Think about your phone for a second. You can have the best apps ever built, the sharpest camera, the smartest software. But if the battery is dead, none of it works. If the operating system is buggy, every single app runs slow, crashes, glitches at the worst possible moment.

You are the same. Financial fluency, presence, entrepreneurial mindset, all of it, are apps. They run on one operating system, and that operating system is your body. And here is the trap almost every ambitious woman falls into: she optimizes the apps and neglects the OS. She pushes harder on the skills while the system underneath is running on two percent battery, twelve tabs open, no updates in months, and then she blames herself for lagging.

You are not lagging. Your operating system is starved. Whole Woman Readiness, a critical abilities pillar of MELD, is where you finally learn to run the machine everything else runs on.

We come at this with the same ladder as we have throughout this series and in our MELD methodology. You’ve got this. Ready? Know it, do it, become it.

Know it (Knowledge): the specs of the machine

You would not try to fix a device you didn’t understand. So first, let’s go through the knowledge nobody put in your onboarding about your new grown up self: your biological operating system runs on three things, and they are not negotiable.

Sleep is the overnight update, the hours where the system repairs itself and installs tomorrow’s clarity. Blood sugar is the power supply, the difference between a steady charge and a screen that dims and spikes and dies by 3pm. Nutrition is the quality of the fuel you are asking the whole thing to run on. This is not a wellness luxury. It is the spec sheet for the machine you are trying to build a life on.

And notice who was never taught this. Young women get handed ambition and a to-do list and almost nothing about the machine that has to execute it. We look for inspo in our social media, told to prioritize certain work outs or vitamins as individual ideas rather than a whole system. And when we push ourselves too much (either with work or with late night fun), we treat the body like a nuisance that needs to be pushed, when the body is the thing doing the real work. Every decision you make runs on glucose and sleep and a nervous system that is either resourced or running on fumes. That is not woowoo stuff. It’s real. That is the wiring diagram of the only device you will never get to upgrade or replace.

MELD Tip: For three days, just notice the link. Watch how a bad night’s sleep or a skipped meal shows up hours later as a foggy decision or a snappy email. You are not moody. You are under-resourced, and now you can see the pattern.

Do it (Skills): managing the battery

Knowing the specs is not the same as running the system well. That is the skill layer, and it is the most practical self-care you will ever learn, because it has nothing to do with fancy candles and everything to do with capacity.

Energy mapping is learning when your battery is actually full, and guarding those hours for the work that matters instead of burning your best charge on email. Boundary-setting is closing the background apps, the quiet drains that run all day and empty you without your consent. Regulation practices are how you bring the system back to baseline when it spikes, the tools that stop a stressful hour from crashing the whole day.

These are skills. You practice them. You get better. You stop treating your energy like an infinite resource and start managing it like the finite, precious battery it is.

MELD Tip: Find your two peak-battery hours and put one thing that actually matters inside them this week. Protect them like a meeting with the most important person you know, because you are.

Become it (Abilities): a system that does not crash under load

Do this long enough and you become a genuinely different kind of powerful. This is the top of the ladder, and it is the thing every steady person in every high-stakes room quietly runs on.

It is nervous-system mastery, the ability to stay online when the pressure spikes instead of freezing or flooding. It is resilience, a system that takes the hit and reboots fast. It is self-regulation, running your own emotional weather instead of being run by it. And it is the one most people never even reach for: joy as intelligence. The radical idea that your joy is not a reward you earn after the work, it is data, a signal telling you where your life is actually working.

Where life isn’t about balance (because really, there is no such thing). Instead it is about alignment, and I promise you, that is a skill every amazing established woman you know is still working on.

That is who you become. Not a woman grinding herself into a crash. A woman whose system holds, under load, on purpose.

MELD Tip: Calling all my hard-chargers! Stop treating rest as the thing you do once everything else is done. A charged system makes sharper money moves, reads the room better, and sees the whole board. The rest is not separate from the ambition. It is the power source for it.

You were sold a lie that says the machine is supposed to run on empty, and that needing to charge is a flaw in you.

It is not a flaw. It is physics.

Learn the specs. Manage the battery. And build a system so steady that when the pressure comes for everyone in the room, you are the one who stays online.

Launching this fall: MELD, the leadership and mentorship platform built for early-career women navigating what comes next.

We’re opening the waitlist first. Join us to be the first to know when the doors open.

When a beginner plays chess, their eyes never leave the one piece they are worried about. They react, move by move, to whatever just threatened them, and they lose to people who are not smarter. They are just looking wider.

But when an experienced person plays, they are not staring at a single square. They see the whole board, three moves out, their side and the other side at once. Same pieces. Completely different game.

That is the difference between an employee and an owner, and it has almost nothing to do with whether you have started a company.

It is a way of seeing.

Most talented young women were trained beautifully to play their square. Do your task, do it well, defend your piece. And then they wonder why different people keep ending up in charge. It is not the skills. It is the field of vision.

I remember an early office job I had very clearly. I sat in my pod, jamming on project support, trying to make sense of the client’s goals, while trying to learn how to operate in an office structure with superiors and deadlines and being prepared for meetings. And then someone a title ahead of me would ask a question I never thought of, and it made me feel behind, like I was missing something. But now that I look back on it, that colleague was working on seeing the whole board. Here’s what I mean.

Entrepreneurial Mindset, a critical abilities pillar of MELD, teaches you to pay attention to the whole board, not just one square. Let’s break it down.

Know it (Knowledge): learning to read the board

You cannot see the whole game if you cannot read the pieces. So first you need to understand how the game is actually scored.

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Picture two shops on the same street selling the same thing.

One has dusty windows, no sign you can read, unappealing displays and a door you are not sure is even open.

The other has a clean window, a story you can feel from the sidewalk, a sense of style and a person at the front who looks you in the eye and knows exactly why you walked in.

Same product.

The second one gets the customer, their investment, and maybe even their loyalty.

Now the part that stings. Most talented young women are running the first shop. All the good inventory is in the back. The skill, the work ethic, the results, all real, all stacked neatly in the stockroom where absolutely no one can see it. And they are quietly furious that the flashier shop across the street keeps getting picked - and lost on how to put themselves in that position.

Here is what I learned watching people rise in rooms most people never enter: the room does not reward the best stockroom. It rewards the best storefront - one that connects with them and makes them feel that store was waiting for them.

Profile and Presentation, a skill-building pillar of MELD, is how you move your genius from the back of the shop to the window.

And it climbs the same three steps as everything we teach. Know it, do it, become it.

Know it (Knowledge): what the customer actually came in for

Before you decorate a single window, you have to know one thing: what employers actually look for.

Not what you assume they want. What they are truly shopping for.

Most people guess, decorate for the wrong customer, and wonder why nobody buys.

They lead with the thing they think instead of the thing the room needs. But knowing how to think differently will help build you professional confidence.

Here’s what I think the fear is that keeps good women in the stockroom, because I have heard it in a hundred versions.

It feels like bragging. It feels loud, thirsty, risky. You were praised your whole life for quietly doing the work, staying humble, and letting the work speak.

So try seeing it this way instead: a clean window is not bragging, it is a service to the person looking for exactly what you sell. When you hide, you do not look modest. You just make it harder for the right customer to find you.

MELD Tip: Read the job, the promotion, the pitch from the customer’s side of the counter. Ask what problem they are trying to solve, then put that in the window, not your favorite hobby-horse.

Do it (Skills): dressing the window

This is the pillar’s heart, and it is pure practice.

A storefront is built, piece by piece.

Your LinkedIn and your personal brand are the window display, the first thing anyone sees. Storytelling is the label that makes a stranger care, because facts inform but stories sell. Presentation design is how you stage the merchandise so the good stuff is at eye level, not buried. Networking scripts are what you actually say when someone walks in, so you are never caught mumbling at your own front door. And visibility is the simplest, most-avoided move of all: being on the shelf where people can find you, on purpose, repeatedly.

None of this is fake - though it may feel “fake it ‘til you make it” as you are sharpening your skills and your leadership voice.

But, you are not inventing inventory you do not have. You are refusing to hide the excellent inventory you already stocked. She’s in there. Put her on display.

Trust me, I know how hard this is. I spent my career behind the scenes, working with amazing women to help them shine and succeed. But I want you to know I’m here in your corner, I know you need to know me, so I’m working on my own window too. This Substack is practice for me!

MELD Tip: This week, take one real win sitting in your stockroom and put it in the window. One post, one story, one message that says here is what I did and here is who it helped. Watch who walks in.

Become it (Abilities): becoming the brand people trust

Do this long enough and something shifts from technique to identity - from something you actively try to something that’s part of your professional personality. The window-dressing becomes confidence. Presence. The particular calm of a woman who can move under pressure because she is no longer hoping to be noticed, she has decided to be seen.

And then the rarest thing arrives, the one every powerful person in every room I have sat in actually runs on: influence, whether or not they have the title.

The ability to move a room you do not officially control. That does not come from your title. It comes from a presence people trust on sight, a brand so clear that maybe the yes starts arriving before you finish asking.

That is the top of this ladder. Not a better resume. A woman the room leans toward.

MELD Tip: Presence is not volume. Watch the person in your next meeting who says the least and shifts the conversation the most. Study her. That is the storefront running on instinct.

Your work is good. I believe that. But good work locked in the back of the shop does not pay you, promote you, or hand you the keys.

So flip the sign. Dress the window. And let them see exactly who has been in there building all along.

Launching this fall: MELD, the leadership and mentorship platform built for early-career women navigating what comes next.

We’re opening the waitlist first. Join us to be the first to know when the doors open.

You know that feeling in a country where you do not speak the language. You can point. You can smile. You can try to use the botched version that flies into your head from high school. You can hand over a quick Google Translate on your phone and hope. But you cannot argue, you cannot joke, you cannot get the better deal, because the words that would win the moment are locked behind a door you never got the key to.

That is how most brilliant young women feel about money. Not stupid. Just foreign. Standing in the room where the deal happens, nodding along, hoping nobody asks a question, because nobody ever sat you down and taught you the language everyone else seems to have grown up speaking.

I get it - because I’m living it too. I never learned to make a business model, or a cap table, or close the salary or the deal without serious nerves and imposter syndrome kicking in.

I’ve had a big learning curve as a new founder - chasing an idea but knowing that an idea without a business behind it is just a dream. I’ve had opportunities like being selected for UBS’s Project Female Founder 2025 program - but all those notes sat more in the knowledge and skills section of my brain (calling on last week’s structure). And all of those terms and structures I learned then are only become more fluent abilities for me after a year of practice.

Here’s what I’ve learned along the way - especially for women: nobody is born fluent. They were just taught earlier - deliberately.

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What nobody tells you when you land the job, the internship, the seat at the table you fought for is that that’s just the beginning.

Getting in is the written test. It is not the drive.

I have spent my career in the rooms where power gets decided. Green rooms, war rooms, boardrooms, The White House. And I will tell you: almost everyone in those rooms passed the written test. They know things. But knowing things is the floor, not the ceiling. The people who actually move the decisions, shift the room, get the yes, they did not just study the manual. They learned to drive.

That readiness is built on the four pillars that make up our learning architecture at MELD. But before we get into what MELD teaches, I want to hand you the frame that holds all of it together. It is boring on paper and life-changing in practice. It is called KSA. Knowledge, Skills, Abilities. Think of it as learning to drive.

Why does this frame matter so much that I am opening a whole series with it?

Because there is an entire industry built on selling you the written test and calling it a car. Courses, certificates, webinars, five-hundred-slide decks. They fill you with knowing and send you home, and then you feel like a fraud when the knowing does not translate into moving, and you assume the problem is you.

It is not you. It is that nobody helped you put that learning into action when it mattered most. So let me.

Know it (Knowledge): passing the written test

Knowledge is the manual. It is knowing what a 401(k) is, what a P&L is, what recruiters actually screen for, what your own nervous system is doing when your heart pounds before you speak.

Most “development” programs stop right here. They hand you a slide deck, a webinar, a PDF, and they call you developed. That is like handing someone the driver’s manual and pushing them onto the freeway.

Do it (Skills): logging the hours behind the wheel

Skills are the part where you actually put your hands on the wheel and it feels terrible and then it feels normal. This is negotiating out loud instead of reading about negotiation. Practicing out loud in the room rather than quietly in your head. Posting the thing instead of admiring your LinkedIn draft. Running the meeting, building the system, setting the boundary.

Skills are earned in reps - by doing the thing - not just in gathering insight about the thing. Nobody ever parallel parked well by reading about parallel parking. You do it badly, then less badly, then without thinking.

Become it (Abilities): driving anywhere, any weather, with calm and confidence

This is the goal. Abilities are who you become once the skill is so deep it turns into instinct. It is the driver who merges into rush hour in the rain while holding a conversation, because the mechanics went quiet and now there is just her, in command of the car.

In our world that looks like gravitas. Owner’s eyes. Financial self-trust. A nervous system that holds steady when the stakes spike. You stop performing competence and start carrying it.

The four roads we teach you to drive

MELD’s curriculum is four pillars, and every one of them runs you up this same ladder from knowing to doing to becoming.

Financial Confidence is where you feel comfortable reading the whole menu of money. Profile and Presentation is where you learn that the room reads you in ten seconds and you decide what it reads. Entrepreneurial Mindset is where you trade the fan’s seat in the stands for the owner’s eyes on the whole field. And Whole Woman Readiness is where you learn to run the one operating system every other skill runs on top of, your own body.

Four roads. One you. Know it, do it, become it, every time.

And notice the order of the roads is not random either. You cannot present power you do not feel, and you will not feel it while money still speaks a language you do not.

That’s why, in this midsummer skills sprint, we’re going to work on Financial Confidence first. Our recent post that helped make key money management terms more understandable sparked a lot of interest, so next week we’ll dig in more.

You cannot see the whole board on an empty tank, which is why the wellness pillar is not the soft afterthought other programs bolt on at the end. It is the ground your personal growth stands on. The pillars are a system. Take one out and the others wobble.

Nobody is going to lean over and gently hand you the keys to the room. That is not how power works, and if you wait for the handoff you will wait forever.

So that’s why I’m here - to share everything I know.

Read the manual. Then get in the car. Then drive like you own the road.

Before Marisa Messana advised ambitious leaders, she was a professional golfer.

That did not just mean competing on the course. It meant running an entire business behind the scenes: raising capital to fund her career, negotiating her own sponsorship deals, managing travel to a new city almost every week, and building a practice schedule around all of it. The golf was the visible part. The company of one behind it was the real job.

To keep performing at that level without falling apart, she had to build something for herself. She needed a way of operating that could hold the weight of everything she was carrying. She calls it a Personal Operating System, and it is the same framework she now uses with the overcommitted leaders she works with today.

The cost of chasing a goal that no longer fits

Here is the part of Marisa’s story that tends to stop people. From the outside, she was living the dream. A professional athlete with every marker of external success you could point to.

Internally, something was off. She was still chasing a goal she had set as a kid, to be a professional golfer, and that goal no longer matched what actually mattered to her as an adult. She had strengths she wanted to use that golf simply could not hold. The longer she stayed inside that mismatch, the more her health and performance quietly declined. She describes it as forcing a square peg into a round hole.

The lesson she took from that runs counter to how most of us think about performance. Your highest level does not come from working harder inside a goal that no longer fits you.

It comes from aligning what you do on the outside with what you actually value on the inside. Once Marisa made that shift, her career and her life took off in a way that years of forcing it never could.

Hard work was never the whole answer

Marisa grew up believing success belonged to whoever worked the hardest, the person putting in the most hours on the range. She had to unlearn that belief piece by piece as her career evolved.

What she landed on instead was that quality beats quantity. That principle now runs both her business and her personal life. Rather than filling every hour just to feel busy, she prioritizes the highest-impact work, the small slice of tasks that drives most of the results. In golf terms, it is the difference between hitting a thousand range balls with no plan and spending an hour fixing the one flaw that is costing you strokes. That is what lets her perform at a high level without burning out to get there.

The Personal Operating System, in three parts

Most of the leaders Marisa works with are successful by every external measure. They are also stretched across too many responsibilities at once: leading teams, growing businesses, showing up for their families, trying to stay healthy, all while running a mental list of open tabs that never seems to close.

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Georgia is currently pursuing her MS/MBA at Harvard Business School, previously founded and exited the mental health app Trill Project, and has worked across startups and product roles, including with JPMorgan Chase. She was part of the first MELD moments as a college student.

A few weeks ago, I started a new note on my phone called “Little Things.”

I’ve always been someone who thinks in big swings. If I’m feeling off, my brain immediately jumps to the dramatic solution. Maybe I need a vacation. Maybe I need to start waking up at 6 a.m. Maybe I need a new project. Maybe I should rearrange my apartment.

Sometimes those things help. Most of the time, they aren’t actually what I need.

More often, I just need a reminder that there are a hundred different ways to make today feel a little lighter.

So I started writing them down.

Some are healthy.

• Take the stairs instead of the elevator when it makes sense.

• Add greens to whatever I was already planning on eating.

• Drink a huge glass of iced water.

Some make my space feel nicer.

• Open the windows.

• Light the good candles instead of saving them.

• Make a bouquet from Trader Joe’s flowers.

• Finally clean the makeup brushes that have been staring at me.

Some make me feel eight years old again.

• Pour a mocktail into a wine glass.

• Buy Fruity Pebbles. Or pizza rolls. Or Gushers. Whatever your childhood snack was.

• Have the sweet treat.

Some just help me feel more connected.

• Call my parents.

• Unsubscribe from the spam instead of deleting it for the hundredth time.

• Pick a new neighborhood and wander without looking anything up first.

None of these things are groundbreaking.

That’s exactly why I love them.

I think we spend a lot of our lives waiting for the big things to make us happier. The new job. The trip. The relationship. The apartment. The promotion.

I’m definitely guilty of that.

But most of life isn’t lived inside the milestones.

It’s lived on random Tuesdays. Lately I’ve been trying to build better Tuesdays.

Because that’s what my life is actually made up of. Not vacations or promotions or birthdays.

Just a lot of Tuesdays.

When I don’t know what I need, I open the note and pick one.

I’m curious what would be on your list. I have a feeling we’d all steal a few from each other.

- Georgia Messinger

Think about the woman who taught you what work actually looks like. The one who ran a household and a job at the same time and never once called it impressive.

Maybe she was the first in her family to earn a degree, sign a lease in her own name, or build something from nothing while everyone stood around waiting to see if she’d pull it off.

She probably never thought of herself as part of history. She was just trying to get through Tuesday.

There’s a version of this anniversary that’s all fireworks and founding fathers.

The same flags, the same parades, the same names we memorized in school.

Cute. Comfortable. Incomplete.

Because 250 years is a long time, and for most of it, American progress ran quietly through women who weren’t in the room when the decisions got made. Women like her. Women like us. “Remember the women,” Abigail Adams asked of her husband as he steered the formation of our country. He didn’t, but we are now.

Because here is the part that needs our attention. Women couldn’t vote for the first 144 years of this country. We couldn’t open a credit card in our own name until 1974, close enough that your mother might remember it. The first woman didn’t run a Fortune 500 company until 1972. And in 2026, we’re still fighting for equal pay in nearly every industry that exists.

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You’ve got questions on money, and we’re here with more than answers. As part of MELD’s focus on taking the scary out of growing into your career, we put together this framework - specifically this week on understanding finances - because money is powerful.

So, you’ve got your first job, and you’re getting paid. The direct deposit hits, and suddenly you're expected to know how to budget, invest, and save like a grown adult. But no one taught you the basics of money. You were just handed the receipt.

This is your financial starter kit, shopping edition. The real-world equivalent of learning what a capsule wardrobe is before you blow your paycheck on one big haul. We’re breaking down key financial terms by comparing them to something you already know: how to shop smart.

Dow Jones = The Storefront Window

The Dow is like the main window display at your favorite department store. It shows how 30 major brands (think: Apple, Nike, Coca-Cola) are doing. When the display is fresh and thriving, people walk in. When it looks busted, people stay out.

MELD Tip: Don’t live by the window display, but check it to know the retail (economy) mood.

Stocks & Bonds = Fast Fashion vs. Layaway

Stocks = Fast Fashion with Long-Term Potential. You buy a piece of the company (like grabbing an item off the rack). If the company thrives, your piece becomes more valuable.

Bonds = Layaway. You give your money to the brand (aka the government or a company), and they promise to give it back with a little extra. Lower risk, but not always trendy.

MELD Tip: A good wardrobe has both: trend-forward pieces (stocks) and stable classics (bonds).

Roth IRA = Pre-ordering Limited Edition Drops

A Roth IRA is like pre-ordering a limited-edition item and locking in today’s price. You pay taxes now, stash that money, and decades later when it drops (aka you retire), it’s yours tax-free.

MELD Tip: Early access + no extra fees = power move. The younger you start, the bigger the payoff.

401(k) = Your Job’s Loyalty Rewards Program

A 401(k) is your employer’s retirement plan. You invest a slice of your paycheck, and your employer might match a portion, that match is like cashback.

There are two flavors:

• Traditional 401(k): Pre-tax now, taxed when you cash out.

• Roth 401(k): Post-tax now, tax-free when you withdraw.

MELD Tip: Always join the rewards program when there’s a match. It’s literally free money.

Credit Score = Your Financial Store Reputation

Your credit score is like your standing with your favorite retailer. Pay on time, stay within limits, and you’re treated like a VIP—exclusive offers, early access, no hassle returns. But miss payments or max out your card? You’re flagged fast.

MELD Tip: Good credit unlocks better deals, higher limits, and smoother approvals. Think of it like a loyalty program for your financial future. Keep your record clean, and the perks keep rolling.

High-Yield Savings Account = Your VIP Sale Stash

A HYSA is like a premium spot to stash your money while it earns more than the boring old savings account. It’s safe, it’s reliable, and it gives you interest for doing basically nothing.

MELD Tip: Don’t park your cash in the clearance bin. Upgrade to the premium shelf and let it work for you.

Budget = Your Monthly Shopping List

A budget isn’t about restriction. It’s about clarity. Like walking into Sephora with a list instead of impulse-buying five lip oils. You know what you need, what you can splurge on, and what needs to wait.

MELD Tip: A smart shopper always knows their cart total before checkout.

Emergency Fund = That Classic Black Blazer

The emergency fund is your timeless piece, it’s not trendy, but when everything else falls apart, it’s the one thing you’re glad you have.

MELD Tip: Life happens. The emergency fund is your financial version of always having something clean, stylish, and ready to go.

MELD Mentor Thoughts

If money feels like walking into a luxury store without knowing what anything costs, you’re not alone. No one expects you to be a financial expert overnight. But just like building a wardrobe, it starts with the essentials.

Buy what fits. Invest in quality. And never confuse price with value.

You got the internship. You showed up. And now you’re somewhere in the middle of it, trying to figure out how to actually make it mean something.

Maybe you’re still learning everyone’s name. Maybe you’re doing good work but wondering if anyone is noticing. Maybe you’re just trying to get through each week without feeling like you’re making mistakes.

Wherever you are right now, this is for you.

Because the difference between an internship that looks good on a resume and one that genuinely changes your trajectory isn’t talent. It’s being intentional.

And the good news is, you have time, so let’s get started.

While you’re still in it

1. Treat every week like it’s your last two weeks.

Not in a panicked way, but in a focused way. The interns who get remembered aren’t the ones who had the best first impression, they’re the ones who stayed curious and engaged all the way through. Whatever energy you brought on day one, bring it to every week you have left.

2. Get clear on what you actually want to walk away with.

Most people go through internships hoping something useful happens. The ones who get the most out of it are deliberate about it. What do you want to learn before this ends? What relationship do you want to have built? What skill do you want to be better at?

Write it down. You have time to go after it.

3. Ask better questions.

“Can I help with anything?” puts the burden on someone else to find you work.

Instead try: “I noticed X coming up, I’d love to be involved in any way that’s useful. Is there a specific part I could own?”

Specific asks get specific opportunities. Vague asks get vague responses. And trust us, your managers will appreciate knowing you’re both proactive and paying attention.

4. Have at least one real conversation with someone outside your immediate team.

This is one of the most underused parts of an internship. You have access right now to people you would otherwise never get in front of.

Find one or two whose career genuinely interests you and ask for 20 minutes.

We know this is hard, especially in hybrid or remote work environments, but when you frame it with a real question you’d like to discuss, and a proposed set of times they can act on, it’ll

make the process easier for both of you.

Most people say yes and those conversations are the ones you’ll think about for years.

5. Ask for feedback before the formal review.

Don’t wait until the end to find out how you’re doing.

Ask your manager midway through: “Is there anything I could be doing differently or leaning into more?”

It shows self-awareness, which managers remember. And it gives you time to actually act on it before the internship ends.

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There is a particular kind of exhaustion that high-achieving women know well.

It is not the tiredness that comes from a long day.

It is the kind that lives underneath everything - the low hum of always being on, always performing, always managing how you come across while simultaneously managing everything else.

You push through it because that is what you have always done. You tell yourself you will rest later, when things slow down.

But things do not slow down. And the stress that once felt manageable starts to feel permanent.

I know sometimes when I stop moving I feel like I could fall asleep right where I am. So we dug into why, and here’s what we learned:

Your stress is not the problem. Your relationship with it is.

Stress is information, not weakness

The first and most important thing to think about here is that stress is not a sign that something is wrong with you.

It is your nervous system doing exactly what it was designed to do: respond to challenge, signal that something matters, mobilize your resources for what is ahead.

The problem is not that you feel stressed.

The problem is that most of us were never taught how to read those signals, respond to them intentionally, or recover from them effectively.

We were taught to push through, power up, and perform regardless of what our bodies were saying.

That is not resilience. That is dysregulation with a productivity mask on. I know this all too well.

Nervous system literacy (or understanding your own stress patterns, knowing when you are moving into overwhelm, and having real tools to bring yourself back) is one of the most underrated professional skills a woman can develop.

It is not a wellness concept. It is a performance concept. A part of “Whole Woman Readiness”. And it is one of the core pillars of what we teach inside MELD.

Why growth periods feel so destabilizing

One thing that does not get talked about enough is that stress intensifies during growth periods. Not because something is going wrong, but because growth is inherently destabilizing.

New roles, higher visibility, bigger rooms, more complex relationships. All of it activates the nervous system because all of it is genuinely new territory.

This is the moment most women internalize the wrong story. They interpret the stress of growth as evidence that they are not ready, not qualified, or not capable of handling what they have worked hard to reach. In reality, the stress is just the nervous system recalibrating.

Anything worth doing comes with nerves - and those nerves should be heard, named and now, hopefully, thought about differently.

Understanding your own stress patterns during growth periods changes everything. What triggers them, how they show up in your body, and what brings you back to regulation.

It is the difference between navigating intensity and being swallowed by it.

Your body is part of the equation

We cannot talk about stress and anxiety without talking about the body, because the nervous system is not a metaphor. It is biology. And biology has some non-negotiable requirements.

Blood sugar fluctuations create anxiety that has nothing to do with your actual circumstances. Sleep deprivation impairs the prefrontal cortex, or the part of your brain responsible for decision-making, emotional regulation, and rational thought, in ways that compound every stressor you encounter.

Movement is not just exercise. It is one of the most effective tools for metabolizing stress hormones that the body actually produces.

This is not about having a perfect wellness routine. It is about understanding that your cognitive performance, emotional regulation, and capacity to handle pressure are directly tied to how well you are caring for your biological operating system.

This is where all those videos about diet, sleep and self-care collide because they’re not just nice to have, they’re actually necessary.

Self-care is not selfish. It is the foundation everything else runs on.

Energy is a resource you can manage

Think about the stress conversation this way: your energy is more valuable than your time. Time is fixed. Energy is renewable, but only if you treat it that way. Doesn’t that kind of change everything?

Most high-achieving women operate as reactive energy spenders. They give energy to whatever demands it most loudly: the urgent email, the difficult colleague, the meeting that could have been a message, the perfectionism spiral that keeps them revising something that was already good. By the time the work that actually matters arrives, there is nothing left.

Strategic energy investment looks different. It means knowing your peak energy windows and protecting them for high-stakes work. It means recognizing perfectionism not as a quality standard but as an energy drain. It means doing an honest ROI analysis on your commitments, not just whether something fits in your calendar, but whether it is worth what it costs you.

When you start treating energy as a finite and valuable resource, the relationship with stress begins to shift. Because many of the things producing anxiety are not genuinely high-priority demands. They are just loud.

Practical tools for real-time regulation

The goal is not to eliminate stress. The goal is to develop the capacity to handle intensity without breaking, and to recover faster when you do feel the impact.

A few practices worth building into your rhythm:

Before high-stakes moments:

Downregulate before you go in, not after. Three to five minutes of slow, extended exhales, where the out-breath is longer than the in-breath, activates the parasympathetic nervous system and brings your heart rate down. This is not a mindfulness exercise. It is a physiological reset.

During overwhelming moments:

Get somatic. When the nervous system is flooded, cognitive tools (telling yourself to calm down or reframing the situation) have limited effect because the thinking brain is temporarily offline. What works instead is sensation: cold water on your wrists, feet flat on the floor, slow deliberate movement. These are not tricks. They are the fastest routes back to regulation.

After high-visibility moments:

Build a downregulation ritual. Presentations, difficult conversations, negotiations, performance reviews. These activate the stress response regardless of how they go. Your body needs to complete the stress cycle before it can fully recover. That might be a walk, a specific playlist, a few minutes of stillness, or whatever genuinely signals to your nervous system that it is safe to come down.

In your daily rhythm:

Recovery is not a reward for hard work. It is the condition that makes hard work sustainable. Build recovery into your schedule the same way you build in meetings. Not as the thing you do when everything else is done, but as a non-negotiable part of how you operate. It’s a new practice, but it’s worth it.

What becomes possible on the other side

The women who develop nervous system literacy do not stop experiencing stress. They develop a different relationship with it. They can recognize what is happening in their body before it becomes overwhelming.

They can bring themselves back to regulation faster. They can walk into high-stakes moments with more confidence and clarity, not because they feel nothing, but because they have built the infrastructure to handle it.

That capacity changes everything. It changes how you negotiate. How you show up in difficult conversations. How you handle the moments that used to derail you for hours or days. How you recover.

You were not designed to run at maximum output indefinitely.

You were designed for cycles of intensity and recovery, of expansion and integration, of challenge and rest.

Learning to work with that rather than against it does not take you away from your ambition. It is the most ambitious thing you can do.

Most of us don’t think of ourselves as leaders yet. Especially early on, when the title isn’t there, the experience feels thin, and the path forward is anything but clear.

But here’s what we know to be true: leadership isn’t a destination you arrive at. It’s a story you’ve already been living. The question is whether you’ve taken the time to read it.

Today, we’re sharing a toolset from board and c-suite advisor Wendy Ryan — leadership expert, author, and creator of The Learn Lead Lift Framework^®— that we believe every woman in the MELD community should work through at least once.

It’s called Your Learn Lead Lift Story^TM, and it’s one of the most powerful tools we’ve come across for uncovering the mindsets, moments, and turning points that have quietly been shaping you as a leader all along.

This isn’t about having a polished origin story for your LinkedIn bio. It’s about getting honest with yourself — about what you’ve learned, how you’ve grown, and what you want to carry forward.

Why your story matters more than you think

Before we get into the exercise, let’s talk about why this is worth your time.

Sharing your leadership story does three things that almost nothing else can.

It grounds you in your why — the reason you show up, push through, and keep going even when it’s hard. It inspires others, because women seeing themselves in each other’s journeys is one of the most underrated forces for change. And it supports your own growth, because you can’t build on what you haven’t acknowledged.

Your story also matters in deeply practical ways.

Being able to articulate your leadership journey clearly and confidently changes how you show up in interviews, in rooms where decisions are being made, in mentorship conversations, and in spaces where you’re asking to be seen and taken seriously.

The women who know their story have an advantage. Not because they’ve had easier paths, but because they’ve done the work of understanding the path they’ve been on.

Start here: Seven questions worth sitting with

Before you build your story, you have to excavate it. Set aside 20 to 30 minutes, find a quiet space, and work through these questions honestly. There are no right answers. There is only your truth.

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There is a woman who spent four decades in a classroom trusting young people before they had earned it. Her students went on to build some of the most influential companies in the world. Her daughters run YouTube and 23andMe. And the framework she used to raise and teach all of them? It wasn’t a complicated system. It was five words.

Trust. Respect. Independence. Collaboration. Kindness.

Esther Wojcicki — educator, journalist, and the woman Forbes and Fortune call “The Godmother of Silicon Valley” — calls it TRICK.

She built it as a parenting framework. But here’s what nobody told you when you were sitting in class trying to figure out what you wanted to be: the space to test, try, fail, learn and grow is essential to where you’re headed.

You learn as much or more from getting something wrong as you do from getting something right. And the values that raise great humans are the same values that create great leaders.

And you don’t have to be a parent to start practicing them.

Why TRICK matters to you right now

We talk a lot about building careers. We talk about skills, networking, personal branding, getting in the right rooms. But we don’t talk nearly enough about the kind of person you are while you’re doing all of that.

The women who rise — really rise, in a way that lasts — aren’t just competent. They’re trusted. They’re respected. They know how to collaborate without losing themselves. They’re kind in a world that rewards ruthlessness. They’ve found a way to be brave when the pressure is to be perfect. And they’ve learned, usually the hard way, how to be independent thinkers in spaces that pressure them to conform.

Sound familiar? That’s TRICK. And every single one of those values is something you can build right now, in your career, your relationships, and the way you move through the world.

T is for Trust

Trust isn’t something you wait to be given. It’s something you build, consistently, over time, through the smallest actions. Showing up when you say you will. Being honest when it’s uncomfortable. Following through on the thing nobody is checking on.

Esther’s philosophy was radical in education because she extended trust to young people before they had proven themselves. She believed trust given was trust earned. And the result? Students who rose to meet it.

Think about the leaders you admire most. The managers, the mentors, the women who made you feel seen. The common thread is almost always this: they trusted you. They gave you room to figure it out. They didn’t micromanage or second-guess every move.

That’s the kind of leader you’re already deciding to become. And it starts with being trustworthy yourself, first in the small moments, then in the big ones.

R is for Respect

Respect in the TRICK framework isn’t about being polite or deferential. It’s about genuinely seeing people as whole human beings with something valuable to offer, regardless of their title, their background, or how different they are from you.

In a professional context, this shows up in how you listen in meetings. Whether you give credit. How you talk about people when they’re not in the room. Whether you treat the intern the same way you treat the executive.

This matters for your career because people remember how you made them feel long after they’ve forgotten what you said. The woman who respects everyone in the room, not just the most important person in it, is the woman people want to work with, advocate for, and bring into their inner circle.

And someday, if and when you do become a parent, this same principle will shape how your children see themselves — whether they feel respected as people, not just managed as kids.

I is for Independence

This one is personal for a lot of next-gen women, because independence can feel like a luxury when you’re early in your career and feel like you need to prove yourself at every turn.

But independence isn’t about going rogue or ignoring guidance. It’s about trusting your own instincts. Forming your own opinions. Being willing to say “I see it differently” in a room where everyone else is nodding.

Esther built independence into everything she taught because she knew that the world doesn’t need more people who can follow instructions. It needs people who can think for themselves when the instructions run out.

You already know what this feels like. It’s the moment you pitched an idea nobody asked for. The time you said no to something that wasn’t right for you even when it would have looked impressive. The decision you made based on your gut when everyone around you was waiting for permission.

That instinct is worth protecting. It’s worth practicing. Because the leaders who change things — in boardrooms, in communities, in families — are the ones who never fully outsourced their thinking to anyone else.

C is for Collaboration

Here’s the thing about collaboration that nobody says out loud: it’s actually hard. Real collaboration means sharing credit, changing your mind when someone else has a better idea, and holding space for perspectives that challenge your own.

It’s also one of the most irreplaceable human skills in a world that is rapidly automating everything else.

Esther’s framework centers collaboration because she understood early what researchers are confirming now — the problems worth solving are too complex for any one person, and the teams that figure them out are the ones who actually know how to work together.

For you, this means practicing collaboration now, not just as a workplace skill but as a way of being. Choosing to lift other women instead of competing with them. Asking for help without seeing it as weakness. Giving your full attention to someone else’s idea before jumping to your own.

These habits compound. The woman who genuinely collaborates builds a network, a reputation, and a community that carries her further than anything she could have built alone.

K is for Kindness

Kindness gets underestimated in professional spaces because somewhere along the way we confused it with softness. It isn’t soft. It’s one of the most strategic and sustainable things you can bring to any room.

Esther’s version of kindness isn’t passive. It’s active. It’s the choice to be generous when you don’t have to be. To extend grace to someone who is struggling. To lead with warmth in a culture that defaults to armor.

The kindest leaders tend to create the most loyal teams, the most honest feedback loops, and the most resilient cultures. People work harder for leaders who actually care about them. That’s not a soft truth. That’s just true.

And for the next-gen women reading this who are thinking about the kind of home they want to build someday — kindness is the value that creates safety. It’s what makes people feel like they can be honest with you. It’s what makes a house feel like a home and a team feel like a family.

The framework that works in both directions

What Esther understood — and what makes TRICK so quietly powerful — is that the values that raise great children are the same values that make great humans at every stage of life. You don’t suddenly become more trustworthy, more respectful, more collaborative, or kinder when you become a parent, or the boss. You bring whoever you already are into that role.

Which means the work you do now, on yourself, in your career, in your relationships, is not separate from the future you’re building. It’s the foundation of it.

The women in the MELD community are at the beginning of something. Careers that will evolve in ways we can’t fully predict. Relationships that will shape who they become. And for many of them, families they’ll build someday with intention and care.

TRICK isn’t just a parenting framework waiting for the right season of your life to apply. It’s a leadership framework. A relationship framework. A life framework.

And the best time to start living it is now.

Esther Wojcicki’s TRICK method is the backbone of the ParentingTRICK app, which offers personalized, expert-backed guidance for every stage of family life. Learn more at parentingchildren.com.

When we start our careers, we get handed a script that says being tired means you’re doing it right.

Late nights are proof of devotion, and there is always more coffee. But learning to question that script — and understanding what our bodies are actually telling us — is at the heart of Whole Woman Readiness, a core pillar of The MELD Method.

Today, from MELD’s Vault of Women’s Leadership Intelligence, we explore sleep with one of the most important voices on the subject.

That voice belongs to Lindsay Scola. First as a congressional staffer and then on the advance team for Barack Obama’s 2008 presidential campaign, she was flying into a new city every four to six days, regularly pulling all-nighters while managing events for crowds of 75,000 people and up across the country.

She was surrounded by the best and brightest in American politics.

But Lindsay was sneaking into bathroom stalls to sleep, convinced she was the only one who couldn’t keep up. She thought she was lazy.

At 35, after nineteen years of symptoms, Lindsay was diagnosed with narcolepsy.

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No one really prepares you for the moment after graduation when the structure disappears.

All your life, there has been a next thing: a syllabus, a semester, a deadline, and a GPA. Even when things were stressful, there was at least a path — or the illusion of one. And then suddenly, you graduate, and instead of feeling free, you feel… untethered.

I graduated without a plan. Not because I wasn’t trying…I was trying constantly.

Applications, interviews, networking calls, informational coffees that blurred together, LinkedIn deep dives, rewriting my resume for the hundredth time like that might be the version that finally unlocked something.

I was doing everything I was told to do. Everything I thought you were supposed to do.

And still, I was waiting. Watching friends announce jobs, and timelines move forward. The world started to feel oddly loud and quiet at the same time, while mine felt paused..

It was the first time in my life I didn’t know where I was headed, and that scared me more than I wanted to admit.

What no one really talks about is how personal the job search feels, even when you know, logically, that it isn’t. Rejections start to feel less like emails and more like judgments — about your intelligence, your choices, your instincts, and your worth.

When you’ve been a high-achiever for most of your life, uncertainty doesn’t just feel uncomfortable. It feels like you’ve done something wrong.

The Hardest Part

And the hardest part? There was nothing concrete to do about it.

You can’t will the right opportunity into existence on your timeline. You can only keep showing up, sending the email, taking the call, believing, or pretending to believe, that something will eventually click.

There were days I questioned everything. My major. My instincts. Whether I had missed some invisible memo everyone else seemed to receive. I felt behind before I’d even started, like I was already late to a life that hadn’t fully begun.

But here’s what I didn’t realize at the time: this period wasn’t wasted. It just didn’t come with external validation.

I was learning how to sit with discomfort. How to tolerate not knowing. How to keep moving without a map. Those aren’t skills you get graded on. No one applauds them. But they’re the ones I rely on most now.

Eventually (quietly, slowly, and not at all how I pictured) the right opportunity did come along. Not what I had initially imagined. Not on the timeline I had planned.

And not without detours I once thought meant failure. But when it arrived, it made sense in the way only hindsight ever does.

What I Wish Someone Had Told Me

What I wish someone had told me back in May is this: feeling uncertain after graduation doesn’t mean you’re behind. It usually means you’re early.

Early in a chapter that doesn’t come with instructions.

This is the first season where there’s no template. Where your worth isn’t tied to grades, titles, or acceptance letters. Where patience becomes part of the work, and trust becomes a skill.

If you’re in that in-between space right now — waiting, doubting, refreshing your inbox one more time — you’re not late. You’re not alone. You’re just learning how to live without a straight line.

And there is real power, and real beauty, in that.

I did not grow up enamored by business or learning about financial models.

I spent twenty years becoming good at other things: navigating the White House, implementing high-stakes communications, helping people tell important stories and building important partnerships for impact that extends farther than they can see.

Then I watched a generation of brilliant, ambitious women step into a fundamentally changed workforce with almost no infrastructure to support them.

I couldn’t stop thinking about it. And I couldn’t stop knowing, the way you know things in your body, that I was one of the few people who could do something about it.

So I didn’t wait. I started to build.

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Dear Class of 2026,

You’re about to walk across a stage, and you deserve a moment to feel proud of that. Really proud. Whatever it took to get here, you did it.

But we also know what’s sitting in the back of your mind.

The job search. The silence. The creeping feeling that you’re doing something wrong.

You’re not doing anything wrong. And we need you to hear that before we say anything else.

The Headlines

The headlines are saying that the Class of 2026 is entering the most challenging job market for new graduates in five years.

Employers are projecting just a 1.6% increase in hiring over last year, essentially flat. Nearly half of employers surveyed by the National Association of Colleges and Employers rated the job market for new grads as “fair,” the most pessimistic outlook since the first year of the pandemic.

Job postings on platforms like Handshake have fallen more than 16% year over year while applications per job have risen 26%.

The unemployment rate for recent college graduates reached 5.7% by the end of 2025, higher than the national average. And nearly 43% of college grads ages 22 to 27 are “underemployed,” meaning they’re working in jobs that don’t require the degree they earned, according to the Federal Reserve Bank of New York.

BlackRock CEO Larry Fink said this year’s graduates could experience the highest jobless rate in years, due in part to AI making more entry-level roles obsolete.

The “training ground” positions that used to be the on-ramp into a career? Companies are quietly eliminating them or filling them with experienced candidates willing to step down.

You’re not imagining it. This is real. And naming it matters, because the worst thing you can do in a hard market is internalize a systemic problem as a personal failure.

For women, it hits differently

A tight market doesn’t just add pressure. It amplifies the gaps that already exist.

Fewer entry-level roles means fewer entry points. And when experienced candidates compete for junior positions, the women already navigating confidence gaps, fewer sponsors, and less room for error feel it first and hardest.

We hear it in our MELD community constantly: rejection fatigue, identity getting tangled up in LinkedIn status, watching offer letters for friends flood your feed while you’re sitting on application number 47. The silence is brutal. The comparison is brutal.

It feels like you’re behind. But really, you’re navigating a system that’s changing in real time, without a map.

But there’s another side to this story

Here’s what most of the doom-and-gloom headlines leave out:

Despite the tough market, recent grads are adjusting and finding their footing. 77% of 2025 college grads landed their job within three months of earning their degree, up from 63% the year before. Internship postings are up 32% year over year. And employers expect to hire nearly 4% more interns and 5.6% more new grads in 2026 compared to last year.

The market is hard. But it’s not impossible. And the grads who are landing aren’t the ones with the most polished resumes. They’re the ones getting creative, getting intentional, and refusing to let a tough season define their whole trajectory.

So here’s what we’d tell you if you were sitting across from us right now

Stop playing the volume game. Applying to 150 jobs isn’t a strategy. It’s a coping mechanism. We get why you do it. It feels like progress. But mass applications with no targeting lead to mass silence. Instead, get intentional. Research the companies. Personalize the outreach. Build conversations, not just submissions.

Treat your experience creatively. The old gatekeepers want to see a tidy resume with the right internship at the right company. But the market is shifting toward skills-based hiring. Nearly 70% of employers now use skills-based hiring processes. Freelance counts. Projects count. Contract work counts. Retail and hospitality count. Stop discounting what you’ve already done and start framing it in terms of the skills it built.

Don’t self-select out. Women especially tend to wait until they meet 100% of the qualifications before applying. In a tight market, that instinct will cost you opportunities. Apply anyway. Ask for feedback out loud. Ask for introductions out loud. Visibility is leverage, especially when competition is high.

Your network is not optional, but it doesn’t require a commute. Professional isolation is one of the top pain points we hear from early-career women. The goal isn’t “network more.” It’s building genuine relationships with people who will advocate for you. One real conversation is worth more than 50 cold applications.

GPA matters less than you think. Only 42% of employers now screen for GPA, down from 73% in 2019. They care about demonstrated skills, internship experience, and your ability to communicate what you bring to the table. Lead with what you’ve done, not just what you’ve studied.

Take the “bridge job” without shame. About 1 in 5 employed recent grads say they intentionally applied below their level just to get a foothold. That’s not failure. That’s strategy. A bridge job pays your bills, builds your experience, and buys you time to keep looking for the right fit. There’s no shame in starting somewhere that isn’t the destination.

Learn the AI conversation, even if your job isn’t in tech. Over 13% of employers now say their jobs require AI skills, and that number is growing fast. You don’t need to become an engineer. But understanding how AI tools work, how they’re being integrated into workflows, and how to use them to make your work better is becoming table stakes across every industry.

The bigger picture

The linear career path is fracturing. First jobs are less stable and less defining than they used to be. The old ways of working aren’t working anymore.

But that means there’s a different kind of opening. Careers are becoming nonlinear, skill-based, and network-driven. The people learning to navigate ambiguity, build relationships with intention, and lead without a clear road are building something a smoother market never could have required.

You’re not entering the workforce at the wrong time. You’re entering it at a turning point. And the skills you’re being forced to develop right now, resilience, creativity, adaptability, the ability to build something from uncertainty, those are going to be the most valuable skills in the economy you’re walking into.

One last thing

We built MELD because we believe these lessons shouldn’t take a decade to learn. The guidance, the community, the real talk from women who’ve been exactly where you are right now, it should be waiting for you the moment you need it. Not five years later when you’ve already figured it out the hard way.

So if you’re a 2026 grad reading this: we see you. We’re not going to sugarcoat the market. But we’re also not going to let you sit in the silence alone.

You’re not behind. You’re just getting started. And you’re not doing it alone.

We’re rooting for you.

— MELD

If this resonated, share it with a grad who needs to hear it. And if you want more real talk on navigating your career, follow us on Instagram @meetmeld and subscribe to this Substack.

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Some of you have been with us since the very beginning of this Substack. And if you have been, you might remember our first few posts including one we wrote after hearing Emma Grede on the Mel Robbins podcast.

We literally pulled the car over.

What she shared stopped us mid-drive and we sat in a parking lot and wrote out everything it made us think and feel. [That post lives here.] Emma Grede has been a North Star for MELD ever since. The kind of woman whose story, work ethic, and commitment to bringing other women with her represents exactly what we’re building toward. So when the internet came for her this week over a single quote, we had to say something.

If you’ve been online, you’ve seen the back and forth.

Emma Grede, founding partner of SKIMS, CEO of Good American, first Black woman investor on Shark Tank, and author of the newly released Start With Yourself, said something on Keke Palmer’s podcast that lit the internet on fire: remote work is a “career killer” for women.

Before we get into the nuance, we need to say something directly.

We’ve watched this happen too many times. A woman with a career full of extraordinary accomplishment, leadership, and genuine service to other women gets reduced to a single clipped quote. Her body of work disappears. The pile-on begins. And suddenly we’re all debating a soundbite instead of the substance.

Let’s not do that anymore, shall we?

Emma Grede has spent years pulling other women up. That context matters. We’re not going to throw it out because one take was complicated. And neither should you.

Now, to the take itself.

What Emma’s actually saying

Grede’s argument isn’t about loving offices or hiding your slippers while you’re on Zoom. It’s about proximity to power. Decisions get made in meetings. Assignments get handed out in hallways. Raises get signed off by people who know your face. When you’re remote, you might be easier to overlook.

She has a point. Grede grew up on a council estate in East London, raised by a single mother, left school at 15, is openly dyslexic, and built a multi-hundred-million dollar career from scratch. Her visibility strategy wasn’t theoretical. It was survival. She built a lot of her relationships in person.

She’s also said that she believes women are already fighting for visibility in male-dominated workplaces, and that removing yourself from the room makes an already uphill battle steeper. That part deserves a real conversation.

What the research actually says

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Confidence can show up in all kinds of ways, and our favorite new phrase is “financial confidence”. That means your ability to comfortably talk and work with money.

To be financially confident, you have to be financially literate, which means you understand the language and the process of money. But without that understanding, that’s where confidence gets shaky.

Here's the thing about financial literacy: it’s not just budgeting and bank accounts and calculators. But the real gap isn’t math. It’s mindset.

Most of us left school knowing how to analyze a case study but not how to read a pay stub. We can build a pitch deck but can’t decode our own benefits package. We know what ROI means in theory, but we’ve never applied it to our own lives.

So for Financial Literacy Month, we’re sharing five money shifts that actually change the game, especially if you’re early in your career, still figuring it out, and tired of feeling behind. And we’re bringing in real guidance from our partners at William Blair, who know a thing or two about building wealth from the ground up.

Rewrite your money story

Before you fix your finances, you have to look at your beliefs about money. And most of those beliefs? They’re not even yours.

Maybe you grew up hearing “we can’t afford that” or “money is the root of all evil” or “people like us don’t do that.” Maybe wealth feels like something that happens to other people. Maybe you feel guilty when you earn more than the people around you.

That’s your inherited money story. And it runs the show until you rewrite it.

Financial literacy starts with separating your net worth from your self-worth. It starts with giving yourself permission to want more. More security, more freedom, more options. Without guilt. You’re not being greedy. You’re being intentional.

The shift: Money isn’t good or bad. It’s a tool. And you get to decide what you build with it.

Know your numbers, not just your salary

Quick quiz. Do you know:

• Your actual monthly cash flow (not just what you earn, but what goes where)?

• Your credit score, and what it actually means?

• What your employer matches on your 401k?

• The real terms of your student loans?

• How your benefits package actually works?

No shame if the answer is “not really.” Most of us were never taught this stuff, and the systems aren’t exactly designed to be transparent.

But here’s the reality: you can’t build wealth on vibes.

Your salary is one number. Your financial picture is dozens of numbers working together: cash flow, debt-to-income ratio, net worth, insurance coverage, tax obligations. When you understand them, you stop making decisions in the dark.

One framework that can help? The 50/30/20 rule.

Our partners at William Blair recommend allocating roughly 50% of your income to essentials (housing, bills), 30% to discretionary spending (dining out, travel), and 20% to saving and investing. If you have debt like student loans or credit cards, build those payments into the plan too. It’s not a perfect formula for everyone, but it’s a starting point that takes the guesswork out of where your money should go.

And here’s a practical move that makes a huge difference: automate everything you can.

Set up direct deposit, auto-contributions to your retirement accounts, and autopay on loans and credit cards. When the right habits run on autopilot, you’re less likely to fall off track.

The shift: Don’t just know what you make. Know what you keep, what you owe, and what you’re building toward.

Stop saving your way to wealth. Learn to invest.

Let’s be direct: a savings account earning 0.5% interest while inflation runs at 3% means you’re losing money by saving it. Savings accounts are for emergencies and short-term goals. They are not a wealth strategy.

The good news? Time is the single greatest advantage you have right now. William Blair illustrates this with a powerful example: three investors each put away $5,500 per year at a 6.5% return. The one who started early and stayed consistent accumulated over half a million dollars more than the one who started just 10 years later over the same time period. Same annual contribution. Dramatically different outcome. That’s the power of starting now.

So where do you actually start? A few moves to consider:

• Your 401k. If your employer offers matching contributions, contribute at least enough to get the full match. That’s free money.

• A Roth IRA. If you’re eligible, try to contribute the maximum each year. Your future self will thank you.

• A Health Savings Account (HSA). If you qualify, this is one of the most underrated tools out there. Contributions are tax-deductible, earnings grow tax-free, and withdrawals for qualified medical expenses are also tax-free. William Blair recommends treating it like a long-term investment account: contribute the max and pay for current medical expenses out of pocket so the HSA can keep growing.

You don’t need to become a stock picker or a crypto bro. Start with the basics: understand your options, learn what an index fund is, figure out your risk tolerance. The goal isn’t to know everything. The goal is to start before you think you’re ready.

The shift: Saving protects you. Investing builds for you. You need both, but most of us are only doing one.

Learn to negotiate like your future depends on it

Because it literally does.

Research consistently shows that people who negotiate their starting salary earn significantly more over their lifetime than those who don’t. One conversation. Lifetime impact.

And yet so many of us don’t negotiate. We don’t want to seem ungrateful, we don’t know our market rate, and nobody ever taught us how.

Here’s what to know: negotiation isn’t confrontation. It’s a professional conversation about value. And it applies to everything. Your salary, your freelance rate, your next raise, your role expectations, even your workload.

Start by knowing what you’re worth (sites like Glassdoor, Levels.fyi, and Payscale exist for a reason). Understand total compensation beyond base salary. Stock options, bonuses, benefits, and flexibility all have real dollar value.

William Blair also points out that many employers offer benefits most people overlook: tuition reimbursement, profit sharing, employee assistance programs.

These are all part of your compensation, and understanding the full picture gives you more leverage when you negotiate.

And practice actually saying the words out loud. It gets easier.

The shift: The money you don’t ask for is money you’ll never get. Negotiation is a skill, and like every skill, it improves with practice.

Talk about money with the people in your life

This one’s uncomfortable. And that’s exactly why it matters.

Money shows up in every relationship you have. Splitting rent with a roommate. Figuring out what “fair” looks like when your friend makes twice your salary. Lending money to family. Dating on a budget without feeling weird about it. Splitting the check or the expenses for the girls’ trip. Being the “successful one” in your family and feeling the pressure that comes with it.

We avoid these conversations because they feel awkward or taboo. But avoiding them doesn’t make the tension go away. It just makes it grow.

Financial compatibility conversations with a partner, boundaries around lending to family, even just being honest with friends about what you can and can’t afford right now. These talks are acts of self-respect.

One more thing: protect your credit

This one doesn’t get talked about enough, especially early in your career. Your credit score is essentially a report card for your financial life, and it follows you everywhere. It determines what interest rates you’ll pay on loans and mortgages, which means a strong score literally saves you money over time.

William Blair highlights a few habits worth building now: always pay your bills on time, only charge what you can pay off in full each month, and keep long-standing accounts open even if you’re not using them regularly. Set up alerts to track your spending, and review your credit report at least once a year to catch errors and protect yourself from fraud.

It’s not glamorous, but it’s the kind of quiet discipline that compounds just like your investments do.

The bigger picture

Financial literacy isn’t a one-time lesson. It’s an ongoing practice. Part mindset, part systems, part courage. It’s knowing your numbers and knowing your worth. It’s building wealth and building the confidence to talk about it openly.

That’s exactly what we’re building at MELD.

Our Financial Literacy curriculum, developed with partners like William Blair, covers everything from rewriting your money mindset to investment fundamentals, negotiation frameworks, and navigating money in relationships.

All designed specifically for women in their 20s who are done feeling behind and ready to take control.

Because money isn’t just about money. It’s about freedom. And freedom looks really good on you.

What money lesson do you wish someone had taught you earlier? Reply and tell us. We read everything.

And if this resonated, share it with someone who needs to hear it. Financial literacy is better as a group project.

We started MELD with a question that kept coming up in every conversation we had with ambitious women: Why does personal growth still feel so fragmented?

You read the book. You listen to the podcast. You save the guidance of an influencer in one app, journal in another, and try to keep it all together in your head. The insights you need are out there — scattered across a dozen tabs, half-finished notebooks, emails from your mom and feedback from your manager or teacher. But all of this advice doesn’t really feel like it was meant for you. For what you’re working on, and what you’re working through.

We wanted to build something different. And today, we want to share where we are.

What we’ve been building

MELD is a professional growth platform designed specifically for women navigating their careers, confidence, and next chapter. Here’s what it looks like in practice:

A personalized onboarding that actually listens. When you join MELD, we don’t just ask your name and throw you into a dashboard. We ask about your field, your goals, where you are in your career, and we use that to shape everything you see next. The platform learns what resonates with you from day one.

AI-powered goal setting that meets you where you are. After onboarding, MELD drafts a set of goals based on what you shared, with things like “Build Confidence Through Public Speaking” or “Expand Your Professional Network in Technology.” You choose the ones that resonate, skip the ones that don’t, and ask for different angles if something’s close but not quite right. Then each goal breaks down into real, actionable steps, not vague aspirations, but things like “Write a 3-minute speech on a familiar topic” and “Present it to a close friend and ask for feedback.”

A Discover page filled with curated content from a rich network. We’re building what we call the Vault of Women’s Leadership Intelligence ™ — a searchable library of content you can filter by topic, career moment, and emotional mindset, from women across our network. Whether you need help with high-stakes presentations or managing intense work moments, the content connects back to your goals.

Daily journaling with a mood check-in. Your journal isn’t just a blank page. MELD asks “How are you showing up today?” — from “Meh” to “Thriving” — and generates a reflection prompt tailored to where you are. There’s also a Fragments tab for capturing those quick sparks: an inspiring quote, a fleeting idea, an insight worth holding onto.

A home experience that keeps you moving. Your MELD homepage brings it all together — daily goal check-ins, personalized content recommendations, and an “Ask MELD Anything” (AMA, obviously) feature powered by AI and grounded in our community’s collective knowledge.

As the product expands in the coming months, all of these fragments help build your “mini memoir”- talking points about yourself that you can use in major moments like networking, interviews and the dinner table with your friends’ parents.

What we’re learning

Building MELD has taught us a few things we didn’t fully expect:

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