I promise you I’ve tried to be better at getting this out more regularly. I intended to get this out in May and then again in June, but alas. Regardless, retail therapy really is a thing and sometimes you need to treat yourself. Below is what has made a difficult (and extremely hot) summer a little better.

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Spring weather is teasing us. I am ready to shed my coats and perhaps embrace some color (but not too much). As much as I wax on about the virtues of classics and practicality, sometimes I just want the bight, shiny, new thing. Below is my spring wish list.

I love this top so much and would probably wear with slouchy jeans and flip flops.

My hunt for a jean I can buy off the rack continues. I have yet to try these on, but am hopeful. Otherwise I just got these (in a 27) and these (in a 30 x 28 for extra loucheness and also in this and this wash) and have been wearing them often.

I have absolutely no need nor occasion for this, but I love it so much.

Maybe it’s spring, maybe it’s Michael Rider, but I’m itching for a little more primary color in my clothes and I already know I love these pants.

I already own this shawl in yellow and it’s perfect on its own, thrown over a tee or wrapped like a sarong over a bathing suit. Naturally, I feel the need to also have it in black.

I have been thinking about these pants since I noticed them in a B Sides instagram story a couple months ago. They resemble nothing I already own, which makes them perfect.

Definitely something I do not need, yet the pop of color is an appealing compliment to an all black look I’ll probably be wearing for a fancy event coming up.

WATCHING: The Wire on HBO

READING: The Correspondent by Virginia Evans

SEEING: need something

EATING: Murgh Chole

LISTENING: Articles of Interest, Betty & Veronica

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The weather out there is very frightful. Here’s how I dress for it.

LAYER 1 : BASE LAYER

Generally, I like to keep this layer as slinky as possible so the next layer glides on top.

Bottom half:

I will only wear long underwear if absolutely necessary - I hate how it feels under regular clothes. If another layer is needed, I’ll wear shear hoisery under my jeans (I like these because they’re rather indestructible). If I’m going outside in the snow snow and I’m putting on my snow pants, I’ll wear Heat Tech or leggings (currently wearing these from Lululemon, but into these for the slink). I prefer leggings to long underwear because you don’t feel naked when it’s time to take off the snow pants and you’re still hanging out with other people.

Upper body:

Uniqlo (again) did an excellent collaboration with Alexander Wang a while ago and I got these super slinky tanks in white, black and light pink and they’re fantastic. While they are actual an Airism collab (essentially Heat Tech for summer), they’re a great first layer. Otherwise, I also love the Uniqlo U tanks (Uniqlo isn’t sponsoring this). I wear one almost everyday in the winter under sweaters. I wear an xs (instead of my usual small) so they fit closer and I don’t have to wear a bra. I also have these Heat Tech tanks and also love a classic undershirt (these too).

LAYER 2: MID LAYER

I went snowboarding for the first time in almost 20 years last winter. Leading up to it I was trying to figure out what I could wear that I already owned - I didn’t want to spend a bunch of money on something I might not do again. I thought I’d need a fleece or something similar, but then I remembered an interview I saw of Thom Brown running in one of his cardigans. I figured I could do the same.

Over the tank goes a thin, fitted cashmere crew neck sweater (wool makes me itchy), following by a vintage Prada or Miu Miu vneck cashmere cardigan (they used to go for $75 on TRR), and then a Lemaire cardigan (this one is similar). I like this cardigan because it is fitted in the body and the arms have a little more room. More thin knits here, here, here and here. More thin cardigans here, here, here and here. Second cardigans here, here and here. And a chic fleece here.

LAYER 3: OVERALLS

I got my snow overalls at Beacon’s closet probably 15 years ago (these and these are similar). They are not fancy, but they do the job. While having to go to the bathroom in overalls is beyond annoying, they really keep you the warmest since there’s no waist separation. I got this Carhartt pair during the last blizzard for more everyday wear and I have not regretted it.

LAYER 4: COATS & JACKETS

The Uniqlo packable puffers I have are very old, very light weight and they don’t seem to make the exact ones anymore (these are similar). If necessary, I’ll wear two of them (I have one in tan and one in black). These and these could also work. I’ll also layer one under a wool coat when called for. Not a puffer, but if I were going to get something new, I’d opt for this along with the matching pant.

I also am often asked about a “chic” longer down coat option. I have this from Khaite, but also love the OG from Norma Kamali.

I stole this coat from my dad over the holidays and it is beyond warm (and therefore very heavy). It had a belt that will hopefully one day surface in my parent’s apartment, (and maybe buttons) but I’m using a leather tie in the meantime to close and cinch it to keep the cold out. Besides the thickness, the ankle length is important for keeping my legs warm. This looks cozy.

I know fur is controversial, but according to the streets of New York City, vintage fur is most definitely back. While I don’t condone new fur for obvious reasons, and faux fur is essentially made of plastic, vintage fur is perfect and insanely warm. There are loads on the secondhand market and it’s often reasonably priced.

SHOES & ACCESSORIES

I never had Uggs growing up and probably looked down on them when they first came around in the early aughts, but I have been converted. While they are not your shoe for wet snow (you should treat them for when a little water inevitably gets on the toes), they are super cosy and warm and a potato shoe is in. I have been wearing them all winter, which has been shocking people - an assistant told me that seeing me wear them gave her “permission” to wear them herself. Even my husband bought a pair and I just got a pair for my son.

For the wet weather, get these. I also have classic LL Bean duck boots that will work for taller snow, but I am in the market for something else.

HATS

I have never really been a hat person and started babushkaing myself with a wool triangle scarf a couple winters ago as a solution. While it solved my hat problem, it is also a superior way to keep warm as it closes off your neck as well. I recommend wrapping yourself up in it before you put your coat on for maximum warmth. Options here, here, here, here, here and here.

When it’s really blistery, I will wear a hat on top of my babushka. I found this hat after seeing Diana Ross wear something similar in Mahogany. Fancier option here.

Stay warm!

WATCHING: everything

READING: between books, but just finished They All Came to Barneys: A Personal History of the World’s Greatest Store by Gene Pressman and have been meaning to start Keith McNally’s I Regret Almost Everything.

SEEING: Seeing Silence: The Paintings of Helene Schjerfbeck at The Met

EATING: Liquid Gold and Immunity Broth from Springbone

LISTENING: Articles of Interest, Season 7 (Gear)

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I tried to get this out sooner, but life got in the way. Here are some ideas that you hopefully haven’t thought of or seen elsewhere and still have time to get. Also, this is behind a paywall because there are very few affiliate links.

KRAUM

I worked with Annie years ago when she was at Glossier and later, Soft Services, I trust whatever she has to sell me. I am not a makeup girly, but this product is beyond. The packaging is insane and every detail has been thought of. This would be perfect for any makeup lover in your life or maybe even an artist (I might get a set for my husband who is an ace at painted hand lettering and has a very detailed project going on). Kraum Micro Brush Set.

LEATHER GLOVES

Winter is here in NYC and it sucks, but a nice pair of leather gloves makes it a little easier to step outside. I just got a pair of these for myself and love that I don’t have to take them off when I need to use my phone. Bloomingdales Cashmere Lined Leather Tech Gloves.

ZABAR’S BAGEL SPREAD

Zabar’s was where we got bagels when I was a kiddo and just epitomizes New York for me. Also, there’s nothing like NYC bagels. My mom sent this to my in-laws last year and I might just have to copy her this year. The tree ornament is cute too. Zabar’s Smoked Fish Gift Kit.

UNDERWATER WEAVING

I don’t remember how I first came across Underwater Weaving, but I have long loved baskets and would love to make one myself. I have yet to do that, but I bought a kit for a friend for her birthday and it was a hit. This is perfect for the crafter in your life. Underwater Weaving The Harvest Basket Weaving Kit.

SOAP

I know soap is usually boring, but this is emphatically not. I bought my mom the small bar set for her birthday and it was promptly passed around the table and everyone was delighted and surprised by it. Not only is the smell unique, the packaging is extra special. Loewe Tomato Solid Soap soap on a rope and liquid.

PET PORTRAITS

Our pets are the best. My mom found an artist years ago who painted the best portraits of our childhood Terrier and later, my own family’s dog, and I cherish them. While Sasha didn’t paint those, I have since given or suggested these to a couple people who currently have pets or have recently lost one. By Sashy Watercolor Pet Paintings.

EMBROIDERED BUTTON DOWN

An art director I was meeting was wearing a crisp button down with her initials on the breast so I immediately inquired about it. She told me it was LL Bean so here you go. You can put the embroidery on the breast or cuff. Look at any shirt you already have (especially if it’s a vintage men’s button up) to figure out sizing. I love all the shirt color options and would keep the embroidery tonal. While I think this is a great gift for anyone, I think it would also be a perfect for any new or expecting mother with their new child’s initials (button ups are great for breastfeeding).

RETRO VIEWFINDER

I had something like this as a kid, but my husband gave me one for Christmas a few years ago with photos of my son. It’s fantastic. Image 3D Retro Viewfinder.

CRUNCH LABS

If you don’t already watch Mark Rober on youtube, start. He’s a former NASA engineer who makes these amazing video of him figuring out how to fill a pool with jello or how to prevent his backyard squirrel from stealing all the bird feed. He also makes STEM kits for kids and adults. I started a subscription for my nephews lat year and told their mom to let me know if they loose interest (as kids are wont to do) and I’ll cancel. Not necessary - she said they look forward to it. And my husband orders adult ones from time to time. Crunch Labs Kits.

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I “mistakenly” made a serious purchase when I was in London two months ago. While I don’t regret it and promptly wore it frequently, it’s more than I’ve ever spent on anything and probably an extravagance I wouldn’t have allowed myself had I done the currency conversion correctly. And then I booked a summer vacation. So, I told myself no new purchases for the rest of the month (April), and then I extended it to May. I made it half way through the month.

I have also been cleaning out my closet and really trying to whittle it down so I can actually see what’s there (there will be a sale this weekend- find me on instagram for details). In doing so I was able to take stock of what’s already there so I’m not buying more of what I already have. I also realized I don’t need much / have plenty and have plenty I should wear and don’t. And then there are those pieces that are still great and look good, but for whatever reason don’t make it out into the world - that’s what’s going to the sale, along with vintage I’ve collected.

And yet, here I am adding things to cart and stopping into stores and tying things on. I love shopping and seeing stores and the worlds they create. I love how clothes can make you feel, but I don’t want more for the sake of more. While it is always the goal to find pieces I will reach for immediately and often, that isn’t always predictable, but my most recent purchases have been. Nothing has been especially exciting, but all are getting worn. Here’s what I’ve gotten and what I’m still looking for.

SUMMER BAG

I first came across the Tembea Baguette Tote at Tangerine and constantly thought about it, but never pulled the trigger because I wanted a different color way (Tangerine has the medium in the above combo and large in the white and blue). After many hours of searching, I apparently found the last all natural option in a small and it will be perfect for the summer ahead. I love it because it is a combination of two of my favorite bags - a LL Bean Boat Tote and The Row’s NS Tote - and I won’t care if it gets sandy or wet. The sizing also seems comparable to The Row’s tote sizing - I got the small and it’s similar to The Row’s medium and the Tembea Large is similar to The Row’s Large, but read the fine print for dimensions.

There’s also this St Agni bag, which I have had my eye on for the past year or so. I just tried it on at their NYC residency opening and it feels nice on the shoulder and is a good size.

LOOSEY GOOSEY PANTS

Maybe I’ve gotten bigger or maybe I just don’t like how fitted things feel anymore (honestly probably a little bit of both) but I want everything loose. I just got some vintage Levi’s up 3/4 sizes larger than usual and some Old Navy (!) gauzy pants. Also got some vintage naval pants from Sorbara’s. I probably don’t need another pair but I also like these and these and these.

SANDALS

Legit the last thing I should get considering all the above but I love them and am telling myself I could wear them all day long.

These Toteme sandals are (thankfully) sold out in my size, but I love that they’re not black (but still dark) and the low heel.

SUNGLASSES

Sunglasses are hard for me - I think most frames don’t suit my face. I love my Ray-Ban Wayfarers (54mm larger frames for me), but I’d love something else in my rotation. I love what’s happening at Port Tanger and Thistles.

HATS

I’m not really a hat person. While I reach for a baseball hat when it’s raining or at the beach/in the sun (usually one from Polo or The Odeon - the granola is also fantastic), I’ve been looking for something else. I found the above at Sorbara’s but you can get something similar here, here and here. Sorbara’s has more too.

Happy Shopping!

xxL

WATCHING: Your Friends and Neighbors on Apple

READING: need a book

SEEING: The newly renovated Frick when my schedule and their schedule align

EATING: My friend Jenn cooked this for us upstate last weekend and it was delicious

LISTENING: The Cutting Room Floor chat with Steve Madden

Again, having a closet/vintage sale this Saturday 6/8 - find me on instagram for details.

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My skin is not my friend. It is beyond dry and sensitive and absorbs creams/lotions/serums/oils as if it has never seen moisture before- slurps it up. My skin has always been this way so I have always had to take care it. I have also had eczema since I was a baby and it decided to seriously say hello on my face for the first time about a year ago. While some people thought I had decided to start wearing pink eyeshadow, my skin burned, swelled and depleted what little moisture resided in my facial skin. All this made me reconsider my skincare routine. The tweaks seem to be working because everyone is asking me about my skin, and in a good way.

Having said all that, I know nothing about skincare. My dyslexia prevents me from remembering or even registering all the scientifically named ingredients, despite my genuine efforts to do so. But, I generally know that hyluronic acid is my friend and dyes and fragrances and retinol are not. I am by no means an expert, but here’s what works for me.

STEP 1

AM - Jenni Kayne Oak Essentials Cleaning Balm - hydrating and a good first step.

PM - Tata Harper Regenerating Cleanser - just the right amount of exfoliation to get the day off.

STEP 2

PM - Biologique Reacher Lotion P50v - every other day, diluted, to get off the dead skin.

STEP 3

AM & PM - Biologique Recherche Elastine Serum - for fine lines.

L’Oreal Revitalist 1.5% Pure Hyaluronic Acid - recommended by my dermatologist and inexpensive. Value size and on subscription.

STEP 4

AM - Forlle’d Hyalogy P-Effect Refining Lotion - I wouldn’t call this a lotion, but hydrating nonetheless.

STEP 5

AM & PM - Furtuna Replenishing Balm - This has been the biggest game changer. It was recommended to me by a model I regularly work with who has the most beautiful skin, so I’ll have what she’s having. A couple people asked me if I had had botox after I started using it - it brought my skin back to life. I then layer Jenny Kayne’s Oak Essentials Ritual Oil on top. Perhaps moisture overload for most, but just the right amount for me.

STEP 6

AM & PM - Eyes. Oy the eyes. The skin around my eyes suffered the most recently, so I have two steps. First I use Tata Harper Restorative Eye Cream, then I use Jenni Kayne’s Oak Essentials Hydra Eye Cream.

STEP 7

AM - Sunscreen. Love Trader Joe’s Daily Facial Sunscreen. Clear, not greasy, absorbs quickly, inexpensive. Khiel’s Better Screen is also nice, same with La Roche-Posay Athenos UVMune.

Oh. And body lotion. AmLactin Intensive Healing Body Cream. I only recently discovered this and don’t understand why a dermatologist has never recommended it - kept the flakes away immediately. While I love Cetephil, my skin would be flaking off by lunch after a full body slather in the am. I haven’t needed it as much since it’s warming up and gotten more humid.

Enough steps for you? I swear it doesn’t take me that long.

WATCHING: Dying for Sex on Hulu

READING: Between books but just finished The God of The Woods by Liz Moore

SEEING: Picasso Tête-à-tête at Gagosian Madison Ave

EATING: Borgo

LISTENING: The Cutting Room Floor chat with Brooke Wall

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GIFT GUIDE 2024

I’m sure what you want is yet another Gift Guide. They started way too early this year (right after Halloween) and have been coming in steadily ever since. I hope this offers something different. 

I am often asked for ideas (and have even been employed by a few friends to source gifts for their husbands to give to them) and I think there is an art to gift giving. I genuinely love finding a perfect something for someone because I think it secretly says “I’ve been paying attention to you.” However, the last thing I want, or to give, is more stuff. I know, I know, it’s supposed to be “It’s the thought that counts” but I don’t think there’s much thought in modern gift giving and it’s just about more and the obligation - I have to give x person something. 

I have tried to institute a no gift giving policy amongst my similar age related in-laws and my own brother and sister in law have blatantly told me we do not need to exchange gifts. I appreciate that. And while I’m not going to search for something for them, if I come across something or an idea pops into my head that genuinely seems like it would float their boat, I will get it. 

Some ideas. 

PERISHABLE ITEMS

I never used to know what to get my in-laws, but noticed that whenever they came to visit us in Brooklyn, they would always stop at The Bedford Cheese Shop (before it left Bedford Ave) and stock up on a few things to snack on while in town.  Now, I send them a cheese plate. Also, a few Christmas’ ago, a friend of my brother’s coordinated with me to send him a couple dozen Wellfleet oysters (and oyster knife). I will always remember my husband and Dad immediately slicing them all open, my sister in law quickly whipping up a mignonette sauce and us savoring every one as soon as they were opened. Thank you, Izzy. I think this perishable option comes in handy for a lot of people (and when you must give a gift - who wants another candle??) - wine, olive oil, a gift certificate to a local favorite restaurant, whatever tasty treat does it for the receiver. 

While a gift certificate to the receiver’s favorite spa/massage parlor/nail salon isn’t perishable, it holds the same idea. Treat someone to something you know they love to do and do regularly, but this time it’s your treat. (I ask my mom for a facial almost every year).

PICTURES

I wrote about this in a Mother’s Day post, but think it still applies. For my parents and for my in-laws, I order prints of some of my favorite photos of my son from the previous year. I’ve been getting these from Artifact Uprising. I had already been thinking of putting my son’s cheesy school portrait into a framed ornament and  these are perfect because the frame is a design I genuinely like (rounded corners!). These will be perfect for members of my son’s fan club. 

LITTLE LUXURIES

When I worked for Kate Young, she always got me something fabulous for Christmas so I try to do the same for my assistant - something small, but decadent and designer that she probably wouldn’t purchase for herself. I’m also a sucker for packaging and think that further instills the luxury aspect of high fashion so I ask for all the bells and whistles - box, ribbon, bag, note card, etc (and, of course, a gift receipt).  

A little fancy stocking stuffer type gift is also the best - Chanel lip balm! Hermes nail files! Silly and fabulous - we work in fashion after all.  

MEMBERSHIPS

One of my best friends told me years ago that she asks her in-laws for museum memberships and I think that’s perfect.  It’s something you can do together as a family (or not) and is again, not stuff. This is applicable to anywhere - pick whatever museum, botanical garden, zoo, aquarium, house tour, amusement park, play space, etc is local to the receiver. 

LOCAL BOOKSTORES

Kids, are of course, exempt from this trimmed down gift giving experiment. Grandparents tend to so show no restrain for their grandkids (nor should they!) so with whatever they’re giving, I also ask for a gift certificate to our local book store so we can get books throughout the year that don’t come from Amazon and support a small business. Jeff Bezos gets enough of our money. 

OTHER

Having said all that, here are some other things that are on my list to give and receive.

Elsa Peretti bottle stopper - completely unnecessary, but oh so chic.

Visionaire - A couple years ago Visionaire collaborated with John Baldessari and I got one for my brother, my brother one for me and my sister-in-law gave one to my brother. Miraculously, we gave each other different editions so we have the complete set between us. They can often be expensive, but there are a few on The Real Real (Elsa Pertti/Tiffany’s, Hermes, The Bible, Vreeland!) and eBay. Obviously the Elsa Peretti is top of my personal list. If only I could find the Kate Moss/Movement issue I have. It’s somewhere.

Piccolo spoons from Porta - everyone can use a pretty little spoon. Perfect hostess gift.

Film - I had a digital camera briefly in collage and all those photos are lost in the ether. Because of that, I still use a film camera and actually get my photos printed and I put them in a photo album. I always need more film.

Hot Ones box set - I love this show and also love spicy food, as does much of my family. Gifting this almost guarantees our own Hot Ones taste test party.

Comme Si socks - Socks used to get a bad wrap (I do remember receiving tube socks from an uncle when I was a teenager and beyond beyond disappointed), but when the socks are Comme Si, everyone will be delighted. While I love everything they make, the Yves are my favorite sock.

The Row - just throwing this out there, but I’ll take a gift certificate :)

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I love a good trench and have several. My most treasured is Topshop and it is almost ten years old. I, surprise surprise, like to keep things as classic as possible without any added embellishments like hardware, pleats, pattern or wide cuffs. Classic trench color is preferred, but not required.

DOUBLE BREASTED & BELTED

I am trying to find a replacement for my Topshop as it’s rather worn in and stained at this point. All of the above are good substitutes - oversized, double breasted, belted. Depending on the style, I would opt to size up anywhere from one to three sizes to maximize comfort/desired oversized-ness and for a more exaggerated belted shape (although the men’s California Art’s trench sounds like it runs “true” to size - anyone know anything about the brand??). The below Phoebe Philo is a pipe-dream and the holy grail even though it’s black (also comes in cream). I also came across this H&M after the above layout was made.

SINGLE BREASTED SWING

In order to switch things up, I’ve been looking for a single breasted, slightly a-frame or just not too straight, non belted, just pasted my knees - tea length trench with a collar. I have been hunting for over a year and wanted the last piece by The Row. Although I am a firm believer in “cry once, buy once” the over $4k price tag is beyond my comfort zone. Instead, I ended up with the above Studio Nicholson. I have honestly not worn it that much because I would prefer a richer color, but the shape is perfect. We will see what happens this fall and winter. Again, size up.

SINGLE BREASTED BELTED

I ordered the above Studio Nicholson when I ordered the non belted one in the previous section thinking it would be more trench like (aka not viscose/wool blend), but I loved it anyway so I kept it. It’s glorious. It won’t help me in the rain, but it is one of my only non-black or dark coats.

WATCHING: Just finished The Perfect Couple on Netflix

READING: About to start All Fours by Miranda July

SEEING: Doug Wheeler at David Zwirner 20th Street

EATING: Making these potatoes tonight

LISTENING: The Cutting Room Floor

Enjoy.

xxL

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I supremely don’t like being overheated and the city for the foreseeable future will be nothing but hot. I also find everyday dresses hard - they’re either too dressy, too beachy, too fashiony or just too not right. Lacy dresses seem to fill the gap. Sure, many look like nightgowns (or actually are nightgowns) but the right shoe balances that out. Most of my shoes are black and that helps anchor an other wise sweet dress. Here are my favorites. 

LANEWAY THE LABEL - I wore this during a particular hot day last week (and then to a concert at Radio City) and while walking thru Central Park two ladies said “Now isn’t that a perfect dress for a day like today. Just look at it. Perfect.” Ultimate compliment. It is a bit sheer and you do you but I feel more comfortable with a slip under.

CHRISTIAN DIOR - Vintage Christian Dior nightgowns are amazing. Find what one suits you best. Options here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here and here. I doubled mine up so it wasn’t too shear and added a jacket on top so I wasn’t too exposed for the day I had ahead of me.

THE GARMENT COPENHAGEN - short and easy, so I wear a skirt slip or bike shorts under.

WATCHING: Loot

EATING: Frozen blueberries all day long

READING: Alice Sadie Celine by Sarah Blakley-Cartwright

SEEING: Future Islands at Radio City Music Hall

LISTENING: Line Sheet by Lauren Sherman

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Recently, my go-to gifts for certain people in my life have been framed photos, but good frames are hard to find. While the photo is the real gift of a special moment, the frame is an added bonus. I try to keep the recipients home/taste in mind and hunt accordingly.

For me, Elsa Peretti for Tiffany frames are everything I want - classic, but not standard and beautiful objects in and of themselves. I saw the above Travel Frame while killing time in midtown at the redone Tiffany flagship (I miss the original interior, but do love the James Turrell) and can’t stop thinking about it. Perhaps I will buy it for myself for Mother’s Day and fill it with my most recent favorite photos of my son.

Happy Mother’s Day.

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I went on a tropical vacation and it was heavenly. I do not do well in the heat, but that doesn’t stop me from seeking out the sun anyway, I just dry to dress and stay as cool as possible, which is also true for NYC summers. Cotton and linen light weight layers are my friends, as is a simple one piece (that gets put on first thing in the morning and doesn’t come off until dinner time) and baseball hat (any will do) that will stay put while I swim and chase my child. Here’s what I packed/wore.

Nu Swim: The exception to my usual black one-piece rotation. I love the weight on Nu Swim pieces - thicker than most, but nothing crazy. Small NYC based brand. Should probably add one of their black suits to my collection.

Comme Si: Pretty sure I need to get more of these. They were perfect for covering up midday when I realized the tops of my legs were getting way too much sun and not uncomfortable to throw on over a wet suit. Also suitable for dinner later.

Flip flops: The cat is already out of the bag on these - Old Navy for the win.

Norma Kamali: High cut legs and low back, but somehow still stays on.

Raey: I’m not really a shorts person, but cut offs with an oversized button up is hard to resist when it’s super hot outside. Pockets are also always helpful, especially with a kiddo. I didn’t take any pics with a button up, but I brought a vintage men’s Yojhi super oversized white cotton button up and a men’s J.Crew Baird McNutt Irish Linen shirt in a L. Generally in warm weather, a barely buttoned button up is my go to.

Céline dress: This is a horrible picture, but I love this dress and would like to have it remade in a bunch of different fabrics (this one is almost like a knit faced neoprene). This is a silhouette I’m constantly looking for - short, but not too short, slightly aframe without looking like a maternity dress and bare shoulders/arms. I also wear this as a top with pants. There’s one on the The Real Real and this Matteau has peeked my interest. I also just ordered this from Lesse.

Xero sandals: I have Becky Malinsky’s 5 Things newsletter to thank for these. Miu Miu but waaaaay cheeper. I’m a 7.5 and the size 7 is perfect. They are super thin, but I am still tempted to wear them around the city, although maybe I could get a cobbler to add another layer to the sole to extend the distance between my foot and city streets…

Matteau: Clearly Matteau does warm weather dressing well. I find most of their longer dresses are often too voluminous and even though this dress has voluminous in the name, I find it less billowy than others I’ve tried. I brought a super slim leather tie (think it’s maybe a shoe string) to cinch it a little. It can go both ways.

I love an L.L. Bean tote - my family has used them forever and I have inherited that trait. I use them for almost everything - weekends away, lugging things to set and now on vacation. I didn’t get a picture of this, but I brought an extra large L.L. Bean tote (black trim of course) with me for lugging all of my kiddo’s stuff around. I usually have a beachier bag, but I wanted something that was solid and stiff so sand would stay in the bag and not transfer to my hotel room. Get one new and wear it in or here are some used on etsy. They last forever.

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This is going to be short and sweet, unlike the never ending rain we seem to be experiencing.

Everyone asks about this jacket. Fellow editors/stylists when I entered a press preview during that downpour last week. Producers on set. Fellow moms and grandma’s a kiddo birthday parties (literal words from the birthday girls’s grandma “Now that’s a rain coat”). She’s not cheap, but she is pretty and she really keeps me dry. I love a classic trench as much as everyone else, but they’re not actually waterproof.

KASSL EDITIONS Original Coat in brown (20% off SSense with SS2024). Tan here from Matches (try OFFER25 for 25% off Matches). The Original Coat is long and hits at my ankles (I’m 5’7”). I’d recommend the Below Coat if you’re shorter (or even my height and don’t want something quite so long). There’s also this Original which is shorter too. I sized up from a 36 and ordered a 38 so I could wear thicker sweaters under if needed.

There’s also always Stutterheim, but I had one, never wore it and now have this and wear it all the time. I did find a Stutterheim for my son on ebay and that’s been perfect for him (also this).

Ugg Tasmin X or Bottega Puddle boot (new and used options).

Baseball hat of your choosing.

Stay dry out there!

xxL

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It’s been a while…so without further ado, the capsule I unintentionally created the last two months. Mostly all black with the occasional jean.

FIRST AND FOREMOST

Toteme triangle scarf - perhaps my favorite piece of all. I love draping it and then throwing the tails over my shoulders. I have utilized this almost everyday since i’ve gotten it. Classy.

PANTS

Toteme Classic Cut Jeans - High, but not to high, straight and relaxed but not too loose.

J Crew Giant Pants - men’s size 28. I have yet to really wear these “out” since they’re so big and loose I feel I look a bit sloppy. However, these are what I grab when I’m working from home and on the weekends. My non-sweatpants sweatpants.

High Sport Kick Flair - lots has been written about these and I know the price point is crazy, but I love them and wear them often.

Dickies Skateboarding Regular Fit Twill Pants - size 28x32, but the 29x34s are my new favorites. 28x34 would be ideal, but for the longer inseam 29 is the smallest they offer. Wearing the 29s to channel new Phoebe Philo as much as possible without dropping $1500, even though I am temped by a few things from the most recent drop.

SÉFR Blue Straight Cut Jeans - The weight of the denim is perfection and they’re loose, but not too loose. Size 28. Also wearing vintage Levi’s a couple sizes too big.

TOP HALF

Tee or tank as a base - wrote about my fave tanks here and oversized tees here. Support your local eatery or whatever and get it big. Into these for a solid option.

Birrot Single Jacket - I love this jacket. I’d been thinking about it since reading about it on Earl Earl and the LV men’s show solidified it for me, but I didn’t want tan. I love that I can wear it as a shirt or as an outer layer with the below Toteme scarf. Very into this brand. I’m asked about it every time I wear it. I ordered mine directly from them to get the size I wanted (3).

Leather bomber - wrote about that here, updated link here. This Bally option is beautiful. Bally is looking goooood.

Birrot Round Cardigan - I loved the silhouette of the jacket so figured adding the cardigan in the same cut would be a win win and it has been.

Brush jacket - I’ve had mine since I was 17 and I’m pretty sure it’s as stiff as it was when I first got it. Similar options here and here. Prada version here.

Coat - Oversized, black and strong shouldered. Similar options here, here, here and here.

SHOES

Clark Wallabees Boot - my everyday shoe

The Row Sock Mesh Flats - sized down a half size. Finally pulled the trigger and have worn everyday since (less than a week). Need to take to the cobbler for rubber soles.

Ugg Tasmin X - good rain option too

Chanel Ballet Flats

Birkenstock Boston Clogs

Bass Women’s Hampton Boat Shoe - less preppy in black

WATCHING: Shōgun and Tokyo Vice

EATING: Lovely Day Ginger Fried Chicken

READING: Why Pants are so Big (Again)? by The New York Times

SEEING: Sonia Delaunay, Living Art at the Bard Center

LISTENING: 99% Invisible - The Power Broker: Robert Moses and the Fall of New York

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I’ve been meaning to make this post for a while, but life and work are busy and I simply haven’t had time. And this is supposed to be enjoyable (for me and readers), not yet another thing I HAVE to do (that list is long enough). But…

I love watches and people ask me about mine frequently. I am by no means a connoisseur, but I know what I like. I started wearing one daily just before I gave birth because I didn’t want to have to look at my phone all the time once our son came. I have been favoriting yellow gold watches, but silver is started to become more desirable. I also like rather small faces since I have small wrists.

My husband gave the above Must de Cartier watch to me as a “push present"/anniversary gift. I had long been obsessed with the Must de Cartier since Kate Young introduced me to this book while I was her assistant. The Must watches were Cartier’s first quartz (battery) movements and therefore a less expensive entry point. They are also vermeil, not solid 18K. While the (vintage and new) price point is still less than the usual suspects, the prices have double/tripled in the past couple of years. Cartier reintroduced the Must line recently, but the vintage ones are so much better. Some vintage to purchase here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here, and here.

I noticed this in a far window of a local gold shop, inquired, tried and it on and purchased it. Quartz movement. Similar options here, here, here and here. Very reasonably priced.

I love the look of a small Rolex and this fills that void without breaking the bank. The bracelet is a bit big so it fits loose and low on my wrist, which I like. Remember how American Apparel had inexpensive watches hanging over cash wrap? Now it’s online. This is where I found this one, thanks to Habiter. Rolex options here, here, here, here, here, here, here and here (yes please).

I can’t say I really wear these, but I love them and can’t let them go. The Timex came in a jewelry lot I got on Ebay and the Prim I purchased for virtually nothing in Prague when I was 18 - I just got a band for it a year or so ago. They’re both teeny.

After a couple years of lusting, I finally purchased this for myself for my birthday. It was no easy feat. They’re routinely out of stock and not produced in large quantities. An inquiry with Cartier basically said “good luck” and a couple other attempts were fruitless. I found a few vintage options (here, here and here), but wanted to see it in person first. And then Watches of Switzerland in Soho texted me to let me know one had come in. They answered all my questions, including texting me pictures of it on a fellow small wristed person and I worn it ever since.

Not like I need another watch (scratch that, I am looking for a small inexpensive waterproof option for vacation/summer time water activities I currently have a Baby G, but it’s just too big), the Cartier Panthére would be top of my list. Maybe my next big birthday. Vintage Saiko faux Santos here.

If you want to know more about watches, I (of course) recommend Dimepiece. Go to the website in addition to Instagram.

xxL

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As I told Christina and her fabulous substack, Habiter, “I want to wear the nicer things I don’t often get to wear, but also never want to feel too dressed up.” They’re usually black and not especially “festive.”

I made it out of the house after work twice this week (that’s a lot for me) and I wore the same thing both times.  One was a work dinner and the other was a holiday party, followed by a concert, so I figured why not - I love this suit but it’s not something I’d wear in my day to day so might as well get some use out of it. 

This is old Michael Kors and I’m not sure when it’s from but guessing from the later 2000s/early 2010s based on the tag. It looks like it could be Mugler. It fits like a glove and is simply easy and comfortable. I wore slightly higher old Manolo boots for the dinner and then more comfortable Khaite boots for the holiday party/concert because I knew I’d be standing most of the time. 

Similar suit: Chanel, Mugler (maybe switch the skirt out for pants like these or these), Dolce, Cinzia Rocca. Similar but different idea from Raey (top and pant) and Oscar de la Renta

Similar Manolo boot here, here and here and here

Khaite boots, similar Proenza option

Bottega drop bag

Prada Re-Edition 2005 bag, preowned here

I love everything about this outfit as styled, although I’d wear a higher (knee high) boot. With the Chloe sweater I can pretend its maybe vintage YSL. 

Auralee midi skirt, similar from Cos

Black turtleneck, similar from Cos. Also love this Chloe sweater that would look nice here as well. 

Preowned Prada suede boots, also love these from Toteme

The last thing I need to add to my closet is another fancy black midi dress because I realistically have few opportunities to wear them, but I love them and this Proenza option is perfection. 

Proenza dress. Also love this (navy) and this and this and this and this.

Khaite mules here in an 8.5 and here in a 7 and here in an 11

Old Celine pumps here in a 9.5, satin here in an 8, suede in an 8 here. Also love these from Toteme.

That’s all I have time for. Happy Holidays!

xxL

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COMME SI

Started by my former colleague, Jenni, these are the most delectable socks. I’m partial to these, these, these and these and am wearing these while I type this. Perfect for everyone.

HIKERKIND

So proud of my former intern, Chelsea (and her co-founder Allison) for starting this smart and chic outdoor clothing company. I am by no means a hiker, but still love their product and wear it both in the city and the country. I have this, this and this.

SOFT SERVICES

I worked with Annie for may years when she was at Glossier, but am more in love with this product that actually helps my supremely dry and eczema ridden skin. I’m partial to this, this, this and this (preordered for many family members).

MARI GUIDICELLI

I met Mari on a Glamour shoot ages ago and have crossed paths many times since. She is the coolest and I love her shoes (I just ordered these). I recommend them to everyone. (I also have these). Discount with THANKS10 code.

B SIDES

Nothing but good things to say about this brand. Claire and Stacey are just lovely. Aren’t these amazing? These are in my cart. They’ve got a store in Hudson. 30% off thru the Holiday weekend.

FREDRICKS AND MAE

F&M have the best, unusual gifts for everyone you need to shop for. I have purchased many things for others, young and old, and for myself. They also carry pieces by other designers.

KINDRED BLACK

I have bought a couple pieces of vintage jewelry for my mom from here and also recommend it to my personal clients. Think they have a great selection. I have not tried their skincare, but tempted to. Home selection is also fantastic.

GOODEE WORLD

Started by the Want les Essentials founders, Goodee World is an ethically sourced marketplace filled with stuff I want. I have almost purchased this for my son many times, but don’t really have space for it (not stopping me from trying to find the space though). I think about this basket a lot (like A LOT). So many goodies :)

KIOSK

Kiosk used to have a brick and mortar on Spring between Broadway and Mercer. The entrance was through an alley and up a flight of stairs - it felt like a hidden treasure/gallery and I loved any excuse to stop by. They are now online only but I look at their selection every holiday season and purchase something almost every year. These are great of the beach/for kid’s balls (there is one always hanging from our stroller with said ball)/for whatever. Melamine splatter dishwear? Yes please. A not hideous, but still functional dish brush? In my sink. Chic bag clips that aren’t bulbous plastic? In use in my pantry. Don’t have these, but pretty sure I should. I recommend looking at their archive as well.

Happy shopping!

xxL

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I’m not one to wear sweatpants or leggings on a plane (no shade to anyone who does). Instead, I opt for items I know I love and will suit me in the location I’m leaving, during transport and at my destination. So, this is what I wore (and if I’m being honest, am still wearing a day later).

Jeans: Uniqlo U High-Rise Boyfriend Jean (SKU#: 431421). Pray for these to return in the next Uniqlo U collection. Similar Uniqlo options here, here, here, here, here, here, here and here. SSense Lemaire options here, here, here, here, here and here. Raey’s I mentioned in a previous post for a not as high, but similar wash option. A note on Lemaire/U pant sizing - it’s all over the place. The Uniqlo U pairs I have are a size 23 or 24 (I’m usually a 25/26/27). Lemaire pants I have are a FR34 and a FR38. The 34s are still loose and a pair I just ordered in a FR34 are too small, so I recommend ordering a range of sizes to see what works best.

Belt: Raey. Similar here, here, here, here, here and here. Size up if you want a longer tail like the Raey - braided belts can be belted anywhere since there are no holes.

Tank: Uniqlo U seamless Tank. I live in these. I wear them under everything for another layer in the winter and on their own in the summer. They don’t have the white and black, which are my preferred colors (I wear and xs so I don’t have to wear a bra). Also pray for these to return. Similar here and here.

Sweatshirt: Vintage navy sweatshirt here and here.

Jacket: Maryam Nassir Zadeh. I cannot find a receipt for this so I can’t tell you the name and googling only brings me to an expired Noisaf Bazaar listing for it. Similar vintage options here, here, here (pictured above), here and here (not that similar, but amazing nonetheless). New options here, here, here (amazing), here, here, here, here and here (love).

Shoes: Clark’s Wallabee boot. Other options here, here and here.

Happy Thanksgiving!

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I am trying to keep posts on a regular schedule, but freelance work does not offer consistency, so apologies for the delay.

I pined over these pants on The Real Real, but they were still pricy, so I never pulled the trigger. Then, serendipitously, I found them at Beacon’s Closet for a fraction of the price over the summer. It was too hot to wear them then and I kind of forgot about them until last week - I have since worn them three times, often in head to toe brown. Chocolate brown is my favorite shade of brown.

Pants: vintage Loewe from the vintage gods. Similar options (vintage/preowned) here, here and here and (new) here, here and here

Sweater: vintage Ferragamo size XXL. Similar options borrowed from the boys (vintage/preowned) here, here, here, here and here and (new) here, here and here

Chanel ballet flats or LL Bean boots (similar here)

Novelty tee for layering: here, here and here

WATCHING: The Great British Baking Show

EATING: craft services

READING: Is That Antisemitic?

SEEING: Mood of the Moment: Gaby Aghion and the House of Chloe at The Jewish Museum

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A couple people asked me about belts recently so here you go.

BLACK BELTS

1 Burberry 2 Khaite 3 Anderson’s 4 Mango 5 Madewelll 6 Toteme 7 Raey 8 Cos

BROWN BELTS

1 Cos 2 Toteme 3 Madewell 4 Michael Kors 5 Raey 6 Cos 7 Madewell 8 A.P.C 9 Anderson’s

INTERESTING BUCKLE BELTS

1 Vintage Gucci 2 Vintage Donna Karan 3 B-low the belt 4 Kieseltein-Cord 5 The Row 6 Sancia 7 Raey

BELTS WITH SILVER BUCKLES

1 Madewell 2 Ferragamo 3 Celine 4 Toga 5 Brighton 6 Madewell 7 Mezlan 8 Khaite

If anyone has something they’d like featured, let me know.

xxL

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Trench: mine is super old Topshop, two sizes too big, but this is similar from Camilla and Marc

Jacket as a shirt: vintage Michael Kors wool jacket in a size 12, but similar idea here, here, here, here, here, here and here

Jeans: vintage Levi’s a couple sizes too big and distressed. Vintage Levi source here and then there are these

Khaite bag - new and preowned

Pearl River Mary Janes

WATCHING: 9 1/2 Weeks

EATING: Pho

READING: Pradasphere

SEEING: Ed Roucha: Then Now at Moma

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