“The person someone becomes at the end of a relationship is who they really are.”

Well, I think not.

Because quite often, we, as humans, allow toxic behavior from others and rationalize it as acceptable behavior for too long. Because we love them. Because we don't want to fight. Because we believe that it isn't really them. We give and give and give until the well runs dry. Then what was once an issue, or several issues, suddenly becomes twenty issues.

And one day, after they've done twenty things that hurt us, they do something that, on its own, isn't even that big.

But that's the moment we burst.

And become the worst version of ourselves while they walke away saying,

“see?, this is who you really are."

,without acknowledging the fact that they were the reason that version of us even existed.

I think it's fair to admit sometimes we should have spoken up sooner. That maybe we gave too much leeway.

But I also don't think it's fair to paint someone as something they aren't based on how they behaved at their lowest.

Maybe the end of a relationship doesn't show who you really are, but reveals what months of unresolved pain can turn someone into.