There's nothing really wrong
Yet life feels unbearable
Really uncomfortable 
And somehow this is called growth 

There's nothing really wrong 
But I feel suffocated 
In my four walls I call a mind 
And somehow this is called growth 

There's nothing really wrong 
But I am being put in my place 
By seeing all the places
I stretch too much
And somehow this is called awareness

There's nothing really wrong 
But every inconvenience 
Weighs a little heavier 
Than I can lift, still I go on 
And somehow this is called strength 

There's nothing really wrong 
Still I recognise all the ways 
I've carried far too much
For too long 
And somehow this is called generosity

There's nothing really wrong
Still it's either doing too much
Or too little, never enough
And somehow this is called capability 

There's nothing really wrong 
Except I either cry myself to sleep
Or numb myself to bed 
And somehow this is called rest

There's nothing really wrong
But no amount of art I create 
Can extinguish the fire inside 
That only seeks to burn me out 
And somehow this is called passion

There's nothing really wrong
Still I secretly wait for the day 
When something might sniffle my light 
And somehow this is called patience 

There's nothing really wrong 
Yet I only hope for things 
That never seem to happen 
And somehow this is called dreaming

There's nothing really wrong
But the things that do happen
Fade away from my memory
Though not quickly enough 
To spare me the pain of loss 
And somehow this is called feeling

There's nothing really wrong 
And yet I write this thing
A poem or a curse 
Or a cry for help 
And somehow this is called art

There's nothing really wrong
But who even seems to care 
When I don't even dare
Let these feelings bare 
And somehow this is called a rhyme

There's nothing really wrong 
And there's no point 
Because life is not a game 
Still everyone wants to win 
And somehow this is called success

There's nothing really wrong 
And no one asked 
Yet here I am sharing
And somehow this is called expression 

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Virtues are often developed through hardships yet the pain borne is easily overlooked.

Soft question: Have any of your virtues been used to diminish your pain? Or have you overlooked the shadow aspect only to focus on the light?

Soft thought: The light only shines brighter in the dark.

… to err is human and sometimes accepting that I am indeed human can be tragically annoying and comically comforting. I see how my writing improves significantly when typing on a laptop as compared to the ‘micro-dosing’ that is writing in incremental portions inside a Notes app on my phone.

Auto-correct has made me rather lax in my efforts of maintaining and improving my vocabulary, spelling and diction. The conveniences of a smartphone do dull the sharper corners of the mind that require things to be more perfect. While that’s supposed to be helpful with overcoming perfectionism, I rarely think it does. It has rather mandated perfect results - especially because of the immediate gratification provided by AI. Yes, Artificial Intelligence can write but it doesn’t always have a unique point of view, it’s rather mashed up.

If I were to feed this prose to AI, it would simply spit out something more eloquent but not necessarily with as much raw substance as I intended it to have. Making meaning out of experiences and turning them into comprehensive blocks of words with flow and character is much more nuanced. Surely AI can feign intelligence thanks to the trillions of materials it has studied. How much deeper and more profound is it though, without the input of a person’s perspective to guide its search? It says it is “thinking” but those “thoughts” are really just scavenger codes scrounging for data related to the words we put in.

I read quite an interesting take on AI - calling it “the monster wears your face”.

It reminds me of the Shoggoth with a smiley face meme phenomenon. The Shoggoth with Smiley Face is a catchphrase and slang that uses smiley faces and Lovecraftian Cthulhu imagery to describe the notion that conversational AI tools’ true powers are being masked in order to allow commercial public consumption.

Throughout history we have had many masters and geniuses with vast knowledge who have also significantly contributed to their respective fields through dedication, continuity and momentum. However, for the first time ever we have an entity who simultaneously “has” all the knowledge digitally available in the world across all domains. We have no point of reference for comprehending that whatsoever so borrowing imagery from ‘Eldritch Terrors’ or Lovecraft’s monsters makes sense.

I am not against AI. I, like most of us, unwittingly use it at least a few times in a day. However, I am not sure that I had full autonomy over choosing to use any form of AI like I did with other tech. I have had the choice to use various tools and applications for my work such as Picsart for mobile photo editing, choosing between Affinity and the Adobe Suite, etc. With AI, it started out as curiosity of trying out the “next big thing” in tech. But slowly it penetrated all avenues within our digital lives that using it wasn’t a matter of choice anymore. The AI industry executed the same moda operandi that the electricity industry did in the late 19th century. Allow me to explain with a little story (thanks to a reel I came across):

That’s why the little AI symbol ✨(sparkle emoji) is everywhere - even though no one really asked for it. The choice of symbol is intentional too - it’s meant to add whimsy indicating that AI is a bit magical. AI Tech giants have raised billions of dollars in funding that they not only have to spend but also have to convert into long-term profits. The world we live in is largely created by too much investment too soon in a sector that was still emerging and barely researched from a sociological point of view.

Of course, whether to use it consciously is still within our control but it’s everywhere. Meta AI reads chats and urges us to ask it to summarize our friend’s messages and if we type “imagine” in a message - it pulls up an image-generation suggestion. It feels like it’s mocking us: why use your imagination when you can see a low-quality (and often literal) representation of your words?

Are we not capable of using our own brains to imagine? Are we becoming complacent to settling for less just because it’s easier and saves us from the irritation caused by the gap between our taste and execution? What happened to brainstorming on paper and letting the bad ideas exist rather than fine-tuning and micromanaging prompts to artificially generate the “ideal” one. Isn’t this ideal thus set by the trillions of old data points that have already existed in our society?

There is a concept called data collapse or model collapse that’s popular in AI circles. The LLMs train on all the knowledge that exists AND on the inputs of its users and outputs it creates - which then dilutes the overall dataset further till it eventually collapses. So, in the absence of new data - created by real people - the quality of outputs will continue to worsen regardless of improvements done on the processing and back-end.

But if we are to rely solely on the ease and convenience of AI, coupled with the double whammy of our shortening attention spans and growing disconnections with each other as a result of social media addiction, the world will be at a creative loss. It is precisely in times like these that we owe ourselves discomfort of creating without crutches. To create and let it be messy, less than perfect and even mediocre. Only then can we stay connected to our true essence and each other. Yes, that creation might be fed to AI or it might become content at some point, it is still worthwhile because it is in the act and the process of creating that we actually grow. We shouldn’t outsource our growth to AI.

A soft thought:

The act of creating is more satisfying than the result just like the journey is more rewarding than the destination.

And a soft question:

In what ways have you outsourced your growth to AI? Can you reclaim at least some of it for yourself?

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These questions tend to surface when the well feels dry. When the ideas that once came easily suddenly seem distant. In those moments, we replay the past. Artists often ask themselves this when they are going through a creative draught - “Did I miss my chance to act upon my idea?”

“I should have acted on it when I had the chance.”

“I had this exact idea but someone else has already done it.”

You see these comments everywhere beneath creative posts and reels—little confessions from artists recognizing a concept they once held in their own imagination. It's a bittersweet feeling to know that the idea wasn't truly "unique" but it definitely was cool and to see it come to life.

“Creativity occurs in the moment, and in the moment we are timeless.”

Julia Cameron writes in The Artist’s Way that ideas can behave almost like living things—they seek expression. When one artist doesn’t pursue them, they may find another route into the world.

Same ideas do seem to erupt around the same time globally; history is witness to it. Across cultures and centuries, similar discoveries and artistic movements have emerged almost simultaneously—even in times when communication between regions was scarce. Artistic styles such as Impressionism and Romanticism appeared in multiple places, as though the cultural atmosphere itself was ready for them.

Sometimes ideas simply arrive when the world is prepared to receive them. Other times they arrive much earlier - as seen in art made by those who have achieved posthumous fame. Vincent Van Gogh, for example, led a tumulus life that culminated into a fantastic body of impressionist work appreciated far ahead of his time.

Another intriguing example is of Hilma af Klint, often debated as Europe’s first abstract artist. Upon being guided by Rudolf Steiner that no one must see her painting for 50 years, she stipulated in her will that her work (1,200 paintings, 100 texts and 26,000 pages of notes) should not be shown until 20 years after her death in 1944. When her work finally started being displayed since 1986, it took the art world by a storm. Her work survived long, harsh storage conditions and willing successors perhaps led by fate.

Some ideas pass us by because they belong to another moment in time. Others stay dormant for years before resurfacing with a new depth we couldn’t have expressed earlier. And sometimes an idea transforms so much within us that when it finally emerges, it barely resembles its original form.

Art, after all, is the expression of creative energy. And energy rarely remains static. When a seed of inspiration is planted within an artist (even a dormant one), it takes root and can often grow in surprising ways. Even when we don’t create something immediately, the impulse behind it doesn’t disappear. It moves. It changes shape. It seeps into conversation, influence, collaboration, memory. It undergoes a gestation period. One piece of art inspires another, which inspires another still. In that way, no creative act is ever completely finished.

Perhaps the deeper question isn’t just whether art passes us by; it’s how often we let it pass us by. Art is born in attention. Perhaps it’s how often we let life itself pass us by.

How often do we pause long enough to immerse ourselves fully in a beautiful moment? How often do we truly notice the small sparks of inspiration that appear in ordinary days?

When we begin asking that question, the definition of art widens. It stops being confined to paintings, songs, or writing alone. It becomes the act of noticing, of feeling, of being present to something meaningful. When we begin to look at art this way, it becomes more evident that art is indeed a way of life. And there’s something strangely comforting in that.

A specific idea may pass through us without becoming a finished piece. But the creative energy behind it does not vanish. It stretches outward. It continues moving through time and through people.

In that sense, art is never truly lost. It simply keeps traveling and growing.

Here’s a soft thought:

When we are inspired, our art grows and through it so do we.

And a soft question:

What was the last idea you had that helped you grow?

Sometimes I get scared of my own writing. It reflects what I’ve lived through—and what has lived through me. Our reality is a mirror, after all, reflecting both the light within us and the light that falls upon us from the world.

That light is never singular. It’s an amalgam—our own frequency blended with the frequencies we’ve absorbed along the way. Everyone carries a unique combination. And when we interact with others, we take in fragments of their light too. Their perspectives color our own, or sometimes reveal a contrast so vivid it reminds us how expansive life really is.

Light and color exist in tandem. One does not precede the other. A rainbow, for instance, is a prismatic splitting of light—yet light itself is rarely just white. It fractures into countless frequencies, most of them invisible to the naked eye. Even darkness, in its own way, defines light by contrast.

Color is just as complex. There’s no way to truly know if any two people see the same color the same way. Optical debates aside, one truth remains quietly persistent: what we perceive is deeply shaped by what already exists within us.

All colors exist—yet some people are colorblind. And that idea applies far beyond vision.

Our past experiences, beliefs, emotional histories, and worldviews form an inner prism. They split the light that reaches us into the colors that make up our lived reality. This is why some possibilities remain unseen—not because they don’t exist, but because we don’t yet have the lens to perceive them. This is what limiting beliefs really are: limits on perception. Limits on the colors we can recognize.

The beautiful thing is, perception isn’t fixed. Just as in color theory, we can introduce new shades. We can mix. We can seek experiences, relationships, and perspectives that expand our spectrum and soften our blind spots.

Life, then, becomes something we actively participate in coloring.

That’s why emotions have always been associated with color. Mood shifts hue. Grief darkens tones. Joy saturates them. And isn’t it lovely that even though we may be standing under the same sky, each of us is living inside a completely different palette—one that’s uniquely ours in this exact moment in time?

Simply by existing—by breathing, noticing, feeling—we are painting the tapestry of our lives with our light.

So a soft thought for the year ahead: A colorful life is a life well lived—and it is your art.

And a soft question for 2026: What colors do you want to paint your year with?

A quick guide to Auras - the light that shines from within us. They aren't the same as Ojas (inner radiance that eminates from our soul), auras are more flexible and change as our perceptions and personalities change. They evolve with us.

Interested in activating your inner radiance? Check out my “Illuminate" digital workbooks, designed to help active your inner radiance and strengthening your aura here.

Wishing all of you a very happy and colorful new year! Stay soft 💗✨

I have a few poems sitting in my notes and I'd love to publish them alongside my usual Soft Statements if you'd like to read them. Please vote on the poll at the end!

Here's one of the poems that I wrote in the middle of the night after an intense dream (possibly a memory from a past life). By the time I was done writing, the sun had begun rising. It was a poetic and sublime moment - as if the first rays of the sun whispered gently into my ears: this is a new life.

Sea, a poem.

In one of my past lives,

I lost a lover to the sea.

So I became the sea,

To be with him always.

I met him again this life.

Took it slow and steady;

Let him feel a glimpse

Of the salty breeze.

As he drew closer, it seemed

There was more than what

Meets the eye with ease.

Sat with him on the beaches

Of the love I brought ashore.

He dipped his toes in the water

And remembered it was the sea

That took him away forevermore

From me.

He fled again and again ,

Chasing the brows of mountains,

To escape the waves of pain.

He couldn’t see the oceans

Of love I garnered and became.

For him I was only a source,

A beacon of the pain he bore.

Oh to be a lover lost at sea,

Does he ever see that for him

I became the sea?

Who can love the oceans?

I wonder night and night again.

For that is when my tides

Rise, like mountains made

Of water, salt and summer air.

Who can love the oceans –

With all their depths, darkness

And waves of despair?

For now I am without

the lover I lost at sea

for whom I became me.

-Urja Kumbhare

Please let me know if you'd like me to post more poetry or focus solely on the soft pieces with soft thoughts and soft questions.

A soft thought:

Poetry lifts the veil from the hidden beauty of the world, and makes familiar objects be as if they were not familiar. — Percy Bysshe Shelley

It arrives when you’ve loved someone fully, honestly, tenderly… and they cannot meet you where you are.

It arrives in waves — sudden, sharp, uninvited — especially when the person you’re grieving is still alive.

People often compare heartbreak to loss, but grieving someone alive is its own strange agony.

I know the difference.

When someone dies, there is no comparison, no “what if,” no parallel life running alongside your own. The pain is sharp, definitive, impossible to bargain with. The finality is brutal, the pain excruciating but clear. Grief has one direction to move in: forward. It grows into dull ache that becomes a lifelong companion.

But when the person you're grieving is alive — existing somewhere in the world, choosing not to be in yours — the grief becomes layered, slow, and circular.

It triggers childhood wounds. It wakes up terrified inner selves. It pokes at the fear of not enough, the fear of not chosen. And it feels like those fears have been confirmed — even when they haven’t.

It's important to remember: It’s not a reflection of your worth. The inner child simply remembers what it felt like to be small, and scared, and desperate for love that stayed.

Fears swallow the whole horizon when you’re inside them. And grief — unwanted, uninvited — pulls us deeper.

Deeper into our inner work.

Deeper into old pains we never signed up to revisit.

Deeper into the realization that yes, it hurts…but the world is still here. And so are we.

Sometimes we must grieve people who are no longer in our lives. And sometimes we must grieve the life we thought we would share, the version of ourselves we believed we’d become with them. It brings up questions, parallel lives, imagined futures, possibilities that never got to breathe.

This kind of grief doesn’t explode.

It smoulders.

I’ve realized it feels like a subsurface fire — an underground burn that moves quietly but relentlessly beneath the surface of an otherwise normal day.

Grief burns slowly, like an underground coal fire — invisible but relentless, smouldering beneath the surface until everything that needs clearing has burned away.

There’s a real town like this in Centralia, Pennsylvania. In the 1960s, a coal seam beneath the town accidentally caught fire. No one expected it to spread. But it burned quietly, invisibly — year after year, decade after decade — reshaping the land from beneath it. The surface looked normal for a long time, until it wasn’t. Smoke rose from cracks. Ground grew hot. Roads collapsed. A whole town was slowly emptied.

Grieving someone alive feels eerily similar.

On the surface, you go to work, you laugh, you make coffee, you reply to messages. But underneath, something is burning — slowly, steadily — clearing what it needs to clear.

The heat rises at the oddest hours. Sometimes it shows up as a sudden tear, sometimes as tightness in the jaw, sometimes as cortisol spikes or restless sleep. It’s not dramatic, but it’s persistent.

Subsurface fires don’t burn fast; they burn true.

I loved you deeply. So I must grieve you deeply.

They burn until everything old, everything unstable, everything no longer meant to support weight… falls away.

That’s the strange mercy of this grief. It doesn’t feel like mercy, not yet. But there is a clearing happening. A restructuring of the landscape inside.

Eventually, subsurface fires burn themselves out. And what remains becomes fertile ground.

So here's a soft thought:

Maybe this grief isn’t a punishment — maybe it’s the slow, steady burning away of everything you can’t carry into your future.

And a soft question:

Are you okay?

That quirky early-2000s Windows game where the only goal was to dodge invisible bombs and somehow still get to the “prize”?

Modern dating feels a lot like that—except there’s no guarantee the next level even has a prize. Sometimes the prize sits on a mine, and you get hurt anyway.

Somewhere along the way, dating turned into a multi-player game with no rulebook. Each person walks in with their own agendas, goals, backstories, wounds—and not everyone is trying to “win” the same thing.

Some people want a one-night pause from loneliness.

Some are “collectors,” gathering the best “prizes”—except the prizes are other humans.

Some treat dating apps like XP generators, levelling up through endless first dates.

Some collect “medals”—aka “friends” from apps—just to soothe their ego when it’s bruised.

Some want a confidence boost.

Some want intermittent attention.

Some want sex.

Some want escapism.

And the scariest ones? They want nothing at all, but they won’t say that.

These players aren’t contained in one world either—they’re interoperable. The same profiles seep through Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Aisle, Boo… and often into matrimonial sites too. So how do you even know what level of difficulty you’re playing?

Even “old-school meet-cutes” don’t save anyone anymore. Everyone carries shrapnel from past minefields. One wrong step—one misplaced vulnerability—can detonate something you never saw coming.

We’re living in an era full of “right person, wrong time” stories. Some people have sworn off love entirely. Some fall too hard, too fast. And even when you do fall in love, there’s no guarantee the other person will catch you—or match you.

Projection has become its own epidemic. People bleed old wounds onto new connections.

And all of this is happening while the dictionary of modern dating keeps expanding. Situationships, love-bombing, ghosting—those are vintage at this point. Now we have benching, orbiting, pocketing, wokefishing, roaching, zombieing… New terms, new behaviours, new traps—and still no handbook.

We’re told love is enough, but that’s a fairytale. Now you also need consistency, reciprocity, exclusivity, vulnerability, safety, compatibility…All the ingredients no one told us about growing up.

And then there’s the infinite scroll of “someone better” waiting on apps. One conflict and the temptation is to swipe to a new storyline instead of growing through the one you’re in. It’s easier to replace than repair.

It’s not even about attachment theory anymore. Some players have become immune to attachment altogether—numbed by the “perks” of juggling too many connections. When everything is interchangeable, nothing feels real.

Social media metrics do this too. One hundred likes stops feeling like a hundred actual people. Add bots into the mix and reality becomes even more slippery.

And now, with advanced image generation in everyone’s pocket, how do you even know if someone is real?

Curating lies has never been easier. We used to fear Photoshop. Now we fear AI faces and AI personalities. I’ve chatted with literal bots myself.

One of my long-term exes—an AI engineer—built a WhatsApp chatbot trained on our chat history during the end of our relationship (pre-ChatGPT era). I only realised because it kept referencing old issues we’d already resolved in person.

I’ve also spoken to people who used AI tools to talk to me, but couldn’t replicate the same patterns offline.

The emotional minefield has gotten more complicated. And yet—there is still hope.

People do find love.

People meet partners and soulmates, online and serendipitously.

And there’s a rising resistance of couples and creators sharing stories, warning signs, green flags, and lessons to help others navigate this chaos.

They remind us that healthy love is real, that conflict can be growth, that relationships can be soft and steady and safe.

Maybe the quiet rebellion in this age is to still believe in love.

To honor the desire for it.

To not settle.

To see people for who they are—not who we want them to be.

So here's a soft thought:

Maybe the way to attract an authentic, true relationship that fulfills us is to be authentic and true to ourselves - not just by fairytale standards of what we are conditioned to want, but through deep understanding and a good relationship with ourselves.

And a soft question:

Are you a willing participant in this emotional minefield—or, perhaps more accurate through a fitting typo, this emotional mindfield?

Maximalism has quite a reputation. To some, it feels loud, over the top, even “gaudy” to those whose visual palettes haven’t sufficiently evolved to understand maximalism yet. To the uninitiated, it can seem wasteful — a jumble of fabrics, textures, trinkets, collections and curiosities stacked together without rhyme or reason. Campy. Kitsch. Chaotic.

But it's more than what meets the eye.

Maximalism is an art form — a practice in deep intentionality.

Unlike minimalism, it isn’t about the quantity or the quality of objects. It’s about the essence of what those objects evoke within us.

At its core, maximalism is rooted in a simple truth:

As visual taste evolves, the mind begins to crave friction in beauty.

Creatives, designers, and artists who’ve spent years studying aesthetics grow accustomed to the conventional principles of harmony, balance, and “good taste.” And once those foundations are internalized, the eye naturally seeks something more — contrast, tension, unusual juxtapositions, bold compositions, visual curiosity.

The more refined the skill, the deeper the desire for decor. The more evolved the taste, the greater the appetite for expressive environments.

This is where maximalism steps in.

For creatives, maximalism brings oxygen — the antidote to mundane spaces and predictable palettes. What looks “random” to a casual onlooker is, to an artist, a breath of fresh air. It’s the stimulus that sustains ongoing creativity.

Julia Cameron touches on this in The Artist’s Way. She reframes luxury not as something expensive, but as something that sparks joy. Sometimes that’s a curated decorative piece… and sometimes it’s a children’s hair accessory that brightens an otherwise dull outfit.

In fashion, we have a concept called “The wrong shoe theory" - a shoe that wouldn't conventionally be paired with the outfit tied the whole outfit together and elevates it.

When you choose expression over convention, maximalism suddenly begins to make sense.

It becomes a lived collage of every object that sparks joy or meaning — a tapestry woven from memories, texture, symbolism, and delight. It's an ongoing artwork. Every oddity has a purpose. Every piece has something to say.

And paradoxically, maximalism can be a quiet rebellion against consumerism.

Maximalists tend to shop intentionally. They collect with purpose. Their objects don’t end up forgotten in drawers — they find new life, new placement, new meaning. Decorative pieces become functional. Functional pieces become art.

Things stay out of landfills. Value is extended, expanded, reimagined.

As I'm writing this, I'm reminded of The Treasure House on YouTube — the young woman who bought a home filled with the previous owner’s belongings. What most people would’ve thrown away was, in fact, a collector’s dream. Instead of discarding everything, she repurposed, donated, restored, and integrated these pieces into her life. Every day is a treasure hunt. Every item has a story.

We’re often told that we are what we consume, that we become the average of the people around us.

But what if we widen that lens?

What if the objects we collect are also reflections of who we are becoming?

So here's a soft thought:

Maximalism is the intentional arrangement of the items we love — a living expression of our inner worlds.

And a soft question:

Would you call yourself a maximalist?

Do your objects, surroundings, and style reflect the truest version of you?

PS. my favorite Maximalist home example:

In Hindu philosophy, marriage isn’t just a union for one life — it’s a vow that stretches across seven. Seven cycles of finding each other. Seven chances to choose one another again.

But what happens when you meet someone who feels like a past-life spouse… and they don’t remember you?

What do we do with that ache? There’s a quiet grief in wondering:

“Am I allowed to feel betrayed if he doesn’t choose me in this lifetime?”

I’ve asked myself this more than once.

What if I had the moment of soul-recognition — that sudden, breathtaking familiarity — but he didn’t feel it too?

What if the remembering is one-sided?

Is this what people mean when they speak of the twin flame dynamic — the divine feminine remembering, feeling, awakening… while the divine masculine runs, forgets, or isn’t ready?

Some bonds feel too ancient to ignore. Too precise. Too textured. Too synchronistic to dismiss as coincidence.

So I find myself wondering:

• Did we reincarnate with our past-life spouses again?

• Are these threads from previous births tugging at us?

• If so, can we ignore them without consequence?

• Is not choosing each other in this life a kind of sacrilege?

• And if the bond was once sacred, does this lifetime require a symbolic divorce too?

There’s another layer that complicates it — the dreams. The vivid ones. The ones that feel like memories more than imagination. The ones that appear with details we have no way of knowing but somehow instinctively understand.

What do dreams like that mean?

Are they fragments of unfinished stories?

Are they reminders?

Are they invitations?

Or are they simply echoes of who we once were, asking us to close a chapter properly?

If I had a husband in another lifetime… do I also have one in this lifetime? Or do we get to choose anew, independent of the past?

Maybe the truth is this:

Past-life recognition is not always meant to be a reunion. Sometimes, it’s simply a remembering. A soul’s way of saying: “This mattered.”

Not every promise survives every lifetime. Not every bond is meant to be repeated. And not every thread that pulls us is meant to be held.

But the questions are sacred. The longing is sacred. And the remembering — whether shared or not — is sacred too.

So here's a soft thought:

Sometimes it's enough to know that you loved someone, deeply, truly and passionately. And sometimes these bonds aren't meant to rekindle - only to help us grow.

And a soft question:

If your soul remembers someone across lifetimes, what is it asking you to understand in this one?

Oh, winter is upon us — that time of year when we instinctively burrow into our warmest blankets.

The mercury drops. The sun glows softly in the early hours while we’re still nestled in warmth. And suddenly, getting up feels harder than usual.

It’s almost as if the winter blanket — soft, warm, fluffy, and familiar — holds us in an embrace. Like a lover asking for just a little more morning cuddle time.

The winter blanket has an undeniable pull. It tugs at something primal within us: the need for comfort.

A need we’re taught to downplay. A need often mislabeled as a privilege.

But comfort is a need. One that grows louder the more overstimulated the world becomes.

And thankfully, it’s now being recognised as something legitimate — not indulgent.

We’re seeing a rise in “comfort creators,” cozy vlogs, and the hygge-inspired corner of the internet. The term “comfort creators” was coined in 2021; by mid-2025, it’s a full-blown cultural movement.

This trend isn’t growing in a vacuum. It’s a response to overstimulation and digital chaos. In the attention economy, comfort is a quiet rebellion — a space for digital natives to slow down and breathe.

I once saw a comment on a reel of a cat massaging his elder dog brother:

“I was scrolling to find my dopamine hit and this gave me exactly that. Now I can stop scrolling.”

More and more people scroll not for shock, not for spectacle, but for that perfect hit of comfort — paired with wholesomeness.

They want to feel something gentle rather than the numbing lull of the doomscroll.

A glimpse of softness. A spark of hope.

A moment of ease.

The formula for comfort looks different for each of us, but some things are universal.

One viral example? The ASMR-style puppy spa videos from @littlemanyu_. With 200M+ views on each of his videos, people (including me) watch along as they live their dreamy spa days vicariously through the puppy-spa.

But it’s not just about dopamine hits. It’s about honouring something deeper within us: the innate human need for comfort.

Even The Sims 2 understood this.

It treated comfort as a genuine need — right alongside hunger, hygiene, fun, and social connection:

“Sims of all ages love to be comfortable. This need will get pretty low if there isn’t a nice cozy couch or chair to sit down on… Though it is not as important as the hunger meter, Sims who become uncomfortable will become grumpy and irritable.”

While later versions of the game removed it, comfort has never stopped being essential in real life.

Life is gentler when you’re comfortable. Everyone needs comfort. And everyone deserves it.

So here’s a list of 12 comforting things you can do to soothe yourself — a mix of somatic releases, self-care, and simple joys:

1. Do the butterfly hug.

2. Take a warm shower.

3. Make steaming hot soup — from scratch.

4. Light a scented candle.

5. Dim the lights.

6. Look at the moon or the night sky.

7. Talk to your plants.

8. Watch your favourite comfort creator and try one thing they do.

9. Take a nap.

10. Hug a friend or kiss your pet.

11. Call your favourite family member.

12. Snuggle up in your winter blanket.

And remember: winter often comes with SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder).

So get a little extra cozy. Extra gentle. Extra warm.

Your future self will thank you.

Here’s a soft thought:

Comfort is a core need. Let yourself have it.

And a soft question:

When was the last time you felt truly comfortable in the present moment?

If you can’t remember… why not get comfortable now?

“What if it’s too much?”

This—right here—is what shrinking sounds and feels like in action.

Growing up, I loved the Honey, I Shrunk the Kids movie series. Wayne, a scientist, accidentally sometimes shrinks and sometimes supersizes his family with his inventions. What I loved most about those movies was the level of detail and depth in the storytelling. From the bond between the ant and the kids, to their struggles navigating their house, it made me understand the world around me better—on a microscopic level.

So, when I wrote this line in my morning pages (I’m currently doing The Artist’s Way), I immediately understood what I meant:

“Problems seem supersized and all-consuming because we have shrunk. Once we stop shrinking and return to our full size—our complete selves—our problems won’t seem as big anymore.”

There have been so many times I’ve found myself fretting over small things, panicking over trivial matters, and feeling overwhelmed or burnt out. I spent years healing and overcoming my problems—only to find new ones lurking around the corner.

It was only after learning my lessons (the hard way) that I realized: I had been shrinking myself.

Hiding my depths. Masking who I was to be more palatable. Coloring in my many facets to suit my surroundings and circumstances.

It was like hyper-curating my image in an endless attempt at control. I didn’t realize how easy it is to get trapped by the mundane when we play small.

I once read that the compulsion to control is a trauma adaptation—born from childhood helplessness in situations where we had no power.

But safety doesn’t come from shrinking.

Safety comes from remembering that we do have choice now—and as full-sized adults, we can make better choices than our miniature selves who couldn’t see the bigger picture.

It’s a much better view from the top, and it always makes the climb worth the effort.

Much like in the movies, shrinking myself was a mistake—but one I can correct. And while it’s still terrifying to let go completely, just being aware of this tendency—to shrink, to mask, to play folly under the guise of “going with the flow”—is the first step to growing.

This is where the whole discourse around outgrowing people, places, and situations also comes in. It can be terrifying to chart new territories in our wholeness. But maybe we can see it as an adventure—an exploration of self through growth.

So here’s a soft thought:

If you feel suffocated in a situation, you’ve outgrown it.

If you feel trapped in a situation, you’ve shrunk yourself.

And a soft question:

Have you shrunk any parts of you lately?

And if yes—who might you become if you stopped shrinking?

The attention economy is beguiling — a shimmering reflection of the consumerist society we inhabit.

Consumerism is a double-edged sword: one of the great perils of modern living

On one edge, it attaches material value to everything. It overwrites the inherent worth of things, objects, even people — replacing essence with perceived value, often decided by a single perspective. That value is then imposed upon others, dressed in glossy tags and elaborate checkouts.

It perpetuates the notion: Is anything without a price tag worthless?

No. It’s priceless.

The other edge of this sword cuts deeper. It measures a person’s worth by the things they own, or how much they can consume. The irony is sharp — overconsumption often leads to underuse. Resulting in rooms full of collections of unused skincare and hauls of clothing that will likely only be used once before being thrown out.

Decluttering often exposes these quiet patterns that may have stuck up on us inadvertently.

Quick commerce has been quickly overtaking physical shops and markets as the new frontier in e-commerce. It has replaced patience; clever psychological nudges push us to buy now, because now is the only time the algorithm believes in.

The attention economy thrives on urgency — it seems to erase the natural flow and passage of time by constantly telling us we need something new now, at every moment by making us feel incomplete.

I’ve explored why this system works so effectively — how attention itself has become currency — in another piece, “Attention as Currency, Observation as Creation.” It unpacks the psychological and spiritual layers of how our focus fuels modern commerce and creative power alike.

Consumerism farms time and attention. It has now evolved into deluding us into believing that through quick commerce we are “buying our time” - saving time that would be spent in going out and about in the world when we can just get whatever we think we need now, with minimal effort.

Then with all the extra time we have “bought” for ourselves, we spend it on their attention farms, which in turn convinces us of another exciting product that we "need now".

In this attention economy we have become both the hamster and the wheel - the wheel rewards the hamster with dopamine and the hamster powers the wheel - while someone else profits from it.

We can break this cycle by realising that both our attention and our time belong to us and are valuable to us.

Here’s a soft statement:

You are the average of what you consume, who you spend time with, and what you surround yourself with — including objects.

And a softer question:

Have you surrounded yourself with items that spark joy, or need and use?

Or have you been taught to confuse urgency with desire?

In recent years, there’s been a strange trend — a rapid increase in trauma packaged as entertainment, aka. Trauma Content. To understand the tragedy of Trauma-voyerism we must first understand trauma content.

“Trauma content” is a term we can use to label media that centers suffering, violence, or emotional distress without meaningful emotional depth, context, or resolution.

A lot of this content, especially in the crime, thriller, survival horror or so-called “true awareness” genres, is subtly marketed with the idea that you’re learning something useful:

“Watch this to learn what to do in dangerous situations.”

“It’s for awareness — you’ll understand how predators think.”

But that's not what actually happens.

It often:

• Exploits pain for attention (shock value, gore, or “gritty realism”) rather than insight.

• Portrays trauma inaccurately — with no understanding of how people actually process, react, or heal.

• Triggers without teaching — it elicits fear, disgust, or despair, but offers no tools or emotional grounding.

• Flattens nuance — turning complex issues like misogyny, abuse, or survival into oversimplified moral binaries.

So while it claims to “spread awareness”, it usually just retraumatizes or desensitizes us— both to our own pain and to others’.

People seem to forget that there's a line between storytelling and spectacle. What's meant to be entertaining or intriguing turns into trauma-voyeurism.

Most of this content isn’t educational, it’s performative.

These trauma-farming writers often have little to no trauma-informed lens; they recreate horror from the outside, not the inside. So instead of understanding the complexity of fear, powerlessness, and recovery — we just see prolonged suffering with no catharsis.

It’s not awareness.

It’s just bad empathy design.

They prioritize shock over sense and gore over growth.

Ideally, the purpose of showing trauma should be to:

• Spark empathy, not voyeurism.

• Illuminate truth, not glorify pain.

• Offer catharsis, not paralysis.

• Make us more emotionally intelligent, not more afraid.

But when trauma becomes a genre, not a truth — it loses its point.

It becomes noise.

It becomes trauma for profit.

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What is trauma voyeurism?

It’s the tragedy of turning someone’s suffering into spectacle.

It’s when media invites us not to understand trauma, but to witness it — repeatedly, vividly, and without any resolution.

It’s when pain is stretched, magnified, aestheticized — but never honored.

You’ll recognize it when:

• The focus is on the event of trauma, not the impact or healing that follows.

• The camera lingers too long. The silence feels exploitative, not empathetic.

• The dialogues and scenes aren't nuanced around the aftermath of the trauma event and instead hyperfocus on the nature of trauma itself.

I was recently recommended two shows, both described as “eye-opening” — yet neither offered clarity or compassion:

The Elixir, an Indonesian zombie movie about a herbal potion for eternal youth.

The Game: You Never Play Alone, a Tamil crime thriller about a successful woman being stalked and assaulted.

The first ignored survival logic entirely and had ultra-realistic depictions of gore doubled down; the second depicted stalking and assault in agonizing detail, but without trigger warnings, nuance, or emotional realism. Death threats were dismissed as trolling, danger was dismissed as mere misogyny, recklessness called independence. It was designed to monger fear.

The violence becomes the centerpiece. The trauma becomes the story.

When trauma is depicted without awareness, it doesn’t raise consciousness — it raises cortisol. It doesn't automatically become “good" content just because it made you feel something.

We’ve mistaken stimulation for sensitivity. We’re tricked into believing that exposure equals understanding, that knowing the worst somehow makes us safer.

But it doesn’t. It just lowers our vibration. It leaves us fearful, drained, and mistrustful of the world.

The tragedy of trauma voyeurism is that it strips pain of its purpose.

Pain is meant to teach us empathy. But when it’s performed for views, it teaches us apathy.

So here's a soft thought:

Choose what you consume with care — your peace is sacred.

And a soft question:

When was the last time a story about pain left you healed instead of haunted?

If you’re anything like me — neurodivergent, deeply feeling, empathic, someone who senses undercurrents and speaks with raw honesty — you’ve probably heard:

“You’re too much.”

“You’re overreacting.”

“You’re so intense.”

We are often perceived as threats. Not because we are threatening, but because we threaten people’s comfort — their carefully built perceptions and the peace that comes from avoidance. Why stir the dust that’s been conveniently swept under their carpet?

At some point, many of us realize that our depth and honesty not only threaten others’ peace, but also our own.

We mask — we subdue our light to blend in, to make friendships easier, to feel less alien in a neurotypical world.

But when the mask slips, people look at us like we’ve malfunctioned. “Why do you think so differently?” they ask, half-bewildered, half-exasperated. Luckily, most people brush it off as a temporarily " glitch" and treat us based on their average experience with our masked self.

Maybe what we need are more neurodivergent friends — but they’re hard to find when most of us are still hiding behind our own masks.

Underneath, nothing changes.

We still sense the microexpressions, hear the tonal shifts, feel the truth behind people’s words. We live in the undercurrents — we just stop voicing them. We pretend that comment didn’t sting, that we didn’t notice the subtle avoidance or mixed motives. We simply accept what is shown to us and react only to that.

Sometimes it feels like being covered in ants and having to pretend we’re not. Even when one bites, we can’t react — because showing discomfort would mean letting the mask slip.

And this quiet restraint has a cost:

• We rarely feel truly seen or heard.

• Our friends feel confused or betrayed when they realize we’ve been hiding parts of ourselves.

• We’re brushed off when we try to be honest.

• And sometimes, we lose friends we really care about.

Nobody talks about the pain of losing a friend after being honest, raw and authentic — after showing your real self.

Being “too much” — too sensitive, too emotional, too honest, too excited, saying too much, noticing too much — is painful. It feels like it comes with a hefty price.

“Too much” implies imbalance due to excess. It implies defect. It makes us feel like broken objects instead of living, breathing, feeling, real people.

But what if we looked at it differently?

What if “too much” is just another way of saying “fully ourselves”?

What if expressing deeply, feeling loudly, and saying what others won’t — is a sign of courage, not imbalance?

By expressing our true nature, saying the truth even if it stings, and emoting freely, – we are being our most authentic self at that moment.

We're taking up space - our own space - not someone else's. We're simply acknowledging the ants. We’re naming what’s real, tending to what hurts.

Maybe being “too much” just means we did something brave.

We didn’t dim our light.

We didn’t ignore the elephant in the room.

We didn’t pretend not to feel the sting.

Here’s what I’ve learned — the hard way — about being “too much”:

Being too much is a good thing.

Being too sensitive means we feel deeply and have highly evolved senses that pick up on all kinds of microstimuli. It's a superpower - exceptional attention to detail.

Being too emotional means we have an active limbic system — the same depth that allows us to create, connect, and empathize profoundly. It’s what makes our art and writing feel alive.

Being too honest means we see clearly. While honesty can shake relationships or lead to awkward and risky texts, it’s also the foundation of self-awareness and truth. Use it as a diagnostic tool in crisis. Journaling helps channel this brutal honesty into healing.

Being too excited is a measure of how much we care. And while nonchalance is supposed to be "chic", caring is underrated. Genuine enthusiasm is rare and precious. Caring is not a flaw; it’s a gift that warms others’ worlds, even when they can’t admit it.

The world is much more bearable when we have people who truly care about us. If someone is uncomfortable with how much you care, it's more likely because they aren't used to being cared about to that depth or in that way and honestly that realisation alone can sting.

Saying too much often means you’ve been holding too much in. Masking doesn’t erase emotions; it only buries them. It piles up unsaid words inside till we can't hold it in any longer. And often journaling alone isn't enough to remedy it. Sometimes we need to say those things out loud. Better to release little by little than to erupt all at once.

Yes, being “too much” can be painful. But inside that pain lies power.

Generational pain comes with generational strength.

Being “too much” comes with authenticity.

Ironically, being called “too much” often coexists with feeling “not enough.” It brings guilt, self-blame, and frustration for ever letting the mask slip. But here’s the truth: if you’re being “too much” more often, it’s a sign your self-trust is growing. You’re feeling safer in your own skin.

You might lose friends along the way — but you’ll also find the ones who love you exactly as you are.

There will always be pain — but you get to choose yours.

The pain of shrinking, silencing, and masking?

Or the pain of growth — the one that leads to real belonging, even if it costs you temporary comfort?

So here's a soft thought:

Be more you, even if they call you too much.

And a soft question:

Have you been masking any parts of yourself that feel "too much"?

Or perhaps... have you called someone else "too much" lately?

Are birthdays for adults overrated and overhyped? Absolutely.

Do I still love celebrating my birthday month? Also absolutely.

There are a lot of birthday celebration skeptics out there — and honestly, I get it. Most of the hate stems from pain: missed parties, loved ones forgetting, awkward gatherings, or feeling invisible on a day that’s supposed to be yours. Add in a dash of existential dread (because adulthood), and it’s no wonder so many people loathe birthdays altogether.

If that’s you, stay with me — I have a compelling argument.

And if you love birthdays, then I think you’ll like this read.

First and foremost: Happy birthday month to all my fellow November babies and girlies! (Including me, yay!)

As a child, I adored birthdays and birthday parties — until about age six. After that, birthdays had became chores. By my teenage years, I’d already started dreading them. Every year, I’d brace myself for disappointment, heartbreak, or some random emotional plot twist. I’d end the night crying myself to sleep. Ouch.

I was an angsty, melancholy teenager, so honestly, it wasn’t shocking. Birthdays just blended into the rest of my sadness.

Until one year, I rebelled.

I thought, If I’m going to be sad most of the year, then I at least deserve one month of joy.

And that’s how my sacred ritual of birthday month celebration began.

From that moment on, November and I made a pact. It would be my month of joy — my annual reset.

And somehow, the universe seemed to agree.

Good things always happen in November. The weather is pleasant, I feel lighter, and even the smallest things make me smile. It’s like my lucky girl syndrome activates overnight — as if a switch flips when the clock strikes midnight on November 1st.

Just last night, I was restless and melancholy again, struggling to sleep. Then I stumbled upon a video titled “You need to hear this before you sleep tonight.” It said, “Stop worrying. Stop comparing yourself. Everything will fall into place in your favor.”

I actually believed it — and I slept deeply for the first time in days.

I know it sounds like an exaggeration. Do I usually see such videos? Yes.

Do synchronicities happen all year round? Also yes.

But during my birthday month, it all feels magnified — clearer, louder, and more magical.

There’s something powerful about deciding that the month you were born into life will be dedicated to joy.

It sets the tone for the rest of the year. Sure, by September or October, the melancholy returns, but every November, the pact renews.

And no — it’s not an astrology thing. I'm a Sagittarius (and Sagittarius season starts at the end of the month.) It’s psychological — and a little bit spiritual.

Recently, I came across a neuroscientist explaining the science behind “lucky girl syndrome.” She said it’s really just your Reticular Activation System (RAS) at work — the part of your brain that filters millions of daily stimuli to focus on what you’ve decided matters most.

So if you decide your birthday month is a month of joy, your brain will naturally highlight more joy. Your subconscious joins in, agreeing that being born — simply existing — is a big deal worth celebrating.

So here's a soft thought:

You’re alive. There’s so much to life — the good and the bad. You deserve to be rewarded with a month of joy just for existing.

And a soft question for you:

Do you believe your existence deserves to be celebrated?

And if you said no, ask your inner child. Journal about it. You might be surprised by what you find waiting there.

PS. I'm pondering over writing a list of ways in which you can celebrate your birthday all month long. So please do consider subscribing to be notified of the article when it’s published!

The concept that somewhere in the subconscious, lies a deep set and often hidden fear of being truly seen. It's a defense mechanism meant to avoid unwarranted attention that could potentially be dangerous. Sometimes this fear can grow into irrational extremes, shaped by lived experience.

There are many life coaches and even visibility coaches these days. Even Hollywood has its own “fame coach,” Whitney Uland, who teaches how to overcome fear of visibility through subconscious reprogramming.

Subliminals and subconscious reprogramming do work. I use them myself—though not specifically for visibility.

(Pssst… Baejin Café has excellent subliminals, and Purely Being offers beautiful subconscious reprogramming meditations if you’d like to explore.)

Here are a few things I learned from Whitney’s masterclass:

a) Most of us have a “visibility cap”—a subconscious limit on how many people we feel comfortable being seen by. (Mine is around 2,100, the number of people I’ve stood before as an event host.)

b) Fear of visibility can manifest as self-sabotage.

c) Nervous system regulation plays a vital role in expanding visibility capacity.

These are powerful insights. But I realized a crucial distinction—one that’s rarely discussed:

there’s a difference between fear of visibility and erasure of visibility, also known as invisibility.

Some of us aren’t born with a fear of being seen. Invisibility, for us, is not a fear—it’s a condition. It’s often mistaken for fear of visibility because the symptoms overlap, but the roots differ.

While subconscious reprogramming can help, it addresses only the surface. Healing invisibility requires an additional, sacred step: Witnessing.

Understanding Invisibility

The crux of invisibility lies in its own nature – it's not being seen or heard. The invisible person, undoubtedly exists. They may even exist vividly—they live, create, feel—but they aren’t truly witnessed.

This can stem from a wide variety of reasons, often a complicated mix: ranging from being belittled, dismissed, misunderstood, over-scrutinized, to natal astrological placements (I see you, Ophiuchus).

The pain of invisibility is deeply layered and complicated. It carries the grief of once being visible, only to have that visibility erased. It feels like the slow suffocation of identity—being shrunk to fit others’ perceptions. It’s like a heavy blanket draped over the soul.

Any attempts to express this pain are often met with, “No, it’s not like that.” While usually meant to comfort, such words deepen the wound—they invalidate the invisible person’s truth.

And the invisible often understand this paradox: that people can only perceive them through their own capacity. It’s not self-inflicted pain, yet it can feel that way. Frustrations arise—“Why can’t I just feel seen?”

Sometimes, symptoms of invisibility even manifests physically: restrictions, technical glitches, misplaced blame, uncanny coincidences that mirror erasure. Though unseen, invisibility grows—and its effects ripple outward.

The Japanese short film “Invisible” (2018), directed by Akihiko Yamashita as part of Studio Ponoc’s Modest Heroes anthology, beautifully captures this experience. It follows a man who becomes invisible and must navigate a world that doesn’t notice him—even gravity forgets him. It’s a haunting, tender metaphor for how isolation can alter our very physics.

The Medicine: Witnessing

If we try to treat invisibility with “visibility techniques,” it can backfire.

At its core, the invisibility would still remain unseen and unnoticed. It would be an attempt of erasure of invisibility, which would compound it, instead of cancelling it.

The medicine for invisibility is simple—almost devastatingly so: Witnessing.

The invisible must first witness their own invisibility.

By acknowledging and observing it, they bring visibility to it. It’s quantum physics—what is observed, exists. (I wrote about this in my previous post, Attention as Currency, Observation as Creation.)

Once invisibility has been detected, it must be observed with care, which can be painful. Pain demands to be felt. It's best to let it flow through like a wave.

Then the person can start witnessing themselves - to the depths that they want to be seen and heard. They must not rush into visibility. Visibility should be reclaimed slowly, selectively, and safely, by revealing themselves bit by bit to those they deem safe.

Any dismissal during this process can reopen wounds, so tread gently. Healing is not linear.

But through gentle witnessing, over time, visibility returns.

Here's a soft thought:

Witness yourself, observe your inner landscape and watch yourself grow.

And a soft question for you:

Is there someone around you showing signs of invisibility?

Or perhaps… are there any parts of you that feels invisible?

PS.

To everyone who has ever silently felt invisible –

I sincerely hope reading this article made you feel a little more seen and heard, just as writing it made me feel. You matter. I see you and I love you.

In a world that monetizes every glance, saving a portion of your focus for yourself is an act of self-devotion.

In my first post, Soft Is the New Bold, I mentioned attention vampirism in the context of virality gimmicks.

In the attention economy, attention is the currency. It runs far deeper than simply making people believe their attention is “free” — an enabler to enjoy services at “no cost.”

It carries two opposing values:

• one real, where attention truly fuels the economy;

• one false, presented as a “free” and “limitless” resource that everyone supposedly has.

The present moment may feel infinite through lived experience, but in reality, it’s highly quantifiable. Tech giants have devised hundreds of parameters to measure every ounce—every millisecond—of our attention. They optimize their apps and design systems to extract attention efficiently out of people.

We’ve read countless articles warning us about doom-scrolling and digital addiction. But there’s yet another layer to this:

Quantum physics.

The attention economy operates on the quantum principle known as the observer effect — the idea that what is observed, exists.

If a business is seen, it exists and grows. That’s why we’re constantly bombarded by stimuli begging for our awareness: visibility sustains viability.

Yet we bear the true cost of this attention vampirism. The more our awareness is drained by screens, the less remains for our real, physical lives. We begin to consume more than we create, which blocks people's inherent creativity.

So here’s the soft statement of the day:

Preserving a swathe of your own attention for yourself and your life is a sacred gift.

And a soft question for you—

What aspects of your life are attention-starved?

What can you gently observe today… and thus bring back into existence?

We live in a virtual world consumed by viral gimmicks and a physical one saturated with ads and colors—all clamoring for our attention.

Even the runways—once reserved for the fashion connoisseurs—aren’t spared. Merkins, ghastly garments designed only to make us gasp. It’s not creativity; it’s vampirism—attention vampirism.

The Japanese have a word for this feeling: Mendokusai (めんどくさい)—something so bothersome it “stinks of trouble.” These gimmicks feel like that. Exhausting, even to think about. Maybe that’s why so many of us are now building “second brains” on productivity software—trying to store and manage the endless influx of information that demands our attention.

Don’t we already have enough stimuli in our daily lives, without being bombarded by unsolicited attempts to make us feel extreme emotions in favor of brand memorability?

This Substack is devoted to the softer way of life. Many of us are chronically online, so why not carve out quieter spaces for ourselves—places where we can breathe, ponder, and speak our minds, even if it’s under our breath?

So here’s the soft statement of the week:

Sit down. Be bored. Be beautifully under-stimulated for a change.

And a soft question for you—

Do you have a quiet space to unload and unwind? Somewhere that feels soft for your soul?