Men love being seen.

Men love being seen through their c*ck.

Many men say they want it….

yet many men find it difficult to fully receive……..

Give him that gift.

My Oral Pleasure Mastery Program…. is so damn HOT….

and will change his life…

slide on in HERE gorgeous lover.

M

xx

Working with so many men each and every week, I get to collect a lot of data.

Last week I heard from several different men that they were frustrated with the confusion they felt with the fact that their partner. wife, or new lover was upset with them for not showing up in different areas in they way she needed him to.

With every single conversation I saw a pattern.

It goes like this.

She says, “I’d love it if you texted me during the day sometimes.”

He hears…. that is “nice to have” . Kind of optional and will do when he remembers.

( ….i know i know.. i can feel the women already saying wtf!!! ..just wait …)

A week or so later, she is hurt, annoyed, acting distant and for one guy, she was actually done.

The men…all in their own version of this situation, were standing there thinking, what just happened, what is wrong and why is she so upset over that?

So here is why…from both sides when she says “ lovely, nice, like or want”

You see in most versions of requests, women wont say need. They say want instead.

And this caverness gap..in all of its different versions is what I see keeps getting in the road and quietly erodes at the connection in relationships.

When ever I ask a woman what she wants in a relationship, she will so often proceed to list all these non negotiable needs, yet she is labelling them as wants. because most women are not taught to confidently make direct asks. They are taught to modulate themselves keeping the emotional temperature of a conversation warm, so as not to rock the boat or risk failure of not receiving. They have been made to believe they need to make a mans response to look like he is offering, not her needing. So she softens it all.

“Want” is softer. and often is not a measure of how much she needs the thing. It is a watered down version of how safe she feels being direct about needing it at all.

BUT….. men hear wants as a deficit, as optional, as maybe later.

Most men are wired to take language literally and to orient toward solving concrete problems. If the word is “want,” a man’s brain files it exactly where the word points to in his brain. As a preference, not a requirement. He is not being dismissive , he is working out what is worth doing……

So whilst a man is decoding the sentence, the woman saying the words is needing him to decode the feeling underneath it.

So… how do we cross the bridge to one another?

And yes it takes two to do the tango baby.

For her, the clearer and more direct the ask is, that is the gold. And clarity does not mean harshness or being cold. Also get good at asking for what you need before you are in deficit so that they can be asked from a place of trust instead of exasperation and/or desperation. Requests made from a place of being indirect, kind of, or a maybe…. are often what push men away because they feel like it is then used against them when they don’t get it and can feel like coercion.

For him, when you notice her repeating a “want,” or you catch a flicker of hurt ( cultivating your presence means you will notice this ) after you treated something as optional, then ask a clarifying or direct question back to her. “Babe, is this something you actually need from me?” That single question does more for a relationship than a hundred guesses.

One gentlemen in a group call said that when he hears the word want, he feels like he is not doing enough and this feels like failure, but when he hears the word need, it inspires him to get into action and solve the problem…

Tell me what you think…hit reply to this email.

Always with Pleasure.

M

❤️

if you are stuck in this loop, see yourself in these words I write, and feel like you are too far in the spiral to “just” change the word from want to need, then lets get on a discovery call and talk on how I can get you out of it and into the relating that supports and empowers both of you.

Book your call here

❤️❤️

I would have to say that currently Thursday’s at around mid way through the day , is one of my fav times to be on zoom at the moment.

Why ?

This is when i hold the Fully Charged mens group call and for the past 3 weeks it has been just incredible.

But it is not about me really ! jajaja

The guys are also blown away, as they keep telling me during our calls.

On week two I took the men through the 3D practical steps of the “Erotic Power” method, where I teach men how to pattern interrupt their arousal building absolute strength in their masturbation practice that translates them to lasting longer in bed ( days even ) and enriches their brain and body with what is in their liquid f*cking gold.

One week.

One week later the men come back and the first man to share his experienced blurted out “I have the energy and power I felt in my 30’s”

Gentlemen this is not some woo woo practice that requires you to go and live in a cave, bend your body like a pretzel or fast on yak butter tea for 3 months in order to understand the power that your sexual energy is designed for.

Watching p0r*, jerking off just because you are bored or frustrated, ej&culating each and every time you are aroused, “not masturbating” because you have a big sports game or presentation the next day or cumming within 5 to 15 min of love making with your lover is all first stage ( adolescent ) relating to life.

The lies fed to you that all this is normal, is the most efficient way to keep you down. to keep you unwell, to keep you exhausted, disconnected and arguing with your lover.

What I am teaching inside this program is not new at all. The Taoists built entire systems around it and the Tantrics made it sacred practice. And in 1936, Napoleon Hill wrote about it in Think and Grow Rich (a business book ) dedicating an entire chapter to what he called sexual transmutation. The redirecting of sexual energy into creative power, drive, focus, and genius listing it as one of the primary characteristics of the most successful men in history.

This knowledge has always existed but has been systematically removed from you, because a man who knows how to harness his own life force is not easily controlled, not easily sold to, and not easily kept small.

What the men in Fully Charged are experiencing on our Thursday calls is what happens when that knowledge comes back online in a real man's real body, and just in one week. One week of practical, guided work. If you did not get yourself into Fully Charged but want the methodology, the exact video-guided practice that is shifting these men, then you can get that inside of Man IN Control.

No coaching calls or group, just the method, in your hands, at your own pace.

The same practice.

The same results.

At your leisure.

always…

Always with Pleasure

M

❤️

I hear through a few channels that people are too nervous or intimidated to talk to me because they think I am not an advocate of a 2 person relationship…

And they could not be further from the truth.

Yes….. I write a lot about the deconstruction of a society that has us living in a trauma based existence that is about profit not people.

Yes…….. through all my research and the writing of my book ( big ass novel, truth be told ) the rabbit holes I am constantly in have me exposing the lie we have been spoon fed re human nature and relationships…and I write about it..

Yes…as a woman I will not be congenial and quiet about how religion is so f*cking dangerous for the sovereignty of women….and how it is filled with coercion of one sex to a-pease the other……. this does not mean I do not like men…. it means I question the system they and we are raised in….

Yes….I fucking well LOVE men… but I know they are weakened and gas lit by a culture that does not want them to know their true power so gives them a false sense of power… that is violent ..and against their own bodies even.

Yes… i know that living in community is so much better for our health wealth and child rearing…… but does that mean I think everyone should be having s*x with everyone ..? F*CK NO……

What all this does mean is this..

every single week I speak to between 15 and 25 men in a 1:1 capacity and then about 50 to 60 more in group sessions.

I work and speak to women daily….. about their lives relationships and love.

And out all of these people I work with I yet have met a couple or spoken to someone who has said..oh yes… I feel so free and safe to be truly authentic in my relationship.

I have people tell me “ I always tell the truth to my partner”

then I ask one simple question and they look sheepish and say..”oh no, i would not say that…”….

for even those who pride themselves on “truth” they spend so much time modulating. Responding with assumptions. With holding …. so as not to rock the boat.

Our primal brains are wired to keep us safe.to keep us from dying… that is it…

our brains don’t give a rats razoo if we are happy or living in pleasure… because if it tethered us to pleasure…we could die……

And its job is to keep us from dying…pure and simple…..

As Esther PEerel says…”tell me how you were raised, and I will tell you how you love”

Part 2 and 3 of the UPLVL™ system is looking at this part. The history that ahs us being triggered, the present hangups we have of our partner or others that we secretly want to be doing, and the parts of ourselves that actually desire to be doing the same,… the power of the 3 way mirror is life changing. it is where we get to see all of our own parts within every situation.

So no, I am in no way shape or form against 2 person relationships ( i refuse to call them monogamous as unless I am talking to someone who has only had sex with ONE person their entire life and only when they were ovulating, then one CANNOT be monogamous…).

But what I am against is this…..

Two people in a relationship where they feel they are not truly fee to express themselves without the other person taking it personally.

I am against a relationship that is hanging by a thread whilst all other aspects have everyones attention… the work, the 2 new cars, the kids sports events, the renovation, the Disney holiday and yet they…have no time..no space.

I am against a relationship that has no agreements. That does not have regular check in dates, regular clearing dates, regular intimacy dates and regular intimate and sex skill accumulation.

I am against two people deciding to split the business, the cars, the home and the kids just because of “sex”..with another or none at all.

I am against two people living in the same home yet feeling like they are continents apart and believe that “this is it”

I am against complacency when it comes to one of the most important factors of our existence.

I am not against an exclusive relationship at all. It is one of the most beautiful commitments we have to offer someone…..

….. my inquiry is….. what are you truly offering one another?

As a priest once said.. every single relationship is going to end terribly..every single one of them..either by illness…death or separation… so what are you doing with it until then?

Want to UPLVL your communication and sex lives?

book a call with me here and lets talk

Melissa. ❤️

with pleasure

x

.NO…….this is not shade on committed relationships, so stick with me….

“They” built an entire culture around a lie.

The lie of success, laced in romantic love, signed in ink as commitment and called monogamy. ( it is actually monopoly…but hay they could not even get the wording right..and society ran with it…)

And now it is systematically and slowly neurologically damaging an entire generation of boys.

Not because the commitment of two people who love each other inside of monogamy itself is wrong.

But because this style of relationship required under the “law” of monogamy, has basically weaponized and contradicted the way humans are designed to relate, support and live with and among one another.

Monopoly has twisted our existence into an isolated nuclear family model where only two people, and for much of our recent times. only one woman, carries the full weight of raising children alone. We have taken the human care of children by community ( the village ) and turned it into a cage of isolation, fear, poverty and desperation.

And the boys are paying the price.

Male infants are born more vulnerable than girls.

Boys develop more slowly than girls. Their brains undergo different developmental trajectories, they are more sensitive to environmental stress and they are more reactive to chaos such as poverty. When a child is born into scarcity, either emotional or financial, boys suffer more acutely than their sisters. Their immune systems are weaker and their stress response systems are more fragile.

Why?.. because their prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain responsible for impulse control, emotional regulation and….. critical thinking, is more susceptible to damage from cortisol exposure.

This is not just my wise womaned, re-genopaused upgraded mind opinion as I sit at midnight writing out my thoughts…. This is actual neuroscience.

When a mother is stressed during pregnancy, her body floods with cortisol. When a woman is over working, not supported, not touched enough or loved enough, that cortisol crosses the placental barrier and (among… basically everything…) it shapes the developing fetal brain. In boys the effect of high cortisol alterates the prefrontal cortex, effecting his ability to emotionally regulate creating a lifetime of compromised capacity for the kind of thought and feeling that builds resilience.

… take a moment to read that again…..and now think of who commits the majority of violence, takes up the majority of beds in prison and has the higher rate of suicide……… it is not the women….

The stress does not stop at birth. It just continues to get worse.

A boy born into an isolated household, where his mother is alone, underfunded, and unsupported by community, inherits that stress as a permanent feature of his nervous system. His immune system is weaker, which is why breastfeeding matters so much ( and not just for, but also especially ) for male infants. They need it and benefit more ( maybe explains the obsession of a boob man ) but fewer boys are breastfed long enough, because their mothers are too exhausted, too isolated and too overwhelmed to sustain it. Many mothers need to return to work……….into the culture that she is breeding the next consumers for….

Then we wonder why boys are falling apart……. it all starts at conception and pregnancy.

and i have NO PROBLEM saying…. The Monogamy Model has played a huge roll in this devastation.

let’s trace the line backward…..

For most of human history, children were raised by villages. Multiple adults and older children caring for them 24/7. Multiple income and resource streams. Multiple hands sharing the load. And all this trickled to the mother who was incredibly supported. She was rested and held and nurtured. Her and her families stress levels were manageable because the weight was not on her shoulders alone. ( nor on the shoulders of her one man to provide )

Then, monogamy was built into a nuclear family structure and it was called….. modern and progressive.

What actually happened was that we took the responsibility for raising, feeding and nurturing humans that an entire village took responsibility for and handed it to just two people. This trauma based structure then dwindled down through economic pressure and cultural shame to become in so many homes the responsibility of just one.

One woman.

One income.

One person carrying all of it.

We romanticized it, calling it love whilst making it a moral imperative. And we built an entire system designed to punish anyone who deviated from it.

The outfall of it all is Mothers in crisis. ….These moral codes of laws have stretched society thin and left mothers chronically stressed, financially vulnerable, socially isolated, with their cortisol levels elevated leaving their nervous systems in constant activation, leaving their sons, the most neurologically vulnerable of all, absorbing that stress like sponges.

Oh the boys we are creating…..

We are not raising emotionally intelligent men. We are raising boys whose brains were shaped by maternal stress and isolation. Boys with compromised prefrontal cortices. Boys with weaker immune systems. Boys whose stress response systems are set to high alert before they can even talk.

And then so many of these men bully their way up to roles that keep making horrendous laws that rape and pillage the earth that is meant to feed the women that need to feed the babies…..

We somehow expect boys to grow into men to be strong and provide. to be emotionally available and lead. To think critically and to regulate themselves. We are asking them to do things their biology, shaped by the stress of our system, does not permit.

Instead of blaming the trauma based isolation structure of how a mother is required to raise them, we blame just her. We don’t address the structure that broke her and damaged her son, or examine the culture that isolates the family, we blame her. Instead of asking whether this new romanticized monogamous nuclear family model actually makes biological sense for raising humans who need support we just blame her for choosing wrong.

We then watch our boys and men suffer, and act surprised.

The answer is not to necessarily burn the agreement of monogamy between two people down….. ( well in a way it is…. and i am not talking sexually ) Some people choose it consciously and it works beautifully for them…. the answer is to dismantle the lie that it is the gold standard of the only way. And to dismantle that a life worths of resources and care is to come from one person…. that is what needs dismantling, for the health of our babies.

What boys need is what all children need.

Mothers who are supported.

Rested.

Held by community.

Financially secure.

Emotionally regulated.

Present…so f*cking present!!!!

( foto taken one week day morning, building structures in the trees, eating breakfast by the ocean, realizing that 2 days of school that week was enough,. Tide pools and rocks were calling…. )

That requires a fundamental restructuring. Not of monogamy itself, but of how we organize care of women and babies, how we fund it and who carries it out.

Women are the original protectors, and yet in our current culture they are not protected as such, which is quite the oxymoron seeing as everyone is either a woman or came from one.

AND a community centered model does not mean everyone is freely having sex with everyone. It means everyone shares responsibility. The food, the shelter, the childcare, the emotional labor and the financial burden. This is where the weight is distributed and the stress is shared instead of one or two people carrying the load of 36.

When a mother is supported this way, her cortisol drops, her nervous system is settled and she can actually be present with her children. She can nurse longer, think and breathe without wondering how she is going to pay rent. And in this environment her sons born with the neurological deck already stacked against them, get a much better chance.

We have built a system that takes the most neurologically vulnerable members of our species and places them into the care of isolated, unsupported, chronically stressed women, and then wonder why they are not thriving.

The crisis in boys is not a crisis of masculinity.

It is a crisis of care inside of a structure so fundamentally broken that it is damaging the brains of our children before they are even born.

Romanticized love monogamy gave us the idea that two people, or one, could handle what requires a village. It let us call isolation “intimacy” and wrapped it up in the hallmark tissue paper of love.

There is nothing wrong with exclusivity when it comes to sexual connections, but we have to stop romanticizing how this means requiring the marriage to do everything for those involved. it is just f*cking dangerous.

Our boys are not failing.

We are failing them.

And it starts with how we treat the women raising them. Everything…everything begins with the mother……… there is just no way around it for gods sake.

This is yet another one of our societies wake up calls…. how ever it lands with you….

M…

sitting here writing with tear smudged cheeks and a rage in her belly.

xx

The story goes like this…

Saturday night I go to a place I WOULD never normally go to from a last minute invite. When my friend asked me I took one look at the flyer she sent and I was “oh hell no,” whilst my entire body was ..”oh yes you are going”. When I asked another friend if she would come, i could not stop laughing that I was actually asking her to come with me to a place like this and her response was… “we wont tell anyone right?” jajajaj

( it was a north American sports bar showing the fights …. i mean…so many reasons for me not to be there )

YET… i could feel it in my body…i needed to go.

and lo and behold….. half way through the night in he walked.

A man I had not seen in 4.5 yrs…

The woman I was 4.5 yrs ago, reacting with confusion and pain at what happened, held her face straight talking to her friend pretending not to notice him walk by…

The woman I am today with more skills and experience under my belt leant over ( as he happened to sit beside me ) placed my hand on his leg and said “ mmhhh hello you”

He looked up, saw who I was and just smiled a beautiful smile saying, “oh my wow, it is you miss Melissa”.

Both of us sat there in the knowing that the last time we saw each other it was not a kind nor easy moment. It was really hurtful from my perspective. and as we started to unravel the layers a little I learned it had been really confusing for him, and I was thinking ( my ego ) “why are you confused…you did..a + b + c…etc etc…

As conversations go , there began a bit of back and forth of what we each remembered, and I became even more confused when he looked me in the eye, held his hand out for me to place mine in, and said “I miss you babe”.

So I offered…….

”it seems like we need to have some vents with each other to hear one another out”

“ that would be great he said. Lets do this…2pm tomorrow….”.

The next day we met. Straight back into our comfort zone of “we’re good together..this shit is lit” ( his words btw…)

But before I could lean on in ( alright I did join him for at least one big kiss before venting ) , I invited the venting containers.

…he had one request….”Can we not use the word vent?”..so I changed it to “clearing”

and when I was setting the container up expressing… “you have done nothing wrong” he jumped in saying..”but i obviously have”

“mmh Babe.. this is my animal speaking…. my little girl that had her buttons pushed and was so upset at what happened, what she viewed what happened… this is my side of the story….my side is obviously very different to yours…..she needs to be heard and soothed, thats all”

“Oh…. i get it, this is exactly what you mean by animal and ego..ok ok…yeah my ego has a lot to say about what happened” he said . “ You wont get mad or defensive when I say my piece?”

“Nope…. I wont”. He looked at me a bit side eyed…. And when it was his turn, he was willing to take the chance to say it all. I did not interrupt, I did not get mad or defensive and I watched his shoulders relax as he experienced that from me.

In his brave and honest request of changing the word from “vent” to another word, …… I realized something that I have been pondering for a few days now as I go deeper and deeper with it.

And it has to do how men often see vents which I have come across a bit since I have become a certified UPLVL™ coach ( of Kenya K Stevens work).

A vent to many men is combative language. Being in trouble (the little boy that could never do anything right and was micro managed at home, at school and in social situations ). The word Vent also seems to represent rage, out of control anger that they need to defend themselves from.

The word Vent=danger..emotionally and phsyically, to ,many men.

And mens emotions, which we nurture out of them, being deemed to be controlled and dampened down since toddlerhood, are then punishable by law, community and peers.

Yet for many women, and for those who have had access to emotional language and expression, the word vent feels like a relief, an exhale at the opportunity of expressing without being contained and controlled. Like finally being allowed to let something out.

For a man who has spent his entire life learning that emotional expression leads to consequence, even the invitation to express can feel like standing at the edge of something pretty f*ckiing dangerous.

A Vent can sound like explosion, damage, loss of control. Something that will need to be managed …… by him.

So…when my lover asked for a different word, he was not belittling the experience or resisting the process. He was so up for the process ( especially having the opportunity to say his say with me just receiving it without being triggered) He just needed a word that did not mean combat to him.

Me..personally, I LOVE the word, because it represents freedom to me.

And here lies the representation of all of us walking around on this planet… what something means to them means something very different you.

And oh boy…. nothing could describe the two different experiences of the one event, which was our rupture 4.5 yrs ago.

After we both got to vent and be soothed by each other he said “we should have done this 2 yrs ago…?”

“well” I said, “if we did see each other two years ago and tried to have this conversation it would have probably taken a hell of a lot longer than 20 min, and ended up with both of us emotionally and mentally exhausted”

“we would have sat here inside of a battle of our perspectives triggering the f*ck out of each other”

“and I can just about bet that if that did happen I would not be here hoping you are about to take me back to your place, because we have unfinished business to start up again”…

…( he raises his hand to get the bill )

And that is exactly what getting down to a zero (0) is..

it is orgasmic.

It is freedom.

Absolute freedom.

Lovers..I cannot express enough how fricking powerful UPLVL is.

There is no way in hell, I would have been able to initiate the reconnection with this man so ease-fully and with peace in my heart if I did not know the tools of UPLVL™, and know how to self process with the 3 way mirror. ( stage 2 of UPLVL™ )

What if what you were taught to do with your emotional world was never the truth about you?

What if you could stop modulating yourself inside of your relationship? Stop censoring yourself so the other does not pull away or react or dismiss you for having an emotion or reaction to something?

What if?

How free would you be? How free would you feel? And how much deeper would your love grow?…is there a song with that line it i? there is right?

Any hoo… THIS is what the UPLVL™ system gives you.

Freedom.

In your heart, mind and physical system..because we all know how sick and in pain so many people are inside of their relationships….

So many couples are inside of what is bascially a survival strategy that is our cultural imposition.

If you are wanting to get out of this constraint and deepen the love that you are in..book your discovery call here and lets talk about how I as a coach can bring you through the UPLVL system, then deepen your intimacy through the Erotic Blueprints and sexual mastery. You cannot get the depth of the latter without the safety of the emotions.

You and your relationship deserves this.

Book your call here

Always with pleasure

M

❤️

This is a short message as I am about to go and place my feet in the river and hug my favourite tree. ( ….. yes…I am that woman yet the neuroscience is catching up with what the elders shared with me to do decades ago…. and this is my go to after long yet incredible days of supporting men in their relationships)

But before I go and take some precious time as I prepare for the start of my mens program today FULLY CHARGED. I wanted to share with you 2 messages I received last night… they speak for themselves of the work that makes my heart sing.

“My friend… i have to tell you when you first told me about holding my energy by not getting off while masterbating. I thought you were messing with me. Lols but it works! When you said to imagine the energy forming at my scrotum and feeling it traveling up my spine and neck over my scalp. The first time i felt that running up my spine and over my scalp and then I could feel it as I inhaled it in. Ì started fantasizing everything that I wanted to make happen that energy Helped me manifest it. Holding that energy felt like an buzzing inside me. I know it helped manifest a book deal. Thank you Melissa”

and then there was this one just after we hang up from a powerful call

“Forgot to tell you the last time M****** and I made love it felt like a spark went up my neck. Never felt that before”. ( i would like to just aadd that this gentleman is of a VERY Puritan faith…. i am not sure if it was his god or mine that sent him to me..but heavens above….if I can create results within this spectrum..i can take on the world !! jajaja )

Listen lovers….. you can si tat your desk for the next yr or so wishing something was different and wishing your partner would seek you out…and be at Xmas time with the same issues and maybe even an empty place a the table…

OR…. you can join us inside of FULLY CHARGED and find out what these gentleman are talking about.

This is the revolution..take back your sexual power and create your life …. it is not so much woo woo anymore..it is science and your excellence…so jump on in !!

First call is today at 11 am CST ( 10am PST , , 1 pm EST ...7pm Amsterdam ), YES replays will be sent out.

JOIN FULLY CHARGED HERE

Always….

always with pleasure

M

❤️

Part of the story of modern male sexual dysfunction is not simply that something has gone wrong with men's penises, but that something has changed dramatically in the way men are living inside their bodies.

Mainstream wellness talk does not include very often mens pelvic health issues, and even rarely even acknowledges that it is the centre of so many issues for men…. and most men I talk to are not even aware of their perineum muscle let alone the other 25 muscles in the pelvis.

I was reading an article last week where a woman was sharing that during a structural integration training, around 40 (male) models came in for cranial work. When they shared their experiences afterward, what they talked about was pelvic pain, tension, scar tissue and numbness. Many of these men were military veterans and had never received thoughtful, skilled care for what they were experiencing.

And if you listened to my podcast episode with Jana Danielson ( HERE ) you would have heard us speak about how issues such as ED and PE are often directly associated with the lack of health in the pelvis.

Somewhere along the way, men stopped moving in the way their bodies were built to move. Over the last century, physical labour, walking, squatting, climbing, lifting and working outdoors have increasingly been replaced by chairs, cars, offices and screens. A man's pelvis can now spend more of its life folded, compressed and relatively inactive than moving freely through the world.

Maybe I wont go as far as to say that sitting alone caused the rise in erectile dysfunction, pelvic problems or premature ejaculation…but….it would be naïve to imagine this dramatic change in how men live has had no consequences.

Sexual function is not isolated from the rest of the body. It depends on circulation, cardiovascular health, nervous-system regulation, muscular coordination and a pelvic floor that can both contract and relax. When the body becomes sedentary, stressed and disconnected from its natural movement patterns, the pelvis does not somehow escape the consequences.

Inside of FULLY CHARGED my mens 6 week program starting this coming Thursday the 13th, one entire call is devoted to your Pelvis. The last time I held a mens group program so many of the men were blown away how little they had ever given time to this area of their body and loved the practice I took them through.

Lovers… your pelvic floor is not separate from the rest of life. It holds tension from trauma, from sitting all day, from stress, surgery, injury, and the weight of being human in a male body. And that tension does not just stay and hang out in the pelvis. It moves outward, affecting your posture, your breathing, your sexual function, and how a you experiences your own body.

I did a search before writing this email and this is what I found on Men’s pelvic health …

• Pelvic floor dysfunction in men and how tension affects erectile function, ejaculation, and sensation

• Post-surgical recovery for prostate, bladder, and hernia procedures—where pelvic floor rehab speeds healing

• Pain patterns that radiate from a restricted pelvis into the lower back, hips, and legs

• Trauma storage in the pelvic floor and how releasing it changes everything

• Intimacy and how a healthy pelvis improves sexual function and connection

Yet most men still don’t know this is even an option.

Inside of FULLY CHARGED. one entire class is a set of practices that I will take you through plus you receive a bonus video on a mens pelvic yoga sequence a friend filmed for my clients years ago when I lived in Puerto Escondido.

How we do one thing is how we do everything.

To look after our body as we move through life we need to pay attention to all of it..not just the muscle building in the gym.

Your pelvic health translates to the bed room lovers.

Now if that is inspiration enough..come and join us inside of FULLY CHARGED

I look forward to seeing you.

We start Thursday.

Always with Pleasure

M

❤️

My final client last night said something pretty profound. I had been sharing with him how to support his partner when she was venting, how not to take it personally and how to soothe her. Just moments before I was inviting him to step back from the blame and see where his experience of “drama” in this relationship was similar to that of his previous relationships. His eyes widened when he could see the thread.

“oh” he said. ( this was not the profound part..btw !! jaja ). I am the common denominator. I pointed out that it was not so much that he was causing the “drama” in each relationship, but that each relationship held the kind of lesson he needed to learn, and as he was not moving through the lesson, the same kind of woman with the same kind of wounding always showed up….as he is creating his life. ( one of the agreements of the UPLVL system… we create our life..Love is the benefit )

( so here is the profound part he said )..

… “Melissa. You are not just my coach, but you are holding a thread between cutting edge science and ancient wisdom “ ( UPLVL comes from a line of African Tradition bought to us by Kenya K Stevens ).

my response was “ooh I like that..but tell me more about why you are connecting it to the science stuff?”

He said ..go look up Dr Tara Swart and also Dr Lisa Feldman Barrett. They talk all “sciency” about so much of what you tell me in your “coachy” human relating way.

So what do you think I have been doing today?

Listening to these two women…

and when I hear them describe what they have discovered around how to soothe a nervous system that is in fight or flight, and how two people attract each other through their nervous systems that “sense” a match and therefor feel attraction.. All I hear is hours and hours in a lab to describe the metaphysics of UPLVL™

When you can hear through the date of neuroscientist you hear them describing what ancient cultures have used …for ever. (here is my article on how the Fijian culture is basically UPLVL)

Communities knew this and practiced this around fires long before laboratories existed.

Dr Lisa Feldman Barrett who is one of the top 0.1% most cited scientists in the world for her groundbreaking research in psychology and neuroscience, speaks of what she calls the predictive brain.

She says “Your brain is not reacting to the world. It is predicting it.” The brain combines sensory input with past memories to anticipate and prepare for future events, essentially crafting our entire subjective experience. It attributes meaning to physical sensations based on context and past experience.

In other words, what you feel in THIS moment is being filtered through everything that has ever happened to you.

This is exactly what UPLVL calls the animal and the ego speaking. The vent that isn’t THE truth, as it is only YOUR truth, constructed in real time by a brain running on old data, old wounds, old stories and old predictions about what this moment means based on every moment that came before it.

And do know what else I heard her say today in one of her TED talks? She said: “The best thing for your nervous system is another human and the worst thing for your nervous system is another human.” A witnessed, held, soothed human connection is literally neurological medicine. Our nervous systems are regulated by our interactions with others as positive social relationships are essential for maintaining a healthy body budget.

This is the soothings of the venting container in the UPLVL™ venting ceremony. Science calls it nervous system regulation. IN UPLVL ™ the person venting is responsible for asking for their needs to be met in the form of the types of soothings they want and/or need. This is where the nervous system literally recalibrates.

Then there is Dr. Tara Swart who is a neuroscientist, medical doctor, and known as one of the most compelling voices on the brain and human relationships alive today. She describes the attraction of our mates as the magnetic pull of our wounds.

Her work takes us even deeper into why we end up in the relationships we do. She explains the science behind how people tend to attract partners with similar psychological wounds and how factors like stress hormones influence compatibility.

We do not fall in love randomly. We are drawn at a nervous system level to people whose unresolved pain resonates with our own. Not consciously or logically, but somatically at a cellular level.

And this my loves is what we see and process in the 3 way mirror part of processing inside of UPLVL. Thsi is where we get to see how every relationship is for you. That the people you attract are not accidents but the exquisite invitations from your higher self for your growth.

“ geeze.. Growth dresses itself up as love”, my client said last night. jajajaja

Maybe….well you could say that.

Relationships are about growth, Love is the benefit.

Dr. Swart also explains that stress itself is contagious where cortisol not only affects the individual producing it but those around them. We are not separate beings having separate experiences. We are constantly regulating, and dis-regulating, each other.

One of the remedies of one of the Panes of The 3 Way Mirror is all about how to use this Osmosis factor to your benefit

Healing cannot be a solo sport.

We need each other..in more ways than we realize.

So here we have two of the most decorated neuroscientists of our time spending their careers proving with laboratories and peer reviewed papers and brain imaging, what ancient cultures have known and practiced since the beginning of human existence.

Sweat lodges, smudging, and drumming were not just symbolic fun things to do. They support nervous system regulation, emotional release, and reconnection with spirit which are all essential in trauma healing.

Shared ceremonies and gatherings reduce isolation and help regulate emotional overwhelm through co-regulation.

Rituals activate the parasympathetic system calming the body and allowing grief to move through instead of getting stuck. And this is exactly what the UPLVL ™ system is. It is a ceremony. A ceremony in which you honor your animal and ego, receive the soothings you need, process how you are creating your life, re pattern the subconscious brain (inner child work and what Barrett calls updating the brain’s predictions through new relational experiences.), take ownership of how you are creating your life and move into gratitude.

Ancient peoples did not need the neuroscience as they lived it and passed it on to each generation through the connection of living. It was and is built it into the architecture of their communities because they understand that humans cannot heal alone. That emotions ( the animal ) must move through us and being witnessed is not a luxury.

It is a biological necessity.

Science is not discovering anything new.

It is just finding the funded words for something ancient cultures know and live by. And I think that is one of the most awesome things about being alive today…to witness science proving what I have been learning for decades from ancient cultures…I love it!!!!

Join me Sunday the 16th ( August ) for my community call I hold for those inside of the Inner Circle of Paid subscribers where I’ll be holding a venting container of the UPLVL™ system.

Come and experience UPLVL Communication™ in action. Subscribe to join.

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If you are inside of a relationship that could use this kind of excellence to move forward in your relating, that will open up the space for more intimacy and sex and create a safe environment where both of you can be heard and soothed, then lets get on a call to discuss how I can support you to have that.

If you are unsure then ask yourself and your partner what are your agreements of communication and soothing ? What are your agreements of processing in the relationship? And how do you pattern interrupt the subconscious brain loop of always the same thing happening?

If you are unsure or don’t have any system in place , then lets talk.

Book your discovery call here

Always with pleasure

M

❤️

This ….may just feel a little confronting.

not here to shame anyone..as I am here for your excellence. But I am also not going to beat around the bush in order to tip toe around the truth.

The woman who nags you and the woman who cannot fully trust you in bed, is having the exact same experience of you.

Nagging, can seem like this personality flaw that is akin to a splinter in the heel of your foot that you cant see but can definitely feel….. and is often said to be described as a woman who is being difficult, annoying, demanding and even shrill.

Yet for the most part, nagging is the result of when she has asked for something, been told it will happen, and then watched it not happen. Again. And again.

Nagging is the back ground anthem of eroding trust.

what does this have to do with how she shows up in the bedroom?

When a woman cannot trust that you will follow through on what you say, and she is managing the household, holding the mental load and is constantly having to chase and remind you for the things you committed to, her nervous system is in a chronic state of low-grade vigilance. She is, energetically, always slightly braced. Always half waiting for the ball to drop.

And a woman cannot open her body in a state of vigilance.

Physically and neurologically, she cannot.

The same nervous system that is tracking whether you paid the bill or booked the appointment or had the conversation you promised to have whilst she is mentally keeping track of the household as well as her work, is the same nervous system that governs her capacity for pleasure and surrender to openess in the bedroom.

If she cannot trust you outside of the bedroom, she will not trust you inside fo the bedroom. You cannot be unreliable outside the bedroom and then expect her to be fully available inside it.

Her body keeps the score.

….now to your body in this situation.

Premature ejaculation, lasting less time than you want to, feeling like you cannot quite stay present, the part where your body is “get me out of here” ….is almost never purely physical in otherwise healthy men. PE is a nervous system response.

This nervous system of yours that rushes, cannot stay or slow down and cannot be fully present, is the same nervous system that avoids confrontation, avoids the hard conversations, that says yes to things and then does not do them.

Underneath both of these patterns lies the discomfort of being truly accountable and fully there. In the kitchen, in the conversation, and in the bed.

Ejaculating quickly is, in many ways, the body’s version of leaving before it gets too real. Before the intimacy deepens past what feels manageable and well before you are truly seen. Premature ejaculation is often about “get me our of here” so I dont have to be fully present, vulnerable and face myself or her.

This is not a conscious or deliberate act, but one that has been set up in your system over many years of not being comfortable or feeling emoitonally safe with who you are or with who you are with.

read that last paragraph again ….

Lover..

The work of Tantra is about learning to be comfortable with the uncomfortable. The uncomfortable part of holding your power ( until you are comfortable with it….)

Of sitting with yourself in the face of another that is dissapointed, angry or wants you so fucking deeply that they want ALL of you…for a very long time…

Tantra is about staying present wiht it all and alchemizing that in your body…

this is the power of mastering your ejacualtion.

And you do not have to some Tantric Yogi to do so…

Just as you go to the gym to build a a certain muscle group, just as you learn to woodwork so you can build kitchen benches, just as you learn some new Ai tech skill to streamline your business, you learn how to separate your ejaculation from your orgasm so you can last for hours and days…. true f*cking story !!

it is not as complicated as you may seem it is.

Dont beleive me?

Join FULLY CHARGED to find out how…

We are now starting on August 13th ( due to way too many tech issues in the last month ) ..

so that means you have more time to get your sexy ass into th e6 weeks that will change your life and your relationship.

YOU are worth it.

Join us HERE

I truly look forward to supporting you this way

Because the man who can be trusted to do what he says he will do, and the man who can stay fully present when it matters most …..are the same man. He is the one who gets seeked for by his lover for sex……..

She has been waiting for this for a long time.

Always with Pleasure

M

❤️

Melissa Louise is an UPLVL Coach working with men, women and couples on emotional accountability, nervous system safety, and the intimacy that becomes possible.

If you want to work with me privately book a discovery call here

Although this may ruffle a few feathers ( anyone else remember the ruffles chips? growing up in Australia… they were my fav..any hoo ) it needs to be said. Now more than ever. Especially with another new wave of semen terrorism…where men ( sorry..boys..as they may have adult bodies ..but are acting like boys that hate women..which they obviously do ) are throwing their ejaculate over women in the street…and masturbating inside of Dollar stores, titled “tagging” or sharking”

I could write an entire series on how the lack of sexual education and the pushing of a “puritan” culture actually creates more violence and more depression among us humans when it comes to sex, but not today……

Needless to say..everything you have been taught about sex, and not via good sacred deeply informing education . but by porn, locker room snide remarks and false tales, by the movies and the silence of parents who never spoke about it properly, not di dit well themselves anyway…. has been almost entirely wrong and completley upside down. This “wrongness” is costing you your health, your relationships, and your aliveness.

So on this Sunday afternoon lets talk about what sex actually is, because it is so much more than what you have been told. ( or not told )

The lie is bullied onto us that sex is about a release. The story most men inherited goes something like this. Get aroused, pump, ejaculate, and done.

Mission accomplished.

Roll over.

Repeat when required.

This is not sex. This is a biological transaction that has somehow been dressed up as intimacy. And it leaves both people involved, every single time, more empty than before.

Western culture, big business and the church have spent centuries trying to bury what Ancient Taoist and Tantric traditions teach. Sex is not an act that you do. It is a place you go. A state you enter together where expansion and co creation is weaved together. Physically, emotionally and spiritually.

The Taoists were very explicit about this. They understood that sexual energy, called jing, the life force, is the most potent creative intelligence in the human body. And they built entire practices around circulating it, alchemising it, using it to heal and restore and elevate. Not wasting it into a bin or down the drain. But investing and cultivating it in the body and in the relationship.

In life itself.

And what the pump pump then release model gets catastrophically wrong is that it is entirely oriented around the male body’s fastest possible response. And the female body does not work that way. A woman’s body is not designed for that at all as she is not a faster version of the same thing. A woman’s body s a completely different map and mechanism which requires time, presence, and genuine safety to open at all.

This is the the entire point of a heterosexual man in sex .. to raise his sexual energy up his spine so he can meet, hold and stand strong fro his female lover..other wise he can just masturbate…

And good ole.”modern” research confirms what we use to be taught before books by men wanting control were written, that people with secure emotional bonds experience higher sexual satisfaction and responsiveness. The female body, her arousal, her pleasure, her capacity for the kind of orgasm that genuinely nourishes both people involved, requires the nervous system to feel safe first. When the vagus nerve senses safety, it sends signals throughout the system that it is okay to relax, connect, and experience truck loads of pleasure. When there is a sense of danger or even the sense of needing to rush, it shifts the entire physiology toward protection and is in fight or flight.

When sex is goal oriented, fast, and focused on one person’s release, especially if that one person is rushing because he cant last as long as she needs the female body is, almost always, still arriving at the door when the whole thing is over. And she learns, slowly, to stop bothering to arrive at all and stops seeking out her partner.

Women stop wanting sex that does not work for them.

This is not a problem or defect int he female body….. it is an education issue.

Becuase sex is designed as your medicine. When done with presence and intention, where all emotions are safe and used as a tool to alchemize your life together, it is one of the most powerful emotional processing tools available to human beings. The limbic system ( the emotional brain ) is activated during sex whilst the cerebral cortex, responsible for rational thought, becomes less active. Sex is not meant to be a constant distraction from your emotional life, but an incredible doorway into it.

This is the place where grief can move. Where anger can be alchemized and softened. Where the week’s weight can be metabolised through the body rather than carried into the next one. Where two people can come back to each other after distance or the difficulty of the relentless grind of ordinary life, and remember why they chose each other.

Sex is meant to be the core of your relationship. Not this add-on if you are lucky enough that week. And definitely NOT a reward for good behaviour. Not something you get to when everything else is handled. It is the place you go to handle everything else. Your sexual relationship is the maintenance. It is designed to be the nourishment and the thing that keeps the roots of a relationship alive underground when everything above the surface looks ordinary.

It becomes the place where you are most yourself.

Where the armour comes off.

Where you are constantly being discovered to be known.

It regulates your nervous system building trust at a cellular level and it processes emotion that words cannot reach. It also keeps you physically healthy. It is your internal pharmacy for immune function, hormonal balance, cardiovascular health and sleep. It reminds both of you that you are not just housemates and co-parents and business partners in a shared life, but that you are lovers.

Chosen.

Wanted.

and alive to each other.

That is what sex is for. To be a homecoming. Every single time.

THIS is why men use to be trained to master their sexual energy..so they could tak epart in what ses is designed for.

and THIS is why I teach what I do.

ON August 6th my next 6 week live program for men starts..FULLY CHARGED. Not only will you learn ways to last longer, separate your orgasm from your ejaculation, pattern interrupting when it comes to your sexual energy and how to raise all that goodness up to your brain. But you will have learn an overall system regarding your pelvic health. We spend an entire week learning all about the woman’s body and her sexual maps of arousal. You will learn how to become a Pussyologist and how to lengthen and strengthen your Cock…yes it is possible. We will also be doing some shadow work…to move forward we need to spend some time releasing what is holding us where we are.

If you have been sitting on the fence..some of you for years now…. the only thing that is true..is that if you keep on doing the same thing over and over again…expecting a different result…then that is partaking in insanity.

it is time lover.

The world needs men to actually understand the true power of their sexual energy… it is a part of the revolution that is needed and I am doing my part in pushing it forward.

Come join us…

HERE

Always with Pleasure

M

❤️

Melissa Louise is an UPLVL Coach working with men, women, and couples on emotional truth, sexual sovereignty, and the kind of intimacy that actually nourishes. To work with Me, send a DM or book a discovery call here

In the online world of a certain genre of dating and relationships one reads over and over again

• “ I want a traditional wife/husband…..”

• “We need to get back to tradition..how things “use to be”..

• “Feminists have ruined relationships ( .. I will spare you of the rabbit hole of this ).

The problem with all statements of ‘tradition”, “Use to be” and “before …is that of which “before” are they talking of and which tradition? there are quite a few that we have created and those of which our ancestors have poked their unwanted noses into…so there is that.

ME PERSONALLY….. I would love men to be back in the tradition of where their seminal fluids..aka Liquid f*cking gold or Penis Prozac, were revered for being the sacred fluid that it is…….

In the traditional times of tantric temples where no boy or girl would enter into their sexual debut without being taught the arts of the others body, their own pleasure maps and sexual responses before they had access to another..

that my loves is what a traditional woman is….a god damn s*xual preistess.!!

and a traditional man…god damn truly powerful….so much more than this idea of violent domination…

For example…take a look at these poems dedicated to your golden milky liquid that is the building block for a human being.

“The Seminal Spirits” are the fire sung by poets having been stolen from the gods by Prometheus.

Pierre Louis Moreau

The Earthly Venus.

Semen is the most fined & noblest part of the whole human frame containing in itself the whole nature & complexion of every part of the body : or in other words, being the essence of man.

Nicolas Venette a 17th Century physician, sexologist & writer.

Semen.

A hot and humid spirituous body produced in the testicles or a body full of spirit capable of generating a soul..

From Graaf.

1641-1673

The flower & choicest parts of the blood & nervous fluid.

Robert James

Medical dictionary 1745

The seminal liquor has so great an influence on the corporeal powers.., that the physicians of all ages have been unanimously of the opinion that the loss of an ounce of this humour would weaken more than that of forty ounces of blood.

Samuel Tissot. 1755

When hormonal secretions of the sexual glands are regulary leached out of the body is sapped at the root. With in a period of time that will range from months to decades, depending on the endowment of the individual, creative & sexual abilities are halved. And the ability to withstand disease & the frailties of old age is diminished.

Mantak Chia

1984

Oh when I say lay me in a bubble bath and read poetry to me….this is what I mean I want to do on a lazy Sunday afternoon….this kind of poetry.

Oh if only we could be more ‘traditional” and have men honoring their ejaculate where they are using it for their brain and heart health.

If only we could return to where the traditional man would spend hours and hours making love and f*cking his woman wide open physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually in their temple as they alchemized their life together this way.

Oh if only we could return to have traditional men using sex magic with their partners to create their lives…..oh if only…

oh but WAIT…we can !!

hahahahhahahaha

we so can.

That is exactly what my mens program FULLY CHARGED is all about …creating traditional men !! ( hahahaha..you can see I am having fun with this ! )

Lovers….

This is your power.

and it is easier then you think

Join us to find out how so.

Get into FULLY CHARGED…here

if you have any questions..pls do not hesitate to ask by hitting reply to this email

Always with Pleasure

M

❤️

The oldest case for daily testicular & breast massage there is.

Contrary to popular demand “Breasts” are not simply aesthetic features or feeding organs and the Testicles are not simply reproductive organs that cause men to collapse to the ground if someones foot is near.

A woman’s breasts are living, hormonally responsive tissue rich in lymphatic vessels, iodine receptors, and estrogen sensitive cells that are in constant conversation with a woman's endocrine system. And a mans testicles are also endocrine powerhouses responsible for producing testosterone governing his energy, mood, muscle mass, bone density, cognitive clarity, cardiovascular health, and libido.

Yet on both sides of the fence, these parts of the body are often cornered into a sexual context only. Women will go and have their breasts examined by a doctor in order to give a verdict and many men will never touch their testicles at all with any intentionality. This is a significant gap in both men’s and women’s health literacy.

Both the breasts of a woman and testicles of a man, hold toxicity. And both the breasts and testicles are positioned near lymph nodes for a reason…to detoxify.

See where I am getting at?

If we had a culture that was raised ONCE AGAIN on how our body is purrfect and we have everything we need,,, we would not need what they are hell bent on selling us..to “save us” from “dis-ease”.

Among so many other benefits regular breast massage helps maintain iodine uptake in cells that are particularly vulnerable to deficiency.

And this brings me to iodine testicle painting for men.

As I have written quite a few times before about daily testicular massage for men that improves circulation to the area, supporting lymphatic drainage, reducing the buildup of tension and stagnation in the scrotal tissue and helps to maintain healthy testicular temperature regulation (which matters enormously for both hormonal output and cellular health)

……….Just to note testicular cancer is one of the most common cancers in men aged 15 to 45 and is highly treatable when caught early, but only if men are actually paying attention to what is happening in their own bodies.

Iodine receptors exist throughout the body and testicular tissue happens to be one of these parts that has iodine receptors and require iodine for healthy cellular function. When they are deficient in Iodine, research has linked this to increased risk of fibrocystic tissue, hormonal disruption, and cellular irregularities in these tissues.

And now Testicular painting walks in the door…dah dah.. this is the practice of applying Lugol’s iodine solution topically to the scrotal skin which exists in integrative and alternative health communities, based on the premise that transdermal absorption through the thin scrotal skin delivers iodine efficiently to the testicular tissue. Proponents suggest it supports testosterone production, testicular health, and iodine sufficiency more broadly.

Just as daily breast massage from the age of puberty for your health is not widely advocated by mainstream clinical research, neither is testicle painting.

YET as is very common, those practicing original medicine who advocate for iodine sufficiency as a pillar of hormonal and reproductive health, and who consider transdermal application a viable delivery method, do.

The scrotal skin is among the most permeable skin on the body. this is established physiology, and it is why transdermal delivery through this area is considered efficient. What is less established is the specific clinical outcome of painting iodine there regularly.

Just to note…..Lugol’s iodine applied topically can cause skin staining and, in high concentrations, irritation. ( nothing like the negative effects of the contraceptive pill on women’s bodies..but none the less.. ) If you are a man considering this practice, as with anything, start with a low concentration of Lugol’s .. 2% rather than 5%, and anyone with thyroid conditions or iodine sensitivity should consult a practitioner first.

And the thing is…even with or with out iodine, testicle massage is a basic non negotiable for your health.

Just as the breasts in women, your testicles hold a heavy load (..pun totally intended) as they are basically fatty, hormonally active tissue where halogens accumulate. Halogens such as fluoride (that Colgate has been shoving into you since you were 1yrs old), bromide and chlorine ( pools, bread, town water and fake table salt ) which all compete with iodine for the seats of your receptors in your tissues yet do nothing useful and crowd out the mineral that your body needs.

When you massage your testicles you detoxify the fatty tissue of all this rubbish, supporting the machinery of testosterone production.

Who would have thought those ovaries that hang from the base of your cock , get all sweaty and need adjusting every now and then where such little powerhouses?

Jajjaja. I have been sharing this with men for over 2.5 decades.

This and SO MUCH MORE…

If you are a man that is so ready to understand what the true power of your sex, your sexual energy and your body fueled by your sexual energy is capable of… get yourself into FULLY CHARGED. My 6 week program for men . We start Next Thursday, 6th of August

Your lover, your energy, your bank balance, your fitness and your brain will all thank you for it. Seriously …this is your source of power.

Dont believe me?

Join this Cock Gym of a program to find out that it is actually true!!

Always with Pleasure

M

❤️

Someone asked me last night if I would ever go back to India.

I have learned in my life to never say never…(that statement has bitten me in the arse way too many times for me to use it flippantly) but with this one, I am quite sure I don’t need to go back. I ended my time in India by riding an Enfield along the Pakistani border to get myself to Pushkar, not for the scenery, but to escape the constant touching, pulling and grabbing of my body that was an every minute event trying to walk in the streets in any city or town in that country.

Riding a motorbike meant I became untouchable.

Not just any motorbike. An Enfield I bought from an old rocker dude who was going back to his country after yrs of removing himself from the system.

It was time for him to return.

Not me…. i kept traveling for years.

But what does my time in India ( and Thailand, Bali and Cambodia ) have to with you not having to do it?

It was what I studied that has me steeped in my passion supporting men to understand the power of their sexual energy.

In fact I went to India just after I had taught the women whom worked at the Penthouse in Pitt Street Sydney how to make a man last longer and not have him ejaculate so he would extend the hours spent with the woman. I made a lot of money teaching them, they made a lot of money knowing this and …..lets say the men obviously spent more money when experiencing it.

The equation that sex and money are the same energy is true in all areas and expression of life.

I have spent months and months over years and years studying in India, Thailand, Bali, Cambodia, Peru AND in the lands of online… to bring to you the practical and digestible ways to last longer in bed, to make more money, to keep all that zinc inside of your body and use the power of sexual energy for your brain, heart and emotional health, so you can keep doing what you do, lay in a hammock or holiday in the Hamptons .

Instead of following in my footsteps and going for the years I did you can just join my 6 week live program starting August 6th.

If you do you can be just like my client “M” who once again left me a message this morning on my whats app, chuckling into the phone how he has had the best night of his life ( I hear him say this often,…he just keeps on up-leveling the experiences ).

I think I have told you about him…he is the one that wins money over and over again at the casino each time he goes,,.and walks out with it still in his pockets…. he shared with me once on a call that he has no problem winning money but he always loses it.. I was like “game on”. I told him to masturbate the way I taught him for at least 7 to 10 days before going in …. and combined with other little tricks I share with my men, he goes in…. wins big, and now comes out with the money still in his hands.

He even won $11 000 for a couple who were celebrating their wedding anniversary about a month ago…

This shit is real lovers.

You can notch it all up to woo woo if you like….but Napolean Hill…a conservative ole white guy wrote a book all about sexual energy and business in 1936…called “Think Big, Grow Rich”

And not only will you have a better working life…but your sex life will be ON FYRE…

And not just that… your energy, your health, your sleep and your skin…will be so much better.

Look who ever you believe created us….. did not make a mistake with out bodies, our nervous systems, our blood circulatory systems, our endocrine systems, our organs, bones, skin or muscle…and they certainly did not make a mistake with out sexual systems either.

We have just not been taught how to benefit from this power….

We use to be taught….

but you know…things went a bit hay wire for a bit…

And this is what I am for…..to give you these secrets and share with you how to build this power within you ..again….

Your excellence is truly needed …for yourself, your relationships, your family and your community..

Lover…. this is what you were made for.

Join us inside of Fully Charged. we start on august 6th

boom boom… ( when you work with me you get to know that this is how I end many conversations….. and by pure osmosis.. you may just begin to do so also.)

always with Pleasure

M

❤️

Look…..

the majority of people in your life and over your life span will not say this to you. Not your doctor, not your sports coach ( although she or he should of all people ) not your friends, not your religious leader and not your mum or dad as you started to leave the house ( ..I am the mother that did though…) or anyone else in your culture. And that is the narrative and ignorance surrounding sex has been quietly, systematically, draining you of your power since you were old enough to discover the sensations in your pants.

Our culture pushes men to treat their ejaculate as a waste product for a very good reason.

Are you ready for this…?

…one ejaculation contains approximately 200,000 terabytes of information. Yep…..let me say it again..

200,000 terabytes.

That is the equivalent of 800,000 iPhones, 200,000 laptops and one single large commercial data centre. You have a supercomputer factory between your legs and you have been conditioned to treat what it produces as a waste product throwing it away in tissues and condoms down the drain into land fill and oceans.

I mean………

Our world has been structured so that this type of momentary “freedom” from the chaos that you experience is believed to be something releasing and satisfactory.

Yet if you are to get real with yourself I will take a guess that this moment is getting to be not so satisfactory and is actually contributing to more and more depletion. It is nto actually tension you are releasing, it is pure life force energy that you are getting rid of.

Your intelligence.

Your creative power ( A white guy named Napolean HIll wrote all about this in 1936 in one of the most iconic business books for men..Think Big, Grow Rich )

This power has someone to go inside of you, not into a tissue or down the drain.

Every spiritual tradition that has ever taken men’s power seriously has known this. The ones in power today know it too which is exactly why porn is free. And so accessable.

Think about that.

An entire industrial complex, available to you at any hour, on any device, at zero cost. But who funds free? And who benefits from you sitting alone, draining the most concentrated biological intelligence on the planet, into a tissue, several times a week, chasing a simulation?

You are being told to conquer women.

To score.

To notch.

To be manly or masculine in the form of releasing…..

and repeat.

You are being handed a cultivated script about your sexuality that keeps you small and disconnected and perpetually half powered under the careful watch of the big three.

Religious institutions have done it through shame.

Patriarchal culture has done it through idolizing this warped idea of performance.

And the pornography industry does it through momentary pleasure which is, of course, the most effective delivery system of all.

The truth is that a man in his full power is totally ungovernable and this they do not want. Lovers…your power lives inside of your own body.

And you access this power by coming into conversation with your own sexual energy, how to move it through your body and by deciding when, how and with who you ejaculate.

Mastering your ejaculation is the biggest power move you can do for yourself. Not this bulky gym bro body that is out of proportion to your stature that gets you high fives from other men…… but the power that lives in your body as you learn to circulate it that has your woman seeking you for intimacy.

Your power is in retention that cultivates deep deep presence. In learning to feel the full charge of your own life force moving through your body and choosing consciously and deliberately what you do with it.

This lovers is the true strength of a man. And this is why I have been supporting men to do this for over 2.5 decades. because as a woman i know we need strong powerful men in this world…truly powerful men.

Imagine what your creativity looks like when that energy has nowhere to leak?

Imagine what your focus feel like? Your drive? Your magnetism in a room?

What does your body feel like when it is running at full charge rather than perpetually rebooting from empty in the never ending cycle of exhaustion.

These are not rhetorical woo woo questions. They are one of the most incredible invitations I can offer you.

Do you take this invitation with curiosity? Do you wonder what it would be like to take on the radical act of treating what your body produces as sacred and powerful rather than something disposable.

You are not a machine that needs to vent pressure.

You are a man carrying extraordinary biological intelligence in your own body.

And what you do with that intelligence, where you direct it, how you honour it, whether you spend it or invest it, will shape everything.

Your energy.

Your clarity.

Your relationships.

And especially your capacity to create the life you want, lead and love at the level you were actually built for.

If you are ready to stop treating your ejaculate like a waste product, then join us inside of “FULLY CHARGED”. This is my live 6 week program for men where I teach you what I have been teaching men for the past 2.5 decades. and that is how to master your ejaculation for your yourself, your lover and your life. I have not met ONE MAN who has regretted learning this…not one man EVER..

join us here…we start August 6th.

Always with Pleasure

M

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I am Melissa Louise is an UPLVL Coach working with men on emotional embodiment, sexual sovereignty, and returning to their full power.

I always say I have one of the best jobs on the planet ( and it does not feel like a “job” per se because of it) . and this is that I get to talk to men all week every week where they share with me what often they do not tell anyone else.

I get a different version of themselves.Not the one that they reserve to perform for the world. I get to sit in front of the version that is often hidden for way too long.

The version they have often not felt safe enough to share with anyone.

When I ask the question of what they truly want in a relationship, i hear over and over that they “want to feel desired.” Not just loved or appreciated, respected or that they are a good provider etc….. But.. desired.

They want to feel Wanted.

They also want to feel Chosen . Men also want to have someone that looks at them and feels something…..electric. A look that says you, specifically you, do something to me.

For some of the men i speak to, it takes a bit to admit as if wanting to be desired is somehow less masculine than simply being the one who does the desiring.

and meanwhile, on the other side of the bed are their women consumed with being desirable. With the outfit, the gym sculptured body, the lashes and hair and the way they look when they walk in the room. Women concerned with whether their partner still finds them appealing. Beautiful, intelligent, loving women who are absolutely consumed with being desirable.

Whilst a woman is conditioned and marinated from birth how her worth lies in how desirable she is, her man is laying next to her aching to feel this as well..from her.

What can happen is that while women are busy worrying about whether they are desired, they are often not actually doing the desiring. And their man sitting across from them, or lying next to them in the dark is starving for exactly that.

In all my years of coaching men, this is one of the most consistent and heartbreaking threads I see being pulled at a mans heart..that he does not feel desired his partner.

They feel tolerated.

They feel like the initiator always the one reaching, asking and hoping for connection. They often feel like sex is something that their partner agrees to rather than wants to initiate or reaches for. They feel, in the most tender and unspoken part of themselves, invisible in their desirability. And because men are conditioned to not need this because it is akin to weakness or neediness or something vaguely embarrassing, they often do not say it.

…..so lovers….. lovers of men…can you imagine what is the most delicious and powerful way to desire your man ?

through his cock……...

A man’s Cock is not separate from his identity, his confidence or from his sense of self. A Man’s cock is not something that exists purely for function or performance as it carries the full weight of his vulnerability. The cock is the barametor of his life… every fear of inadequacy, every moment of shame, every time his body did not respond the way he willed it to, every cruel joke the culture has made at his expense, the mission he is or is not following…. etc etc…

He has been compared, measured, judged, and reduced to a punchline more times than any of us stop to reckon with.

And underneath all of that, the bravado and the silence, most men have a relationship with this part of themselves, with their cock, that is far more tender, far more complicated, and far more wounded than they will ever admit.

Which is exactly why honouring a man’s cock, truly honouring him, with presence and reverence and genuine delight, is one of the most profoundly healing things a partner can offer.

To honour this part of a man that has often not been allowed to simply be received without pressure or expectation or an agenda. This is devotional.

It communicates, at a level that bypasses words entirely and lets your man know that he is safe. every single part of him… even the parts he may have been most afraid to show.

And from that place, that place of being truly met without judgment or demand, a man can open in ways that transform not just the bedroom, but the entire relationship.

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oh and it is highly erotic and sexy as all f*ck…..

For the Ladies whom are wanting to gift your man this adoration and devour him this way….I created teh puuurrfect short sexy program for you

Get yourself into Oral Pleasure Mastery HERE

mmhhh

Always with pleasure

M

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PS……. if you are one of the peeps completely slammed by Mercury retrograde this time around…I FFFEEEEELLLLL you..oh my gawd I do…. you may have noticed i have not been sending my juicy emails…for a bit…i was locked out of my accounts, my computer died and i lost…a truck load of”stuff”…. but…I am coming back slowly….i did what i know best to do and that was to go to the mountains and rivers…

So you will be hearing more of me again.

xxxx

Melissa Louise is an UPLVL Coach working with men, women, and couples on emotional truth, nervous system safety, and the kind of intimacy that actually nourishes. To work with Me, hit reply to this email or book a discovery call HERE

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And to start it off let me say this..i have NEVER met a man who has learned how to master his ejaculation, to move his sexual energy up his spine and separate his ejaculation from his orgasm…… and regretted it.

NEVER…..

Our bodies are phenominal.

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Lovers,

A few weeks ago Marni Kinrys ( creator of The Wing Girl Method ) and I had a fun chat about what works with women in the world of flirting….

And we should know. As a wing girl, I get to share some pretty damn wonderful frameworks created and tested by Marni through her work, to so many men each week.

Flirting is a dance. Not a pitch nor is it a straight line from hello to bed.

A dance.

And the dance exists for one very necessary primal reason. It is how a woman’s sytem checks whether it is safe to lean in and open.

Yet…most men do not move like this. They move in a straight line, tunnel vision locked, already three steps ahead into the solution, the plan, the future where this goes well. Point A, met her. Point B, number. Point C, date. Point D, you know where point D is….. ( yep….. D can be for what ever you want it to mean… destination is what it means here,, wink wink 😜 )

And there is nothing wring with Point D…. Point D is where our dreams and fantasies live also…. the problem is not the where this desire lives, it is the speed men are wanting to get there.

A woman’s system does not open under speed. It does exactly the opposite.. it closes. The moment a man goes too direct, too fast, too “let’s skip to the part where we I tell you are sexy, where we touching or even kissing” her body reads it as unsafe, and the whole dance shuts down before it started. And for many women this is disappointing because it is not that she did not like him, he body became guarded because he skipped the part where trust and safety is to be built.

This is exactly what I to get teach inside The Wing Girl Method created by Marni Kinrys as a wing girl. Yes it is as fun as it sounds. How to flirt in a way a woman’s whole system can actually say yes to. Slower, playful and safe enough to open where she is excited enough to want to.

In this episode Marni and I talk about two of my most favourite frameworks of hers, which I love sharing and practicing with the men. Go listen here on Youtube or here on spotify

Always with Pleasure
M
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PS…. if you are a man reading this and after watching the episode you are like “OH yeah..THIS is what I need…hit reply to this email and I will set you up with someone who can take you through the entire program and work out which part of it ( if not all of it ) would suit you best …and yes..you can request me as your wing girl !!

Time and time again I hear from the men inside of the program that they had no idea it would be so rich and life changing in all areas…. flirting with women…is not “just flirting with women”. jajajja

oh lovers…

I mean how much fun can a woman have?

This past week so many reels and podcasts have been released that I have been a part of and I am going to be dripping them to you like hot molasses !!!

That saying comes from my response to a VN my lover left recently and he asked if I liked it?……. so now I am going to use it every where because seriously… Living life like I am sliding into a bathtub of warm molasses….. is a f*cking great way to live.

So …here is a very wild fun and no bars held WHAT SO EVER podcast episode I recently did with Jennifer from “The Open Bedroom Podcast”. ( on youtube ). or listen to it here on Spotify

Choose your flavour lover.. I PROMISE… you will LURVE it…. it was a wild and fabulous “chat” one could say where both Jennifer and I give juicy details of our lives and experiences.

Of course we spoke of my upcoming 6 week mens group program FULLY CHARGED….which you can access here.

Fully Charged is gym for your C🐓ck and the man behind it.

Always with Pleasure

M

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First we need to redefine what is sex, and become just as creative in our relationships as we are in our businesses, friendships and raising the kids.

We are forever evolving and our sex lives often get left behind,

In this video I created for those in my inner circle I …

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