✨Why you need to do this workshop? ✨

I believe possibilities are unlimited when three elements come together: alignment, clarity, and dedication.

When you know where you’re going, when your actions align with your values, and when you commit fully, momentum builds and transformation follows.

That’s why I created this template. Below, you’ll find everything you need for a two-hour workshop designed to help you identify what you truly want to do and accelerate toward it. It’s a framework to set yourself up for the last 99 days of 2025 with intention and focus.

This is more than a session: it’s a chance to reset, realign, and put everything in motion for the results you want to see before the year ends.

And I’m happy to give it away, because I know the difference it can make when you have the right tools and space to take action.

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Part 1 - Reflection

Step 1: Capturing 2025 in One Word

• Write one word that describes how 2025 has gone for you so far.

• Write another word that represents your intention for the rest of the year.

Step 2: Review Your Year So Far

Reflect on:

• What were your intentions for 2025?

• What goals did you set for yourself?

• What new learnings did you gain?

• What progress are you proud of?

• What fears slowed you down?

✍️ Task: Acknowledge both your progress and what held you back. Write it down on paper and keep it aside for later.

Step 3: Take Stock of the Present Moment

• Identify where you are now.

• Ask yourself: How do I feel at this point in the year?

Step 4: Dream Without Limits

• Make a list of 10 things you want to do in life.

• Don’t think rationally about feasibility or timing.

• The wilder and bigger the dream, the better.

✨ The goal: free yourself from limitations and let your imagination expand.

Part 2 – Action

Step 1: Project Yourself into the Future

Imagine it is January 1st, 2026. You are looking back on the past few months and reflect on:

• What are you proud of?

• Where are you now?

• How do you feel?

• What achievements did you accomplish?

• How has your life changed?

✍️ Task: Write in detail as if you were living this end state.

Step 2: Define Your Top 3 Priorities to attain the end state

• Identify the three most important things you need to focus on right now that will help you reach that vision by January 1st, 2026:

  • OBJECTIVE 1 ___________

  • OBJECTIVE 2 ___________

  • OBJECTIVE 3 ___________

• These should be the biggest levers for change in your life.

Step 3: Translate Priorities into OKRs

• For each of your top 3 priorities, define:

  • Objectives – What is your “why?” you want to achieve/have this so much?

  • Key Results – The 3 concrete steps that will ensure success (make them SMART - specific, measurable, achievable, relevant and time-bound).

• Ask yourself:

  • What needs to happen for this to become real?

  • What will keep me aligned with who I want to be on January 1st, 2026?

Step 4: Make It Visual

• Transform your priorities and OKRs into a visual representation you can see daily.

• Options:

  • Phone wallpaper

  • Computer wallpaper

  • Printed sheet on your wall or whiteboard.

Example: If your goal is to lose weight → outline your nutrition plan, exercise routine.

Example: If your goal is to save money → define how much per month and where you’ll cut costs.

Step 5: Build Your Master Plan

• Define your strategies for accountability and consistency.

• Think about:

  • Your routines,

  • Your systems for tracking progress,

  • How you’ll hold yourself accountable,

  • Who you need to embody in order to make progress.

✨The goal: Arrive at January 1st, 2026, proud of how you executed your plan.

➕Bonus Step: Release What Holds You Back

• Revisit the fears and blockers you wrote down earlier.

• Acknowledge them one last time.

• Let them go — by throwing them away, burning them, or any symbolic act of release.

The last chapter of the year is still unwritten—make these 99 days the proof of what you’re truly capable of.

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So as always, let’s build the future we envision for ourselves, one step at a time.

Wishing you clarity, focus, and success.

Maïssane

The ambition vs action freeze zone is one I am too familiar with. But this time, I recognized a pattern: what I once saw as my biggest strenghts were actually becoming my biggest obstacles.

The culprits? Raging ambition, multipassionality, and perfectionism. A powerful cocktail that first makes me feel unstoppable. Like I’m on top of my game; before I crash, feeling overwhelmed, uncertain and frustrated.

What you’ll take away:

• Confidence fades but self-trust stays.

• That inner voice? Not always telling the truth.

• You don’t need to feel ready to take action.

• Self-trust can be built and grows by showing up for yourself, again and again.

Keep reading to explore how I’m learning to trust myself — and how you can too.

The Spiral Between Dreaming and Doing

The hardest part is that feeling that has been chasing me for years, that I am not my best self, that I can do much more.

Without knowing what direction to go, I end up running on the spot with a fuming brain.

It’s the gap left between dreaming and doing. Between wanting to, planning to and actually putting the plan into action.

“Maybe I don’t have it in me to try and take risks. Maybe I’ll stay stuck here forever,” the little voice in my head kept saying.

Of course, social media adds fuel to the inner fire. It makes the voice saying “you should be doing more” much louder.

Comparison is the icing on the cake (or the cherry for my fellow frenchies), spotlighting everything you haven’t done. Ultimately impacting my self-image.

I always thought of myself as someone confident, but that vicious cycle was crushing that idea. It was like two parts of my identity clashing.

But what if the voice in my head wasn’t the one I was meant to focus on?

Realization Isn’t the Anchor: Self-Trust Is

That’s when I started dinstinguishing between two things I thought were the same fo the longest time…

Here’s the whole point I’ve been circling around: Confidence is NOT self-trust.

These two concepts often get intertwined, but they do not serve the same purpose...

Confidence comes and goes. It varies depending on the area or the subject. It is what you show to the outside world; something you wear like a garment.

Self-trust is deeply rooted within. It is what you know to be true about yourself. Something you carry at all times and no one can take away from you.

Confidence is time-bound. It crumbles sometimes, depending on circumstances. But self-trust? That’s my unshakable base. It tells me: “You got this. You’ve done hard things before. You’ll do it again.”

If you’re on a journey, like me, trying new things, hard things even, it is supposed to be hard.

To overcome it, you do not need to feel confident. You need to trust yourself enough to start and keep going.

Give yourself the chance to build confidence in that area because you trust yourself.

The Voice That Lies to Keep You Safe

The little voice in your head will always be there.
Its role isn’t to slow you down, or sabotage you but to protect you.

It tells you you’re taking a big risk, that you’ll never succeed: it lies to you to keep you in the safe zone. Because the unknown is labeled by your brain as the danger zone.

So keep in mind that what the little voice says isn’t always true.

No matter how loud the whispered lies become, remember your pace is valid, and your timeline is yours to design.
The goal isn’t to be fearless, but to act and keep going even in fear, deeply rooted in trust.

The little voice may shake your confidence every now and then, but your self-trust is the lifeline helping you remember who you are and what you are capable of.

Hold on to it.

Building Self-Trust, One Step at a Time

So how do you actually build self-trust?

I’ll be 100% honest with you: I’m not sure there’s a specific method.

I believe that self-trust is something you build through life experiences, through steps where you prove to yourself you can trust your instincts, your skills, your judgment.
Because when doubt creeps in, remembering past wins can be the anchor you need.

What I can share with you, though, is the habits that helped me identify, and anchor what I now believe to be true about myself. My unshakable self-trust:

I used to journal affirmations until they were fully part of who I am.
I repeated the same truths to myself until they stuck. Until life experiences proved to me they were true and I was right all along.

Now, I don’t even need the notebook anymore. It’s in me.

Another thing was setting little challenges for myself. Sometimes the stakes were high, other times much lower: I started playing soccer 3 times a week, I signed up to facilitate a UN simulation with 200 young adults, I began running 3 times a week…

There are no rules. The main goal was to have an objective and prove, to myself I had everything needed within me to go after what I wanted.

And slowly, there it was: I may not be confident all the time but I sincerely trust myself.

So show up for yourself. Keep promises, even tiny ones. And let the trust compound.

Less Insight. More Action

Now, if I’m honest, I’m entering a phase in my life where I need more action than ever.

The goal isn’t to collect more insight, it’s to take more action.
And maybe, that’s true for you too.

So here’s where I leave you with the realest part of all:

From me to you, I’m scared.
I’m not confident. But I’m still doing it.
Because I trust myself.

And I believe you should too.

So as always, let’s build the future we envision for ourselves, one step at a time.

Wishing you clarity, focus, and success.

Maïssane

I haven’t written here since May.

Not because I had nothing to say or didn’t want to engage with you, but because I needed space.
To reflect. To realign. To figure out what I really want to build and how I want to show up.

What I’m actually bringing to the table.

And the truth is: I want to create more.
More freely. More honestly. With less pressure and more presence.

I’ve spent the last few weeks reconnecting with a deep desire for clarity and freedom not just for myself, but for anyone navigating change, ambition, uncertainty, or reinvention.

I’ve been chatting with others mirroring that same drive for more within themselves and that reminded me of my purpose to deliver the necessary tools and inspiration to help you on your own journey.

Sharing all the ressources and inner dialogues that helped me on the way.

So here’s what you can expect moving forward:

• Letters that feel like truth in motion.

• Stories from the in-between: that weird, wild space between the life you have and the life you’re building.

• Tools, questions, and thoughts I wish I had known sooner.

This newsletter is still called “I Wish I Knew”, and it still holds the same intention:
to be a space for reflection, honesty, and expansion.

Thanks for still being here. I’m excited for what comes next and I’m so glad to share it with you.

So as always, let’s build the future we envision for ourselves, one step at a time.

Wishing you clarity, focus, and success.

Maïssane

But the truth is, not choosing is a choice.
And it comes with a cost — sometimes a quiet one, sometimes a more brutal one.

I learned that the hard way.

The True Cost of Waiting With No Direction

There was a time — not too long ago — when I knew deep down I needed to leave a situation. It wasn’t aligned anymore with who I was becoming. But I stayed. Not because it felt right, but because I kept telling myself I wasn’t “sure enough” or “not ready yet”. That I needed more time. More clarity. More… something.

What I didn’t realize then is that choosing to wait wasn’t neutral — it was a quiet form of self-betrayal. I wasn’t standing still; I was letting the decision shape itself without me. Letting it chart my course, carry me along, and decide what my life would look like — without my consent.

And in the end, I paid for it: in energy, in confidence, in a creeping sense of regret I carried for months and that was harder to build back than I could ever explain within these few lines.

That moment taught me something I come back to often:

• Indecision isn’t passive.

• It’s a decision to stay put — even when something in you already knows it’s time to move.

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The Romanticized Inaction Keeping You Small

We live in a world that romanticizes waiting. For the perfect moment. The perfect job. The perfect partner. That cycle can keep you still forever if you let it, really.

But what does that really mean?

There’s this French line that went viral a few months back:
“Il avait besoin de s’asseoir 30 secondes, il s’est assis 20 ans.”
("He just needed to sit down for 30 seconds — he sat for 20 years.”)

That line hit me hard.

Because how often do we do the same?
We “wait” a little longer… and suddenly, years have passed. Nothing changed — not because we didn’t want to — but because we didn’t move. Didn’t take action.

Waiting might feel safe. But it’s often just a socially accepted way of staying small.
Of not rocking the boat.
Of settling into a life that doesn’t really challenge or reflect us.

And the emotional cost? Huge:

• Regret,

• Anxiety,

• The slow erosion of confidence,

• The gut-deep feeling that you’re watching your life instead of living it.

Fighting Against the Paralyzing Freeze Zone

Some decisions feel heavier than others — not because they are impossible, but because of what they represent. Risk. Change. Visibility. Loss. And when that weight builds up, we freeze. We stall. We wait for clarity, or certainty, or some kind of liberating sign from the universe that it’s finally okay to move.

But here’s the truth: the longer you stay frozen, the harder it becomes to remember you can move. That you’ve moved before. That you’ve made hard choices and lived to tell the story.

This section is your invitation to unfreeze. To examine what’s really holding you back, and to start making decisions for yourself again, even if they’re small. Especially if they’re small.

Because the antidote to paralysis isn’t confidence, it’s action.

Here are a few steps you can take to start moving again:

1. Notice what kinds of decisions paralyze you - how do they look, feel, get triggered

2. Name the real block — is it fear? pressure? perfectionism? lack of information?

3. Ask yourself:

• What’s the best-case scenario if I act?

• What’s the worst-case scenario?

• What’s the cost of staying exactly where I am right now?

If the worst case isn’t fatal — to your health, your values, your people — it’s probably survivable. Which means it’s probably doable.

If you’re someone who craves security like I do (I feel you), start small. Take calculated risks. Think of it like building a muscle: every time you decide something, even tiny, you reinforce that you can handle uncertainty.

And that’s a powerful story to tell yourself.

The Magic Sauce’s Main Ingredient: the Evidence Portfolio

Building confidence doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time, intentional action — and above all, it takes proof.

Proof is powerful. It cuts through the noise when doubt creeps in. It reminds you of what you’re capable of, even when the voices in your head get loud and tell you otherwise.

Start your own Evidence Portfolio — a living record of every time you chose action over fear, no matter how small. The decisions you made, the risks you took, the lessons you earned. These are your receipts. Your proof. So when self-doubt shows up (and it will), flip through it and remind yourself: you don’t need to wait until you feel ready — you already have evidence that you can do hard things.

Reclaming Authorship To Your Own Story

Indecision is how we quietly hand over authorship of our own stories.

But you? You have the amazing capacity to be your own writer. Your own editor. The main character.

You’re the captain of your own ship — and no one else should be steering.

Because the longer you wait for the “perfect moment,” the more you risk missing out on the life you actually want.

And that, is not the ambition I have for you.

What decision have you been postponing — and what might shift if you made even a small move today?
Hit reply or drop it in the comments. I’d love to hear from you.

Let’s build the future we envision for ourselves, one step at a time.

Wishing you clarity, focus, and success.

Maïssane

So it makes sense that the number one thing I fantasize about sounds like: “What if I could give this version of me a heads-up?” or “How different would things be if I knew this earlier?”

If I could give it a shot — sit down with my younger self for just an hour — here’s the top 25 lessons I’d share.

Why 25 lessons? Well, I just turned 26, and I figured 25 lessons for each year I’ve lived so far was the bare minimum. And honestly, I think these lessons might help you too.

Buckle up, here’s the good, the bad and the ugly :

Clarity - The Mindset Shifts That Changed Me For The Better

Lessons that reframed how I see life, success, and myself.

1. Nobody’s coming to save you.
   You need to build your own lifeboat — and start paddling. Waiting for someone else to fix things for you doesn’t solve the problem—it just moves it elsewhere.

2. Doubt is normal.
   Living in it forever isn’t. At some point, you have to move past the uncertainty and take action, even if it’s not perfect. Don’t let your doubts control you.

3. Perfectionism is fear in disguise.
   It’s procrastination dressed up in productivity as a way to avoid real work. The greatest distraction from impact.

4. Saying “I don’t know” is powerful.
   Pretending you do is how people stay stuck. It creates a false sense of security, keeping you from acknowledging what you truly don’t know or where you need growth. Stop pretending—it will leave more space for growth.

5. Most things are figureoutable.
   You’re more resourceful than you think. Chances are, you already have everything you need—whether it’s the knowledge, the tools, or the drive—to create something incredible. You just need to trust in your own ability to connect the dots and make the magic happen.

6. Growth feels uncomfortable.
   That’s how you know you’re doing it right and that you’re headed the right way. Keep going and you’ll see how the journey was really worth it.

7. Your story is still being written.
   If you are not happy with where you are at the moment, you still get to write the script of your own life. So stop comparing your draft to someone else’s final cut.

Action - What I Do Differently Now

Lessons that moved me from knowing to doing.

8. Discipline beats motivation every time.
   Motivation is a guest. Discipline is a lifestyle. Relying on motivation is like relying on luck, discipline is much more powerful.

9. Confidence is a skill, not a personality trait.
   You get better at being confindent by doing hard things and proving to yourself that you are capable of greatness. Suddenly, other people’s opinions don’t matter as much.

10. Stop asking for permission.
    Most people are figuring it out as they go — just like you. So allow yourself to try and go for it before you get eaten up by your own regrets.

11. Your boss is not your career plan.
    You are. So stop attaching your future and potential to people around you, you’re the only one that cares enough about your career to make something out of it.

12. Learn to sell.
    Your ideas, your value, your story — they deserve to be heard. I used to despise people in sales - turns out it is the most valuable skill I’ve learned in the past decade. Learn how to sell, you’ll see potential everywhere around you.

13. Curiosity will take you further than ambition.
    It keeps you learning long after the goalposts move. Life doesn’t end after you get into you dream college, not even after you get you dream job. Keep using your curiosity as a compass to embark on new adventures to keep growing.

14. You don’t need to monetize every passion.
    Some things are worth doing just because they light you up. You know what they say: "a passion becomes a job when it starts to feel like a requirement rather than a choice”.

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Connection - People, Boundaries, and Energy

Lessons that transformed how I relate to others — and myself.

15. Friends who don’t clap when you win?
    They were never in your corner to begin with. As times goes by, it’s much easier to spot them. The hardest part is to listen to the cue at the right moment and act on it.

16. Boundaries aren’t rude.
    They’re how you protect your peace. And they are free, so use them whenever they are needed (guilt-free).

17. Don’t outsource your self-worth.
    No job title, relationship, or paycheck should define you. Self-worth is and will always be a resource found within yourself. Don’t ever go digging for it elsewhere - you’ll end up losing yourself on the way, no matter how shiny the chase seems.

18. People forget what you said.
    On the other hand, people always remember how you made them feel—every time. Use this as a compass for yourself as well: When was the last time someone made you feel good in their company, and not like you were just a timeblock on their agenda?

19. Networking isn’t sleazy.
    It’s how things move — people open doors, not résumés. Hated this fact for a long time, but truth is connections will take you further than any perfectly written CV ever will.

Pace - Time, Energy, and Sustainability

Lessons that helped me stop sprinting toward burnout.

20. Time is your most valuable currency.
    Spend it on what both matters and saves you time, that will save you some peace of mind.

21. “Busy” doesn’t mean “important.”
    Productivity without purpose is just noise. Don’t get influenced by people chasing after looking busy but by the ones finding all the nice shortcuts. That’s where the money is.

22. Rest is productive.
    Burnout doesn’t make you a hero — just exhausted. Learn to take time to fill your cup first before anything else, it’ll save you on countless occasions.

23. Success without peace is failure in disguise.
    You can win the game and still lose yourself. Waking up from that realization hurts, trust me. Identify wisely the battles worth fighting for and thank me later.

Evolution - Keep Becoming To Keep Thriving

Lessons that remind me life is iterative, and so am I.

24. If you’re the smartest person in the room, change rooms.
    Surround yourself with people who challenge your thinking — not the ones who expect you to have all the answers.
    It’s uncomfortable, sure. But that’s where the real evolution starts.

25. Your degree matters way less than your ability to learn fast.
    The real flex is adaptability and a strong capacity to absorb anything, market yourself as such and you’ll see countless doors opening themselves to you.

Some of these lessons took me years to learn. Others, I’m still actively working on. But the sooner you internalize even a few of them, the faster everything changes — not just your results, but your perspective and whole experience of life.

If even one of these hits at the right time for you, this was worth writing.

Which lesson hit the hardest for you? Let me know, I’d love to hear your perspective on these!

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Let’s build the future we envision for ourselves, one step at a time.

Wishing you clarity, focus, and success—as always.

Maïssane

After all, we live in a world where confidence is often mistaken for competence. But what if not knowing was a strength rather than a weakness? What if it was the key to growth, creativity, and even joy?

That’s the question I’m diving into today—and I’m bringing you along for the ride.

The Little Fable of Ego in the Land of Knowing
The pressure to appear to know everything ties back to ego. It’s hard to admit our limits, especially in some cultures—like my own in France—where there’s a subtle (and sometimes not-so-subtle) pressure to appear knowledgeable about everything. Society itself also reinforces this. Schools and workplaces reward quick answers over thoughtful exploration, and the always-on culture has made knowing synonymous with performing.

Here’s the paradox: true incompetence isn’t admitting you don’t know—it’s pretending you do. Growth comes from identifying gaps in your knowledge, not from filling conversations with surface-level opinions. Recognizing what you don’t know creates space for learning, curiosity, and if you are lucky and push the journey far enough it can go as far as mastery.

Put simply, your ego might be the biggest obstacle between you and your growth—not to mention the amazing opportunities you're missing along the way.

Curiosity as a Compass: The Beauty of Blank Spaces
For me, curiosity is a guide. An opportunity, even. The moment I sense there’s something I don’t understand, I lean into it. Embrace it. I look things up, not because I want to appear knowledgeable, but because I genuinely want to learn. With this mindset, I’ve found that boredom becomes impossible—every blank space becomes an opportunity to explore.

Not knowing is like staring at a blank canvas. It’s an invitation to create, to discover, and to connect. And here’s the thing: not everything needs to be known. There’s beauty in the mystery, in the potential of what could be, and in the freedom to fill the gaps in ways that are meaningful to us.

The Antidote to Hyper-Performance
In today’s world, we’re drowning in information. It’s like an ocean that’s always pulling us deeper, leaving little room to breathe. Embracing uncertainty might be the antidote—a chance to step back, to ask better questions, and to resist the pressure to always have an answer.

True strenght doesn’t lie in knowing everything. It’s in admitting when you don’t. It’s in saying, “I don’t know, but I’m curious to find out.” It’s in leaving space for exploration and embracing the richness of diversity—of perspectives, knowledge, and ideas.

Embrace what you don’t know—it might lead you to the most exciting adventures of your life. And truly, I couldn’t wish for anything greater for you. :)

What blank spaces are you staring at this week? Instead of filling them with rushed and approximative answers, take a moment to wonder and let me know down in the comments. Let curiosity guide you. Let “I don’t know” be your starting point.

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Wishing you clarity, focus, and success.

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This week, I came to the realization that we do not need more information, but more action.

It started with a conversation with a friend. We were catching up when they shared an idea they’d been toying with for years. It was exciting, ambitious, and exactly the kind of thing that could make a real impact. But as they talked, a pattern emerged—they weren’t taking steps toward it. Instead, they were drowning in research.

“I just need to gather a bit more information before I start”, we’ve all been there. So much so that that phrase sounds oddly familiar.

In that moment, I realized something profound: No one wants to be remembered as the person who knew everything they needed to but did nothing. Yet, so many of us fall into this trap—myself included. We become so engrossed in learning, planning, and perfecting that we forget the most critical piece: action.

The Trap of Endless Preparation in The Era of Constant Information

We live in the era of information. Anything you want to know is a click, scroll, or podcast away. It’s an incredible gift, but it’s also a curse. Because the more we consume, the more we’re convinced that we’re not ready yet—sometimes pushing start on the next YouTube video before we even get to digest fully the content of the previous. Trapped into the false belief that we need one more article, one more book, one more course before we can take the first step.

But where does that bring us? For many, it brings us to the same spot we started. Information alone doesn’t create change. It’s intelligence—the ability to apply what we know to transform behavior—that moves the needle.

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Information vs. Intelligence

Information meets Intelligence at a crossroads. The subtle difference between them forms the foundation of the spectrum you stand on—defining whether you are a knower or a doer— able to transform information into something tangible.

In other words, information is knowing how to do something. Intelligence is doing it. It is the ability to take in the information and use it. The difference is subtle but life-changing. Intelligence requires action, even when it’s imperfect, messy, or incomplete. Adapting your actions based on the new knowledge gained through action—insights you could only uncover by doing.

This is something I’ve had to wrestle with personally. As someone who loves self-improvement and becoming the best version of myself, I’ve fallen into the “infinite loop” of growth—chasing more information, more skills, more preparation many times. But here’s the truth: The pursuit of endless preparation is just another form of procrastination. It’s fear disguised as productivity.

The thing is, it’s not about having all the answers; it’s about taking the next step with what you have right now and building experience.

Knowledge feeds action, and action feeds experience. When we acquire knowledge, it provides us with the tools and understanding to make informed decisions. But it’s through taking action that this knowledge truly comes to life. Action creates experiences, shaping our perspectives and refining our understanding. These experiences, in turn, deepen our knowledge, making it more practical and applicable. It’s a continuous loop where learning and doing feed one another, propelling us toward growth and progress.

The Courage to Act

So how do we break free? How do we move from information to action? Here are a few principles that have helped me:

1. Set a Hard Deadline

Stop waiting for the perfect time—it doesn’t exist. Give yourself a clear, non-negotiable deadline to take your first step, whether it’s launching your idea, sending that email, or sharing your work. Deadlines create urgency, and urgency creates movement.

2. Start Small

Action doesn’t have to be monumental. It just has to be consistent. Break your big goal into bite-sized steps, and focus on completing one at a time. Progress builds momentum, and momentum fuels confidence.

3. Limit Input

If you’re stuck in research mode, impose a limit on how much information you’ll consume before acting. For example, commit to reading no more than two articles or watching one video before you take a tangible step forward.

4. Embrace Imperfection

Perfection is a myth that keeps us stuck. Action is inherently messy, and that’s okay. The goal isn’t to be flawless—it’s to learn as you go.

5. Anchor to Your Purpose

When fear creeps in, reconnect with your “why.” Why does this matter to you? Who will benefit from your work? Purpose fuels courage, and courage propels action.

6. Define The Nature of Your Commitment to Yourself

Your first and most important responsibility is the promise you make to yourself. Define it clearly, and honor it with discipline. Hold yourself accountable before seeking validation from others—your progress begins with unwavering self-commitment. When you prioritize this, everything else falls into place.

The Legacy of Action

At the end of our lives, we won’t be measured by how much we knew but by what we did with that information. The world doesn’t need more people who know everything about starting a project, especially with the ocean of information accessible at all times, it needs more people who actually start.

If you’ve been waiting for the right time to act, this is your sign. Stop chasing information. Start chasing action. Your future self will thank you.

I’m rooting for you, always.

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a loop of endless preparation? What was the first step you took to break free and take action? Share your experience in the comments below!

Let’s build the future we envision for ourselves, one step at a time.

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Have you ever noticed how loving yourself can sometimes attract negativity from others? This week, I want to share a very personal story that dives into this very topic. It’s not a pretty one. Nor a story about forgiveness. But it’s a tale of self-discovery, navigating relationships, and the unexpected challenges that come with embracing self-love.

Because sometimes, the biggest lessons we learn about ourselves are painfully offered by others.

A quick disclaimer:

This is probably the most personal piece I’ve ever published. It’s raw, not polished, and the bitterness will likely seep through my words. But it’s my truth. One that I’ve been holding in for far too long.

When I started this newsletter, I made a promise: I’d share the hard lessons I wish I had learned sooner, hoping to offer someone else a clearer path. Maybe it will help someone recognize the warning signs of a relationship unbalanced by envy or that it will help a person to understand that they are not the source of the problem by choosing themselves as a priority.

If the topic of self-love feels triggering or heavy for you right now, I completely understand. This piece may not be what you need today, and that’s okay. I’ll be happy to have you back for next week’s post. Take care of yourself first :)

If you’re still here, I hope you’ll approach this piece with an open mind and a compassionate heart.

The Cost of Self-Love

Here’s the thing about self-love: it shines a light on what others might lack in themselves. Some people resent you, not because they hate you, but because your confidence forces them to confront their insecurities.

In today’s world, ruled by social media, self-hatred seems almost more acceptable than self-love. We’re conditioned to associate humility with self-neglect, so when someone boldly chooses to love themselves and lets the world know, it feels disruptive.

Your self-love becomes a mirror. And for those who aren’t ready to face their reflection, it’s easier to judge you than to work on themselves.

A Personal Story: When Self-Love Collides with Jealousy

I once had a friend who struggled deeply with self-loathing. Her pain was evident to those that were emotionally available enough to sense it, and I thought it only hurt her—until I realized it was quietly destroying us both.

Her self-hatred took the lead in our relationship, but jealousy played a starring role. Jealousy is a silent poison. It is hard to point it out, it creeps in unnoticed and grows, eventually becoming impossible to ignore.

In this friendship, it took many forms. Her subtle digs at other women, the way she had to always be the center of attention and her inability to celebrate others’ growth and successes—those things were giant red flags I failed to recognize early enough. When we eventually drifted apart, I felt strangely relieved, but the smear campaign she went on against me left a bunch of scars. I think, looking back, that I embodied qualities she lacked or had things she envied silently (maybe unconsciously), and she made me pay for it, in subtle ways while patiently waiting for me to slip up so she could paint me as the villain. I started isolating myself from others, and bracing for disappointment from everyone.

Eventually, once I stopped blaming myself for not removing myself from that situation quietly early enough, I realized that trying to save someone from themselves will never be worth sacrificing your own well-being. I will even go as far as saying that really, if is none of my business. I tried to help, did my best and lost a piece of myself for a while on the way. I had to learn to prioritize my peace and set boundaries, even when it felt selfish. I never want to go backwards on that promise to myself.

While I am neither ready to forgive nor forget, that experience tought me the unshakable depth of my self-love and self-esteem that no one can ever take away from me. Not even someone so consumed by self-hatred that they’d go to great lengths to tarnish my self-image.

And that’s when the truth hit me: self-love comes with a price. Not everyone will celebrate your glow. Some will resent it, even hate it.

Why Self-Love Triggers Others

Self-love feels threatening to people who don’t practice it. Setting boundaries, celebrating your wins, and prioritizing your needs challenge the unspoken rules of self-neglect many people live by.

People may project their discomfort onto you, thinking, Who does she/he think she/he is? But remember: their reactions aren’t about you. They’re about their unresolved pain.

Understanding this will help you stay grounded when your growth feels like a threat to others.

Protecting Your Peace

When your self-love disrupts the status quo, it’s important to:

• Hold empathy without sacrificing yourself. Understand their pain, but don’t dim your light to make them comfortable.

• Set and protect boundaries. You’re teaching people how to treat you, and not everyone will like the lesson. That’s okay.

• Let go of what no longer aligns. Growth filters out relationships that don’t support your journey.

Choosing yourself might feel lonely at times, but it clears the path for people who will love and respect you fully.

How Growth Changes Relationships

Growth doesn’t just transform you; it transforms your relationships. It’s a natural filter. Those who are meant to stay will grow with you. Those who aren’t will fall away.

Truly, you’re not losing anything—you’re gaining clarity. The right relationships will adapt and deepen. The rest? Let them go.

A Full-Circle Moment

Looking back, I remember how lonely self-love felt at that time when I decided to quietly remove myself from that entire environment. I second-guessed my decisions, mourned lost connections, and wondered if I was doing the right thing.

But the space I created by letting go of toxic relationships made room for deeper, more authentic ones. The few people who stayed respected me and the people I met along the way are amazing additions to my life, proof that what you radiate finds its way back to you.

My experience didn’t affect my self-love—it helped me identifying it as one of my biggest assets and redefined the way I relate to the world. It gave me clarity, peace, and freedom.

A Final Thought

If you’re afraid of the cost of self-love, let me remind you: it’s worth every ounce of discomfort. You’re not responsible for anyone’s discomfort with your growth. It is none of you business and says much more about the individual in question than you.

The right people will rise with you.

So keep going. Set your boundaries. Stand your ground. Love yourself unapologetically. Because in the end, the price of self-love is nothing compared to the joy of becoming the truest version of yourself.

Have you experienced pushback on your journey to self-love? How did you handle it? Let me know by leaving a comment down below :)

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When you neglect your energy, the cost isn’t just measured in lost time—it’s far deeper. You sacrifice joy, lose touch with your creativity, and no matter how much guilt you feel, productivity seems out of reach. This is the hidden price of burnout or misalignment.

The real danger? Reaching a point where you’ve given so much that you barely recognize yourself. You feel like an empty shell, wondering where the vibrant, driven version of you disappeared.

Think of your energy as a campfire on a deserted island—precious yet fragile, requiring constant care to keep it burning bright.

As we step into a new year, you’ve likely reflected on the past and set intentions for the future. This guide is here to help you reset and recharge your energy so you can thrive in 2025.

Remember, your energy is one of your most valuable assets. Protect it, nurture it, and watch it transform your life.

Part 1: Identify Your Energy Drains

Energy drains are everywhere. They often shapeshift, taking many forms: a demanding job, an addiction to social media, or even certain people. But the real culprit isn’t the job, the habit, or the person. These are merely vessels.

Your energy is truly drained by deeper factors: a tendency to overcommit, poor boundaries, or an unhealthy lifestyle. You might recognize yourself as someone who struggles to say no, feels depleted after meeting an old friend who never stops complaining, or routinely goes to bed far too late.

To regain control of your energy, you need to first identify the root causes of your fatigue. Ask yourself: What makes me feel restless? What zaps my drive for the day?

And sometimes, it’s not a what but a who.

Beware of Energy Vampires

Energy vampires are people who, consciously or unconsciously, drain the life out of you. They’re the chronic complainers, the overly critical colleagues, or the friends who monopolize your time with endless drama. Worst of all is the friend that doesn’t want to see you shine and demotivates you when you share your plans and goals—extra points if you let go of someone like that recently, let me know in the comments so that I can give you a big high five! While their intentions might not be malicious, their impact on your well-being is undeniable.

How do you identify them? Pay attention to how you feel after interacting with certain people. Do you leave a conversation feeling lighter, inspired, or motivated? Or do you feel exhausted, frustrated, or irritable? Energy vampires often trigger negative emotions, leave you feeling drained, and make you dread future encounters.

To protect yourself, start by setting clear boundaries. Limit the time and energy you give to these individuals. Practice saying no, or create buffer zones—for example, schedule energizing activities like a quick workout or meditation immediately after interacting with them. Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you to counterbalance the impact of these draining interactions, that sometimes, are inevitable.

A Quick Self-Assessment

To master your energy, take stock of your daily life. Reflect on:

• Where, when, and with whom do you feel most depleted?

• What activities or environments give you an energy boost?

Once you’ve identified your energy drains and boosters, plan accordingly. For instance, if you dread networking events but love walking outdoors, take a short walk before and after the event. This way, you recharge before facing a draining situation and reset your energy afterward, preventing it from carrying over into the rest of your day.

Energy management is all about balance: recognizing what drains you, what energizes you, and making deliberate choices to protect your inner battery.

Part 2: Rebuild Your Energy Reserves

Now that you’ve identified what drains and boosts your energy, it’s time to focus on rebuilding your reserves. There are three main types of energy—physical, mental, and emotional—and each requires intentional strategies to recharge and optimize.

1. Physical Energy

Your body is the foundation of your energy. If it’s not functioning well, everything else suffers, and the consequences can ricochet to a point of no return. Prioritising your physical health on the contrary can positively impact your mental and emotional health. Here are a few steps you can take:

• Prioritize quality sleep: Sleep is the cornerstone of health and vitality. Without it, your body struggles to repair itself, and your mind becomes foggy. Create a consistent bedtime routine, limit screen time before bed, and consider blackout curtains or a white noise machine for a restful night.

  → I love to fall asleep to visualisation meditations, especially this one from Life by Lucie on YouTube.

• Fuel your body with nutrient-rich foods: What you eat directly affects your energy. Opt for whole, unprocessed foods rich in vitamins and minerals to keep your energy steady throughout the day. Stay hydrated and avoid excessive caffeine or sugar, which can lead to crashes.

  → I recently started to plan my meals in my planner and try to avoid the temptation of eating in one of the many—and amazing—restaurants around work. Rewarded myself with a brand new purse for sticking to my homemade lunches for two weeks because eating good wasn’t a motivation strong enough to keep me on track.

• Incorporate movement that energizes: Physical activity doesn’t have to leave you exhausted. Choose activities that refresh you, like walking, stretching, or yoga. Regular movement boosts circulation, releases feel-good endorphins, and enhances your overall stamina.

  → A walk with good music or an inspiring audio book on is always a good idea. I track my steps as a way to gamify the experience and make sure I move my body. I’m currently using WeWard, but any app is good to go as long as it gets you to move.

2. Mental Energy

Protecting your mental bandwidth is key to staying focused and productive. Similarly to physical health, mental health has huge impacts on our wellbeing and needs to be treasured.

• Manage decision fatigue: The more decisions you make in a day, the more mentally drained you become. Simplify your life by creating routines or automating small tasks, like meal planning or choosing your clothes the night before.

  → Getting a planner and planning the week ahead on Sunday with a cup of tea coud be the way to go. I recently downloaded Sab Yang’s free digital planner that I really like and has everything necessary from budgeting, to meal prep and mood trackers.

• Limit information overload: In our hyperconnected world, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. Practice digital minimalism by curating your feeds, setting limits on screen time, and scheduling regular digital detoxes.

  → The big move on my end was ditching instagram. But limiting your screen time is a good way to start. Try to identify when the content overload is starting to to make you feel overwhelmed and grab a nice book instead.

• Practice mindfulness or meditation: A few minutes of mindfulness each day can work wonders for mental clarity. Whether through deep breathing, journaling, or guided meditation, these practices help calm your mind and improve focus.

  → YouTube is filled with great meditations to help you relax and focus your attention on yourself. Journaling has also been a great help this year to clear my mind and identify my aspirations.

3. Emotional Energy

Your emotional state directly impacts how you interact with the world. It’s a direct window to how you are feeling.

• Cultivate uplifting relationships: Surround yourself with people who inspire and support you. Engage in meaningful conversations and invest time in nurturing those connections that leave you feeling fulfilled.

  → Be selfish with your time and give it to people and connections that deserve it.

• Learn to say no without guilt: Saying yes to everything often leads to resentment and burnout. Practice setting boundaries and remember that a thoughtful no is better than an overcommitted yes.

  → No is a full answer. And it’s quite addicting once you free yourself from the habit of saying yes. Here is a Ted Talk on the art of saying no, highlighting the resources and internal validation you will need.

• Engage in joyful hobbies: Hobbies aren’t just a luxury; they’re a necessity for emotional well-being. Whether it’s painting, gardening, or playing an instrument, find activities that bring you joy and reduce stress.

  → I used to tell myself I would engage with my hobbies and never honour my promise to myself. I now practice time blocking and schedule my writing, reading and other meaningful hobbies on my agenda. The world can wait, I’m recharging my creativity battery.

By focusing on these three pillars of energy—physical, mental, and emotional—you’ll build a sustainable foundation that fuels your drive and helps you thrive in 2025 and beyond.

Part 3: Create a Daily Energy Ritual

Morning Routine

The best way to set yourself up for a great day is to design a morning routine that sparks joy (very Marie Kondo of me, I know).

Start your day intentionally—try meditating before getting out of bed, doing some light movement like stretching or yoga, or enjoying a peaceful breakfast without distractions.

Pro tip: Define your intention for the day. Ask yourself: How do I want to feel today? How do I want to show up? Your day is a blank canvas, and you hold the brush.

Midday Refresher

Half the day may be gone, but there’s still plenty of time to make it count. Use your lunch break as a chance to reset and recharge. Even 15 minutes can work wonders.

Whether it’s taking a power nap, stepping outside for a quick walk and a coffee, or chatting with an uplifting coworker, find what works best for you.

Pro tip: It’s perfectly okay to eat lunch alone in a quiet space at work to recharge. Protecting your energy is not only normal but necessary.

Evening Unplugging

As the day winds down, it’s time to unplug and focus on relaxation. Put the apron away, silence your work phone, and dive into a calming evening routine that helps you transition smoothly into rest mode.

Pro tip: Before bed, reflect on your plans for the next day and set an intention for how you want the day to unfold.

Part 4: Sustain High Energy Levels All Year

Maintaining high energy levels isn’t about occasional resets—it’s about creating habits that consistently fuel you throughout the year. Here’s how to keep your energy reserves strong and steady:

1. Set Boundaries Around Work and Personal Time

The line between work and personal life can get blurry, especially with remote work and constant connectivity. Protect your energy by setting clear boundaries:

• Define your work hours and stick to them.

• Establish no-work zones (e.g., no emails after 8 PM or on weekends).

• Communicate your boundaries clearly to colleagues, friends, and family.

Remember, boundaries aren’t selfish—they’re essential for long-term energy and well-being.

2. Regularly Review and Adjust Your Commitments

Overcommitment is a major energy drain. To prevent burnout, make a habit of reviewing your commitments and priorities regularly.

• Ask yourself: Is this task or project aligned with my goals? Does it energize or deplete me?

• Be selective about where you invest your time and energy. It’s okay to let go of activities that no longer serve you and start to feel like a chore.

• Schedule regular check-ins (e.g., monthly or quarterly) to reassess your workload and adjust as needed.

By staying mindful of your limits, you’ll avoid overwhelm and create space for what truly matters.

3. Build in Time for Reflection and Celebration

Sustaining high energy requires moments of pause to recharge and celebrate progress. Reflection helps you stay grounded, while celebration fuels your motivation.

• Take time at the end of each week to reflect: What went well? What could improve?

• Celebrate your wins, no matter how small—they’re proof of your progress and resilience.

• Practice gratitude to shift your focus toward the positive and maintain a sense of fulfillment.

When you integrate reflection and celebration into your routine, you’ll stay motivated, energized, and ready to tackle whatever the year throws your way.

By setting boundaries, staying intentional about your commitments, and taking time to reflect and celebrate, you’ll create a sustainable energy system that keeps you thriving all year long.

You have everything in your hands to make this year the year you reclaim your energy to take your first step toward a fulfilling and productive era. Implement small but effective ways to boost your energy effectively and limit energy drains.

More than anything, be selfish with your time. It’s yours and yours only, you get to decide what you make of it.

What’s one energy-boosting habit you’ll start today? Hit reply and let me know!

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But here’s the thing: motivation only gets you so far.

I’ve been motivated before, and it’s never been the fuel that’s carried me the distance. That’s why this week, we’re diving into strategies to build a net of discipline—so you can catch yourself when motivation inevitably fades.

Why Motivation Alone Won't Make the Recipe for Success

Motivation, by itself, is not enough. I might even go as far as saying it is overrated.

Motivation is fickle. One day it’s there, pushing you forward, and the next, it’s nowhere to be found. You can’t count on it—it’s too unreliable to take you where you really want to go.

Let’s be real. We’ve all had moments where we set out to crush a goal—whether it was hitting the gym, starting a new project, or learning something new. At first, we’re hyped, full of good intentions, only to watch that excitement fade after a few weeks. And what happens next? The goal fizzles out, disappearing like sand through our fingers.

That’s why motivation, no matter how strong, is never enough.

Betting all of your cards on motivation by itself would be a big mistake. One that seals the deal on whatever your pursuing.

If you’re serious about success, you need more than just that initial spark. You’ve got to layer it with consistency, reward yourself along the way, and, most importantly, lock it in with discipline.

Think of it like baking a cake. Eggs alone aren’t going to cut it. You need the full list of ingredients—and you need to follow every step. Success is the same. It’s not about showing up just when you feel like it; it’s about showing up, period.

The Science Behind Discipline: Key Takeaways

The ‘Science of Self-discipline’ refers to understanding and applying psychological principles to enhance personal control and achieve long-term goals.

Here are key takeaways on the concept:

• Mastering Self-Control: Discipline involves managing emotions, behaviors, and thoughts to stay focused on objectives. It's crucial for overcoming procrastination and fostering effective habits.

• Building Lasting Habits: Sustainable discipline requires strategies like setting clear, actionable goals, creating structured routines, and making necessary sacrifices to stay on track.

• Embracing Discomfort: Discipline thrives in discomfort. By learning to handle discomfort and resisting temptations, we build resilience and mental toughness, key to staying committed to our goals.

• Mental Toughness & Willpower: Strengthening willpower helps you resist distractions and push through challenging moments. It’s an essential aspect of maintaining focus on long-term outcomes.

• Practical Strategies: To improve discipline, implement practical steps such as rewarding progress, creating routines, and taking proactive actions to manage distractions and stay aligned with your goals.

The Power of Micro Actions: Discipline The Easy Way

If you are one of the 20 million people that read James Clear’s Atomic Habits, you know how powerful micro actions can be.

You are the only person capable of changing your life—no one can do that for you. The easiest way to change yourself is to change the things you do each day.
― Daniel Walter, The Power of Discipline

Micro actions are are small, easy-to-do steps that move you closer to a goal. They are so manageable that they feel almost effortless, yet they create momentum and build confidence over time.

In essence, they are based on the snowball effect concept.

The concept highlights how small, consistent actions can build momentum over time, leading to significant results. To visualize it, imagine a small snowball at the top of a hill. As it rolls down, it gathers more snow, grows larger, and gains speed. What starts as something tiny becomes powerful with consistency and time.

That’s exactly what this is about. Going far enough with small changes that do not demand too much effort but continuing to implement it until it changes you.

How It Works in Real Life:

1. Start Small: Begin with manageable tasks or habits. For example, saving 5$ each day or dedicating 10 minutes a day to learning new vocabulary.

2. Build Consistently: Keep adding to your efforts. Each small action builds on the last, like a snowball gathering snow.

3. Leverage Momentum: Over time, your efforts compound, leading to exponential growth. What once felt small becomes impactful—and even easy.

The snowball effect thrives on two principles:

• Consistency: Small actions repeated over time add up.

• Compounding: Growth accelerates as past efforts amplify future results.

The key is to show up for yourself every day. Even if it’s just reading a single paragraph when you planned to read a whole chapter, what matters is consistency. Over time, these small steps add up—the compound effect is the magic at work.

What’s important is to keep going. At some point, the behavior becomes so ingrained in you that continuing feels easier than stopping. More natural. And that’s when motivation becomes an artifice: you don’t need it anymore, the habit is already here.

So start where you are. Take the first step, no matter how small, and keep moving forward. The momentum will follow sooner than you think.

Identity Shift: The Shortcut to Implement New Routines

Believe it or not, it’s easier to shift your identity as a whole than to tackle resolutions individually.

Here’s why: by focusing on your identity, you address your aspirations as a whole rather than breaking them into countless individual tasks that may feel overwhelming. For example, instead of focusing on every detail of a perfect morning routine—waking up at 6:30 am, going to the gym, getting ready, and having breakfast—you shift the focus from the actions to the outcome: becoming the person you aspire to be.

Ask yourself: How does the person I want to be look, act, and feel? Once you align with this identity, individual tasks lose their heaviness. They simply become what you do. Period, no questions asked and no room for doubt or second thoughts.

Why wouldn’t you attend your training if you identify as a soccer player? Why wouldn’t you prepare dinner if you see yourself as someone who homecooks meals? Here’s the thing, when you focus on identity, actions naturally follow.

Sharing your goals publicly can also help. It creates accountability and reinforces your identity. You’re putting out there what you know you need to do, enhancing your chances of pursuing it.

Ultimately, it’s about building a system that takes over when motivation falters. With the right identity and habits, success becomes automatic.

You’ve got this :)

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Here we are, last post of 2024. EVER. It’s been a pleasure to have you all on this journey as I decided to hop on the substack train again. I’m sincerely grateful for each and everyone of you!

Let’s build the future we envision for ourselves, one step at a time.

Wishing you clarity, focus, and success all throughout 2025. You deserve it 1000 times.

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As I reflected on what shifted and finally pushed me to take action, I identified three key insights. I’m sharing them with you today in the hope that they’ll inspire you to move forward too.

1. Letting go of my fear of being seen

What we refer to as “fear of being seen” is the anxiety or discomfort of being noticed, judged, or vulnerable in front of others. It’s rooted in the fear of rejection, criticism, or exposure of one’s true self.

That might be an issue you face as well or faced in the past. And if you did or currently do, you know that this is particularly hard to get rid of. But also incredibly rewarding.

Here is the thing, you will be judged and disliked no matter what you do. You will be misunderstood. So you might as well let it go.

Are the people you fear of being seen or judged by people you admire? People that inspire you in your daily life? Probably not. So why even bother?

Every successful person we know was misunderstood at one point. Had they gave in the little voice in their head telling them they would be judged for putting themselves out there, they might have never shared their ideas, talents, or vision with the world—and we wouldn’t know their brilliance today.

Same applies to you. Use this reflection as a compass. Figure out what exactly you are scared of, of whom and why. Then debunk it with all your heart, with everything you have and with the unbreakable belief that your growth and potential are far greater than your fear.

2. Learning to reward myself along the way

I believe that goals are great. They give us clarity, guidance and something to pursue. They’re often the first brick to a new adventure and self-dicovery.

Humans are creatures driven by the pursuit of purpose and goals.

Without action, goals can become burdensome, and the journey may feel overwhelming. It’s easy to get stuck in a cycle of endless goal-setting, eventually growing to resent the process itself.

For this reason, I procrastinated and abandoned so many goals and projects before even starting. My main issue? Consistency without reward—until it eventually turned into no consistency at all. Nothing.

My mistake was thinking the work itself was the reward, that the struggle was enough. But that mindset wasn’t sustainable.

So something had to be changed. I learned to identify milestones and to attach a sense of reward to them.

I’m a simple girl, so promising myself a bag I had dreamed of, a sweet treat at the bakery around the corner or even just a nice walk with good music on started to change the heaviness into motivation. Sometimes, for the big milestones, the reward can go as far as a solo trip.

There’s no secret—you know what motivates you and gets you into action. Break your big goals into smaller, manageable steps, add those milestones to your calendar, and take the time to acknowledge your wins, no matter how small. Don’t forget to reward yourself along the way.

I promise you’ll look at the process in a totally different way.

3. Overcoming action paralysis and taking the big jump

Last but definitely not least, I had to learn to just go for it.

Many great ideas go unexecuted, and many great executioners are without ideas. One without the other is worthless. —Tim Blixseth

I used to be a planner, but the problem with being a planner is that it’s only useful if you’re also a doer. No one wants to be a planner who never follows through. You could be the best planner in the world, but if your ideas never materialize, it doesn’t matter.

My pursuit of perfectionism was really a leap into mediocrity. The belief that everything had to be perfect before it could be released to the world was deeply ingrained in my mind.

But whoever started that "make it perfect before starting" idea didn’t want us to succeed. Letting go of perfectionism changed my life this year. Instead of chasing unattainable, shallow perfection, I started chasing adventures and lifetime lessons.

Perfectionism keeps you in the waiting room. Starting puts you in the learning room.

Here’s the secret I wish I’d known sooner: you don’t need perfect. You just need to start. What you really need is to put it out there first, then perfect it. That’s the logical order.

I won’t lie—it’s scary sometimes. But I promise, it’s worth it :)

What is a the last time you took a risk and got into action mode? And if this whole experience was a book, what would the title be? Let me know in the comments or by replying to this message. I’m dying to know :)

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Soon, everyone will start bombarding you with their resolutions for the coming year —resolutions which most people will forget as soon as the following month. Reflecting on your life and setting resolutions can be powerful, but to truly make a difference, avoid the common trap of swinging a sword in the air with vague intentions—clarity and actionable goals are the keys to real change.

Because to live the life you desire, you must first design it with intention and purpose. And that is exactly what we are doing together this end of year with my free downloadable “2025 Goals & Objectives” template (accessible for free at the end of this newsletter).

Preparing your master plan

Last week, we spoke about how to stop postponing yourself and why it is so crucial to invest time and effort in yourself. This week, we are diving into preparing our very own master plan in order to finally go into action mode.

Humans are creatures driven by the pursuit of purpose and goals. And you—yes, you—are chasing something. Something greater than who you are today or what you have now. The very fact that you're reading this proves it.

Now, you might be asking yourself: “But where do I start?” Or better yet: “How can I stay on track and succeed this year in pursuing my goals without giving up before I even begin?”.

Getting started with my free 2025 Goals & Objectives Template

I’m excited to share with you a resource I first shared last year but reworked to make 2025 your most intentional year yet: the 2025 Goals & Objectives Template (available for free download below).

This tool is designed to help you break down your aspirations into actionable, measurable steps. Here’s how to make the most of it:

Step 1: Reflect on Your Past Year

Before looking forward, take a moment to look back. Ask yourself:

• What were your top 3 wins this year?

• What were your top 3 frustrations, and what caused them?

• What are you most grateful for?

Use this exercise to acknowledge your growth and identify areas for improvement.

Step 2: Choose 3 Key Areas of Focus

Don’t spread yourself too thin. Decide on the top 3 areas that, if improved, will have the most significant impact on your life. Examples include:

• Career

• Health

• Relationships

• Creativity

• Financial wellness…

Pro tip: think about what areas would have the biggest impact on your life. That’s where you want to focus your energy :)

Step 3: Define One Goal Per Area

For each area, set a specific goal based on the KPI framework to make sure it is tangible, then break it down into key actions.

Make it SMART:

• Specific: Clearly define what you want to achieve.

• Measurable: Ensure progress can be tracked.

• Actionable: Focus on steps you can take.

• Realistic: Set challenging but attainable goals.

• Time-bound: Assign a clear deadline.

Example:
Area: Physical Health
Goal: Run a 10k by June 2025.
Why: I want to feel more energetic and challenge myself physically.

Key Actions:

1. Follow a beginner’s training plan.

2. Schedule weekly runs.

3. Join a local running group for accountability.

Step 4: Assess Alignment

Take stock of what's working for you and what’s holding you back.

Identify:

• Elements that support your goals.

• Elements that create misalignment or resistance.

This will help you prioritize positive habits and eliminate obstacles.

Step 5: Design Your Ideal Self

Picture who you want to be in 2025:

• How do you look, feel, and live?

• What habits define your daily routine?

Set the tone for the year by aligning your vision with your goals. Use a vision board (digital or physical) to bring this image to life. Keep it close to you, as a phone or computer wallpaper.

Extra tip: Take time to create a physical vision board by printing the pictures out and sticking them on a physical canvas.

Step 6: Track Your Progress

You know what we say: “Rome wasn’t built in a day”. Same thing with growth. Growth isn’t linear, but tracking it ensures you stay on course. Use the template to evaluate and reevaluate your performance mid-year or whenever you need to. Adjust your goals and actions as needed.

The most important step

Most importantly, go for it.

It’s the biggest favour you will ever make for yourself. Even the most elaborated of plans means nothing without action. And chances are, you did not learn much from this post, enhancing the fact that you have all the answers needed within.

But if you needed to keep one thing in mind, let this be it: the perfect moment, the perfect circumstances, the perfect set up, the perfect partner doesn’t exist.

And if you ever get worried you might not be qualified, equiped or worthy enough, please remember that’s exactly when growth happens. When you don’t know what you’re doing. When you’re figuring out. Stumbling on the obstacles of today, that soon will turn into the lessons of yesterday.

So do yourself a favour, and as said earlier, just go for it anyway. No matter the circumstances :)

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Maïssane

This reflection, and the realization of my past years’ victories, made me realize I had been postponing myself for the longest time. Which, very ironically, is one of my biggest fears.

Today, we are diving into the subject of self investment: why it is crucial, its challenges, and the key startegies you can take to implement it in your daily life.

The Importance of Self-Investment

Investing in yourself, to me, means dedicating time, effort and money to personal growth by acquiring new knowledge, exploring unfamiliar fields, and stepping out of the comfort zone. It’s about evolving continuously, nurturing your skills, and allowing yourself the space to grow—wether mentally, emotionnaly or professionally.

Investing in yourself is an intentional commitment. Its goal is not only to enhance your potential but also to enrich you life experience.

While the exact direction to take may not be clear—and may never be for some of us—I sincerely believe that working towards something or looking for continuous improvement is crucial in a world filled with countless distractions. It both is the hardest and most rewarding effort to be made for yourself, and yourself only.

Learning, evolving, exploring, sharing: all these can be part of your own personal compass.

Overcoming Challenges

One of the biggest hurdles in self-investment is time management. Daily responsibilities can distract us from our growth potential, leading to procrastination.

It's vital to prioritize self-investment, recognizing that no one else will do it for you—read that again, until it sinks in.

Here are a few steps to take for effective self-Investment, and more specifically, to dodge the constant self-postponing trap:

1. Prioritize: Identify areas that will have the most impact on your daily life.

2. Schedule: Allocate time for activities that matter, like physical exercise or coaching sessions.

3. Reflect: Regularly assess your progress and adjust your strategies as needed-look for ways to condition yourself for success (no matter what you personal definition for success is :).

How to Invest in Yourself

You might be wondering, how does one even begin to invest in themselves?

Well, this year, I utilized various resources to invest in myself. I believe that growing is all about exploring and that is exactly what I tried to do this year as much as possible.

While there isn’t an exact game plan to self invest, here are some key strategies I explored and what they brought me, in no specific order:

• Reading: I delved into numerous books, and three stood out, offering profound insights and guidance such as The Laws of Human Nature by Robert Greene, The Psychology of Money by Morgan Housel and The Alchemist by Paulo Cuelho.

• Coaching: Getting the guidance from a coach was transformative. She helped me explore unimagined directions, holding me accountable for my knowledge and learning gaps. Hi Liliane!

• Physical Activity: Regular exercise has not only improved my physical health but also provided mental clarity. I got to explore exercice both as a solo thing and as a team thing and I learned a lot about myself in both settings.

• Online Courses: Exploring online courses has been a game-changer for my personal and professional growth. They’ve not only expanded my knowledge but also taught me the discipline of self-paced learning. I’ve had the chance to dive into a variety of subjects, some deeply aligned with my career and others purely out of curiosity, discovering new passions and strengths along the way.

• Mentoring: Guiding someone else has been rewarding, allowing me to share knowledge and grow alongside them. Remmeber mentoring isn’t a one way ticket; when orchestrated with the right person, both the mentor and mentee learn from one another.

• Traveling: Taking time for yourself always is a good idea. I spent close to 3 weeks earlier this year to solo travel in Korea, re-exploring places I had visited 6 years ago at 19. The biggest takeaways were the realization of how much I had matured, and imagining the next steps I wanted to take for the next part of the year.

• Exploring personal projects: No matter its shape or form, venturing on a solo project will enable you to learn countless lessons. I recently started working on a project with a friend and I’m learning daily from the actual project but mainly on collaboration—how to make concessions and communicate clearly to avoid future conflicts.

• Writing: Reflecting through writing has been a great tool to analyze my thoughts, dreams and expectations. It’s also a way for me to put out in the world the valuable lessons I am learning and I’m incredibly thankful for it. I highly encourage you to write regularly about your thoughts, what you know, don’t know and wish you knew.

I would love to know the strategies you take to evolve and your objectives for the upcoming year. Let me know in the comments section :)

The Marathon of Self-Investment

Investing in yourself is a long-term commitment. While the returns may not be immediately visible, the rewards are significant. Consider using a KPI-type method to measure progress, setting clear goals for what you want to achieve.

Last year, I’ve created a Goals & Objectives setting template based on the KPI methodology that may help you. Feel free to dowload it and use it for the upcoming year.

Key Takeaways and hopes for the future

To invest in yourself effectively, start by identifying the areas of growth that will have the most meaningful impact on your daily life. Set clear goals in advance, deciding what you want to achieve and how you will measure your success. Finally, commit to consistency by regularly dedicating time and effort to your personal development.

As you navigate on your own self improvement journey, I encourage you to visualize your growth so clearly that it becomes inevitable, ultimately enhancing your confidence. Embrace your multipotentiality, explore your uniqueness, and continue developing your skills.

Remember, investing in yourself is the most rewarding journey you can embark on. Never postpone yourself and view your own growth as your personal compass.

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A New Perspective on Work

Work, as we know it, has evolved significantly since its modern version’s emergence in the 18th century. It's a concept deeply embedded in our lives. So much so that one of the questions we get asked the most as kids is the famous “What do you want to be when you grow up?”. The answer for many of us, changes as we grow up and discover the many possibilities offering themselves to us.

The current work organization has been hit by repeated reassessments and economic trends such as the great resignation or the surge of remote work. We’ve reached a point in society where survival is no longer the driving force, and instead, we’re seeking deeper meaning in every aspect of life, including the work we do.

But what if I told you that the future of work wasn't about work? That instead of looking at the big picture, we should really look inward—on the individual level?

For me, the discussion has nothing to do with the statistics, the impacts of AI or predictions of job changes that will happen by 2030.

It's about autonomy, freedom, and making a meaningful impact.

It's about you and me, and how we approach this very notion of work.

The Rise of the Entrepreneur

Many of us yearn for flexibility and autonomy, aiming for less stress and more control. This is the essence of tomorrow's work environment.

It's about finding fulfilling and meaningful jobs and asking ourselves, "What impact do I want to make on a daily basis?"— at best. And it's about finding a job that's generally aligned with our expectations—at worst.

The future is about trading value rather than time for money. Entrepreneurs are adaptable and quick to shift, qualities that will thrive in this new environment.

Considering the specificities of the new workforce arriving in the market, changes are inevitable. The new generation doesn't want to work for someone else for the next 3 to 4 decades—seriously, that sounds like a nightmare to me. Instead, they seek creativity, value, and freedom. Often jumping freely from one quest to another, chasing for what they feel like is the most at their advantage. And really, we can’t blame them (me, you can’t blame me).

So you might want to consider one of the two following options:

1. Become an entrepreneur.

2. Think and act like one— I’ll tell you how below.

Good news is both are valid :)

Essential Skills for the Future

The future belongs to those who learn more skills and combine them in creative ways.

—Robert Greene

On top of its structural changes, the future of work will demand a new toolkit of skills where lifelong learners and quickly adaptable individuals will have an unfair advantage. Let’s call it the entrepreneur toolkit.

Here are some key skills that I believe will be extremely valuable:

1. Adaptability and Resilience: These individuals can master almost anything, learning quickly and managing stress with ease. They are the rock stars of today and tomorrow.
   Why? Rapid technological advancements and global disruptions demand flexibility and the ability to navigate change swiftly.

   What to focus on? Emotional intelligence, stress management, and the capacity to pivot quickly in uncertain situations.

2. Digital Literacy and Tech Savviness: As AI becomes more integrated, those with foundational tech knowledge will have a significant advantage.
   Why? The integration of AI, automation, and data-driven tools requires a foundational understanding of emerging technologies.

   What to focus on? Data analysis, AI basics, digital collaboration tools, and cybersecurity awareness.

3. Critical Thinking and Problem-Solving: Essential in any work environment, these skills will be even more crucial as AI takes over some tasks.
   Why? Automation will handle routine tasks, but human ingenuity is required for complex, strategic decisions.

   What to focus on? Analytical thinking, decision-making frameworks, and systems thinking to solve multi-dimensional problems.

4. Creativity and Innovation: Creativity will thrive, with idea generation and interdisciplinary approaches becoming vital.
   Why? As machines take over repetitive tasks, creative problem-solving and innovation will differentiate professionals.

   What to focus on? Idea generation, design thinking, and interdisciplinary approaches to developing new solutions.

5. Collaboration and Cross-Cultural Competence: Working in globalized teams will require seamless collaboration and communication among diverse individuals.

   Why? Globalized teams and remote work environments require seamless collaboration across cultures and disciplines.

   What to focus on? Effective communication, emotional intelligence, and understanding diverse cultural perspectives.

A Bright Future Ahead

Unlike many organizations that focus on speculative exercises to envision the future of work, I believe our future—as individuals— looks promising. Themes of freedom, purpose, and inspiration guide us forward. The shift is already happening, and those ready to embrace it will thrive. By maximizing the skills of tomorrow, you'll position yourself ahead of others and ride the inevitable wave of change.

Until next time, be good, be brave, be bold.

Maïssane

Reflecting on my journey, I've come to realize that perfectionism, often seen as a virtue, can be a double-edged sword in the workplace. I recently missed an important deadline because I was too focused on delivering flawless results. This experience taught me a valuable lesson about the pitfalls of perfectionism.

Understanding Perfectionism

Perfectionism is the relentless pursuit of an ideal standard of excellence. While it might seem beneficial-and most of the time even praised- it often brings anxiety, stress, and fear of failure to the table. A not so helpful starter pack, really. In the workplace, perfectionism manifests in various ways such as difficulty delegating tasks, excessive attention to detail, and procrastination.

At its core, perfectionism is about control—our need to manage every detail to avoid mistakes and sometimes, influence the way we are being perceived by others.

The Impact of Perfectionism on Work and Self-Worth

The line between perfectionism and self worth is thin. Linking your self-worth to the quality of the work you deliver can create an emotional roller coaster. Ironically, the more you strive for perfection, the more it might suggest lower performance.

Overall, the effects of perfectionism in the workplace can include:

• Mental Health: Increased stress and anxiety.

• Work Relationships: Strained collaboration and trust issues.

• Decision Paralysis: Difficulty in making timely decisions.

• Poor time management: Difficulty in prioritizing tasks and tendency to spend time on-sometimes unimportant- details.

• Difficulty Delegating: Believing no one can do the job as well as you.

• Fear of Failure: Setting unrealistically high expectations for yourself and others.

• Excessive Checking: Rereading deliverables or rechecking numbers multiple times.

• Procrastination: waiting until the very last minute to deal with an intimidating task.

Acknowledging your Perfectionist Tendencies and Finding Balance

Overall, perfectionism doesn't belong in the workplace. It's crucial for you to set realistic goals for yourself, work within deadlines, and accept that mistakes will happen. Because they will, wether you like it or not.

If you’re still not convinced, an important factor to keep in mind is the performance paradox as ironically, perfectionism can suggest lower performance in the work environment due to inefficiency. To put it simply, perfectionism and performance do not come hand in hand.

The biggest step to take is to learn to ask for help and delegate tasks. Encouraging you to showcase that you do have trust in your coworkers, as perfectionists oftentimes believe they would do a better job or that it is easier to get it done themselves than to onboard someone else on a task (guilty, guilty, guiltier). The biggest problem with this other than the fact that it encourages mistrust is that it is selfish. By acting this way you are robbing someone (and yourself to be honest) to add their craft on a project. Collaboration is one of the most looked for soft skills today, and guess what isn’t: perfectionism.

Changing your approach on this can help you manage your time more effectively and position yourself for success. You might want to consider taking the following steps to Skyrocket your performance:

1. Evaluate Your Efforts: Focus on the overall result rather than every detail.

2. Separate Self-Worth from Work: Prevent long-term harm by not tying your value to your output.

3. Trust in Collaboration: Recognize that the best solutions often come from collective input-collaboration (collaboration>perfectionism anytime of the day, just saying in one more time :)

4. Think Incrementally: Focus on the next step rather than the overwhelming end goal.

5. Seek Perspectives: Ask colleagues for their thoughts to gain new insights on how you could approach an intimidating project for example.

Perfectionism: the great opportunity blocker

If you’re still not convinced perfectionism needs to be left behind, here’s another one for you: your perfectionism can hinder opportunities. It often stops us from seizing great chances because we're waiting for the perfect time, environment or setup. Which, shocker, doesn’t exist.

The thing is, this stops us from actually getting the job done, keeping us in the waiting room of our own lives and robing us from great opportunities.

In my entrepreneurial journey, I often struggle with this mindset, but I've learned to focus on first getting « it » out there. To take it one thing at a time and identify the next actionable step instead of focusing on the end goal. In other words: cut the elephant into bite-sized pieces.

Done is better than perfect.

- Sheryl Sandberg

Choosing excellence over perfectionism

Instead of perfection, aim for excellence by identifying the most impactful elements of your work instead of getting lost in details. Focus on what truly matters and recognize what doesn't need to be perfect. That is tough at first but it also is the most rewarding change you can make, so put in the effort. You won’t regret it.

It's all about identifying what truly matters and directing efforts accordingly:

• Identify Shortcuts: Determine the quick and effective actions that can save you time on the spot.

• Focus on Key Elements or Key Success Factors: What is the most important aspect for your client or project?

Conclusion

Perfectionism can be a trap, preventing you from sharing your work and seizing opportunities. Instead, strive for success by improving daily, even if just by one percent. Remember, it's about putting your work out there and learning from each experience.

Consider reflecting on your approach to perfectionism. Are you directing your efforts appropriately? Focus on the overall result and separate your self-worth from your work output. Be proud anytime you get something out there: it may not be perfect but it’s out in the world and that’s a victory of its own :)This mindset will help you thrive in the business and work environment while fostering your personal growth. A sea of opportunities are now yours to explore.

Have the courage to be imperfect.

- Alfred Fidler

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Until next time,

Maïssane

When I was younger, my dreams were all over the place. One day, I wanted to be a singer; the next, a fashion designer, then a writer, and even the President of the French Republic. (Big leap, I know.) By high school, the world started asking for more clarity: What degree will you pursue? What do you want to be? At the time, those questions felt monumental. The truth? I had no idea.

I wasn’t alone, but I couldn’t help noticing how some of my classmates seemed to know exactly what they wanted. Take Mary, for example. In French class, we were filling out forms about our future careers. I have zero memory of what I wrote, but I’ll never forget Mary’s response: social worker. She said it with such clarity, even though we weren’t particularly close, it stuck with me.

Years later, scrolling through social media, I stumbled upon a comment from Mary. And sure enough, there it was: her name, followed by her job title—Social Worker.

That moment sparked a wave of introspection. Why didn’t I have that clarity now as an adult Mary had at 16? Why do some people seem to find their “purpose” so early, while others spend years—sometimes decades—searching?

But here’s the bigger question: What even is purpose?

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Understanding the True Power of Your Uniqueness as a Multipotentialite

In my case, purpose felt less like a clear calling and more like a constant state of exploration. I didn’t know what I wanted to do, but I did know one thing: I wanted to become a “Swiss Army knife” of skills (a phrase that sounds much better in French, I promise).

This mindset led me to try a little bit of everything. I started a fashion project, joined a women’s soccer team (even though I’d never played before), and took up dance classes—despite how much they had intimidated me in the past. Stepping in the unknown was terrifying. But it also was liberating as I started thriving pursuing many different interests at the same time. That, without feeling the pressure of identifying my one thing.

And that’s when it hit me: that was my thing. Everything was potentially my thing.

I didn’t have to find and stick to one thing. My purpose by definition was to be me, and to embrace my uniqueness through what I do. Not the other way around. The pressure to identify a career or passion that would define me was gone.

A few research then helped me understand a bit more about multipotentiality, opening a whole new world of possibilities. And the goal today, is for those of you that relate to realize how you can make your multipotentiality your very own superpower.

So, What Is a Multipotentialite?

A multipotentialite is someone with many interests and creative pursuits.
It stems from the word multipotentiality–a psychological and educational term used to describe people who display aptitudes across multiple disciplines.

- Emily Wapnick, Puttylike

Multipotentialites are people with diverse passions, interests, and skills. They’re often seen as “jack-of-all-trades” types, but the term doesn’t do justice to the creativity, adaptability, and curiosity that defines them. Instead of pursuing one specific calling, they jump from interest to interest, constantly learning, growing, and connecting the dots in unique ways.

Does this sound like you so far? Here are a few signs you might be a multipotentialite:

1.           You get bored easily - You dive into challenges but lose interest once you’ve learned enough.

2.           You’re endlessly curious (lifelong learner) - People often remark on how much you know about wildly different topics.

3.           You’re a “skill collector” - You’ve built a versatile skill toolkit you can apply in almost any context.

4.           You think big - You’re a natural at seeing the big picture and crafting long-term strategies.

5.           You connect the dots - You excel at finding patterns and blending ideas in creative ways.

6.           You are a visionnary - Your gut often guides you toward innovative ideas and disruptive solutions.

7.           You have a strong sense of empathy - Empathy comes naturally, and you’re great at putting yourself in others’ shoes.

8.           People struggle to understand you - Your way of thinking might feel unconventional to those with more linear mindsets.

9.           You face decision paralysis - With so many interests, choosing just one path can feel overwhelming.

10.       You love ideas more than execution - Just me? Okay.

Why Multipotentiality Matters Today

In a world that prizes hyper-specialization, being a multipotentialite might seem like a disadvantage. The industrial revolution’s emphasis on efficiency and expertise created a culture that celebrates “experts” in every field: SEO experts, HR experts, marketing experts…And while expertise has its place, the future of work demands something different. For the shifts happening now, and those yet to come.

As AI continues to automate specialized tasks, creativity, adaptability, and divergent thinking, core traits of multipotentialites are becoming increasingly valuable. The ability to synthesize ideas, connect seemingly unrelated concepts, and innovate in a disruptive manner will be the currency of the future.

Embracing Your Multipotentiality

For years, I struggled to reconcile my academic interests with my creative ambitions. I thought I had to choose—to define myself by a single title or skillset. But the beauty of being multipotential is that you don’t have to fit into a box.

Instead of asking, “What career should I choose?” start asking, “How can I use my unique combination of skills and interests to make an impact?”

Ultimately, it’s not about choosing one career path but about leveraging your diverse talents to thrive in an ever-changing world. Multipotentiality isn’t a weakness—it’s a superpower giving you a heads up in a labour organization where specialists and experts will struggle to adapt.

So again, why be one thing when you can be everything?

If this resonates with you, I’d love to hear your thoughts. Do you see yourself as a multipotentialite? And if you’d like another issue exploring how to leverage your multipotential identity in your career and life, let me know—I’m here for it!

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Today, I want to share a personal reflection that has been pivotal in my journey towards self-discovery and growth. It's about the fear of being seen—a fear that, for a long time, I believed was intertwined with how others perceived me. However, I've come to realize that this fear is something that is only about me and has nothing to do with others. And I want to share my perspective on that so you can realize it too.

The Fear of Being Seen

The fear of being seen is a common struggle for many of us. It manifests in various ways: the hesitation to speak up in meetings, the reluctance to share our creative work, or the envy of those around us that comes with stepping into the spotlight. This fear often stems from a deep-seated concern about judgment, criticism, or rejection. But what if I told you that this fear is not about others at all?

A Personal Revelation

In my own journey, I discovered that my fear of being seen was rooted in my own insecurities and self-doubt. It was a barrier I had constructed, believing that it protected me from the potential negative opinions of others. However, this barrier also kept me from fully expressing myself and reaching my utmost potential.

The turning point came when I realized that overcoming this fear could lead me to live up to my utmost potential. It was a revelation that shifted my perspective entirely and opened up a whole new universe of possibilities I had never even imagined before. I understood that the fear of being seen was a personal hurdle, one that I had the power to overcome.

Overcoming the Fear

Overcoming the fear of being seen is not an overnight process. It requires introspection, courage, and a willingness to step outside of our comfort zones. I could spend a long time telling you about all the ways I’ve spent pushing myself out there, using discomfort as my own compass but I’ll dig into that another time. In the meantime, here are a few steps that have helped me along the way:

1. Self-Reflection : Take time to understand the root of your fear. Is it tied to past experiences or self-imposed limitations? Acknowledging these factors is the first step towards overcoming them.

2. Challenge Negative Beliefs : Replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations. Remind yourself of your strengths and the value you bring to the table.

3. Take Small Steps : Start by taking small, manageable steps towards visibility. Whether it's sharing your ideas in a meeting or posting your thoughts online (my personal choice here as you can see), each step builds confidence.

4. Seek Support : Surround yourself with supportive individuals who encourage and uplift you. Their positive reinforcement can be a powerful motivator.

5. Embrace Vulnerability : Understand that vulnerability is not a weakness but a strength. It allows you to connect with others on a deeper level and fosters authenticity.

The Path to Potential

As I continue on this journey, I am constantly reminded of the immense potential that lies beyond the fear of being seen. By embracing visibility, I am not only unlocking my own potential but also inspiring others to do the same. It's a ripple effect that has the power to transform lives. And I can’t even begin to tell you how that is rewarding.

To sum up, I encourage you to reflect on your own fears and consider how they might be holding you back. Remember, the fear of being seen is something that is only about you and has nothing to do with others. Because honestly, and like my father loved to remind me when I was younger, nobody cares enough for their opinion to be holding you back.

By overcoming your fear of being seen, you open the door to a world of possibilities and the chance to live up to your utmost potential.

Thank you for joining me on this journey. Until next time, stay courageous and keep shining.

Warm regards,

Maïssane

Letting go in the context of work - and here I mean working for a company that isn’t yours - means different things to me. Letting go means no longer letting work take too much space in my daily life and remembering my very favorite mantra lately: it’s just a job. It also means not fighting against circumstances that are out of my control and carrying the anxiety it creates long after I logged off or left the office. To me, it means remembering I’m my own person, outside of what I deliver and produce.

What letting go truly mean

Strictly speaking, letting go is described as « a mean of psychological liberation consisting of detaching yourself from the desire for mastery and control ». Applied to work, it consists of placing work at its rightful place and freeing yourself from worrying about circumstances you have little to no power over. Accepting our job’s important place in our lives but also acknowledging that life is much more than just that.

Why it is so important to distance yourself from your job

Work, for a big majority of us, creates stress, creating irreversible health conditions in the worst cases. Here’s a few statistics highlighting the effects of work on our health gathered from Spill’s article :

• 6/10 employees working in major economies experiences increased workplace stress.

• Work is the number 1 cause of stress for 79% of people.

• Anually, around 17 million working days are lost globally because of ill-health caused by work stress, depression or anxiety.

Chronic stress impacts more than just the psyche, making its way to irreversible damages on our physical bodies. So how do we prevent that from happening…

How can we actually let go ?

At this point, letting go probably seems easier said than done. Because it is. Work-related stress and anxiety very much so feels like a downward spiral, making it difficult to understand its causes and even more so how to stop the cycle.

1. Practice acceptance and empathy - Be aware of what you can and cannot control. Write it down if needed. Remember you’re dealing with other human beings and forgive people who may have wronged you in te past for your own sake.

2. Take a step back and master emotional detachment - Emotional detachment is a powerful tool, taking the necessary distance with your job is putting you in an advantageous position. Setting you free from unnecessary worry.

3. Learn how to control how you let a situation affect you and how you react to it - Sometimes, we can’t control what’s coming at us, but we can always control how we react to it. The most advanced of us can even control how they feel about it. Something can’t hurt us if we don’t give it any importance, right?

4. Remember that letting go does not mean giving up - Now, make sure you don’t see drawing the line as a defeat. We really don’t need to add guilt to the mix.

5. Make sure you properly log off from work - Working from home, for a lot of us, has been a blessing but also blurred the lines between personal and professional life. Make sure you properly disconnect your brain from work but also from work-like cognitive functions. Find a functional routine to do at the end of your work day to properly disengage like going on a walk!

One last step I could add is to be gentle with yourself. Letting go and creating healthy work boundaries is a process that takes time. Although it may feel overwhelming and unsurmountable at the pic of a stressful situation, remember you’re learning everyday. Mostly about yourself and how you react to certain situations. Identify what works for you and stick to it.

Do you feel like you’ve let go of work related stress?

Let me know.

See you next time, Maïssane.

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⏰ This Chapter in a nutshell - your key takeaways under 10 seconds of reading:

1. Letting Go Defined: Freeing yourself from the need for control and putting work in its proper place.

2. Work & Health Snapshot: Global stress impacts our mental and physical health. National and wold wide stats highlighting its severity.

3. Tips to move forward: Practice empathy and acceptance. Master emotional detachment and your reaction to difficult situations. Set a clear work-life boundaries.

✍️The quote of the week

« Sometimes, letting go is an act of far greater power than holding on. »

- Eckhart Tolle

About the Framework

For the reminder, the « OKR » framework stands for « Objective Key Results » and consists of establishing objectives to be achieved, shared by all, and measures of the achievement of these objectives (key results or KPIs).

To be honest, I believe the framework to be useful in all aspects of life. Both personal and professional. It’s clear, easy to apply and reference to track progress and provide direction.

OKR as a framework encourages you to set the goals that matter to you but also to set the key step actions required to achieve it. It’s the special recipe you need to follow to challenge yourself, grow and develop skills. And you’re the one figuring out the ingredients you need to make sure the cake gets baked in the best way possible.

Applying the framework usually used for big projects or at the company scale to your personal growth could be the best way to plan how you’re going to achieve your objectives. The interesting thing is it works for any type of goals : professional, personal, side hustle…

Why you should incorporate the OKR framework

• It’s transparent and clear: The framework is straight to the point and easily approachable.

• It’s easily measurable and trackable: The OKR methodology is a great way to set goals and track progress as they already incorporate the SMART elements we should follow when setting goals.

• It’s proven effective: There’s a reason all companies use it, the Key Results should be approached as actionable and realistic steps.

• It keeps you accountable: With a clear vision of « what » and « how » to achieve, you then get a clear picture of what needs to be done.

How do I apply it to my personal and professional goals?

The framework, applied to personal growth, is exactly the same as used for corporate projects. It consists of an objective broken down into two to three clear and measurable key results.

An easy way to break it down is to determine a « what » and a « how » for every goal you set for yourself.

You can go back to my issue from a few weeks ago to use as your base to get started.

Example

In order to properly share an convey the proper way to use the framework, here’s an example of my own « professional life OKR » I’ve set for the year.

On top of setting up my objectives and corresponding key results, I’ve made myself a « proof table » where I enter evidence I’m progressing and achieving my goals. It consists of measurable evidence but also verbatim of positive feedback I receive suggesting I’m on the right track.

Hence the importance of making sure your progress is measurable when doing the exercice. Seeing yourself moving forward will be the encouragement you’ll need on the journey, make sure to understand clearly the goals you set for yourself, what needs to be done to achieve it and stay away from mindless planning as much as possible.

Tracking weekly and rating my confidence along the way has also been helpful to ensure I keep moving.

Hope this helps making this year the year you crush all your goals!

See you next week,

Maïssane 👋

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⏰ This Chapter in a nutshell - your key takeaways under 10 seconds of reading:

• Experiment with applying OKR methodology to personal and professional goals.

• Emphasise clarity, measurability, and accountability in your goal-setting.

• Implement a "proof table" for tracking progress and weekly confidence ratings.

✍️The quote of the week

« If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not people or things. »

- Albert Einstein

To effectively identify it might be time for you to jump on your next professional adventure, you must first understand what you’re truly seeking. You want to be honest with yourself about your motivations - whether it’s a bigger pay check, career growth, or specific benefits. By doing this, you’ll be better equipped to identify any misalignment with your goals and take appropriate action.

Recognising the signs that it’s time to leave can be challenging, especially early in your career. However, it’s crucial to identify the moment when parting ways with your job is in your best interest.

Here are some key warning signs to watch for:

1. Dead-End Situation: If there’s no room for growth and excitement has faded, it could be time to reevaluate.

2. Lack of Consideraton: If you start to suffer from a lack of consideration for your work, take it as a clear signal to take action before it grows into burn out.

3. Undefined Role: Working repeatedly on projects outside your scope can lead to an unclear career path.

4. Burnout: When work drains your energy and you lose enthusiasm for life outside of it, it’s a clear warning.

5. Stagnant Learning: If your job doesn’t provide opportunities for learning and growth, it’s worth rethinking.

Obviously, the list is non exhaustive.

Ultimately, consider yourself as your own employer. Align your agenda with what you value most ensuring you receive the recognition and fulfillment you’re looking for if that’s what is at the top of your list. Remember to prioritise your best interests as it’s what will keep you going on the long run.

As retirement age keeps getting pushed further globally, work simply can’t be a source of suffering (says the big bad Gen Z). Figure out what works for you. Literally. Make work work for you in a way that makes it more enjoyable.

The key message revolves around having a clear personal agenda in your career. To recognise when it’s time to leave a position, or reevaluate your career objectives, you must be aligned with your own goals and benefits. To make a decision about staying or departing, evaluate based on your self-interests, whether it’s personal growth, finances, or passion. Ultimately, view yourself as your own top employer and act accordingly.

You got this.

Maïssane

⏰ This Chapter in a nutshell - your key takeaways under 30 seconds of reading:

1. Establish a clear personal agenda in your career, understanding your motivations and goals, to recognise when it’s time to move on to the next opportunity.

2. Watch for red flags like career stagnation, lack of respect from management, undefined roles, burnout, and stagnant learning.

3. Prioritise your best interests, focus on factors directly impacting you, and view yourself as your own employer, ensuring your own recognition and fulfillment.

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✍️The quote of the week

« All art is knowing when to stop. »

— Toni Morrison