I’m writing today because I want to dedicate this newsletter to the person that encouraged me to open a Substack account in the first place; My big sis🥹❤️.

If you remember my second newsletter where I introduced myself I’m sure you know who I am talking about. This is one of the few people I consider a role model. Why? She’s so cool🥹. I’ve always wondered how it would be like to live in her head for a day. She’s a very intelligent, smart, sweet and lovely lady. Our conversations are one I always look forward too. I can say she’s one of my best friends and person on this planet.

I celebrate her today because she is now a graduate y’all. LL.B Hons🥹🤏🏾, my very own lawyer in the making. I just want to say that I love you so much sis that I can’t put how I feel into words. You’ve inspired me not just as a person but as a girl, a writer, a Muslim and as a sister as well. You listen to my rants, you advise me, you tell me what I am doing wrong, correct me and still love this silly girl🫂❤️.

May Allah Azza’wa’jal grant all your heart desires, protect you, keep you safe and healthy. May today be a stepping stone to greater heights my big baby🤭❤️.

I love you to the moon and beyond the solar system and all the universes that are known in this world🥹❤️…

🤭❤️, Heart you biggggg🥹🫶🏾

Till my newsletter shows up on your screen my lovelies, stay cheesed up😂❤️.

I will write to y’all soon, I promise😙❤️

So guys, I think this month is Men’s Mental Health Awareness month and I have been thinking about this topic for a while now so I decided to lock in and write.

Do you really think that the responsible teenage boys and men are fine mentally? Do you think that they don’t feel pressure, anxiety, helplessness, hopelessness, tiredness and every single emotion a human being can feel? Do you think that MEN have superpowers? Do you think MEN are machines or that they are built to resist everything and anything that comes their way? Do you think MEN don’t deserve to be vulnerable for just once? Don’t you think they deserve to live freely without any pressure or expectation from them? Do you think they are satisfied living like that?

If you’re a lady reading this, I just have a question. Do YOU think you can live as a MAN? Constantly pressured and expected to not fail at anything you do, to bounce right back after falling, to keep things buried deep within and many other stuff they face😩❤️‍🩹.

Men are constantly facing these pressure and silly expectations on a daily basis. Some women even think that if a man is vulnerable, he is not strong enough ( A sick mentality if you ask me). I am not a guy or a man but I have a father. I know what my dad goes through. He tells me things. We talk and sometimes I just want to lift his burdens even for a little while. I have only seen my dad cry twice. Not the ugly wailing kind. The silent one, the kind of cry that tells you a human being has gone through a lot😩. (It broke me to see him like that fr😩❤️‍🩹) My dad cried when he had bottled things way too much. ❤️‍🩹. He’s the first man that made me understood that men don’t always have things under control, they’re humans with feelings and emotions. My dad didn’t cry because he is weak. He cried because it was too much, he was tired and just wanted everything to go fine. My dad is the strongest person I know fr😩❤️‍🩹. My dad isn’t one to stop if things aren’t going too well. He prays, he discusses with my family and somehow finds a way to smile and stay positive even while handling a lot of shits.

I love my daddy guys🤭💕. Anyways🌚, back to the newsletter🥹

I also have male friends and trust me, my friends are strong guys fr..🥹❤️‍🩹. My Shaylas😔❤️‍🩹. Those guys are carrying expectations and pressure everywhere that they go😔. They’re just babies naw😔❤️‍🩹. Anytime you ask them how they’re feeling, it’s always the default answer, “I’m fine” which is a big fat ugly lie😩 but they can’t go around telling people their problems naw🙂.

I asked my male friends a couple of questions regarding their mental health and the responses ehnn😭🤲🏾. I had to ask because I wanted to hear from the horse’s mouth.

These were my questions:

How is your mental health as a guy? (Like how are you fairing/coping?)

Do you cry when things get so hard? If yes,does it help?

Do you feel that vulnerability is a”weakness”?

Do you think having someone listen to your problems and be your support system during hard times helps?

How do you cope when you are feeling totally down?

What do you have to say about the stereotypes surrounding men?(You’re a man, men don’t cry and stuff like that)

These were their responses😩❤️‍🩹:

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How is your mental health as a guy? (Like how are you fairing/coping?): I don’t know how my mental health is. I’ve never checked and it has never mattered to anyone that matters. I have episodes of anxiety that mostly surround success and money. I sparingly am depressed but that’s neither here nor there

Do you cry when things get so hard? If yes,does it help?: The last time I cried my mom laughed at me so no it doesn’t help. There’s times I’ve wanted to cry when I couldn’t cry so I’ve given up.

Do you feel that vulnerability is a”weakness”?: Vulnerability is not a weakness when you are vulnerable in a safe space. However after multiple experiences of having your vulnerability thrown in your face, most guys just don’t care. Also society at large doesn’t care and doesn’t want your vulnerability as a man. I don’t even wanna be vulnerable personally. I just wanna be at peace. Most guys wanna be at peace. Picture Ryan gosling in blade runner 2049 in the snow. That’s the ideal 😞. Society wants you to provide as a man and as far as you’re sane enough to do so, Khalas.

Do you think having someone listen to your problems and be your support system during hard times helps? ⁠Yes it does and most guys have people who listen to them. Beneath all the laughter and the jokes is a system where we talk about our problems and solve said problems without sulking about them. This is one of the reasons why the whole I just want to vent complaint from women doesn’t land with men because we just solve it. Venting doesn’t exist in our brain frame

How do you cope when you are feeling totally down? ⁠I sleep, I watch movies, I pray. There’s levels of down that I’ll tell people that I’m risking them not rating me again. It’ll solve itself.

What do you have to say about the stereotypes surrounding men?(You’re a man, men don’t cry and stuff like that): As for the stereotypes, it’s a long time before we solve them. They’re just ways to toughen you up for the life ahead cause ain’t nothing sweet as a grown man btw. You can’t fail and start crying. Who that one help. You’re a man so move on and start again.

At the end of the day, the value of a man is tied to his material and provisional value, coat this fact as we may. As shown by our multiple discussions here, this is true. The real world doesn’t reward emotional or mental discussion. It’s a cut throat that wears you down until you break and give in. So as a man, you just gotta do what you gotta do.

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How is your mental health as a guy? (Like how are you fairing/coping?): Unstable

Do you cry when things get so hard? If yes,does it help? : Haven’t been able to for awhile. Used to and yes, loosens my chest

Do you feel that vulnerability is a”weakness”?: not at all

Do you think having someone listen to your problems and be your support system during hard times helps? : Yes of course

How do you cope when you are feeling totally down?: Sleep— big on that, music, best friends, or overworking myself

What do you have to say about the stereotypes surrounding men?(You’re a man, men don’t cry and stuff like that): Total rubbish, wish it could be different.

Muiz🥹:

How is your mental health as a guy? (Like how are you fairing/coping?): Chai🥲, I will be fine

Do you cry when things get so hard? If yes,does it help?: I don’t really cry

Do you think having someone listen to your problems and be your support system during hard times helps?: Yeah having someone I’m safe with to listen to my problems do helps 🙂. It makes me relieved

How do you cope when you are feeling totally down?: I just sleep eat and let life do it thing

Khalid☺️:

How is your mental health as a guy? (Like how are you fairing/coping?): My mental health is okay

Do you cry when things get so hard? If yes,does it help?: No I don’t cry

Do you feel that vulnerability is a”weakness”?: Yes

Do you think having someone listen to your problems and be your support system during hard times helps?: Nope TRUST NO ONE 😂

How do you cope when you are feeling totally down?: If I am feeling totally down it means I am hungry

What do you have to say about the stereotypes surrounding men?(You’re a man, men don’t cry and stuff like that):No comment

Nifemi🤭:

How is your mental health as a guy? (Like how are you fairing/coping?):My mental health has a guy is gone like literally gone 🙂💔, I’m not coping shit.

Do you cry when things get so hard? If yes,does it help?: I don’t cry no matter the situation,just don’t act like your problem

Do you feel that vulnerability is a”weakness”? Being vulnerable is a weakness and also a lead to patience

Do you think having someone listen to your problems and be your support system during hard times helps?: Yes I wish I had someone though because we all need someone to hear us out no matter the outcome.

How do you cope when you are feeling totally down?: Omor I just stay on my own, like I’m literally alone

What do you have to say about the stereotypes surrounding men?(You’re a man, men don’t cry and stuff like that): Well men do cry when it hurts really bad but at the end you just have to man up and act all good

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How is your mental health as a guy? (Like how are you fairing/coping?): As a guyyy ehhhn, my mental health messed up asf.

How do you cope when you are feeling totally down? How do I escape? Manhwas, anime and books that tell me how I am not a failure.🥲

Do you cry when things get so hard? If yes,does it help?: Do I cry?😂. Yess, internally tho.🥲 I am looking for a day I will just cry on my pillow, it been sooo long.

What do you have to say about the stereotypes surrounding men?(You’re a man, men don’t cry and stuff like that): The stereotype surrounding men is just bs ahbeg. I hate ittt. Like men are born to suffer.🫩🥀Well, it is what it is.

Musharaf🥹👊🏾:

How is your mental health as a guy? (Like how are you fairing/coping?): I’m just coping cause in our present society it’s a must you make am as a guy/man

Do you cry when things get so hard? If yes,does it help? : No, cause it won’t solve anything

Do you feel that vulnerability is a”weakness”? : Yes, cause in this present economic a man must never show weakness or he will look weak.

Do you think having someone listen to your problems and be your support system during hard times helps? : I don’t know cause everyone as their problem and most people pretend to care only to realize they stabbed you in the back.

How do you cope when you are feeling totally down?: Continue to grind and I try to tell myself time don’t stop for anyone 😪

What do you have to say about the stereotypes surrounding men?(You’re a man, men don’t cry and stuff like that) : Most men got broken cause they let their guard down around the opposite gender or someone who they showed their weak side never thought would betray them. That is why most men don’t open up again cause of the additional trauma if something like that happened to them 💔

Matthew🥹👊🏾:

How is your mental health as a guy? (Like how are you fairing/coping?): It’s just mixed up... Can’t find the right words to sum it up...

Do you cry when things get so hard? If yes,does it help?: I don’t... I just go quiet... Very very quiet...

Do you feel that vulnerability is a”weakness”?: Yes and no...

Do you think having someone listen to your problems and be your support system during hard times helps? : Yes... It helps me calm down and detoxify my mind...

How do you cope when you are feeling totally down?: I mostly listen to Music and Pray...

What do you have to say about the stereotypes surrounding men?(You’re a man, men don’t cry and stuff like that): Nth really... I’m too stuck in my world and trying to unstick myself to say anything... But the saying “men don’t cry” is bullshit I’d say...

Ola🥹💕:

How is your mental health as a guy? (Like how are you fairing/coping?): My mental health as guy......it is not really easy at all....I will be speaking from my shoes.......it’s not as if men have some great pillar at their backs......we take on responsibility so soon enough......and it drown us down.....when a 17 Yr old boy is already looking after him self.......they see it as maturity but it a very big and heavy load dropped on our heads

Do you cry when things get so hard? If yes,does it help?: Hmmmm nope I don’t....still speaking in my shoes tho......the question I ask myself is why cry when I am still the one going to fix the problem....so why don’t I use the minutes or hours I will use to cry and think how I will get myself out of the hardship..........that’s my answer on that

Do you feel that vulnerability is a”weakness”? Well, it’s not really a weakness......depends on who you are to......they are some people who u open up to by they can’t feel it their responds can even hurt more......buh sharing it with someone who understands u more and maybe been in the same situation......u will know cause u will feel safe around them

Do you think having someone listen to your problems and be your support system during hard times helps? Yes it help like I said the other time.....u will know and feel safe around them........

How do you cope when you are feeling totally down? Omo it’s not in my power.....that’s is on God....cause the word totally down.....means hope is not coming from anywhere.......it can cause mental problem and some may think of suicide.......so just pray...be close to God and leave everything to him.....cause he created everything including the problem and challenges we are facing now

What do you have to say about the stereotypes surrounding men?(You’re a man, men don’t cry and stuff like that): Well, it’s not true tho.....that’s a way of covering our cry.....we trying to be tough while we so soft.......

Promise🫠:

How is your mental health as a guy? (Like how are you fairing/coping?): It is not really easy ..Facing so many challenges..is not easy ooo ..sometimes we think alot..but still smile in front of people .

Do you cry when things get so hard? If yes,does it help?: Wecry but we know crying won’t solve anything and nobody cares so we just have to face ours fears and don’t be a weak man ..man no Dey cry ..but sometimes we cry but we still have to face ours fears (challenges)

Do you think having someone listen to your problems and be your support system during hard times helps?:Yes oo. It really give us joy and hope ..at least someone cares to understand how will feel ..someone to cheer us up

How do you cope when you are feeling totally down?: Omo.

What do you have to say about the stereotypes surrounding men?(You’re a man, men don’t cry and stuff like that): Yeah. men don’t cry ..don’t be a weak man you have to face your fears ..man no Dey fear ..you gat take risk as a man.

All I can still say is Omo ..is not easy ..but we still smile in front of people and pretend everything is okay. Man Dey take risk ..if u no take the risk u no fit go anywhere oo.

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How is your mental health as a guy? (Like how are you fairing/coping?): My mental health, maybe I’m fine maybe I’m not, but one thing I know for sure is that I don’t panic like I used to anymore. I don’t keep my problems to myself anymore and it really helps, if I feel like my life is turning upside down, I call or text people, my sister, my accountability partner, my close friends, especially my sister. I hold it in for a while, and when I can’t take it anymore, I just let it all out.

Do you cry when things get so hard? If yes,does it help?: Do I cry? Sometimes, I do, and it really helps, I don’t know if there’s another way to let my emotions out other than crying, but I know when I cry sometimes, I get relieved.

Do you feel that vulnerability is a”weakness”?: Vulnerability should never be a weakness. It all comes down to who you trust, cos being vulnerable could be revealing parts of yourself to a particular person... As long as it doesn’t come back to haunt you, as long as the person won’t use whatever he or she knows against you.. vulnerability should not be a weakness.

Do you think having someone listen to your problems and be your support system during hard times helps?: Having someone listen to my problems helps a lot. I’m speaking from personal experience though, it definitely doesn’t work for everyone, but it helps me a lot, feeling down.. tired.. angry or anything, and knowing there’s someone or there are people who’d listen to you.. it’s a blessing frr, and it helps.

How do you cope when you are feeling totally down?: I have a lot of coping mechanisms, running helps in clearing my head, reading or listening Qur’an helps, crying helps a lot, playing games and watching movies helps to get away from it all.. but when it doesn’t want to go away, I talk to people, sometimes they notice something’s wrong before I can explain, sometimes I just get tired of keeping it in.. then I talk about it. The person might not offer advice, but the listening ear the person offered is enough for me to know I’m not alone

What do you have to say about the stereotypes surrounding men?(You’re a man, men don’t cry and stuff like that): As for the stereotypes, I don’t know what to say, but me I know that wetin dem dey talk no concern me.. if I have a problem, I speak, If I want to cry, I cry, I clean my tears, and I keep going🤷‍♂️

Gozie:

Do you cry when things get so hard? If yes,does it help?: I want to cry though but the tears doesn’t flow.

Do you think having someone listen to your problems and be your support system during hard times helps?: I love speaking to people about my problems but trusting someone takes time. It is like a cup inside me is overflowing and I need someone to talk to but the world is a very funny place.

How do you cope when you are feeling totally down?: Music, Doomscrolling, Taking a Stroll.

What do you have to say about the stereotypes surrounding men?(You’re a man, men don’t cry and stuff like that): We should be allowed to cry and let things out We are humans as well, we have emotions but the mentality is in both men and women and that makes it hard.

Faruq🥹:

How is your mental health as a guy? (Like how are you fairing/coping?): My mental health is uhhh I don’t know the word to use, but God understands the best

Do you cry when things get so hard? If yes,does it help?: I don’t cry when things gets crazy, won’t be happy obviously, I’d just be, I’d rather stay alone for a while or the whole day

Do you feel that vulnerability is a”weakness”?: Vulnerability is not weakness, but men rarely show vulnerability, not because they see it as weakness, but because it’s always not advisable to display vulnerability, because the world doesn’t really care about what men really feel, and when a man shows vulnerability, they use it against him. So men would rather not make it obvious

Do you think having someone listen to your problems and be your support system during hard times helps?: Having someone helps, it really does. I’ve gotten to a stage in my life where I find it hard to express my emotions especially when I feel vulnerable

How do you cope when you are feeling totally down?: It’s hard for me, I’d rather just be alone, because I’ve spent so much time alone when I go through emotions, I barely speak with anyone. So now, I barely talk or should I say I don’t know how to

What do you have to say about the stereotypes surrounding men?(You’re a man, men don’t cry and stuff like that): It’s okay to cry as a man, when things gets crazy heavy and you can’t hold it no more, I think I’ve cried on someone’s shoulder two to three times, since the last time, it never happen again, it’s been a very long time tho, I’m used to “manning up” now 😆. Tough life

What I realised after reading their responses was that the mindset of them having to “man up” and hide their pain was common and I feel like this mindset has been from generations all the way back to the BC era. The men during those era were ruthless and aggressive, so this has affected the way we think now. Those past eras were the foundation and the mindset has now been rooted deep that changing it will take a long time.

A man is not weak because he is vulnerable. Don’t dismiss his pain. Check up on them. Take care of them in your own little way. Love and cherish them. Their “I’m fine” is just a big lie, that phrase buries a lot underneath. Their laughter and jokes are coping mechanism. Be there for them when they’re going through a lot (words heal those big human teddy bears fr).

Being a man isn’t easy at all. It takes guts to be a man, a responsible one at that. Men deserve their flowers tbvh (Responsible ones o🌚🤲🏾) because they go through a lot of pressure and people expect a lot from them. They deserve peace of mind, money and vacations jare😩❤️.

My respect for them is over the top now🤭❤️. To my male friends and subscribers, thank you for being good and responsible despite all that you go through everyday. Love you guys so much🥹🫂💕. (I love my ladies as well🌚🫂❤️)

Until next time my name pops up on your screen, make sure to check up on that male in your life today🥺❤️‍🩹.

XOXO🥹💕,Halimat🤭❤️.

Isn’t it crazy how loneliness sometimes just creeps in into your mind out of nowhere? It sometimes makes you question your relationship with people, how important you are to them, if you really mean anything to them and so on. It’s funny how our mind works, isn’t it? It can heal, mend and break you all at the same time. Loneliness has its own way of making you feel “alone”. You start doubting everything and anything, you start thinking if the words your friends or family say to you comes from within, you start withdrawing yourself from everyone and anyone because you don’t want to be a “burden”, you start thinking that “I’m probably better off alone, I don’t want to stress people with my problems” and stuff like that.

I don’t know why but I feel this way most of the time. I’m like maybe I’m the problem, maybe I am just doing too much or maybe my brain just loves to overthink, mind you my friends and family are just there not knowing when all these thoughts are in my head. I look totally normal outside but inside my head feels like this:

I would not lie, I don’t even think I’m that “important” as a person at the end of the day. Every single one of us has problems that we are hoping and praying will pass so who am I to blame anyone? Right?

(I had to ask Chat gpt if this is loneliness because I don’t even know if that’s the right word)🥲

Why do I feel lonely when I have people around me? Why does my mind keep playing these games? Why do I keep feeling this way? Am I the problem? Am I a burden? Am I annoying? Do they hate me? Am I problematic? I don’t fucking know. I question myself too much that it hurts sometimes. There are sometimes I want to ask these questions to my friends ( I’m still hoping for a girl best friend though) but I don’t even know how to start. I think even if they tell me I’m not, my mind will still keep playing these silly games fr. The what ifs and the why’s are just going round and round in my head for reallll.

It’s not physical loneliness. It’s an emotional kind I think🥲. The mind loves to play games and I don’t even think I’ve found a solution to this feeling. I don’t think I’ll ever. I guess I have to live with it and I think this feeling is somewhere etched in everyone else’s mind. Am I right though?😪

Am I crazy or what?😩😔

To everyone feeling this way, to be honest I don’t know what to say but I hope you know that you’re not what you’re thinking. You’re important and you’re not a burden. I don’t know if it gets better or we just have to live with the feeling but I know that you’re really not what your head says you are.

You think I am crazy right? Yeah, me too🥲😔

Till when my newsletter pops up on your screen ( I hope this weekend InshaAllah), stay cheesed up my loves.

Xoxo, Halimat🥹💕😝

I just want to say thank you. Thank you guys so much for staying here, for sticking with this procrastinator, for always expecting that I will release a newsletter soon (I would, I promise🥲), for just your presence. I would totally understand if I came back here and saw subscribers leaving but you guys stayed. To each and every single human 💕 that subscribed to my newsletter, THANK YOU🥹✨️»»»»

I was just feeling grateful so I decided to send a newsletter☺️✨️.

Oh, Eid Mubarak my loves🥹❤️. Happy Children’s day as well🙃✨️.

(Be expecting another newsletter this week. If I don't publish it, you guys should query me fr)

Xoxo Halimat🙂‍↔️💕

All I want is to be able to achieve my little dreams, buy things without causing inconvenience to anyone, be able to provide for myself and my family, choose a course that I will be happy to learn, go to quiet cafes, go to the beach, go to the cinema, go for a stroll in a park, take pictures of the world, nature and scenery, go to different countries touring the world, go to concerts of my favourite artists and just inspire someone out there. I know life has more to offer. I want to discover life more. I want to see more of this world than I have now. The world maybe a scary place but it can be beautiful as well.

I pray it gets better. I pray we achieve what we yearn for🥹💕.

I’m not a sophisticated writer. I don’t think I write so beautifully but I hope the feeling I’m trying to portray gets to you☺️💕.

I just wanted to add this🥹🫶🏾:

The world is NOT ready for you💕. The world is not ready for what you have to offer. Keep fuvking going babe✨🫶🏾

I said I wanted to talk about something serious bah? The question has been bugging me since. It goes thus, “If you had the chance to reset your academic journey, would you choose what you studied or go for another course?” I feel like choosing a profession or the path that would lead to your profession in SS1 was a lot. We were young and I feel we chose that path due to what we heard around us and what we were feeling at that moment. But what if our choice changes as we grow older? Are we now stuck with learning something we don’t have passion for? The topic is a bit complicated and complex for real but for some people, they already know what they want to do and that’s okay. What about us that have no idea what we want to do? What about us that have passion for different stuff and want to explore each and every one of them?

You see, filling that JAMB form is one of the hardest things ever. Why? You’re writing an exam for the profession you are going to do for life. If you see someone over thinking it, that’s the reason why. It is a life choice and you’re making that choice at the age of 15, 16, 17 and 18 years of age. It can be overstimulating for real but you have to make that choice at that age. You can’t escape it.

Some people are okay with their parents choosing their profession for them but I don’t agree with that mindset. Your parents won’t be there when you’re facing the stress in school, they won’t be there when you’re studying overnight for exams, they won’t be there during the process. They will only provide support financially and sometimes give you words of encouragement but it is your life. You have to choose what YOU want to do and although most of us don’t know what we are doing, all we just want is happiness and peace of mind for real.

You might not like the course you’re studying and that’s okay, you might be tired of everything and that’s fine but I hope you’ll be happy. You might never know if your hobby might become the thing that will take you places. I always say that your course might not be your profession. You never know where life might take you.

Life is unpredictable. Who knows maybe you might later like your course? Who knows maybe your side hustle might become your main hustle? Who knows what life holds for you and me? No one knows but I just hope you remain happy and have peace of mind. That’s the most important thing.

There are other things I would love to talk about but that would be next year InshaAllah. Stay cheesed up my loves🥹✨❤️. Thank you all so much for your love, support and kindness throughout 2025. I hope 2026 becomes a better year for you and me. I hope it becomes a year filled with happiness, peace of mind, good news and lots of joy that would go round for everyone. Have a pleasant year sweethearts✨🫶🏾🥰💎.

I hope everything works out fine for every single one of us. I want us all to succeed for real🤭💋.

I remain Yours Truly🥹✨,

Halimat💋✨

PS: I recommend this Korean thriller, “The Manipulated”. The movie is sooo good🫶🏾✨.

Songs I can’t get my mind away from as a lover of music🤭❤️.

I highly recommend this song. It’s heart wrenching, beautiful and heartbreaking at the same time. I discovered this song and artist on Instagram and it has been one of my go-to songs ever since. I love the raw vocals, guitar, lyrics, the vibe of the song, every single thing. Yungblud is THAT good. I also recommend his Grammy nominated album Idols.

Idols🍃❤️☺️

Olivia Dean album, “The Art of Loving”. This album ateeee. I love me a good yearning fr🥹. Man I Need and So Easy (To Fall in Love) are the first songs of Olivia Dean I listened to and I decided to give the album a listen and it is so good🥹🫶🏾.

Kehlaniiii🥹❤️. Her voice, the melodies, the lyrics, every single thing about this song is so beautiful🍃💋

Tems baby🥹❤️. Who doesn’t like this woman? The song speaks for itself. The chorus is stuck in my head😩.

TYLA🤭❤️. The song is just a freaking vibe. Damnnn😩✨

JVKE and his soft love songs. I love the original song and the remixes🥰.

yung kai and JVKE give the same kind of vibe in their music. It’s so soft, beautiful and makes you want to fall in love fr✨

Why won’t I talk about Loseyi🤭? Fuji Moto is a vibe. I really like the song UP. The lyrics is everything🥹🫶🏾

Jisoo and Zayn really came all out on this song fr🤭. I love love it🥹🤭

Yeonjun is a member of the K-pop group Tomorrow X Together and this is HIS solo album. Where are my MOAs at? This album is a vibe. From song 1 to song 6, it tells you that this is his vibe and it is so goood🥰.

Stray Kids✨❤️. Where are my STAYs at? I’m in my K-Pop era now and I’m loving it. I’m getting to learn about the group and their songs🤭 and all I can say it “STAYs all around the world make Stray Kids stay😩❤️”

Say the name Seventeen🤭. Where are my CARATs💎 at? A 13 K-Pop boy band group making good songs fr. This song is a vibe and they have a lot more fr.

Albums I have repeated this year😩🫶🏾.

Where are my COERs at? They might be new in the industry but their songs ate🤭. The album no rest for my hand. This is a classic fr✨🍃

I will never shut up about how this album is going to be an evergreen classic. ARMYssss🥹✨. This album is 2 years old but it sounds fresh every single time🤭.

Why do I love this album? Duh, because it is Jin🥰.

V🥰. Soft jazz and his voice= Magic🤭❤️

Once you Jimin, you can’t Jim-out😩❤️. His voice🥹.

AGUST-D. My favourite K-Pop rapper✨🫶🏾. The fact that he produced the songs is even more special🥰.

RM is who he thinks he is fr😩✨. I won’t say more than that☺️.

J-hopeee🤭❤️. He gave us a hit this year💋☺️.

A classic album❤️✨. ARMYs💋🫶🏾. I can’t wait for their comeback next year🥹🫶🏾

Thank you for discovering some of my favourite songs and albums with me. See you tomorrow for a newsletter that I have always wanted to publish🥹.

“The art of music.” I have had this sentence in my head for a while now and it said it’s time to write about it. Music is a universal language that we all share, whether it is sung in English, Yoruba, Korean, Arabic, Spanish or any other language. It is a language we humans love and understand. Music is a kind of language mixed with words and sounds to express what we truly feel. There are sometimes you can’t explain how you feel in words but a song that can do that for you.

Some songs feel like home. The sounds, the voice of the artist, the lyrics. It feels like a very warm hug. I don’t really know how to explain the feeling but you get it

Some songs feels like an avenue for you to scream all your lungs out. I think it is called rage bait. All your suppressed anger comes out while you’re listening to this song and by the time you’re done listening to it, you won’t even feel so heavy as you were before you listened to the song.

Some songs feels like you’re in the beach all alone, hearing the waves and feeling the wind against your skin. The songs might be slow but they’re wholesome. I’ve never been to the beach but some songs have made me been there more than a million times. Soft sounds of the guitar plus the piano, mild drums, the emotions and the artist angelic voice. The experience is wholesome for real. These songs sometimes are love songs, heartbreak songs or even sad songs but that’s how they make me feel.

Some songs makes you want to fall in love. The artists sings about love in the most beautiful and romantic way possible that even you that is not ready to be in love will start having urge to do so. Some love songs are fast, some are slow, some are a mixture of both but the emotion “love” is felt so deeply….

Some songs just make you feel so hyped up and confident. Hyped up in the sense that you just get energy boost from these songs. I will say these songs are mostly Afro beats for real. We love to be hyped up in anyway possible. The lyrics can be of different stuff but the adrenaline rush is a lottttt.. Confident in terms of beauty and fashion…

Some songs sometimes get you in your feels. A soft feeling that isn’t love or anger but something in between.

In all, music is one of the most heard language that we humans know, listen and vibe to. I didn’t even list all the emotions that music makes us feel because it is endless but I hope you tend to appreciate music and love it to the core…

Till then my loves, Arigatoooo..🥹❤️‍🩹

A bit of grammatical blunders here and there😪. I'm so sorry for that….

Annyeonghaseyo👋🏾❤️. How have y’all been doing? How has life been treating you?🥹 All will be well by God’s grace. Let’s dive into today’s newsletter.

“Comparison”. The act of looking at things to find out their differences and similarities. Comparison, the best and easiest way to hurt and annoy a living thing. “Comparison, the greatest theft of time.” (From ). Comparison is a whole lot that I can’t even explain. It’s deep in many ways and one way it hurts is when you are being compared to someone. That feeling sucks. It makes you feel like you’re not doing enough, it makes you feel helpless, tired and weak. It makes you feel like all your efforts are being wasted. It makes you feel everything and anything all at once.

Most children and teenagers have felt this feeling a lot. When you don’t pass an exam, when you are not being at your best, when your flaws just pop, when something or anything happens, parents are most likely to pull out the comparison card out. The checkmate card for all parents. Comparing a kid to another feels so ugh 😩. The “good kid” has his/her flaws that are not seen by the parents but they still do it anyway. It sucks frfr🥲🤲🏾. I’m always like “here we go again” when they pull out the comparison card. Your coping mechanism for this card is just for you to keep better at being you. That’s just it. If they keep comparing that’s fine but you know that you are getting a lot better at what you do.

Another comparison we mostly do is comparing pain🥲🤲🏾. I admit I had been guilty about this until when I noticed I had been doing it unknowingly. You know when your friend is telling you what they’re feeling, what they went through a particular day and you’re like, “same here, my own is even worse blah blah blah”. Bruhhhh🥲🤲🏾. Don’t do that please, don’t do it. Your friend is trying to rant to you, let it all out and you’re there saying yours is far worse. No naw🥲. Your friend might feel like “so mine isn’t even worse, let me just keep it to myself next time. He/she is dealing with stuff that are worse than mine”. Pain is pain whether it might seem insignificantly small to you. I don’t even think there is anything like worse pain, small pain or anything like that. Pain is pain. It hurts whether small or big❤️‍🩹.

Rather than comparing the pain, just listen to your friend. Be that platform for him/her. Let him/her be safe with you, let them open up to you knowing that you won’t count their pain as insignificant. That’s what a good friend should do.

No need for comparison when you win or lose, no need for comparison when you’re with family or friends. No need for comparison at all. Just live, dream, shine and breathe.

Until I come your way again, continue staying pretty🤭💋🫶🏾.

PS: I didn’t proof read this so forgive me for my mistake if you notice any☺️

This is me showing up after ghosting y'all. Tbh life has been “lifing.” You know it is just there. The good days and bad days are just taken all in. I don't have a choice, do I? Neither do you too. We just want to live to see the end of this tunnel that life has brought forth to us.

Life is funny you know. One minute you're so happy, the next minute you're so sad. Which ever situation you are, you would love life to just take break and rest right? You would love it for you to just pause time and absorb it all right?

You just want like a 5 mins pause, for you to just use that moment to gather yourself and all those broken pieces up and continue right? But NO. Life goes on. Whether you're happy or not, whether you lost someone or something, whether you are tired, angry or frustrated, Life just keeps going on. A never ending cycle (your cycle ends when you die though 😕). It is just like that, it has always been like that and it won't stop being like that. Why? If life pauses for you, it will have to pause for every single human on earth and that my love will take many years before resumes or should it pause at the same time? Idk…😪

It makes life unique as well. No matter what you're going through, life goes on. “Life goes on for the living.” For the dead? Probably not…😪

Life goes on. In your good times, in your bad times, in your ugly times, in your worst times, it goes on. It never stops, never pauses, never rest. It is always on the move. Don't judge yourself if you're not moving at its pace, don't suppress those emotions, allow yourself to feel, don't waste your potentials, discover yourself and worth even if it takes years, learn, grow, live, love, don't go ahead of your time, enjoy each passing moments. All moments will become a memory someday. Your best day, your worst day, your birthday, your wedding and so on. You just have to keep living. Prove to yourself that life is truly worth living. Prove it…

Life goes on but you have to keep living too. You're loved, you will be happy, you will smile again. If life doesn't want to pause, pause it yourself. Take a moment to pause. Reflect and reset. You're doing this not because of me or anyone else but because of you. You really need to pause once in a while.

We all need to pause sometimes, don't we?

Till I come your way again, saranghaeeee🥹🫶🏾❤️ ( I love youuuuuuuu🥹❤️)

“Life goes on. It really does. Life doesn’t care if you’re going through a shitty stage in life, it will continue to go on. It doesn’t care if you’re going through a lot. It doesn’t stop whether you lost a family member, friend or anyone, it won’t stop. It will still go on. You might be expecting it to halt time, to wait for you to grieve but life it will give you the opposite. That’s how life has been, that is how it is, that is how it will continue to be. It doesn’t change, it won’t change, it can never change so why don’t you just try what you have always wanted to do? Try it all, try new things. Try sports, try reading, try watching movies, try learning a new language, try dancing, try and try until you have no regrets. No one really cares about what you do. They might be watching you but after that time they have their lives to live as well. You’re shy? You don’t know when you will die so make use of the time you have on earth before you leave.”

Our generation is the most blessed generation ever. Is it from the way we dream, to the way we strive towards our dreams, is it in our speech, tone and voice, is it in our way of life, is its in our mannerism, is it in our intellectual thoughts, is it in our way of speaking for what is right and wrong? Is it in everything and anything we do?

“Gen Z is a very, will I say blessed generation. The generation is made of people that are daring to dream big and daring to achieve it. They say that technology is a big evil in our generation but it is one of the key point to the success of many youths and even the old in the world. We say things that the millennium say shouldn’t be said or do. Although some are depressed, they are still trying to figure out a way to work things around. They might say we are a generation of cute pictures but depressed mind. But we have a lot of sensible people in this generation.”

Technology they say is one of the things that will cause the downfall of this generation but what is helping most of us right now? We use it everyday. For our business, for learning, for communication, for catching up with what is going on in the world, for amebo, for laughter, for everything. It is one of the key factor in the success story of most people. Although it has its negative sides, we still need for all these things.

And for our dreams? Who set the standards for dreams being too big or small? Who set the standards of beauty, of jobs, of creativity, of everything? Who said these big dreams this generation have won’t be achieved? Have you seen the hustlers and divas of this generation? They are striving to make sure that all their dreams work out. You might think we just sit down all day scrolling on social media or watching movies but you don’t know what is happening behind our closed doors and what ideas are going through our head.

This generation is the most depressed you say, but little do you know the millions and more emotions that most of us feel each day. We have a lot of emotions inside us that needs to be released but we keep it to ourselves, why? Because no one is willing to listen. Your friend might be willing to listen but your friend is going through the same thing as you. The older ones are not interested in your flipping emotions, just get the sh*t done. How many of us can have an emotional talk with our parents? If we open up to them, they will definitely use our words against us in the future. That was how trust issues began. When you tell your parents something willingly and they decide to punish you for it and still tell others. We trust our parents but not just with our emotional side. We might all have our depressing side but we are still thinking about how we are going to make it.

We are mannerless and rude? Seriously? Is it because we speak up about the bullsh*t some older ones do. Because they are older, they feel some sort of entitlement and decided to act as they like. From our lecturers to the officers in the university to the strangers we meet on the road to the ones in our place of worship to the ones in our workplaces to the ones we meet at home and more. The lecturer that decides to cancel class after we are all present in the class, the officers that don’t stamp our documents because the power supply was interrupted, the older woman that looks at you strangely because you failed to acknowledge her presence, the older woman that wants to correct you on how you pray but says it rudely and then proceeds to abuse your parents, the older worker that sends you on errand while working and pushes her job to the younger one because she is older than her and still her boss, the older man that you dislike meeting at on your way home because he talks way too much about unnecessary stuff and so many scenarios. Because we complain that we are uncomfortable in the situation we are put in? All liers shall go to hell nah. Do you want us to go to hell?

“The dreams this generation may have might be too big but who said it can’t be achieve? Who even set the rules or standard of dreams being too big? And I believe that this generation has the most emotions in them but the older ones don’t understand. We feel a lot and balancing those emotions is like fighting with ourselves from within. I really hope we get the listening ear we deserve because truth be told we listen to ourselves but they don’t listen to us completely🥺.It is how we don’t bend ourselves to the “rules or standards” that has been set down by the millenniums. It is the way we speak up when things aren’t going right. It is the way we act when an elder does something wrong or make us uncomfortable and we speak about it instantly. Instead of saying we have to respect them, they are older, we say they have to respect us, them being older doesn’t make us small as well.”

They criticise, talk and blame but we take that all in and prove them wrong. No listening ear or support but we make it happen in the end. We speak up on things that needs to be heard: gender inequalities, gender stereotypes, racism, rape, domestic violence, mental health, emotional health, inflation and so much more. We will be good parents frfr. Why? Because we know how it feels when no one wants to listen and we wouldn’t want to repeat that same mistake. We would listen to our children talk about their emotions and mental health, we would listen to all their dreams, we would help them become even more better than us.

I know there are some crackheads out there but this generation is a blessed one frfr🥺❤️‍🩹 and the earlier you and I begin to notice and start to get it, the better for you and me.

Ps: Forgive me if I made any grammatical errors🌚

Pss: This write up was inspired by her art piece and the conversation we had…🙂‍↔️❤️‍🩹. You can follow her on ig at AAE SIGNATURE

PSSS: If you don’t listen to BTS, start now🤭❤️‍🩹

There are sometimes I want to really just rant and talk to a friend and I would literally scroll all the way down on my WhatsApp contact list and my finger just goes straight to my big cousin’s dm. Why? I don’t think any one I know will truly understand how I feel more than her. I don’t have friends to talk to about my emotions..

Anytime I’m feeling down, emotionally, mentally or even physically, I usually talk to my big cousin about it but these days, I let her be, Why? Because she has a lot on her plate and me adding to it isn’t a good thing to do🥺. Something I can share with friends right? Friends in my dictionary doesn’t really exist. It exist but it is like an off and on situation.

I don’t know if the friends I have are friends with me because of my face or just because they felt they had to be my friends just for who I am. I got many text from people yesterday, complimenting my pictures and I just thought maybe , just maybe, I had friends after all. I woke up today and bamm, real life slapped my face so hard. I woke up today my normal school group messages. You thought I haven’t tried to reach out. I really try to be friends with people. I texted everyday and when I didn’t I got forgotten. The friends I would say I have are guys but I don’t know if that is just their strategy to make the friendship a relationship and tbh I’m not even near ready for anything called relationship. Not that I have been heartbroken before or anything but I just don’t want it because I myself need to be discovered. It is not even in the books for me right now. I don’t know who I am yet. I feel like I am still discovering myself bit by bit. I mean we all are right?

Behaviour wise, I feel like I am just someone that cares for people even people I don’t talk with most of the time, emotionally,I feel my emotions are out weighing each other. I feel like I just need a friend that I could tell what I feel and how sensitive I am. (Right now, that friend is God🥹❤️‍🩹) For my hobbies, I’m glad I found them on my own: music, writing, watching movies especially k-dramas🥹, taking and editing pictures (I really like doing it). My hobbies bring out the real me. Come see me when I am talking my religion or music or stuffs I love, my face will brighten up. For what I am studying, I feel like I’m a science student because of my behaviour, I can’t study arts because I am a very shy person and I can’t study accounting because the calculations isn’t for me and I moved to science. I wouldn’t say I love it (because who loves all these newton’s law, waves and so many other things that those curious scientists should have just overlooked during their time but no they didn’t) but I really like learning about it and I hope I force myself to study on my own and have a wider research on my studies. I feel like I’m real to myself and others. Pressure sometimes wants to get me but I don’t succumb to it because I don’t want to be disgrace myself by doing what others like.

I wish I could ask my "friends" why they chose me to be their friends. If I am even their friend. Because I’m confused as it is..

Am I overthinking this thing? I just want people to be real with me. They should stop the hide and seek situation. Hide from her when she is asking for you and seek her when she is needed. I’m tired of it.

I might be alone but I’m never lonely. I enjoy my company. Nobody should stress me abeg!🥲❤️‍🩹

Anyways, how are you all doing? How did your Eid go? Mine went well🥹✨🫶🏾. I hope to write to you soon. Take care xx💋.

PS: Not my normal newsletter though but I just had to publish it before it is covered with cobwebs in my notes app🥲

I have been doing well and good. Although, I don’t understand my sleep schedule anymore. My alarm literally screams but I don’t wake up, I don’t know why but I thought it will change soon because I had payed my "sleep debts" on Thursday(Yes, Google said it’s a thing😂.) Yes, I slept for God knows how many hours. (One of the benefits of being an online student). I really hoped it will change but it didn’t. Maybe all I need now is a town crier that will be waking me up by 3am then, since my alarm doesn’t do its job right…

Being an online student is boring, so cool and expensive at the same time. I get to stay in my parent’s house. I get to eat my mummy’s food 🥘🥲🤭. I love it here please. I don’t want to go to another place biko because school is not for the weak. When I resumed physical lectures ( online students are required to meet for 2 weeks physically before exams due to the situation, we were to resume for 4 weeks) for 4 weeks ( we were 2 batches; those who gained admission early and those who gained admission a little late), I saw shege. The sun, walking in the sun, the noise from course-mates, loss of appetite, stress, assignments, tests, it was a lottttttt. I didn’t realise that I was getting dark and thin until when i came home after exams and after a week my mum said “you’re already getting back to your normal complexion”. I’m not a very fair person but my face was showing "stressed" very single time🥲.

It’s cool sometimes because, when my siblings are at school and my parents are at work, I have the whole house to myself. The peace and calmness I feel is not explainable. Although, my mum will always give me house chores to do, e still pay sha. It is expensive because of DATA. Just when I thought I was free from the data wahala, my network provider decided to "revisit" the data bundles🥲💔.. Glo decided to unleash😔. They didn’t increase the prices rather they reduced the quantity of data. 1000 Naira data that was 3.9gb before( 1.9 gb day and 2gb at night), they have reduced it to 2.6gb ( 1.1 gb day and 1.5gb night). Whyyyyyyyy😭. To watch Ramadan YouTube series dey fear me. Me that I was managing my 1.9gb jejely, they decided to remove 800mb awayyyy😭. If I don’t have money, I usually do 500 Naira data. It is now 500mb not 800mb anymore. I don buy monthly bundle like 4 times this month. Chaiii, oh chim, God abeg😭………

I don go buy MTN,I will be using the two together, if one no work, the other go work.🥲💔

I still like being an online student because of how my course-mates usually drop stickers in the class group, watching the drama between the class governor and some frustrating students that don’t understand simple English😂 but sometimes it icks me a little bit because of the million and one pdfs on my phone( i will now be checking my phone storage every time), can’t afford to be offline for a day and anonymous links( Ughhhhh!!!! I don’t like it at alll)

God dey sha🥲💔

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I was feeling tired on last week Thursday. Not the physically kind of tired though. Just generally tired. I wasn’t interested in anything and everything but the moment I stepped outside to go to madrasah, all that tiredness vanished.Like it just went away😌🙂‍↔️. I don’t know how but I was not feeling tired anymore. Maybe it is because of the wind, the trees or nature itself, maybe it was because of the feeling of Ramadan in the air, maybe it was because my body was tired of staying indoor, I don’t know what is was but it vanished. Moral of the story: Try stepping outside of your home once in a while.

There are no mosque around my area that I can go to, maybe I don’t know about it yet because I am always home but I would love to go an empty mosque all alone InshaAllah.

Enough of my rants, let me talk about the issue I needed to address.

During Ramadan, Muslims tend to do more religiously. We want to improve any way and every way possible, be it spiritually, mentally, physically and emotionally. We want to do more. Why? Because it is the holy month. The blessed month of Ramadan. The month in which the Qur’an was revealed to Prophet Muhammad (SAW). The month is a very special and beautiful one, it is filled with blessings, the atmosphere is peaceful, you can feel it everywhere and anywhere. BUT!!

Most of us tend to judge the Muslims we call “Ramadan Muslims”. The Muslims that prays all their five daily prayers, the ones who fasts in the month, the ones who wears hijab only during this month, the ones who show up to mosque only during Ramadan. I don’t know how but we tend to always notice them. I have a question for people that actually notices them. Una no get work??? Ehnnn.

Most of these people may not be perfect Muslims but at least they are trying their best to change. You don’t have to always point at them or talk behind their backs. Everyone has a certain pace he/she talks to Allah Azza’wa’jal and who knows if maybe these so called “Ramadan Muslims” have a lot of good deeds more than you. Who knows may be this Ramadan will change them for the better?

Do you feel you’re perfect? Do you feel you’re Allah Azza’wa’jal favourite creation? So why are you judging? Have you finished judging yourself? Smh 🤦🏾‍♀️.

You have no reason to judge them. We are all struggling Muslims. No one can say, "I am a perfect Muslim". We sometimes make mistakes, delay our Salah, say things that we don’t mean out of anger and all other flaws that we humans have. As a human being, you have no right, I mean NO RIGHT to judge another person because we all are flawed and we sin everyday. We are all just struggling to attain Jannah🥹. I did this 2 years ago when I saw a woman that didn’t wear her hijab through out the year wearing it during Ramadan. I just said in my head that "she doesn’t wear the hijab before, why is she now wearing it during Ramadan?" I didn’t understand how that statement in my head can actually make people feel bad until I saw it on social media and brought myself to think about it. We are all trying and we all have different paces at which we run, so don’t judge anyone for having a slower pace. You might never know maybe the person with that slower pace might actually be better than you with a faster pace.

Our life as Muslims is like how NEPA controls light. Some days we are so full of energy and power because we were able to talk to Him and some days we are too "busy" to even get energy and power from Allah but what matters in the end is that Allah knows that you’re trying your best and He knows your intentions and deeds🙂‍↕️…..

To those of you that decided to snub them, ignore their greetings and talk about them behind their back, I don’t have anything to say to you because you’re being soo dramatic. Who do you think you are to behave like that? You’re even adding more to your sins…..

To those hijabis that usually wears khimars and refused to respond to a fellow sister’s greeting just because she’s wearing a scarf, this talk is for another day…😒

I don’t know why I wrote about it but I just had to say it because it is soo annoying….😒

Until when my letters appear on your screens, take care of yourselves, always send salawat upon the Prophet🥹 and keep me in your duas🥹🫶🏾.

I remain your habibti,

Halimat🥹❤️‍🩹

I love you all soooo much🤭❤️‍🩹…

PS: recommended my newsletter and the words she wrote hit the right spot in my heart ❤️. Thank you Zheenat🥹❤️‍🩹🤭

My favourite nasheeds and the last one is the one mostly used on instagram🌚🫶🏾.

Let’s get into today’s newsletter.

Doesn’t the power and might of Allah blow you away? The way He specifically and specially created each and every single one of His creations, The way He plans so well, the way He favours who ever He wants and guides whoever He wishes. He’s the one worthy of praise and even more than praises because He is Allah.

The creator of the whole universe❤️‍🩹. The All-hearing and All-seeing. What do you achieve if you don’t believe in Him and the day of Qadr? What do you achieve if you continue to slip away from Him? Now go back. Run to Him. He never leaves, He is always there. If you go to Him walking, He will come to you running. Allah Azza’wa’jal loves you more than you can imagine. You just don’t know how strong the love is. He is so close to you, He is closer to you than your jugular veins. He loves and cares for all creatures while hearing and seeing it all. The Omnipresent God. The mightiest of all. The King of all kings. Even when you feel that you are so low on imaan or you feel like you’re not putting too much efforts, He definitely sees it all. So, don’t panic. Just rest, pray, fast, work and put your trust in Him. Be patient and contented.

PS: All I am saying is that, no one is a perfect muslim. Sometimes we make errors but we should try to correct them as soon as possible. We say we’re busy or we feel like we’re drifting apart from Him but we should do everything possible to attain the relationship we want with Him. Find God and know your faith. Don’t just know God, find Him and have a good relationship with Him. He is the mightiest, I know but don’t be scared to try. He loves to see us come to Him. Even when you don’t care, He cares. He allows you breathe, eat, sleep and do all kinds of things even when you’re far away from Him. He loves us too much🥹❤️‍🩹🤭

The month we all yearn for is here🥹❤️‍🩹. The month of peace, love, tranquility and sharing. The month where Shaytaan is tied up for a month. The month that comes when you need it the most. The month that is like a visitor, actually the best visitor that comes visiting once in a year. Yes, it is here. Ramadan Mubarak 🌙 🤭🥹❤️‍🩹🫂🫶🏾📿✨

I hope you all make best use of this priceless and precious month. Wake up for tahajjud, pray on time, recite the Qur’an often and be wary of what you say. Any sin committed is due to your nav’s and not Shaytan🌚. Visits the masjid often even if you’re a lady. If you have a friend that follows you to the masjid, that’s beautiful because you two will improve better in the deen. If you have a friend but he/she is too lazy to go, drag him/her. Jannah is a must🥹❤️‍🩹.

Make sure to always help for sahur and iftar. Also know when to take a break. Relax and unwind during iftar. Don’t delay iftar. Keep in touch with family and friends.

To those having exams during this month, may Allah Azza’wa’jal make it easy. May all those papers be like you’re eating a bowl full of your favourite food InshaAllah. Ramadan + exams= Intense prayers🥹❤️‍🩹🥲 and more rewards InshaAllah🥹🤲🏾

I’m rooting for you all🫶🏾✨🥹

Yeah, maybe your bank account isn’t looking the way you want ( the money in there is not appealing to the eye🥲💔) and I am in no position to judge you or blame you for it because we are all facing what we call ‘a collective shege’. , But let’s be real—this country is a whole mess. Let’s not even start on Nigeria’s problems, because if we do, we might never stop. 🌚😂

But back to the point—where am I going with all this?

Alright, fine. I know you want me to get straight to the point, so here I go…🙂‍↔️

Allah Azza’wa’jal has heard all your prayers. Yes, all of it. Every single one of it. Every whispered dua, every tear-filled Tahajjud, every Laylatul Qadr plea, every silent wish you never even put into words. He heard it all. And He has three responses for them.

1. Yes.

2. No,I have something better for you..

3. Not yet.

You see, those “unanswered” prayers? They have been answered—just not always in the way you expected. Maybe not in the way you wanted, but in the way you needed. Those unanswered prayers of the past years has one way or the other been answered by Him. Your Tahajjud prayers, your laylatul-qadr prayers, your duas either spoken or silently has been answered by Him. I know you have more things to ask Him this coming Ramadan (Ahhhhh🥹, Ramadan is just 18 days awayyyyyyyyyy) and He will definitely listen. My Lord listens and loves to hear us talk to Him. Those prayers that you feel He hasn’t granted, He has a good and very valid reason why He hasn’t granted it. I know you’ve planned for the outcome of what you have been asking for from Him but He is the best of planners and He has a plan for everyone including you my love. He hasn’t forgotten you, He hasn’t abandoned you, in fact He loves you sooo much, even more than yourself and you know it.

“Don’t complain. Don’t explain. Just believe.” – In the words of the African Giant himself, Burna Boy.

So,don’t stress your pretty self worrying and thinking over the “what ifs” and “why” that are going round and round in your head like a never-ending roller coaster. He will always come through for you no matter what. Be grateful always and remember to always talk to Him. “If you are grateful, I will surely give you more.” (Qur’an 14:7). Nothing is impossible for Allah Azza’wa’jal to do. Be delusional in your prayers and ask for anything and everything from Him. He will do it..

Don’t question Him and start asking Him why, He is the best of planners. He said it Himself in His Holy book. Just believe, trust Him and have ultimate faith in Him. All will be well InshaAllah. I don’t know what you are going through but I know that all your problems will pass and your prayers will be answered by Him. Every problems pass and remember that no problem is too big for Him to handle habibti🥹🫶🏾✨.

I will say it again, Allah hasn’t forgotten you. He hasn’t abandoned you. He loves you more than you even love yourself—and deep down, you know that. So, don’t question Him. Don’t doubt His plan. He is the best of planners.

Oh, and before I go—Ramadan is almost here. Are you preparing?

Mentally? Physically? Emotionally? And—most importantly—is your stomach preparing for it too? 👀😂

I know you want to eat everything in sight, I know you want to eat all you can before Ramadan starts, but please biko, don’t finish all your money on food🌚. Don’t let Sapa drag you or even carry you more than it already has😭.

And if you haven’t started preparing, start now. Start tahajjud. Increase your dhikr. Increase your Qur’an reading.

May Allah make it easy for us all. Ameen. May this Ramadan be better than the last one InshaAllah🤲🏾❤️‍🩹. May our imaan be more stronger InshaAllah

Love you y’all too much🥹❤️‍🩹.

Your habibti🥹❤️‍🩹,

The love of your life🥲🤭😂,

Halimat🫶🏾

Ps: Thank you all so much for subscribing and to my new subscribers, I welcome into my little world fam🙂‍↔️❤️‍🩹.

So my question is, are you just tired or you’re looking for validation? Do you seek validation within yourself? Do you feel that you need a sign to keep yourself on track? Or you’re just lazy and lacking interest and you’re looking for a way to escape from the truth?

Because there is a difference in trying so hard and loosing interest..

For me, I’m loosing interest. I just want to be all day without doing anything. Nothing productive just there and I’m trying my best to seek validation within me but I don’t think I got anything. I just sit down there, while away time and start to question why I have to be productive❤️‍🩹

I want to change that so bad. Procrastination has become my closest ally. It hugs me so tight just the way I grasp my wrapper every night when I sleep making me feel so comfortable. I just don’t want to get out of that comfortable spot but it’s killing me. Students don’t need to act like this but everything has become so tiring and I’m now questioning my every move😭.

Don’t be like me. No, I don’t advise you to cling to your bed each day doing nothing. Find a way to seek that validation from within. You have to be your biggest supporter and friend. You have to tell you the truth. You can’t go back to sleep, you have to work. You want it, you work for it. Don’t let procrastination be a comfortable thing to you. Don’t question yourself why for your every move. Don’t get too tired of doing nothing. You want that soft lifestyle, you have to work for it. I know it is not easy😔. Pfft, all these words coming from a professional procrastinator bah🥲.

Just accept my advice and as for me, I’m slowly starting to remove my grasp from my good demon “procrastination” even though it is just baby steps. Celebrate small wins❤️‍🩹. I can and I must do it. I want to stop romantizing my laziness and constant act of procrastination. Feel free to tell me the blunt truth, don’t sugar quote your words else I will just cling to my good demon🥲.

I didn’t need anyone to tell me to stop my procrastination because I know it is taking away from me. Something I could do with 10 to 20 mins max, my good demon will allow to think about it for 3 to 5 days before I will now decide if I should do it or procrastinate. Procrastination is a demon and if you allow it get to you, you will be badly affected.

Do the right thing and take breaks in between……❤️‍🩹

Your Habibti,

Halimat❤️‍🩹

Habibtis and gentlemen🤭🙂‍↔️. How are you all doing? Hope you’re good? I hope you’re because you are strong and you will always survive no matter the situation❤️‍🩹.

Now, let’s dive into today’s letter. Love is overrated especially in this country🤦🏾‍♀️. What a crazy thought but it is true. Tell me how do you relationship people do it? Despite the chaos and shege this country had and has been offering to me and you, you people still carry your heads and legs to look for love😒. You’ll not even let someone rest. Every time, “my babe said, my man said”😏. Just shut it okay, shut the fock up. Fuel is focking expensive, food is expensive, inflation of prices is so crazy, crazy body odours in transit, the heat is becoming unbearable and you’re telling me you’re in love. In love? How, when, where, why?????

I don’t know if it is just me but I feel soft love or romance can’t be achieved in this country. I feel Nigerian relationships must be chaotic. I watched Hauwa on Osas podcast “Is this a safe space?”and they both talked about it. Love in this country is a bit weird to me because I feel like the situation of the country has just made romance fly away and we now all put on survival mode every single focking time😮‍💨. I don’t feel like these pet names even fit relationship people in Nigeria. In every relationship in this country, there should be a little gbas gbos (not violence o biko) just for sanity sake, so that you’ll know you’re not abroad but you’re here in this country.

The things that now made this love thing so cringe is now how many people are rushing into relationships nowadays and the certain things they call “love languages”, are just basic things needed in a relationship. Even if you want to find love, don’t settle for less. The Prophet (SAW) loved his wives so much. He stopped an entire army just to find Aisha (RA) necklace so why settle for less. Remember, your partner completes half of your deen. Faridah and Aisha talked about it recently in their newsletters and also a few writers that I can’t quite remember. You better calm down and look for love. I don’t even think you look for love sef because it will come to you someway, somehow.

Very soon, valentine will be here. They’ll start the oppression as if the one they all wore matching pyjamas for isn’t enough. Someone will now be sounding like ambulance😂.

If you are sha going to receive valentine gift, please just share location. I just want chocolates 🍫 ehhn. And for those saying I will be in love one day, let that day come first. When I reach the bridge, I will surely cross it…🌚

In one sentence sha, love is overrated. I hope you get what I am trying to say😁.

If you are still saying you want to find love after all I have said, please don’t settle for less. You’re worth much more okayyyy….

Till my letter appears on your screens, don’t ever settle for less because you’re worth more❤️‍🩹🥹🫶🏾💕….

Your Habibti,

Halimat❤️‍🩹

ps: Sorry for my excessive use of emojis: I just love emojis, I’m obsessed with it…🤭

How have you guys been? How have you been managing yourself from this country’s madness, work stress or school life? Hope you’re not checking your bank app each day debits alert can certainly make someone depressed🥲.

How have I been? I have been there😮‍💨. I don’t even know how I feel. I have been trying to write but I don’t have any words to express myself. The thousands of words I know just vanished into thin air🥲. I have been surviving, just finished my exams so I’m relaxed a bit.

I even watched a Chinese film🥹. ‘The Legend of Shen Li’. Oh my God🥹❤️. I love love love the film. You guys need to watch it tbvh. It even made me cry (èmì Idan😂). I didn’t even know when the tears started coming out but I watched the film with a teary eye and silent cry🥹.. This is the very first film to ever make me cry. Although it ends at episode 39 (It’s too long abii🥲?), but it was worth it. The plot twist, the jokes, the tears, the fights, the cast, the emotions, everything single thing made the film a beautiful one. I am definitely rewatching it🥹. I am not that kind of girl that is usually obsessed with films but this film ate and left no crumbs🤭❤️‍🩹

You know when a tough girl falls in love with a tough man? This is it!! They’re both tough on the outside but inside they are the most softest and sweetest pair ever🥹. Watch it, I won’t give spoilers🤭.

I have no idea on what to write anymore. I think this creative block is taking too long😩.

I just came to say hi☺️ and to talk about the film…..

Till my newsletter appears on your screens, always remember to take care of yourself and I love you so much❤️‍🩹.

Your habibti,

Halimat🥹.

I have missed you guys so much. I have missed writing to you guys and I’m sorry for delaying my newsletter. My mind has been here always and anytime I feel I need to write, I don’t have words to write down. I don’t have words to explain my feelings.

I’m not supposed to even be writing to you but I can’t leave you alone like that. Just like that, oh no. I’ll now end the year without writing to y’all, NEVER😀

2024, This year is supposed to be called things I thought could not happen but happened. 2024 has been a gbas gbos year. The good, the bad, the ugly, the beautiful and breathtaking experiences.

This year taught me things but one of the major things I learnt is that you will always need God no matter what. You will always need Him. You cannot do it all alone. Before anything, it is Him. After anything, it is Him. You’re feeling less of yourself, go to Him, you’re frustrated, tired and angry, go to Him, you need help, go to Him, you want to pour out your mind and it might include tears, go to Him. He’s always there. He listens and never judges you. He wants you to come to Him, talk to Him and love Him more. He wants to listen to what you have to say. Don’t be afraid of Him. Go to Him. Talk to Him. He is the best of friends. He is the best of planners. Always remember He has a reason for every single thing that had happened to you. You know I will always recommend God😉.

Another thing is gratitude. No matter what life is throwing at you, no matter the shege you’re going through, no matter the circumstances, you still have something to be grateful for. Even if it is little, it is worth being thankful for. God,You, your life, your family are worth being thankful for. Your friends, your accomplishments are worth being thankful for. God is truly a merciful God. Despite all the sins, mistakes, things said or did wrong. He never left. He stayed. I will be forever grateful to Him and I know you’re too.

Another thing I learnt is don’t let doubts get to you. Having self doubts is okay but don’t let it stop you from taking that step. Don’t let it stop you from believing in yourself. Don’t let it stop you in achieving your aims and goals. You can cry, you can be frustrated, angry, tired and stressed but it is all part of the process. Life isn’t a bed full of roses. Whether it is good or bad, keep fighting and keep going to God for guidance and help. He is the best Guidance.

I had self doubts about writing but here I am writing to you my love. I cried, became so low because I felt my writing isn’t beautiful but you guys made me feel more better. Alhamdulillah.

If I should write all I have learnt ehhn, we won’t go away from here so let me now greet all my padi.

To my Substack family, thank you all. I can’t thank you all enough, I swear. You guys are so loving and accommodating. Even though I haven’t been consistent, with the likes, comments and subscriptions. I love you all so much.

, the very first substacker I met, I remember entering into your dm without permission (I’m sorry for that, no vex🥺❤). Thank you so much for answering my question that very day and even recommending my newsletter. God bless you for me. I for say paste aza but I no get money..

, your letters ehnn, God will not allow you to use your newsetter to kill me with laughter. God bless you girl.

𝕽𝖊𝖊🤍, thank you so much for reaching out to me when you noticed my absence, God bless you girl.

Jemima, you subscribed. OMG!! When I saw the notification, I wanted to scream but I was not home so I didn’t want to be screaming like a mad person on the road. Thank you so much for subscribing..

random blonded boy, you see you ehnn, you. No comment, just keep writing like you always do💜 and thank you for subscribing.

Isidinma Nnamdi Flowers, thank you so much for your kind words🥺❤ and thank you for subscribing.

, , thank you soo much for subscribing…

Miriam Attih,Kayden🥀,,Ebun,Zheenat,Sade L,Glory's Corner,seun,Malik,Your Safe Haven 💜, Fikayo, , , Hosanna Chigozirim Nnaji, Dhimma_Ayogu , ,@h and so many other writers I follow, your writings are as beautiful as you all. Thank you for making my year beautiful with your words.

To that one person that claims to be my best friend even though you didn’t ask for my permission.I love you so much. Even though I just met you, you’ve been soo good to me and I hope our relationship grows even better even though you can be soo annoying sometimes😂❤.

To my big sis , thank you for everything sis. Your words and encouragement really helped me this year. I love you soooo much.

To my big sis , thank you so much for everything.

To everyone of you in my life, thank you so much for being with me in this journey.

To my subscribers, thank you for loving my writings.Y,all are my MVP’s🥺❤.

See you all next year(I heard it is tomorrow🤭). May God answer all our prayers and forgive all sins committed. New year, Old me but improved (I cannot change myself every year biko, carry your “new you” to another place).

Until next time my loves. Happy new year!! Stay blessed and take good care of you. No pressure from this side. I love you!Muah💋