My commitment to this year’s masquerade was prompted by a Threads post from Shan Boodhram. Earlier this year, Shan shared a bold vision: she and her sister Lauren would host a section at Caribana for the first time ever. I’ve been a fan of Shan’s content and intellectual dexterity for almost a decade, so the chance to march alongside her was a welcome invitation.

On the weekend of the fetê, my husband and I made our way to Toronto. What I had offered myself as a simple “yes” would become a time of infectious jubilation and embodied freedom. If you’ve been on the fence about participating in Carnival, let this be your sign.

Where we stayed.

As it is our preferred hotel, we stayed at the Four Seasons Toronto. Upon arrival, we were reminded that the Toronto location is the flagship, and as a result, the service was out of this world. The team attended to our every need and graciously upgraded our room as a kind welcome to Toronto for Caribana. We loved that the hotel is located in Yorkville, an upscale downtown area draped in restaurants and high-end shopping.

Where we ate (and where you should).

What I love about Toronto is the myriad of culinary options. The city's diversity has created a food metropolis. Because our time in the Six was singularly focused, we didn’t do our usual food tour. That said, we made space to enjoy some noteworthy jaunts.

• Cafe Boulod: This Italian fine-dining establishment is located inside the Four Seasons Residences immediately across the street from the hotel. The food was seasonal and fresh. The burrata is directly imported from Puglia, Italy.

Things we did (and you should try too).

As I mentioned before, our time was singularly focused on my playing with Tribal Mas and Mash Majesty. Even with this commitment, we managed to squeeze in a few other activities. Here’s how we spent our time:

• Caribana: Playing mas with Shan and Lauren’s Mash Majesty section as part of the Tribal Mas Band was a gift I didn’t know I needed. Leading up to the weekend’s events, our section spent weeks in conversation via WhatsApp, getting excited, sharing resources, and collectively waiting with bated breath for our moment to cross the stage. If you’ve played mas, you know it’s a week of events: pre-Carnival brunches, dinners, and jouvert fetê. The day of the parade is a marathon experience filled with millions of Caribbean folk and our global kin jumping, whining, and waving flags. To say I had an incredible time is an understatement. I felt the levity of community and the ease of love for my body and all bodies. Never would I have imagined being a 41-year-old woman walking the streets with my glutes bare for onlookers to see, but once you make it to Mas Camp, you realize your body and all bodies are a place of love, rooted in love.

  

  I opted to participate in Caribana solo, trusting my inner wisdom that this would be a moment I needed just for me. I didn’t want to cater to anyone else’s needs. I wanted undiluted fun, and I knew that to have this level of uninhibited fun, I would have to go solo. While there, I met an incredible cadre of men and women who lovingly offered to put on my wings, take pics, buss a whine alongside me, and more.

  

  I will cherish my time and first experience forever. Even as I type this, I’m holding the memories of the music and the smell of the food, the visions of smiling faces and laughter so tightly in my heart.
  

• Four Seasons Spa: You might be wondering if I attended Caribana alone, where my husband was. One of the gifts of marriage is knowing how to co-exist intimately while honoring your partner’s autonomy. I love that my husband enthusiastically supports my independence, and I love that he can roll with our adventures with calm composure. As a gift for his company, I treated my Love to a day at the spa. He had a 90-minute deep tissue massage followed by an afternoon basking in the spa’s amenities.

• Royal Ontario Museum: The final day of our time in Toronto was supposed to be a Carnival Denim Brunch boat ride, but the weather had other plans. As a pivot, M and I spent a rainy day at the Royal Ontario Museum, learning about the impact of the climate crisis on the global ecosystem and the history of dinosaurs.

Now that I’m on the other side of Caribana, I’m sitting with the significance of my experience. I’ve observed that people see Carnival as a moment to wear pretty costumes and dance in the streets. It’s fair to enjoy this aspect of Carnival culture while recognizing that, for people of Caribbean heritage, Carnival is much more. I’m proud to have held this cultural milestone and to have experienced it on the day of Jamaica’s (and 12 other Caribbean nations’) Emancipation Day. Our short time in Toronto will always hold a piece of my heart.

Until next time,

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This year’s constitutional coincided with perfectly sunny days, long walks along Main Street in Amagansett, and delicious meals in our favorite hamlets. If you’ve previously thought of the Hamptons as a destination reserved only for the rich and famous, read on to learn how to plan a trip that works for you.

Where we stayed.

M and I love that summering in the Hamptons means we can bring our dog, Maverick. As such, our preferred hamlet village is Amagansett. Amagansett is situated neatly between East Hampton and Montauk. It’s a beautiful, family-friendly, walkable area home to several dog-friendly bed-and-breakfasts, including our favorite lodging, 434 on Main.

For the last few years, Victor and Cam, the owners of 434 on Main, have made Amagansett feel like our home. Their beautiful B&B boasts a stunning backyard and garden and has several suites to accommodate families with furry friends. Sadly, we learned that this will be the B&B’s last year in operation.

Though we will miss Victor, Cam, and their stunning home, there remain ample options for lodging in Amagansette:

• The Roundtree

• East Hampton Resort

• The Reform Club

• Mill House Inn

Where we ate (and where you should).

The food across the Hamptons is exquisite. In addition to the unmatched coastal gourmand scene, each summer, NYC’s best and brightest chefs set up pop-ups, expanding the food options. Here are a few of our favorite places we ate during this year’s trip:

• Camp Rubirosa (Pop-up in East Hampton): This pop-up, hosted by the Rubirosa team, was a delightful experience. Fashioned after a summer camp experience, the event let patrons dine on delicious Italian cuisine while imbibing spritz flights. The burrata was insanely good.

• LUNCH Lobster Roll (Montauk): A trip to the Hamptons isn’t complete until you’ve had a lobster roll at LUNCH.

• Rosie’s (Amagansett): Rosie’s is our favorite place to walk to from the B&B for a quick cocktail or snacks before progressing

• Doubles (Amagansett): You can take a girl out of the Caribbean, but you can never take the Caribbean out of the girl. If you’re looking for delicious island fare, Doubles has you covered. You must get the chicken and curry roti.

• Bagatelle (Montauk): One of our favorite meals from our most recent trip back out east was a romantic night at Bagatelle Montauk. The space at Gosman’s Dock is designed to evoke the French Riviera. The food and view are worth the expense.

My Hamptons restaurants map is here.

Things we did (and you should try too).

There is an abundance of activities to choose from when spending time in the Hamptons. Whether you time your trip around the historic Hampton’s Polo Match or catch great music at The Stephen Talk House, you won’t ever find yourself lacking in things to do. Here are a few ideas on how we spent our time.

• The beach: We were fortunate to have idyllic weather during our time across the Hamptons. To celebrate sunny skies, we visited East Hampton beach. We used the early-morning hours to let Maverick experience the ocean without crowds, then returned for some solo time. East Hampton beach is the one we opt to visit, but there are plenty to choose from across the hamlets. Here is a full list.

  

• Tennis clinics: The tennis courts and golf courses across the villages are dreamy. I started the morning with an exhilarating and fast-paced tennis clinic at Buckskill Tennis Club in East Hampton. Visitors can purchase a summer membership or buy a day pass.
  

• Sailing to Shelter Island: To further bask in the beautiful weather, M and I decided on a Sunday sail with Elysian Sailing. Captain Josh’s lovely sailing catamaran was equipped with everything we needed for a private sail to Shelter Island. We enjoyed the lovely vistas across the Peconic Bay while sipping mimosas, listening to Olivia Dean, and cuddling with Josh’s cute pup, Skipper. We were grateful that Josh handled our launch ride from Sag Harbor to the catamaran.

• Strolling historic areas: A ritual for our time in the Hamptons is visiting the historic African American neighborhoods across Sag Harbor (the Black Hamptons): Azurest, Ninevah, and Sag Harbor Hills. These neighborhoods are drenched in charm, and their cultural significance continues to humble me.

• Rest: The most important items on our itinerary were rest and connection. This family ritual is something I’ve come to look forward to and use as our time to slow down and reset.

What to know before you go.

• Spotty service: Perhaps this is a reminder to slow down and stay present, but cell service across the villages can be quite spotty. To address inconsistent service, many hamlets offer free public Wi-Fi. Remember to be careful when accessing public wifi. Your information is not encrypted in the same way as it would be using a closed network.

• Know which village and hamlet suits your travel style. Each hamlet offers a different vibe and a host of activities based on what you hope to get from your town out east. We like the family-oriented nature of Amagansett. It’s quiet, charming, and walkable. We also like its proximity to East Hampton and Montauk. Montauk tends to appeal to a younger crowd, while South Hampton and Bridgehampton are for the ultra-wealthy. Pick your hamlet, then build your itinerary.

• Check the parking restrictions and requirements for the beaches. As patrons of 434 on Main, we were given a parking pass (parking is a premium and only available to residents of the villages). If you plan to drive to the beach, be sure you know the village's parking regulations. Parking rules are strictly enforced, especially during the summer peak season.

If you’re looking for a destination with beautiful beaches, great shopping, and vistas that will continuously leave you swooning, consider spending your time in the Hamptons. It’s an experience you won’t forget. I know I never will.

Until next time,

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The past few months have found me deeply present in all spheres of my life: with my beloved husband, M, and our dog Maverick; with my friends and community; with my career; and, most importantly, with myself. As a result, Meet Me In was on hiatus. Now that we’ve crossed the threshold into summer, I’m excited to come back to sharing my latest domestic and international adventures, restaurant reviews, and all the best events across the D.C. and Baltimore areas.

As the nation prepares to celebrate its 250th anniversary, the East Coast is experiencing an unprecedented heatwave, with temperatures in the D.C. area expected to reach 105 F. The usual fireworks schedule is under consideration. If, like me, you want to enjoy the spectacle of a long holiday weekend without navigating the heat and crowds, here’s how you can spend your 4th of July across the D.C. and Baltimore areas:

D.C. (and surrounding areas)

Friday, July 3rd

• Participate in an interactive National Parks Scavenger Hunt at the newly opened National Geographic Museum, 10:00 am - 3:00 pm

• Head to the National Building Museum’s PLAYGROUND exhibit, 10:00 am - 3:00 pm

• Dance the night away at Joe’s Movement, 6:00 pm - 10:00 pm

• Watch World Cup matches at La Coschea, all day

Saturday, July 4th

• Attend a storytelling and craft fair, 10:00 am - 11:00 am

• Join a sing-along at Planet Word, 1:00 pm - 2:30 pm

• Head to an ice cream social, Noon - 3:00 pm

• Spend time on a farm eating, drinking, and watching a fireworks display, 6:00 pm - 10:00 pm

• Watch the national fireworks show from the National Cathedral, 11:30 pm

Baltimore

Friday, July 3rd

• Spend the day at the Fire Museum, 10:00 am - 4:00 pm

• Visit the Douriean Fletcher: Jewelry of the Afrofuture exhibit at the Walter Museum, 10:00 am - 5:00 pm

• See Grammy-award winning MAJOR in concert, 6:00 pm

• See a magic show at the Lord Baltimore Hotel, 8:00 pm - 9:30 pm

• Attend a trans burlesque show with EnTransed, 8:00 pm

Saturday, July 4th

• Take in the 250th anniversary at the B&O, 10:30 am - 3:30 pm

• Attend the Summer Seafood & Bluegrass Festival at Guinness Baltimore, Noon - 4:00 pm

• See Goapele in concert for her Closer album’s 25th anniversary, 6:00 pmP

• Enjoy a silent disco at Point Park, 7:30 pm - 10:30 pm

• Party on the water and watch fireworks at the USS Constellation Deck Party, 8:00 pm - 10:00 pm

No matter how you choose to celebrate this weekend, stay safe and cool.

Until next time,

My husband and I set our hearts on returning to Africa after a three-year hiatus. We needed time to heal after the tragic end of our last visit to the Motherland. Wanting to see more of the continent, we knew West Africa was where we would travel next, though Dakar wasn’t our first option. In a game-time moment of Spirit-driven replanning, we changed our plans from traveling to Ghana to traveling to Senegal. I can say, with full assurance, we have been beautifully reshaped by this decision.

The first order of business when one arrives in Dakar is navigating the complexity of Senegal’s economic infrastructure while walking a tight rope of language barriers. Cash is hard to come by if you’re not adequately prepared. It’s even harder when you don’t speak Wolof and your French is out of practice. We hop in a taxi in hopes of some mercy from an ATM that accepts our bank card. No such luck occurs, and so it is the kindness of our hotel concierge, Ibrahima, that ensures our lengthy ride from the airport into downtown is duly compensated. This is the first cado (gift in Wolof) we will receive. We don’t know it yet, but there will be many, many more. The second comes almost immediately. “You booked a regular room,” Ibrahima says in a broken English that rolls off his tongue in a way that reminds me of my own family’s linguistic patterns. “But, you look tired from your travel. I’ve given you the suite,” Ibrahima continued. M and I looked at each other with tenderness, fatigue, and immense gratitude.

What happens over the next 10 days is a series of serendipitous occurrences, divine winks from the Creator, communal healing, and adventurous happenstances. I hope this travel guide will help you prepare for your trip. More than that, though, I hope this guide will remind you to trust yourself and that it’s okay to trust others a little, too.

Where we stayed.

M and I are sticklers for our creator comforts. When we can, our preferred hotel accommodation is the Four Seasons, making the luxury hotel brand’s hospitality our standard of expectations.

For Dakar, we stayed at The Palms Villa Luxury Boutique Hotel. This newly opened hotel is in the Fann residence of Dakar and is part of the greater Palms hotel brand. Once you arrive at the Palms Villa, you are transported to one of the city’s best-kept secrets. The hotel's entryway is an open-air atrium with checkered tile, lush greenery, and bright red walls, intentionally and tastefully appointed to showcase the vibrancy of Senegal. The hotel line is owned by Souadou Niang, an entrepreneur and hotelier who cut her teeth in hospitality as a housekeeper at the Ritz-Carlton in Tysons Corner, McLean, Va., before opening her own luxury brand.

Unlike The Palms Hotel, which is located in the Almadies Residence just 15 minutes away, The Palms Villa is smaller and more intimate. Our upgraded suite featured a king-sized bed, a mini bar, a private pool, and a jacuzzi. As part of our stay, we were also allotted daily breakfast in the hotel’s restaurant, Noliane Terazza. The entire staff at Palms Villa is as attentive as ever, and their handover communication rivals that of any larger luxury hotel brand. Not a step was missed as M and I shared our requests as we came and went throughout our stay.

Pro tip: Don’t miss the turndown service. Each night, the hotel’s pastry chef prepares decadent confections for guests to enjoy while winding down for the night.

Other hotels for consideration:

• Noom Hotel Dakar Sea Plaza

• The Palms Luxury Boutique (the larger version of the Palms)

• Terro-Bi Resort (Even if you don’t stay at the resort, you can get a day pass for the private beach and pool)

Where we ate (and where you should).

There is no shortage of good food in Dakar. If you’re a Google Maps list person like me, you’ll find that many of the restaurants in Dakar aren’t highly rated. When traveling to Senegal, you must disregard this rating system. We learned that Google Maps isn’t widely used across the country like it is in the West, so the reviews don’t reflect the POV of city dwellers. Many of the travelers who visit Dakar come from Europe and are overly critical of the dining experiences. To enjoy the food in Dakar, you must understand the culture. For example, though a local, mid-tier restaurant may be open at 7:00 pm, it isn’t truly ready to serve until closer to 9:00 pm. The Senegalese eat late. The higher-end restaurants operate under a more traditional structure. Most of the restaurants don’t have websites. You can book reservations using WhatsApp or direct message on Instagram.

Here are some of our favorites from the trip:

• Noliane Terazza: (not to be confused with its fine dining counterpart in The Palms). Go for the veggie lasagna. Stay for the delicious fruity sangria.

• Taiyo Dakar: This is a must for authentic sushi and beautiful ambiance.

• Chez Roger Dibiterie: You can’t visit Senegal without having traditional dibi (grilled meat). At the behest of our newly minted friend Alberto, we visited Chez Roger’s Dibiterie, located in N’gor. The restaurant is small and rustic, but the meats pack a gourmand punch. You must try the viande (lamb or sheep). Do remember to bring wet wipes and hand sanitizer. Dibi is a communal meal eaten with your hands.

• Heritage: The fried and stewed red snapper had me doing a happy dance in my seat.

• Oasis de la Petite Plage: Oasis became a home base for us. Unlike Ngor’s public beach, the Petite Plage on Ngor Island offers a more relaxed and intimate environment.

• Groov Bar: One of our favorite stops of the trip was this sexy speakeasy-esque bar. The drinks were sensational, and the live jazz band was a delight.

Pro-tip: My full list of restaurants is here.

Things we did (and you should try too).

Dakar, a bustling city on the Atlantic Ocean, offers a plethora of activities. I’ve also included options for day trips outside the city.

• Gorée Island: We knew visiting Gorée Island would be both the most necessary and difficult part of our trip. The island is a UNESCO World Heritage site located just off the coast of Dakar, Senegal, that served as a major center for the Atlantic slave trade from the 16th to 19th centuries. We used a tour guide whose family has lived on the island for five generations to walk us through the history of the slave trade, including visiting the House of Slaves. We were moved by the strong community that has developed in the wake of such a tragic history.

  

• The Beach: Our favorite option was lounging at Ngor Island. To get to the island, you’ll need to commute by way of a pirogue (a canoe). The ride is about 5 minutes and is breathtaking.
  

• The Museum of Black Civilizations: Dakar is emerging as an art metropolis with artist workshops, public art exhibits, and installations galore. My husband and I thoroughly enjoyed our time at the Museum of Black Civilizations. The institution takes visitors through a cerebral exploration of humanity told through the lens of Africa and Blackness as the starting point of civilization. The ground floor is didactic, while the upper floor hosts contemporary art exhibitions.
  

• Ceramic class: We took a ceramic class with Ban Workshop to still our minds and use our hands as a meditative practice. The workshop is hosted next door to the Ban cafe (the bissap and olive oil cake are not to be missed), in a beautiful outdoor courtyard. As part of our private class, we were able to make two pottery dishes, one done entirely by hand and the other made on a potter’s wheel.

  

  

• The African Renaissance Monument: A powerful and beautiful monument erected to unify the continent. The piece serves as a visual marker of hope for the Africa that was and what’s to come.

• Glamping: To add variety to our vacation, we decided to go glamping in the Limpopo Desert. The desert, West Africa’s smallest, is a 4-hour drive from Dakar. We stayed at the phenomenal Okaï Desert Resort, an oasis built in the middle of the desert. While there, we got massages, rode camels, participated in a drummers’ circle, and enjoyed decadent Senegalese cuisine. Guests can choose to stay in a traditional tent, bungalow, or desert dome. We opted for the bungalow.

  

• Other activities available:

  • Day trip to Saly: Everyone we encountered raved about Saly

  • Surfing: Senegal has a huge surf community and culture

  • Lion walks and mini safaris: Yes, you can walk with a lion

  • Deep-sea fishing: We really wanted to do this, but were encouraged to consider our appetite for choppy waters. Next time!

  • Shopping: My list of recommended shops (If you visit the markets, bring a guide to help you translate and haggle).

What to know before you go.

• Senegal is largely a cash-driven economy. Bring cash or set up a Wave account. You will need a Senegalese phone number to set up Wave. You can get a number for $3.00.

• The primary languages spoken are French and Wolof. Very little English is spoken across the country. People are kind and patient with those who don’t speak the language, but learning a bit of French and Wolof will go a long way.

• For ride shares, use Heetch or Yango. These are safe and very affordable options for moving about the city. I don’t recommend renting a car on your first visit. The rules of the road are complex and largely driven by cultural understanding rather than laws and signs.

• If you’re traveling to Senegal from the US, you will need “type E” plug adapters.

• Only drink bottled water. We also used bottled water for brushing our teeth.

• It goes without saying, but the people of West Africa should be treated with kindness, respect, and dignity. The world views Africa (especially West Africa) with a narrow, negative lens. This narrow perspective translates to seeing people of the diaspora as inferior and poor. Please leave your preconceived assumptions at home. We learned that kindness and tenderness are worth their weight in gold.

Trusted Vendors.

• Stay Anchored Travel & Group Experience, Curator: Don’t want to plan your trip? Candyce and the team can handle the details for you.

• Blabacar Tours: Babacar and the team took great care of us during our trip to the Lompoul Desert. They offer a myriad of experiences and excursions for your time in Senegal.

• Seneasy: The team at Seneasy handled our tour of Gorée Island, including securing our

As I close out this guide and officially mark the end of this vacation, I’m left with deep gratitude. My heart has been reshaped by our time with the beautiful people of Senegal. I hope that if you choose to visit, you also will be made all the better for your journey.

Until next time,

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What is beautiful and unsettling about Jamaica is how a tiny nation of ~2.8 million residents has such a catalytic cultural impact on the globe while often being seen only as an “island destination.” Jamaica, the land of wood and water, is so much more than a hotspot for quick getaways and beach vacations. Jamaica, the land of Tallawah, is the birthplace of ska and reggae music. Jamaica embodies the vibration of imperial and genocidal resistance. Jamaica is the origin of Rastafarianism, and yes, Jamaica has shared some of the best Caribbean cuisine with the world. Jamaica’s greatest export is the brilliance of its people. Jamaicans' intellectual dexterity is unmatched. I know this land as the place where my family’s navel strings draw from. I hope that after watching today’s interview, you get to know Jamaica a little better, too.

As I continue exploring the meaning of home, I had the honor of sitting down with my dear friend, Kirth Bobb, to discuss growing up as an Afro-Caribbean and finding home in Jamaica and beyond.

You can book your stay at Amelia’s in Treasure Beach, Up at Amelia’s (@AmeliasJamaica). Here are Kirth and my recommendations on must-hit places and experiences during your visit to the island:

• Callaloo Jamaica, Treasure Beach

• Sailing with Captain Dennis, Treasure Beach

• Calabash Literary Festival, Treasure Beach

• Dubwise, Kingston

• The Lost in Time Festival, Kingston

• Stush in the Bush, St. Ann

• Sugar Mill Restaurant, Montego Bay

Until next time,

Can you feel it?

We’re on the brink of spring. Here in the D.C. area, we’re in that transitional space where some days reach the upper 70s, and the next day we’re bounced back to winter temperatures for a tease. This weekend, our clocks spring forward an hour, giving us more sunlight. With everything happening around the world, the extra sunlight will be a welcome break.

Regarding the upcoming time change, I’m updating the Play List to arrive in your inboxes at the beginning of each month. You’ll now get a detailed overview of monthly events. Let’s dive into what’s going on across the region.

D.C. (& surrounding areas)

• Techno Takeover for Phillips After 5, March 5th

• National Museum of Women in the Arts: Aluminate the Night, March 6th

• Washington National Opera: Treemonisha, March 7th

• Embassy of France Carnival Celebration: A Night on the Riviera, March 7th

• National Gallery Nights: Garden Party, March 12th

• Capital Comedy Festival, March 14th

• The Tina Turner Musical, March 20th

• Cherry Blossom Festival Opening Ceremony, March 21st

• Well Read Black Girl Festival, March 27th

• Sakura Sunday, March 29th

Baltimore

• Cyrus Chestnut at Keystone Korner, March 6th

• Baltimore School of the Arts “Expressions,” March 8th

• Matisse at the BMA, starting March 11th

• Why Maryland Matters: Tracing Maryland’s Culinary History, March 14th

• Lena Waithe’s Trinity play, extended to March 15th

• August Wilson’s Fences, through March 15th

• An Afternoon with Percival Everett, March 29th

D.C. (& surrounding areas)

• Small Planes Coffee Tasting, March 6th

• Royal Sushi at Jont, March 8th

• The Falls 5-Course Dinner, March 10th

• Ciel Cherry Blossom Pop Up, March 11th

• Mezcal with Friends, March 22nd

Baltimore

• Culinary Crossroads at Martha, March 9th

• Baltimore Street Food Fest, March 12th

• Taste and Tour, March 18th

• The Best Restaurants, March 19th

• Beer, Bourbon, and BBQ, March 28th

Until next time,

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After awkward stares from Isla’s maitre d when I mentioned not having a reservation, I was invited to have a cocktail at the restaurant’s sister lounge, GoodLove.

GoodLove is a lush, ambient lounge with moody decor. While cosmopolitan, the lounge is not a space that takes itself too seriously. GoodLove is intimate with a concise drink and snacks menu. It’s the kind of space you start or end your progressive night. GoodLove is where you go for slow conversations, dripped with the bombast of old-school music spun by the resident DJ.

My friend and I sipped on margaritas while devouring the chef-prepared plantain chips, oysters, and wagyu oxtail patties. The drinks were satisfying enough. If you’re hungry, I don’t recommend beginning your night here. The bites are intentionally small and designed to keep the experience lounge-focused.

All in all, GoodLove is for someone who wants a night that is a bit nostalgic with a dash of midcentury opulence.

• Price: $$$ (out of $$$$$)

• Location and parking: Difficult during peak nights (Thursday, Friday, and Saturday)

• Best dish: The oysters (they pack an unexpected spicy punch)

• Do: Get dressed up and arrive in time for the DJ set

• Don’t: Go hungry

• Ideal patronage: Date night, girls’/guys’ night out

Until next time,

D.C. (& surrounding areas)

• Africa, With Love, National Museum of African Art, February 13th

• Love Jones Trivia Night, Haven, February 13th

• Galentine’s Day Craft Party, Metro Bar, February 13th

• A Weaving Workshop, Femme Fatal, February 14th

• Candle Light Concert, February 14th

• Leon Lewis art showcase at Ron David Studio, February 14th

• Couples Tennis Date Night, JTCC, February 14th

• Flora Tonic sensory floral making workshop, Hotel Nell, February 14th and 15th

• Mardi Gras on H Street, February 15th

• Mardi Gras on the Warf, February 15th

Baltimore

• August Wilson’s Fences, Chesapeake Shakespeare Company, through March 15th

• Journal Making, Art Easy, February 13th

• Cupid’s Lab, Maryland Science Center, February 14th

• A Date with John Waters, Baltimore Sound Stage, February 14th

• Valentine’s Day Classic Soul, Lyric House, February 14th

• Flights of Fancy, Dark Circus Arts, February 14th

• Nevermore, My Valentine: a tour of Edgar Allen Poe’s Baltimore, February 14th

• Rent in Concert, Baltimore Symphony Orchestra, February 14th

• Voices in Solidarity: Baltimore’s Black and Jewish Operatic History, the Lewis Museum, February 14th

D.C. (& surrounding areas)

• Ciel Social Club Galentine’s Day Bash, February 13th

• NoBu Valentine’s Day Omakase, February 13th

• ART DC Social Dining experience, Arlo DC, February 14th

• Valentine’s Day cooking classes at Cookology, February 14th and 15th

• Mardi Gras at Dauphine’s, February 15

Baltimore

• 22nd Annual Belgian Beer Fest, Max’s Taphouse, February 13th

• Galentine’s Day Pajamas and Prosecco, February 13th

• Valentine’s Dinner in the Four Seasons Winter Village, February 14th

• Valentine’s Day city dinner cruise, February 14th

• Maple Syrup-Making, Ladew Gardens, February 14th and 15th

Until next time,

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Many know New York as the concrete jungle — the city of grit and unyielding intensity. I know the city as an amalgamation of culture, community, and care. When I think about the constellation of who I am — an Afro/Indo-Caribbean woman, a bon vivant, an intellectual, a writer, a traveler, a lover (and fighter), a hotel and food snob — I think about how growing up in New York shaped me.

A city so vast needs more than one post to navigate, so to orient us, I’m sharing the experience of my last visit back to the city that birthed and shaped me with an intentional focus on Harlem. Earlier this year, I headed back to New York to visit art exhibits on my must-hit list. My art tour began with the recently reopened Studio Museum in Harlem. The museum was a creative feast. From works by Derrick Adams, Nick Cave, Samuel Fosso, Theaster Gates, Cy Gavin, Arthur Jafa, Julie Mehretu to Martin Puryear, Augusta Savage, and Tschabalala Self, the artist space was rich with historical reverence and aspiration for the future.

The museum’s presence in Harlem is critical. For more than 20 years, Harlem has been at the center of gentrification, with its historically Black context continually under threat of erasure. Having a bastion of Black art on one of the neighborhood's most popular avenues is a signal and reminder of Black Harlemites’ continued push for dignity and respect.

If you’re curious about how to make the most of your next trip to New York, a stop in Harlem is a must. Here’s how to spend your time.

Where to stay in Harlem:

• Renaissance New York Harlem Hotel

• The Harlem Flophouse

• Aloft Harlem

Things to do:

• Visit Marcus Garvey Park for live performances

• Check out art at the Studio Museum in Harlem or

• Flip through books and archives at the Schomburg Center for Research in Black Culture

• Take in a show at the famed Apollo Theatre

• Go to Bill’s Jazz Place for live jazz

• Indulge in a heritage walking tour

Where to eat:

• Red Rooster Harlem

• Sylvia’s

• The Victoria

• The Good Good Cocktail Bar & Bistro

• Bixi Harlem

• Field Trip

• Melba’s

• Enoteca

Until next time,

D.C. (& surrounding areas)

• Interactive Echo Chamber exhibition opening, February 7

• She Speaks: Black Women Artists and the Power of Historical Memory opening, February 7

• Alvin Ailey at the Warner Theatre, February 6 - February 8

• Still We Rise BHM concert, February 8

• Big Things for Big Rooms at the Hirshhorn, February 6

• NMAAHC’s “At the Vanguard” exhibit, January 16 - July 19

• The Premier of John Doe at the Keegan Theatre, through February 22

• Chez Joey at the Arena Stage, through March 15

• How Can You Forget Me: Filipino American Stories at the National Museum of American History

• Tasting Menu by Chef Amy Brandwein, February 6

• Girl Scout Cookie & Beer Tasting, February 7

• Love Notes Jazz Brunch, February 7

• Knife Technique at La Cosecha, February 7

• Hands-on Workshop: Evergreen Needle Goodies & Cocktails, February 8

• Crêpe Days: Celebrate La Chandeleur!, February 7-8

Have fun playing this weekend!

Until next time,

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I don’t share this story often. The details are too painful to talk about, and I struggle with the shame of losing my father twice. But I’m sharing now because if you’re reading this from anywhere in the states, I know the very real fear, frustration, and anxiety you’re likely holding. I’m sharing this sacred vulnerability because I need you to know that, whether you’re undocumented, naturalized to the states, first-generation, or a born citizen, you’re not alone.

The polycrisis we’re witnessing across the nation — what is potent in LA, DC, and Minnesota — is rooted in an extractive and brutal history. It’s a history that says anyone who doesn’t align with white supremacy is expendable. And the heaviness of this reality is palpable. In fact, those who work in the spirit of oppressing others want you to feel heavy. They want you to believe things are hopeless and that you are despondent. I recently learned from watching HBO Max’s Welcome to Derry that Pennywise was fueled by fear. The fear nourished him, and so he intentionally stoked circumstances to create trepidation. So it is with the current powers that be.

I wish I could tell you that the tide will turn soon. I wish I could tell you that things, in the near term, are going to get easier. The reality is that we might not see the horizon for some time. What I do know with 100% certainty is that beautiful things are born in darkness. The formation of a baby in the darkness of the womb. The development of a butterfly manifests in the imaginal cells of a chrysalis. The germination of a seed in the shadow of the soil. The abstraction of light gives us the opportunity to dream. And so, now is our time. We are both the womb and the baby; the chrysalis and the butterfly, the soil and the seed. What is the world you want to imagine? What is the world you want to create? Believe that world is possible, then work doggedly to make it so. And if that’s too much to hold in this moment, I will posit a question Adrienne Maree Brown asks: “What would love have you do today?”

If all you have the energy for today is one act of love, what will it be?

As you consider this question, take care of yourself. We have a long road ahead of us. The people doing the good work (you, me, us) need to be intellectually, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically nourished to sojourn. Know that there are many fighting a noble fight. Friends, neighbors, fellow countrymen and women who want to hold this so-called America to account for her espoused freedoms. We stand in this together. Let that be enough for today. Your daily bread. Ashé.

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To end 2025 and welcome 2026, M and I continued a tradition he and his parents had practiced after Christmas. After opening presents and enjoying the festivities, they would head to a ski resort for winter activities. We followed the same routine. If you're curious about experiencing French Canada, keep reading and check out our itinerary.

• Where we stayed: Our trip to Mont-Tremblant was bookended by stints in Montreal. For our time in Montreal, we stayed at the Four Seasons Montreal. The Four Seasons’ reputation precedes itself, and the Montreal location lends well to the hotel brand’s luxury accommodations. The team made us feel as if we were the only guests in the hotel — even during a busy holiday season. They even went so far as opening the spa early so I could purchase the hotel’s signature candle and diffuser. The hotel is centrally located and connected to a wonderful mall with all the luxury shopping your closet and wallet can handle: Louis Vuitton, Chanel, Hermès, etc.

  
  For our time in Mont Tremblant, we rented a gorgeous, tucked-away cabin called the Kabinhaus. The Scandinavian-style accommodation was perfect for our getaway intentions. The space was beautifully designed and filled with everything we needed to make our time outdoors amenable. Our cabin hosts were incredibly kind and communicative.

• Where we ate: It’s been more than 20 years since my last visit to Quebec; I don’t recall having a fondness experience with the food. As such, we were worried that Quebec would have limited food options. Larger metropolitan areas in Canada, like Toronto, are well-known for their diverse options. We had apprehensions about a smaller town like Tremblant. Thankfully, we were met with an abundance of options. St. Jovite Street was flanked by cute eateries, coffee shops, and the kind of restaurants that leave a lasting impression. Here are a few of our favorites:

  • Ekki Sushi: Ekki Sushi sits high on a hill in a cute ski resort. Once we stepped into the restaurant, we felt as if we had been transported to Tokyo. The sushi was fresh and flavorful. The salmon belly rolls were a standout.

  • Charlotte Cafe: (Les Charlottes): We had a delightful New Year’s Day brunch at Charlotte. The orange juice used in my mimosa was the freshest orange juice I’ve had in some time.

  • Cafe Bouffe: We visited this coffee shop so much that they memorized our orders. A delightful team, incredible matcha, and a lovely atmosphere.

    Steal my full restaurant list for Mont-Tremblant here.

Things we did: Our goals for our time in Montreal and Mont-Tremblant were twofold—get on the slopes and make time for connection. We achieved those goals and more. Here’s what we did:

• Despite -12-degree weather, I enjoyed skiing immensely. We divided our time between two mountains: night skiing at Sommet Saint-Sauveur and daily runs at Mont-Tremblant. The latter is more impressive and boasts one of the best ski villages I’ve seen, genuinely resembling a European ski village.

• Pilates: To know me is to know I will find a Pilates studio anywhere in the world. I booked a lovely barrel-and-chair class with the kind folks at MTL Pilates in Montreal.
  

• Spa day: To decompress after skiing, we had a couples massage at Scandinave, a Nordic spa with a plethora of hot springs, relaxation rooms, and other detox treatments.

• Vintage Shopping: Montreal was home to well-stocked vintage stores. I found the loveliest New England-style knitted rugby in La Caravane on a walk from Little Portugal.

If Quebec isn’t already on your travel list, I suggest including it. It offers excellent outdoor activities, a vibrant dining scene, and great value for your money (especially with the favorable US dollar exchange rate), ensuring you’ll have an amazing experience.

Until next time,

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Needless to say, November is a month of tenderness. Despite the ups and downs we faced, we stayed committed to celebrating. For us, this meant finally visiting the long-anticipated Old Westminster Winery.

I discovered the Old Westminster Winery after its sister location, Burnt Hill Farm, went viral on Instagram. When I couldn’t secure a reservation at Burnt Hill, M and I chose the alternative. We’re actually better off for the inconvenience. Old Westminster Winery has the welcoming charm of a family’s farmhouse combined with a modern Nordic aesthetic. This contrast is intentional. The siblings who own and run the winery were inspired by their mother’s homestead upbringing and the cosmopolitan backdrop of Washington, D.C., which is less than 40 miles away from the venue.

On our date, we approached the winery, and it was as if we had teleported from Maryland to a small town in the French countryside. The hills rolled, and signs pointing to grape vineyards came into view. The day was brisk, but the winery was prepared. With cabanas flanking the property, guests could enjoy the beautiful landscape in warmth and comfort. The cabanas are popular among visitors. If you want to experience them, reservations made two months in advance are strongly recommended.

M and I were seated on the enclosed and heated patio. To start our experience, we were gifted two glasses of the winery’s newest Pinot Grigio, a honey-based white wine. We then ordered a delicious meat-and-cheese platter, with all produce sourced locally from neighboring farms and Old Westminster’s sister location.

For our drinks, M chose the Hill Top Road, a delicate red blend, and the Rev 10th Edition, a dry Cab Franc. I ordered a glass or two of the spiced red wine sangria. Our main dish was the winery’s pepperoni and hot honey wood-fired pizza. While the menu is streamlined and centered on wood-fired pizzas and signature drinks, every option feels purposeful, and we thoroughly enjoyed ours. The wines produced at Old Westminster are intentionally crafted with the Mid-Atlantic region in mind. The notes included in each bottle reflect the scents and sounds of central Maryland’s lush landscapes, making a visit to the tasting room worth the trip.

If you’re in the DMV area and want a winery without the long drive of Virginia’s wine country, Old Westminster Winery is a great choice. It’s perfect for a fun day trip with close friends and family or a quiet, romantic moment with your partner.

• Price: $$$ (out of $$$$)

• Location and parking: An accessible parking lot with ample spaces. There is a slight walk to the winery. Wear comfortable shoes.

• Best dish: The pepperoni and hot honey pizza.

• Do: Try the spiced red wine sangria.

• Don’t: Forget your camera.

  Until next time,

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If you’ve followed me for a while, you already know pilates is my love language. After 12 years pounding the pavement as a distance runner, my body and spirit craved something different. For the last five years, pilates has been the practice that grounds me, strengthens me, and helps me breathe a little deeper. So when I discovered that pilates retreats existed—set in gorgeous destinations around the world—I tucked that dream into my heart, waiting for the right time to say yes.

Enter Micki Phit. Micki Price Harvard has been teaching pilates for over 20 years, and her work in the classical repertoire is nothing short of inspiring. But for me, it wasn’t just about attending any retreat. I wanted to learn, grow, and be challenged by someone I deeply admire and who also reflects me. Micki, a brilliant Black woman whose career I’ve followed since the start of my own pilates journey, was that person. So when she announced her annual Micki Phit Method retreat in Algarve, I didn’t hesitate to register. If you’ve ever been curious about what a week of movement, mindfulness, and seaside wellness feels like, let me take you there.

• Where I stayed: The selected accommodations were at the W Algarve. The newly opened luxury lodging is situated in the newly developed area of Albueferia, a beach town in the Algarve region. The hotel, which operates as a small resort, is beautifully constructed and centrally located, allowing guests to walk to nearby restaurants and several beach options.

• Where I ate: If you’ve been to Portugal, you know the food scene is ripe with opportunities for exploration. The W hosted a bevy of excellent restaurants, and I made time to visit others outside the resort grounds. Here are a few of my favorites.

  • Paper Moon: Delicious Italian cuisine offered on the roof of the W. The sunset view was dreamy.

  • Olive Restaurant Bistro and Gastro Bar: I ate so much at this delightful jaunt that the manager asked me how I manage to stay so slim. The tapas were inventive and flavorful. The hospitality was even better.

  • Odessa Sushi: I’ll admit going to Portugal and eating sushi was a risk, but I’m thankful for my curious appetite. Odessa delivered a solid Omakase experience. It’s a crowd favorite for those in the southern part of the region.

• Things I Did: The main reason I came to Portugal was for a pilates retreat, and it did not disappoint. Micki put together an incredible week of twice-daily sessions, everything from gentle restorative stretches to high-energy strength pilates. By the end, I could feel how much stronger my practice had become, and let’s just say my body was showing the results too (yes, the booty gains were real). Outside of class, I filled my days with plenty of local adventures, which made the whole experience

  richer.

  • Rowing on the Atlantic Ocean / Benagil Caves: To my surprise, this ended up being one of the highlights of my trip. I’ve taken up rowing in recent years, though I’m not an expert by any means, but I enjoy being out on the water. So when I heard about the Benagil Caves, one of the Algarve’s most famous attractions, I knew I had to see them for myself. The paddle was only about five miles, but every moment felt rich with beauty and history. These caves were formed over 250 million years ago, and drifting through them was like stepping into another world. It’s the kind of experience that stays with you long after the water has stilled.
    

  • Surfing with Surf4Fun: If you had told me ten years ago that I’d become a “surf babe,” I would have laughed it off. But ever since picking up surfing in Cape Town, I’ve grown to love the challenge of moving with the ocean and finding that rhythm on the waves. Surfing in Albufeira struck the perfect balance of excitement and ease. The waves were moderate, just right for practice while I’m still very much a novice, but enough to give me that little hit of adrenaline that keeps me coming back for more.

  

  • Lounging on the beach: Albufeira is spoiled for choice when it comes to beaches. The W offered its own private beach club with all the luxury touches you’d expect, perfect for days when I wanted to indulge a little. For a more laid-back vibe, there were three other beaches just steps away, each with its own charm and plenty of room to relax and soak in the Algarve sun.

I’m deeply grateful that, in a time of turmoil, uncertainty, and chaos, I was able to step away and give myself the gift of nourishment, rest, and presence. This solo trip, anchored by the pilates retreat, left me with memories of Albufeira that I know I’ll return to again and again. Between the sunlit beaches, the adventure on the water, and the grounding moments of movement, Albufeira became more than just a destination; it became a reminder of how travel can restore both body and soul.

Until next time,

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My maternal grandparents were serial entrepreneurs who amassed their wealth through the hospitality and real estate industries. My grandmother, Sadie, was an intrepid businesswoman who had a keen intuition for creating and building. From bed and breakfasts to bars and restaurants, there was nothing Sadie couldn’t do. And my grandfather, well, he was a man, and the strength of his gender allowed him to walk through doors otherwise inaccessible to Sadie.

My maternal grandparents’ doggedness led them from the small but mighty island of Jamaica to the United Kingdom, where they would expand their endeavors while raising their only daughter. Some would say my mother lived a charmed life: attending London’s best boarding schools, riding horses, and working alongside Sadie, who was known for exacting standards in her entrepreneurial pursuits. Linens at the bed and breakfast were to be crisp, and the cutlery so clean you could perform surgery. My mother’s bed-making skills remain with me as I manage my own home.

My father’s parents, a mixed-race couple in Jamaica, were working class yet managed to purchase homes throughout Westmoreland and the outer parishes of Kingston. They were bootstrappers who raised their children to value hard work, a quality education, and remember the blessing of family. My father studied at some of Jamaica’s most prestigious schools and set his sights on coming to America to train as a physicist. My father and his siblings would each have children who would strengthen our family’s legacy by going on to become business owners, surgeons, researchers, and, in my case, an executive leader.

On each side of my family tree, there are remnants of the sort of upward mobility that would lend itself to monthly stints in exotic beach towns. But there is something that can happen when you are the progeny of immigrants.

My parents' respective journeys led them down different paths from their humble beginnings, marked by noble aspirations. My maternal grandmother’s fortunes were gradually lost through my grandfather’s loose hands, leaving my mother’s dreams of becoming a Juilliard-trained ballerina on a tightrope (she was later accepted but did not attend). And my father, a Black genius, found that life in America was very difficult for a Rastafarian, Jamaican with an ungovernable disposition and heavy accent.

The unwinding trajectory of my parents' story meant I grew up poor, but I didn’t come from poverty. Still, even with stretched means, my family, along with our fictive aunts and uncles in Brooklyn, made sure that each year we children could summer. We spent the sticky months of June -August back down ah yaad. The sweet smell of mangoes ripening on my grandmother’s tree and the translucent Atlantic Ocean were the backdrop to my youthful summer aughts. Community pardnas (or susus) meant my brother and I saw other countries beyond our beloved borough, but there were some spaces we hadn’t learned about.

The first time I heard of Martha’s Vineyard, specifically Oak Bluffs, was from the movie Ink Well. I vividly recall relating to the character of Drew, played by Larenz Tate. Drew’s sojourn to the Vineyard and the tension he felt living between two worlds felt prescient. A little more than three decades after watching the Ink Well, I would find myself in Oak Bluffs for two consecutive years. During my visits to the Vineyard, I’ve come to appreciate the historical depth and resonance for Black Americans, as well as the community connection that is immediately felt when setting foot on the island. I understand the sacredness of Martha’s Vineyard and specifically, Oak Bluffs.

The roots of this sacred space trace back to the 1600s, when people of African descent first arrived as enslaved West Africans working on European settlers' farms in Oak Bluffs, Massachusetts. By the late 1800s, freed slaves and laborers were drawn to Oak Bluffs harbor, where white locals sold them land. Charles Shearer, the son of an enslaved woman and her white owner, established a pivotal legacy when he and his wife Henrietta converted their laundry business into Shearer Cottage in 1912, the first inn catering specifically to Black vacationers.

During the early 20th century, Oak Bluffs became a refuge for middle-class Black families seeking reprieve from segregation and discrimination. This charming town continues to serve as a gathering spot for Black luminaries, politicians, and civil rights leaders, creating a tradition that continues today—a place where the African American community could vacation with dignity, build generational wealth through property ownership, and establish a cultural haven that has endured for more than a century.

This past August, walking the tree-lined streets of Oak Bluffs, I was struck by how familiar the rhythm felt, not unlike those sticky summer months when my brother and I would escape Brooklyn's concrete for the sweet abundance of my grandmother's mango tree and Jamaica's abundant sunshine. Both spaces offered something precious: the luxury of belonging without explanation. In Jamaica, we were simply grandchildren coming home. In Oak Bluffs, I witnessed that same ease in the faces of families who've been summering here for generations—children running freely between the gingerbread cottages, elders holding court on wraparound porches, everyone existing in their whole selves without the exhausting code-switching that marks so much of Black American life.

My parents and our extended community understood something profound when they pooled resources through community pardnas to ensure we children could summer somewhere that nurtured us. They were creating what Oak Bluffs has provided for over a century: dignified leisure. Not charity vacations or spaces where we were tolerated, but places where Black joy could flourish unguarded. Jamaica gave me my first taste of that freedom—the knowledge that summer could mean more than surviving city heat, that it could mean restoration, community, cultural immersion. Oak Bluffs feels like the American manifestation of that same intentionality, a place carved out by and for people who understood that our rest, our joy, and our gathering together were not just personal luxuries but political necessities.

Here are some of my favorite moments from my most recent trip.

• Where I stayed: If you’ve heard anyone talk about spending time on the Vineyard in August, then you’ve likely heard how difficult it is to find lodging. By some luck, I was able to book a room at the Dockside Inn. The hotel is centrally located in Oak Bluffs, surrounded by restaurants and all the amenities that make the city so charming. If you’re looking for a luxurious stay, consider renting a home. The Dockside Inn has everything you need for a relaxing, low-key stint on the island.

• Where we ate: Admittedly, the food scene in Oak Bluffs is my least favorite aspect of being on the Vineyard. For a coastal town, I’m shocked at how limiting the quality of food can be. That said, there are a few places that are must-haves while there.

  • Aalia’s Cafe (for the best breakfast sandwiches and coffee on Martha’s Vineyard)

  • Nancy’s (for great people watching and no frills seafood)

  • Donovan’s Reef (for incredible drinks — Donovan is a fellow Yardie)

• Things I Did: Many have said, and I’ll reinforce it here, Martha’s Vineyard is not a “turn up” destination, but that doesn’t mean the vibes aren’t immaculate. As the island has grown in popularity, there has been a surge in brand activations and big-ticketed events like Culture House and the African American Film Festival.

  • Bike rides: As with every trip, I couldn’t help but hop on a bike to get around the island. Renting a bike on the Vineyard is a straightforward and affordable option for exploring the most popular spots across Oak Bluffs and the surrounding neighborhoods.

  • Tennis clinics: For the last two years, Black Girls Tennis Club has hosted a tennis clinic in August, bringing together players of all skill levels for coaching, community, and celebration on the courts.

  • Polar Bear Plunge: The daily 7:00 am ritual throughout August, where dedicated swimmers brave the morning waters, an invigorating start to each day that builds both community and courage among the early risers who gather at the beach.

  • Wednesday Night at Noman’s: The weekly gathering spot where live music, good food, and familiar faces create that effortless sense of belonging that makes Oak Bluffs feel like an extended family reunion every summer evening.

Until next time,

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Back then, travel planning wasn’t curated by influencers or algorithms. It was the recommendations of magazine pages and instinct that led devoted travelers to select our newest destinations. I discovered the sparkle of the French Riviera through Vogue’s dreamy editorials that made St. Tropez shimmer and Monaco feel like a secret worth chasing.

Equipped with the knowledge I gained from Vogue’s editors I spent my days hopping between the French Riviera’s coastal towns. Cannes felt cinematic, Monaco was opulent, and St. Tropez hummed with a kind of slow glamour. At the time, Nice was just a station on the way. I had previously overlooked it but 15 years later, we would meet again.

M has long yearned for a vacation defined by pure idleness, where doing nothing was not just permitted but celebrated. Ever one to rise to a challenge, I proposed that if we were to surrender fully to leisure, we ought to do so in the most refined manner possible: the French way — laissez-faire, if you will. And so, with that philosophy as our compass, our holiday to the South of France was set in motion.

As summering in Europe has grown in popularity, destinations like Cannes, St. Tropez and Monaco are hotbeds for tourists. We landed on making Nice our homebase with plans to visit the surrounding cities. Nice didn’t disappoint. The accomodations were more affordable, the restaurants were incredibly diverse, and the beaches were pristine. This return to the French Riviera delivered everything we needed and more.

• Time of year we traveled: For our international travel, we typically opt for the shoulder season to take advantage of lower costs and fewer crowds. However, with increasingly unpredictable weather patterns, we chose to visit Nice during the peak season this year to ensure ample beach time. July and August in the South of France are typically hot, perfect for sunbathing along the Mediterranean and swimming in its clear, turquoise waters. Ironically, we arrived during an unexpected cold front. As it turned out, the cooler temperatures were a welcome surprise: the days still reached a comfortable 81°F, while the evenings offered a refreshing coolness for long walks and bike rides across the city.

• Where we stayed: Accommodations in the South of France during peak season are notoriously expensive, often starting at $1,000+ per night. Since this wouldn’t be our primary international trip of the year, we aimed to be more conscious of our lodging costs. Ultimately, we chose to rent a charming apartment in the heart of Nice. While we typically prefer hotels for the convenience of their amenities, staying in a flat offered a more grounded, residential experience. Our host was exceptional: warm, attentive, and full of invaluable local insights that enriched our time in the city.

• Where we ate: One of the most surprising, and delightful, aspects of Nice was the remarkable diversity of its culinary offerings. From casual cafés to refined dining experiences, the city presented no shortage of exceptional cuisine. Below are a few of our favorite culinary highlights from our time in Nice:

  • Tiger Milk (for Latin fusion)

  • Bocca Nissa (for great rooftop vibes)

  • Onakaya (for incredible Omakase)

  • La Voglia (for beautiful dining on the water)

• Things We Did: Though our primary objective for this vacation was to rest, we still managed to fit in a few fun activities to give our time away a good balance between leisure and fun.

  • Bike rides: As with every trip, we made sure to ride bikes across the city. Not only is this a effecient way of commuting, it was idllyic for seeing the breadth of the city. Lime bikes were widely available and easy to reserve using the Uber app.
    

  • Boating on the Mediterrenean: One cannot visit the French Riviera without spending a day boating on the Mediterrerenean. We spent an entire afternoon on the waters surrounding Lerins Islands listening to old school reggae, dining on food from floating restaurants and lavishing in the sun. Our skipper, Paulo, of LeoBoat was the consumate professional.

  • Staycation at Grand-Hotel du Cap-Ferrat, A Four Seasons Hotel: I hate to admit it, but M and I devoted to the Four Seasons brand. We have quietly been keep tracking of the number of hotels we’ve visted across the globe. Once we saw there was a Four Seasons in the South of France, we knew we had to visit. And so, we decided to do a staycation. The hotel is massive and beautiful, boasting an infinity pool that sits adjacent to the sea. Be warned, this accomodation comes with a hefty price tag. In hindsight, given the price (and the less than ideal service) we would have opted for a different experience but it was nonetheless lovely.

  • Nice Jazz Festival: While cycling to the beach, we happened upon the stage preparations for the renowned Nice Jazz Festival. A quick glance at the lineup made it clear we couldn’t leave without experiencing it for ourselves. I'm incredibly grateful for the serendipitous turn of events that led us there, as we had the unforgettable opportunity to close out the festival’s second night with a set by DJ Mustard. If you're planning a visit to the French Riviera, I highly recommend aligning your trip with the festival. The performances were refreshingly diverse, offering a dynamic blend of genres that catered to a wide range of musical tastes. The 2026 early bird tickets are currently on sale.

  • Lounged at beach clubs: We spent memorable afternoons at both Le Galet and Le Negresco beach clubs. Le Galet offered a laid-back yet stylish vibe, perfect for lounging by the sea with a glass of rosé in hand. Le Negresco, on the other hand, exuded timeless elegance, with elevated service and a front-row view of the Riviera’s iconic charm. Each spot delivered its own unique take on coastal luxury. If neither are your taste, Cote d’Azur offers a hosts of private beach clubs as well as public sea access.

  • Visit Musee Matisse: We spent an afternoon exploring the Musée Matisse, a museum dedicated to one of my favorite artists, Henri Matisse. Nestled in the serene Cimiez neighborhood, the collection offered an intimate look at his vibrant works, personal artifacts, and creative evolution. It’s not mandatory to visit the museum, but if you’re in Nice and looking for different ways to fill your time, it might be worth the visit.

I’m pleased to share that our leisurely vacation was a success and even more so to have experienced the full depth and breadth of Nice. From sun-soaked afternoons at beach clubs to spontaneous cultural moments like the Jazz Festival and a visit to the Matisse Museum, every day offered a balance of relaxation and discovery. Nice revealed itself as more than just a coastal escape; it was a vibrant tapestry of art, cuisine, history, and effortless beauty.

Until next time,

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It was November 2020, and M and I were just one year into our marriage, newlyweds navigating not only the early days of our union but also doing so during a world turned upside down. At the height of the COVID-19 pandemic lockdowns, our lives, like so many others', had been narrowed to a routine of homebound days, masked grocery runs, and endless Zoom calls. We had dreamed of something grand and unforgettable to mark our first anniversary: an adventure across the African continent, capped off with a romantic, luxury safari. It was to be the kind of trip that sets the tone for a lifetime of shared wanderlust. But you know how the saying goes: “We make plans and God laughs.”

International travel was all but impossible. Borders were closed, flights were canceled, and protecting our health was the top priority. As such, our carefully curated itinerary was tucked away (in the years to come, we made our way to South Africa).

Still, we were determined to honor our anniversary with something that allowed us to break free from the monotony of quarantine life and create new memories, even if we had to stay close to home. After a bit of research into pandemic-safe getaways within driving distance of D.C., we stumbled upon a hidden gem: the Iris Inn.

Nestled in the heart of Virginia’s Blue Ridge Mountains, the Iris Inn is a secluded 19-acre retreat designed for travelers craving a mix of natural beauty and refined comfort. It offered exactly what we were looking for: seclusion and the right amount of luxury to make the occasion feel like a true celebration. We booked one of their unique “treehouse” cabins, which promised floor-to-ceiling views of the forest, cozy modern interiors, and a feeling of being suspended in nature without sacrificing comfort. Each unit was spaced generously apart, making it easy to maintain social distancing without feeling isolated.

In the hush of the mountains, the uncertainty of the outside world faded into the background as we spent our days hiking scenic trails, sipping wine on our private deck, nestled in the hot tub, and warming ourselves by the fire at night.

The time of year we traveled: To celebrate our anniversary, we planned the trip for November. The 2.5-hour drive to the Blue Ridge Mountains was a scenic escape in itself, with winding roads lined by trees ablaze in shades of red, orange, and gold. The crisp autumn air and breathtaking foliage made the journey feel almost magical, a perfect prelude to the peaceful retreat that awaited us.

Where we ate: With social distancing in place, dining options were limited, but the Iris Inn made it seamless. They arranged delicious, locally sourced meals—crafted from Shenandoah Valley farms—that were delivered right to our treehouse, allowing us to dine in comfort and privacy.

Things we did: Knowing activities were limited, we decided to get creative and find ways to be outdoors while practicing social distancing. In addition to spending our days lounging and relaxing, here are a few activities we enjoyed:

• Vineyard Trail Ride with Indian Summer Guide Service

• Wine tasting and dining at Veritas Vineyards

• Hiking trails in Shenandoah Valley

Though our activities were limited, the number of things to do in Shenandoah Valley is boundless.

Our first wedding anniversary didn’t unfold the way we had initially envisioned. There was no passport stamp, no sweeping views of the Serengeti, no candlelit dinners under African skies. But what we did find, tucked away in the quiet corners of the Blue Ridge Mountains, was something just as meaningful. We found stillness. We found joy in simplicity. And we found a deepened appreciation for each other and the life we were building together.

That weekend at the Iris Inn reminded us that love doesn’t require big moments to be felt fully. Sometimes, it’s in the quiet hikes, the clink of glasses on a chilly night, or the shared silence of a morning wrapped in mist and trees. It was the reset we didn’t know we needed, and even now, it stands as one of our most treasured chapters.

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M and I ritualistically attend the U.S. Open and get smarter about our strategy for attending. From choosing the right sessions to navigating the grounds with ease (and style), it’s become one of our favorite annual experiences. Each year, we refine the playbook, figuring out the best entrances, where to sip a Honey Deuce without the crowds, and how to balance world-class tennis with luxury-level comfort. What started as a fun end-of-summer outing has turned into a bit of a tradition.

In this guide, I’m sharing everything we’ve learned over the years so you can experience the U.S. Open the way it was meant to be: seamlessly, stylishly, energy-filled, and uniquely New York.

This Year’s Tournament Dates

The 2025 U.S. Open runs Monday, August 25 – Sunday, September 7 at the USTA Billie Jean King National Tennis Center in Flushing Meadows, Queens.

Knowing What Ticket to Buy

The ticket you purchase shapes the entire experience of the Open. I often encourage people to wait until the tournament advances before grabbing tickets, especially if there is an expectation to see specific players. That said, as the Open’s popularity and ticket prices increase, knowing how you want to experience the tournament will help with ticket selection.

Arthur Ashe Stadium Tickets: Arthur Ashe Stadium is the crown jewel of the tournament. Big-ticket matches are usually played in Ashe. Day and night session tickets give you:

• A reserved seat in Arthur Ashe, where the biggest matches happen.

• Access to all outer courts and Louis Armstrong Stadium (first-come, first-served seating).

Pro Tip: The day and night tickets have different time entry requirements. While a day ticket grants seating for all the morning and afternoon sessions, you will not be able to use a day ticket to see the night matches. In my experience, the bigger matches happen at night, so if your goal is to catch a big game, opt for a night ticket in Ashe.

Louis Armstrong Stadium Tickets: Armstrong Stadium is smaller, more intimate, and still full of high-level tennis, especially during the early rounds. Your seat here is reserved, and you can also access:

• General admission to all outer courts

• Grounds access to explore the venue

Opting for a ticket in Armstrong Stadium is an excellent balance between cost and quality, especially if you’re a serious tennis fan who wants to catch future stars.

Grounds Pass: Grabbing a Grounds Pass is the most cost-effective way to experience the Open and see a lot of tennis. You’ll have:

• Open seating at Armstrong (if space allows), Grandstand, and outer courts

• Access to early round matches and daytime hopping.

Pro tip: The Grounds Pass does not give you access to Ashe Stadium.

Luxury & Hospitality Suites: If you’re here for the champagne and ambiance as much as the tennis, then a suite might be the best option.

• Courtside Arthur Ashe Suites: Think: private entrance, cushioned seats, in-seat food & drink service, and access to the Lexus Club, where you’re sipping cocktails next to agents, execs, and the occasional celebrity. This is luxury sport-viewing at its finest.

• The 1968 Room / Overlook / President’s Suite: If you want the complete white-glove treatment, private lounges, curated menus, and sweeping views of the matches, there are premium hospitality packages offered through the USTA and approved travel partners. Ask early, as the suites book up quickly.

Where to Eat on Campus Grounds:

The U.S. Open has fully embraced its role as a destination for those who appreciate a good meal and an even better cocktail. If you’re intending to spend the day on the campus grounds, you’ll want to stay hydrated and nourished. Each year, the Open changes its food offerings, but there are a few repeat delicacies you can expect.

• Grey Goose Honey Deuce: The signature cocktail of the U.S. Open. Yes, it’s $22. Yes, you’re still getting one.

• Michelin-chef pop-ups: Expect appearances from NYC favorites—last year it was the likes of David Chang and Alex Guarnaschelli.

• Champagne & Oyster Bars: Tucked away in the luxury areas, worth sneaking into if you can.

Getting There (and Back)

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• LIRR from Penn Station or the 7 Train to Mets-Willets Point is efficient but can be crowded.

• Car service with drop-off at the East Gate VIP entrance is worth it if you’re dressing up or carrying luxe gear.

• Some hospitality packages offer private transport. Ask for this when booking a suite.

• Rideshare apps have designated drop-off and pickup entry points. Be sure to familiarize yourself with those if you decide to take an Uber or Lyft.

• If you plan to drive to the Open, be sure to purchase a parking pass for the correct date and match sessions.

Activations and Signature Experiences

What makes the U.S. Open unique is the myriad of activations and experiences happening across the campus grounds. Each year, the Open hosts an HBCU Live Day for HBCU students and alumni. For premier credit card holders, Amex and Chase, the U.S. Open is your playground. Both brands offer premium experiences onsite, but in very different ways.

• American Express: AMEX has long been a top-tier sponsor of the U.S. Open, and they go all out for cardmembers. Benefits include:

  • AMEX Lounge Access (with any Amex card): A beautiful, air-conditioned retreat with complimentary snacks, charging stations, and luxe bathrooms. Hopefully, AMEX has improved its reservation system. The last few years have been incredibly difficult and frustrating for those wanting to enjoy the lounge.
    

  • Free bag check: A small but crucial perk, especially if you’re coming from work or shopping.
    

  • Exclusive merchandise & experiences: Think custom embroidery on hats, complimentary gift-with-purchase offers, and express lines at the Honey Deuce bar (yes, really).
    

  • Onsite offers: Discounts on concessions and merch if you pay with your AMEX.

• Chase Sapphire: Chase Sapphire has been stepping up their game, and if you’re a Sapphire Preferred or Reserve cardholder, you’ll love their luxe, more curated vibe. Benefits include:

  • Chase Lounge Access (with RSVP): Tucked inside the Chase Center near the South Plaza. Expect upscale snacks, cocktails, shaded seating, and surprise athlete appearances.
    

  • Chase Passes: Reserve-only experiences like match viewings with commentary or chef pop-ups (Reserve cardholders usually get priority).
    

  • Exclusive reservation access: Think OpenTable-style access to U.S. Open restaurant partners and premium dining pop-ups.

If you’ve made it this far, I hope you’re feeling inspired (and a little more prepared) to experience this year’s U.S. Open. M and I will be back again, joining friends, cheering for our favorites, and soaking up every moment of the energy only the USTA can deliver.

If this guide was helpful, let me know. I’d love to hear from you. And if you’re planning to attend, feel free to reach out with questions. Always happy to share tips or chat strategy over a Honey Deuce.

Until next time,