Loving yourself more should be your greatest priority. When you love yourself, you won't wait for anyone to applaud you, or constantly seeking validations from people.

This is a reminder to you all and I. Let's normalize celebrating our wins. It doesn't matter how little or big it is.

Shalom.

Idara writes✍️✍️

I woke up this morning with a glad heart. Giving glory to God for another purposeful life to live on earth. I wouldn't say it was easy, but with God all things are possible.

Everyday of my life, giving glory to God wasn't exempted. I do it happily because I'm his creation.

Today, I clock 20. I'm twenty guys… and I'm proud of myself. There are times I shed tears because of who I’ve become. I can't even imagine myself of yesterday. The girl of yesterday who was so shy, who lacked confidence, who was a big fan of pleasing people and neglecting herself, a girl that had low self-esteem, a girl that wasn't courageous, a girl that cried when people insult her. While growing, I had gone through a lot in the hands of humans because I wasn't that type of girl that was bold enough to stand her ground.

As I began to evolve, all those things were put to an end by me. How did I overcame all of that? I read motivational books a lot, I did a lot of research on how to build confidence, on how to have a high self esteem, on how to put one’s self first, on how to be a leader, on how to be bold. I was so determined for a change, and then I overcame all. Still, I'm working on myself in another areas.

I'm so grateful to God. Ahh, God did a lot in my life. There are times I forget about him, but he finds a way to bring me back to him. As I'm writing, I'm alive everyone. I'm not on the hospital bed or the grave yard. I'm very much alive to witness today. God counts me among the living. It's such a huge testimony for me. Celebrating my birthday also means celebrating God because he is the giver of life. God doesn't exit. He stays. Before the world calls me beautiful, he had already said it in his word that “I am beautifully and wonderfully made by him." What can I do without him? Nothing absolutely.

A letter to the new me.

Dear Idara,

I love you so much and I want you to know that you're incredible, amazing, awesome, intelligent, excellent and extraordinary girl created by God. Your name Idara brings peace to everyone around you that's why you attracts good things.

Idara, I know you had wanted to give up couple of times, but don't. I see you worked day and night, reading, writing, building your career where no one sees and that alone makes you unique. You're a star no one can dim, so please I beg of you, come out of your shell. I know you're more than this. The world is waiting for you to show them the stuff you're made of.

Idara, people tend to mock but that doesn't mean you should quit. Keep striving. Never care about what people would say if you're doing the right thing that aligns with God's purpose for your life. Everything may seem difficult but don't forget your creator who promise to watch over you day and night.

Idara, listen to sister Eniola’s voice. Don't be too harsh on yourself. Be calm and patient.

Idara, just appreciate God for bringing aunty Toyin and sis Eniola into your life because they are incredible. Idara, they are your mentors so do well to talk to them if you have any issues.

I love you so much Idara.

I'm not a teenager anymore, I'm now a young adult trying to grow and embrace the every journey.

Ten things I appreciate God for.

• I appreciate God for his mercy

• For being my God

• For being his creation

• For watching over me

• For not neglecting me. He finds every means to bring me closer to me.

• I appreciate God for my parents

• I appreciate him for bringing me closer to aunty toyin and sis Eniola

• I appreciate him for being my shield and buckler

• I appreciate him for proving himself that he is a miraculous God.

• I appreciate God for protection.

Ten things I would tell the new me.

• Put God first.

• Never neglect praying.

• Don't Gossip. Gossips are for those who don't have something meaningful to do.

• Always take responsibility for your actions.

• Be humble.

• Be bold.

• Stay consistent.

• Be determined with your goals.

• Never procrastinate.

• Align with God's purpose for your life. It's very important.

To me celebrating my birthday today, I love you so much. Many more years to witness on earth, in wealth and good health.

To everyone who genuinely read every piece of this, you're blessed. I hope you have a great day ahead.

Idara writes✍️

Have you ever wondered some changes in you?

Have you ever wondered what you once normalized has changed?

Have you told yourself that you miss the old him or her?

These above are questions I often ask myself.

While growing up, I used to be that girl that stayed indoor althrough. No friends came visiting, no going out. The friends I had then were classmates and we only met at class. At that time, anything solitude, I love it. I self talk a lot, I spent hundred percent time discovering new things about me to the extent that I knew how to draw, I wrote gospel songs, I wrote the lyrics of barbie song, I somehow learnt how to dance. I just did a lot of things that the new me wants to go back to the old me. But here is the facts, anytime I tried to do those things I do before, it is as if I am forced to do them. I totally lost interest in doing them. What happened?

“I evolve."

I'm very sure this resonates with everyone reading this.

What you love doing when you were younger may not be what you love doing now but that doesn't change who you are. That doesn't change your personality.

You might have dreamt of studying law in school but what happened, you studied medicine. What changed?

You might have dreamt of studying mass communication but what happened, you studied physiology. What changed?

“You evolve." You evolve by learning new things you didn't know before.

As life goes on, we evolve. We start to discover new part of us. Our interest, our goals, our friends and so on.

I see some people say, “I don't like the new me.” I used to feel the same way but when I realized I was getting older, I told myself I was permitted to evolve because I'm human.

It's not a sin to evolve. Come out of your hiding place and explore, learn new things. Let the world see what stuff you're made of. You're intelligent, brilliant, awesome, beautifully and wonderfully made by God. Evolving isn't a thing to be ashamed of, it's a thing to celebrate.

Allow yourself to evolve!

I hope this sit well with you all.

Idara writes to everyone ✍️

Firstly,

Do I have a good personality?

What do people see in me?

What do people have to say about me? (It is well said that people words about you don't matter, but what about those that matters?

Those that matters are the ones who cares and loves us genuinely.

All these questions above are what you should ask yourself because if you don't know yourself till now, then there is a problem.

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How many of you do wonder what kind of a person are you?

Are you truely a good person?

There are times you need to sit and question yourself. That shows how reflective you are. Being reflective while talking to yourself doesn't mean your are mad, it shows you take yourself seriously and your are concern about self development.

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As a girl you should……….

Be closer to God.

Have a good character.

Be discipline.

Know your worth.

Don't be abusive.

Be polite.

Flee from gossips.

Have good circles.

Have genuine heart.

Always greet people irrespective of age and status.

There are still more to this but I believe every girl should possess good qualities that would make her stand out irrespective of her background.

What does standing out means?

It means being noticed for the right thing. It might be your integrity, honesty or trustworthy. For you to stand out, you need to reshape your personality type to a good one. Good character determines how people see you.

So be that girl…

Good personality always, everyday and all the time.

I hope this resonates deeply.

It's me idara✍️

When I was a child, I used to dream of being in the university. At that time, I used to tell my mum that I can't wait to be at the University. She would smile and say, your time is coming, be patient, God will do it. I used to be very eager whenever I heard that someone is already in school. My heart would race as if that person should be me. And fortunately now, I'm at the University, matriculating as a bonifide student of my humble school.

Through out my journeys of education when I was a child, I had encountered failures multiple times, but guess what? It didn't shake me, it didn't bring me down, it didn't tear me apart because I learnt from it and move on. I never pinned myself down on those failures of mine. I moved on because what's life without failures or challenges. I tried multiple times to read, get good grades and thanks to God, I did it.

I'm now in my uni level, praying to God because I can't do it alone. University has a way of dealing with students, it's isn't like secondary school. Most of the times, I questioned myself because I think I'm loosing myself. I'm not more the girl I used to know back then in secondary school. I'm not more the girl my classmate do call witch because of my personality towards education. I would not tag myself as a confused person because I still love me. Honestly, it's been tiring but I guess I'm still adapting.

Days past, she felt pains. She could barely bend to pick something from the floor. Her tummy was getting bigger day by day, she was stressed alot, her legs were swollen, the pregnancy hormones triggered her every day, her sleeping positions changed, she spat over irritated things. It was as if spitting was her lifestyle. But guess what? She was strong.

She visited the hospital often for antenatal. The doctor prescribed medications for her to take. He also instructed her to eat healthy foods and fruits. Vegetables, watermelon, water, and many important foods and fruits were her favourites. She was so determined to heed to the doctor instructions for the baby’s well being.

One morning, her water broke. She was rushed to the hospital. When she got there, the nurses accompanied her to the labour room. She was laid on the bed screaming. Everyone knew she was a strong woman trying as much as possible to bring a human to life. During that labour process, she felt extreme pains, she sweated profusely, she screamed, she cried like a baby, she shouted at the top of her voice and later, she pushed out the baby. Everyone congratulated her.

The next day, her butty wasn’t in a good condition, she had to sit in a bucket half filled with hot water. She screamed trying hard to hold back her tears. She did that for about one week and eventually, the butty was healed.

The next day, she experienced pain on her breast while trying to breastfeed her baby. As the baby sucks, the pain increased. Every night, the baby cries did woke her. She was tired but trying hard to pet the baby. She didn't sleep, she nursed the child every night. And it continued day by day until that child was mature enough to sleep without disturbing her. Guess who that child was?

That child was “YOU”.

How much do you love your mother?

She has sacrifice enough for you.

Mothers love are unconditional. They love us before we were born. Words and gifts can't be enough to express gratitude to them because they are extraordinary. They sacrifice a lot just to make us happy.

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY❤️❤️

I love my mum, and you?

I got to my place of work feeling fulfilled. I went to the principal's office to sign. After signing, I went straight to my classroom.

Not quite long, the bell rang for assembly. All the pupils gathered at the field for the daily devotion including the teachers. They sang praises to God and also recited the national anthem, the national pledge, the school anthem and school pledge. After that, a teacher volunteered to give the last announcement and the pupils sang the matching in song.

I entered the classroom and introduced myself as the new teacher. Most of them were staring at me. I even overhead one calling me a small teacher. I bursted into laughter. Immediately, a teacher came into the classroom to introduce the school activities to me. She showed me everything I needed to know and gave me the class schedule. I collected and pasted it on the wall for proper recognition.

It was on Friday morning at school, the principal came to my classroom to inspect if the pupils were doing well under my care. I heard earlier when most of the teachers said she comes once in a while to ask the pupils questions based on what they have been taught. So I guess it was my turn. She came in, she checked around the nooks and crannies of the classroom. She saw a plate under the table a pupil forgot to return back to the food seller, she shouted at me because of with an awkward face. Not only that, she also shouted about the sitting arrangement in the classroom. I was shocked. Later on, she told the pupils to read what was written on the board, they all read it correctly and I was amazed. They spelt the words correctly also.

The principal got addicted to my classroom. She do come on a daily basis as if she had a motive there. Any little thing, she would shout and scold me at the children's presence. I began to develop fears. Fears that mouth couldn't explained. Part of me were shaking as if I was about to be shattered into pieces. I almost cried while I was in class but I didn't. I questioned myself “how would I teach here when all she did was to frustrate my life?” At least if she wanted to scold me, she should do that in her office and not the children's presence. I was extremely tired that moment. A teacher saw what happened and told me that's how she does. I told myself “idaraaaaa”, prepare for the worst.

Chapter three is coming soon. I hope you enjoy reading this above?

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Love you all❤️

Age seventeen was my most challenging age so far. I never thought that I could experience that so early. Wait! Should I just scream or cry? That age was really something else since it was disciplining me the hard way.

After the completion of my external exams, I told myself I would not sit at home doing nothing. I would rather learn a skill or get a paid job, teaching job to be precise because I love teaching. That was one of my goals I had listed when I was still in the junior secondary school. Few weeks after my examination, my dad's friend introduced him to a teaching job which my father told me about, I told him I needed the job. So he told his friend about it and informed me to come the next day. I was so excited because I was very passionate that my goal was getting accomplished. I was even addressing myself as a teacher before anyone could called me that although one of my neighbor do call me lecturer then because of my passion for teaching. I started teaching when I was a little girl. I wasn't a teenager then. What I do those days was to gather little kids to tutor them. I wasn't getting paid. It's just a passion that I love.

The next day, I was interviewed and guess what? I got the job! I was told to resume the second day which was Wednesday. When I got home, I told my mum the good news and she was so proud of me.

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I haven't been to YMR through out the previous years, not until my aunty introduce it to me this year. YMR is a Christian gathering were people are gathered to worship God by fasting and prayer. It's a time where you pray to God as if your life depends on it. Many Christians these days have a lackadaisical attitude towards praying to God, but trust me, it won't help. I have come to realise that the more a person moves closer to God, the high chance of the problems solved.

Lawrence oyor said something similar to this yesterday, he said time flies, so if a person waste more time doing something that doesn't worth it, the result would be bad. He said, some people are still in the first chapter of their life, while their mates are in chapter three or five. Did you know what that means? It means firstly, God created you to be a shinning star, but some are still in the first chapter instead of moving forward. That's why it's important to seek God daily, let God himself show you the secret things about you that you don't know. We live in a very dangerous world that we ourselves can't even see in the spiritual. Life itself is a spiritual battle ground that is why we need to connect to God.

Lawrence oyor said another thing, he said the spiritual mind is hungry for Christ but the flesh is what stops it from being hungry, the lustfulness of the eyes, that's is why we must wrestle the flesh. YMR is a place to connect to God. It's a place to pour out your heart and cry to God for a change. I don't know why I'm emphasizing on Lawrence oyor words, there was a particular prayer he said we should pray which I really keyed into, I prayed and lost my voice. I was so determined for a change because I can't come to YMR and go back empty handed, I'm not a child anyone.

I noticed something yesterday, I saw beautiful ladies speaking in tongues and praying aggressively, and I was like “ seriously?” Ladies can pray this way? I was surprised because the ladies of nowadays don't pray aggressively rather they maintain steeze. Who would even dare come to YMR and maintain steeze when the bible says “the voilent taketh it by force” .If a person isn't voilent, he or she won't win the race, and guess what type of race is that? It's a spiritual race not a physical one. There's a saying that says “the spiritual controls the physical” that's why when a person dreams, it reflects on the physical.

This is my review on YMR 2025.

Call: YMR 2025!!!!

Everyone say: …..( make sure you comment your reply).

Shalom🙏

This is a letter to my mom and when I get home, I would read it aloud to her.

Dear mum,

You're my priceless jewel, nothing in this world would will separate me from you because you're all I cherished. You made me feel save at home. You're an amazing person despite the fact that I do provoke you sometimes but you draw me closer and correct my mistakes. You're my motivator, without you I would have followed the wrong path, I would have done a lot of bad things I thought it was right. You gave me all the attention I needed as a girl child. You never left my side when I needed you the most. You stood up for me when people mocked me. You always appreciate every little things I did for you. Mother, you're my sunshine and I promise to make you happy. Some people say girl child are weak, but I would prove to them and the world that I'm not weak, I'm unstoppable. I would continue to make you and dad proud, so when people sees me, they would asked, who raised you? and I would gladly say it's my parents. I love you soo much that my words can't express it. You're my world.

Mother, I just want you to believe in me and I’m sure you did. I promise to make you happy because you outdid yourself as a mother, even though you and dad didn't have much, you still gave me more than enough.

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My mum played a crucial role in my life. She had been my only best friend since my previous one left. She teaches and guide me alot. She told me to always read my books (my dad also emphasize on reading a lot). I told them yes because reading is not a problem, I love it.

My mum is my inner strength. When I don't have where to cry, I cry on her shoulder. On a daily basis, I do thank God for having her as mum. I can't even imagine myself without a mother like her, half of me would be thorn.

There was a day I was trying to create something very useful, I told her I don't know where to start from, and she told me “Joy, start from somewhere”. I quickly grab what she said and luckily it worked out for me.

People do think my mother is my sister. A lady came to meet me and asked, is she your mother? I said yes, and I asked her “what made you ask this question?” She said, because you both behave like sisters. I was awed because mum and I had this relationship that can't be explained. It's tighter than you'll think.

Happy birthday mum, wishing you the best life ever. Long life and prosperity mum.

This isn't all my notes about my mum, I still have a lot to write but this app won't be enough to fill in words about her let me just stop here. I still have more notes to publish here. I really missed my substack community 🥰🥰

A red heart for you mum❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Introduction about her**

I was only eight years when I met my best friend in school. Her name was Daniella. She was tall, fair in complexion and slim. She was one of the brilliant pupil back in grade two to grade five. Her brain was like that of a magnet that only attract, it doesn't repel. Her favorite colour was pink, and she loves to watch Barbie cartoon just like me.

Daniella was so dedicated to school work. She comes to school early, she does her assignments correctly, her uniforms were ironed properly, her hair was always neat, her nails were clean and short. Everything about hear was just neat. I began to questioned myself in a soliloquize manner “whose daughter was this?” was it a governor’s daughter or a president’s daughter or a rich man’s daughter who wasn't seen as the president? I tried as much as possible for her not to hear me.

Daniella was a girl that carried herself with soo much confidence. Every girl child as at then would love to be her friend, but instead she choosed me! I was very surprised and amazed. I said to myself “ I'm a friend of a president's daughter” Chuckled.

Memories of us**

Daniella and I became very best friends. We ate together, drank together, play together, study together. Every Fridays, we do go out of the school to buy our favorite drink “ farouze” and our favorite snack was sausage roll. Daniella was like a sister to me. She became part of me to the extent that most pupils and teachers noticed us as the most closest friends in school.

Weeks passed, her dad kicked the bucket which results to her not coming to school. I was totally down. All I did was to think about her,I cried and barely eat. It wasn't so easy for her to handle that alone. She once told me she loved her dad Soo much, but what happened, he had kicked the bucket. While remembering those words, I wasn't myself again.

She spent like two or one month at home, while I was in school learning and looking at her empty chair where she did sat. I was lonely. Finally, she resumed school and I was soo happy to see her again.

It was valentine day, we were told to bring gifts for our friends so we could exchange individually. Daniella bought a lot of gift and also valentine cards for me. I was eager to open the cards that moment and guess what? She wrote write ups to me stating “you're my best friend and l love you”. My heart melted and I burst into crying. She genuinely loved me.

Days past, we argued about something which led to our fights. We didn't talked to each other for days, we kept malice that almost got me drained. We almost tore ourselves apart. I was very afraid of loosing her. We made up our gangs Individually to get one of us jealous.We did soo many uncomfortable things. Deep down inside of me, I was feeling remorseful, I felt the pain of loosing my only best friend, but still I moved on. I tried making another friend, but it wasn't like that of Daniella so I dropped the friendship. I tried to win her back into my life, it didn't work but at last I did it! It worked!

We began to talk to each other like we used to.

When she left me heart broken**

It was on Saturday morning, we were having our end of the session graduation party. I participated in various activities like cultural dances, hip hop dance, choreography dance and many more. We couldn't get in touch with each other. So I quickly ran to her so we could take pictures together. When we finished taking the pictures, she ran to her mum and sat on her seat. I was very tired that day so I wasn't able to chat with her all along. When the party was finally over, I went to where she sat, but she wasn't there. I searched all around the hall if I could find her, but no she wasn't. I assumed she had gone home. But wait, why would she had gone home without saying a good bye to me? I was pissed off. I ask myself this question “ when would I see her again?" Would she make new friends? All this questions of mine had no answers. I cried and said “ Daniella has left me heart broken”.

The following morning, I sat on my bed thinking of her. I couldn't eat nor drink. All I did was to remember our memories we shared together. My heart was so heavy as if I was going to die without her. I was emotionally wounded. I was badly craving to see her again.

That very day at afternoon, I remembered she had once showed me the way to her house, so I quickly took that as an opportunity to look for her. I picked up my slippers and my handbag, I quickly hurried there. On getting there, I lost my way so I had to inform a girl that knows her to take me there. Finally, I got there safely. I knocked at her gate several times, she didn't hear, but the last knocked penetrated into her ear drum, so she had no choice but to open the gate. When she saw me, she shouted Joyyyyyyyyy!!! ( Idara ). She gave me a tight hug that no one has given me before except my parents. I was very happy but still she left me heart broken by not saying goodbye at the graduation party.

My letters to her*

Dear Daniella,

I knew you are a nice person from the very first day I met you, please don't change to a bad person. I'm saying this because people do change. But I promise if you change, I would do my possible best to reverse you back to a good person if only I finally meet you. You remembered those days we used to have our career day at school, you all dressed in white coat saying you wasted to become a medical doctor. Hope you're pursuing you're dreams?

I can't wait to see you in the future and I believe you would recognize me..

I miss you a lot❤️ and I love you❤️.

Daniella, if you're here on substack, I congratulate you.

Her name isn't Daniella, I just didn't want to use her actual name because it's soo precious to meee☺️

Friendship they say is a beautiful thing. Not all friendships are ment to last, some is just for the main time. But we just have to cherish it. Memories don't die.

I hope you'll enjoyed reading this. Do you also have a best friend? Share with me in the comment section.

I was in my room one faithful morning, sitted on my couch. Then I went to the living room and I asked myself this question “ was school bullying necessary?” My response was “No”. Why?

Then I decided to write this.

You'll know what school bullying is right? Okay, if you don't know let me define it to your understanding.

Bullying is an aggressive behavior that causes harm to others which results physical and emotional damage. It's makes an individual looses self confidence, self esteem and self worth.

The rate at which bullying happens at school is alarming. Most students at school especially those who called themselves the queens and kings of the school tend to bully others students due to the fact that they are the seniors. Seniority isn't about bullying others just because you wanted people to know you more, it's about leading others in a positive ways that would make them have the mindset of having confidence in themselves. Students at school should practice leadership instead of bullying.

There was a time at school when I was in SS1. Whenever the teacher asked questions concerning a particular topic, I do answer a lot. But when I realized that some of my classmates do say “ Are you the only one in class?” From that moment I stopped answering questions. The second day, I thought of what they said, and I asked my self “ was it necessary to listen to people's opinions if it's a negative one?” I replied

“No” . So thereafter I continued answering questions.

What actually shocked me was during that same session in SS1, I wasn't able to answer a question the teacher asked me personally in a particular subject. So I was flooded by the teacher. The next thing, tears began to flow from my eyes down to my mouth. Then, majority of my classmates began to laugh at me. I got pissed off, so I laid my head on my desk. Well, I didn't count that as a bully to me because I won't let them bully me with their constant laughter any time I fail.

School bullying is a critical condition which the principal of the school must look into. Students just go around these days to cause troubles with their fellow classmates. Some even say, “ do you know who am I ?” Like people these days are so full of themselves.

There are many students out there, crying for who to eradicate this bullying of a thing, because it's killing them emotionally. But who would they tell? Nobody, because no one would have a listening ears to them, even those who called themselves parents might not have that time.

Let us look vividly into this case of bullying at school. It's frightens me to hear someone sharing her experience of how she was bullied at school. Bullying is a pain that if one experiences especially the introvert ones, it takes the grace of God for depression not to penetrate.

Principals, please help us all to curb the act of bullying at schools, infact anyone found bullying others at school should be suspended with an immediate effect.

What's your comments on this everyone?

Sometimes in life, human beings tend to give up, not because they really wanted to give up, but because they are just tired of repeating a thing consecutive times.

I can vividly remember my days at junior secondary school three when my teacher gave each and every one an assignment in mathematics to solve on our own without explanation. I was tensed because tell my why a whole me would rack my brain for a topic in mathematics that wasn't explained by the teacher. Then I said to my self, I would try. When I got home from school that faithful day, I picked up my pen, jotter and my mathematics text book, and I began to solve with the help of an example that is above my text book. There was a point I wanted to give up because I didn't understand what I was solving, even the examples above wasn't motivating me. I got pissed off and left the book on the table. Few minutes later, I picked up the book again to solve. At this time, I followed all the examples with steps carefully in order to avoid mistakes, “guess what” I GOT THE CORRECT ANSWER!!!. but how did I know that my answer was correct?. The following day, My teacher checked my book and said; “your workings and answer is superb”. I was amazed because assuming I had give up earlier, I wouldn't have gotten the steps and answer.

With what I have written above, giving up shouldn't be your choice. In life, challenges and obstacles will surely come, but you mustn't use that as an excuse. My mother once said, always pray and don't give up because God will answer all your hidden prayers.

There is an American man named Thomas Edison. He was an inventor, who invented a light bulb. But before he could invent it, he failed thousands of times. Nevertheless, he didn't gave up.

The things most people don't understand is that mistake isn't the end of the road. Most successful people stumbled on the road to success. As humans, we must learn from our mistakes instead of giving up.

Honestly, what is life without challenges to face? Every individual must know that life isn't fair. You as a person must have this mindset of not giving up, because it's helps a lot.

There are many times that I myself thought that giving up was the best thing to do. Then I realized that, if I give up, I would eventually close the chapters of my life because there is this emotions that triggers one to give up. I know it's hard for someone to believe, but the truth is, it real. Emotions are real. But one of things I've learnt so far in life is that, don't let your emotions get the best of you.

Negative emotions plays a crucial role in the decision to give up. It's makes one overthink and then decide to give up. For example, Esther is very passionate to learn tailoring. So she ventured into it. While learning, she has problems like difficulty in cutting clothes to the appropriate sizes and styling. She felt like, she wasn't improving at all, then she gave up out of fraustion. Her being giving up shows that negative emotions like fraustion, anger and many more, triggers many individuals to give up.

It's not about being perfect, it's about learning from your mistakes and keep on striving instead of giving up, then at the end you're a superstar ✨that would shine brightly✨.

What's your thoughts on this everyone 🥰

I hope you've all learnt something today?

Comparison has harm a lot of children, teenagers and adults. It has stopped them from discovering their talent which makes them put more effort in a talent that does not belong to them. When a person is being compared, he or she is likely to think less of themselves which makes them give up. Most parents tend to say; why can't you be more like your brother? I know it's a question but it has a deeper meaning that can mar a child. Comparing children or adult might look like a motivation, but it's not because it's a tool that decreases self worth.

Parents, guidance and everyone should try as much as possible not to compare anyone because it will eventually result to jealousy.

Everyone on earth has different purpose, so what's the comparison for? We all have different characteristics we possess as humans, that's why we are unique.

It's okay to admire someone when you see them wearing nice outfit, but if that you go beyond that admiration, it leads to comparison which will results to jealousy.

Let's talk about jealousy along side with K-drama .

Jealousy is a feeling that can destroy a person. It is very similar to comparison because jealousy has to do with an emotion that is develop from comparison, while comparison is an act of looking at others and judging them with your own worth in relation to them, which can trigger feelings of jealousy.

Let's dive into K-drama: Bon Appétit, your majesty.

Kang mok- ju the concubine was jealous of the king's affection towards ji- young ( the chef). Due to her jealousy, she was desperate to get ride of ji- young in order to have total control of the king's favour.

Kang mok-ju is that person that doesn't want anyone to surpass her, she is that person that would try as much as possible to get someone killed in order to maintain her position with the king.

With what I have said above, jealousy can also make one commit murder. Kang mok-ju commited various murder, manipulation and mis use of power in the movie like

She killed her most trusted and loyal aide named chu- wol.

She also plotted evil to poison the young king because she was jealous of ju- young.

Jealousy has destroy so many people these days. Some people in prison today, Is as a result of jealousy. So let's try as much as possible not to be like kang mok-ju. Let's learn how to appreciate what we have.

What's your thoughts in this everyone?

So do well to like and comment by sharing your thoughts on this.

Comparison has harm a lot of children, teenagers and adults. It has stopped them from discovering their talent which makes them put more effort in a talent that does not belong to them. When a person is being compared, he or she is likely to think less of themselves which makes them give up. Most parents tend to say; why can't you be more like your brother? I know it's a question but it has a deeper meaning that can mar a child. Comparing children or adult might look like a motivation, but it's not because it's a tool that decreases self worth.

Parents, guidance and everyone should try as much as possible not to compare anyone because it will eventually result to jealousy.

Everyone on earth has different purpose, so what's the comparison for? We all have different characteristics we possess as humans, that's why we are unique.

It's okay to admire someone when you see them wearing nice outfit, but if that you go beyond that admiration, it leads to comparison which will results to jealousy.

Let's talk about jealousy along side with K-drama .

Jealousy is a feeling that can destroy a person. It is very similar to comparison because jealousy has to do with an emotion that is develop from comparison, while comparison is an act of looking at others and judging them with your own worth in relation to them, which can trigger feelings of jealousy.

Let's dive into K-drama: Bon Appétit, your majesty.

Kang mok- ju the concubine was jealous of the king's affection towards ji- young ( the chef). Due to her jealousy, she was desperate to get ride of ji- young in order to have total control of the king's favour.

Kang mok-ju is that person that doesn't want anyone to surpass her, she is that person that would try as much as possible to get someone killed in order to maintain her position with the king.

With what I have said above, jealousy can also make one commit murder. Kang mok-ju commited various murder, manipulation and mis use of power in the movie like

She killed her most trusted and loyal aide named chu- wol.

She also plotted evil to poison the young king because she was jealous of ju- young.

Jealousy has destroy so many people these days. Some people in prison today, Is as a result of jealousy. So let's try as much as possible not to be like kang mok-ju. Let's learn how to appreciate what we have.

What's your thoughts in this everyone?

So do well to like and comment by sharing your thoughts on this.

Finally it's December season, which was on Tuesday in the morning . I picked up my phone to call my three friends in order to remind them about our outing, after then I ran to the bathroom to have my bath, because I knew that if I didn't do that, I would definitely be the late comer🤣.

While I was having my bath, my phone rang, guess who was it? It was my friends who called. Unbeknownst to me, I called them to remind them earlier when they were on their way to my house and I didn't know. So I picked their video call, and they told me that they are already at my gate, I was like wow!!, because I didn't expect them to be that fast. I picked up my phone again while I was bathing to call my gate man to open the gate, but what happened? my phone almost fell inside the water; I quickly held it with my two hands tightly, hopefully it didn't fell, so I proceeded on calling the gateman to open the gate for my friends to come in.

I had just finished having my bath when my friends came in and waited for me in the sitting room, so I quickly wore my Pink gown and my heels, I styled my hair and I also applied makeups to look gorgeous, then I rocked my pink bag. I was just looking classy and demure.

Only for me to come downstairs, my friends shouted late comer!!!!!, I was really shocked, and we begin to argue till it was already thirty minutes past ten, then one of them began to shift blames on each other for arguing that long.

After all the argument and so, we decided to choose who will volunteer a car we will use for the outing, so my friends said that their car tyre isn't strong for that distance we're going to, and my own car is faulty, at this very point, we were clueless and worried. Then we all concluded to order an Uber. I scrolled through my phone to order a ride.

The Uber driver hasn't arrived yet and I was even at the point of cancelling the outing, but my friends really strood to their grounds and said NO. When the Uber driver arrived my friends shouted at him and started an argument with him, but the thing is that, the Uber driver supposed to have apologized but he didn't, I think that was what triggered my friends anger. I tried as much as possible to calm them, but it was getting thougher, I had to just let them be, so we wasted another thirty minutes.

After so many arguments, we decided to just take danfo. We saw one, so we entered. As we were trying to ask the conductor the exact amount we were supposed to pay, his response was “ don't ask me anything again, I thought I told you guys the amount before you all entered”. That sentence alone drives my three friends crazy to the extent they even wanted to start another argument, but I told them it's enough 🤣, because I'm tired, at least we have wasted enough time arguing since. Thank God they ignore this one.

At last we got to our destination successful with multiples of arguments on our way and both at home.

It's not easy to have crazy friends🤣🤣🤣

What's your thoughts on this? Be free to share with me by commenting.

When I was at the first stage of being a teenager ( age thirteen), my dad would say I should always stay indoor, so as to avoid being a spoilt brat like other teenagers. I was very happy then because I love staying indoors. I find peace staying indoors especially when my parents and brother aren't at home.

Solitude has been part of me since I was a kid and even till now. My personal space is the only place I get comfortable because it made me have a sense of superior reasoning compared to me being in a large gathering, but the thing is that people think I'm weird and that irks me a lot😞.

Being an introvert is a personality traits which one shouldn't be ashamed of. Introvert aren't weird people, they just have this unique lifestyles/behaviour that distinguish them from other temperament.

Some of these lifestyles or behavior include:

1. Hate gatherings.

2. Listening to music 🎼 .

3. Observation instead of talking much.

4. Thinking.

5. Solitude attitude.

6. Hate outing.

7. Smiling.

8. Talking too much when they see their best friend etc.

If you're also an introvert, please don't be ashamed to be one, because we're into it together 🥰, and don't forget to share your thoughts about introverts too💕.

When I was at the first stage of being a teenager ( age thirteen), my dad would say I should always stay indoor, so as to avoid being a spoilt brat like other teenagers. I was very happy then because I love staying indoors. I find peace staying indoors especially when my parents and brother aren't at home.

Solitude has been part of me since I was a kid and even till now. My personal space is the only place I get comfortable because it made me have a sense of superior reasoning compared to me being in a large gathering, but the thing is that people think I'm weird and that irks me a lot😞.

Being an introvert is a personality traits which one shouldn't be ashamed of. Introvert aren't weird people, they just have this unique lifestyles/behaviour that distinguish them from other temperament.

Some of these lifestyles or behavior include:

1. Hate gatherings.

2. Listening to music 🎼 .

3. Observation instead of talking much.

4. Thinking.

5. Solitude attitude.

6. Hate outing.

7. Smiling.

8. Talking too much when they see their best friend etc.

If you're also an introvert, please don't be ashamed to be one, because we're into it together 🥰, and don't forget to share your thoughts about introverts too💕.

Like this way: A B C D E F G H I J K L M O P Q R S U V W X Y Z. It's very obvious that they are still children and they are prone to make mistakes just like adults do. You can see that they omitted two letters which are N and T.

Some teachers do think that they are too lazy to learn after too much correction, but it's a lie. Children are very smart, they tend to learn something faster depending on how the teacher teaches them. Their brains are like magnet and their brains get to develop as they grow.

I am very sure that adults also passed through the stage of being a child and we are all aware of it, if you are not, I am oo🤣

I really love children 😊😊😊😊😊

Children are blessings from God, infact they are really blessed.

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