The Lions Gate Portal is always an exciting time of year energetically. It goes from July 28 through August 12. Today, August 8, or 8/8, is always considered, numerologically speaking, the most aligned time during the portal.

I’ve been releasing a new meditation for it for a few years now, and this year is no different.

Our themes are: manifestation (88, a supercharged number), courage (this is Leo season), and alignment. It all makes for some pretty powerful stuff!

Wave Breathing

I included something new in this meditation. I’m calling it Wave Breathing. I think the sound of the ocean is one of the most expansive and centering sounds. I began thinking about a new way to incorporate controlled breathing without using box breathing. My friend Tyler pointed out to me that box breathing can cause anxiety if you already have physical challenges with your breathing. Holding your breath can trigger trauma.

Now that I heard this, I had to come to another way of bringing you present, focused on the breath, centered, and ready to meditate. Breathing with the sounds of the waves is my answer.

Fun fact: The waves you hear in the meditation I recorded on Ocean Drive Beach in Eleuthera, Bahamas.

If you aren’t a paid subscriber, here’s a link to the short meditation that I posted today on SoundCloud, https://on.soundcloud.com/NtN15IhC779ZtJqKCP

Here’s to a wonderfully aligned and courageous moment in time!

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Tomorrow is the Summer Solstice! After my birthday, it’s my favorite day of the year! It is the day of the longest amount of sunlight, so it holds the most possibilities.

The sun is at its fullness. And so, in this moment, are you…

That’s how this year’s meditation for Summer Solstice begins. Your continued support is part of the reason my Light shines so brightly.

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I’m so grateful to have you as a subscriber. I wanted to share a special Summer Solstice meditation with you. While I’ve released a free 8-minute version of this, I wanted you to have the full 22-minute version available to download. It’s called Radiant You.

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Actually, you knew the answer pretty early. Then you dumped a bunch of other people’s opinions on top of yours. After some time, you come to a moment when you decide you’re ready to remember your answer.

Maybe today is your moment. I want to talk about some dirty words that can get in the way of getting to your answer.

Accountability

I am officially over this word. It has the worst connotation ever! Someone is either holding you accountable or demanding you take accountability for something. No matter which way you look at it, it’s not something you want to choose to experience.

Enter me, your favorite spiritual life coach. If I go anywhere near the word accountability, everyone feels some sort of aversion, including me. And it’s a concept I have to use to teach.

Being accountable to yourself for the experiences you’ve had, the choices you’ve made, the actions you take, and who you say you are is a very important part of living a life of joy.

The question is, what are you holding yourself accountable to? To whom are you comparing yourself?

So, instead of accountability, let’s simply allow ourselves to be truly honest with ourselves, without judgment. Our next dirty word!

Judgment

Judgment is a major part of our culture. It’s why “holding people accountable” is so pervasive. Life is frequently about judging someone or something as right or wrong. Stay focused on your life, and the fastest way releasing judgment comes with forgiveness.

Even if you find a way through forgiveness for everyone who has ever caused you harm, and no longer hold judgment about anyone. There is still one person left. You. You have to release judgment of yourself and the choices you’ve made in life. You must forgive yourself, accept the lesson, and move forward with the wisdom.

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Your OJ

Most people have someone in their life that they can point to as the OJ - Original Judge. It’s the original “voice in your head”. This is the person who helped you learn right from wrong, even if it’s just about your brand of toilet paper. The OJ is here to hold the standard set for your life, according to their parameters. People spend a lot of time focusing on holding the OJ accountable for their lives.

The thing about the OJ is, they don’t have to say anything after awhile. At some point, you trade the OJ for the YJ, You Judge. You take over as judge of your behavior. Without a disruption of thought, the anxiety you felt from the OJ is being perpetuated by the YJ. Now you’re doing it to yourself.

There has to be a thought disruption. There is another way of thinking about it. Only you can change it.

Instead of judgment, focus on discernment. Determining what is right for yourself, based on your wisdom.

Discernment is based in trust. Judgment is based in fear.

There’s our next dirty word.

Fear

The biggest source of suffering in living is the torture of the unknown. Fear is based on your perception of what could happen. When you don’t know what is going to happen, how can you make a decision about what is best? So, you make up a story of what could happen to figure out what to do.

What if you’re wrong? When you become paralyzed with indecision, it’s the same as being paralyzed with fear. What should you do? Who do you trust to make a decision about what’s best for your life?

All choices made in fear are made without one main principle, trust. When you are able to trust that All is well, you can release fear. When you are able to trust that Everything works out exactly as it’s supposed to, you can release fear. When you are able to trust that You always do the best that you can every day, you can release fear.

Focus first on gratitude (everything begins with gratitude). Then focus on your immediate needs. Remain present. Trust you have your best interests at heart. Trust that your choices are the right choices for you at the time that you’re making them. Release the need to control the outcome and focus on who you trust to find the answers you need. Trust yourself.

The Thing: Who Am I? Really

Here’s the Thing: Who am I? It’s important to be able to answer that question, if you are supposed to love and believe in yourself. You have to know who that is.

Honesty, Discernment, and Trust, these are the ways you understand who you are and choose your Life. When you know who you are, seeing all of who you have been, honoring the choices you have made, and acknowledging your Light, that is when every decision can be made with ease and grace. That is when your life is a direct reflection of who you are. That is when you live a joyful life.

Journaling

In your journal, write an introduction of who you are without mentioning the following: your name, your family, your roles, your marital status, your parental status, your achievements, your gender, or your body.

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Giggles

When I was in elementary school, my nickname was Giggles. I was a very smiley, giggly girl who enjoyed life. Sometimes my teachers thought I enjoyed life a little too much. I enjoyed being myself. I liked the things that I did, and when I learned how to push the edges, I lived a great life. The people around me supported me in being myself and appreciated me for being myself. They encouraged me to spread my wings and fly, most of the time.

I lived in a continuous state of wonder and frequently felt pure delight in living Life.

Delight is a high degree of pleasure, joy, or satisfaction, often stemming from exceeding expectations.

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The New Girl

We began moving when I was 12. I spent the next 5 years changing schools and moving to new places while my parents believed in our family’s dream of a brighter future. My nickname was “The New Girl” every year. Everything and everyone was new every year. No one knew me. Every time I made friends, found someone who believed in me, I was at a new school the next year. I was frequently the only black student, except that one year, my sister and I went to the same school. My sister and I were besties. I didn’t giggle as much outside of my house.

During those years, I made a handful of friends who I continue to hold close to my heart. They were the ones I could be myself with. They loved and encouraged me.

Tending Your Light

These years were the beginning of learning how to tend my own Light. I began to learn about the difference between my internal self and external self. Being the experiential learner that I am, I tripped and fell a lot while learning to be myself in the world. I spent a lot of time doing things I was told to do, in exchange for a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction. I had no driving purpose to my actions beyond being acceptable. It’s the lesson I learned as “The New Girl”: always find a way to fit in.

Successful Me

When I graduated and had a few years of college, I started looking for my own bright future. This part of my life is my “City Girl” Robyn. I spent a lot of time playing by the rules others had set for life. I believed what I was told to believe was important. I worked hard to stay between the lines and be who I thought I was supposed to be. I acquired things that others told me were important. I got invited to things others told me would be hard to get invited to. I did “successful” things over and over again, in different industries, in different parts of the country and world. I did All the Things!

I had almost entirely stopped looking within for my Light. I had created a false sense of accomplishment through the external demonstrations of success. It eventually stopped working. In 2010, everything I had been trying to avoid happened all at once. I ended up back where I started, home with my family. Finally, when everything was removed, I was able to focus on myself again.

Re-Discovering Who I Am

When everything in my life exploded, I think the most important thing I did was to prevent myself from inertia. I knew I needed to keep moving, and it needed to be for me. This time, I gave myself what I needed. I asked for help. I accepted help. I believed in a new version of myself, without considering others’ version of who I was supposed to be. Actually, it felt like the original version of myself, the Robyn I’ve always been, and had allowed myself to forget. That’s when the joyful truth came back to me.

From Giggles to Goddess

The day I realized that my purpose of teaching others to find joy is directly connected to who I am, not what I do, was the moment wonder and delight came back to my life. That time of reset is very special in my life. I allowed myself to fully experience Life the way that I wanted to experience it. I expressed my wants, needs, and desires out loud, first to myself, then to others.

I felt an incredible sense of freedom to be. It’s when I first began writing about the 5 Principles of Joy and the importance of experiencing your life as joyful. And that’s when I became the Goddess of Joy. When it felt like an expression of Who I Am. 15+ years later, I love that I’m still talking about Joy.

The Thing

Here’s The Thing: When you reconnect to the part of you that experienced wonder and delight about Life, that is when the Light of Joy shines brightest. You radiate Joy because you are experiencing Life as your most aligned self. It doesn’t mean things will be completely smooth; it means you’ll be strong and resilient, able to handle Life as it comes, radiating the joy of being you.

Journaling:

Think back to the last time you felt a feeling of wonder and delight about Life. When was it, what was happening, and why did you let go of that feeling?

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So, even with the predictions of Puxatauny Phil being accurate about the winter weather, spring is finally here. IDK about you, but my social media feed is full of people finding ways to feel better about life and living. People are celebrating everything they can. The lighter the days get, the more hopeful people become. There are several scientific studies about it. And I’m sure you have your own anecdotal proof about feeling better when you get more exposure to sunlight.

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Abundance is Everywhere

I think the spring season is a perfect example of the fact that we live in an abundant world that is continually renewing itself. Everywhere you look, there are signs of spring and its abundant nature. Leaves on trees, flowers in fields, even spring snowflakes seem thicker and heavier with more water. Spring is all about Life bursting forth with color and enthusiasm. There are signs everywhere that the nature of Nature is to express itself as abundance.

When you look up the word abundance, this is the definition:

The state or condition of having a copious quantity of something; plentifulness; plentifulness of the good things of life; prosperity.

I would say, generally speaking, this is most people’s definition of abundance: “plentifulness of the good things of life”. And, if we’re being honest, financial abundance is what most people are speaking of.

Living an abundant life is A LOT more than money.

Abundance is Also a Mindset

When you think about life with an abundant mindset, you see Life in all Its possibilities. Doors open that you didn’t know existed because you stayed open to the abundant nature of Life. When you are having issues seeing the abundance, you see Life in all of its difficulties and injustices. At every turn, even when there were moments of abundance, your focus remains on the lack.

Avoiding thinking about the abundance of Life doesn’t prevent Life from being abundant; it prevents you from seeing how you benefit from it. Life is always abundant. Your perspective on Life can sometimes be the reason it doesn’t feel that way.

I believe one of the best ways to shift mindset is through practice/ritual/repetition. Create a practice for your vision. Create a ritual to remind you of your vision. Do it. Repeat as needed.

That’s why I created The Abundance Project.

The Abundance Project is a 40-day guided spiritual workshop based on the program found in The Abundance Book by John Randolph Price. Guided by me, participants will embark on an energetic journey of transformation and remembrance by engaging with 10 spiritual abundance statements, speaking one phrase aloud each day. Doing the 10-phrase cycle 4X.

The full description is here.

The Thing: Believing in Abundance

Here’s The Thing: It’s about what you believe and how you choose to express that belief. Once you’ve chosen to believe that You Are Abundant, you continually look for opportunities to express that abundance and find ways to keep your mind on abundance. Not money.

Money is not my supply. No person, place, or condition is my supply…

The Abundance Book, John Randolph Price

The gift of Abundance Mindset is that you create it for yourself. As a creative being, you fully engage with the copious goodness that is Life, knowing it comes directly from Source. So, you never have to rely on anyone to create the experience of abundance for you. You are already TAPped in!

Periodically, you may need a reminder or an inspiration boost. That’s what I’m here for. Join The Abundance Project!

The Best Part

I have been hosting groups for The Abundance Project for a few years now. It’s always been by love donation. The point is to pay something into your abundance. Abundance is cyclical. You cannot receive if you are not willing to give. The amount doesn’t matter, $1.11 to $111; the point is the giving. I received whatever was offered, with the understanding that I was simply the vessel they were pouring their abundance into.

I’m thrilled that this year, all donations will go to The Confidence Fund.

The Confidence Fund empowers women and girls worldwide by investing in nonprofit organizations that build belief, self-worth, and confidence. Through strategic grants, community partnerships, and its signature event, The Confidence Conference, the Fund unites resources and inspiration to amplify the collective strength of women and the organizations that serve them.

I’m thrilled to be offering this as a way to help fund the grants for some incredible organizations. So, while you are pouring your funds into your abundance, those funds are being used to pour into others. TAP into your abundance mindset!

worry: The mental distress, unease, or agitation caused by contemplating potential problems, dangers, or uncertain outcomes, often described as a state of anxiety.

This literally says that you’re stressing yourself out. It says the distress is caused by contemplation. Because you won’t stop thinking about it, you keep having anxiety about it.

You know this, though. This is no surprise to you. You know that you are the source of your anxiety. The “what ifs” of Life that plague the mind.

What you may not know is why you do it, and what you can do about it.

If People just wouldn’t be so “people-y.”

When you’re developing “worry/anxiety issues,” it’s because somewhere in your journey, you determined that whatever was happening in your life, you could control the outcome by preparing for it and controlling all of the factors. Completely negating the fact that life isn’t lived in a vacuum, and people will make choices different from what you would choose.

Why does everyone need to have free will, when clearly you know what should be done!

So, by playing the “worst-case scenario” game and finding solutions, you feel safe being hyperprepared. You feel in control. You follow the rules. You do as you’re told. You do what you’re supposed to do. That should make things perfect. If, however, things don’t go as you planned, your planned-for solution didn’t do the job because something changed. What then?

Do you adjust or break down?

If you are a bit of a fixer/hustler, you adjust. You don’t want to get slowed down by what didn’t work. Also, if you have trust and believe that all things work the way they’re really supposed to, you adjust.

If, however, you believe that somehow, if things had just been different. If someone had made a different choice, if they had just done it the way you think it should be done, things wouldn’t be a mess now. This is exactly what you were worried would happen. This could all have been prevented if they had just done it your way. If you’re thinking this, or some version of this, you are having illusions about control.

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That doesn’t work the way you think it does.

I’m here to let you in on a little secret: you can’t control what others do because everyone gets to decide for themselves.

Here’s another secret: the key to releasing your connection to control is to let go of the need to direct the outcome.

It makes me think of a ballroom dance lesson that Veronica and I took several years ago. I have a deeper history with dance than she does, so I would be considered a natural lead. However, it was really important to both of us that she lead. For me, I had learned that to be a great leader, you must learn to follow. I knew that this was a lesson I needed to learn.

So, there we were getting the lesson. I was picking up the timing and direction a little bit faster than she was. I began to lose patience. I started kind of signaling to her which way we “should” be moving. It was working until our instructor stopped us and called me out for “back-leading”. To learn how to follow, you also have to learn how to stop leading.

I am continuing in my quest for us to learn partner dancing. I realized that being patient with other people’s learning styles changes me. Also, as the person being led, I have to trust them. I don’t know where I’m going, and I have to surrender to the process. This is all good for my expansion.

I bring it up here because when you try to control the outcome through worry and preparedness, you fail to account for everyone else. You somehow have convinced yourself that everything depends on you. You can control the outcome if you go over it in enough detail to preempt any surprises. That’s not how this works. Life is full of surprises.

The Thing

Here’s the Thing: You need to notice your patterns of control. Understanding where you’re struggling with worry or feelings of lack of control can help you find your way to faith in the process.

Ask yourself this question: Where am I trying to make life go my way, and what is resisting?

Journaling Prompt:

List 3 areas where you feel you must control the outcome. Then ask, what belief about myself is behind this need?

Control often feels like strength. But sometimes it’s just the mind trying to manage what the heart is ready to understand.

If this reflection spoke to you, it might be time to look deeper at the beliefs shaping your experience.

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Mercury is my ruling planet, so this time is all about patience for me. It is all about taking my time. And for this season, it’s about feeling my way forward.

What are you sensing that you’ve been trying to explain away?

North Star Astrology

As usual, when I’m looking for answers about how to navigate planetary energies, I turned to one of my favorite friends, North Star Astrology. And she dropped this gem of a question in her post.

It’s the kind of question that makes you stop and get really still. Because the answer is probably going to be uncomfortable, that’s why you’ve been avoiding it. The gift of retrograde is that it slows things down to give you time to get through it.

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Feel First

This retrograde is all about feeling. So while Life keeps happening, we experience Life, and wisdom develops. This wisdom is informed by what we believe about Life. When things begin to get murky, unclear, offtrack, or stalled, it is frequently because we have felt victimized by Life. Focusing on feelings of anger, who’s to blame, feelings of shame, or having regrets only keeps you stuck in victimhood. When Life is happening, there are a few questions you can ask to help you move forward.

These questions can help you feel victimized by Life, or they can help you change your trajectory.

What is happening?!

Take your time. Feel what is happening in your body. Allow yourself to feel. I know it’s easier to go directly to thinking and taking action. This is your invitation to take a moment and feel it.

Why is this happening?

What feelings did you ignore? There are always signs we choose to ignore or adhere to. Part of self-reflection requires us to acknowledge feelings we had previously ignored.

What do you think happened?

Your belief tells your story. When you’re ready to stop feeling victimized by Life, you’re ready to tell a new story.

Now what’s going to happen?

Before you act, take time to feel, allowing yourself to release blame, anger, shame, or regret. When you decide to feel something new, you begin to believe in something more, and you act on who you believe yourself to be.

The Thing

Here’s The Thing: Mercury Retrograde is always associated with mishaps, miscommunications, delays, and difficulties. This is your invitation to take your time, feel your way through, and set aside more opportunities to tune in to your needs. You don’t feel powerless because of circumstances. You feel powerless because of what you believe about them.

Mercury Retrograde invites pause. It asks: where are you still carrying blame, shame, anger, or regret?

Take a few slow breaths and write freely. Consider:

• Where in your life do you feel like life is happening to you?

• What thoughts or stories keep replaying, even when you don’t want them to?

• If you could release one belief that no longer serves you, what would it be?

• What small step could you take this week to allow yourself to move forward without force or judgment?

No need to fix anything. Just observe. Just feel. Let your pen follow the spaces between the thoughts.

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I believe that energetically, this is the true start of the year for your system. Our bodies are connected to the cosmos. We are made of stardust. So, it stands to reason that we feel more ready to begin our year when the moon and stars say so, rather than some calendar on the wall.

Today is the Lunar New Year, and in Chinese Astrology, it is the Year of the Horse and the element is Fire - a powerful and energetic combination symbolizing strength, freedom, speed, and forward momentum, bringing opportunities for action, growth, and overcoming challenges, with the fiery element suggesting intensity and rapid change.

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Freedom

When I looked up what this meant for the year, I found some great descriptions.

Expect a year filled with high energy, action-oriented pursuits, and a drive for quick progress. A strong emphasis on personal freedom, independence, and making bold moves.

Freedom was one of my words for the year. I am permitting myself the freedom to be expansive in my vision and belief of what’s possible.

Courage

The Horse signifies bravery, talent, and perseverance, encouraging individuals to step out of their comfort zones.

I had also chosen Courage as one of my words this year. As much as I have done in my life, I’ve always thought of myself as relatively courageous. At the same time, I feel the need for this encouragement in my decisions this year. This is a year for taking bold action.

Confidence

Ideal for embracing new challenges, learning new skills, and achieving personal goals. The Fire Horse occurs only once every 60 years, making 2026 a significant period for transformation and breakthrough.

I think it’s the visual of the Fire Horse that gets me going. It feels so powerful and sure. I keep getting these visions of a whole herd of running Fire Horses, making a way through where there was no way, burning down the old systems and beliefs in their path. Nothing feels more confident than that.

Stay the Course

The other thing that I found when I was reading up on this was directions on how to have this incredible, fiery year. I found words like “take steady, disciplined action” or "the fast pace means a need for responsible choices to avoid burnout.” In other words, don’t light yourself on fire and then run wild. Take bold, decisive, and disciplined actions. There were also words about staying connected to others for “clarity and balance”. See, this is why, in my mind, it’s a herd, vs a single horse.

The Thing

Here’s The Thing ~ this energy being described is your sign to be bold this year. Permit yourself to make rapid, bold shifts in your trajectory this year. Believe in yourself and what you have to offer. This is no time to shrink or play it small. Use the tools available to take action, and stay connected to others to help keep you going. It’s about creating systems and rituals to support you and putting order to chaos.

Journal Prompt

This is the journal prompt I shared with the My Visionary Year group this morning:

Today, we step into the Fire Horse year, a time in Chinese Astrology known for courage, movement, and visible transformation. Fire Horse energy encourages us to act boldly, speak our truth, and release what no longer serves our growth. It’s fast, catalytic, and calls us to take courageous steps toward the life we want.

❤️‍🔥 In this energy, what is one part of me I am ready to fully awaken this year? What old habits, fears, or limitations am I willing to release to make space for courage and transformation?

❤️‍🔥 Take a few deep breaths and write freely. Let Fire Horse energy guide your words — bold, unapologetic, alive.

Here’s to putting order to chaos and a community to keep you from slowing down! 🔥

I’m good and very good. I am very proud of myself and the way I didn’t work on vacation, even the work I had permitted myself to do, I didn’t do. I did a whole lot of nothing but relaxing. All in all, it was a good vacation. I learned some cool things about myself, my body, my spouse, and my ability to pivot.

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I didn’t freak out

I’m a very “go with the flow” kind of person, generally. That is, unless I’ve decided the day’s itinerary. In the past, if there was a change to the previously determined schedule, I would find myself struggling to adjust. I would be uncomfortable, unsure, unhappy about the changes, and even if I was “trying” to be okay about it, there would be no mistaking my displeasure. On my most recent vacation, everything kept changing. No matter the plan, no matter how long the plan had been in place, it changed. And I was okay.

I mean, I was more than okay; I kept adjusting to each change and finding the joy in the new direction. At first, I marveled at it. I mean, I know myself. This is not me. Except it was. I was the one doing the things I never do. I was actually okay. It felt good not to make myself feel bad.

How does this help?

You may be saying, “Great Robyn, I’m glad you had this breakthrough, but what does that have to do with me and my life?”

Thanks for asking!

Think of something right now that you regularly marvel at about yourself. This isn’t something you admire about yourself; it’s something that you’ve been judging yourself about, but have, until now, been unable to stop doing.

Got it in mind? Okay, now, here’s the secret to getting past this thing. Stop blaming yourself, feeling shame, feeling anger towards yourself, guilt, or regret about anything. How you choose to react or respond determines the experience you have. You are the only one holding it against you. You are holding onto the anger. You are the only one unable to forgive yourself for it, and you are the only one whose judgment can shift. The biggest secret, even if you’re not the only one, you are the only one who matters.

What would I do?

When you’ve spent some time living life, you get a general idea about who you are. This idea is formed with a lot of input from other people. In fact, unless we choose something different, we become exactly who other people have told us that we are. This means every decision we make is based on choices seen through someone else’s lens.

When life happens, we have choices to make. When we make choices, and they feel good, those are choices in alignment with our consciousness, who we believe ourselves to be. But what happens when you find yourself fighting the choices because things just don’t feel right anymore? I mean, you’re very good at making the “right” choices. You’ve successfully navigated life to this point, doing what you’re supposed to do.

What is there’s another choice?

What if you start feeling a stirring within that there could be something more? This stirring can be disconcerting at first. You “always” do it this way. What is happening? What’s wrong with me, you might ask. I mean, you’re not being you. When it feels as though you're not being yourself, stop and check in.

Start asking yourself, “What do I want?” or “Which way should I go?” What if you ask yourself, what would I do if it were my choice?

Consider this: What happens when you decide that it is your choice, and that you know what’s best for you?

The Thing

Here’s The Thing: First, there’s nothing wrong with you. Life isn’t stagnant, and neither are you. Life changes, and you are changing with it. Just like your phone, you’re simply updating your software. Your operating system is becoming obsolete, and you’re beginning to notice the glitches. Actually, it’s not just an update, it’s an upgrade.

When you can let go of blame, shame, anger, guilt, and regret, you begin to understand that you have dominion over your life. You get to choose who you are, what you’re about, what you believe, and how you will live your life. This isn’t about controlling yourself; this is about coming to yourself. This is about developing a mastery of yourself.

The How

Journaling is the fastest way to get your thoughts out of your head and acknowledge that they exist. Here are a couple of journal prompts to use this week to understand what’s stirring within:

• What areas of my life feel the most in alignment with who I am becoming?

• What would it feel like to fully embrace my personal power this year?

• What areas of my life need more attention or care?

Here’s to celebrating your stirring!

For women in the Baton Rouge area who feel ready to choose themselves, Robyn is hosting Master Your Mind: The Essentials on March 7. Created to help women shift their inner dialogue, reclaim their power, and move forward with clarity. This in-person workshop is the direct-to-consumer version of her corporate Master Your Mind program.

This is an invitation to stop fixing yourself and start trusting yourself.

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Because awareness changes everything — and choice changes your life.

It’s not quite what it seems

When we bought our timeshare several years ago, I coined a phrase that I have been living by for years. “I never want to live a life that I need a vacation from.”

I thought I was being so clever. It felt luxurious to think about. I can live life and enjoy a vacation-like experience, even when I’m working. It’s that whole idea of working at the beach. It sounded so great until I realized that meant I never turn off.

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This photograph was taken on a recent trip to Las Vegas. We were there to celebrate my spouse’s birthday and our niece's wedding. It was a wonderful thing! We stayed at our timeshare. It felt luxurious. Look at the view! This photo was taken from the dining room table at our place. The same dining room table I worked from the ENTIRE TIME we were there. Every day, I squeezed in some work. I just deleted a video I recorded while I was there. Instead of remaining present and enjoying the experience, I worked the entire time. I enjoyed myself too! I even made a culinary discovery that I’ll tell you about later. I even turned dinner with my cousin into a business meeting. The point is, I never turned off and got completely present.

Who wants to work at the beach?!

“I love my life! I can even work from the beach,” I said. When I first started doing this, I thought it was so great! I had great views, even while sending emails. It’s like having an office at the beach. I was wrong. Having an office at the beach is entirely different than this experience. Instead of enjoying the opportunity to shut down and head to the beach for the day, I take everything with me. Instead of remaining present and experiencing the peace, I’m simply trading locations and continuing to go, go, go.

One of my favorite jewelry designers lives in Denver. She creates some really beautiful wearable art. She could have a studio anywhere and be celebrated for her artistry. Having lived in NYC for almost 17 years, I wondered why she wouldn’t move there. I thought it would be easier to sell her luxuriously priced jewelry. She said she stayed in Denver for the lifestyle. A place where people can have a business, close up shop on a Tuesday, and head to the mountains. She didn’t want to live in a place so fast that she couldn’t enjoy her life.
This always stayed with me; I just missed the part about closing up shop. I just took the shop with me. Funny thing is, I resented it any time I “had to get work done”.

The Gift of Being Present

This year, for our first trip of the year, I’m actually taking a vacation. I’m turning the out-of-office message on all of my email accounts and leaving my laptop and planner at home. I have been telling people that I will get back to them when I get back from vacation. The last time I did this was on my honeymoon. I’m about to celebrate my 13th wedding anniversary. It wasn’t until recently that I realized something really important about “vacation”.

When you take a vacation, you permit yourself to put things down that you’ve been carrying. Everyday things that aren’t a burden as much as taking up space in your thoughts. On vacation, time ceases to matter beyond what meal you’re having. You generally only do things that you want to do at the moment. You are completely present. The only time this happened for me was when I had no signal or my battery died.

The Thing

Here’s The Thing: only I can decide to turn off. In today’s world, just having my phone with me will allow me to keep working. However, I can choose not to do it. I can help myself by turning off notifications, turning on DND, and creating space for myself. I have created some great morning rituals that I can continue to do while on vacation. They’ll keep grounded without keeping me tethered. I’m looking forward to unplugged time with my wusband and our close friends. I’ll tell you more about it when I get back. Meanwhile, find time for stillness in every day. Creating that space is like taking a mini-vacation!

Peace be with you!

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Because rest doesn’t always require a destination — just permission.

Actually, this is one of my favorite traditions here in Louisiana, the Mardi Gras tree. It’s a great way to keep the pretty lights and sparkles going just a bit longer.

This time also signifies the preparations for the year. I am a celebrant of the Lunar New Year more than the calendar year. So, instead of revving myself up about New Year’s Resolutions and such, I’m in preparation mode for the year to come.

80% in the First Month

80% is the statistic often cited when discussing New Year’s Resolutions. 80% of people give up by February on the things they are resolving to change. If anything is telling you to slow down and prepare, that stat should do it.

In my humble opinion, the reason the rate is so high is that it’s the wrong time to be making big changes. The end of the calendar year happens with a flurry of activity and comes with its own numbers.

Here are a few more stats, 64% of people struggle with mental health challenges during the holidays, and 89% of US adults feel stressed during the holidays, with 41% feeling more stressed than usual. Now, you tell me, how is someone supposed to get it together to make big sweeping changes to their life when they can barely leave the house? It’s not the time to rev up with your new life changes; it’s time to slow down, breathe, and allow things to come to you.

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Now’s the Time

This is the perfect time to understand what you want and plan for it, rather than rushing to complete everything in a year-end frenzy of activity and planning. Did you do your year-end video? Are you already behind?

I invite you to stop. Take this time to breathe, slow down, and assess where you are, where you want to go, and what you need to get there.

Let January be this time of preparation instead of anxiety, judgment, and disappointment. Now that all of the revelry has happened, allow yourself the time for the breath, and prepare for what’s next.

Look Around You

It’s winter here in the Northern Hemisphere. For some, that means a lot of snow. As I sit here in Louisiana, the grass is still a little green under all of the fallen leaves, things aren’t really growing, mostly existing, the light is very grey, it may not be snow, it’s still winter. It’s not yet time for planting. The vegetables at the farmers’ market are roots, turnips, greens, cabbage, or cauliflower. Hardy, vegetables associated with keeping warm and hearth fires.

Wherever you are, if it’s winter for you, it’s not the time to be producing as much as supporting your wellbeing. Take the time for rest and recovery the same way nature does. Give yourself the time and resources necessary to prepare for what the year will bring. It’s the perfect time for finding the support you’ll need to get your kicks in 2026. Sorry, I’m still working on a good one.

Assess, Vision, Create a Plan

I really enjoy this time of year because it is ripe with possibilities. People are finding ways to commit themselves to a year of more good. This is my favorite stuff! This is what I believe January is for:

Assess - figure out where you are, what feels right, and what that means moving forward.

Vision - hold space for yourself. Allow your Highest Good to be revealed to you.

Plan - what does it look like to be that person, live that life, and have what you’ve been dreaming of? Then, what do you need to do daily to experience that? 

Spending time now to do this creates the perfect container to create the life you envision. Here are the ways I have to help:

1. My Visionary Year: Beyond the Board, and Into Your Life - If you’re a woman in Denver, this could be for you! I’m co-hosting a year-long journey for Denver women who want support, structure, and accountability—not another one-day high. We’ll kick off the year with an in-person, 4-hour workshop. Helping you not only make your vision board, but also create a community to support you. The opening workshop is on January 11. Get your tickets before they sell out. https://bit.ly/MyVisionaryYear

2. Spiritual Insight Discovery - A transformative two-part journey of self-discovery and empowerment. What does it mean for you to be fully present and authentic in your life? Two sessions: Consciousness Snapshot (90 minutes) and Visioning (60 minutes). This process isn’t about measurable goals—whether personal or professional—but about uncovering the spiritual qualities and essence you wish to embody. How can you know where you want to go if you don’t know who you want to be? https://bit.ly/SpiritualInsightDiscovery2026

The Thing

Here’s The Thing - taking time to breathe, rest, reset, and realign is the best use of your time right now. Take this time to focus on you, your needs, your vision, and who you are ready to be in 2026. I’d love to help.

Have questions? I love questions! Please send me a message.

Journal prompts:

• What does it mean to be fully present in my life?

• Who have I decided I am going to be this year?

• What am I leaving behind, and what did it teach me?

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Winter Solstice

Each day, we’ve been experiencing a little less daylight since the Fall Equinox. Less sunlight and more darkness make daylight feel more precious. “Shorter” days and “longer” nights are how it is often described. Darker and darker it has become. Signaling to nature that it’s time to rest.

This coming Sunday is the Winter Solstice. In the Northern Hemisphere, that means the day with the least amount of daylight, or “the longest night.” It is the signal to settle in for the cold and rest until Spring.

For the last 20 or so years, I have always celebrated it as the day when the light begins to return. Keeping my focus on the light, instead of embracing the darkness. This year, I’ve decided to start a new tradition. I’ve decided to follow the examples I find in nature and allow the darkness to come. I’ve decided to hibernate until Lunar New Year.

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Don’t Be Afraid of the Dark

When I began my life coaching business, it was after my “Eat, Pray, Love” year. This was a year where everything “fell apart”, and I had to put myself back together, or at least this is what I thought. I quickly came to realize how it was more like coming apart to be put back together stronger.

It all began with a vision I had that fall, during a meditation with my friend VerDarLuz. It was the Virgo New Moon, and it was all about going into the darkness. My vision was about choosing to go into the darkness, knowing that there is light on the other side. I felt really uplifted by the vision. I slightly misinterpreted its message. At the same time, it helped me not fear the darkness that was about to come. I ran willingly into the darkness. It’s what started my year of truly coming back to myself. I healed and expanded. I laughed and danced and loved myself whole.

A year later, I found myself facing darkness again, realizing that I still had more to be healed. I had been getting messages. I chose to ignore them because I was having fun.

My unwillingness to go into the darkness meant the darkness came to me. It was about being accountable to myself and others. It made me spend more time looking within, understanding my power, coming back to myself. It was uncomfortable and so necessary. I learned so much about myself and found myself radiating my brightest, coming out of the darkness.

It’s Time to Choose

Although darkness doesn’t frighten me anymore, I’ve never really embraced it, but more accepted it as a Truth. This has meant that over the last few years, I’ve allowed Life to dictate my light and dark times. I still spent a lot of time running to the light, avoiding the darkness. Focusing on the light became performative, like a spiritual bypass. So, when the darkness would show up, it would knock me on my butt and force me to stop, look, listen, forgive, love, and heal. I have just gotten better at doing it faster.

That’s why I’ve decided to hibernate. I’m going to prepare to rest. Instead of waiting for Life to happen, I’m going to choose to go dark, to go within, to create time for deeper meditation and more frequent prayer. I’m going to allow myself time to feel things that may have been missed as I’ve been in motion. I’m going to ask myself the questions, take the assessment, have a coaching session or two, and do whatever is necessary, which also includes purging my office. Be assured, you’ll hear all about it.

I have created a schedule which includes moments of full stop, no doing only being, and other times of teaching, listening, meditating, and embracing the journey. It’s a vibration reset I’m really looking forward to.

The Thing

Here’s The Thing: we are part of Nature. In the Natural Order of Things, we are coming into a season of low to no movement. The light is low to encourage stillness. By embracing this dark time and allowing yourself the time to rest, recharge, reset, realign, and renew, you will find your light shines brighter, stronger, and more brilliantly afterward.

What Can You Do Now

Find ways to allow more time in your days for rest. Create a rule about schedules - for every “have to” in your schedule, create an equal time for additional rest. If you are finding it difficult to rest, try rewarding yourself every time you stay home instead of going out, or take time for meditation, or treat yourself to a massage. Well, I guess if you take time for a massage, that is the treat, ha ha!

Remember, Lovely, it’s not about Light vs Dark, it’s about Light and Dark. The seed grows in the dark first before making its way to the light.

Winter asks us to slow down.
To listen.
To rest.

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Beginner’s Mind is one of my favorite Zen Buddhist life lessons. It means to approach life with openness, enthusiasm, and a lack of preconception. Even if you “know” about a subject, there’s always more to learn or understand.

When I began teaching facilitators, this was one of the first lessons I learned about. Allow yourself to be taught, even when you’re a teacher. Whenever you are being offered a lesson, welcome the offering and approach it as though you don’t know anything about it, and you’re eager to learn.

It’s also an important leadership lesson. When you have been a leader, it is vitally important to be able to allow yourself to be led by others.

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I believe in myself

Recently, I took part in a 10-day challenge on Insight Timer called the Self-Belief Challenge. I don’t necessarily feel that I have an issue with self-belief. I do believe that there is always something to be learned. And these challenges introduce you to new teachers on the app. It didn’t disappoint. I eagerly awaited each day of the challenge and was grateful for what was revealed. The first few days broke me open in several ways. I even found myself completing proposals that I had been dragging my feet on sending. I felt more confident.

What’s funny is, a lot of what the teachers offered were things I do myself, or that I teach others. Somehow, by allowing myself to be led through the exercises, as though they were new, they gave me a new perspective. I was such a gift!

Realigning

Taking the time to do the challenge felt like giving myself the gift of a fresh perspective. It gave me time to examine, explore, and uncover areas that needed expansion and support. I was so grateful to myself for taking the time and sticking with it. It felt like gently adjusting myself back into alignment. Reminding myself who I know myself to be.

Is it time for you (or a friend)?

When was the last time to stopped and allowed yourself time for a fresh perspective? Is now the time you need for Self? Is it time to connect to what you believe about your blocks, your abilities, and your vision? The truth is, if you don’t take the time to assess where you are, what you want, what you need, and what you believe you’re worthy of, you can find yourself dissatisfied, disappointed, disillusioned, and dispirited about your life. Does this sound at all like how you’re feeling right now? Do you know anyone else who could use the gift of a fresh perspective and a guide for the journey?

The Thing

Here’s the Thing: when you take time to learn about yourself, dive deeper into your inner wisdom, and accept help from someone else in a meaningful way, you are setting yourself up for some transformative work.

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Today is about the power of your brain to create a fictional life and how it affects your experience of life.

Lately, I’ve been noticing people telling more stories about things that never happened, and then becoming really emotional. I observed one person create something to be angry about, another person create something to worry about, and another person almost give themselves a panic attack. The thing is, the cause was the same in each case: their mind.

Nothing actually happened. Each time, the person was creating scenarios in their head. Each person wound themselves up to a critical level. They even had physical reactions to a completely made-up experience. Each instance was connected to the person’s state of consciousness. What they believed about life completely affected how they viewed life. Which, in turn, affected how they experienced life.

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Is this you?

If you are making up anxiety stories about future possibilities, you are creating an energy of dissatisfaction, discontent, discouragement, disillusionment, and dis-ease. If you expect something bad, you will only look for the bad things that happen to support your story. You won’t remember all the moments of light. You’ll only think about the misery and disappointment.

Before you start telling me about the realities of life, don’t. I’m going to acknowledge chemical imbalances, as well as any other diagnosis that would contribute to a person’s state of mind. This is not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about everyday worrying, and the choices people make about what to believe about life, and the stories they tell themselves to support their beliefs.

What if this happened?

The “What ifs” will get you every time! How frequently do you find yourself asking the what if question? How frequently are the questions doom and disaster types of questions? How does that feel when you do that? How frequently do those questions end up contributing to a feeling of peace or well-being? The key to finding peace is one of two options: don’t ask the questions, or ask yourself a better question.

What if it was amazing?

Remember, how you think about life is directly related to the life you experience. So, without “Life” changing, how you experience life can still change, based on your consciousness. For every “dark” scenario, there is a “light” counter-scenario. So, instead of positing, “what if this terrible thing happened?”, you ask, “what if this amazing thing happened?” In the same way you can describe something terrible, you can describe something good.

Flip the script

I understand how disconcerting living life can be. So frequently, whatever we are experiencing feels completely out of our control, and that can bring up feelings of fear. That’s how the “what ifs” get to us. The questions frequently feed our fears. What if the “what if” questions could help you feel better instead of worse?

Loving What Is

I frequently suggest books to clients. One that stays in rotation is “Loving What Is”, by Byron Katie. It is about what she calls “The Work”. Katie works with 4 simple yet powerful questions that can completely shift everything if you answer them truthfully.

I think the most powerful of the four questions is: Is that true?

If you’re making up a scenario or choosing the darkest version of the story, and you ask yourself, Is that true? At that moment, you begin to break the cycle of stress, anxiety, or fear.

One of my favorite quotes comes right at the beginning.

“Suffering is optional.” ~ Byron Katie

Think about that. Things will happen in life. As long as you keep living, life will continue to unfold. How you choose to feel about what happens is entirely up to you.

You can choose to feel however you want to feel about your life.

The Thing

So, here’s The Thing: if you tend to make up stories about something that could happen, and then allow yourself to feel emotions about that story, you are creating an atmosphere of victimhood in your life. You are suffering from the stories. The first way to take dominion in your life is to understand that you can choose how you feel. The next step is to stop telling stories about things that never happened. Stop working yourself up over things that may never transpire. Have patience, life will unfold exactly as it is supposed to, according to what you believe.

As promised…

Here’s your link to Part One!

Here’s to creating your favorite life!

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First, it’s just cool when that happens. Second, 11 is a big number in numerology. 11 is considered a Master Number that signifies intuition, spiritual insight, and high sensitivity. It is a powerful number that represents the potential for greatness and a higher purpose, but also has a more challenging side with a potential for internal conflict. Third, due to the auspiciousness of the number, three of them made it a most auspicious day. At the time, it seemed like the whole world was into it. Just ask the estimated 46,000 couples who got married that Friday in the US alone.

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The World Went Wild

11/11/11 - I was still living in CO. I had been writing my blog “The Joy of Being You” for about a year, and my column, The Lesbian Socialite, for about 3 months. I had just come out of my “Eat, Pray, Love” year as a meditation instructor, and was dating the woman I would eventually marry. It felt like an incredibly auspicious time to me. And as a newly minted spiritual life coach, it felt like the world was focusing all of its energy on what 11/11/11 would bring. I have friends who started businesses connected to the date that will be celebrating 15 years in business next year. Everywhere I looked, it seemed that someone was talking about their “awakening”.

Awakening vs Enlightenment

As I stated earlier, this time ignited an annual celebration in my own calendar. It also sparked my curiosity about how many people would stay lit. The thing about an “awakening” is that it must be followed by action to continue its energy. If you do not stoke the fire, it will go out.

What I observed is people feeling these incredible experiences of awakening to new beliefs about themselves. The light went on, and the fire was lit. And at that moment, a false belief was also sparked. The belief that this moment of awakening was a moment of enlightenment.

Awakening: a heightened state of consciousness in which the individual experiences a profound shift in perception, often accompanied by a sense of interconnectedness, unity, love, and expanded awareness.

Enlightenment: a state of deep understanding or a process of gaining knowledge, awareness, or spiritual awakening. It refers to an ultimate state of awakening or liberation from suffering.

An Ultimate State of Awakening

If you read these definitions, you’ll see that awakening is about a “profound shift in perception”, while enlightenment is deeper and more of an “end state”. When you’ve reached enlightenment, there’s no more to learn; enlightenment is the “ultimate stage of awakening”.

Awakening is this deep sense of understanding and followed by a feeling of unity. I would add compassion. Awakening is a letting go of a false belief.

When you reach this state of a newer understanding, unfoldment of wisdom, you are then invited to choose your next course of action. Now that you know what you know, what does that mean for your life? As they say, when you know better, do better. On that auspicious day, many people were starting an annual celebration, and not just the married couples. For others, it appears as though they believed that lighting a candle, saying a mantra, being on a retreat, doing 11 Sun Salutations at 11:11, was the magic they needed for all to be revealed and life to suddenly make sense.

As time has passed after 11/11/11, there has been a curious division; there’s been a huge uptick in people open to the ideas of spirituality separate from religious dogma. While there has also been a huge uptick in the capitalization of the huge uptick in people. This has resulted in a whole group of people who “used to be into that stuff”. So, what started as a spiritual awakening turned into spiritual overconsumption, quickly followed by spiritual disillusionment. But I bought the Himalayan Salt Lamp and the crystals, why don’t I feel better? Do not fear, my friend! You’re not doing anything wrong; you just misunderstood.

The Thing

Here’s the Thing - focus on unfoldment, not enlightenment. Life is about the continuous unfoldment of good and the discovery of it. Life is not about getting to a place where things stop happening; it’s getting to a place where things stop bothering you when they’re happening. It’s about celebrating the release from false beliefs. It’s about finding the wisdom in the journey, particularly the painful parts. You wouldn’t notice them otherwise. Then, when you have a moment where a new understanding about life and your role in it happens, lean into the “what happens now?” What do I change about my life, now that I have this new shift in consciousness?

Here’s to your Awakening!

Another reason to celebrate - Veterans’ Day

11/11 has been an annual celebration in the US commemorating Armistice Day, 11/11/1918, the end of World War I. Each year since then, we have celebrated the people who sacrificed many things for our sense of freedom. My father is a veteran. I know the long-term toll that it can take on a life. The scars don’t need to be visible to be there. I am grateful for the sacrifices made on my behalf without me needing to ask. I’m grateful for our past and future veterans. Happy Veterans’ Day.

Sympathetic Joy - The joy you feel for someone else’s good fortune.

When he described this, I almost shouted aloud. I loved this description. I always feel this, and it feels great to have a way to describe it. In the book, His Holiness talks about making the effort to actively refrain from harming others in our actions and words. Next comes the point of actively doing good as a source of inner joy. The easiest way to do this is to cultivate an attitude of sympathetic joy.

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That’s Me!

I’ve always described myself as the ultimate cheerleader, but when I read this, I was like, oh! It’s so much more than being a cheerleader. I feel actual joy when someone else experiences success, good luck, or accolades. It is even more profound if they are a friend or family member, or if I have judgment about them being particularly worthy of support. I feel so good witnessing the goodness you’re experiencing.

I’m Grateful for Your Joy

This is the only way I can think of describing how it feels. I feel grateful that something good is happening for you. If you’re new here, you may not know that I believe everything begins with gratitude. It’s true, when you think about it.

If you can feel truly grateful for someone having their needs met, you have opened yourself up, energetically, to have your own needs met, because you are not sitting in Victim Consciousness. When you allow yourself to be pulled into envy, jealousy, lustful thoughts, this is firmly in Victim Consciousness. This is fully forgetting that someone else receiving doesn’t prevent you from receiving what is yours. This is ignoring the cycle of giving and receiving.

Feel grateful their needs are being met. You could be next.

If You Don’t Pay Attention, You’ll Miss It

I was rereading a post recently and was struck by a statement I made. The post is about taking moments to connect with your peace. In it, I make the statement - I did 85% of everything I ever said I wanted to do. It’s incredible to be able to say something like that. I bring it up here because the only reason I realized this about my life is that I stopped long enough to acknowledge the life I have lived. I stopped long enough to see how far I’ve come. So, although His Holiness is talking about having joy for someone else’s good fortune, I say consider having sympathetic joy for yourself. Think of it like this - Make the effort to actively refrain from harming yourself in your actions and words. Encourage yourself by celebrating your good fortune. Actively do good for yourself as a source of inner joy. Then have gratitude for the love you are showing yourself.

Do you see a pattern?

The Thing

Here’s the Thing: when it comes to expansion and growth in life, kindly look at yourself and the good fortune you have experienced in life. Your successes are something to celebrate, big or small. Find gratitude for everything. Then allow yourself to feel joyful. Actively refrain from self-judgment. Actively do good for yourself.

Here’s to finding ways to have sympathetic joy for yourself.

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Worthiness

Each instructor so far has focused on a different aspect of worthiness or compassion for the Self. I have done A LOT of this work, and I spend a ton of time on it with my clients. I’m always surprised by what comes up when I remain open to the process.

No matter how confident and self-assured a person is, there is still some aspect of worthiness that needs to be uncovered, healed, and expanded from. Somewhere there was an original wound of “unworthiness”; learning where this is can bring incredible freedom. It’s the original lie that you believed.

The Original Lie

If you’re unfamiliar, the image above is actor, writer, and producer, Ricky Gervais, from his film, The Invention of Lying, which came out in 2009. This is one of my favorite films. It’s got a ton of big names in it, but it’s the premise that gets me. What if everyone always told the truth until someone figured out how to lie? It’s hilarious! Except, it’s actually filled with incredible consciousness shifts that I could probably write a dissertation on. Today I’m using it to illustrate this point - After the First Lie, the story totally changes based on the lie.

What’s the first lie you believed that quietly rewrote your story?

Whatever the original lie was—'you’re ugly/stupid/poor/unloved/unlovable/unworthy of care or attention'—you get my point. Whatever the lie was, everything that happens afterward is tainted. All things are measured against the lie. You believed it, and now you'll do everything to support that belief.

So when it comes to judging yourself on your worthiness, the judgment is based on a lie. This means your comparison to others and what’s “right” or “good” is compromised.

You Know Best, or do you?

If you’re anything like my clients, you’re pretty smart, you have a fair amount of expertise on a few subjects, and, if necessary, you can figure out how to take care of whatever you need to. You’re resourceful.

This is what gets you in trouble when it comes to self-judgment.

Stick with me.

You rely pretty heavily on your wisdom and your intuition. You compare your thoughts, experience, and knowledge to determine the best course of action. Frequently, you’re right. This is what gets you in trouble.

You have learned over time how to build a long list of proof to support whatever self-judgment you have, but what if you are wrong because your original data point supporting this judgment is the Original Lie?

What if you were wrong?

Consider this: you have been holding yourself to a standard your entire life. You determined this standard based on what other people told you was important, based on what kept you safe, and based on what you were told about yourself. What if it was all a lie? What if the thing you thought was really important wasn’t? What if all of the things that proved you are worthy have absolutely nothing to do with it?

What if every measure you used to judge yourself was based on a false belief, and the reason it is so hard to hold that standard is because it’s got nothing to do with who you are?

As the only witness to everything you’ve ever experienced, no matter how you grew up, at some point, you hold the judgment for yourself without help from others. You are the only one who has been there for everything. You are the one who keeps the tally. You are the one who holds the standard.

And what if that standard was never supposed to apply to you? What if the judgment you have for your lack of perfection is based on a faulty comparison? What if the list of all of the things you’ve done, accomplished, and presented yourself as has nothing to do with your worthiness or desirability? What’s left if you don’t have to believe the old things you were told about yourself?

The Thing

Here’s The Thing: the Original Lie is that you’re unworthy by some measure, and you must prove your worth. You are always worthy of living a good life, however you define it. That’s the Thing. You are always worthy.

You don’t need to prove your worthiness. No matter what you’ve “done”, you are always worthy of good in your life. So, every time you hear yourself repeating old judgments, stop and ask yourself, Is this true

I’m here to know your worthiness with you, my friend! You are enough!

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I say it this way so you understand how it feels. If you’ve ever had an allergic reaction to something, you know what I mean. At first, it’s a slight irritation; however, if you keep being exposed, it becomes a full-blown reaction, and you need to do something about it. This is my something.

This is what I’ve been reacting to, what almost happened. I have been reacting to people telling me stories of anxiety about things that never happened. I am baffled why anyone would spend any time thinking about things that never happened. There are two ways this goes. This is Part One.

How long are you going to milk it?

Think about it. It’s a random Tuesday. You’re driving along and someone cuts you off in traffic, almost pushes you onto the subway tracks, almost pushes you in front of a bus, or cuts in line in front of you at your favorite coffee place. Any story where you almost experience something traumatic will do.

You get through it and move on with the rest of your day, or do you? When I saw this graphic on Instagram, I almost fell out of my chair! I immediately sent it to about 10 people. It is exactly what I’m talking about. How long do you keep it going?

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You’ll never guess what almost happened to me?!

I understand how it happens. First, you want a witness to this thing that just happened because people want validation for how they feel when something almost happens.

It would make sense to say something to people who are around you and witnessed the experience. OMG, did you see what almost happened?

Then, naturally, you’ll want to tell whoever your person is - spouse, sibling, bestie, assistant, pet. Because you had an experience, and you share everything with them. You’ll never guess what almost happened to me today.

The question is, how long do you keep telling the story? I think it depends on how deeply you are in the Victim Mindset, the first State of Consciousness. If you can’t seem to let it go. If you keep thinking about it, keep talking about it, and find yourself emotionally affected each time you think about it or tell the story. This means you forgot one of the easiest ways to move forward from something: find gratitude.

Be grateful you weren’t in a car accident, hit by a train or bus, and you still got your morning coffee and made it to work on time and in one piece. Looking for reasons to be grateful shifts your focus from what could have happened to what did happen.

Flip the script

If you’re someone who is used to telling stories for the drama and shock factor, this gratitude shift might feel a bit abrupt. There’s a lot less shock factor in a praise report than in a report from the scene of the drama. However, a praise report is more satisfying in the long run.

Each time you find yourself about to tell another story of something that almost happened, or creating anxiety for yourself about what could have happened, stop. Instead of telling another story of woe, stop and figure out why you’re grateful that it didn’t happen like that. In fact, if it didn’t happen, why do you keep talking about it? Literally stop doing this to yourself.

And yes, it counts if you keep thinking it to yourself without saying it to anyone.

If you are creating terrifying scenarios and anxiety-causing suppositions of what almost happened, you are literally creating the story of how you are a victim of your life. You are preventing yourself from moving forward. No one else. You are the reason.

When you spend time on the “ain’t it awful” stories, you completely miss the opportunity to tell the story of how lucky you are. It didn’t happen; it didn’t almost happen.

Remember - The life you see and describe is the life you experience. More on this in Part Two.

The Thing

Here’s the Thing: even if this feels weird or fake, or Pollyanna, extra “church lady”, focusing on gratitude really will change your attitude about life and living it. The saying that the more you focus on gratitude, the more things you’ll have to be grateful for holds every time. None of this matters if you don’t want to change. If you’re okay with feeling like this, then do nothing. If, on the other hand, you want to live a life with more optimism and grace, then flip the script, stop telling the almost stories, and start telling stories of how grateful you are to be so lucky.
I’m grateful we spent this time together.

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a person who seems to radiate joy, health, and confidence, possessing a kind of inner light that is attractive and inspiring.

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Their Face Lights Up

Over the last 15 years of being a spiritual life coach, no matter what lessons I’m focusing on with a client or student, I can always tell when it’s beginning to work because their face lights up. When you do what I do, people frequently come to you with a darkness, a grayness, a dimness about them. Even when they are enthusiastic about working together, the inner spark is frequently shrouded in confusion, distrust, need for control, sorrow, an unnamed desire for more. Then it happens, they dedicate themselves to the work of healing, time goes by, and then I see it. There’s a glow emanating from their face, and it’s got nothing to do with good lighting. Some of my clients are very vocal about their experience, so I know right away when something is working for them. Others are more reserved in their expression, however, they still have the same glow.

What changes do your clients experience?

In business, even when you’re following a calling and serving your clients, a spiritual business is still a business; it is still important to find a way to convey a message to future students and clients through marketing. The same way my clients expand and grow, so does my business. This spring and summer, we did a lot of evaluation of what was working and what wasn’t, what was missing, and what I love doing the most. The measure of what to keep and what to increase was based on the intersection of what I loved doing the most and what made my clients light up the most.

Rooted, RADIANT, Real

One of the things that showed up at that intersection of what I love to do and my clients love to experience is meditation. I love teaching and my students are enthusiastic about taking class. I wrote a long description of what meditation means to me and what I love about teaching class.

I love teaching in-person classes here in Baton Rouge. I have met some wonderful people in class. I also love my virtual biweekly classes called Meditation Mondays. My assistant took my long description of what happens in class and created the tagline, Rooted, Radiant, Real for my online classes. I love it, but I also love alliteration!

Monday was the last class. It’s live so you never know what’s going to happen. It was an adventure! The theme was Radiance. The crystal for the day was citrine. The mantras were about increasing joy, fostering optimism, promoting a positive outlook, attracting light, and celebrating the goodness of your life.

I chose this week’s theme for two reasons, one the equinox has happened and daylight is definitely diminishing. So, I become more mindful of light. Two, when we were doing the marketing questionnaire this summer, the word we found to best describe what it looks like being in flow, fully aligned, aware, and confident is RADIANT. When my meditation students and clients are doing all the things, they are radiant. It is a wonderful thing to witness. I know that they feel better in their life. It doesn’t mean life suddenly became all sunshine and vacations. It means that they know no matter what is happening in their life, they are finding ways to stay centered, still, and joyful. This is why they’re radiant.

MM are recorded but they are only available to students who paid and were unable to make it live. Next live class is October 13.

Your Trust Center - 2nd Principle of Joy

I think when it comes to radiance, it really begins in the solar plexus. This is the Trust Center according to the Chakra System of your energetic body. You need to have confidence and trust your True Self first. It’s the second Principle of Joy. First you cultivate love for self with gratitude and forgiveness. Then you have to trust this self that has released blame, shame, anger, and regret. When you begin having trust in self, there’s a release of a tightness in the middle of your body. The shoulders sit a bit more square. Your inner light shines a bit brighter and more confidently.

Meditation is a great tool to use to access this space, this trust. You have to slow down, allow the darkness, trusting in the light to be revealed.

Just like my friend and meditation student in the picture, Rusti. She has a wonderful story to tell about her meditation journey. I can’t wait for you to hear it. Right now I can say, Rusti is a perfect example of the face of radiance using meditation as one of her healing tools. I’m grateful to be her friend and her meditation teacher.

The Thing

Here’s the Thing: Radiance doesn’t have anything to do with a great skin routine. It doesn’t have anything to do with having everything figured out and living a “perfect” life. This is another inside job, and it starts with trusting the process, the timing, and that you’ve got your back. It means allowing yourself the time to stop, drop in, and get still. Even when everything is telling you to do more, keep moving, look outside for your light. Trust the darkness within.

Allow yourself to trust that you believe in your light.

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If you pay attention to metaphysics at all, then you have been inundated with posts about the New Moon in Virgo also being an Eclipse Moon, happening on the Autumnal Equinox. The “all” of it could make your head swim!

Just Do It!

The crux of everything being said is that now is the time. A New Moon always signals the beginning of a cycle. An eclipse is always a time for breaking barriers to your vision. And, the Autumnal Equinox is all about the balance of light and darkness. Every day, until late December, it’s going to get a little bit darker. Every moment of light you have to harvest your previously set intentions is precious; get to it!

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It’s You, Not the Moon

It’s okay. You intended to do something to connect to the energy of the day. You had a plan to do a ritual. And then life continued to move forward without regard for any of your plans. And now here it is, three days later, and you may feel a bit concerned that you’ve now missed all of the energy. And now, poof, that’s it, you missed your chance. Let me stop you before you spiral any farther. That’s not how this works.

This is about you, your belief, your energy, and your actions. Read that again.

Any time someone is pointing out celestial shifts and astrological happenings, they are intended as guideposts for the journey. These are times when the energy can support your efforts. You still have to believe in yourself, believe in your vision, embody that belief, and take action. No matter what is happening with the moon, this is still about co-creation.

What Can You Do Now?

This is the fall. It’s a season of harvest. It’s a time when the seeds sown are harvested for the fruit they bear. This is the same for our vision. When we plant the seed, with the belief that it will fruit, and take action on that belief, ultimately we will harvest the fruit of our belief. This is the perfect season, not just the perfect day.

Since the message of this moment is to take action, what action do you need to take? What are you actively believing and what actions have you taken to support that belief?

Nothing lately? Perfect! Do something right now, today! As you are reading this, in the back of your mind, begin plotting an action you are going to take in support of harvesting the vision of the life you’re creating. TODAY.

Send an email, schedule an appointment, make the call, create the business plan, ask for help because sometimes you don’t know what comes next, whatever supports the vision. Remember, this is about shifting all your energies towards your vision, aligning your energy with the flow of your wants/needs/desires.

The Thing

Here’s the thing: Don’t let one day derail you from your vision. Don’t let one no keep you from going for the yes. Don’t let your fear tell you that you missed your chance. Don’t let anything stop you from living an illimitable life. Find a way, every day, to get into the “knowing, believing, embodying” space of your vision. Stay on the journey towards your vision, no matter what is happening with the planets. Your energy will find the way to make the connection. The teachers are simply there to let you know the terrain on the path.

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