Men who submit are viewed as weak and “beta” by most of society as they are conditioned to think of masculinity in one way. Most are shocked to find the lists of powerful men that kneel before a Dominant Woman include major players in all realms; business owners, CEOs, lawyers, politicians, pro athletes, famous musicians, and the list goes on.

In reality, how is it a power exchange if one has no power to exchange? By that logic, you would have to be powerful to consider stepping into a scene.

The truth is that most men are performing masculinity and not embodying it.

What if I told you most of the men that are viewed as having “big dick energy” actually have small members and/or lock their cocks in chastity?

Men who submit have already grappled with shame and shadows to find themselves vulnerable in front of a powerful Woman. Weak men can’t fathom kneeling before a piece of property. It’s not only their view of themselves that hinders surrender; it’s their view of Women. They are often the ones that ask “are you going to MAKE ME do it?”

No. I never force anyone to do anything. Men with power yearn to let go and allow someone else to have control; even if it’s only temporary. Being under the control of someone else also absolves them of the consequences of their actions; sucking a cock for Mistress does not make you gay. You did it for Her. One is liberated to exist, feel, be seen, accepted, and cared for all in the same container.

Some men don’t want to be in control all the time; society makes them. Women and men lose their innocence in different ways. Women typically to being sexualized at a young age, and men often to the same, but also to responsibility. Many began working at a young age, are told through sports and other endeavors to “man up” or “sack up” and not be a “pussy” or a “sissy”. This hinders men from emotional expression as it is viewed as a sign of weakness.

Why do you think you see so many male “doms” that are daddies/caregivers, service tops, or pleasure doms? They really do yearn to serve Women, but haven’t figured out how to release their ego. They are doing what society wants them to do; be in charge and be in control. A lot of switchy men have confessed that they only switch to make their partner happy (sounds submissive to Me).

Each person has their own individual experiences they bring to the container; it may be decision fatigue, burnout, trauma, adhd, or something else entirely. Whatever it may be, the magic of a journey to subspace is just what the doctor ordered! Allowing the mind and body to feel safe enough to surrender to the experience can be quite liberating. Some even feel the effects for days after a really good session. They also get the mental foreplay leading up to the session; whether it’s first time jitters or the excitement of seeing someone for the 100th time, it enhances the overall experience.

When you have an ongoing dynamic with someone; maybe an FLR or a more formal D/s dynamic, there are more opportunities for regular surrender and softness. Adding daily rituals to your dynamic is a great way to ensure regular connection and also regular surrender. Even in small doses, it does wonders for the male mind. Reminding them of their place also reminds them that they are chosen and worthy of submitting.

It’s less about the physical activity, and more about what happens to their mind wihtin the safe container of surrender that is so profound and keeps them coming back.

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