Somewhere along the way, thirty stopped being an age and became an accusation.

Why is everyone so scared of turning 30? Yeah, turning 30 is not exactly a small number, but it’s still just a number.

Few years from now I'll turn 30. I don’t have life figured out yet. I’m still finding myself, still learning, growing, evolving, and still pursuing my dreams.

Life isn’t linear. Neither is progress. There are ups, downs, delays that sometimes feel like stagnation. There are seasons where it feels like everyone is moving except you.

But soldier on. Keep moving.

Every day you wake up is another opportunity to chase the things you want.

Yes, it hurts to watch your peers doing the things you want to be doing. Getting jobs. Making major career moves. Travelling out. Getting that master’s degree. Starting businesses. Getting married. Buying houses. Seemingly figuring life out while you’re still trying to figure out what the hell you’re doing.

It can make you feel like you’re behind.

But behind what?

Who decided there was a schedule?

The truth is, 30 is never too late.

You can spend your 20s chasing, struggling, making mistakes, starting over, and figuring yourself out, and then at 32, everything finally starts coming together.

You can pursue a degree at 33 and finish at 37. That’s a win.

You can start a business at 40 and build a company by 50.

You can get married at 44.

You can buy your first house at 48.

You can completely change your career at 35 and start all over.

None of these things become less meaningful because someone else did them earlier.

Other people doing it before you doesn’t mean you’ve failed.

Our faces are different. Our circumstances are different. Our journeys are different. So why do we expect our timelines to look and work exactly the same?

Colonel Harland Sanders started selling fried chicken when he was in his 40's and didn't franchise KFC until he was in his 60s, and look at what that became, one of the most successful food brand out there.

There really is no universal deadline for life.

But I also don’t think turning 30 should become an excuse to stop making moves.

Don’t tell yourself you’re too old to start.

You’re not too old to learn something new. You’re not too old to change careers. Unlearn a bad habit. You’re not too old to start a new business, pursue a degree, learn a skill, pick up a hobby, or start over.

Because whether you start or not, time is going to pass anyway.

You’ll be 31.

Then 32.

Then 33.

So you might as well start.

Thirty isn’t where you calculate your failures and decide that you didn’t do enough.

Thirty isn’t the end of anything.

It’s just another year.

Another chance to figure things out.

Another opportunity to become better.

So, who made 30 the deadline?

Until my next letter, with love……

Temisan.

I want to talk about how desperation......

Two years ago, I made a decision I sometimes wish I could undo. I was desperate. I wanted the faster route. I thought I could achieve results quickly and work my way around the long process. I wanted to beat a timeline I had set for myself, and in trying to get to it faster, I made a decision that almost ruined me.

Two years later, I think i am still paying the consequences of that one action.

I've thought about it a lot, and one thing I've learned is that desperation can make you mistake speed for progress. When you're in a hurry to get somewhere, almost any shortcut starts to look like the right path.

But sometimes, the fastest way to your goals is the longest route.

No shortcuts. No rushing. Just the slow, consistent effort that nobody sees.

I don't know what is it you're desperate for. Maybe it's money, success, love, a career, marriage or simply the feeling that your life is finally moving. But whatever it is, don't let desperation make a decision for you that you'll have to spend a few years correcting.

There's ambition and there's desperation, if you're not careful one can look a lot like the other.

I have come to realise that some shortcuts don't save you time. They only make the journey longer.

Time is your ally, some get it done in their teens, others in their 20s, others in their 30s, 40s and so on. Focus on what you can control and don't let external pressure make you do things you'd end up wishing you didn't.

So I'll tell you this, don't ruin your progress trying to get there faster.

Until the next letter, with love ❤️

Temisan.

Hello dearest 💖

It's been a minute and honestly oh boy, it's been crazy

Lately, I've been feeling all sorts of emotions, and my head has been all over the place. Often, I wonder and ask myself, what's the point?

When does it get better?

How much further?

When will it all make sense?

The truth is, I haven't been the happiest in a long time. Yes, I smile, I try to make people feel good, I help when I can, but it gets heavy for me too. And the past couple of days have been some of the hardest.

And I don't know who else is feeling this way, feeling tired, confused, and on the verge of giving up. So I thought to send this letter for anyone who is feeling things they can't talk about. This is for you.

This is for those who stay up late at night because they can't fall asleep. For those who use music as a form of distraction because, it helps you escape the weight you're currently carrying.

For those who hide their scars, fears, hurt, pain, and tears behind a smile every single day. For those who say, “I am fine,” because explaining what's going on in your head feels like too much work, because the truth is, you don't understand it yourself.

For those who wear their hearts on their sleeves, even after the end of something they never thought would end. For those who have been taught, sometimes painfully, that not everyone will stay and handle their hearts gently.

For those with dreams, plans, and goals, but nothing seems to be working and you feel like you're running out of time.

For those who feel stuck, left behind, or feel like life isn't going according to plan.

For those who keep praying that things will work out, just once.

Just. This. Once.

For those who scream into their pillows and cry quietly because it feels like you're alone and there's no one to listen. For those who carry conversations in their heads that they will probably never have. For those carrying secrets, thoughts, and feelings they wouldn't tell a soul.

For those who are struggling more than anyone knows. For those who have it hard but somehow still show up every day and pretend everything is okay.

For those who never seem to have it easy, yet somehow keep going. For those carrying regrets, mistakes, missed opportunities, and the weight of things they wish they could go back and change.

For those who stay awake at night thinking about that one person, wondering if they will ever notice you, choose you, or see you the way you see them.

For those who keep taking life as it comes, even when life keeps handing you things you never asked for. For those quietly hoping that somewhere down the road, things will finally make sense.

And for those who are tired. Really tired. For those who have started wondering if maybe this is all there is. For those who think it's over.

Please, just hold on a little longer. Like I am trying to hold on too.

It may not feel like it right now, but this isn’t where it ends. You are not behind. You are not forgotten. Your life is not defined by the things that went wrong, the people who left, the mistakes you made, or the times when nothing seemed to work.

Things can change. Life can surprise you in ways you never imagined.

So breathe, and breathe again.

Take it one day at a time. And when one day feels like too much, take it one minute at a time.

Just know this, it's going to be okay, and you are not alone.

Your day will come. The things you've been praying and hoping for will find their way to you, and I hope when they do, they stay.

Until then, keep going.

There is still so much life ahead of you.

Until my next letter...... by God's grace sha cause omo

With love, Temisan ❤️

Hello, dearest. I hope this letter finds you well.

I’ve been thinking about God lately. And the fact that we can go through life knowing about Him without actually knowing Him on a more personal level.

We've gotten so caught up with life, work, responsibilities, social media, the pursuit of money, the things we want to achieve, and all the noise that constantly demands our attention. I know how hard and difficult it is being in Nigeria. The confusion, the tiredness, the worry and everything else. Sometimes, without even realising it, we push God to the side. We tell ourselves that we will make time for Him later.

When things settle down. When we are older. When we have achieved something. When He answers that prayer.
When we finally become the person we want.

But the truth is there is no perfect time. There's always a thought to think about, something to do, something to achieve and the scariest question is, what if life stops before knowing HIM? Think about that for a moment.

I am writing this letter to remind you that you can find God anywhere and at any time. It doesn't have to be a particular place, age, or moment. You don't have to wait until you have your life together before you make time for GOD.

You don't have to wait until God does something extraordinary for you before you give Him your time.

He simply wants you.

The Bible says in James 4:8 “Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you.”

Think about that for a moment.

God isn't playing hide and seek that he wants you to chase and look for him while he hides. He is waiting for you with an open arm. He is inviting you to come to him. He wants you to know Him, to seek Him, to talk to Him, to spend time in His presence and to allow Him into the deepest parts of your life. He simply wants a relationship with you, he wants to be intimate with you.

And perhaps one of the most beautiful things about God is that His love for us did not begin when we became deserving of it.

It was there even before you were formed.

Jeremiah 31:3 says, “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.”

Everlasting! God's love is everlasting.

It is not temporary. Not conditional on how well you are doing. Not dependent on if you had a good week spiritually.

God's love has always been there, a constant.

Romans 5:8 reminds us that “God demonstrates his own love for us in this; While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”

Even while we were deep in sin, Christ died for you and me.

Not when we had everything together. Not when we have become perfect. While we were still figuring things out, still making mistakes, still falling short, His love was a constant.

So please don't run away from God because you feel unworthy.

Come to Him.

Come with your questions. Come with your doubts. Come with your mistakes. Come with the parts of yourself you don't know how to fix. Come tired. Come broken. Come as you are.

Jesus said in Matthew 11:28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”

This is an invitation to God's love.

Come.

God is not far away, he's not waiting for you to become perfect before He welcomes you. He is a Father who wants His children close.

In the story of the prodigal son, when the son finally returned home after everything he had done, his father saw him from a distance, ran to him, embraced him and welcomed him home.  Luke 15:20.

That's the kind of picture I want you to have of God.

Not a God who is waiting for an opportunity to reject you, but a God who desires a relationship with you.

And yes, there will be distractions.

There will always be something competing for our attention. Another notification. Another video. Another ambition. Another thing we convince ourselves we need before we can finally slow down.

But perhaps we need to be intentional about choosing God.

To put our phones down sometimes and pray.

To open the Bible even when we don't feel like it.

To sit quietly and speak to Him.

To worship.

To ask Him to reveal Himself to us.

To make room for Him.

Because knowing God is a relationship, it is a love story.

God already knows you completely.

The question is DO YOU WANT TO KNOW HIM?

He knows your fears, your desires, your failures, your dreams, the things you tell nobody else. And still, He says, COME TO ME.

Revelation 3:20 says, “Here I am! I stand at the door and knock.”

I think there is something deeply beautiful about that.

He knocks.

He doesn't force His way in.

He waits for us to open the door.

So maybe today is a good day to open it.

Maybe you've spent a long time distracted. Maybe you've drifted. Maybe you never really had a relationship with God beyond knowing the things you've heard about Him.

That's okay. Start somewhere. Talk to Him. Seek Him.

Ask Him to help you know Him.

Long for His presence.

Make Him the centre of your life, not just someone you remember when life becomes difficult or when you need something.

When you fall short, come to Him.

When you lose your way, come to Him.

When you feel unworthy, come to Him.

When life is beautiful, come to Him.

When life hurts, come to Him.

God does not need us in the sense that He is incomplete without us, but He desires us. He wants a relationship with us. He wants us close. Like a father wants their child close.

And perhaps that is the most beautiful thing about faith, knowing that the God who created everything still wants to know you.

His arms are wide open.

The invitation is still there.

Open your heart to Him, he's knocking.

So today as you read this letter ,I want you to reflect on this, meditate on it and ask yourself if you know God enough and if you want to experience him. Read a scripture, say a prayer and of course do well to go to church tomorrow!

Until the next letter, with all my love ......
  
           - Temisan

Hello dearest, it's me again. I know you missed me and I hope this letter finds you well.

A week ago, I spent the weekend at the hospital with a very good friend of mine.

While we were there, we saw different people dealing with different health issues, and it made me realize something, and that’s the reason I’m writing this letter to you today.

I want to talk to you about your physical health. How fit are you? How well do you take care of your body? Do you pay attention to your body? Do you love it and care for it?

If the answer is no, I want you to start being more intentional about your physical health.

Your body remembers everything, from your diets, your sleeping pattern, how much water you drink, how often you exercise your body. It remembers everything.

The habits you build today become the life you live years from now. Your body keeps score, it keeps record of everything you do.

Being healthy isn't about looking hot and peng (Although it is a plus). But it's more about having the strength to live fully, think clearly, work well, raise and take care of your children, serve others and yourself, and to enjoy your old age.

We see a lot of people in their early 50s, barely able to walk, knee pains, back pains, to name a few.

I don't want that to be you or me, like the popular saying "health is wealth" when your body fails there's nothing you can do for yourself and others. You become dependent on the ability of the people around you to serve you and to assist you. Sometimes they see you as a burden and the truth is no one will stop their lives for you. They can only try for as long as they can but everyone eventually have their own lives to live.

It is better to prevent an illness from happening rather than trying to cure it.

A daily walk, healthy meals, drinking enough water, and exercises here and there cost far less than years of medication and hospital visits.

When we're young, we recover quickly, so we think we're fine. But many illnesses are built quietly over years before they finally show themselves.

Your immediate family benefits from your health. Your partner, spouse, children, and even grandchildren will experience a different version of you depending on how you care for yourself today.

Physical fitness gives you freedom. The freedom to climb stairs without struggling, freedom to bend down to pick up something, freedom to move and walk around, the freedom to play with your children, travel, carry groceries, and remain independent in old age. In fact it can help you save someone and yourself when a life is in danger, quick reaction helps a lot and that can only happen when you're in a great shape.

Start small and stay consistent. You don't need a perfect diet or an expensive gym membership. Small habits repeated daily over years are what change lives

Protect your heart, kidney, lungs, your back, legs and waist. Be active physically. Walk walk walk, not everywhere bike or cab.

Stay away from late night meals, look away when you see food and you know you're not hungry. Don't be a glutton. Engage in sports, run, walk, skip, play football.

Make decisions that your future self will be proud of.

Be healthy and stay jiggy.

Until the letter, with love.....

- Temisan

It's me again, and I hope today's letter finds its way into your heart.

Remember my second letter to you? Ah yes, the one about letting go of excuses and refusing to chase perfection. Yes, that one.

Well, I have a confession to make.

I'm not proud of it, but I think you deserve to know because you're my dearest, and we're in this together.

I slipped.

Remember when I told you I was going to do better? I promised to do 20 push-ups every day, read a verse from the Bible, read a chapter of a book, and spend a few moments in meditation daily.

The truth is... I did.

Until one day, I didn't.

I missed a day and told myself, "I'll do it tomorrow "

Tomorrow came, and I said the same thing again.

Then another tomorrow.

Before I realised it, five days had gone by.

No push-ups.

No Bible reading.

No meditation.

I had quietly slipped back into the same old patterns I had fought so hard to leave behind.

But something was different this time.

I noticed the pattern much sooner.

Instead of waiting for another "tomorrow," I got on the floor and did the push-ups. I opened my Bible and read a verse. It wasn't a perfect comeback, but it was a comeback regardless.

And I think that's what matters.

The truth is, unlearning bad habits takes time, far more time than we would like to admit. I was making progress. My arms were getting stronger. My mind was becoming calmer and sharper. Then suddenly, I found myself standing in a place I thought I had already left behind.

Maybe you've been there too.

Maybe you started something good, a new habit, a healthier lifestyle, a closer walk with God and then somehow, you drifted.

If that's you, I want you to know this.

You're not alone.

There will be days when your motivation disappears. Days when the excitement fades and doubts begin to whisper that it is all a waste of time.

That doesn't mean you're weak.

It doesn't mean you've failed.

It simply means you're human.

The secret is not about not falling.

The secret is to never stay down for too long when we fall.

Recognise where you've wandered. Readjust your steps. Refocus your mind. Then begin again.

And if you have to do that a hundred times, then begin a hundred times.

One day, those small daily choices will stop feeling like chores. They will become a part of who you are. They will become your identity. And on the days when you lack motivation, your habits will carry you forward.

So if by chance you fell, don't give up and stay down.

Stand up.

Take one small step.

Then another.

Keep trying until you win.

I'll leave you with one of my favourite quotes by Winston Churchill:

"Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts."

Your setback isn't the end of your story.

Every day you wake up is another opportunity to try again.

Until my next letter, with love ....

           ~Temisan

I thought of you again, so I decided to send you this little letter. It's not much, but it comes straight from my heart.

If you're reading this, I pray that love finds you, not the temporary type that comes and goes, but real, genuine love in its purest form.

A love that isn't proud. A love that doesn't prioritise fighting over peace. A love that forgives. A love that doesn't hold and use your mistakes against you.

A love that is patient, intentional, honest, and vulnerable.

A love that teaches you, challenges you, and inspires you to become better mentally, physically, and spiritually.

I also pray that you find financial stability, not a life of lack and dependence on others, but one where you can be a blessing to others and equipped with the opportunities and resources to pursue the dreams God has placed in your heart.

I pray you get divine visitations, ideas to build and sustain wealth.

I pray that God replaces confusion with clarity.

And that may you be able to step out of the darkness and step into the light.

Yes, I'm talking to you. 💡

May you find peace on difficult days, strength when you're weary, and hope when the road ahead feels uncertain. And may you never forget that your life has purpose, even on the days when it doesn't feel like it.

Until the next letter...

With love,

-Temisan

The fourth letter from my heart to you.

Hello again, dearest.

I hope this letter finds you well.

I want to tell you about something that happened to me during the recently concluded FIFA World Cup.

In case you're not familiar with football, Cristiano Ronaldo and Lionel Messi are the two most debated footballers in history. Each fan base believes their favourite is the GOAT (the Greatest of All Time.)

As for me, I have always had undiluted love for Ronaldo, I think he's the best.

During the World Cup, I found myself constantly hate watching Argentina, the country Messi represented. Every match, I was hoping they would lose.

A few times, it looked like it was finally going to happen... but somehow, they always found a way through.

I kept doing this until they reached the final. All my hate watching failed completely.(Although they lost the final which was very satisfying ngl)

Then a thought struck me.

Here I was, spending my time hoping someone else would fail, while the person I was rooting for had already been eliminated much earlier in the tournament.

That realization stayed with me.

And then I realized something else.

This is exactly how many of us live our lives.

We carry around hatred, envy, and quiet jealousy.

We secretly hope our friends, siblings, colleagues, church members, or acquaintances don't do better than we do.

When a friend reaches a new milestone, we're not happy.

When someone gets a new job, starts a business, buys a new wig, gets engaged, or buys a new car, something inside us becomes uncomfortable.

But here's the truth

No matter how much you hate watch someone's life...

No matter how much you secretly wish they don't succeed...

Your feelings cannot stop what God has already planned for them.

Your envy has never delayed another person's blessing.

If anything, it only robs you of your own peace.

Celebrate people.

Pray for people.

Cheer for people.

The same God who blesses them has not forgotten you.

Their testimony does not cancel yours.

Their success is not proof that you've failed.

Dearest, I encourage you to take an honest look into your heart today.

Is there someone you secretly envy?

Is there someone whose success makes you uncomfortable?

If there is, I gently ask you to let it go.

Choose to have an open heart.

Celebrate others genuinely.

Wish people well.

Encourage them.

Because life becomes so much lighter when we stop competing with everyone around us.

After all...

Life is easier when everyone wins.

Until my next letter, may your heart always find happiness in the victories of others, and may your own victories arrive in God's perfect time.

With love,

~Temisan

The third letter from my heart to you

Hello, dearest.

It's me again, and I hope today's letter finds its way into your heart.

I've been thinking about you a lot lately, and I wanted to share one of my favourite passages from the bible with you.

As you probably know, the Bible is far too rich to have just one favourite verse, but this verse has carried me through difficult seasons and still is.

It talks about having the grace, the courage and strength to keep going even in the face of uncertainty.

Isaiah 40:28–31 (NIV)

"Do you not know?

Have you not heard?

The Lord is the everlasting God,

the Creator of the ends of the earth.

He will not grow tired or weary,

and His understanding no one can fathom.

He gives strength to the weary

and increases the power of the weak.

Even youths grow tired and weary,

and young men stumble and fall;

but those who hope in the Lord

will renew their strength.

They will soar on wings like eagles;

they will run and not grow weary,

they will walk and not be faint."

Dearest, I don't know what you're carrying today.

Maybe it's disappointment. Maybe it's fear.

Maybe you're simply tired of trying.

Maybe you're waiting for healing, a job, a reconciliation.

Whatever it is, I want to remind you that you don't have to carry it alone.

Hope in the Lord, believe his promises for you.

Remember his faithfulness,

He hasn't forgotten you.

He hasn't abandoned you. And He certainly isn't finished with your story.

If all you can do today is take one more step, then take that one step.

Trust Him with tomorrow while remaining faithful today.

Sometimes God's greatest work isn't removing the storm immediately, it's giving us the strength to stand while it passes.

So keep praying.

Keep believing.

Keep showing up.

Even when you don't see immediate results, God is working in ways your eyes cannot yet see.

Chin up, dearest.

God is not done with you yet.

Until the next letter, with love.

— Temisan

The second letter from my heart to you.

Hello, dearest.

I hope today's letter finds you well.

Can I ask you something?

Have you ever promised yourself that this time would be different?

Maybe it was earlier this year. Maybe it was last year. Or maybe you've been making the same promise for longer than you'd like to admit. You say……

"This is the year I'll stop procrastinating"

"I'll finally start taking care of my body"

"I'll go to church more"

"I'll pray more"

"I'll stop going back to thoughts and memories that hurts me"

Then somewhere along the way, life happened.

You missed a day. Then another, and before you knew it, you found yourself slipping back into old patterns.

If that's where you are today, I want you to know something.

You're not alone. I have been there too, I've made a few promises myself that I couldn't keep up with.

The truth is, you don't need a new year to begin, not a new month or a new week. You can begin right now, righ here.

One of the biggest lies we believe is that progress should be perfect. That if we stumble, we've failed. But growth has never worked that way. Growth is messy, it is not straightforward.

Some days you'll feel unstoppable. Other days you start questioning yourself if you've made any progress at all.

The important thing isn't that you never fall, but It's that every time you do, you find the strength to get back up.

Before I published my first letter, I spent years waiting.

Waiting until my writing was better. Waiting until I felt confident enough. Waiting until my vocabulary was perfect.

But perfection is a moving target. It is never constant, If you chase perfection you'll never find it.

If I had kept waiting, this letter wouldn't exist.

Sometimes our lives begin the moment we stop trying to be perfect and simply begin. So get out of your head, do something you love.

Start that content creation, face your camera, start that business, learn that skill.

So here's something I'd love for you to do this week.

Choose one small promise you can keep. Not ten, Just one.

It could be drinking a glass of water every morning.

Reading one page of a book. Saying one honest prayer before bed.

Talking to your camera daily.

Learning a new recipe.

Taking a ten minute walk.

Calling someone you've been meaning to check on.

For me, I'll be doing 20 push ups daily, meditate daily, read one verse of the bible daily. So we're in this together.

Make it so small that you have no excuse not to do it.

Because new and better lives aren't built by once.

They're built by small decisions repeated consistently.

Old patterns don't disappear overnight. They're replaced.

One choice. One habit. One day at a time.

So when you fall and you probably will, don't let disappointment convince you to stay on the ground. Stand up again.

Speak kindly to yourself. Replace "I can't" with "I'm learning."

Replace "I've failed" with "I'm not finished."

You are not your worst habit.

You are not your last mistake.

It's not too late to begin again.

And I believe that one day, you'll look back and realize that the life you wanted wasn't built in one dramatic moment.

It was built in the quiet decision to keep showing up.

Again.

And again.

And again.

Until the next letter, with love

— Temisan

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Hello, dearest.

I hope today’s letter finds you well.

Today I decided to get over one of my fears and to step out of my head and live a little. I’ve always had a thing for writing, not perfectly, but I try my best.

I tell you what, I’ve been staring at this blank page for hours, wondering if I should stop even before i began. Wondering where the words would come from. Yet somehow, here we are.

If you’re reading this for the first time, I’m just a young boy from Nigeria, trying to survive, to grow, to keep showing up, and to figure life out one day at a time.

Trust me when I say this isn’t a highlight reel, it’s a collection of silent battles, sleepless nights, doubts, confusions, mistakes, and the lessons that came with them. I’ve had my fair share and I know you probably have too.

It’s about the messy middle, the prayers, the friendships that saved me, family sticking together and the burdens I had to drop to keep going.

If you’re also trying to navigate through life, to stay sane, to grow your faith and build lasting relationships while doing life, then welcome.

Here I’ll be writing about Growth, faith in God, mindset and mental health. Love, family, a sprinkle of romance here and there and the little wins that will keep us going in Nigeria.

I’ll be publishing one or two letters each week. My hope is that we can figure out life together, and that these letters will remind you that you’re not alone, that you’re seen, heard and deeply valued.

I’ll leave you with this, dearest.

No matter what you’re going through or what burdens you carry. I believe one day it will all make sense.

Hang in there.

Life is still waiting for you.

We’re in this together, and I am always rooting for you from Warri to wherever you’re reading this.

Until the next letter.

~ Temisan.