A man's masculinity is visible in a woman's clothes...

And a mother's morals are visible in a girl's clothes...

We are a generation raised on love, tolerance, loyalty, respect and all high values...

We lived among men and women who did not know how to read and write, but they had mastered relationships and respect...

They did not study literature but taught us literature...

They did not study the laws of nature and biology, but they taught us the art of politeness.

They did not read a single book on relationships but taught good behavior and respect...

They did not study religion in depth but taught us the meaning of faith...

They did not study planning, but they taught us foresight...

Most of us did not dare to speak loudly at home...

We are the generation that used to fall asleep in the courtyard of the house when the electricity went out...

We used to talk to each other but did not talk about each other...

My heartfelt love and appreciation for those who taught us

that parents are respected...

that teachers are respected...

that the local authority is respected...

that comradeship is respected...

and friendship is respected...

We used to respect the seventh neighbor.. and share expenses and secrets with brothers and friends...

For those who spent those beautiful moments, and for the generation that raised and educated us, and I say to them: May Allah Almighty protect and protect those of you who are alive

who May Allah forgive those who have left us and departed from this mortal world... Amen.

Most people have 'friends' at level 5 or below, and many of us don't have a single level 12 friend.

The levels of friendship are:

1. Someone you only know by chance.

2. Someone you can spend some time with without any problems.

3. Someone you have no problem talking to.

(This is where things start to get serious)

4. A drinking buddy (just tea) who you can miss in your spare time.

5. Someone who is concerned about your well-being. (Now we're moving towards the real point of friendship)

6. Someone you can rely on. You might even want to spend your holidays with them

7. A true friend, someone who doesn't befriend you for any ulterior motive. Rather, it should be based on selflessness and sincerity in your relationship

8. A close friend, someone whose presence makes you happy.

9. Someone in whose presence you feel comfortable

10. Reliable/trustworthy

Someone in whom you have deep trust.

11. Your best friend, someone whom you give priority to over other friends.

12. Someone who is not separate from you and not only do you know how he thinks but he is also aware of your thoughts, you both are familiar with each other's moods.

13. This is the highest form of friendship in which, along with all the other attributes of friendship, the friend is at the level of the beloved. That is, the person whom you love selflessly

Whether it is a chatting messenger, or how impressive someone's social media account is. How many excellent religious or worldly posts. Never trust anyone else!!

Learn this lesson, son, how much pain those girls go through who, in ignorance, get carried away by emotions after hearing someone's loving words, reveal their secrets that they had to keep hidden from everyone.

They share those moments of intimacy that only their lawful husband should have the right to with some two-taka boy. They overshare all their affairs, feelings and give the strings of their life into the hands of a ruthless model.

Especially those photos and videos that should not have been recorded in any way. They even send them in the cycle of love or someone records the video call etc. in front of them.

Such a beast has only one goal, that as long as everything is going smoothly, everything is fine. As soon as things get warm, this coward starts blackmailing.

The person to whom you had entrusted everything, every secret, now you are forced to become his slave. He can keep you alive or make it impossible for you to live as he wants.

Always be on guard so that this teenage earthly god does not get angry over something, and if he does, then he does not leak my pictures, videos on the internet, does not send them to my family...

No, I will not let this happen, my father will have a heart failure, my brother will take my life, the entire neighborhood and family will spit on me, I will never get married to anyone, the whole family will be black on their faces, etc. etc.

Result? This person who has my pornographic pictures, I will continue to believe whatever he says, I will make this sacrifice to save the honor of my family. And this girl does not know that with such a commitment she is sinking further into this quagmire.

I request all parents that your relationship with your children should be so strong that instead of being afraid of you, they should share it with you first when something like this happens.

In return for which, while respecting their trust, you should support your children, help them, they are inexperienced, mistakes were made, both in training and as a result of this training.

Now if someone is asking for forgiveness, then forgive them. And the oppressor who has ruined your flower-like life, bring him to justice with wisdom.

By God, you have to do this work as a father, brother, husband, uncle, maternal uncle or fiancé. You have to make your heart bigger, if your own mahram doesn't have this hope from you, she will go to another beast for help who will steal money from her by pretending to help and will further tarnish her honor as soon as she gets the chance 🥺

There are a hundred ways to catch anyone and take action against them, whether there is any data in someone's phone, in the cloud, saved somewhere on a computer or in the chat history of any social media. No problem.

A person can be arrested, the police will help. An account can be hacked, things can be deleted and anyone's data can be damaged. You can ban your face so that it is never uploaded to any bad place. And whatever happened can also be completely removed from the internet.

Everything is possible. But the first step is the most difficult. That is to give your daughters the margin of being human and increase their respect by forgiving their first mistake. The first step is to become a support instead of a scapegoat in their difficult times and a protector who will tear apart every evil eye that falls on them. Not everyone will be able to take this, only real men whose honor is subject to the law and not guided by reason will be able to take it.

Ahmed Khalid Tawfiq says:

When the children return from school, they turn left and go to the kitchen in search of their mother, and they do not turn right towards my office, although my office is a few steps away from the kitchen.

I do not think much of this "ignorance", sometimes I hear their mother say:

"Did you greet your father?.. Go and greet him".

This request and its process take 15 to 30 minutes, and I do not think much of this "ignorance".

The world is busy, and there is a lot of traffic on the way from the kitchen to my room, and it takes time for them to reach me.

Finally they come one by one and greet him coldly.

Last week, when my eldest son came back from school, I accidentally stepped out of my office and saw him standing in the kitchen, he was giving something to "Mom", and when he saw me, he turned around and hid it behind his back. I continued on my way without noticing.

On the way back I caught him giving his mother a piece of fine chocolate that he had bought with his own pocket money, and when he saw me, he was embarrassed and didn't know how to handle the situation!!

Then a few moments later he tried to take out a piece of "caramel" from his jeans pocket that was stuck to the bottom of the pocket, he barely took it out and there were some pieces of tissue paper on it, and he was trying to give it to me, I thanked him!!

I don't think much about this "discrimination", it is true that the chocolate he bought for his mother was very delicious, but I don't have any problem with his leaning more towards his mother, we were like him, even more so!!

Despite the father's hard work, travel, suffering and kindness, the leaning is always towards the mother, this is a natural thing that we cannot control!

The strange thing is that children realize their intense love for their father very late, when the father is sick or after the father has passed away...!

And this love comes very late in terms of the father's time.

I lost my father when I was a child and since then whenever I stray in a decision, stumble in the world or face difficulties in life, or hesitate in some matter,

I sigh and say: "Father, where are you?"

May Allah Almighty grant perfect health to those whose parents are alive, and may Allah forgive those whose parents have passed away and raise their ranks, Amen 🤲🏻

He was devoted to a certain elder… Fed up with the situation, he came to his service… and said, “Hazrat! It is very difficult, very difficult… There is only a one-room house… I live in it, my wife and four children are also with me… My old mother and two sisters are also with me… And an old relative of the family, a widow, is also under my care… So many people and one room… It is a very difficult problem… Saying this, his tears flowed repeatedly…

The elders bowed their heads, pondered and said… Your problem will be solved… Bring a rooster… And keep it in your room too…

The man went happily… He took the rooster and kept it in the room too…

A week later, when he came to the elders, he was more sad and miserable than before… Hazrat! The problem has not been solved at all… but now it has become worse… the rooster makes noise, spreads dirt…

The elders bowed their heads, thought a little and said… Now I understand… your problem is a little bigger… You bring a goat… and keep it with you too… and report back after a week…

A week later, when that gentleman came, he was trembling with worry…

Oh, my lord! The problem has become even more serious… the goat also urinates and does not let him sleep properly…

The elders thought and said… Okay, now I understand what your problem is… You do this, bring a donkey and keep it with you too… and report back after a week…

A week later, when that gentleman came… it seemed that… he would die of grief and worry… Tears were streaming from his eyes… and he was half dead…

Oh, my lord! Now I am fed up with life… The donkey has forbidden me to live…

The elders said, “Okay, do this, remove the rooster… and report back in a week…

That gentleman came a week later and said that the situation has improved a little…

The elders said, “Okay, now remove the goat too… and report back in a week…

A week later, he came and told me that the situation is much better than before…

He said, now remove the donkey too and report back in a week…

A week later, that gentleman came with a box of sweets in his hand…

A smile on his face and happiness in his limbs…

Oh Hazrat! The problem has been completely solved… Now my room looks like a bungalow… All the family members are happy… Everyone lives openly and the room… is absolutely clean… I have brought sweets in this happiness… Please accept it…

When that gentleman left after giving the sweets, the elders said that… Now his car has come on the road to success…

Now he will get more comfort and progress every day… God willing

From grievance to gratitude

When that gentleman first came to the elders, he was crying… and when he came the last time, he was happy… Although it was the same room and the same people… nothing had changed…

This journey from tears to sweets…

This journey from grievance to gratitude… is apparently very short, but in reality it is… even bigger than the journey from earth to heaven.

When that gentleman came, the elders understood that… the main reason for the shortage in their livelihood. is their ingratitude and impatience… If they give up this ingratitude, all the doors of their livelihood will open. So the elders first put a heavy burden on him and then lightened it… his condition changed…

A person groaning in his illness. If he goes to the emergency or casualty ward of a hospital, he comes out giving thanks on his return.

One of the names of Satan is “Kufur”. A very big ungrateful person… and this “ingratitude” is one of the deadly weapons of Satan, Satan spreads ingratitude all day and all night…

The ride you have, he will tempt you to ride better than it, then your ride will seem insignificant, then you will definitely be ingratitude…

And when there is ingratitude, then the blessing will definitely be removed,

Therefore, it is necessary that… we understand this trick of Satan… and thank Allah Almighty for what He has given us…

and make our hearts content with this blessing…

Today, the scarcity of sustenance and lack of blessings is widespread among humans everywhere… A major reason for this… is ingratitude.

Let us all repent from this ingratitude… and pray to Allah Almighty

O Allah, grant me happiness and contentment with what He has given me…

I am content with what Allah Almighty has given me…

Wife, children, house, food, clothes , health, etc. In all of these, we should adopt the path of gratitude.

I was a bright, mischievous child who loved freedom.

I wanted a life with balance, good work, but also time for happiness. I never wanted to spend my entire life from morning till night only working.

In fifth grade, I topped my class. My father threw a big party. Everyone praised me. But this success made my older siblings jealous. They started complaining about me to my parents and turned them against me.

I dreamed of becoming a doctor or an army officer. My father wanted me to become an engineer or a big government official. I had zero interest in it. The pressure increased. My father started scolding and beating me regularly. I felt broken, confused, and depressed.

Eventually, I failed my matric in science. Everyone was shocked because I only failed English and Mathematics but passed Physics, Chemistry, and Biology. That failure didn’t just break my academic record, it broke something inside me.

The people who were supposed to support me became the reason for my downfall. The Cultural Mindset

In our society, success is measured only by money. Engineering, medicine and government jobs are worshipped, while creative fields are dismissed as a waste of time.

This one toxic advice “Study what pays” has silently destroyed the dreams of millions. The Heavy Cost

When a child is forced into a field they don’t love, they slowly lose their confidence, creativity and motivation. I experienced this myself. The constant pressure killed my spirit. Many young people in my generation are still carrying this silent pain, educated but unfulfilled, qualified but broken. The Bigger Damage

This system doesn’t just harm individuals. It creates a generation of frustrated professionals. Innovation suffers. Mental health problems rise. Society loses the unique contributions that passionate people could have made. Why Does This Keep Happening?

Parental fear, sibling jealousy, social pressure, and a flawed education system are all responsible. Parents want to secure their children’s future, but often destroy their present in the process. There Is Still Hope

It is never too late to change direction. Parents must respect their children’s interests. Young people should start exploring their real passions, even if slowly. True success comes when work aligns with purpose. Final Words

Have you ever been forced into a career path you didn’t love? How did it affect your life and confidence? Share your story in the comments. I’d love to hear it.