Yess, OVERTHINKER!😔

First off, what is overthinking?

Overthinking is when you spend too much time thinking about a situation, usually analysing every little detail, possibility, or outcome until your thoughts start creating problems that might not even exist. (Copied and pasted from google)

I am an OVERTHINKER!🥲

I OVERTHINK every single thing!

I don’t know if it’s a defence mechanism.

I expect people to think how I think and my brain just sends signals to me when the “normal pattern” is disrupted.

Even though, tbh, most times I’m always right.😂

But the fact that I overthink already removes the “tick” from the time bomb and sets it in motion, which is the main issue.🫠

If you think something, then it most likely will happen because your brain has made up its mind that it’s going to happen.

But how can I get free from the chains of overthinking?😔

Do I even want to be free since I said I’m mostly right? (not really tbh😭)

Do I want to feel vulnerable, or do I want to admit I might be overthinking and it’s not that deep?

Maybe that’s part of why I overthink in the first place. 🤔

It is my defence mechanism.😭

If I can anticipate what might go wrong and prepare myself for the worst, then I don’t have to feel as vulnerable. Because I’m already prepared for the possibility of being hurt or disappointed.

Funny how I am self-aware about most of my problems, but that doesn’t really change much because the pattern will still continue.🥲

For example, if we are texting and one day you start texting me without using emojis, or I notice your texts are shorter, I’ll start thinking something is wrong. 😖

And that’s not bad IMO.

I can even call it emotional intelligence. (A stretch but yg 😂)

But instead of me asking if you’re good, I start replicating your energy. Or even if I ask and you say nothing, I think you don’t want to tell me if I did something wrong. 🫠

Then I start either pressuring you to make sure you talk so I can fulfil my anxious needs instead of actually waiting for you to speak when you’re comfortable and acting “normal”.

I then get defensive.😖💔

This has happened to me in so many scenarios, and that was just an example.

But how do I stop this?😫

To me, it feels like I care about the person, and that’s why they trigger certain emotions in me.💔

if I don’t really care about someone, they won’t trigger me emotionally enough for me to even notice or react to anything.🙁

Tbh, I don’t know the solution to this, and I just felt like writing about it. 😂😂

Even though I said self-awareness doesn’t solve the problem, it’s still the first step in making changes or getting better.

I still think it has its advantages because, like I said earlier, it makes me notice when the energy is slightly off. But the action I take after is what I feel is faulty, and I’m trying to work on that.🙂

Bye for now, and keep overthinking (fr 😭 I’m not gonna change) lol jk or not🫠😂

No pressure, One step at a time! (me to me)🥹

Ehehen the small update 😂😂

The ball is in my court for now, I just need to set up the genital meet-up, but I’m not sure I’m ready.🥲

I feel anxious because this is the longest I’ve not been active in a long time, and I feel like a virgin again 😂😂😂. And I can’t afford to not perform, so I’m scared of what happened in one of my stories happening again 😭.

And talking about that story, the babe came to see me because she heard I was sick. 😂😂

I didn’t mention but yeah she actually works close to my friend’s area , and I’ve been there for a while, ( that story needs a part two tbh😂😂 but not today) so we’ve been in contact. Anything can happen if I want, but I don’t know. I just want to rest fr.

All of this is making me anxious. I even had an anxiety attack last week in the middle of all that was going on, so I’m really trying to stay calm for now.

This should mark my return to being active here. I’ve missed all of you like mad🥹and thanks to the people that checked in❤️

How do I even start this? 😂

As far back as I can remember, I always wanted to be a headmaster (Goodfellas pun). 😂

I really love intimacy, so I try as much as possible not to have casual sex or do it with random people, so I can do whatever I want with no boundaries. (Not like that’s going well. 😭)

I’ve always been big on reciprocating. Even in my daily life, I like returning good energy.

So when it comes to sex, I like making sure my partner is satisfied as well.😌

The first time I actually gave head was to my then girlfriend.

That day was so funny😂😂.

I didn’t know what I was about to get my head into 😂.

I was still in uni, and one day she came over. We were chilling, and before you knew it, things got heated, as usual.

Before she came over, we’d already talked about getting intimate, So we both knew what we were there for.

She was sitting on my lap while we looked through pictures on my phone so it was easy for me to start teasing.

She turned to face me, and our lips met. As the kiss lingered, I slowly let my hands wander beneath her top.

It was really warm 🥹🥹

She had this baggy jersey on (one of mine she stole ), and she surprisingly wasn’t wearing a bra. 😂 (Like I said, she knew what she was doing.)

Immediately I noticed, I smiled and continued to gently roll her nipples and caress her boobs.

She told me to go harder, and after kissing for a while, I started mouth action on her perky sets🥺.

She almost went mad, but yeah, this isn’t about that… Skip to the head part.😕

After unraveling one tease at a time, like a match waiting for a strike, and desire had taken the driver’s seat (stole this btw😂). she was trying to get down and give me head.

I shook my head, then gently took her by the shoulders and guided her onto the bed.

She was actually surprised, but she was very excited, so she obeyed.🌚

I didn’t know what to do, but I knew I was ready to enter the “promised land”. 😭

So as she lay there, I slowly pulled down her shorts, and here and behold, the cream panties she wore were covering the gates to the said “promised land”.🥹

I could feel her looking at me from up there, wondering what I wanted to do, but I just continued acting like I knew what I was doing.😂

As I was touching her thighs, she was already vibrating , So I slowly slid down her pants and, lo and behold, a freshly shaved “kitty kat” right in my face. 😳

This was the first time I had seen it fully because we had only had sex once before this, and it was in the dark.

I was just confused and thinking of what to do. 😭 But I had already planned that I was going to go down on her and there was no backing out.🥲

So I brought out my tongue and sunk my face deep in. 😂

Then I started licking like a fucking cat. 😭😭

I didn’t know what I was doing, but I felt her clit, so I just started licking it like a cat licking milk, and her body was sending loud signals. (omggg😭)

To be honest, it didn’t taste like strawberries which she smelled like. 😭😭 I can’t really describe it. It tasted like an organ.😂 Kind of like a soft battery taste. I can’t really explain it, but I just continued. 😫

Then I slowly moved to licking around her labia and just slurping everything, to be honest. 😂😭 (shame dey catch me as I dey write this thing )

I also tried to stimulate her breasts while doing this, but I got tired after a bit.

It was fucking intense!

She grabbed my hair and was holding on to it with so much pressure, She even almost choked me with her legs 😭. While this was happening she was moaning hard as well and my head was swelling😭😂

Confession time

I had actually Googled it the day before and tried to do some research, so maybe that’s why I wasn’t bad (or maybe she was faking to keep my self esteem😭)

But after a while, I kind of got tired, and she didn’t climax so I was kinda sad😂. (Maybe I was right all along 🥲)

Then I slowly went up and kissed her (she must taste herself too na, haba. 😂😂).

As I was kissing her, I was also fingering her, so i could feel that she was fucking wet🥹.

She was even begging me to stop teasing her and just put it in.😫

I eventually did. But that’s not what this story is about. 😂

After that, I tried a few more times with her, and she gave me tips, so I kind of knew what to do.😌

And that’s the end of the story.

Byee👋🏾

After she asked again on WhatsApp, I told her I was shocked she texted and expected her to hate me by now.☹️

She said she does not hate people, but requested that I answer the question stating that “I won’t hear from her again.”😂

So I explained how overwhelmed I was emotionally and how I had been overthinking everything. I told her I liked her, but I could not do long distance, so to me, it felt like the end was inevitable anyway.

Then she said this

“I understand.

But you could have spoken to me about it .

I genuinely wanted to be your friend nothing much.

If a relationship was going to come out of it, that would also be fine too.”

Then I apologised again, and she said it was fine, so we kind of wrapped up the conversation.

The end, right? 😂😂😂

No!!!!

She texted me four days later 😭. God abeg.

No be say I sweet like that , or we knack, or maybe I was super nice. Like, we did not even ever see.😕

Meanwhile, Lady C no even send me since that day 😂, and that one enjoyed all of this and more from me!!!

(Side note: that day I posted the chat screenshot from lady C, I went back to our chats 🫠 and saw that she had deleted all our media 😞.)

So yeah, back to the story.

I was so surprised she texted. I thought she said I would not hear from her again 😂.

She said she was “checking up” on me.

Then I asked her what she actually wanted from me, stating that I knew I had hurt her, which was why I distanced myself from her, and I did not know what to do now that she was talking to me again.

She said it was calm and that we could still be friends 😂😂.

Ahh which kind human being be this one 😭

I was shook, but na she talk am sha😂, so I did not mind. Then we spoke a bit and cleared the air.

We slowly went back to how we were.

But at the back of my mind, I knew nothing serious could happen because I do not trust women 😭. I felt she was back for revenge 😂.

So we ended up speaking for like three days straight after that conversation, and she started making dirty jokes, so things were getting slightly heated 😂.

Then after that, we stopped, and four days later she texted again 🫠.

I responded, and we caught up again. At this point, it was like nothing had happened.

This became a habit, but I never texted her first. She was always the one texting me, but I would engage her and we would speak for long.😞

After like a month, we were pretty much back to the same way we were before. We would talk almost every day, and she would send me pictures of herself and request mine as well

On one of the calls, she told me she still liked me, and I said I did too ( I did at that point tbh).

I had cut off every romantic relationships/ situationships including her, but she still remained, so naturally, I liked her too.

She was very free with me, and she was quite sexual and romantic in the chats. She would send me thirst-traps and request that I do the same 😂😂.

( why do you want to see my weapon😭 like I don’t know how women get off on seeing that . The body of a woman is soo sexy so I get the appeal 😂😂 to me it doesn’t make sense, maybe cos I’m a straight guy sha)

It was fun and all, but at the back of my mind, I was getting tired again because of the reasons I had mentioned earlier .🫠

I could not go through with the whole thing. And on her end, she was already bringing up us becoming serious 😂😂😂.

Again , I sometimes led her on, It’s fun 😭

But I always stated that I did not like long distance, though that did not really change anything.🫠

At some point, we were speaking every day, so it just made things complicated.😕

I was already tired of the whole thing, so one day we had a disagreement. After that, I told her how I felt, and she was not happy.

But she was very attached to me, so she still texted me a few days later 😭.

Omo I’ve never had someone like that in my lifetime😂 she just wasn’t going to give up

I did not want to hurt her feelings more, and since I blocked her at first, I always felt very guilty.😕

She even blocked me herself and unblocked me back. (I did not even notice, she had to tell me.)

But since then, she accepted that we could not work because of the distance.🙃

She was still trying to speak to me every day, then I had to explain how that would complicate things, and that was when she finally accepted her fate(kinda)😭.

So we agreed to speak to each other at least once a week, but after a while, I stopped.🫠

She still did, and she mentioned how I wasn’t. so I had to apologise and starting checking up more regularly.

We have been on and off since then. I check up on her and try to keep the conversation short and platonic, but she sometimes calls me “her man” stating that we aren’t an item because I didn’t want to do long distance.. She also tries to make dirty jokes. I just laugh them off and try to wrap up the conversation.😫

There was a time she wanted to come to my current location for her internship (she is a pharmacist, it is like a programme they do after they graduate ), I was Lowkey wishing it didn’t work out 😂. Thankfully, she later told me the hospital was not collecting people again, so I was very happy 😂.

I do not know how this will fully end, but I am glad I told her how I felt, and I hope she finally moves on.

Byeeeeee….🙁

A few years ago, I had this Twitter Space I used to join where we would speak about random stuff. We were very few. Most were from different states, and some were outside the country, but I didn’t know any of them IRL.

The guy who used to host the Space was a mutual, and one day I saw him and two other people on the Space, so I joined.

Then another time, one babe joined and I really liked her voice 🥹. So I stalked her, and she was really fine, so I decided to follow her.

The next day, I texted her and said I liked her voice. She responded, and I somehow found a way to keep the conversation going 😂 (she was also receptive, which helped).

Around this time, I was jumping from situationship to situationship because that same year, I had left a long term relationship.😞

So we started speaking, and it was going really well. Like I said, she was really pretty, I loved her voice (I can’t explain it), but it was so good to my ears. She was also quite short but kind of slim thick, if that makes sense 😂. So everything aligned. (Ashawo😂)

Unfortunately, she stayed in the North, so I had a feeling it might not work out because I do not engage in long distance relationships. But at that point, I was not thinking about that.

She also asked for my picture because I also did not have any picture showing my face on X 😂. When I sent it, she complimented me and I did the same.

The talking stage was going really well, and she was also a sucker for voices, so hearing me speak made her more interested.

We spoke for a long time that day, and it was really nice.

This went on for about two days, then one day I texted her and she responded after four days 🥲.

She apologised and mentioned she was not active on X, and I did not mind because we were still getting to know each other.

She also explained that her exams were coming up, so I kind of understood.

After that, We did not talk for about two weeks. Then she responded to my last text and apologised again. 🫠

I was already thinking she was not really interested in me, so I was no longer feeling the whole thing.

Then she disappeared for a year 😂😂.

I texted her, no response, and she was not active on Twitter.

It was so weird, and I had not collected her Snap or WhatsApp because I did not see it as necessary at that point.🥲

I totally forgot about her after a while.

Only for her to text me one year later!!!

It was so surprising 😂.

She apologised again and mentioned that she had been off social media for a long while, which was super weird, but to be fair, her Twitter was dead.

Then we did a little catching up.

By that time, I was not interested in her again because a long time had passed and I had healed 😂. her coming back was actually interesting to me. But I did not want to emotionally invest as much again (in case she ghosted, as she does).

But this time, she was actually persistent. I guess she could tell I was not taking her seriously because of what happened, so she explained that she was more active on WhatsApp and that we should move there.

Like I said, so much had happened by this time. It was during my service year, and I had Lady C and some other people in my life at that point 😂.

So it was kind of like we were trying to reignite the spark we had lost.

We started talking again, and somehow we ended up speaking very frequently.

I still liked her, but I did not think anything serious could happen because of the distance stuff and how messed up I was at that period 😂😂.

But she was very persistent .

She told me how she liked me, first as a joke, then it became serious. She was a fine babe, so I was enjoying the attention, and I really liked hearing her voice 🥹.

It was very hard “juggling” babes at that period 😭. (Don’t come for me that’s the word that best fits what I was doing) I had to find lies to tell some of them, and when I was on a call with one while typing another, the other one would get pissed and ask who I was speaking to……

It was just sooo messed up.

But I found a way to make it work .

“Na me na” (in this girls voice 😂)

At this time, the two people I actually took seriously were her and Lady C (my soulmate 🥲), but I did not really want to have anything serious or commit to either of them.

They were both very far from me, so it was overwhelming.🫠

The night calls with Lady G did not help either. They would get sexual and all 😂.

Then the night of that rave happened, and that was when I blocked both of them.🥹

(You can check that article for context.)

The same day I texted Lady C was the day I texted Lady G, but on X since that was where we started talking. (I literally copied the same message for both of them. I’m sorrrrry 😭😭.)

This was her response

( I figured it’s better to paste chats instead of screenshots it’s safer that way😂)

It’s the slight jabs for me😭😭😭

And yeah, I reacted with a love emoji 😭.

I was genuinely sorry, but my main goal was getting them out of my life, so I did not want to start saying anything that would prolong the conversation.

I wish this was where the story ended, but NO! 😂😂😂

After a few days, she texted me on WhatsApp asking me why I did what I did 😂. I guess she could not leave it like that…

I’ll drop part two next week 😂😂😂😂😂

Bye for now…

Hey guyyssss,

I recently watched a debate on Cruise, and it got me thinking about something.

One of the women in the discussion identified as a feminist, (personally I think she’s a misandrist, only God knows who or what hurt her) but throughout the conversation, she barely gave one of the guys a chance to speak.

To me, it felt like she had already decided that whatever he had to say wasn’t worth hearing simply because he was a man.

Why do people become so emotional and defensive whenever they hear an opinion that differs from their own?

You see it everywhere. Feminists and misogynists. Religious people and atheists. People from different tribes etc.

The moment they encounter someone who thinks differently, the conversation turns to a battle😂

Why is it so hard for people to genuinely listen without acting like it’s war?🤦🏿‍♂️

I know many people become deeply attached to their beliefs because those beliefs are tied to their experiences, identities, and emotions….

If someone has been hurt, rejected, discriminated against, or mistreated, those experiences can shape how they see people.

That’s understandable.

What I don’t understand is that can’t people have normal conversations without feeling personally attacked?

Why must every opposing opinion be treated as a threat?

It feels like people aren’t listening to understand. They’re listening to defend themselves.

Another thing is the assumption that anyone who disagrees with you must be evil, ignorant, or against you.🤦🏿‍♂️

(Samuel Jackson in Do the Right Thing) 😂

Multiple perspectives can contain elements of truth at the same time.

Life isn’t Black and White .

Human beings are complicated, and most important topics have layers and nuances.

So why can’t we allow people to express their views without immediately becoming offended?

Personally, I believe there’s a God because, to me it is the only explanation of creation that makes most sense .

But I’m not a Christian, and I don’t become angry whenever religious people say things I disagree with.

I can disagree without feeling threatened.

We should be able to hear opinions we dislike without treating them as personal attacks.

Why are we so quick to assume the worst about people who think differently?

I understand that trauma, oppression, personal experiences, and history can shape how people respond to certain groups.

Those factors matter. But I still find it concerning how often disagreement immediately becomes anger, contempt, or outright dismissal.

Maybe the real problem is that many of us no longer know how to separate disagreement from disrespect.

Or maybe you’re insecure and your ego doesn’t want you to accept they might be right ?🌚 jk😂

You can disagree with someone without hating them.

You can challenge an idea without attacking the person holding it.

You can listen to an opinion without accepting it.

And sometimes, understanding why someone believes something can be an opportunity to learn, rather than another chance to prove them wrong.

I hate how rare it has become to see people genuinely listen to one another.💔

We need to do better!

On a lighter note, I wish I was Segun right now😩

Might come out of celibacy very soon, byeeeee😂.

I’m attracted to “tomboys”😖

I’ve realised I don’t have a spec I just love women tbh 😭

This is mainly because I find them interesting and different, and they fit into that category.

So there was a time I met this babe. She wasn’t in the country, but she’s Nigerian.

She actually thought I was someone else, so she added me back, and we started keeping streaks. Back then, I kept streaks with a lot of people, so it wasn’t really something deep.

Then one day, I saw her dancing in a streak and singing to one of my favorite artists.

I immediately saved it and texted her 🙂

We spoke a little, and next thing she video called 😂.

We spoke for a long time, and I actually enjoyed it.

So it became a thing where we would talk almost every night, especially when she wasn’t working that night.

And it was always video calls 😂

The calls were usually long, but after like a week, there was a day I missed her call.

I tried reaching her back twice after that, but she kept missing the calls, and we didn’t speak for a while after that.

Only for her to call me back later and apologize, and I told her it was cool.

I was interested in her because I found her really interesting. She was very raw, playful, and different.

But since she wasn’t in the country, I already knew we couldn’t date.💔

Her on the other hand started liking me 😂

She was very direct and would tease me about how we were going to date, but I mostly smiled and didn’t really say much.

After like a month, we were already really good friends, and at that point we both liked each other.

We would speak for long hours almost every day🥹

She really liked me, and she would say she “loved me” on calls 😂

But honestly, I felt it was more infatuation or maybe boredom because everything happened really fast.

To me, it felt too early for her to actually “love” me.

So whenever she said it, I would mostly just smile, and she would feel bad because I would only say that I really liked her back.🫠

She was also older than me with 3 years and Muslim, but I didn’t really care.

I honestly don’t care about things like that, as long as you’re a woman and we vibe, Bring!🤣

We got closer, and at some point she even started referring to herself as my wife 😂 even till now.

She was really attracted to me, and because we spoke almost every day, our bond became very tight.

I on the other hand liked her too, but I still didn’t think it made sense doing a long distance relationship, especially with someone I hadn’t met in real life before.💔

It just didn’t seem logical to me, so I told her, and she knew.

But feelings don’t just disappear 😂 and since we were talking every day, nothing really changed.

I was also considering going abroad around that time, so she was hoping it would work out.

She also mentioned coming to Nigeria for Christmas, so we were both trying to find a way to eventually see each other.😩

She would video call me on the bus, train, anytime she was cooking, picking outfits, going to get stuff, or even randomly 😂

We also had a lot of adult calls, and things used to get really nasty 😭😂……

But honestly, that only made us want each other more, and it became really annoying because we obviously couldn’t see each other physically.

Long distance people dey try fr😭God forbid!

Aside from all that, we were actually really good friends.

She used to talk a lot, which I enjoyed initially, but once things became more romantic, I didn’t really like it as much because I barely shared things about myself.🥲

She noticed that too.

But anytime I was talking, she didn’t really pay much attention, and that became a red flag for me.

So I barely spoke about myself and mostly gave short summaries whenever she pressured me to open up.🙃

Later on, we kind of fell off.

She disappeared because of work, and then she started acting weird, so we gradually stopped talking.💔

Then I went to camp, and we didn’t talk again till my second week there.

So there’s this thing she does 😂

If she texts me and I respond, and she feels I’m online, she’ll immediately video call 😂

So while I was in camp, she replied to one of my streaks, and as I was responding, she video called immediately.

We spoke and I told her how she basically disappeared on me, and she apologized.

We started getting closer again, but because I was in camp, we couldn’t talk much.

She also wasn’t really a good texter, so video calls were her main thing, but since we couldn’t do that consistently, we kind of drifted apart again.

I would miss her calls, and by the time I called back, she would already be offline.

So after camp, we were finally able to talk properly again, and she mentioned how we hadn’t really been close lately.

Then she joked that she knew I said we couldn’t date because of the distance, and that if not for that, she would already be my girlfriend.

I just smiled.😂

At that point, I didn’t really like her romantically anymore.😞

She still did though🫠

We became more distant after that, but once in a while we would still have random calls, and she would talk about how much she missed me, which usually made things awkward again🥲.

Since then, we’ve still been cool, but the relationship hasn’t really been the same.

We don’t really talk anymore.

She even ordered from one of the limited pieces I dropped last year, and that lowkey brought us closer again for a bit.

Then like 2 months ago, I replied to her snap and she immediately video called me 😂

We ended up talking for a long time, and she was topless throughout the whole video call 😭😂

Like I said, we were actually that tight, and she genuinely didn’t GAF 😂

That was the last time we had a video call.

After then, I realised I was the one that was responding or texting her most of the time, and since I didn’t like her romantically, I didn’t want it to feel like I was being insensitive or leading her on.

So I stopped reaching out as much and we kinda fell off.😖

Who knows, if I had actually travelled, maybe we might have become a thing… or maybe it would have been even more complicated.

Byeeeeeeee!

With all the insecurity going on in the country, this has been on my mind for a while but I feel like sharing it now.🥲

I honestly think a huge factor that has contributed to where Nigeria is today is this culture of individuality and the “as long as it doesn’t affect me” mindset that has taken over a lot of Nigerians.💔

People only seem to care when problems hit close to home or directly affect them.

Even with the whole japa conversation, part of the issue is that many people understandably want to escape Nigeria rather than stay and figure out how we can collectively build and fix the country.

I’m not throwing jabs at anyone because I understand it’s deeper and more complicated than that. I have family abroad too, and everyone is trying to survive.

I’m only using it as an example of how disconnected we’ve become from collective responsibility.😖

Now to the main point.

Bandit attacks, terrorism, kidnappings, and insecurity have been happening in parts of Northern Nigeria for years.

Entire communities were displaced, people were killed regularly, children were abducted, and many Nigerians outside those regions treated it like it was a distant problem because it wasn’t happening close to them.

Now that insecurity is spreading into the South and getting closer to most of us, people are panicking and suddenly waking up to the reality of how dangerous things have become.

If these issues had been treated with the urgency, outrage, and national unity they deserved from the beginning, maybe they wouldn’t have spread this far. 🫠

A huge part of the blame obviously falls on the government because security is their responsibility.

But as citizens too, we’ve become increasingly selfish, desensitized, and nonchalant unless something affects us or the people close to us.

In many ways, this is part of what we’re now reaping as a country.😭

I really hope people learn from this.

But knowing how we are, I doubt this will be the last time something similar happens.😞

Another issue will come, people will ignore it because it feels far away, and the cycle will continue until it lands at their doorstep.

It is well!

So back in 300L during my IT,

like I said, that 300L period was probably the one I enjoyed the most in uni.

One of my female friends was having her birthday, and she wanted us to go out.

So we had this friend group, and we were 6 in total.

3 guys and 3 girls.

Because of late preparations, we got to the venue late, around 9pm.

It was a fancy restaurant, and I had never really explored school till 300L, so I didn’t even know the place existed. It was also far inside the main city.

We got there, ordered food, and it was really good but very pricey 😂

The birthday girl had fun, she was happy, and we all took pictures, talked, and played games.

Then around 11pm, we decided to leave.

Unfortunately, I didn’t school in Lagos, so everywhere was very dry at that time 😭

There was basically no means of transportation back. Even the Bolt drivers were complaining that it was too far.

We eventually found bikes around 11:30 after walking.😞

We had to board 3 okadas, and immediately the journey started, rain started falling.

It was hell 😭😭

And my school was very far from the place, like an hour away.😖

Omoooo, rain beat the shit out of all of us that day 😭😭

And the “aboki” bikemen didn’t even have headlights, so they were basically just rawdogging the road 😂

I also wore shorts that day, so the cold and rain was unbearable 😭

One of the bikes even stopped on the way sef 😭

It was really bad 😂, but luckily after like 35 minutes of “vibes and inshallah” , heavy rain, and terrible roads, we somehow got to the school area.

By that time the rain had reduced, but it was already like after 12.🫠

Then it was time to pay the bikemen.

First, they didn’t really understand English 😭

And secondly, they said they were not going to collect transfer 😂

We tried to explain to them, but they didn’t agree because they thought we were trying to scam them 😭

The ATMs outside school were usually on and off, but luckily one was still on but we weren’t sure if it was working.

As I approached the machine I was just praying it worked and luckily I was able to withdraw money.

Omo, I was sooo happy 😭

We paid them and finally went home 😂😂

Guy B was at my place, but he had already slept off, so I had to call him to open the door because I was shaking and completely drenched in water 😭

I woke up very late the next day and didn’t even go for my IT because I was sooo tired😩

I’m even surprised I didn’t fall sick 😂

I still remember trying to look for the others while the bikes sped through the rain because we wanted to make sure everyone was safe 😂😂. Meanwhile, the girls were screaming the entire time 😭😭.

I can never forget that day.

Byeeeeee…

Some time ago , my friends planned an hangout at sunset heaven.

It’s a private beach after Tarkwa bay but smaller.

It was going to be overnight and was a perfect way to unwind and meet new people.

We were about 20 something, but I didn’t know all of them (most were friends of friends).

Skip to when we arrived at the beach .

As they were unpacking , Me and some of the guys started playing ball on the beach.

After a while, we were called to come together so we could start playing games.

We were split into several groups and we played different games.

My group wasn’t the best😂 so we didn’t do well in most games.

For context, We were 6; there were 4 girls in my group and 1 other guy.

I knew 2 of the girls before but I didn’t know the remaining two.

I had seen the guy before as well.

(The ones I knew were not my friends, but that wasn’t my first time seeing them.)

So one of the girls I didn’t know came with the other guy and the other girl I knew.

I’ll call her Lady E😂

Because of the games, we all had to talk and strategize together so we all became cool.

We had a break and during this Lady E and the girl I knew before asked me to snap them. I did, and we went back to continue the games.

The games went on and we stopped at night . All of us split and I ended up just staying with lady E and the other girl.

We were all gisting and we spoke about many things.

During the conversation, lady E shared how she went for an house party and as she got to the kitchen, she saw two guys and a girl being intimate 😭 she said she was soo shocked because they all met at the party and she couldn’t fathom how that happened quick.

She further added how it’s weird for her to meet people and smash the same day, basically “one night stands”..

I just sat there smiling 😂 not saying much .

If I speak I’m in big trouble 😂

During the conversation, round 2 of the games was about to start so we had to go back.

We did that and later on we played “lemon lemon” around the fire.

This went on for like an hour and it was getting late (around 12) so people became tired and everyone split again.

I’ll say half of us went to sleep, some joined another group of people to play games and the remaining few were either with someone or just sitting around .

After that, I decided to walk around the beach because i didn’t want to sleep yet. Then lady E called my name. She was sitting alone and I decided to go say hi.

I teased her about joining and she agreed.

It wasn’t really comfortable so I suggested we found a more relaxing chair .

We did ! And we started talking.🙂

She told me about herself, her past relationships and her life in general.

I really like listening and she really liked talking so it was perfect.

She said soo many things and told me soo many stories and I kind of got the picture of the kind of person she was .

She asked me a few questions as well and i responded but she did most of the talking.

During this, I started getting comfortable .

I was teasing her gently by playing with her laps and she was just smiling through it.😖

When I noticed this I had a feeling something would happen.

During the games we were forced to drink alcohol and I was quite tipsy through out the night😂

That was why I was restless in the first place.

So the conversation started becoming sexual and she told me how she didn’t like having sex with random people because she was a “nymph”😭

Again! How do I keep meeting this people.😫

She explained that she was aware of this so she makes sure she had someone stable so that he could satisfy her and she wouldn’t need to sleep around. and that she had been busy with work and life in general so she had not found someone like that so she was celibate.

After she said this, things started getting heated. We were more touchy but we still didn’t do anything direct.

I was getting hard so I suggested we take a stroll 😂

So lemme describe how she is physically.

She’s was very thick and she had a really big ass and was dark too.

She was okay physically but she wasn’t my type 😂. Me I was just horny 😖

When we got to the waterside, she asked if I could carry her and I did from the legs up. She was surprised because she didn’t expect it, I’m kinda slim.

Then she said she felt like carrying me and I said that sounded weird😂 cos nobody had done that to me since maybe I was a kid .

She really wanted to so I let her for a short while .

After my display of strength I decided to carry her like a bride 😭 and that was when I fucked up!

So as I tried lifting her, my legs gave in and something shifted😭 and we both fell on the beach sand.

It was soo funny😭 but I couldn’t walk properly.

I was humbled 😭.

We kept on walking and she mentioned how we could link to Tarkwa bay from the beach and we decided to see if we could .

I knew what was happening but I played with it and I even forgot the leg pain at that moment 😂 because i was just excited and horny and was waiting to see how all this would unfold .

So we kept walking there and nobody was in sight .🌚

I was at her back with my hands on her chest as we walked forward, and later began rubbing on her so she could know I was hard.

Then I put my hands inside and started fondling her breasts and stimulating her nipples and she couldn’t control herself .

She said that was her “weak point” and she was getting turned on like crazy .

As it was getting heated, She said she didn’t want to have sex so she won’t get attached to me like she discussed earlier🤣

but we still continued teasing.🫠

It was really nice and she would tease me by putting her hand down my pants and removing it 🥹 but she insisted on not wanting any penetration.

After a while of being played with, i got tired because I wanted to fuck her 🥲and since she said nothing was happening I tried to take my mind off everything.

So as we were returning back to the beach ,she turned to me for a kiss again but I didn’t take her seriously only for her to go down her knees and put my 🍆 in her mouth😭.

I was soo surprised and everything happened so fast😭……..

We both went back to our tents and my mind just went back to what she said earlier about not liking one night stands and I just smiled .

Even thought it technically didn’t happen 😂. Im sure the other lady would not believe if I told her what happened.

So she texted me while I was in the tent and I told her how she made me suffer.

It was the alcohol😭 I was just misbehaving.

she apologized but stated she didn’t want to do anything that night and I told her I understood but i also told her that if she changed her mind I was down.

I really wanted her to😖

After a while, I couldn’t sleep and I was down bad and texted her again telling her how horny i was and told her to sneak into my tent.

Again, Alcohol!!!!

😭she said she couldn’t because her friends were around and it would be awkward if they caught us .

I was still horny af but I ended up sleeping 😫

Woke up in the morning and by that time I was sober so I was really ashamed of the whole scenario😭 and then my legs started hurting back.

I tried playing volleyball but it kept hurting so I had to go sit .

This was morning so I was back to my senses 😂 and I realised I didn’t want anything to do with her and was very happy nothing serious happened the last night .

I was leaving the bathroom and she told me to come and when I did, she leaned in for a kiss 😭

I obliged cos I didn’t want it to be awkward and she told me to come in the shower with her . Hell no!😂

I explained that I was tired and my leg was hurting from yesterday and we both laughed but she insisted and I told her I couldn’t and left .

Later that day when it was time to leave, we all left and said bye and I went back to my place.

I didn’t text her at all so she texted me after a day, saying she felt I was shy to text her and that’s why she decided to text me .

Trust me I just didn’t want to😭

I told her yes and we spoke a little.

She asked us to keep streaks so it’s easier to keep in touch and i teased her about having unfinished business ( I have serious issues 😭😂 cos why am I leading her on) and she was happy and we said we would plan it .

We kept in touch but most times she texted me.

Tbh I didn’t want anything to do with her but I was now stuck cos of the streaks.

She cut the streaks and I was soo happy.

I didn’t text her and like a week later she texted me saying how I didn’t care about her….

I tried apologizing but I ended up saying things that made it obvious how I felt and she was even more pissed.🫠

After that we didn’t speak again.

And I was happy it ended that way😂.

This isn’t a rant, just something I have noticed and finally decided to speak about.

But recently, I started seeing more videos about the whole Libya situation.

I already knew it existed, but nothing compares to hearing actual victims speak about it themselves.

Libya, of all places 😭. Is it really that bad?

I know some people are using Libya as a route to cross into Europe, but still…

From the desert journey where many of them lose their lives, to finally reaching a racist, war torn country that doesn’t even see them as human.😔

The “shagala” stuff is even more disturbing. These women travel there to work as maids in deeply racist environments that further degrade them .

Some are forced into prostitution, even young girls. And the painful part is that because many of them are illegal migrants, they become extremely vulnerable.

They get kidnapped, imprisoned, trafficked, abused, and there’s barely any protection for them because they can’t even go to authorities without fear.💔

The men don’t have it any better.

Most of them are forced into intense hard labour, things like construction work, building houses, clearing massive farmlands, and other exhausting jobs under terrible conditions.

And from the stories being shared, many of these people genuinely see Black people as less than human. 😫

Some workers are fed like dogs, treated with zero dignity. One guy shared a story where he was given a lift and when he got off the seat, the driver wiped the sit and even sprayed perfume on it😭

Imagine going through all of that, risking your life to get there, only to still be treated like an animal in the end.

And hearing all these stories makes you wonder: is NIGERIA that bad that people would rather become modern day slaves 😖?

I hate it soo much😭😭

Even as a young person, I miss being able to do anything I want, make mistakes, enjoy my youth, and have systems in place that basically protect me and assure progress.

That doesn’t mean I want to be reckless. Trust me, I’m far from that.

But in other countries, you can do these things and still have a life.

Not everyone wants to be the richest. Some people just want to live life and do whatever they want.

Isn’t that the beauty of life? Freedom?

School isn’t even a guarantee for employment anymore, and even if you get employed, the job will either ask you for experience or pay you something that cannot sustain you.😭

Even to go out and have fun on a minimal budget, you’ll have to break the bank and after you’re back it’ll feel like PNC 😂

Everyone is just doing whatever they can to make money and survive, not what they actually enjoy.

You’ll see engineers applying for graduate trainee roles at banks, even lawyers and doctors.💔

The competition is ridiculous, and at the end of the day, Only like 0.1% or the ones with connections eventually get those spots.

Some of our brightest minds in several fields have relocated to better countries where they are more valued.

I don’t blame anyone trying to leave, even though that also adds to the problem.🫠

How then will the country ever get better?

Just to have an average life is extremely expensive.

It’s that bad.💔

To survive, you have to outwork almost everyone.

Illegality is the order of the day

The system has failed!

That’s even if one exists😭

Most young people have to do illegal stuff, combine legal / illegal, learn several skills, or find ways to do many jobs together.

It’s very hard to find a young person that doesn’t have a “side hustle”

All this does is take away , expression, freedom, and innovation.

Because when you’re trying to survive, you basically become a robot or a slave to the system, and that hurts creativity.

I can’t even think about marriage currently because it’s too expensive long term 😂

Like I said, even if you don’t want to be the richest person, the middle class is almost unreachable. And with the way things are going, it might become the new upper class.🥲

I really love this country, and I feel we are surrounded by a lot of talented people and resilient individuals.

Because even with all this, we still have people thriving.

But I’ve learned not to use the 1% to judge reality. I use what the majority goes through to actually gauge the situation.

And it’s terrible!!!

What is next?

I don’t even know tbh.

I’m always reminding myself not to get lost as someone who is creative and free spirited. I love adventures, learning new things, travelling, and meeting new people.

One of my dreams is to tour the whole country, but is that even possible? I doubt it.

Aside from funding, insecurity is posing an even bigger threat.

It’s all very tiring because things are not looking good, and I’m frankly scared of what the future holds.💔

Anyways I need to clear my head 😭😂 maybe I’ll go for the next GROUP THERAPY .

BYEEEE!!!

So like I mentioned earlier, I served quite late. But my best friend from school (Guy B) was serving in my city, so we actually became even closer during that period.

We used to go out almost every weekend, just having fun and enjoying ourselves. He was serving in a school, and after a while, he met his then girlfriend there.

Naturally, things changed a bit after that.🫠

They had a lot of corp members in his school, and they all stayed in a hostel together, including his girlfriend. So he started spending most of his time with them, and we became a little distant.

Later on, I eventually went to camp and came back, but at that point, I still hadn’t met any of his new circle.

One day, one of them was celebrating his birthday and my friend invited me to come along so we could all go together.

It was a Saturday, and I didn’t mind. He mentioned that some of the female corp members would be joining us too, but I hadn’t met any of them before.

Honestly, I had avoided hanging out with them before because they all already knew each other, and I didn’t really feel like inserting myself into their circle. So anytime they invited me out, I usually declined.🫠

But this time, I decided to go.

We had to wait for two of the girls who were coming with us. When I saw them, they were both really pretty. One was very tall (lady d), the other was short.

On first impression, I preferred the short one.

They said hi, and I could tell they had already heard about me because my friend used to streak me a lot.

We got into the cab together, and I overheard them saying I was handsome.

I just smiled to myself😀

From the start, it was obvious Lady D Liked me.

When we got to the venue, we met the rest of the group, including my friend and his babe.

I also noticed the other babe was kind of in a situationship, so I already saw her as off-limits.

That left only Lady D.

We played truth or dare at some point, and it was a bit awkward. I was the only outsider there, so most of them kept pairing up with people they already knew.😣

Then I noticed another girl, also a corp member, but not from their school. She was fair and very sexy. 🥺 She was wearing biker shorts and had this “I don’t care” energy that I really liked.🙂‍↕️

So I started talking to her.😅

Meanwhile, my friend was actively trying to set me up with Lady D. He could tell she was interested, so at some point, he even took my phone, added her on Snapchat, and we all laughed about it.

But I noticed something.🫠

She started looking uncomfortable… almost jealous. Especially because I was giving more attention to the other girl.

At one point, she even moved closer to another guy nearby, like she was trying to show she had options too.😂

That moment felt a bit off to me. It came across as unnecessary, and I lowkey saw it as a red flag. But I didn’t think too much of it at the time.

Later on, I asked the “biker shorts”girl for her snap… but till today, she never added me back 😭

So back to Lady D.

After she added me, I texted her “hiiiiiiii”… and she literally replied with the exact same thing 😅

It was so obvious she was trying to mirror my energy.

She really liked me, and it was obvious she was trying to play safe . But I felt like giving it a try, so I didn’t mind.

We spoke a lot that night and actually bonded. She was cool, and I enjoyed talking to her.

This went on and off for like a week.

Then she told me she got chocolates for me and said she would give them to me when we saw.🌚

I thought that was really thoughtful.🙂

Because I wanted us to see quickly, I told my friend we should take them to one of our spots, eat, have a double date, then go watch the local match at the stadium after.

But he said he didn’t want to spend much and suggested we just go to the stadium instead.

I said no problem, and they actually got there before us.

When we arrived, we hugged them and went in together. I had initially bought this long Mentos for her, but my friend took it from me.

So when we got there and she brought the chocolates, I had nothing to give her.

She was actually pissed, but she held it in.🫠

Like I mentioned, my original plan was to take her out properly and get her food as my own gesture. I only settled for the Mentos later, which my friend ended up taking anyway.🤣

During the match, I don’t even know what really happened, but she gave me the ick so I didn’t feel like engaging her😭.

She then started making calls and was quite loud, so it made it worse.

To me, it felt disrespectful because it was supposed to be a date and we were meant to have our moment.

But thinking about it, maybe after I didn’t bring anything for her and didn’t really engage her , she was upset and decided to go aura for aura… which wasn’t even my intention 😂

It went on like that for a while, and we didn’t really talk because I was already irritated, even though I couldn’t fully explain why.

I don’t understand myself sometimes 😂

After the match, things were still awkward when we were heading home. My friend suggested we go together to ease things .

He left with his babe and mentioned wanting to get food for her, so I told him I would meet him at the first bus stop as they left before us.

While we were in transit, she told me she didn’t like how I made her feel during the match and was surprised I suddenly started acting normal again when we were leaving.

I apologized, and she started smiling again.

So I planned to go with him to the restaurant this time, then head home while he waited for the two girls to arrive.

But on our way, he suggested that I should get food for her as well. To me, it didn’t really feel necessary at that point, so I told him no.

My friend is very nice and can be quite soft, so to me it felt like he was overdoing it again.

Again! looking back, very questionable reasoning😂

Because of how generous he is in general, and since I’m his friend and they know how I’m good to him, everyone in their school expected me to be the same way. But me, I’m only nice to a certain degree, especially when I don’t really know you like that or I don’t see it as necessary 🫠

As I was about to cross, the girls arrived. I had already crossed, so I just kept walking.

In my head, I didn’t think I had done anything wrong😂 cos rain was about to start . The only thing I felt was that I didn’t say goodbye properly.

Again what do I be doing bruhvvv🤦🏿‍♂️

When I got home, I texted her to ask if she got home safely and told her not to be upset that I didn’t say goodbye properly.

She replied with just one word.💔

I was confused. I tried to keep the conversation going, but it was still the same energy, so I eventually gave up.

Then the next day, my friend texted me and said I messed up.🙁

Turns out… she was really upset. She even cried that night.😭

I’ve made many girls cry😭 I don’t know how I sleep well at night 😂

So basically, she had been anticipating our meet up. I guess she doesn’t normally buy things for guys, so her getting me chocolates 😂 was actually a big deal.

Then I didn’t reciprocate.

The way I was acting when we were together didn’t help, and on top of that, I didn’t get her food after everything.🤣

So she explained everything to her friends in the hostel, and they added pepper😖. Which made her tear up😂

I told my friend everything about how the change of plans affected things, but I still texted her.

I apologized, but she gave a weird response.

I followed up and she didn’t reply, so I told my friend, and she said I should just let it go… so I did.

After that, I didn’t go to their school for a while, and apparently they even had a nickname for me 😂😂 so I already had a bad rep 😂

A few months later, I went to pick up my friend at the school, and he dared me to say hi to her. I did, and she responded, then they all started teasing.

Later that day, we texted again. I apologized once more, and she said we were cool.😛

Another time I went to pick my friend, his birthday was coming up that Sunday .

They mentioned they were planning a picnic and invited me. They also asked if I could carry all of them with my car, but I told them I wasn’t taking the car, so it wasn’t possible.

So that Sunday, my friend and I went together. I also invited one of my female friends and she came.

It was alright, but the energy was a bit weird because I knew they had all gossiped about me. I didn’t really mind though, I just stayed around my friend and the other guys.

Later on, my friend came, and I went to meet her. She was also cool with Guy B as we knew each other from school, so when I came with her to him, they hugged.

That’s when things got awkward. 😂

They didn’t know who she was. Even my friend’s babe was confused seeing another girl hug her man, and the rest were wondering if she was my babe.😂

She said hi to them, but they didn’t respond well.😭 (very toxic bunch😂)

We were joking a lot and catching up since we hadn’t seen in a while, but the looks we were getting from the others were really weird.

She was very touchy, but we’ve always been like that, so it wasn’t a big deal to me.

To them, it clearly was.😂

Then they suggested we play truth or dare , again😭😭

The “short babe” from earlier actually dared lady d to kiss me 😂

And she did 🌚

I wasn’t expecting it, but I guess she still liked me… and she was high.🫠

After that, this same babe asked who my friend was to me. 😭

I told her she was just my friend and that she had a man, but she didn’t believe me.

She now said even if she had a man I either still liked her or something was going on between us.🤦🏿‍♂️

Like I said they were high 😂😂

It was getting really weird. We both denied it, but the whole situation just kept getting more awkward.

Later, they told me the nickname they had for me. I just laughed. 😂

They said it was because I was stingy.🤣

There was also this slightly older corper there, and I feel like she influenced them a lot because they were very money-minded and giving “almajiri” vibes. 😖

Funny enough, she was actually the one acting cool to me that day 😂

The girl who asked about me and my friend later called me aside to ask why I did what I did to her friend back then.

I explained my side and admitted I was wrong. but she was still high and just saying random things so I left her.

Later, my female friend left, and not long after, everything wrapped up.

So basically, anytime I was back from work and not too tired, or maybe I wanted to step out, I would ask my friend if he was ready to head home.

If he was, I’d go to their place, pick him up, and drop him off as I left.

That week, I went to pick my friend again, and this time I was more intentional about seeing lady d. I hung out with them for a bit, then dropped my friend and went home.

We started texting again, but it became a pattern. We would have long conversations that stretched into the next day, then suddenly run out of things to say and go quiet.🥲

Then it would repeat. I’d see her again, same thing would happen.

One day, I decided to be direct. I texted her that I wanted to see her and drove to meet her. My guy wasn’t even around, so it was obvious I came for her.

I bought stuffs for her and my guys babe.

She was really happy.

She came to meet me in the car, and we talked for a long time. She explained that her behavior earlier was because she had PTSD from what happened the first time.🥲

Then, as I was about to leave, we kissed in the car 😂

It was really nice, and I was genuinely happy it finally happened because the tension had been building.🙃

After that, it became a weekly thing.🙂‍↔️

She had about a month left in service, so I made sure to see her every week. We would talk, chill, and smooch in the car, and we actually communicated more this time.

Then she said she wanted to come and greet my mum. I told my friend, and we planned a double date.

They came over, she met my mum, we ate, had fun, and I followed them back to the school.

So when we got back to the school, we went into one of the classrooms to talk. But as we were talking, things started getting out of hand.😂

We started talking dirty, she even asked where the weirdest place I had sex was and we both laughed at the idea of doing it right there.🙃

Before I knew it, She was sitting on me, grinding, and I was moving my hands up and down inside her cloth😫we were kissing, and everything was getting really intense.

I’m not even going to lie, we almost had sex at that very spot😂

But then that same friend from the picnic, the one who was drunk and asking stupid questions, suddenly interrupted us 😭

She came in joking about how we were doing “immoral things” and then just stayed there, so nothing could happen.

She even mentioned that they usually have fellowship around that time and that it was almost time.😖

Lowkey, I felt like she was jealous and just wanted to disrupt things, but I didn’t think too much about it. I just let it slide, and later on, my friend and I ended up leaving.

By this point, me and her were talking almost every day.🙂

Then one day, during one of our meetings, she told me she still couldn’t take me seriously because of what happened the first time.💔

She still had not gotten over it.

I didn’t mention but yeah my friend told me her ex was a yahoo boy 😭

Another red flag!!!!!

In my head, I was like… of course 😂 I wasn’t even taking you seriously either.

But I didn’t say that.

I just told her I understood, but that it had already happened in the past and she shouldn’t keep using it to judge everything now.

That’s when she explained that was actually why she had been so inconsistent all along.

From the first day, I never considered dating her. I was already clear on what I wanted.

We were both attracted to each other, and honestly, that was enough for me. I had already noticed some red flags, and I wasn’t looking for anything serious at the time anyway and she was literally leaving in a couple weeks so it was “rush hour”😂

We kept seeing each other and talking.

At some point, we would speak dirty on phone and she told me how she liked receiving “dick pics”.

I jokingly told her that central cee line 😭 and she laughed but said I should still send .

I told her I couldn’t and I didn’t know girls found it attractive.😂 (I Lowkey didn’t trust her as well tbh)

Everything was still going on, but she was preparing to go home for the final time before her POP.

Around that same period, I traveled to see that lady from the Tarkwa Bay story 😂

My friend and I actually went to Lagos together, so I just told her I was away celebrating my birthday 😂 And because my friend was involved, it made the whole thing more believable.

I knew I had about one more week left to see her, and we still never nack😭.

So I brought it up, and she joked that I was the one that was “dulling” myself 🥲

I told her we needed to see before she left, and she agreed. I was honestly hoping she would suggest coming over to my place, but she didn’t, so I ended up going to their side.

Like I mentioned, she was usually careful with me and always waited for me to initiate things.

So it started to feel like I was forcing it at some point, and that’s why I didn’t try to pressure anything.

That day, she came out quite late and said she had somewhere to be that night. So we only spent about 30 minutes together.

I was really pissed , because there wasn’t enough time for anything. I even felt like she might have done it intentionally as some sort of payback 🥲

After that, they had their POP and she was set to travel the next day.

I came for their small get-together since a lot of them were leaving. But since the last time we saw each other, we hadn’t really spoken much, so everything just felt… awkward at first.

I had to go and say hi to her, and she slowly cheered up, but the vibe still wasn’t really there, so I just let her be.

We played truth or dare again 😂😂 and that same babe that’s always coming for me asked for my body count 😭

I didn’t want to answer because it felt too personal, but it turned into a mini argument.

Some people said they wouldn’t say theirs if it was them, while others argued it was part of the game.

In the end, I just gave an estimate, and they didn’t even know how to react 😂

After that, I said bye to Lady D, then I carried the rest of them and dropped them off.

The next day, I texted her saying I would miss her and that I wished things had worked out better. She said the same.

And after that… we never spoke again.🫠

When I was really young, my sister and I used to go to our grandma’s house on the next street because she had neighbors, and two of their children were around our ages.

They were four in total. The last girl was a year younger than me but a year older than my sister, and the second to the last born was about three to four years older than me. The remaining two were adults.

But the four of us used to hang out a lot back then. The older one was really smart, so she would help us with our assignments. Then, together with the younger one, we played “daddy and mummy” games, tinko, and all sorts of childhood games.😂

We also watched movies together and, in many ways, just grew up together.

But I was the only boy.🥲

So there was this day the younger one and I were watching a movie in the sitting room. It was quite late, and then the light went out, so everywhere became dark. I can still remember we had eaten beans earlier 😭

I was sitting beside her, and before I knew it, she moved closer to me in the darkness… and we kissed 😭

We were kids, so we didn’t really know what we were doing, but we were literally tasting each other’s mouths 😭 I can even remember tasting the beans in her mouth.😭

After a while, we stopped because people came in, and we all had to go outside since there was no light.

It felt weird, to be honest. My brain didn’t even process what happened because I was like 6, and when I got back home, I actually thought it was a dream.😭

A few days later, we went back to their place. Me, her, and her sister were together talking, and then she leaned over and whispered to me that she was going to tell her sister what I did. That was when it clicked that it wasn’t a dream.😳

I was so scared. I begged her not to, like I was literally begging with my life 🤣🤣 She would keep using it to threaten me, even though she was the one who kissed me in the first place… but women 😭

This went on for a while, but eventually she stopped. Not long after that, we moved away from the area, so we didn’t see them again.

Looking back, that whole experience was wild 😂😂 It lowkey gave me PTSD, because I became really awkward around girls for a while. I didn’t kiss any girl again for a long time.

Yes, obviously I wasn’t supposed to be doing that, but that’s not the point 😂😂

Byeeeeeeeeeee.

Final year was a lot, to be honest.

I’d say it was my most interesting year in uni 😁.

At the beginning, it was all about getting my project topic and the stress that came with it. Most of the semester itself was me working on my project with my project mates.🫠

That was also the period when the whole “almajiri” babe situation happened 😂. She was the only person I was kind of serious with before that ended.

During the semester break, I stumbled on this other babe through the “people you may know” on Instagram. She was actually in my department, but we had never spoken before.

She joined in 200 level through direct entry, so I didn’t really notice her until we resumed physical lectures. And by then, most people hadn’t really mixed because everyone already had their own circle.

I’d even say the first time I properly noticed her was in 400 level, because two of my guys did IT with her and always talked about her. They used to say she was the finest babe in the department, and whenever those conversations came up 😂 she would always win.

But I didn’t really care at the time, so I didn’t pay attention.🙂

So when I saw her on IG, I just followed her and she followed me back almost immediately.

I didn’t text right away because I wasn’t thinking much of it. Then on Monday, when I saw her in school, I waved at her and she waved back.

Later that day when I got home, I texted her saying I was the guy who waved earlier. She responded, and we started talking.

There were already a few guys in the department that liked her or had a crush on her. One of my guys was actually her friend, but he liked her and she didn’t like him back.☹️

So I texted him that me and her were talking and asked about their relationship. He explained everything and told me she was single. He also asked if I liked her, but since I was just getting to know her, I said I wasn’t too sure yet, but I enjoyed talking to her.😂

We spoke for a long time on IG that day. Funny enough, that same guy was telling me she hadn’t replied to him that day, so after I noticed that, I stopped telling him much.🥲

The next day, we had lectures, and this time I went to say hi to her in person. She was actually very warm, but I kept the conversation short and left.

After that, we spoke every single day. Anytime we saw each other in person, I would say hi and she would smile and respond.🌚

I wanted to keep everything private because I was quite popular in the department, and I didn’t want people, especially other guys, to know. So only my close friends knew.😩

The “marathon” chats (back-to-back conversations.) lasted for about 2 to 3 weeks. By then, we were already friends and I really liked her romantically .🥹

After a while, I decided to tell her how I felt.😭

From our chats, I could tell she was into me, but we never said it out loud. I didn’t want it to keep going like that, so I had to say something.

When I told her how I felt, she said she felt the same way. I was soooo happy 🥹.

Finding love in uni was something I had already given up on 😂, especially since it was my final year. So I didn’t expect anything like that again.

But I guess life is unpredictable.🤣

After that, we hadn’t met privately yet, so immediately after we both confessed, I told her I wanted to see her that weekend.

She stayed in the school hostel, while I stayed off campus.

That day, she was busy with her project, so she scheduled for around 6pm.

But.. women and lateness😩 😂

She later texted around 7:30 asking if I could still come, and I said it was fine.

Thinking about it again, maybe she knew what she was doing that’s why she pushed the meet up that late 😂

Like I said, everything was still lowkey, so I couldn’t go meet her at the lab where she was working. I had to stay some distance away and asked her to come meet me there.

I was so shy 😂. I couldn’t control myself from blushing . Seeing her in person felt surreal .🥹

We hugged, and I asked if she knew somewhere we could sit and talk. She took me to a spot, and we talked a lot.

Honestly, I was just happy to finally spend time with her in person. We were both blushing, and it was already late, so it was dark.

When I was about to leave, before I even realized it, we kissed 🥹. The tension was crazy, we couldn’t control it 😭

Mehnnnn, I was so happy.😫

She followed me to where I would take transport back home. I hugged her and said goodbye.

After I got home, I was just replaying everything in my head and smiling like a fool 😂😭. I couldn’t believe what was happening.

We became even closer after that. My friends started noticing because I’d tell them I was going to school at night, and they already knew it was because of her, so they always teased me.😂

It was really niceeee 😂

We used to switch meetup spots because we knew we were going to make out, and if security caught us, it would be trouble🥲 so we needed to change locations most times.

We were caught twice though😭.

The first time, the man just shined a bright torch on us and told us to leave.

The second time, we were at the sports center. The guard was suspicious because nobody is usually there at that time, so he came to check. When he saw it was us, he didn’t even stress it, he just said he wanted to confirm we were students, and that was it.

We were so happy and just continued 🤣

Then one day, she texted me saying she wasn’t sure she wanted to continue.😳

I was eating at that moment, and I swear I couldn’t taste the food again 😭

You know this feeling when it’s like your stomach is paining you😭😭 I felt it like mad🥹

We decided to meet up to talk about it.

So we met again at night 😂 and she explained that she wasn’t sure if she wanted to keep going with what we had.

It was during FYB week, and she was one of the people spotlighted. When she was asked about her relationship status, she said “complicated.”

I can’t remember the exact words….

After that, people started asking her questions, and she couldn’t handle the pressure.🥲

On top of that, that same friend I mentioned earlier, the one that liked her, had started distancing himself from her and acting weird . So everything just got to her at once. She panicked and started overthinking everything, and she didn’t know if she could handle it.🫠

I had to reassure her. We talked for a long time, and she calmed down.

And somehow, in the middle of all that… we made out again 😞

At that point, it had been over a month, and I had already started thinking about making it official.

There was pressure from her friends asking if I was serious or just taking advantage of her.

I could have asked her out earlier, but I kept thinking about the fact that we were already in second semester and almost done with school. I wasn’t sure if it made sense long term.😩

But later, I just said fuck it. I loved her, and I was willing to do whatever it took to make it work.😌

So one weekend, I went home and got her a chain, a bracelet, a ring, and chocolates.😉

When I got back, I told her we needed to see… and I did 😂

I asked her to be my girlfriend, and she was so happy. She said yessssss.🥹

I told my friends that night, and they were all happy for me, teasing me as usual.

The next day after school, she came to my place for the first time 😂

We talked, had fun, did small…😭 and it was really nice.😂

After that, it became a regular thing.

I stopped going to see her as much because my place was easier, more private, and less stressful. It just made more sense tbh.

We had our ups and downs 😂

I was very troublesome, and she was calm. She would take a lot of things without talking about them until it built up.😞

There was one time we had a costume day in school, and I dressed up as a funny character. A lot of people liked it, and I got a lot of attention, especially from girls. One even told me she liked me, and she was serious, but I was in a relationship, so i wasn’t engaging her. Later on, she saw me with my babe and stopped pushing.🫠

Apparently, my babe didn’t like how all the girls were all up on me , and it seemed like I was entertaining it😭 but to me I was playing a character and I didn’t even know 😂

So she started giving me attitude, and I didn’t understand why, so I didn’t push it. Before I knew it, we didn’t talk for like a day.💔

I eventually reached out and asked what was wrong. That’s when she explained how that situation, and other things I had been doing, made her feel bad.🥲

I told her to come to my place and she did.

Then we spoke and I apologized and we settled . And the “make up” intimacy was very intense 🥹😂😂.

When we first started dating, she used to celebrate weekly anniversaries, then monthly ones 😂

I didn’t take the weekly ones seriously, not like I didn’t care, but because she took it too seriously IMO, and it sometimes caused small issues when I forgot.

So eventually, I had to set a reminder and never forgot again 😂

Overall, it was a good relationship. I loved her, and she loved me too.😙

But like I said, I was troublesome😂, and since she was more reserved, There were many times I did things, and she wouldn’t say anything until it piled up. 😞 Then I’d be confused, thinking it was just one small thing that caused everything.

One thing I always did though was communicate how I felt, and I think that’s what helped hold the relationship together.

I always looked forward to her coming over, especially after some time apart. I’m big on physical touch, so it meant a lot to me.😫

So when she would cancel or postpone sometimes, it would really annoy me 😂 And also she was always late which also pissed me off🥲

But whenever she came over, it was mad fun, I was always looking forward to it😩.

I would cook for her stock up and tell my friends I was booked for the weekend 😅

I won’t go into details on our sexual escapades 😂😂 but we explored and did a lot……😂 trust me.

I was really living the life, I didn’t want it to ever stop🥹

After we finished final exams, I even almost got tired of her coming over 😂 because she would stay for long , and I kind of liked my space.

Even though it was her, sometimes I still wanted my own space, so she’d have to go.🫠

A few more people in the department found out about us, but most people still didn’t know.

As we were approaching the end of school, we had been dating for about 3 to 4 months, and NYSC was coming up.

Originally, I wanted to serve somewhere else, but I had to reconsider because of her.

She ended up going first and got deployed to a random place for camp. When that happened, we both agreed she would come back.

Then one day, she told me she was thinking of staying back.💔

I was fucking pissed 😭 .

I should have communicated how I felt, but we had already been having issues because of the distance.

The relationship started in school where we saw each other almost every day. After we finished, it became harder, even though we still tried to see each other weekly. But once she got to camp, it became worse.🥲

I think she expected a reaction from me when she said she might stay, but I didn’t react. I just said “ohh okay” and I’m sure she was more pissed.

A few days later, she told me she had decided to stay and wasn’t going to redeploy because the deadline had passed.

Nowww, I was even more pissed.🥹😭

At that point, I just wanted to break up. It was hard, but the connection had already been shaky, and we both knew something was off.😞

Her decision made me start questioning things, even her loyalty, and I began to overthink.💔🥲

I told her we needed to see and talk. So when she got back from camp, we met up at a restaurant and had lunch .

We both explained our sides, but honestly, her reason didn’t really make sense to me.😭. It was something I could have easily sorted out but she said she didn’t want to stress me.

I told her the truth, that the miscommunication and the fact that I’m not good with long distance would be a big issue going forward. But I still liked her, so I didn’t know what to do.🥲

We even discussed different options, like friends with benefits, an open relationship, or just breaking up.😂😂

Neither of us really wanted to break up.🫠

But deep down, I knew that if we chose the other options, it would mostly be me exploring them, and she would end up getting hurt because she’s not really like that.

After a few days, she told me she didn’t want any of those options and asked that we try again. I agreed.🙂

I never cheated on her ( I have never in my life 😌), and I was very careful, which is why I was honest about how I felt.

This is also why I make sure I actually love the person before I go into a relationship because it’s a big deal to me (I can’t date who I don’t plan to marry). But long distance was a lot for me, and that’s why I didn’t want to risk it in the first place.😞 but I loved her.

She went back to her PPA in another state, and we kept dating for a while. But the distance was really hard on both of us.

Her place was far, so it wasn’t somewhere I could just go easily.😩

I had even planned to visit her on my birthday.

There were a lot of underlying issues, but we kept patching things up. But frankly it was tough on both of us.

So I was supposed to walk in my first fashion show, and she knew the whole journey of how I started modelling, so she was really excited about it.

About a week to the event, I got very sick. We had also already had an issue because she was angry about something…🤣

Then that same night, my wallet got hacked and I lost a lot of money. I was already down from being sick, so I just broke down and went offline for a while.

That lasted about 3 to 4 days.🙂

All my streaks were gone, and a lot of people were calling me, even random people I wasn’t that close to, just to check on me. I explained to them what happened.

But my babe didn’t call or even text.💔

I was so mad.😂

I didn’t reach out either, which was also my mistake.🫠

Like I said I’m quite troublesome 😂

I went for the show that weekend, and she still didn’t say anything.

Some of my friends came to support me, but I was really upset because the person who knew my whole journey and was supposed to be there for me didn’t even check in.🥲

I just locked in and got through the event.

The next day, I traveled back home and finally texted her.

I was very pissed. I told her how I felt and how I was surprised she was doing “aura for aura” with me.😂😂

Like I said before, I was usually the troublesome one, so it felt weird seeing her act nonchalant.😞

A piece of my cake I guess😂

She replied and said she didn’t even know why she acted that way.😭

That made me even more upset 🥹😭

In my head, I just said, “she’s gone.”🥲

What do you mean you don’t know?😭

I then told her I had a mental breakdown and how everything was affecting me. I said I thought we needed a break.

She agreed, but she took it as a full breakup and said okay.🫠

Even at that point, I was still confused because she wasn’t acting like the girl I knew.😔

A few days later, her friend texted me asking why I broke up with her. She said she had been crying and feeling really bad.

I was surprised.😂

I explained everything that happened, and even her friend was shocked.

She spoke to her, and then she texted me. We went back and forth and both apologized because we were both wrong.

We both acknowledged that the distance had taken a huge toll on the relationship.

I told her I was willing to try again if she wanted to.

She said she needed time to think about it.

After a few days, we spoke again, and she said she didn’t want to continue.💔

I was pained but I understood.🥲

That’s how it we broke up.🫠

At first, we were distant.

She blocked me on all socials😂 and I was really surprised because she is even the one that wanted us to break up.

Then one day she randomly texted to check up on me and later on it became frequent and we were kinda cool.

Then after a while she finished NYSC and came back, so distance wasn’t even an issue anymore.

We kind of became friends, but not really. I knew she still liked me, and I also kind of did, but I didn’t want to date her, if that makes sense 😭

We mostly hung out in public spaces (just twice) , but after a while we crossed boundaries 🫠.

Our chats started getting more romantic, and we would tease each other a bit, but nothing was really defined.😭

Then I went to camp.

During that time, we got really close because I camped in her state, so we had a lot to talk about and we even started keeping streaks back.

There was even a day she sent a voice note while she was high, but she deleted it before I woke up. ( i think she said how she wanted me back 😂)

After I came back from camp, the tension had already built up, so we decided to meet at her place thinking nothing would happen.

Unfortunately we were intimate 😔😂

After that, I had to tell her we needed to keep things plain. I explained that I didn’t want to be in a relationship even tho i still liked her, and since she still liked me, it was going to be messy if it wasn’t defined.

I didn’t mind the nacks😂, but she was still attached to me, so it made things difficult.

After that, we reduced how we talked, but we still kept in touch. We were still keeping streaks, so there was still some level of connection.

I later invited her for a program at my workplace , and we met in a public space, that was about three months later.

We talked a lot, but I could still tell she liked me.🫠

After some time , we hung out again.

She was like a friend and I didn’t like her romantically by then so for me it was calm🙃

I went to pick her up, and after that we both sat in the car just talking.

Stupid me, I told her all my escapades since we broke up because she kept pressuring me to tell her 😭.

It was a lot and I didn’t go into full details , from my stories you know some….😂

Meanwhile, she had been celibate.😭

I could tell it hurt her, even though she didn’t really show it. But after that, from the way we were chatting, I knew i had made a huge mistake.🥲

For like two months after, we were still cool. I would send her job applications and stuff. But it was mostly me initiating the convo.

Then one day, I checked Snapchat and her profile wasn’t loading. I thought maybe I was blocked, so I checked other socials, but we were still mutuals everywhere else.

So I texted her on WhatsApp, and she said she was taking a break from Snapchat.

I believed her.😂

Later on, I was talking to my friend, and he mentioned that she was still sending streaks

That’s when it hit me.😂

And to be honest, I’m not even mad. I’m actually glad she moved on.

I just wish she was honest about it.

This relationship taught me a lot. It also made me realize I still had a lot to work on .

Unfortunately, it led to my “fornication era” 😭 but I’ve been working on that too. Almost 7 months clean btw.😌

I haven’t dated anyone since then because, like I said earlier, I only commit to what I really want, and I haven’t found that yet.

Plus, with how life has been going, I haven’t really had the time or balance to build something with anyone.🥲

Who knows what the future holds.

Most times, it’s when you least expect it that these things happen.

BYEEE!!!

Damn, Nigeria used to be wild back then.😫

I was born in the early 2000s, and growing up, thieves coming to your house was almost a norm. There were many instances where they would pick an area and rob everyone on the street.

Sometimes, they would even let you know they were coming, and there was nothing you could do. Very scary stuff.😭

So one day, I was really small, maybe around 5 or 6, and they came to our area 😞. There wasn’t social media back then, so there was no way to communicate in any coded way, and even calling was very risky.😕

We could hear gunshots and already knew they were in the area. We just kept praying.😩 My dad used to travel a lot, so it was mostly my mum who was with us growing up.

We were all scared, and then the thieves knocked on our gate, telling us to open the door. Omooo, I was with my mum and she was panicking because she didn’t know what to do.😳😳

We had neighbors upstairs, and the way the house was built, it had two entrances. From the front, you could enter our own part of the house directly since we stayed downstairs. But if you were staying upstairs, you had to go through the main gate and then use the staircase.

So immediately my mum wanted to open the main gate, our neighbors started begging her not to open it so the thieves wouldn’t come to their side. They told her to open only our own door so it would be just us.🤣

While all this was going on, the thieves were getting impatient. They kept threatening us, so my mum had to go back inside and open our door instead.🥲

I was so scared, I just put my head down. My sister was crying and hiding in a corner. I couldn’t even look at them, but I could see they had guns.

They came in and started asking what we had in the house that they could take.😔

My mum said she didn’t have anything. They asked about gold jewelry, and she said she didn’t wear any, not knowing we actually had pictures of her wearing them in the sitting room 😭 but I guess they didn’t notice.😂

We just kept begging.

My sister was still crying, and I stayed in a corner, looking down. They paused for a while, then eventually decided to leave. It honestly felt like a miracle.😫

After they left, we were still very scared, but also so relieved. The next morning, everyone in the area was sharing their own stories.

Another time, around that same year or maybe the year after, I went to barb my hair on the next street. Suddenly, we started hearing gunshots 😭 Apparently, the thieves were raiding the area and were about to leave, so they were shooting to create chaos.

Omo, I literally ran with the white barber’s cloth still on my neck and a half-finished haircut 😂 I ran into the nearest house and hid somewhere.

It was so crazy because I was just a kid, and nobody really had time to look out for me, everyone was just trying to save themselves. It was only after everything settled that they started looking for me, and when I came out, they were so relieved.🤣

My mum was really scared after that, so she didn’t let me go to the barbershop for a while 😂😂

A few years later, we moved to our own house in a different area.😩

Mehn, Nigeria used to be wild back then. I guess fraud kind of reduced those kinds of mass robberies, so a lot of people just shifted to cybercrime.

Not saying it’s a good thing, but it’s just one of those things.🫠

In 300l second semester I was supposed to do my internship but after a month there was strike so it was longer than it should have been.

Life of a federal school student 🥲

I did my internship in the uni so I was in school area throughout that period. Towards the end of the internship, there was this babe in my department. I knew her since 100l but we never spoke, it was more like I knew she existed.

I made a lot of money from crypto this time so I was living 😂……

I decided to add her as she popped on my friend request list on snap. I didn’t even know it was her till I saw her video and she had this “alte” aesthetic which I heavily fucked with😂. She had dreads, piercings, smoked and just fit the vibe 😭.

I immediately became interested in her and we started talking .We used to keep streaks and she also texted me a lot so it was mutual.

There was this day I streaked red wine and she immediately responded telling me she wanted and we were already planning to see so I told her I’ll come to her place with it. She was soo happy to have me and we spoke a lot and she seemed interesting but nothing intimate happened .

I knew she liked me and I did as well but I was quite shy as that was our first meeting so I didn’t make the move.🫠 She also didn’t give me any signals so we just kept it cordial.

After a while , it was late so I said bye and went back home .

We continued speaking but I noticed she always told me she was hungry every time we spoke 😭 then proceed to ask me to buy food for her .

I didn’t overthink it at first but it became a habit.🫠

I did at first, but when I noticed the pattern I stopped. There was a time she was supposed to come to my place but she ended up ghosting so I was quite pissed with her.

She then texted few days later apologising for everything and I told her it was fine.

That’s when I should’ve run😂😂

I was going for a Y2K party with my friends that night and she knew how to make hair so I told her to come and make my hair so it’ll fit the vibe of the party and she agreed.

I told my friends I couldn’t follow them to buy drinks because someone was coming.

I didn’t want them to know it was her cos we were all in the same department so I didn’t say who.😂

She came that night, I hugged her and we spoke as she made my hair.

My friends started calling after a while because they had finished getting drinks and wanted to come dress up in my place. They knew someone was there so they kept calling so I could round up fast.😅

She made my hair but there wasn’t much time so I told her they were coming and she prepared to leave .

Initially, As she was coming, she told me that i was going to pay the “bike man”because her bank had issues. So as she was leaving I had to pay as well.

My friends came and we went for the party 😁.

We were on and off but I didn’t take her seriously because she’ll ghost and come out of nowhere and keep repeating the same thing .

So after a while, we resumed 1st semester of our finals and we started seeing in class. she would stare at me during lectures and I’ll smile and we talked after.

But the begging didn’t stop😭

She will just randomly tell me how she’s hungry and I should get something for her .😭

And her bank always has issues😂

There was even a time her cooking gas spoilt and she was telling me about it asking if I could help her get a new one😭

I was soo shocked because it didn’t make sense to me.

I could see what she was doing so I avoided her even more.

Unfortunately, we would see in class and the cycle would start over .😕

There was a day many of my guys were in my place, so I texted her if she was around so I could leave my hostel.

So another story

My place was the meeting place during uni😭 It was situated at the Center of the street which made it perfect. All my friends were in my department and most of them stayed in my street.

Anytime we finished lectures or if they were bored at home or no light especially at night they’ll come to my place.😞

I had a tv, gen, fridge and I normally have food or stew so it was a perfect spot for them.

Anytime our light had issues I used to hate it soo much because I knew my privacy was gone and my room would be soo full 😭. it was fun sometimes but I really like my space so I hated it a lot but didn’t really have a choice .💔

To escape, sometimes i lied that I had a girl over or i travelled home or even faked sleeping and turned off my phone 😭 just to survive.

Let’s leave that one for now😂

So she asked me to get her snacks on my way and I did . I got to her place and we ate and spoke a bit . I tried moving to her but she said she wasn’t in the mood so I left her.🫠

This was the 3rd /4th time we were alone together.

We had only hugged and cuddled and I think a peck one time .

But nothing serious.🥹

So after a while, I got tired and just wanted to go back to my place and I did .

We were still on and off but I had zoned out of it because I wasn’t getting anything 😔.

She was giving “almajiri” 😭 and we were not intimate so to me it felt like a waste of time.

Good for you 😂😂😂

She always texted to check up on me and she told me she liked me but her red flags were too much for me so I wasn’t having it.

Again, See who’s talking Mr “Red flag”himself 😭

There was this day I streaked noodles .

Like I said, I enjoyed cooking back then and when it came to noodles I used carrots, sweet corns, green peppers, suya and other things so it was really good and my friends always begged me to make it😌.

So she texted saying she wanted and she mentioned coming to my place, stating that I will cook it for her.

Food again😭??????

I didn’t mind because we were going to be intimate that day so that’s all I was thinking about. 😭 It was supposed to be in the night but we had light issues and she wanted to charge her PC so she came in the afternoon. I was happy and told my friends so they won’t disturb me.

When she got to my place, i peeped cos I heard bike sound and I confirmed it was her, only for her to keep calling me.

I had a feeling she wanted me to pay so I looked through my window and saw her with the bike man but I didn’t pick 😂😂.

I wanted to see what she would do.

Can you believe this girl waited😭

After like 3 minutes I picked and she asked if I had cash stating that her bank wasn’t working 😭

Again?!!!!

God abeg!! Ordinary 500!😭

I was soo pissed but I came down with the money and paid the bike man.

We came upstairs together and I was really pissed but I kept it inside .

Why does her bank have issues anytime she is with me😭??

I ended up offering her coco pops and told her I didn’t have food🤣 she wasn’t happy but she’s shameless so she took it.

Two can play that game 🤪

I didn’t really engage her, I was just pressing my phone because I was extremely irritated .

After a while, she told me to come watch the movie with her and I did so it won’t be awkward but I just sat beside her and pressed my phone.☹️

She kept looking at my eyes as the movie played but I didn’t look at her and I ended up telling her I needed to rest my back so I went back to the bed.😩

She was really surprised and I’m sure she felt bad but I had zoned out and just wanted her to leave .

After a while, her PC was full.

I told her I had to go collect something and wasn’t sure when I was coming back, so she had to pack up. 😂

And as she was going home she asked me to pay for her transport again which I did.

I knew that was the last time we were seeing.🥲

I told my female friend who is close friends with her best friend and she told me how her friend always complained about her and shared soo many instances of her doing something similar even with her best friend.

I later told my guys about the whole thing and they all laughed. One of them said she used to date a “yahoo boy” and everything made sense.🙃

She still texted me after but I mostly ignored and whenever we saw physically I told her I didn’t see the messages.🤣

I later met my ex not long after so that was the end.🌚

BYEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

That audio is from one of my 100l videos 😂

100 level was mostly about discovery and learning the ropes for me.

I originally had this guy I was cool with because we were both in media at church.

He didn’t know I was way younger because of how I carried myself and looked. 😅

When I told him I got admission into his school, he was really excited and even suggested we get a hostel together.

That’s how we ended up as roommates.

Most of his friends were cool too, but it started to feel a bit weird at some point because they were like three levels ahead of me.

I’m pretty sure he eventually found out my real age because his vibe towards me changed slightly.

Nothing crazy happened though. It was still quite early.

There was a period he wasn’t around for about a month and I didn’t like cooking so I used to buy food, junks, shawarma 😂 or eat corn flakes and other provisions .

One day, I decided to order pizza for the first time from a restaurant around. Unfortunately, it was the same day we had a fresher onboarding program. I had to leave midway because my stomach was purging terribly 😂 Safe to say, I never ordered pizza from there again.

Another time, my mum brought a pack of French fries and sausages during my matriculation. The problem was, I didn’t have a fridge. So the next day I had no choice but to fry everything at once. All the fries. All ten sausages. I basically spent the whole day eating it because there was no way I could finish that in one sitting.😭

Eventually, I knew I had to start cooking, so I did.😫

I actually enjoyed the freedom that came with living alone, especially during that period he wasn’t around.

But when he came back fully, that’s when I realized something important. I really liked my space. Living with someone started to feel draining.🥲

We tried to make it work though. We shared cooking duties. Sometimes he would make the rice and I’d handle the stew. Other times I’d blend the pepper and he’d do the rest. We balanced things here and there.

Because my mum always sent “Ghana Must Go” bags full of provisions, I always had excess.😅

My roommate would take from my foodstuffs, and sometimes he’d cook and leave the pots for me knowing I was going to cook later and have to wash them.😢

There were days I’d come back from school tired, only to meet a full house. Random people everywhere.🫠Sometimes he even had girls over. It just wasn’t a great experience for me overall. We had our good moments and we vibed, but those moments were very frustrating .😔

So from day one in uni, I didn’t really know anyone except one friend from home who also attended my church.

I’ve mentioned him before.

We were really close at first, but he got into “yahoo” and even tried to get me involved. That was where the closeness started to fade.🫠

At the beginning, I used to go back home almost every week. But as time went on, that reduced 😅

Eventually, I knew I had to meet people in my department. That was how I met Guy A. He was really cool and already had his own circle, three girls he was always with.

They weren’t exactly the kind of people I’d normally move with, but I stayed around for a while.🙂

One of the girls seemed okay, and I thought maybe something could happen there. The day she came to my hostel, my roommate and his friends were already hyping it, pushing the idea of us being together.😂

But deep down, I didn’t really like her like that. So nothing happened.🙂

Over time, I stopped hanging out with that group and just kept things between me and Guy A.

Then one day, while heading for a tutorial with another friend, he mentioned someone else from our department would be joining us. We waited, and that was how I met Guy B.

I had seen him before, and to be honest, I didn’t really like his energy at first.🤣 But somehow, he ended up becoming my closest friend. With him and Guy A, we became inseparable.

At some point, people in our department even gave us a nickname.😂

They weren’t necessarily the cool, fashionable friends I had imagined having, but they were down to earth and relatable, so I didn’t mind. Over time, I even influenced them a bit so we could connect better.😌

As departmental lectures started, we met more people and my circle naturally expanded. Many of us stayed in the same area outside school so we used to go home together often, but because it was a public school, most of them weren’t as privileged. They would joke about my allowance, saying I was lucky, sometimes even privilege-shaming me 😂

I laughed along, but I could tell there was some truth behind the jokes. It also meant I was constantly lending money or doing favours. 🫠

Looking back, it was a bit toxic, and I found myself always trying to prove I wasn’t as privileged as they thought.

But they were still my friends.🙁

There was this girl I liked at some point. We got really close, but I wasn’t sure if she liked me back. I introduced her to my other friends and we were all cool.

At some point, I started noticing a shift.

So, it turns out she and Guy b were both Catholics🥲 so they really connected. One day, the three of us (me, her and Guy B) were heading home together, and while they were talking, I just… faded into the background. I could tell I had become the third wheel 😭. I just stayed quiet, walking behind them while they kept talking.🥹

It felt awkward, and I couldn’t hide the jealousy. 😭 When it started raining, I used that as an excuse to leave them alone.😭

After that, I pulled back and started giving her less attention. But she didn’t really let it go like that. She would still come up to me, play around, hit me randomly, or sneak up behind me. She was playful like that, but for some reason, it always irritated me 😂

Eventually, I started avoiding her completely. In my head, she already preferred Guy B, and I didn’t want to go through that emotional back and forth.😶

So we slowly fell off and later on became cool again.

She later fucked Guy B in 200l😂 and that’s how that fool lost his V-Card. Another story for another time……

But by then, I didn’t have any feelings for her anymore, so it wasn’t deep. It was more of me being excited for him because we all understood what that moment meant and the whole thing just became gist. Later on, the rest of the guys in the group found out too, so they didn’t let him rest with the whining 😭

So yeah, first semester was basically me navigating friendships, emotions, and figuring people out.

During exams, since most of them were CBT, I was able to see every person in my level. I then noticed another group of guys. Their style was really different. They were the kind of cool I had imagined. Proper “alte” guys.😫

That was around the time I had just started getting into the “alte” scene, so I was really fascinated. I wanted to be around people like that.

Then I found out one of them was in my department. At first, I thought he was gay because of how his mannerisms and how carried himself.

I hadn’t even started dressing like that yet, but seeing them gave me confidence.

That was when things started to shift for me.

I began dressing how I actually wanted, expressing myself better, and fully leaning into my creativity.

That period was a lot of discovery and research for me.

I fell in love with Tupac. I would listen to him every single day.😁

From there, it expanded. Snoop Dogg, N.W.A, hood movies, stories about racism, Black history… I was consuming everything.

I became more intentional about understanding what it meant to be Black, not just globally, but also my own history as a Nigerian. My roots started to matter more.

I was drawn to everything retro, especially the 90s. The music, the films, the fashion. There was something raw and expressive about that era that really spoke to me.

During the semester break, I found that guy from my department on Instagram. I liked a few of his posts and followed him.

Then he followed me back.

Around that same period, I also started questioning my sexuality. 😂😂 I was almost bi-curious at some point, but deep down I always knew I liked women and I never thought about men in a sexual way😭. The idea of doing anything with a guy didn’t sit right with me, so that phase passed and I settled into the fact that I was straight.

By the time we resumed, me and the “alte”guy started talking properly, and we connected really fast.

I think he initially thought I was gay/Bi.😂

Back then, the “alte” scene was almost like a quiet space for a lot of queer people, so if you were part of it, people just assumed.

We had a couple of conversations around it. I even asked him if he was straight, but he didn’t give a direct answer. Instead, he flipped the question back to me.😅

My response was pretty straightforward, and I think that helped him figure me out. After that, everything just stayed normal between us.🙂

Personally, I still think he might be bi, but more than anything, I realized he was simply expressive and comfortable with himself. As we got closer, that mattered more than any label.

Back to me.😁

There was this girl in my department I was really eyeing. She was my spec at the time. She also had a friend that Guy B liked, so we were both on the hunt😂

During lectures, we would sit behind them, say hi after classes, and try to build something from there.

But it didn’t take long to notice the signs.

She wasn’t really into me.😖

Her responses were inconsistent..

And she clearly liked money, which I knew already put me at a disadvantage because I wasn’t moving like that. 🤣

Still, she kept texting me, mostly to help with assignments or attendance.💔

At some point, it became obvious.

One day, her friend asked Guy B to help with one assignment.

Earlier that same day I just helped her with the same thing and she mentioned while asking him .😂

When Guy B told me, we both just looked at the situation and realized we were being played.😭

After that I slowly pulled back and let her be.😣

Guy B was still cool with her, there was one day he entered her trap and had to buy food for her 😂 I was just laughing when he told me cos he’s too kind hearted.

I won’t lie, I still liked her at the time. But it felt she was using me so I had to let it go 🙃

I also later became close friends with her friend and she was very nice, she bought food for me and throughout lockdown we spoke almost everyday.

At this point, I was fully in my “alte” phase, and people started noticing how different I was becoming.😄

The tucked-in fits, tote bags, sweaters, baggy suit pants, Converse, white socks, baggy jeans etc😂

This was before lockdown, so that whole aesthetic felt new. The reactions were mixed, but honestly, I didn’t care.🙂

Like I said, that movement gave me confidence. It made me more aware of my roots, pushed me to research more, and helped me grow creatively. I was really stepping into myself.😌

Around that time, there was this girl in my hostel. My roommate kept saying he had someone for me and wanted us to be a thing.😂 She was really pretty.

Her roommate, who was in my department but in 200 level, actually liked me. She had a boyfriend, though, but she would still tease me about being fine and would call me out whenever she got back, randomly but I mostly avoided her😂.

Since she was in a higher level, I only went to her for books and guidance about the department.

But the actual girl my roommate was trying to set me up with didn’t like me. It felt forced. And honestly, I didn’t like her either. She was pretty, yes, but there was no real connection. Once I figured that out, I stopped putting in effort.🫠

At the same time, things with my roommate started getting worse.🥲

He became more annoying, and at some point, he barely even slept in the room anymore. He was always sleeping in his friends room, and I could tell he had been talking bad about me to people.

Like I mentioned earlier, he used to take my foodstuffs.

Then one day, things escalated.😂

That day, I only had two packs of noodles left, and he came in and took them to cook. I was already frustrated, so I confronted him.😂

I literally blocked him from leaving the kitchen with it.😒

Looking back, I know he probably felt disrespected, but at that moment, I was fed up. I didn’t have much, and he had been constantly taking my things, especially when I wasn’t around. And because he barely stayed in the room, I never had the chance to properly address it with him.

So yeah, I was really pissed. That’s why I reacted the way I did.🫠

After that incident, things only got worse between us. At that point, I already knew I needed my own space.

I started looking for another hostel around the area, but one of his friends found out and told him.

About a week later, he came to me saying he wanted to leave the hostel because he needed a bigger space to rear farm animals. I could tell he expected me to say I was leaving too, since he knew I had plans. But instead, I told him I was going to keep the room.😂

That clearly ruined whatever plan he had.🤣

He acted like it was fine at the time, but when the semester ended, he didn’t move out again. Instead, he came back to beg, saying he didn’t have money to relocate and asked me if I could stay with one of his friends instead.

I was soo pissed but my mum told me to let it go.

So I ended up being the one to leave and got another hostel in 200 level. (we all know how that ended🤣)

That whole situation really annoyed me because it felt like I was forced out of my own space. From there, our relationship just faded.

Second semester, though, was actually okay overall. By then, I already knew people, had my circle, and academically, I was doing fine. The only real stress was still the hostel situation.

During exams, we had to start doing night classes, and that was hell 😣

I’ve always preferred reading during the day, but I didn’t really have a choice. Time wasn’t on my side.

By this time, our friend group was solid, and a good number of us stayed on the same street, so we were always together.

Then something wild happened.

One day after our last exam, two guys from my department came over to my hostel. We were inside playing “HOT” by Travis Scott, loud as hell.😅

Next thing, we heard a knock.👀

We opened the door and saw two policemen… with guns 😭

Apparently, they were doing random raids.

There were a lot of “Yahoo guys” around school, so they would do random checks and sometimes it was based on intel.

My place wasn’t even a target. It was probably the loud music that drew them in.😭

I was so scared.😨

They came in and started checking our phones. When they got to mine, there was nothing.

But then they checked one of the guys’ phones… and found something.

That’s when I started panicking.😭

I didn’t even know he was into fraud.

Luckily for us, they only took him with them.😫

As they were leaving, the other guy followed them since they were close. He wanted to help contact his parents so they could arrange bail.

I can only imagine how awkward that whole situation must have been.😕

Eventually, they were able to bail him out.

Me, I was just grateful I got out of that situation untouched. After that day, I became a lot more careful. I stopped leaving my door open like before 😂

Not long after, we wrapped up 100 level.

And then everything paused.

COVID-19 came, and just like that, everything came to a sudden stop.💔

Looking back, that whole year was chaos, growth, mistakes, and small awakenings all at once.

If you’re new here , my stories are tied together so you can check the previous ones😂

BYEEEEEE😁

In 200L, I stayed in two hostels 😂 from my stories, you already know how that went.

I really hated the second one, so towards the end of the session, they started building a new hostel close by.

It was right at the center of the street, a storey building, and it looked really nice.

That area was already packed, so getting a hostel there was like gold. Once there is a new hostel , people would rush it immediately.😅

When it was finally ready, there was a day me and a few of my guys went to check it out. We were all just admiring it, talking about how nice it was and even picking out which rooms would be perfect.

In my head, I was already planning how to beg my parents to allow me collect another hostel.

This was going to be my 3rd hostel and I knew it would be tough convincing them, so I felt if I was sharing with a friend, it will be cheaper and easier to convince them.

As much as I didn’t like sharing space, I just really wanted to leave my current hostel.

Little did I know I was actually going to get that hostel… and even the exact upstairs room everyone wanted.😛

Luckily for me, my uncle came back to Nigeria and I told him I wanted to move and he simply asked for the amount.

Next thing, I had the new place 🤣 I even added extra money to it, and he didn’t mind at all.

I was so happy.🥹

So at my old hostel, I told the landlady I was leaving, and she said she was going to inspect the place.

She worked in the school.

The next day I got a call saying the SDC (Student Disciplinary Committee) wanted to see me. I was so shocked 😂

When I got there, I ended up speaking with the Student Affairs officer, and he explained what happened.

Apparently, the woman reported that I damaged something in the room and was trying to run away without paying 😂

I was genuinely surprised. I immediately called the guy who helped me get the hostel, and it turned out he was the one who actually damaged it.

Basically, he was staying there before me and left because he found a better place.

So I explained everything to the landlady, and she understood. But then she still said I had to pay for it.

At that point, I just said forget it and stopped responding 😂😂

Anyway, moving to the new hostel was really nice. It was upstairs and at the edge, so I could sit outside collect breeze and just watch everything around me. It felt calm, and honestly, I loved it.

The same hostel everyone wanted… I got it.😌

But it came with its own downside.🙃

People were always coming over. 😖

My place basically became the new hub 😂 so I didn’t really have my space anymore, which I hated.

Then in second semester, when I eventually got a generator, it became even worse.

Back to the main story.

So I had this really pretty neighbor. She was fair, kind of short, and had a really nice shape 🙂‍↕️I had a huge crush on her, not anything too deep, but I definitely liked her.

She had a car 😂 and a rich boyfriend who came around sometimes. She also had a generator, so the first time there was no light, I asked if I could charge at her place and she agreed.

From there, we started talking more and got really cool. At some point, she noticed I had a blender, and after that she would always come to borrow it, sometimes even cooking my own food with her stuff.😊

She was in her finals and way older than me, but she liked me. She would randomly shout my name whenever she got back just to check if I was around and say hi 😂

I was still crushing hard, but I was too scared to make any move.🫠

There was a time she needed help with her slides so she came to meet me and I helped. But I used to text her mostly because of charging.

She would also text me at night to ask if I was coming to charge, and I would go over. I was also the only guy she really spoke to in the hostel.😌

There was even a day another guy wanted to charge at her place, and she didn’t open the door 😭 But when I showed up right after, she opened immediately.

I felt bad for the guy 😂😂 but I can’t lie, I felt special.

Still, nothing had really happened between us.

Then one day, the same girl that broke my heart in 200L🤣( I know, again ????) came with her friend to charge. I wanted to help them charge at her place, so I went to meet her.

As I was talking to her, something weird happened.

She just stood there, smiling and looking straight into my eyes 😂 It was… tense and I folded.😔

I didn’t know what to do 😭 I probably should have gone for a kiss, but my brain froze again. I just stood there, staring back and blushing.

So I was backing her and didn’t even realize that the girl who wanted to charge and her friend were watching us. 😭

They had stepped out of my room to check if their phones were charging.

Because I was backing her, they could only see what was happening from an angle😂.

The moment they spoke and asked about their phones, i snapped back to reality.

I quickly told her to help me charge their phones just to avoid making things more awkward.😔

After that day, we were still cool, but nothing else really happened.

There was another night I wanted to go charge, so I texted her late.

She didn’t see it early, and by the time she replied around 11, I told her not to worry since it was already late.

She insisted I come, but I said i couldn’t , and she just smiled and said okay stating it wasn’t a big deal😅.

Around that time, I used to tease her a lot, and send her stickers so we were really cool😅

Then there was this day I actually planned to tell her how I felt.

My very brilliant plan was to bring a ring, joke about proposing, make her laugh, and then confess 😂😂

Honestly, very questionable thinking. How do I come up with these😭😭

I told Guy B about it, and he immediately said it was a bad idea.😂

Earlier that day, I had texted her saying I wanted to see her.

Later at night, she messaged that she was back and we could meet.

Then I had to tell her not to worry because I figured the plan was a terrible one🤣.

She asked why, and I said nothing.

She kept pressing, so I told her if she really wanted to know, she should come to my place.🤪

She said “I wasn’t ready”, and I didn’t reply again… next thing, she was knocking on my door 😂

I was so surprised, I wasn’t expecting her at all. So I opened the door slightly and she was blushing a bit, I started teasing her, saying I thought she was a hard girl.

She kept asking what I wanted to say, but I brushed it off and said I was just teasing. She got a bit annoyed and left.🥲

I tried calling her back, but she didn’t answer. I texted too, but at that point, she didn’t take me seriously anymore.💔

After that, we weren’t really as close as before.

She started acting a bit different, so I just stopped interacting with her, and when I eventually got a generator, I had no reason to go to her place anymore.

She would still come around sometimes to charge, since my generator was always on, and even borrow my blender. But it wasn’t the same. That closeness we had before had already faded.

Sometimes I still think about what could have happened…

Did I ever really have a chance?

Was I overthinking everything all along?

Could that one moment have changed the whole story?

I guess I’ll never know.🫠

So like I mentioned in the last story, 200L was when the heartbreak happened 😂 and honestly, a lot of other messy things too.

First, this was right after COVID, and since I attended a federal university, there was a strike.💔

Then in 2021, we finally resumed… but it was online.😔

I’m someone who prefers physical classes because I learn better in person than by just reading. But because everything was online, I skipped most of the classes, and even the few I attended were terrible.

It was either the lecturer just reading slides, network issues, or chaotic moments like someone being unmuted without knowing, or the lecturer not realizing they were recording.

Just all sorts of shenanigans.😂

By the end of the semester, I had my lowest grades in uni because of it. And since lectures were online, we spent most of our time playing games and doing random stuff, so I was honestly very unserious.🤣

Back to my living situation.

I never stayed in the school hostel at any point. Even in 100L, I stayed with someone, and I didn’t really like the experience, so by 200L I had already decided I wanted to live alone.

Unfortunately, most of the hostels in my area were either taken or too expensive. So I ended up getting one in another area, and it was really far inside.🥲

Till now, I still don’t know why I took it. I guess I was just so focused on finally having my own space that I didn’t even care where it was.

The hostel was new, so it was actually really nice. But the area… it was deep inside. We were like the last two or three finished hostels there, surrounded by farmland and uncompleted buildings.😭

On the first day I resumed, I moved in and settled down. After a few hours, I noticed some guys outside my room. They were really loud and smoking heavily.🥲

I was already a bit uneasy because I hadn’t gotten familiar with anyone yet, so I stayed quiet and just listened.

I don’t think they knew I was inside.

At first, they were saying random, unserious things. Then the conversation shifted… and they started talking about cultism 😭

My heart started racing immediately.🥺

Some of them were actually involved, so they were discussing encounters and things happening around the area.

I was genuinely scared.😫

After a while, they left, but the fear didn’t go with them. If anything, I started panicking more. But I had literally just moved in, so I didn’t really have a choice.😣

I quickly left and went to my friend’s place( Guy B), and I was so relieved to be there. But I later had to go back home and just went to sleep.

The next day, someone cut my kitchen net. I sent a message to the hostel group telling everyone to be careful, and that was how one of the guys messaged me privately, saying they had stolen his clothes too.

I didn’t even know he was a cultist.😂

Because of that, he got my number, and at random times in the night he would be disturbing me for water or a lighter 😭

We had a drug dealer in the hostel too😂 but after a while people started leaving one by one .

There was also another guy whose room was beside me and his sound speaker had burst, but he played music loudly all the time. Between the generator noise and the bad speaker, I used to get constant headaches 😖

After a few weeks, I realized there were actually girls in the hostel. One day, I saw this “tomboy” and I was really fascinated by her. I liked her, but since I barely stayed in the hostel, we hardly saw each other.🫠

Eventually, I met the rest of them and found out we were all in the same level.

The tomboy later told me she had liked me at first too, but by then, neither of us felt that way anymore and we just stayed friends.🙂

She had a roommate, and there were two other girls, making four of them in total. One of the other girls knew a lot of my female friends from the school hostel, so that brought us closer. We also both liked anime, which made us connect even more.

She had a boyfriend, so nothing was happening, but we were really close. We would cook together sometimes, and it was usually me, her, and the “tomboy” hanging out.

The other two were cool as well, but I didn’t really talk to them much.

After about a month of staying there, the transformer became faulty, so we had no light or water 😭

I always had to go to the next hostel to fetch water, and it was really stressful.

Like I mentioned earlier, the place was far inside, so it was usually very quiet and not safe to be moving around at night.

Because of that, I started sleeping at my friend’s place most of the time. I would either come back late just to sleep or go in the mornings to bathe and change.🥲

Eventually, I didn’t want to keep inconveniencing my friend, so I got a small hostel closer to them and managed it for second semester.

I spoke to the landlord about leaving and he actually agreed to reimburse me, but he only paid half of that and ghosted 😂

The new place was honestly terrible, but I was just happy to be closer to my friends and finally have light and water again 😭

This was also around the time the heartbreak happened.😫

The place was so bad that I didn’t even like having people over. I spent most of my time at my Guy B’s place instead, or just went over to the persons place instead.

At that time, I was really deep in my creative space, and someone came across my work and really liked it. He was also working on a similar idea, so we connected easily.

We became friends, and since we were from similar middle class backgrounds, he was very relatable. I used to go over to his place a lot. He would get food for me, play his music (was an artist) , and we would just talk about creative stuff.

He smoked, even though I didn’t. I never really liked weed 😂 no moral attachment to it, I have friends that smoke, it just was never my thing.

There was even a day in that same 200L when a bunch of the guys wanted to get high. A lot of them had never smoked before, so they made noodles and mixed it in 😂 it was wild. But even then, I didn’t eat it. It was just something I never liked.

So back to the guy.

At that time, both of us really wanted to make money fast. During COVID, a lot of people came back to school suddenly richer, with cars and just crazy money 😂 so the pressure was high and everything felt different.

Fraud, though, was something that never clicked for me. I never even considered it. 😂 I had a friend back in 100L who wanted us to start together, but I told him I wasn’t interested. By 200L, he was already a big man. Even the people he “trained” had their lives change massively. He definitely had a solid plug 😂😂

He really liked me, but because of that whole lifestyle, we were not as close as we could have been.

Sadly, he passed away in an accident later that year. It was a really difficult time because I knew him well, and I also knew his family from our home church.

We had known each other since secondary school.

May his soul rest in peace.❤️

So yeah, back to that guy.

There was this day he was watching YouTube videos about rituals 😂😂 At first, I thought he was joking, but then the conversation started getting serious, and he told me he knew someone who could actually help us do it.

Even though I didn’t believe in that stuff, it really concerned me because it showed how desperate he was. He tried convincing me, but I played along like it was a joke and found a way to leave his place 😂😂

Months later, he eventually got into fraud and became really rich too.

I just felt like he came from a good background, similar to mine, so there wasn’t any real need for that kind of pressure. But I guess he was just desperate.🫠

We became a bit distant after that, but we are still cool till today.

Back to my grades, my first semester had already dragged my results down badly, and the second semester was even worse 😭. I literally entered 2 point😖 thank God for IT and my finals 😂

That period really forced me to rethink my life. I was mostly depressed through that phase because of everything happening at once and just wanted to go home at the end of the session .

That’s why I always refer to it as the worst year of my uni life.🥲

Byeeeeeeeeee

During my service year, I was in a Special CDS. It was fun because we didn’t have to stress to get our stuffs signed and it was really different from general ones.

The only issue i had was that we finished late and the extortion😅.

The first day I got there, they mentioned holding an event and the president came to meet me as a newcomer.

She teased me about being rich and asked if I was a DJ to which I said no, but she still gave me two envelopes instead of one.

we were supposed to ask people to donate through the envelopes.

I didn’t mind because it was for a good cause.

One of my friends actually paid for one, then I paid for the second one since I didn’t get anyone.

After a week or two, I texted her telling her I had paid and she confirmed the payment but didn’t realize it was me till the conversation almost ended.

When she did, she started “whining” me about being her “spec”.😖

She said she liked tall, dark and handsome boys😭.

She also said she wasn’t expecting my voice to sound deep because I looked very gentle.

I didn’t know how to react because I wasn’t expecting all that but I just played along.

We spoke a bit more and she started sending voice notes and she was so comfortable very fast.

Before I knew it , she called me😭

I didn’t want to come off as rude and I figured I might need her help when I didn’t want to come for CDS so I ended up picking.😫

It was short, I told her I had to do something so I couldn’t speak for long .

Later that night, she texted again and this time started telling me about her history.😂

She asked how old I was and I told her .

So I went to camp with the last batch for my set because I was busy with other things so I registered late.

In my head I thought we were like age mates or maybe 1/2years max and I told her but she told me she was like 4/5 years older and I was shocked.😳

She explained the reason why and she just kept telling me about herself.

She then went into relationships and before I knew it she started telling me about her sexual life😭

How do I keep getting into this situations.😢

Meanwhile I’m still in shock because we literally started talking that day and soo much had happened already .

She just kept telling me about how if she liked a man she’ll tell him straight and they’ll be able to do whatever they want without stress.. she also said other things but I don’t remember fully and I don’t really want to go into detail but trust me she said a lot😂

I was still in shock so I didn’t say much.

She asked where I stayed and I told her I live with my parents. Then she asked if I usually go to parties and mentioned there was one that night we could go to, but I told her I couldn’t. Next thing, she said she wanted something between us and that I could come over to her place😭…

I’m not even going to lie, I just froze 😂

First off,

I wasn’t attracted to her at all

That was so random

And I’m just meeting her and everything was too soon.

(Main reason is number one tbh 😂)

So it was a big NO for me.

I found a way to slide out of the convo (stickers)😂 then I started stalling my responses and I think she got the message .

Regardless, anytime we saw in the CDS she’ll always hug me and tease me but I just smiled and didn’t do much .

She even threatened to make me the next CDS president (she was leaving soon) but I used to beg her not to.

This was one of the ways she got my attention while texting.

I later didn’t give AF and gave up.

Later on, my work bestie complained about her CDS and I told her she could come to mine and she changed.

So we were always together and we went home together and only spoke to each other.

After a while, she noticed and texted me about how I stopped answering her because of my babe as in my bestie 😂 I told her she wasn’t but she didn’t believe .

She sold stuffs so she’ll often ask me to order before the next CDS and also used that to have a conversation with me .

After a while since my friend joined the CDS, everything kinda slowed down.

One time I was avoiding her, so I had to explain the whole thing to my friend.

She then told me she used to look at her with “bad eyes” and couldn’t stop laughing when she realized that was why after😂.

This was what I told lady C that i mentioned not liking how she teased me about.

She finished her service after like a month and she left. I was so happy 😂😂

Few months later, she invited me for a sale telling me to bring my babe as in my friend😂.

We actually wanted to go but I ended up changing my mind last minute.

That’s the end of another crazy experience 😂

So while I was in UNI, my love life was really non existent due to the fact that I actually didn’t date anyone till my finals .

So this was in 200 level (sophomore) .

I was going home with my friends after one of the exams of 1st semester and I saw this babe .

She was really beautiful and I couldn’t take my eyes off her.

I asked my friend about her and he said they stayed in the same hostel and were cool, Then I told him to give me her number and he asked her and she didn’t mind .

I texted her and it started going well, that same night she went for a party so she sent me pictures of herself .

I was really happy and in my head I thought she was into me as well.

(Really? that fast? Fool😭)

We spoke a lot but I didn’t tell her I liked her romantically but I really did.

I realized I was often the one pushing the conversations, if I didn’t text she wouldn’t so I started doubting if I had a chance.

There was a day I went to Guy B’s hostel and their place is very close to each other . I showed him the chats and explained how I liked her but wasn’t sure i had a chance but he told me to “put pressure” and even pressured me to text her about coming to see her.

I texted and she responded and said i could come. I was so happy when she said so and after a while I went to her place .

I was actually shy and she had a friend with her so we were 3.

When I saw the other girl I wasn’t happy at first 😭 but I realized that was our first meeting so it made sense for her to be there.

We spoke a bit but nothing too deep just random stuffs.

I wouldn’t say I had fun but seeing and speaking to her was more than enough for me .🥹

After this, same thing happened.

She only texted if I did and whenever she did, it’ll be after a few days but she would send me pictures of her and tell me how her life was going and all. (She liked taking and I liked listening) But nothing showed she was interested romantically .

I didn’t mind and still stayed around cos I liked her .

There was a time she told me she wanted to lose belly fat and she needed vinegar and I told her I’ll get it for her😂

Meanwhile, I told my mum to help me get It (I went home that time) and I lied to her it was for a school project😂😂.

Things we do for love😔

it was quite expensive then around 5k I think.

So I gifted her when I got back and she was so happy, But she didn’t react as I expected 🫠

I later went to her place like twice, once during the day and this time in the night.

So this particular day, As I was leaving, she decided to come to my place and see me off.

I temporarily moved to their area because the transformer in my own area broke down and we didn’t have light for long.

Unfortunately for us, my gate was locked cos it was quite late so she couldn’t come in. I then decided to follow her back home since her hostel was kinda close and I also wanted to get something so it was perfect.

So as we were going, there was a moment we both froze and I was in her front and she was looking at me but I didn’t know what to do😭 (that can definitely not happen now😂😂)

In retrospect, I should have just went in for the kiss and I guess she was waiting but i didn’t know what to do so I just stood awkwardly😭

The moment faded. we were literally very close to each other that even the woman selling something was looking at us 😭.

It was awkward but we both smiled and I hugged her good night and went back.

After that day, in my head I thought I had confirmed everything and was really happy. We texted but we didn’t talk about that moment but she was still acting the same way.

I liked her so I still lingered around and at that time I was her friend so I was feeling stuck in the friend zone and it was really frustrating.😓

I decided to text her after a while and tell her how I felt and she told me how she didn’t know I felt that way but she didn’t tell me NO directly😖😭 she just kept repeating that and how she thought I was just a friend.💔😔

Mind you, I literally sent this babe a 3 minutes voice note and that was the response I got.😔

I was so pissed and I broke down 😭.

I was really depressed that time.

My friends knew the journey so when they found out they both consoled and teased me anytime they saw her 😭

My friend who gave me her number then told me how he found out she had a boyfriend later on (he wasn’t in our school) but he thought I knew so he didn’t mention. I was so pissed with him but I didn’t even have the energy to drag it and I just swallowed my L.

That was the first time I was genuinely heartbroken and it changed me in both a good and bad way😂.

In 300l, when I started becoming a “big boy”😂 she would come with her friend to charge in my place and there was even a time she was supposed to cook fried rice for me but we cancelled .

We’ve been cool ever since but we barely text . I don’t give room for long conversations with her. PTSD😭

We even met at a house party last year and we spoke a bit but that was all.

During the party there were few moments that I could have leveraged but I promised myself that nothing was going to ever happen between me and her again.🫠

Funny how me and her brother are very cool, maybe even friends.

he dated my friend so from there we became close.

He found out later and was also very surprised 😂.

That heartbreak reshaped me. It made me more self-aware and protective of my peace, but also quicker to define things and pull away when the energy feels off.

It reduced my tendency to be delusional, but made me slower to commit, more guarded in expressing myself, and more drawn to casual situations to avoid vulnerability.

I see this pattern in my recent stories, and I’m now more aware of it and actively working on it.

Byeeeeee!!