What’s the HOW to your WHY?

Clearly unclear, isn’t it?
Yet if you’re a devoted Nietzsche Academy reader, you probably know what I’m talking about.

In the previous article, we forged the most important weapon in your Self-Reinvention campaign:

Your WHY.

Your three-letter sword against resistance, uncertainty and all those miserable mornings when your Old Self tries to drag you back into bed or talk you out of your plans.

But one important question remained - How exactly do you find it?

Let’s shoot straight for the root.

I spent most of my twenties searching for mine.
The search became especially urgent after I finished my Master’s degree and moved from the slower, contemplative environment of the philosophy faculty into the frantic jungle of the modern working world.

My existential crisis did not gently knock on the door.
It kicked the bloody thing down.

Suddenly, the path before me seemed perfectly sensible—but completely lifeless.

Work. Consume. Distract yourself. Repeat.
You know the drill.
I knew I wanted something else but I simply couldn’t name it - yet.

What I’ll give you now are the three most important things I wish someone had given me back then:

1. An Attitude to adopt

2. A Question to ask—ad nauseam

3. A Book to study

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I. The Attitude: Excavate—Don’t Invent

In the previous article, I wrote that you don’t find your WHY.

It finds you.

I stand by that.
A reason powerful enough to make suffering bearable cannot simply be manufactured because it sounds impressive.

A genuine WHY is not chosen like a new jacket. It emerges from something deeper: your temperament, experiences, wounds, abilities and recurring fascinations.

It is tied to your own nature.
Or, speaking in the language of our Self-Reinvention campaign:
Your First Nature.

This is why our previous work matters.

By observing your patterns, examining your strengths and weaknesses and confronting what you genuinely desire, you uncover the raw material from which your WHY emerges.

Notice the word “Uncover”.

That’s how I find mine.
When I thought back and realized that I was at my happiest in early 2020 when I had nothing else to do but read and write (because of my Master thesis.)

I realized I that I love the art - the process of pulling wisdom from books, adding my own experiences, fusing in my own nature and sharing it with people seeking depth, knowledge and truth.

You cannot command your WHY to appear.

But you can create the conditions in which it becomes visible.
Observe yourself. Follow the recurring thread. Experiment.
Notice what keeps calling you back—even after frustration, failure and disappointment.

Your WHY is rarely hidden in one sudden revelation.
More often, it lies within a lifelong pattern you have not yet learned to read.

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“If we have our own why in life, we shall get along with almost any how.”
— Friedrich Nietzsche, Twilight of the Idols

Glückwunsch.

You completed the first part of your Self-Reinvention quest.

It’s the less exciting and bit more tedious part - but absolutely necessary.
Now however, you got the solid base.
You know the material you’re working with, you know the bottlenecks and character areas that need some serious work.

You need to clarify for yourself just one more thing (the topic of today’s essay).

Once you have done this, you’re free to spread your wings like Zarathustra’s eagle and fly all the way to the shiny center of our galaxy like Icarus.
(Hopefully with a better ending)

But before you move on, here’s a quick recap of all the Self-Reinvention chapters so far. (In case you missed some or want to return to any of them – because they’re so good you know…)

And now, the already mentioned last necessity…

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Find Your WHY - or don’t even try.

There is a book by Simon Sinek that’s called “Start with WHY.”
I haven’t read it so I can’t really recommend it.
What I can encourage however, is his advice.

In things that matter to you, always get clear on the reason why you do it.
This applies to the nth degree when it comes to Self-Reinvention.

Self-Reinvention is an arduous, long-term and emotionally challenging process.
But it’s worth the struggle.

As Nietzsche says:

It can take years, even decades.
Without a strong enough reason, you’ll give up by the time
the first difficulty comes up.

When life asks you HOW - How long can you endure this?
Your WHY has to be ready to answer - Until the end.

Your WHY determines how much you can endure.
Adversity determines what you become through that endurance.

Your Old Self will cling to its life - and fight back like a true madman.
It will act bold, self-assured as if it couldn’t be ever beaten.
Yet it can…

IF you keep the sword firmly in your hands and strike with it ruthlessly, incessantly again and again.

The sword is called - your WHY.

The Anatomy of a Strong WHY

core question: “How does a strong WHY look like?”

Wide shoulders, dense back… what else?
Alright, alright we’re not talking about body composition here… but the two main qualities are appreciated in physique aesthetics too.

They’re called:

I. Sharpness - (emotional clarity / vividness)

The first aspect is all about clarity. How sharply defined your WHY really is. A strong reason for your Self-Reinvention is usually based around some very strong visceral memory or a very vivid and clear vision. Sometimes both. A sharp enough WHY is therefore best recognized via your emotional response to this thought.

Ask Yourself:
How strongly does the vision or memory move you? Is it strong enough to base a whole new life around it?

Remember Harry Potter trying to learn Expecto Patronum with Professor Lupin ? That’s what I’m talking about.

II. Firmness - (durability / existential depth)

Even the sharpest of swords is useless if your grip is weak. (Use this claim in the bed conquests at your own peril).

No seriously. It doesn’t matter how vivid the memory or vision is if you can’t rely on it. The last thing you want your WHY to be is fleeting. Beware of making life-long decisions based on feelings that you experience for a couple of days or even a week.

A strong WHY does arouse strong emotions, but is rooted much deeper - ideally existential level.

Ask Yourself:
How long is this WHY with me already? When I trace it back to its origin - not when I realized it but when the life-changing moment happened - how much time has already passed?

If your answer is anything in terms of a few days - give it some more time to solidify.
Let it root properly.

The last thing you want to do is reinvent your whole life on some evanescent emotion and then realize that’s not at all what you want.

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You know WHY you need it. You know HOW it looks like.
But WHERE can you find it?

In this weekend’s Premium Essay I’ll give you the exact steps and set of self-analyzing questions to get the deepest roots of your WHY.

Up Next Finding the WHY - Nietzsche’s Comprehensive Mini-Guide to Find Your Why

But if you’re not a Premium Subscriber yet and the question “How do I find it?” still bothers you, I’ll give a little hint.

How do you find it?
You don’t - It finds you.

Your WHY has been hiding somewhere inside that chaos — among the frustration, failures, dissatisfaction, and things you simply cannot forget.

You don’t always find your WHY by looking for an answer.
Sometimes you find it by listening to what the chaos has been trying to tell you.

There are ways, however, to meet it halfway…
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Once a week we choose one quote and drag it through a 3 stage process:
Interpretation → Application → Summary

I keep it deliberately in Nietzsche’s spirit.
Short. Simple. Punchy & Pragmatic.
Enjoy!

Two lines could be summarized in two words - Amor Fati.
Nietzsche always loved to “philosophize with the hammer”, and these two lines contain considerably more than simple acceptance — or even love — of one’s fate.

They speak about art.
A lifelong endeavour that you might have been following NA for all along:

The Art of Self-creation.

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The Interpretation

“I want to learn more and more to see as beautiful what is necessary in things…”

The first part resembles the classical idea of Amor Fati: learning to embrace what cannot be changed.

But Nietzsche takes it further.

He is essentially asking us to change our relationship with necessity — with the things we cannot undo or escape. Instead of endlessly resenting our past, limitations, suffering, or circumstances, we can learn to recognize them as part of the material (our First Nature) from which our life is formed.

To look for good in anything that happens to you, because of the dual nature of anything in the universe.

…then he takes the decisive leap.

“…then I shall be one of those who makes things beautiful.”

The first half of the quote is about the perception.

About learning to see things as they are — including the parts we would rather not see at all.

The second half is about creation.
It encumbers the spirit of his whole philosophy.

How does one make things beautiful?

By REINTERPRETATION.

→ You don’t necessarily change the thing.
You change what the thing means.

That’s the core message and power hidden in the two short but very potent lines.

Application of the Quote + Example

In essence the proper use of this Wisdom Nugget lies in 3 steps:

Example: A temperament partner:

He’s impatient. Judges quickly. Quick to act. Jealous. Sometimes he yells or just explodes. // He steps in where there is a problem. He defends her. He’s a man of deed not words. He’s also a dynamite in the sheets.

She’s moody. Sad on Monday, mad on Tuesday, horny by Wednesday, deeply depressed by Thursday. She’s very touchy feely. She takes things very personally. She’s far from a saint.// She’s sensitive, attentive and caring. She’s connected and sees in you immediately what others never could. She loves and makes “making love” into a transcendental ecstatic experience.

-> Both of these roses have their thorns and it is up to each one of us to learn to see them as beautiful and then to decide whether we want to hold onto them regardless - or not.

If they’re just prickly, perhaps it might be worth the pain.
Should they cause you repeated existential bleed out, you might as well rethink it.

See the whole rose — not just the thorn.

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Summary

The world is not simply the collection of objective data we gather about it.

Since we are the only species that is wired much more deeply on the psychological than physical level, our lives tend to be, to a great extent, what we make it.

We don’t merely experience reality.
We interpret it.

Our lives are largely the story we repeatedly tell ourselves.

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“The snake which cannot cast its skin has to die.
As well the minds which are prevented from changing their opinions; they cease to be mind.”

— Friedrich Nietzsche

Write it down!

I insisted in my last article like your annoying fifth-grade school teacher.
Luckily, the topic we’re exploring is much more interesting than whatever you studied back then.

Our subject is more…personal.

The Reinvention of your Self.

In the last episode - Step III. Refining Your First Nature - I promised you a template you can easily follow. I’ve created it with the 3 main principles I described earlier in the main article. Let me briefly now briefly remind you what they are and mainly - give you several tips on how to use them when working with the (FNB) First Nature Blacklist.
→ (Download the template below the article)

Spectrum Shift

-> You’re not annihilating your undesired characteristics completely.
You “tone them up or down” - deliberately making them less or more intense.

FNB application example:

Maybe your goal isn’t to become disagreeable at all.
Perhaps you simply want to say “No” more often, express your opinion during meetings, or stop apologizing for everything.

The objective isn’t to erase the trait.
It’s to move it toward the point where it serves your life instead of controlling it.

False Friends

-> Before you disqualify any supposedly harmful attribute, you ask yourself whether it truly is only or mainly a weakness. Sometimes the quality can hide an immense advantage if reinterpreted or used in different contexts. Then the only question is whether the different context use is actually something that you deal with on a daily basis.

FNB application:

The same characteristic that keeps you stuck before making a decision might also make you exceptional at solving difficult problems, recognizing patterns, or avoiding costly mistakes.

Don’t eliminate a strength simply because you’ve been using it in the wrong situations.

Make it Concrete

-> When describing the quality you’re about to refine, be as specific as possible.
The more detailed your description, the better you can envision your New Self (Second Nature) already executing the desired behavior change.

FNB application:

The more precisely you identify the undesired behavior, the easier it becomes to design the behavior that will eventually replace it.

With these three tenets on your mind, don’t wait any longer!

Print the FNB template out, grab a pen and start polishing the grounds for your future Über-masterpiece!

Incipe!

Download the First Nature Blacklist here:
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“I want to learn more and more to see as beautiful what is necessary in things;
then I shall be one of those who makes things beautiful.”
— Friedrich Nietzsche, The Gay Science

Refining the First Nature

You mapped it out.
You took a big step back and took the time to realize who you are right now.
You probed the material, so to speak.

Then you accepted it.
You realized that your current personality, your First Nature, is hardwired but not finite. The material is solid — but still malleable.

Now is the time to get your hands dirty.

For the first time in this series, we move from observation into deliberate creation.
Or rather — a preparation phase.

A short period where we prepare the grounds for our future breathing Über-masterpiece.

Because before the sculptor can create something magnificent,
he must first understand the stone in front of him.

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Veto the Useless and Harmful

Ruthlessly.
Refining your First Nature is all about elimination.

Defining and writing down the personal traits and behaviours that caused you the most trouble in your life — and then reducing the harm they create.

Your personality can be shaped.
No doubt.
But it will take a lot of time, effort, and most importantly — clarity.

That’s where writing down the biggest troublemakers comes into play.
And believe me — you have to write them down.

I tried to reinvent myself several times by simply trying to change my behaviour as I went along without any plan or list.
I fared rather badly.

Without a curated list, there will simply be too many things competing for your attention. Too many patterns hiding in the shadows.

Too many old instincts will be trying to pull you back.
Your personal cheat-sheet is your compass.
Without it, your chances of keeping self-reinvention consistent are close to nihil.

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That’s also why in the Premium episode I’ll share with you “The Nietzschean Blacklist.”

There I’ll uncover the main principles for a proper First Nature refinement, as well as a curated First Nature Template you can fill in and use as a compass during the entire Reinvention process.

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The First Nature Blacklist

= List of personal traits and characteristics that you want to minimize or
de-emphasize

If you’re a Premium subscriber, you’ll get the template with the guidelines and principles already laid out for you.

But in case you’re more of a DIY person, I got a few tips for you too.

→ Here’s what you should keep in mind
when creating your own First Nature Blacklist:

Spectrum Shift

Although it’s called a Blacklist, refining your First Nature is not about completely eliminating your undesired traits.

Think about it more in terms of toning them down.

Imagine a spectrum.
A DJ mix set.
You’re not deleting every single sound you dislike.
You’re lowering certain frequencies and amplifying others.

The same applies to your personality.

You are trying to reduce the harmful, destructive parts of your First Nature and enhance the useful ones.

False Friends

There are two sides to every coin.

And the same is true for every personal quality you possess.
We already established in Step II. that context matters and that:

This still holds true.

People are often very quick to judge and dismiss certain character traits as outright bad. But you, the student of Nietzsche, do not look at your traits through the lens of good and evil.

You look at them through the lens of: Useful or useless.
Am I right?

Sadness. Anger. Pride…
These characteristics would make many people immediately try to remove them.

But what if your sadness helps you write your best poems or paint your greatest paintings? What if your anger gives you the energy to become a great athlete and fight through difficult moments?

What if your pride makes you too stubborn to abandon an important mission when everyone else gives up?

Don’t ask yourself: “How do I destroy this part of myself?”
But rather: “How do I master it?”

In other words...

Think twice before you dismiss your most precious treasure because of prejudice, social pressure, or someone else’s definition of what you should be.

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Make It Concrete

Don’t underestimate this process.

The refinement of your First Nature might feel tedious and discouraging because you first have to face the uncomfortable truth about your own shortcomings.

It is much easier to jump immediately into designing your future self.

But trust me — that path does not go far.
You cannot build a magnificent house on unstable ground.
You need a solid foundation first.

And this process starts with precision.

Do not write:
“I need to become more confident.”

That is too vague.
Instead ask: “How does an internal dialogue and daily behaviour of a confident person look like?”

Refinement requires self-honesty.
And honesty requires specificity.

And then… get to work.

How exactly?
That’s the topic for next week.

Thank you for reading.
See you soon, fellow thinker!

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“How One Becomes What One Is.”
— Friedrich Nietzsche, Ecce Homo

If you were the main character in a book - how would you feel about yourself right now?

Imagine: you know the protagonist’s character just as well as you know your own at this moment. Everything about it - the strengths and the weaknesses, their success stories but also the failures.

What emotions would prevail when following this hero’s story?
Pride? Amusement? Joy? Embarrassment? Disappointment? Hopefulness or hopelessness?

Close your eyes and try it out for a few minutes.
It doesn’t cost much time or effort but tells you volumes about the most important relationship you have.

The only relationship you can’t escape from - the one with your Self.

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“One can dispose of one’s bad habits,
but not annihilate them.”
— Friedrich Nietzsche (Human, All Too Human)

A few eternities ago, as I was about 12 years old I got in a little dispute with my mother. We talked about the one thing that she already knew, but got really upset about when my teachers reminded her of it repeatedly. It was about my slowness.

I was always the last one to finish the test. When the teachers dictated what we should write down I never caught up with their tempo and always had to borrow the notes from others after the class.

The only thing I was always first in was to stream the hell out of the class to buy me a cappuccino or some pseudo-coffee in the hallway coffee machine. (Yes my caffeine addiction started at 12 yo and yes we had a coffee vending machine in our elementary school).

The point of our argument was a different view on a person’s ability to change.
She claimed that though I should strive to do things faster, there’s not all that much I can do about it. She said that person’s character is pretty much given.

I remember being very mad about her telling me this and I insisted - with an enthusiasm of a 12 yo - that anyone can become whoever and whatever they want.

Today I know that we were both right in our own way.

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You Can Shape a Stone

My mother wasn’t trying to discourage me – she was trying to warn me.

She wanted me to realize what Nietzsche summarized so well in the opening quote.

→ We can dispose of our bad habits, but not eradicate them entirely.
Like a tree we can chop down but the roots of which dive too deep out of our reach.

Likewise do our character traits.

Just like my mother encouraged me to be faster yet not to expect to become a Spongebob on cocaine, Nietzsche wanted us to become the Übermensch version of ourselves without erasing our First Nature completely.

Human character consists of various traits that we inherited either through our genes or upbringing. However, they’re not immutable. They are hard to change, but not impossible. Like a stone, with a lot of patience and hard work you can alter its shape for good. It just takes a while.

With these two personal attributes
a true Self-reinvention is absolutely possible.

Context is everything

There is, however, one thing my mother didn’t tell me.
I Wish she did.

But sometimes the lessons learned the hard way are the most valuable ones.

The snail-like tempo caused me many troubles all the way up to my late teens.
It wasn’t really until my freshman college years when my self-awareness and self-analyzing nature really kicked in.

But once they did – everything changed.

After trying out several diverse sports of which none suited me I finally found myself in the art of bodybuilding. I call it an art intentionally. Unlike many activities, bodybuilding requires diligence, discipline and perseverance more than speed.

Likewise, thanks to my philosophy studies I fell in love with reading and shortly after that also writing.

I finally found activities that fit my First Nature.

I realized my slow, contemplative, analytical and deliberate nature was not a weakness.

Somewhere along the road, my slowness became contemplation.
And contemplation became writing.

…Which for a boy who was too slow to write down the school notes is a rather beautiful irony.

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Accept but Don’t Settle

Nietzsche warns us that we can eliminate different characteristics from ourselves,
but not permanently destroy them.

For these hard-wired qualities have a habit of returning when we are at our weakest.
As Nietzsche writes:

As we mentioned in The #1 Reason Why You Didn’t Manage to Reinvent Yourself Yet – the harder you fight your First Nature the more it resists.

Your current personality is partly given, but it is not final.

We’ll get more in depth on how to navigate the whole Self-reinvention and laying out your Second Nature in the future episodes.

It’s the material that we will bend, adjust and take advantage of – as our Will (to Power) pleases.

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In our next Premium Episode, Nietzsche has a meeting with the brilliant psychologist Nathaniel Branden.

Together, they will help us explore the crucial skill of Self-Acceptance: what it is, why it matters, and how exactly you can cultivate it.

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“Become who you are.”
— Friedrich Nietzsche

As promised in the first episode Mapping your First nature, today I’m gonna share my own Full set of Questions as well as the Principles underlying the whole process of First Nature analysis.

Skill is important.
Knowledge is power.

But without the right tools – you’ll get only so far.

The Premium episodes are here to give something extra.
Give you something you can use right away to speed up the whole process.

Let’s take out Nietzsche’s scalpel and start carving out the Übermensch, shall we?

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I. Philosophy, Identity & Worldview

• Which of my current values do I share with Nietzsche’s philosophy?

• How would I describe myself in 3 nouns?

• How would I describe myself in 3 adjectives?

• What creed/motto I adhere to right now?

• What is my primary belief that ruled my life until now?

• What Nietzsche’s quote speaks most deeply to my current self?

• How would I describe myself in - 1 noun, 1 adjective + 1 verb appendix?
  (F.e. - meticulous thinker with obsession for reading, independent philosopher who likes to write, compulsive artist with passion for working out)

II. Fear, Desire & Emotion

• What emotion is responsible for most of my life’s troubles?

• What’s my single biggest fear ?

• What’s my strongest desire?

III. Influence & Formation

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“How can a man know himself? It is a difficult and dangerous matter.”
— Friedrich Nietzsche (Schopenhauer as Educator)

A wise man once said:
“He who wants to get somewhere, must first know where he stands right now.”

I don’t know who or when but I’m sure it happened at some point.

Anyways, because our journey is Frodo-esque as I mentioned in “The Übermensch Rituals” we might as well get going.

Obviously, you can only reinvent what already exists.
But that’s actually where the first catch is - you must get to know yourself better first.

This is, of course, is a lifelong process that depends on the level of your self-awareness and never really ends, but in the context of Self-Reinvention, it serves a more immediate purpose:

→ To give us a solid understanding of our First Nature before we begin designing the Second.

It’s a task that once done opens the door to the much more entertaining, creative and fulfilling part of Self-reinvention.

But let’s take care of our duties first.

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Mirror, Mirror on the Wall… - Personal Inventory Check

If you have a sibling or partner, tell them to bring you a mirror.
If you got a pet you can try it with them too, but unless it’s a very well trained dog, they probably won’t help you.

If you’re afraid of looking inside and used to run away from uncomfortable truths, I got some bad news - because that’s exactly what you will have to do as a first step.

The point of analyzing your First Nature is to get at least a rough idea about the qualities you want to get rid of.

This, however, can become a somewhat tricky task because when you start scrutinizing the inner structure of your personality, your ego switches soon into a defensive mode by throwing all kinds of arguments at you.

The dangerous thing about them is that they sound pretty reasonable, as your ego is a master of what we call rationalization (but more on that later in the series).

-> To combat this natural inner urge I suggest you take things rather calmly.

Look at yourself in a detached, cold manner.
Try to be curious rather than judgemental.

Questions like these focus on the practical usefulness of your current Self rather than on its moral worth.

Try them out and see how your mind responds.

Nietzsche’s Scalpel of Realism

Self-reinvention is no doubt a deeply emotional and extremely delicate matter.
There will be plenty of time for the soul-piercing questions later on.

But right now we need emotional distance.

Use this Nietzsche’s quote as a scalpel of realism and self-honesty.

Search for those common lies of yours.
Try to see yourself as you’re – not as you’d like to think you’re.
Ask the hard questions - mercilessly.

Whenever a question stings, irritates you, embarrasses you,
or makes you defensive, → pay attention.

That’s often where the treasure is buried.
The ego rarely guards empty ground.

Only the honest answers to hard self-directed questions can give us a firm psychological fundament to build upon.

Cut in. Cut deep.
And cut NOW.

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You’ve taken the scalpel in your hand.
Now it’s time to learn where to cut.

This Sunday, I’ll share the complete Self-Reinvention Questionnaire I currently use for my own psychological excavation, together with the principles behind it, so you can create your own as well.

The deeper truths rarely reveal themselves voluntarily.
We’ll have to dig.

Thank you for reading!
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“He who would learn to fly one day must first learn to stand
and walk and run and climb and dance.”
— Friedrich Nietzsche, Thus Spoke Zarathustra

I know you’re thrilled.
Who wouldn’t be!

If you read the introductory articles Nuke Your Life and took the 3-day sabbatical mentioned in After The Chaos you’ve likely come back full of energy and ready to completely rebuild yourself.

Rest assured, all of the fresh enthusiasm as well as your already forming vision will soon be put to work. If you did the two things I asked from you in After The Chaos, the initiation ritual can be considered as completed.
Your reinvention has technically almost begun.

But before we dive deep into the Self-reinvention process itself, I feel obligated to warn you before one thing. A mistake that almost everybody who tries to change themselves from the very core sooner or later makes.

We can call it premature self-detonation.

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The Shortcut towards Failure - Going against Your Nature

The biggest risk when you feel invigorated and ambitious is that you overshoot.
Not by setting a too difficult goal but by being too rash.

By attempting to go from one extreme to another immediately.

It ends just like all the quick-fix diets - where you started (or worse)
and with a big self-esteem bruise.

What does this exactly mean in terms of personal reinvention?
It means that you must avoid this:

Trust me - I’ve fallen down this spiral several times before I figured it out.

Your current Self or your First Nature as Nietzsche calls it has been around and conducting your life for however long you’re alive. Your New Self or Second Nature exists yet only in your mind and even that rather vaguely.

Explanation:

The First Nature - something we have been born or raised with. In brief - genetics, upbringing, early social environment and mix of our personality traits.

The Second Nature - whatever we choose to make out of it.

(You can read more about it in my first Reinvention Series, but we’ll revisit it in the new series as well.)

Avoid the Unfair Fight - Don’t Strike Prematurely

In other words, if you’re serious about this überdivine task I want you to carefully read and consider the following:

To attempt it would be the equivalent of a toddler trying to beat up a 30 year old.

As Nietzsche says in the opening quote from TSZ
“He who would learn to fly one day must first learn to stand…”
Move too violently against your nature and you won’t transform yourself —
you’ll merely create a mask that eventually breaks.

If you watched Fight Club, you probably know that the whole transformation from the nameless narrator into the almighty Tyler Durden has unfold in a very specific manner - continuously, step by step with several dramatic plots along the way which speeded up the whole process.

The narrator overcomes his alter-ego only at the very end — after metaphorically blowing apart his old identity as he says:

“My eyes are open.”

The metamorphosis comes slow and steady, with a few unexpected plots and then all at once.

That’s the natural progression of any real, lasting change.
And it will be the way of your Self-Reinvention too.

Stop trying to Bury the Beast - Outgrow It

Real transformation is never explosive — but strategic.

Your First Nature is not defeated in a day. Or a week.
No. Rather, it is slowly outgrown.

And one day, almost unexpectedly,
you’ll realize that the person you once tried so hard to become…
has become you.

But that day is still far away.

Soon enough,
we will use it to forge your New Self.

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Sooner or later,
everybody arrives at the same terrifying realization:

Your Old Self will not disappear on its own.
It must be consciously outgrown.

In the next Premium Article (Sunday)
we begin that process properly by learning How to Use rather than Fight your First Nature.

Your true reconstruction starts below.

Thank you for reading!
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You’ve made probably the most important decision of your life.

→ The resolution to go beyond — and “über” — who you already are.

Your own future Übermensch already feels a bit prouder of you.
But as Nietzsche said:

You made the decision, but your journey is Frodo-esque.
It’s gonna be much longer and harder than you imagined.

In our Premium Tier we always get down straight to the practicalities.
Today, I want to share with you my best tips on the three Self-Reinvention exercises we mentioned in After The Chaos.

-> Walking

-> Journaling

-> Self-Talk

They seem mundane, right?
They look like a typical self-help starter pack.
But with the right attitude they can become extremely potent tools.

And if you read NA stuff for a while, you already know — I seldomly approach things the ordinary way.

Let’s break them down.

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Walking - Tread like Van Gogh

Considering your interest in Self-Reinvention you’re probably already familiar with the first rule of Fight Club.
You should know the first rule of walking as well.

That’s right.
Anytime you leave your home and start painting your New Self in your mind - you take no one with yourself. Your imagination and solitude are the only necessities.

No people - If you have a really good friend or even mentor that always inspires your mind that’s good, but keep them for separate days. These people can be useful for your Self-Reinvention process but not now.

However, that alone may not be enough. If you’re one of those (ehm us) who has been hashtagged #ADHD first day in elementary school, just people walking around might be enough of a distraction to you. If you live in a big city, drive to the nearest suburbs or at least some less frequented park. Forest, hills or mountain hikes are of course the best options still.

No music - The same goes for any podcasts, audiobooks or interviews. Music included. If Chopin or Bach give you some supranatural clarity and creativity every time you hit play you might consider it. But if that’s not the case I suggest you choose the silence of the park or deep forest instead.

No pets - well maybe - As a dog lover myself I can imagine one really harsh dilemma.
Reading this article in your head it probably sound like this “Yea fuck people no problem - but what about my furry little friend?! I can’t just let him stay alone, he needs his walk too!”

To which I say - I understand. If there’s nobody else in your household (say you live alone) who could take care of them instead, then there’s probably no way around it. My only advice here would be to either keep them on the leash so that you don’t have to yell “Come here, come back” every two minutes. Or to add one more walk completely alone on Saturday and Sunday when you - hopefully - have more time.

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“One must still have chaos in oneself to be able to give birth to a dancing star.”
— Friedrich Nietzsche

You may feel like we’re starting from the end.

But we are not.

In the last article Nuke Your Life - On Purpose I showed you 3 uncomfortable yet brutally effective ways to completely disintegrate your life with a one single aim in mind - to rebuild it even better.

In this episode we’ll talk as promised about the major things that you’ll have to deal with after your Existential Big Bang.

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The Three Day Existential Crisis

After you just consciously blew up your life with the decision to reinvent yourself from the very roots of your existence, the first thing you should expect is a gnarly cocktail.

I’m talking no little one-take shot.
But one long-ass oddly coloured cocktail you’ll have to drink for next 72 hours.

It consists of anxiety, excitement, hope but also doubt.
Your goal is simple - drink all of it and don’t throw up.
Prost! says Nietzsche.

All metaphors aside the first couple days after you make this irreversible promise to yourself feel like a real psychological roller-coaster. You’re full of energy because of the vision in your mind, but fear all the uncomfortable actions you’ll have to take from now on.

Social fear is a big one.
“What will others say?”
”I can’t possibly imagine going to the same people I have known for years and in some instances my whole life and act like somebody completely different, can I?”

Thoughts like these will take your brain for a hell of a ride.

But there will be enough time for all of this as we go through the Reinvention process step by step. For the first three days you focus on realizing and internalizing the decision you’ve made.

You take that new heavy decision for a long walk.
You give it time to take root deep in your mind and room to breathe.

After you come from the walk or later that day journal about it.
Try to write down all the new feelings you experienced that day.

If you don’t mind feeling a bit crazy, have a self talk alone in a room or your car. Envision the person you’re about to become as well as the one that you leave behind.

If this looks like a waste of time to you, trust me - it’s not.

You’re about to reinvent your whole life and being.
→ It’s neither irrational nor frivolous to take off three days if you’re about to build something for the rest of your life.

You need this time.
You deserve it.

The First Little Step - Initiation

Nevertheless, just because you’ll be pondering, internalizing and getting mentally in sync with your new identity, doesn’t mean you won’t take any actions.

Nietzsche was always a doer first and thinker second.

Therefore to prove that you’re not just fantasizing, but actually engaging in a serious life-changing task you ought to take at least one action.
However small it may be.

Again - it doesn’t have to be some tremendous life-changing feat.
It only has to correspond with the Identity of your New Self.
And by extension - deny the Old Self.

Only by taking real action can you initiate the actual change.
Your neurocircuits get the signal that something - or in your case somebody new - is about to be built.

We’ll go deeper into the psychology of change as we advance the series.

But for now - you have only two To Do’s:

I. Take your time to internalize and fully own your new big decision
(Walk → Journal → Self-Talk)

II. Take one symbolic action to initiate the whole self-reinvention process

Don’t waste any more time.
Your Self-Reinvention process has already started.

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“You must be ready to burn yourself in your own flame;
how could you rise anew if you have not first become ashes?”
― Friedrich Nietzsche (Thus Spoke Zarathustra)

There was always something special about the month of May to me.

Perhaps I’m just biased because it’s my birthday month.
But rather, I think, it’s because this is the time when everything truly begins to bloom.

Everything around us—and particularly in nature—starts coming alive again.
The air changes.
As if something was quietly whispering to us:

This might seem like a rhetorical question.
But I actually want you to answer it.

Aren’t you tired of being tired?
Of being the same person you have been for years?
Or maybe you’re not unhappy—but also not truly alive.
Just… somewhat bored with yourself.

Whatever that silent voice is inside of you—the one that says “Do it for the plot. Do it for the story.”—
I insist you don’t ignore it this time.
At least give it a chance, before you silence it again with a comfortable “Nah, I’m good.”

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Your new Arc begins here

With that being said, I want to invite you to join our new Self-Reinvention Series.

We’ve already done something similar once before

and together with the Shadow series, it turned out to be one of the most impactful things we’ve built here so far.

And looking back at it, both of these series had two things in common:

• they helped you understand yourself on a deeper level

• and they showed you how to actually reinvent yourself from the ground up, with concrete tools and strategies

It confirmed something I had suspected for a long time—that most of you are searching for the same two things that led me to Friedrich Nietzsche in the first place:

• the Relief and Existential Satisfaction that comes with finally understanding yourself

• and the Freedom to reconstruct your inner and outer self in your own image

And if you ask me, these are two of the greatest things his philosophy has to offer.

What’s Coming

Starting next week, the month of May will be dedicated to exactly that.

In the past months, I’ve gathered a lot of new material—both from Nietzsche’s work (mainly TSZ, Ecce Homo and The Gay Science) and from several brilliant modern psychologists—and now it’s time to bring it all together.

We’ll talk about things like:

• identity

• personality & persona

• self-concept & self-image

• self-esteem & self-worth

• integrity

• the (self)-creative process

• mental models and values

…and more.

To be completely honest, this series might very well extend beyond just one month.
The topic is simply too broad—and too important—to be rushed.

But for now, May is where it begins.

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In the Premium, I’ll post weekly (every Sunday) and share the exact tools, rules, and processes that I’ve personally used—and in many cases still use—for my own Self-reinvention.

To get an idea of what the Premium looks like, check this article.

No abstract theory.
Only what has actually worked for me.

So…

My fellow thinker, I have only one question left for you:

Are you in—
or have you already decided to remain who you’ve been all along?

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“You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.”
— Friedrich Nietzsche

If you had to plot your life on a graph, what would it look like?

A) A flat, straight line
B) A flat line with occasional spikes
C) Pure chaos—ups and downs, no stability

If your answer is anything but A, you’re good.
C definitely isn’t optimal but as Frank Sinatra would say “That’s life”.

And to be completely fair - almost nobody is living either of those scenarios.
Mostly we all go through different versions and ratios of B – sometimes high, sometimes low and other times… just “meh”.

What actually matters here is your perception of the life you lead.

B is the norm.
C is unbearable on a long time-horizon.
But A … is dangerous.

Why?
Because that’s the true death of the mind.
There is nothing as dangerous for a creative mind as the status quo.

A life without tension, risk, or disruption slowly kills your mind.
Your edge disappears and your standards drop.

Nothing kills a creative, ambitious man faster than the status quo.
Whether you want more creativity, power or any success — status quo is your enemy.

Below I hand you over 3 arrows to kill the status quo.
Each of them aims at a different organ (pain point/trigger).
Pick one and shoot it right into the heart of your life.

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#1 Move—Burn Your Environment to the Ground

Target: Identity

Move to another city or country.

This one is by far the greatest change of all three.
Especially if we’re talking about international migration.

You essentially start a new life.
This decision usually equates to burning down almost all old bridges while trying to build a net of new ones.

You start with zero reputation.
In the new city nobody knows you - you can be or pretend to be whoever you want.

Your environment shapes you.
And when you don’t like how your life has been affected by it until now, sometimes the best (and hardest) choice is to just blank slate all of it.

Personal experience:
During my philosophy & linguistics studies I went through 3 Erasmus programs totaling almost 2 years of living in a different city and country. Each of those was a deeply transformative period of my life.

Of course the downside of this possibility is that it demands extreme changes on the practical level - bureaucracy isn’t making it easier.

But it’s a price worth paying.

#2 Walk Away—From the Job or the Relationship

Target: Emotions

Say to them: “I’m leaving.”
And never come back.

This is obviously not the best choice if you love your job (or “job your love”)
or if your relationship is intact.

However, if any of those chronically annoys you and you simultaneously feel the existential weight of the boring status quo, you might consider it.

Destroying the attachment in either one will unchain a cascade of emotions.
Most of which will suck, as you already know.

But that same tide of emotions that almost drowned you will bring you to the shores you never even thought of. A break-up at 30 or 40yo can give you back the enthusiasm and energy you had back in your early 20’s.

Novelty.
That’s the name of the star you’ll ride on, once you gather enough courage to end what’s silently killing you.

Unchain the storm and dance in it.

#3 Destroy your Daily routine

Aim: Structure

If you have one - break it.
If you have none - build it.

The point here is restructuring.
And it can go both of these ways.
We talked about Time-blocking recently.
That’s one great way to start if you have no structure at all.

Conversely, if you’re “living in a box”, nuking your schedule - purposefully, deliberately - can be extremely rejuvenating for you.
An unexpected two day trip or asking out someone you barely know
is sometimes all it takes.

This works even on a bigger time scale.

I personally don’t believe that much in early bird / night owl types.
Most people can (imo) function in both regimes.
It just takes much longer (sometimes months) to get used to it and sometimes also a clear reason - walking your dog, commute, precious time alone…

Every several years I deliberately transform from one bird to another.
My circadian rhythm says fuck you, but we still get along somehow.

Eventually, he always gets used to it.

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Summary

As Nietzsche’s opening quote says - chaos is necessary for a dancing star to be born.

Remember: you’re an ascending star.
Not a waning one. Not a falling one.

Rising one.

Create your own Big Bang at least every couple years.
And then form your own universe — anew.

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• What to do in the first 72 hours after a major life reset—so you don’t drift back into your old self

• How to lock in a new identity before your environment pulls you back to mediocrity

• My personal best re-calibration practice

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“The noble soul has reverence for itself.”
— Friedrich Nietzsche (Beyond Good and Evil)

Have you ever been around someone who’s really successful?

If so, you know that these people can be sort of “difficult” as we say.
It’s not just their inborn characteristics.
Sometimes. But not always.
To them it’s a necessity.

Have you ever deliberately watched how they move through life?
The speed of their actions, the lack of hesitation in their decisions…

They protect their time like lioness guards their cubs - relentlessly.

And so does the man of ambition.
So does… the Übermensch.

The following 5 rules are my personal tenets that help me to stay away from time-wasters and closer to my goals.

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The Zero Tolerance Principle - How It Works

The effectiveness of this method lies in the word ZERO.

This means you don’t even let them try.
When you encounter someone new you actively start searching
for these behavior red flags.

In case you fail to detect these beforehand and the person starts testing you,
you don’t wait.
You immediately respond and act accordingly to the principle.

In most cases this means you just walk away or cut them off.
RAGRETS not included.

Principle #1 - No Negativity

Fairly obvious, but absolutely essential.

There is something positive and something negative in everything.
Constructive criticism is welcome by every rational philosopher, but excessive cynicism and chronic negativity are a no-go.

Nietzsche knew this.
He admired Arthur Schoppenhauer as his mentor, but eventually parted his way in great degree to Arthur’s overwhelming nihilism.

In case you know someone very intelligent but also always negative, do what Nietzsche did - take their insights but eliminate your in-person exposure to them.

Principle #2 - No Identity Shifts

Anyone trying to change who you’re is wasting their as well as your time.

Can’t work. Shouldn’t work. Won’t work.

If you change for somebody on the identity level you’re setting on fire a dynamite to which both of you are tied.

Eventually it explodes, because the other person is still not satisfied with who you’re, meanwhile you lost your true and authentic Self.

Of course, this goes both ways - you trying to change a person is an equal waste of time.

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“Let the youthful soul look back on life with the question: what have you truly loved up to now, what has drawn your soul upward, mastered it and at the same time blessed it?”
— Friedrich Nietzsche (Untimely Meditations)

Sometimes the hardest lessons come in the smallest, most unpredictable ways.
Last weekend I learned — or rather was reminded of — something as cruel as it is true:

The older you get, the more precious your time becomes.

Why?
Because value increases with scarcity.

And when it comes to our time on this revolving blue dot, one thing is certain:
as it flows, we are damned to have less and less of it.

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Respect Determines Value

What you guard is what you value.

When you watch how you behave at any social event,
your reputation is important to you.

When you postpone your work for the person you’re in a relationship with,
you clearly say: you matter to me.

And when you keep watch over how you spend your time you demonstrate that you value your time. And by extension, yourself.

Because in the end, you are nothing but the sum of what you do with your time.

What you do with your time reveals you.
But there is a second part to it - how you allow others to use it exposes you.

Do you truly guard it with all your might?

Remember:
→ How much you value your time determines the level of your self-respect.

And when it comes to becoming an Übermensch…
these are not to be compromised.

How do you actually guard your time - Timeblock & Eliminate

It’d be hypocritical and self-defeating when it comes to the purpose of this article to make it any longer than necessary.

You know your time is precious, so let’s learn to guard it.
Let’s defend our time the Übermensch way - ruthlessly.

The method consists of two steps:

1. Time-blocking

2. Elimination of Intruders

Step I — Time-Block Like It Matters

You probably already know this method so I won’t waste much time on it.
(If not, google “Cal Newport & Time-blocking”. He’s a genius in this area.)

If your time is not scheduled, it is already owned by someone else.

The method itself is simple:
You schedule your most important daily activities into non-negotiable time blocks.

The word non-negotiable is crucial.

To make it work apply these two rules:
- Make the block 1.5× longer than needed.
- Turn off your phone.

Protect the block as if something meaningful depends on it.
Because it does.

Step II — Eliminate the Intruders

This is the main step.

Only by applying true Nietzschean coldness you can truly protect your time.
The rule is simple, but definitely not always easy to stick to:

Anybody is meant literally here.
Even if it means a very good friend or a family member.

Personal experience:
I recently decided to reduce my visiting time in relation to one of my grandparents due to the lack of respect for my time.

I’ve been told that I should stay until the narrator finishes the story. When I mentioned that I really have to be somewhere else in about 20 mins, the response was something like “Hohohohoo, you know me, when I start some story that’s not enough of a reason for me to let you go.”

I sat quietly and listened to the story for about 10 more minutes.

…Later that day I made two decisions:

• I reduced the frequency of my visits by about 66% (1x every third week instead of once a week)

• Only pay them a visit when I have at least 30 min time buffer

It was hard.
Frankly it still is.
Especially because the other of the grandparents is a true angel.

I’m still figuring this out and visiting the non-narcissistic part of my family whenever I can meet them alone, even if for a short time.

So yes, it was hard - but it was necessary.

Make Your Time Expensive

There comes a point where you realize:

Your time will be wasted — either by you, or by others.

And if you do not set the price,
the world will gladly set it for you - low.

You put the price tag on it.
And the sooner you realize this, the better.

The Übermensch has no time to waste and tolerates no disrespect.

Because to defend your time is to defend your life.

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And when it comes to human nature… the negative “side effects” can get really wicked.
Sometimes even devastating.

In this short clip I share one specific question I ask myself whenever sometimes sound too good to be true.

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“Everything that is profound loves masks.”
— Friedrich Nietzsche

In the free article, we established the rule:

Every trait comes with its shadow.
Every strength carries a cost.
And mainly - Every choice binds you to its opposite.

Or in other terms:

Yet knowing this intellectually is one thing.
Living by it — especially in dealings with other people — is something else entirely.

Because here, more than anywhere else, we are not rational observers.

We are biased, hopeful, and sometimes almost completely blinded.
We see what we want to see — and ignore the rest.

And so we don’t pay the price consciously.
We pay it later - usually with interest.

The purpose of this framework is simple:

To allow you to see the hidden tax in a person before you commit to them — whether as a friend, partner, or ally.

To help you avoid the most common and costly mistakes when deciphering someone’s character.

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Step I — Identify the Dominant Trait

Every person presents themselves through a certain force.

A dominant trait.
A psychological center of gravity.

It is the quality that draws you to them.
The thing you notice first when you encounter them.
The reason you are even considering them in the first place.

They are harismatic, disciplined, emotionally intense, carefree, ambitious, nurturing…
Or something along those lines.

This is where most people stop their analysis.
They see the trait — and immediately translate it into value - a positive one.

Charisma becomes “social intelligence.”
Intensity becomes “passion.”
Ambition becomes “drive.”

But this is already the first mistake.

Because what you are seeing is not the trait itself.
You are seeing its most attractive expression.
A controlled and socially acceptable surface.

What you must understand is this:

No character trait is just a positive one.
Each one of them has its evil twin.

Which is exactly what you must search for next.

Step II — Extrapolate the Extreme

Once you have identified the dominant trait, you must do something that feels unnatural:

You must mentally push it beyond its current expression.

Start looking for its edge.
Ask yourself: How would its excess look like?

Think about their dominant trait to the point where it stops being attractive.

Because whether you like it or not the opposite extreme of the dominant trait- the evil twin - lies somewhere in them.

You simply haven’t encountered it yet.
And you’d be better of knowing a thing or two about it before it attacks you.

Examples:

The charismatic person:

At their peak, they light up every room.
At their extreme, they dominate conversations, demand constant attention, and subtly manipulate perception.

The emotionally intense partner:

At their best, they make you feel alive.
At their extreme, they become volatile, unpredictable, and exhausting.
A source of total chaos.

The disciplined, ambitious provider:

At their best, they build, protect, and move forward relentlessly.
At their extreme, they become absent, obsessed with work, and emotionally unavailable.

The “honest” friend:

At their best, they are refreshing and real.
At their extreme, they are tactless, selfish, insensitive, and destructive under the guise of truth.

This step requires a certain amount of Nietzschean coldness.

Because you are deliberately breaking the illusion that attracted you in the first place.

So the point of the second step is:

You are not analyzing who they are on a good day.
You are analyzing what they become when the trait is no longer constrained.
When the social barrier falls.

Extrapolating the extreme may be unconvinient.
But it’s still much better than to encounter it unprepared.

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“There is always some madness in love.
But there is also always some reason in madness.”
— Friedrich Nietzsche

Every choice you make is a double choice.

You don’t just choose the benefit.
You also choose the hidden cost that comes with it.

Every choice in our lives comes at a price.
Not just the actual work needed to get it, but also, the invisible attachments that come with it.

And even more than “attachments” when we choose anything in life, we invariably bind ourselves to the polar opposite of whatever benefit we might be getting.

Countries around the world have different tax laws.
Somewhere “the rich” pay bigger tax for their success, elsewhere not so much.

But the Universal Tax Law of Life, as I call it, is the same everywhere:

This rule works across realms in our lives and to much the same degree for everyone.
Why?
Because this isn’t a law issued by some random individual - it’s a law of human nature.

This ultimate law is partially hidden in Nietzsche’s quote we talked about recently:

We said that extremes on one side inevitably produce equal extremes on the other side.
As in physics, so in human nature.

->The more beautiful the surface, the worse the “terrible depth”.

The Universal Tax Law of Life applies to everything.

The better paid job usually requires more skill, work-ethic or stress-tolerance.
The more expensive car will drain your wallet via costly car insurance or reparations.
The bigger and more equipped your house, the more upkeep work it demands.

And since in Nietzsche Academy we focus on human psychology itself…

…the more somebody else can offer us, the more they also take.

Let’s see how the universal tax law plays out in dealing with our fellow beings.

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The Other Side of Beauty

In general we are not so ignorant of this law when we deal with materialistic or somehow tangible things. To some degree we tend to consider the pros and cons of buying new stuff, getting a different job or moving to another city.

Even though might not do always a great job at the analysis,
the possible negatives still at least occur to our mind.

However in dealings with human nature we are rarely this cautious.

Whether we are choosing friends to gather with, business partners or even our significant others we tend to be much more blinded than in the affairs we just mentioned.

Our choices in dealing with people are mostly very biased.
We tend to see what we want to see and ignore the rest.

Our focus on the benefits tends to be disproportionally greater
than awareness of the risk involved.

We are charmed by people that are energetic, lively and independent.
But tend to not consider what the negative side of the same force might look like.

Examples:

A temperament, attractive, somewhat crazy person might be terrific in bed,
but the arguments with them are enraged by the same amount and type of energy.

A diligent and providing partner might seem like a perfect choice for a long-term relationship - except for you might not spend much time together. As he always has work to do.

A friend that’s chatty, always supplies you with the latest gossip and tells you things that are “only for you” secrets, might feel like an enjoyable company - until you find out they behave the same way with everybody else, telling them things you’d rather keep a secret.

You are never choosing just character traits.
You are choosing consequences.

Accept the Full Price

As my favourite writer Robert Greene says: “What’s worthy, is worth paying for.”

If you drive a Bugatti you’re experiencing a rush of adrenaline and endorphins most people couldn’t dream of. But when the car breaks or you drive it recklessly, the toll might range from expensive to devastating.

Life with a temperament, wild partner is much the same.
The wuthering heights are frequently followed by stress and painful lows.

It’s not a question of a good or bad person.
It’s a question of adequacy.
It’s the equation of risk and reward, but applied to human nature - place, where we tend to be fooled most easily.

Ask Yourself:
“Is the benefit I am getting strong enough to compensate for the tax I must inevitably pay?”

In Nietzsche’s words - Is the Beautiful surface worth the terrible depth?

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Every choice is a contract.

The question is not whether you will pay.
The question is:
Are you willing to pay the full price?

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“There are no beautiful surfaces without a terrible depth.”
- Friedrich Nietzsche

In the free article we established the battlefield.

Two archetypes stand on opposite ends of the trust spectrum:
The Dreamer & The Haunted.

They both suffer.
Both survive and see something real.
But neither sees the whole picture.

Wielding Nietzsche’s philosophy as a scalpel in our hands,
let us now dissect them properly.

Not morally - but psychologically.

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The Dreamer - The Beautiful Surface

The Dreamer’s psychology rests on a very simple, somewhat naivé axiom:

Whether this belief comes from upbringing, lucky experiences, or natural temperament doesn’t matter.

What matters is the lens through which he sees the world.

The Dreamer does not actively scan the environment for threats.
His mind is tuned to possibility, harmony and cooperation.

CHARACTER - Because of this, several typical traits emerge:

• Low suspicion
  He rarely questions motives.

• High trust threshold
  People earn his trust easily.

• Low irritability
  Many things that would provoke others simply bounce off him.

• High openness
  He assumes most interactions will be positive.

IMAGE - From the outside this type often appears:
calm
easy-going
friendly
unbothered

In many situations the Dreamer actually lives a more peaceful life
than the paranoid.

But peace comes with a price.
The Dreamer’s blind spot is intentional malice.
He underestimates it.

Or sometimes does not believe in it at all.
Manipulators and Narcissists love such people.
Because the Dreamer rarely asks the dangerous question:

→ “What does this person actually want?”

Instead he assumes that “If I am fair with them, they will be fair with me.”

But as we know, history unfortunately proves otherwise.

The Haunted - The Terrible Depth

Where the Dreamer assumes goodness,
the Haunted assumes hidden motives.

His psychological axiom is the opposite:

A machiavellian tenet and view of life, for sure.
The Haunted mind operates like a threat-detection radar.

Everything this person sees is scanned.

In social settings he looks for hidden incentives and the slightest details such as - tone of voice, micro expressions or timing of messages.

The Haunted person constantly runs background calculations:

Why did they say that?
Why now?
What are they trying to gain?

CHARACTER - This hyper-awareness gives him several characteristics:

• High sensitivity
  Small signals trigger suspicion.

• Strong pattern recognition
  He remembers betrayals and recognizes similarities.

• High vigilance
  He rarely relaxes socially.

• Defensive thinking
  He prepares for worst-case scenarios.

IMAGE - Such people often appear:
serious
sharp
observant
guarded

In dangerous environments, this mindset can be life-saving.

The Haunted is rarely surprised.
But again — there is a price.
His blind spot is trust itself.

→ Because when you expect betrayal everywhere,
you begin manufacturing it mentally.

Relationships suffer, opportunities disappear and mainly - peace of mind evaporates.

The Haunted escapes many traps.
But sometimes he builds a cage inside his own skull.

A Quick Self-Test

Most people believe they are balanced, but very few actually are.

This quick test will help you find out where you stand on the
Dreamer x Haunted spectrum.
We’ll also discuss the strenghts and weaknesses of each type.

Let’s dive in!

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