. We are so interconnected.

3. Tired from emotionally wounded and stunted men having temper tantrums. Globally and in my personal life. It’s become boring on top of annoying. Do your work already.

4. Being in the unfolding means putting faith in what we can’t and shouldn’t try to control while accessing our agency and doing what we need to do. It’s a practice for sure.

5. Life and our soul journey doesn’t move at the pace of the internet.

6. What works for me doesn’t have to work for you. That doesn’t make either of our ways of doing things wrong or invalid.

7. People can forever live in our hearts and not be welcome in our lives.

8. Patience and trust are soulmates.

9. Wanting and longing are part of the human experience. We don’t always get what we think we want. Usually there is something even more amazing waiting for us. Sometimes right around the corner. Sometimes right in front of us.

10. We are taught what all our relationships *shoul…

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Sometimes we write words that have so much meaning in the moments we write them and then over time, their meaning fades.

Sometimes we write words that have so much meaning in the moments we write them and then months or years later they still hold that meaning.

Sometimes we have to burn our words so we can let them go, so we can move on to the next thing, so we can breathe and be present and live and love again.

Sometimes we meet someone who turns our world upside down in all the best ways and we love every instant of it and then months or years after they are gone we wonder what we ever saw in them in the first place.

Sometimes we meet someone who turns our world upside down in all the best ways and we love every instant of it and then months or years after they are gone we miss them and ache for them and look back at that time as one of the best of our life.

Sometimes we have to burn bridges and end things in such permanent and dramatic ways so we can let them go, so we can move on to th…

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One of the great losses that stems from colonialism is our loss of connection to the land. Colonizers go from place to place, conquering the people, the animals, the plants, the land. Never connecting. Never building real lasting, symbiotic relationship. Inserting hierarchy, domination, and unbalanced dependence while ignoring and trying to destroy equity, egaliatrianism, and harmonious interdependence.

Many of us feel this loss. We feel rootless, a longing for a home we have never known. We may find ourselves searching for this home in far away places, the place our ancestors are from. We may even visit these places, and they might feel like home for a brief period of time, or they might not. We may study the language, the customs, the traditions. We may try to adopt some of them. This may fill some of the void we feel, it may help us feel our roots going deeper in some ways.

But we still feel the loss.

Part of this loss is the loss of connection to our own body. Our first “land”.

For the last 15 years or so I have been finding my ways back into my own body, into the present moment, into the sensations and emotions that swirl around within me. About a decade ago I also started finding my ways back to the rest of nature, going on hikes, getting to the beach more frequently. As I deepened my relationship with my body, I simultaneously began to deepen my relationship with the land I currently live on.

The more intune with my body I become, the more I also find myself attuning more with the rest of nature - the seasons, the moon cycles, the trees, the rocks, the water, the soil. For the first time in my adult life I am planting a small garden this year. Two years ago, again for the first time in my life, I was able to keep a couple indoor plants alive. I firmly believe my ability to finally grow plants is connected to the ways I have both connected with my own body and with the land I live on.

I also firmly believe that the more embodied I become, and the more (re)connected to the rest of nature I become, the calmer my nervous system becomes, the richer and more intimate my relationships become, and the more I am able to unmask and show up as my weird, quirky, neurospicy self, which then feeds the cycle - I then able to connect with my body and the rest of nature even more and deeper, my nervous system stabilizes even more, my relationships become even more rich and intimate, and the more I unmask. Around and around, deeper and deeper layers being unearthed, acknowledged, known, accepted and or shed.

Coming home into our bodies, home into the rhythms of the sun and moon and seasons, home to the land we are currently living on and developing and deepening our relationships, human and nonhuman… all of these are acts of rebellion, all of these move us away from the status quo, all of these are pathways to co-creating the life and world we are meant to live in.

Our disconnection from the land is an ancestral wound. One that was initiated when we lost our connection to our indiginous nature - whereever in the world our ancestors first planted roots. It stems from being ripped away from our rituals and traditions, our homes and families. Over the centuries we have seen how assimilation into “whiteness” became systematic and systemic. I am part of the third generation to be born here in the US, in one portion of my family. I have heard the stories of how my grandmother’s first grade teacher changed her name because her birth name was “too ethnic”. The stories of discrimination and being pitted against people of color. The stories of walking two worlds - the diaspora of the Italian community and the rest of the “white” world. The feelings of never fitting in, never being good enough, of longing for “home”.

Migration is natural. We see animals do it every year. Humans once migrated freely too, following food and the weather. We did this in community. Not as individuals or single “nuclear” families. Because we migrated together, we maintained our identies, our rituals, our traditions, and the act of migration itself was part of our intimate relationship with the land.

Immigration is not natural. Not the ways we do it now. Expecting, demanding, people to give up their language, their traditions, their identies in order to develop a sense of safeness and belonging is traumatizing. And because western (white) culture has only an extractive relationship with the land, the trauma is exponential - because part of the assimilation into whiteness is disconnection from the rest of nature, from our greater communities, and from our own bodies.

Embodiment and connecting to the rest of nature is now considered “witchy” or “woo”, but for our ancestors it was part of day to day life. Embodiment opens us more to our interconnections with the rest of nature, and the energies and spirituality that are both within and beyond our 3D human experience. This is why coming home to our bodies and the rest of nature threatens the systems of harm. This is why finding our ways back to each other threatens the status quo. Because when we are intune with our own bodies, attuned with the rest of nature, leaning into our interdependence, we don’t need those systems anymore and they will die.

Allowing our roots to grow deep again is a process and a practice. A necessary practice for us to stop utilizing the “master’s tools” and not end up repeating history, again. It can start now, with any small first step. Simply feeling our feet on the ground, noticing how it feels to do so, how our body responds, can be that step. Allowing our practices to develop organically, to be intentional but not forceful, is important. Doing what feels right, for right now, is important. Lovingly and gently pushing ourselves, and each other, outside our comfort zones is important.

This is how we grow our roots. Slowly. Intentionally. Lovingly. Like a house plant. Like a garden. Like a forest. Over time, we will find our roots running deep again, our relationships becoming more intimate and meaningful, our senses of belonging and safeness getting stronger.

Below are some resources for you to utilize to take your next step in this journey.

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1. Knowing when a person needs space, and giving it to them, is a love language.

2. One day at a time. Most days it’s one moment at a time.

3. Slowing down, allowing life to unfold instead of trying to control every aspect, every moment, takes intense work.

4. Trusting the messages of our guides and ancestors is a practice.

5. Unraveling our social indoctrination is an ongoing practice. There are layers and layers, and while we will never get through all of them in one lifetime, we need to get through as many as possible.

6. Breaking cycles of harm is both an inside and outside job. This is (r)evolution.

7. So many are doing the vital work of changing the world on the outside but are still utilizing the Master’s Tools in their relationships. This is problematic.

8. For there to be lasting change, we have to see and then expunge the ways we contribute to and are complicit with the systems of harm.

9. The body always remembers.

10. We can love deeply, intensely, intentionally, passionately and not have to see or talk to the p…

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Amidst all the chaos, there is calm.

There is a quiet. A hush. Similar to the soundlessness of fresh fallen snow. But not quite.

It is different. Not quite as peaceful or silent. Not as still.

No.

This quiet is alive. It is also noisy with the wind whispering and the birds and the children laughing through windows. The squirrels chattering. The sea lions and harbor seals barking. The wind waves rolling and crashing.

There is a peace, a quiet, a hush but it is not silent or still.

It is beating. Throbbing. Almost bursting.

I have felt it at many points in my life, those moments sinking deep into my marrow, flowing my center, my soul, into and through the universe and then back to me again, slightly changed but still the same. This peace is above and beyond our living experience, and isn’t about the stress or pain or anguish we are also experiencing. It is a both and. The peace and the turmoil living almost in symbiosis, as if one (turmoil) gives life to the peace.

There is hope for…

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