The other day I noticed an income dip and I went straight to what I knew would give me an explanation.. my body.

I sat, I centered and started to connect to what was playing out in my soma around money.

I instantly got an image of 4 bags of money. Like oldschool money bags from cartoons. Which was interesting because it has never showed up like that before.

I asked where the rest was.

It said “you don’t want it”.

I said why.

It said “because it is unsafe”

I asked why.

It brought a memory of when I was 5 and one day I stood at the school gate waiting, and waiting, and waiting, for my Mum and she never came. I was panicking and the teacher said let’s come inside which made me panic even more. Was I never going to see my mum again? My mind started to spiral. I had no idea what was going on.

Turns out my mum’s car had gotten broken into and she couldn't pick me up. Eventually when my Dad picked me up and we went to pick her up from the scene I remember the glass from the car windows being all over my favourite doll on the backseat.

In this vision I felt the fear from my 5 year old, she was terrified but also a message, a thought coming from her, the birth of the belief - valuable things put you in danger.

See the thief had broken in for my mum’s new radio (you know back in the day when they clicked out lol) and I remember thinking it’s all the radio’s fault. No one did that with the old radio.

My body was showing me this memory because it was revealing to me this old belief.

‘Things of value put you in danger’.

So after receiving the most beautiful and valuable engagement ring this fear had been triggered and been triggered real good. It was running the show and running my bank account.

So I soothed it. I soothed the younger me that was so afraid of things of value making you a target. Her space being violated because of something of value. The disruption leaving her abandoned at the school gate.

I showed her that I was safe and the ring was safe. I answered her worries and then I felt my hips relax. They just released. As if they had been holding too tight for too long.

I felt this relief in my body and started crying.

I felt a huge sense of relief in my body and just to validate it further I noticed afterwards I had an enquiry come in whilst moving through that process.

All of this happened in the space of 20 minutes.

This work is WILD. I will not stop shouting about it.

In light of this discovery I am offering Somatic Money Magic 1:1 sessions in September so you can get to the bottom of what beliefs, narratives in your body are running your bank account.

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Thank you so much for being here!

Lots of love,

Emma x x x x

On Friday 14th August, after 14 years together, Matt got down on one knee next to the sea and a stormy sunset and asked me to marry him.

To say I was shocked is an understatement. I was not expecting it at all. It was the most beautiful surprise and because it was such a surprise I have been overwhelmed with emotion since.

I have never been eager to be married, I was happy being his girlfriend for the rest of my life but there’s something in this engagement that has taken our relationship and my capacity to a new depth.

The thought that went into the ring, the proposal, the private boat trip, the extent he went to keep it a surprise, the things he said to me, have had my heart bursting. He has never been shy with affection so it is actually wild how I am still feeling even more loved.

I have no words for how to describe how much my heart has expanded.

One thing that has been coming up a lot since friday is “am I deserving of all of this?”. How do I get to feel this loved? How do I get someone who cares about me this much? How do I get to have this?

And honestly it has been a struggle to keep my heart so open to it when these thoughts come up.

I have done a LOT of self-worth work and still this is challenging it.

I have to love myself enough to receive this amount of love.

Accept who I am enough to allow myself to be chosen by someone else exactly as I am. With all my flaws, in a £7 sale dress, messy hair and no make up.

Adored as I am. Not adored as a work in progress.

I would have only partly accepted this in the past because I would have only partly believed it could be true.

But I am doing the scary thing of allowing it, staying open and connecting to my inherent worth that says I am worthy of it all.

I would not have been able to receive the amount of love I did on Friday 2, 3, 10 years ago without subconsciously sabotaging it all because I wouldn’t have felt deserving of it. The ring would have accidentally ended up in the ocean or something.

People have been saying to me for years “I want a Matt” because they see him going to the end of the earth for me and we think because we want that, that it would be easy to receive. But it requires so much to actually be open to that amount of adoration.

“We accept the love we think we deserve” is a quote that stuck with me since I read Perks of being a wallflower because I watched myself accept only slivers of the love I was being given for years because I didn’t feel worthy of the rest.

This might seem dramatic but this engagement has required me to open even more to receive a level of love I have never received before.

Therefore my capacity in my 1:1 sessions has 10xed this week. I have been able to hold so much more, more emotion, more transformation, more energy. The shifts in my clients have been wild. We have all felt it. I knew my capacity for depth and pain contributed to my ability to coach but I didn’t realise how much love would too.

I have just been cracked open in a way I am so excited about.

So when you say you want to be loved and adored, are you actually ready to receive it?

Or will you run away when it arrives?

I would love to help you not run 😜

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Thank you for being here!

Lots of love,

Em x x x x

I turn 32 today so here are 32 things that no longer impact how worthy I feel:

1. My weight

2. Fumbling my words

3. My grey hairs

4. How much my parents approve of me

5. How many followers I have / any social media metrics

6. If people like me

7. How white my teeth are

8. How many pull ups I can do

9. How much attention I get off men

10. How flexible I am

11. How easygoing I am

12. How women describe me

13. My wrinkles

14. How much is in my bank account

15. My size

16. My spelling

17. My grammar

18. What I eat / how much I eat

19. My ability to keep the peace

20. My sensitivity

21. My physical skill (at anything)

22. How loud I am

23. How straight my teeth are

24. My clothes

25. How interesting I am

26. My client results

27. The emotions of other people

28. How ‘cool’ I am

29. How many times I go to the gym

30. My credit score

31. How many expensive things I own

32. How much attention I get on my birthday

There was a time when ALL of these things dictated my worth and that, my friends, is 32 rocks of weight I was carrying for no reason. Some heavier than others, but all unnecessary.

I honestly feel ridiculously grateful for this because I know this is a somewhat unusually dramatic journey. From ‘completely worthless, I don’t want to be here’ to ‘I am inherently worthy and nothing can tell me otherwise’. A pretty drastic transformation that I didn’t see coming.

I was talking to a friend who is in her 40s the other day and she said the older you get the less you care and I am excited to see how many less f**ks I can give about how I appear to other people. Don’t get me wrong I still have wobbles sometimes but they are few and far between and they last a fraction of the time.

I am like a little worth-rebel. I see a trend, an ad, a way the world is trying to make me feel lacking and I say “pfft nice try”. And it triggers THE HELL out of people. I have people’s random passive aggressive comments saying things like “oh do you like not owning a car?”, “I wish I could feel free to dress in whatever I want”, “I’m not like you, I cover my greys”. I didn’t realise feeling comfortable in my own skin would be so controversial.

This is why my work is a compilation of the things that helped me reclaim my worth along with support for the resistance you come up against along the way.

Anyway as my birthday wish, please stop giving a flying f**k about what other people think of you and turn up the volume of that inherent, golden, delicious worth you were born with. Thank you in advance for making my day.

Also as a birthday treat I have put three of my most loved products in a sale. Use code BIRTHDAY to claim your discount.

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Thank you so much for being here.

Have a beautiful day!

Lots of love,

Em x x x x

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Yesterday whilst being bombarded with messages I had a confronting discovery. I was sat on a train, drained, tired, social battery maxed out and the messages were coming in and I felt like there was a vampire sucking the last bit of life out of me. Then I realised something..

I liked it.

This feeling of being maxed out and then messages coming to drain the last bit of energy I had. I slumped in my seat. Sighed. And as I did I felt responsibility leave my body. Relief washed over me. It felt like bliss.

This was an old pattern.

To let myself get completely depleted so I had nothing left to give and the perfect excuse not to give it. Guilt free ghosting and avoiding because I ‘had nothing left’.

Ahahhh I saw myself almost slip into it. Gotcha.

This stood out so much because I don’t do this anymore. This isn’t a familiar state to me anymore. I don’t let myself get this depleted and I definitely don’t long for lack of responsibility the way I used to. But it was so interesting to notice. I was begging my power to slip away so I didn’t have to deal with anything.

So I grounded back into my body, back into my power and made an empowered decision to not reply to messages for the rest of the day. A valid decision I MADE instead of it being the only option and my energy came back. I ended up going to watch live music with friends and even seeing family afterwards!!

I wasn’t as ‘drained’ as I had thought, I was just leaning into it.

But this got me thinking of a physical symptom I used to have a lot. This feeling like someone has cut my puppet strings and I could collapse at any moment. I have never collapsed in these moments but it really feels like I am about to and it is something that is hard to describe to people. It feels like all integrity has left my body and I have to work hard to not flop into a puddle.

Anyway, I used to have this symptom a lot. I thought it was a nutrition thing or a blood thing and I never got to the bottom of it. But I do not have this symptom anymore. It just kinda went without me doing anything and I think this is connected to the responsibility thing. I think if I strip myself of power then I don’t have to do the things I don’t want to do. Like having uncomfortable conversations, setting boundaries, doing taxes, etc. So it makes complete sense that since I have been devoted to living in integrity that this symptom has disappeared.

It made me think about how much I have used this puppet string tactic to get out of uncomfortable things. I can think of one scenario straight away.

When I was in uni we had to do a presentation about a choreographer and I, the shyest person on the course, was dreading it with all of my being. I still hadn’t mastered talking in front of more than 3 people yet so standing up to a whole lecture hall was some sort of torture to me. So on the day, with my body seeing it as dangerous, it started to shut down until I was a quivering mess. I remember feeling like I was making myself weaker, it was the weirdest feeling. When I stood up to talk I ended up bursting into tears and the tutor let me do the presentation to just her when everyone had left.

It was embarrassing of course because everyone watched me cry but what was more embarrassing was the fact I knew I made that happen. It wasn’t out of my control. I chose to weaken myself. I felt myself do it. I have struggled with the shame of that for years. But it was a method I had created to void myself of responsibility and I got exactly what I wanted. I got to do it without an audience.

I am sharing this here because writing about it makes it even more conscious for me and also shame shared is slayed so I am doing that too.

But I am curious to know if this is something that you recognise in yourself? I don’t know how common this is.

In fact I made a somatic practice for this exact thing this morning for the INNER WISDOM membership (a place you can get a brand new practice each week for £8.88 a month) and I have had some responses already that people really liked this one.

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Lots of love,

Em x x x x

I have been cat sitting my friend’s cat for a few days and oh has she taught me so much.

I have never been a cat person. I grew up around dogs and I have puppy energy, excitable and clumsy so dogs made sense. Cats have always intimidated me, they remind me of the bitchy girls from school. I loved the reliability of a dog. Always gonna wag its tail and get excited when you throw a ball, but a cat you have to win over. I needed the instant, unconditional love of a dog for my fragile self-worth (note that I grew up around labradors).

Anyway, I ‘not a cat person’ have fallen in love with this beautiful cat and she is teaching me so much. At first she was a bit unsure about me. Not in a ‘is she safe’ way more of ‘is she interesting’ way and I respect that. So at first when I was feeding her and cleaning her litter tray she just watched. She walked away when I stroked her. I walked past her while she was eating and she looked at me like ‘this is my space’. She watched as I dragged a string on the floor like ‘is that supposed to entertain me?’.

But over the past few days we have bonded. I have found a game she loves (peek-a-boo with a stick and a toilet roll tube. She loves it and pounces on it again and again and again). She has her boundaries and I have mine (no biting) and we are both in our power. It is great!

I love her because she is adorable but also because she made me realise why I have always been confronted by cats. They have boundaries. They don’t people please. They don’t appease. They know what they stand for and what they don’t. So of course they used to intimidate my boundaryless, people pleasing past self. They were revealing to me all the ways I was abandoning myself and I didn’t like that. They were showing me that I don’t get automatic approval, I have to earn it, and that triggered my belief that I was only worthy when people liked me. I needed them to like me to feel validated and they didn’t automatically give me that.

Anyway I am so grateful for this creature who has been around for 9 months and has built better boundaries than I have in 32 years. I have so much respect for her and that shows how much has changed in me. In the past people with boundaries used to piss me off. I used to think they were difficult and annoying and wished they would just do the thing to make everyone’s life easy. They pissed me off because I didn’t feel able to set boundaries. I felt like people pleasing was my only option and I was annoyed they had others.

Now I have boundaries and the ability to say no, I love seeing other peoples. It puts me at ease because I can feel safe in the knowledge that I am not going to overstep an invisible boundary by accident. I feel sturdy in the knowledge they feel safe to say no to me and that keeps us both in our power.

But there was a transitional period where I had one foot in boundaried and one in boundaryless. One in cat mode and one in dog mode. I was flip flopping between two different states and that felt so disorientating and confusing. I was a cat to some people and a dog to others.

I created some characters as examples of what I mean:

LUCY LIKE ME - I show up boldly and bravely but only as long as everyone likes me. I will make you laugh, be a shoulder to cry on and be a financial advisor all in one if you need. I need you to like me though because if you don’t I will question my worth.

KATIE KEEP THE PEACE - I have a calming presence and I am so grounded and easygoing. So ‘grounded’ that I will not rock the boat, in fact I will make sure we sail smoothly. I avoid conflict at all costs because my worth is determined by how peaceful I can keep things.

DAISY DISAPPOINTMENT DODGER - I am an organised, type A person who always has a plan. But I also feel unspoken expectations so I can avoid people being disappointed. Disappointment is an emotion that overwhelms me with the idea that I am not enough.

MINNIE MOUTH SHUT - I can take up space in so many ways, I might even perform and people think I am so confident. But when it comes to really using my voice I shy away, I can agree with the crowd and get involved but I won’t share an opposing opinion. I am probably in the wrong anyway.

SALLY SELF-ABANDONER- I love a schedule, I know my needs, I have a strong sense of what I want in life. But if someone invites me somewhere I will drop everything and be there. Even if it disrupts my whole week. I wouldn’t want anyone to be offended if I don’t go. My worth lies in my service.

BETTY BOUNDARYLESS - I have done so much work around boundaries I even have them written in my notebook. They keep me feeling safe and protect my time and energy. But if they are crossed it’s ok I don’t really mind. Easier to just leave it tbh. I don’t fully feel worthy of my boundaries but it’s a nice idea I like to think about.

Do you recognise yourself in any of these characters?

A strong sense of yourself and what you want/ need but it’s not fully embodied yet?

This means there’s a part of you not fully on board. A part that doesn’t fully trust yet. A part stuck in an old narrative. A fear, a judgement, a slice of shame. This is what is keeping you from fully standing in integrity. This is what somatics is perfect for because it finds these parts and gently gets them on board with that strong, bold, empowered you.

This is where some of my clients are at the moment. Teasing out that fear and fully stepping into their power. I get voice notes from them talking out the discomfort and I cheerlead them towards standing strong in themselves. The difference in them is wild! Because the more we act in integrity, the more our body trusts it is safe to do that and the easier it gets. Then it just becomes second nature.

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Thanks so much for being here I would love to know your thoughts as always.

Lots of love,

Emma x x

(Just incase it isn’t obvious I know I am making massive generalisations on cats and dogs to get my point across. Wouldn’t want to upset any animals out there 😂).

In 2020 I was living on a council estate in one of the most deprived areas in the country with my partner and his dad. The shower wasn’t working at the time so we were showering with buckets of water. I had lost my work because of the pandemic and I was teaching kids fitness classes (ON ZOOM 😱) in our little bedroom that had just enough space to roll out a yoga mat.

But you know what, I remember being so happy. I remember going to the park, when it felt safe at like 7am to hang upside down on the monkey bars. I remember spending days listening to psychology podcasts because I was obsessed back then. I remember how much me and Matt laughed. Matt was training for the fire service so we would be doing the fitness tests on a field and I would be screaming every time there was a rat.

Everything about the situation could have made me miserable. My career had ended for the foreseeable, I didn’t have a home, I was trying to figure out what was next, there were so many scary things happening in the world yet amongst all the pain I was still able to find joy and happiness. Real contentment.

For circumstances to not dictate my contentment. This felt like real freedom.

When I talk about building unshakeable self-worth to claim a dream life I am not talking about yachts and designer clothes, I am talking about this kind of freedom. I mean feeling so sturdy in yourself, so in tune with your heart, that you wake up every day thinking OMG THIS IS MY LIFE?!

I am talking about flirting with life so much you find little miracles everywhere and you feel so free you have forgotten what it’s like to worry about what people think about you.

I am talking about being surrounded by people you feel safe to share literally anything with and who make you laugh until you pee.

I am talking about how you feel in the life you live. Flashy or not.

The pinterest board is cute but how do you dream of feeling?

Sometimes I listen to podcasts with comedians, famous comedians in the Hollywood scene who bump shoulders with people like Paul McCartney and Tom Cruise and on paper you think ‘dream life’ (not because of Paul and Tom lol). But when I listen to the things they worry about, hearing them be terrified of how they are perceived, their insecurities, the people pleasing, I think am I more free than them?

One paper I am not ‘smashing it’. I don’t own a house, I don’t own a car, I’m not married, I don’t have kids or pets, I don’t own anything remotely designer, yet I cry all the time about how grateful I am to feel this free and content. I never thought that was possible for me.

So yeh when I say dream life I mean having so much trust in your worth and capacity, you can feel content no matter the circumstances.

That is what I want for you and it IS possible. I promise.

Thank you so much for reading!

Lots of love,

Em x x x x

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Back when I was studying to be a therapist I was consuming self-development like it was some sort of drug to me.

Trying to get to the bottom of all of my behaviours so I could break my patterns and get out of the situation I was in.

I knew my patterns like the back of my hand, I knew my ‘Conditioned Tendencies’, I knew where it all came from.

I could write a 1000 page psychoanalysis on myself if I wanted to. (That is basically what my Substack has been for the past 4 years lol).

But did all of this self-awareness change anything?

Honestly, not really. I don’t regret spending thousands on a masters in psychology, it was valuable, but the validation I got from it didn’t change my situation.

Just because you are aware of something doesn’t mean it goes *poof* into thin air. It takes deep, embodied, work to shift out of it. Things don’t disappear if you keep looking at them.

My mind knew I needed boundaries. My body said “set them”.

My mind made a list of the boundaries I needed. My body said “enforce them then”.

My mind wrote a script for when boundaries were crossed. My body said “use it”.

I had all of these great ideas but I wasn’t actually taking action so my body just continued its frazzled ways. Rolling its eyes at my big “ideas”.

It looked good from the outside but my body didn’t trust what I said because it wasn’t backed with action.

Stumbling across somatics was the slap in the face I needed.

Because I could no longer avoid the uncomfortable when my body was literally revealing to me every way I was abandoning it.

The more I listened the more I realised I actually had to do something.

And when I actually started to do things, things started changing.

So ask yourself if you actually need to learn more? Or is learning more a perfect distraction for not doing the thing you actually need to do?

This is what I help you with.

I know you are smart, self-aware and understand yourself. So let’s back that with bold moves that make you unstoppable.

My 8 week 1:1 container is for you. Book a chat and let’s get the ball moving. The other day someone said “I have to book because I got more from that free discovery call than I have in years of therapy”. Lol. This work is no joke.

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Thank you so much for being here.

Have the most beautiful day!

Lots of love,

Em x x x x

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These were my wishes a few years back:

I want to grow but not so much that I will intimidate someone.

I want to dream big and live fiercely but I still want to be relatable at the family party.

I want to speak boldly but I don’t want to offend anyone.

I want to be respected but not in a way that it makes people talk about me.

I want my needs met but I don’t ever want to be called ‘too much’.

I want to live in integrity but not in a way that changes my relationships.

I was a walking contradiction.

The universe was like WHAT?! You want the impossible?

I thought I was crystal clear on what I wanted but I had so many conditions added to my wish that it just made it murky. No wonder I was taking a step forward and then 27 backwards.

It was only when I was in a situation so scary (give up on my business and get a 9-5) that I surrendered to being judged, disliked, perceived, misunderstood that I reclaimed my energy and power over the situation.

Now people come to me in a similar place. They KNOW what they want but underneath their goal is a whisper of an invisible goal, ‘I want to do this without rocking the boat and I want to keep everything else exactly the same’.

So they are split down the middle. One part of them pursuing their DREAM and the other part of them is keeping everything exactly the same.

It is the ultimate tug of war.

They see some progress then they are thrown back to the normal patterns.

They are exhausted, confused and bored of it all.

The energy it takes to stay in this tug of war is wild. It drains every bit of you.

That’s where the Body Of Worth container cracks them open. Reveals what’s underneath. Reveals what is happening behind the scenes that is holding them back.

This is why they see results beyond their goals, because once their body is completely on board with what they want, the momentum is wild.

We tease out the parts of them longing to be liked, loved, accepted, keep the peace and build the strength, resilience to do it anyway. Take action regardless.

This shift is what doubles their income, finds them their soulmate, launches their podcast, creates their first physical product. Not a more information. Not more self-help. But real, embodied practices that shift the fluff and make them a full bodied YES to what they want.

I had a session with one of my long-term clients this morning. She is absolutely smashing it, so much so she is having to take a bit of a step back and delegate. I said can we just take a minute to appreciate how far you have come? Because the woman who sat in front of me in the discovery call is barely recognisable now. I am in awe!

When you become a full bodied yes to follow your heart, your purpose, regardless of how many boats it rocks, you get what you want and then some.

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Thanks so much for being here.

Lots of love,

Em x x x x

Go on then

In 2020 I went non-contact with my parents and I was showered with guilt every day from all angles. “But they are your parents” “but I’ve lost my parents and I don’t want you to regret it” “how could you do that to them” “I didn’t think you were the type of person who would do that”.

I heard it all.

(It was the hardest decision I have ever made but it is still one I stand by. Our relationship now that I am back in contact with them is way stronger than before.)

I felt like I was carrying boulders of guilt every day. I was in so much pain. Most days I managed to get by but some days I couldn’t get out of bed because of the weight of it. I don’t even think people meant to inflict so much pain on me, I think they just couldn’t comprehend the idea of doing the same things themselves, but it hurt.

I started to hide my struggle because when people asked what was wrong and I told them, 9 times out of 10 they would say things that would make me feel even worse about my decision and send me back to cry under the covers. I couldn’t bear it.

I carried this guilt every day and I didn’t let myself give in to it (thanks to an amazing therapist and support system). But I was not in my power because I was getting guilted repeatedly and it made me question everything over and over.

Intellectually I knew I had every right to set the boundary that I did but that knowledge did f**k all to the guilt swimming around me. I was also doing a masters in psychology at the time so I was learning so much about myself and my own patterns but that didn’t give much relief because it still felt like I was being held down by rocks every day.

Enter somatic work..

Somatic work was the first thing to give me relief because I was working with what was living in my body. I started to feel the rocks getting lighter, as if they were hollowing out. Then I started to drop them, expel them from my body one by one and it got lighter and lighter. I was shifting the guilt on a body level and I was liberated from the weight of it.

I realised self-help books would never have got me there. I didn’t need more knowledge, I needed to find safety in my body again and reclaim my power so guilt no longer had me by the neck.

When the weight shifted there was some remaining debris hanging out in my throat. Guilt / fear from how people responded to my decision. I felt it squashing my words. Whispering “it’s not safe”. I mean, speaking and telling people about my experience ended up causing me so much pain and my body didn’t want me to experience that again. It was scared for me.

So I have worked, and continue to work, with the sensation in my throat holding my words, filtering them, softening them so I can reclaim the power of my voice and my life. 2020 Emma genuinely wouldn’t recognise me now.

This is why I am so passionate about the work I do now. My signature somatic method helps you shift the emotions in your throat that are keeping your words restricted, in check. It gets to the root of it instead of just understanding it on the surface. I am on a mission to help unlock as many voices as I can because I can’t stand the idea of your words feeling unsafe. They are so precious.

I have a 10 day challenge called Unlock Your Voice which starts today and it is your last chance to join us. This work is normally only available in my 1:1 containers.

The shares in the group already are worth it and we haven’t even got started yet!

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Your voice is too important to be quietened. It is time!

Thanks so much for being here!

Lots of love,

Emma x

P.s Thank you Kayleigh for this photoshoot I can’t wait for the images.

If you find yourself saying..

“Okay, just this once”

“Oh forget it it’s fine”

“It doesn’t matter”

I have questions for you..

How long are you going to keep abandoning yourself for?

What is it costing you to keep abandoning yourself like this?

What will it take to stop abandoning yourself?

What it took for me was realising I might lose the most valuable thing in my life, my relationship.

About 5 years ago me and Matt were arguing. I can’t remember what about but essentially I wasn’t being honest. Mainly with myself.

Matt has this ability to see through all of my fake bs and he always has. So when I was pretending I was ok and holding it all together, he knew I wasn’t but I wouldn’t admit it. I needed to set boundaries with my family, my friends, my boss, a lot of people and instead of facing the discomfort I decided to bite down my words and not say anything at all.

This went on for a long long time until he said “I can’t keep watching you be bullied by people in your life. You have to do something”.

This hit me like a ton of bricks. I had never thought about what was going on from his perspective. But it was hurting him to see things play out the way they were. People walking all over me all day long.

After one argument he said he was going for a walk and I felt as if he was done. Like he wasn’t going to return. He had reached his limit and when I allowed myself to imagine what that would be like it broke my heart.

He was the only person who really knew me, the only person I could be myself around and the only person I trusted with all of my heart. Imagine if I lost him? That would be horrific. I sobbed and sobbed about that thought.

When he returned, after what felt like an eternity, the relief washed over me and I promised him I was going to do something about it.

The next day I went to therapy and came up with a plan. Setting boundaries made me feel sick but the idea of having them felt exciting. And I kept my promise. Slowly but surely, boundaries were set with everyone. Parents, friends, my boss. Some sent via letter (don’t laugh it was hard), some in person, some over the phone. I had found my voice. I had my say for the first time in my life.

This liberation was beyond what I imagined. Because it unlocked something way deeper than I hadn’t expected. It unlocked my power.

People were saying my voice sounded different on voice notes. Like confidence was radiating out of me. And the more I ‘got my reps in’ talking to people the better I was at communicating with people. My relationships became sturdier (or crumbled because they relied on lack of boundaries). My relationship with Matt improved x100 because I wasn’t a martyr anymore.

My body existing in a boundaried life chilled out. IBS symptoms disappeared. My nervous system relaxed because it trusted I wasn’t going to abandon myself.

My lack of voice had been costing me so much more than I’d realised!

Since then I see suppressed voices everywhere and I can’t go on without doing something about it. Your voice is needed. Not just setting boundaries but your thoughts, ideas, expression. You are not here to stay quiet.

I used to think I could go through life expressing myself solely through movement and art (edgy) but I just ended up lonely. Because not being able to truly connect is isolating and one way conversations get exhausting.

Imagine being able to talk freely with confidence, trust your voice and speak up easily?

Unlock Your Voice starts a week today. Where we will be unlocking your voice from the inside out. Shifting emotions, sensations in your throat keeping your voice down. This is going to be epic. I can feel the energy in the group already. We are ready to ROAR!

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Thank you so much for being here, I would love to hear if you resonate as always.

Lots of love,

Em x x x x

P.s Please use your voice.

Once I was in the middle of doing a presentation then I looked at the people watching me in the room. It was like I was looking at a bunch of tigers. Fear washed over me. I couldn’t get a sound out of my mouth. No matter how hard I tried to read my notes. There was just a long awkward silence until someone jumped in.

As a teenager I went to a performing arts school and I physically couldn’t sing. As in I would try and nothing would come out and the teacher would stand right next to me to see if any noise came out and it would be the faintest whisper of a voice. He was so patient with me. They only let me stay because I could do the dance bit.

One time in a group class I was asked a question and I completely lost the ability to speak. Everyone stared at me waiting and I couldn’t make words come out of my mouth. I eventually just started crying with shame.

In arguments I would just freeze. The only words I could ever manage were “I don’t know” over and over until the person gave up.

I felt like there was an invisible python around my neck. Restricting my throat so the words couldn’t come out. As if my words were dangerous or in danger.

People would say “just say it”. They couldn’t see the python. They didn’t get it.

I was always called painfully shy.

Out of curiosity I have just googled painfully shy and I always assumed the painful part was for the person dealing with the shy person. I never once thought this phrase was referring to my pain.

But it was painful. Extremely painful. Feeling like you are not heard and then being unable to make yourself heard. It was such an isolating and shameful experience.

An experience I thought I was destined with for the rest of my life.

But I am proud to say my voice is now free. Very much so. I was able to work with the python until it left. Tease out the blocks in my throat and now you can’t get me to shut up!

We went on a double date recently and Matt, my partner, said on the way home “I just love seeing how comfortable you are talking now”. This made me proud because he has seen me at my quietest and now he gets to see me speaking freely. It has improved our relationship so much. Improved all of my relationships so much.

I have noticed over the past 2 years with my somatic clients that the throat ALWAYS comes up. There is always a block or a restriction (especially when we are working on taking up space). There is always something going on with the throat. One of the most overlooked parts of us. But unblocking the throat is so rewarding because when it flows it flows. Like removing a dam in a river. So satisfying. The words flow free.

I really wanted to create something that would help set more voices free. So I created a 10 day challenge called UNLOCK YOUR VOICE.

10 days of powerful somatic practices, 10 days of telegram support, 1 LIVE Unlock Your Throat workshop (9th July 7pm BST), 30 days access to content. Starting Monday 29th June.

Imagine you could speak as freely, openly, without question.

Imagine if you were heard, really truly heard.

Imagine if your voice was something you weren’t ashamed of.

I don’t want you to go another day feeling unheard because your words are precious and being heard is a birthright!

If you want to set your voice free and speak up unapologetically, this challenge is for you.

Unlock Your Voice (£22 for 48 hours)

Thank you so much for being here and hearing my voice each week.

Lots of love,

Em x x x x

When I discovered the lil old concept of self-worth everything changed for me. My relationships, my income, my wellbeing and I started seeing everything through the lens of self-worth. I saw that self-worth would solve a lot of problems but I thought that was just because it was new to me and the novelty would wear off but 6 years later I still deeply believe that self-worth solves A LOT.

Sometimes I daydream about everyone from across the world waking up remembering their inherent worth, knowing they are already complete and what that would look like.

This is what I think would happen..

Outsourcing worth would instantly stop. No more seeking validation, trying to prove something, seeking worth via appearance, achievements, etc.

Relationship dynamics would instantly shift. Lots of break ups. People would wake up to knowing they deserve being treated so much better. Sabotaging good relationships would stop. Relationships would immediately stop being performative and for validation and deep connections would begin to blossom.

People would quit jobs that were unaligned because they would know they deserve to be following their soul purpose instead of putting up with bosses that undervalue them.

A wave of expansion would wash over the world as those who were playing small start to take up space and speak up.

Big bold steps towards justice and equality would happen as the self-worth of the collective rises with their power.

Creative projects would go into full swing as all of the imposter syndrome melts away and art of all kinds spreads across the world.

Artists would stop waiting for the invisible green flag to share their work and just go for it.

All of the time spent as a collective wondering if we are good enough would be put towards taking action and building lives that feel aligned.

Money would be distributed more equally as people fight to claim their worth.

People would walk down the street with confidence in their own body knowing their body is perfect as it is.

People would see through the nonsense of the products that rely on low self-worth and there would be a huge shift in what people purchase.

Make up would be for self-expression instead of hiding blemishes.

Beauty products would be used for pleasure instead of to ‘fix’.

The world would be a much funner place to be in because so much BS would melt away if everyone knew their worth.

Imagine that?! Ahhh it makes me giddy just thinking about it.

I have experienced this on a tiny scale through the work I do. People following dreams, writing the book, starting the podcast, applying for the funding, going to classes they never had the confidence to, wearing things that feel like them, ditching botox. And I am on a mission to scale this movement more and more. To spread self-worth like a virus!

I woke up to another message this morning from a client saying they have uncovered another layer of their power and who they are and how I sobbed. This is so much bigger than an 8 week container, this is a shift that’s so much bigger than me and you and I am excited to be a part of it.

Book a call with me if you want to be part of this movement.

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I would love to know what else you think would change.

Thank you so much for being here,

Lots of love,

Em x x x x

I am still taking part in my own 21 day challenge which I recorded in March and oh am I having some wild revelations. The practice for day 15 is about expansion and I actually felt like I was bigger than the earth at one point. If you want to join us start today it is honestly so fun.

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I went to one of the roughest high schools in Liverpool so the teachers spent more time breaking up fights and getting through the day than thinking about our future.

Pity that we were never going to do much with our lives radiated out of the teachers. There was a lack of hope. No one cared past us passing grades.

Kids aren’t stupid, we felt this. No wonder there was so much violence.

And it wasn’t the teachers fault. It was rough for them too. They were just trying to make it through until that bell went at the end of the day. But feeling like a feral creature that needed to be disciplined what deflating.

I would try to look them in the eye and make them SEE me. I mean it was probably creepy thinking about it now because I was so quiet but I would stare at them like SEEEE MEEE. They just looked back exhausted.

But then there was one teacher who believed. She saw us amongst the violence. She pushed us to keep dreaming. She was tiny. But her belief was so mighty that I know it kept a lot of us going.

Amongst the school police officers arresting people (didn’t everyone have school police?) she would see our talents. She would find us opportunities. She wanted us to succeed and that felt amazing.

This is why I know the importance of having someone who believes in you.

It’s not just ‘nice’, it keeps a spark alive.

Because even amongst difficult circumstances and a sea of people with no hope. That belief. That light is the difference between someone going for it and giving up.

Thankfully I didn’t listen to the futures my teachers projected for us but a lot of kids did. A lot of kids thought there was only one option and fell into that. That genuinely breaks my heart.

I still hold some shame around where I grew up. I know I hide my Scouse accent because of this school experience. Part of me thinks when people realise where I actually come from they will look at me like those teachers did. With pity like ‘aww’ look at her trying. So I neutralise my accent to become undetectable. I’m working on that.

No wonder I am so passionate about people not giving up on their dreams. I don’t care if everyone around you is telling you your dream isn’t possible. I will believe in you! We will find a way.

The solution is never to squash a dream. Put it in the spotlight, see it, play with it, build unshakeable faith in it and connect to your inherent worth. Then you are unstoppable.

If you want a cheerleader, a runway towards your dreams join my 21 day challenge. 21 prerecorded practices in your ears.

I have been doing the challenge (listening to my own voice and not cringing woo!) and I am shocked at what has come up for me. People were telling me it was powerful but now I am trying it myself.. woah! The other day I had a huge somatic shift happen during a practice when I had a vision of a dog from a book I loved as a kid came to me and told me to play. I had a big revelation about how serious things have felt lately and it was exactly what I needed to hear. So yeh I would highly recommend. It is beginner friendly but powerful as hell.

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Thanks so much for being here.

Have a lovely day!

Lots of love,

Em x x x x

As always please reach out if you would like to work 1:1 with me. I have some 8 week containers ending soon!

When I was an aerialist whenever I met someone new they would say “ohh are you in Cirque Du Soleil then?” and I would grit my teeth and say “No but hopefully one day” with a pang of shame.

I had “work for Cirque” as a goal for years but it was a flakey goal because I only wanted it to prove something and get the validation that I was desperate for.

I wanted it for the little Emma who was made to feel immature for wanting to be in the circus, for the teen Emma who was called weird at school (look how I monetised my weirdness now bitch), and to finally, finally feel like a legit artist.

But I didn’t just want validation to throw in the face of my high school bully. I wanted it from strangers at parties. Why? Because somehow when you say something like that to strangers their response can show you if you made the right decisions in life. Strangers have the ability to see you as a clean slate and you get to draw yourself out for them. They don’t have any emotional attachment so you get their raw response to all of your life choices. I wanted their approval to wash away any shame.

Having something that would magically assure all of my decisions were the right ones. Wouldn’t that be lovely?

The actual idea of working for a huge company like that and performing the same act over and over and over again made me feel nauseous. To not have creative control. To be likely burntout. To be living a lifestyle I knew didn’t suit me. To be around people all the time.. Ew. But I wanted to be able to say “I work for Cirque Du Soleil”.

I would have never gotten into Cirque, I move too feral, but if I would have actually tried and pursued it it would have all just been to be able to answer that question with a “yes”.

All of that work, all of that sacrifice, for a bit of an ego stroke from strangers? What?!

Pursuing something for validation ends in tears because when we get it we realise we didn’t really want it and then have to grieve all the time we lost putting energy into something we didn’t really want to pursue.

That is why it is sooo important to make sure your self-worth isn’t entangled in your goals.

When you have deep, embodied worth this is no longer a problem. You follow your heart and soul because you don’t need the validation.

The hole is no longer there.

You filled it.

So you no longer seek the claps.

The claps can still be lovely.

But you don’t need to be assured by them.

This is why people who knew me pre 2020 say “you are just sooo chill now”. Because I am not desperately scratching at them for validation. Pleeeease like me. Am I enoughhhh? Did I do the right thingggg? I am no longer a nightmare to be around.

This is what I teach in my work and containers because I CAN’T STAND the idea of people pursuing things in life to get claps that will never be as satisfying as they need them to be.

This is your permission slip to finally break up with the idea that you need anything outside of you to be a valid, legit, whole human.

You don’t need to prove anything to anyone.

Go get what your heart ACTUALLY wants! GO!

If you want to make that switch with someone who knows that feeling intimately and knows how to somatically detach your worth from the external world, book a discovery call with me and let’s chat!

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Thank you so much for being here I would love to know if you resonate with this.

Hope you have a beautiful day!

Lots of love,

Em x x x x

Alsooooo its a Monday and what a great day to start a new habit called connecting with your body and inherent worth daily.. WAKE UP WORTHY is still available and I would HIGHLY recommend it as a way to connect to your body and get clear on what you ACTUALLY want. Plus it is FUN! Start today!

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Celebrating one year of BODY OF WORTH and I am SOOOOO bloody grateful but also.. it was f**king hard.

They say you have to show up before there’s evidence it will work out and I thought I knew what that meant from training as a dancer and having an aerial business.. but wow when you start a business from scratch everything thrown your way is like a fountain of ‘this won’t work’ and you have to just have delusional FAITH that it will.

When you had a successful career elsewhere that could have continued there’s this little voice saying ‘what have you done?’ all of the time.

I thought my self-worth was strong.. Pfft I hadn’t been tested like this yet.

When your service is the product. There’s no hiding behind packaging, a counter, it is literally just you. Selling time with you. And nothing tests your worth like selling your own presence. Standing by your pricing, by your mission no matter what. Sharing the value of working with you week in week out.

Opening the wound of ‘am I invisible?’ when you are shouting into the noise online.

Sharing your face, your voice, your words and getting mostly tumble weeds in response takes resilience. And it isn’t all about the likes but the lack of response feels like people walking past the shop window you put your heart and soul into decorating. You start to wonder if you should shut it down.

But you don’t shut down because you know this feels so right and your clients are getting wild results and LIVE workshops feel like a dream and that fire inside keeps the doors open.

But sometimes pressing play on the camera to talk about a new offering that you have NO idea if anyone will sign up for takes a kind of strength I had never come across before in my 10 year aerial career.

Posting aerial didn’t feel this vulnerable because there was always the chance a gran somewhere would be impressed by my ability to defy gravity and that felt like a nice cushion. Now it is just me and my voice. No hiding behind tricks. And I get comments like “another single woman trying to give relationship advice” (which is hilarious because I am neither) and it’s so tempting to press delete on my online presence.

Posting on the internet about your business makes you feel like a vulnerable animal exposing yourself to prey.

Going from a ‘cool’ aerialist to something people roll their eyes at (coach), sent my ego into a spiral like nothing before.

And is all of this.. worth it?

Absolutely!

And I could tell you the stories about helping clients eradicate their anxiety or tripling their income but what I actually find myself daydreaming about is seeing them believing they are capable and worthy of the life they want. That sparkle back in their eyes. Those moments make me teary. Because nothing can put a price on that.

My clients are brave, ambitious and powerful (though they might not be on board with those words to begin with) and they inspire me all the time. They make me raise the bar, increase my capacity, and uncover a new level of strength.

I will never lie to you.

I will tell it as it is (chronic oversharer).

Yeh it is f**king hard.

But it is f**king worth it.

And this is just the start. I have big plans to make a LOT of people feel worthy and walk around the world as big magnets to their wants and desires.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for all of the support. All the comments, likes, shares, responses to my letters. They mean the world. If you are ever wondering if you should tell someone about how their work has helped you, DO IT. You have no idea if that message is the one that makes them keep the doors open.

Also I would not have made it through this year without my three rocks. Matt, Kalina and Amy have kept me afloat so many times and I do not want to think of what this year would have been like without you. I don’t think my doors would still be open. So thank you!

As a thank you I am opening the doors to WAKE UP WORTHY, my 21 day somatic self-worth challenge, for just £11. It is honestly worth sooo much more. 3 people who did it in March have told me they have already gone back to do it again because they love the practices so much. They are honestly so fun! Would highly recommend joining and if you have no clue what somatics actually is this is a great introduction.

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Thank you so much for being here!

Sending you lots of love,

Emma x x x x

“So what do you do Emma?”

“I ermmmm… I… what do I do…… I ….. Erm …..good question……. Sorry……. Ermmmmm”

*panic setting in as all words are betraying me*

“I am a s….somatic self worfff coach”

“Oh cool thats great”

*ground swallow me*

This hasn’t happened to me in a while, it used to happen all the time, but last week at net-WALKING I completely fumbled my introduction.

Walking back home I started getting this familiar feeling. A dark cloud. Fuzzy head. Feeling like if I didn’t hold it together I would just collapse on the concrete. Tears on standby. Lump in throat. SHAME. My old friend.

This is the conversation I had with shame when I got home:

E: Hi shame, I see you.

S: You were sooo embarrassing! A self-worth coach who can’t even speak? Everyone felt so awkward and cringed so bad.

E: I get it. You don’t want me to network again do you?

S: Nooo you are so embarrassing socially.

E: I’m actually not. I am human and I am putting myself out there and that’s hard. My voice has always struggled but it doesn’t mean I should stop using it. Look how far I have come already? I would never have gone to something like that in the past. I am actually doing great.

S: *Sulks and goes away*

Cloud lifted and strength came back into my body.

To be extra safe from a spiral I told Matt about my fumble when I got home because shame thrives alone. Matt said he was proud of me and that I am doing great. Then I talked to my instagram story about it and now I am telling you and its light as a feather now.

In the past I would have spiralled about this for weeks. Applied for some socialising-free part-time roles, contemplated deleting my business and crawled into bed for days. But speaking to the shame, shifting it somatically and getting some compassion kept me firmly on my feet and in my worth.

To the point where, I sh*t you not, I heard these words coming out of my mouth to Matt that night.. “I think I want to do some speaking gigs this year”. I am only just realising that was the same day and it is making me laugh.

But yes shame has the ability to completely derail you and take drastic steps and courage, faith, worth has the ability to do the same in the other direction.

How on earth did I go from ‘never interact with another human ever again’ to ‘I want to speak to 100 humans at the same time’?

Working with your soma/ emotions doesn’t mean you stop having emotions, it means you know how to work with them when they show up.

I felt it, the dark cloud, the weak body, I named it, shame, then I listened to it, I give it space to exist. Normally we ignore shame which angers it and makes it shout abuse to us louder. It wants to be seen and acknowledged. It wants to protect us from being banished from the village. But when we speak back and let it know we are safe and strong it tends to ease off.

Shame tells us to hide but if you reply with '“nice try” it knows it isn’t in control. You take responsibility and show up anyway.

I want to show you how to do this. I have one spot available to work with me 1:1 and I can teach you how to do exactly that.

Slay that shame

Thanks so much for being here.

Lots of love,

Emma x x x x

P.S if you don’t want to commit to a whole 8 weeks how about 21 days? I have a 21 day somatic self-worth challenge and it is sooo powerful. Everyone said they increased their self-worth in 21 days 😱 I didn’t realise it was going to be such a powerful resource and you can access it all now for just £21. I over-gave so you get loads for your money 😂

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A few months ago I noticed that the clients I was attracting were predominantly empaths. Deep feeling people with big hearts. It was delightful and I thought ahhh this is the ‘niche’ thing everyone talks about. So I changed everything to ‘I work with empaths’. It was true, I did.

But then when I was trying to figure out what to share I was getting stuck. Yes I was working with empaths but in sessions their empathy wasn’t really at the forefront. It was often something they didn’t acknowledge. What they were looking for was self-worth, setting boundaries, taking up space, getting their dream job. So yes I was helping empaths, but not necessarily on their empathy.

Another thing that was confusing me was being an empath myself, I don’t really understand the concept of not being one. You mean there are people who walk into a room and don’t immediately feel the sadness of the man in the corner? I don’t understand that.

Anyway this ‘niche’ business jargon was making things feel off because the empath piece wasn’t the center of my work. My work just helped those qualities in my clients flourish when their worth began to grow.

I was pulling my hair out trying to think what the hell to talk about. Going to shut down my business for good because how could I coach if I couldn’t even speak freely on the topic. I had hit a wall and I was fully ready to give up until I decided to pull myself together and figure this out.

So I sat down and took a minute to really get clear on who my dream clients were, who I was working with, and then it clicked. My dream clients are those whose worth doesn’t match their ambition. They have big dreams and goals and ideas but their self-worth is holding them back.

That was the common thread that tied my clients together. BINGO!

All of a sudden I was flooded with ideas, stories, experiences. I was thinking about how I always had big dreams but a tiny slice of self-worth. I felt so sturdy in who my audience was. It all made sense.

So yes I messed up. I was unclear. I got a bit lost. Sorry for the confusion. I am only human.

I wasn’t unsure on what I was offering, I was unsure on who I was offering it to. But now that feels so much clearer, I am on FIRE! There is nothing in my way.

People have been saying things like “something has shifted, you seem so much more confident”. And it’s because I have gotten so much clarity.

I did a photoshoot with the amazing Kayleigh King on Friday and it felt SO good to be like BOOM this is what I am doing. I want you to have this feeling too. This clarity.

So ambitious souls who don’t quite feel worthy yet of your wildest dreams, you are in the right place. Empath or not, you are in the right place if you are experiencing a gap between your ambition and your worth.

I am on a mission to help you feel your worth in every cell of your body!!!

Thanks so much for being here!

Lots of love,

Em x x x x

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Weirdly, even when I felt completely worthless, I still had this pull towards following my dreams. I always thought I was a terrible dancer but I always pictured myself on big stages and pursued it anyway. It was such a contradiction.

I thought I was alone in this because the people who were pursuing their dreams seemed to feel worthy of them but then I remember a student of mine years ago saying a line that blew my mind. She had this dream of building a retreat centre in her garden where she would offer energy healing and massage. There was this brightness in her eyes and excitement when she talked about it what she would run and who would come. I was excited with her, then she said “But it probably won’t happen because I wouldn’t be able to run a business” she laughed “I just like to dream but my confidence doesn’t match my ambition”.

“No no no you need to make this happen!!” I said in a panic. “It sounds amazing.” She got a bit excited again.

“We’ll see”

She had put into words what I had experienced my whole life. My self-worth didn’t match my ambition.

I was determined for her to make it happen so each week when she came to class I asked her how the studio was going until it was complete and she opened it. It is now wildly popular and successful. My little heart is so happy for her.

She did it! She made it happen and it was SO important that she made it happen! But what if everyone she shared that dream with agreed with her and said “you wouldn’t be able to run a business”.

I now work with people who have this exact problem. A self-worth gap between ambition and belief they are worthy of their dreams.

Something I CAN’T STAND is people losing hope and settling for mediocre. I can’t BEAR it. People giving up on their dreams is almost physically painful for me to witness. It breaks my heart.

If you tell me you are too old, too late, too busy, too poor to follow your dreams, your heart. I am going to sit and persuade you otherwise, for hours. I won’t accept it. There’s always a way. It might not happen exactly the way you imagined but there’s always a way.

My clients often call me a cheerleader. I am a wildly devoted cheerleader. My words are not flimsy. I BELIEVE you are capable. Even when you don’t.. Yet.

Dreams become so fragile when they are doubted. This is why they should be protected from non-believers (sometimes ourselves). Protected by a shield of faith. Because they are so so precious.

Dreams don’t manifest without faith. We don’t get a preview of the future. Of it all working out. We have to have faith. We have to trust without seeing how it will unfold. We have to act on faith and do it anyway.

I realise now that that is something I have always been blessed with. Faith. No self-worth, no confidence in my ability, but sheer faith it would happen anyway. But running on faith alone has been a difficult and rocky journey. Because every now and then your low self-worth will barge through the faith and say YOU ARE WORTHLESS YOU DON’T DESERVE ANYTHING. And it takes a while for faith to recover from that. If at all.

But faith and worth together is what has 10xed my life in every way. I have not only been able to take big, bold steps towards the life of my dreams, but I also feel completely worthy of it when the dream arrives. It’s a great duo to have.

It makes complete sense that my job now is to draw dreams out of people who had given up on them and help reignite the faith in them that they can and are going to happen.

No more flat, grey, life. Exciting, fulfilling drive for a life you want to expand into.

Whether you come to me with faith and no self-worth or no self-worth and no faith, I will help bring that back to life. No matter how much doubt life pelted at you.

So you know those dreams you used to have that you gave up on? It is time to bring them back to life.

I have helped clients:

• Write a book they always dreamed of

• Start a podcast talking about what lights them up

• Get a dream job with twice as much money they expected

• Find a kind of love they had given up on

• Go viral and get recognised by big names

I am forever getting emails from clients saying “guess what?!” followed by something they doubted would ever happen for them. One of the testimonials I re-read a lot is “Emma encouraged dreams that I have felt external pressure to let go of for a long time”. My heart breaks at the idea of her surrendering to that pressure.

If you want a coach who will have unshakeable FAITH in you feeling your worth and achieving your dreams.. Hi! Lets f**king gooooo!

If you are new here I am Emma I am a somatic self-worth coach and I help you get your mind AND body on board with the life you dream of.

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Thank you for being here! Don’t give up!

Lot of love,

Em x x x x

The quickest way to review your self-worth is to look at how you are allowing yourself to be treated today.

Have you allowed your boundaries to be crossed?

Have you shown up for yourself?

Have you accepted less than the standard of care you provide for your friends?

The answers to these will give you a good idea about where your self-worth is at.

And it isn’t a mental game.

You can’t just say “I need to stop doing that”.

You have to take embodied action and face the part of you that feels safer to accept this kind of treatment instead of enforcing boundaries.

I know you know you deserve more than this so it’s not your brain we need to work with.

It’s your body.

There’s something in your body which fears you remembering your worth because that will cause change and it is terrified of change.

Embodied self-worth comes from within.

It has to tease out everything that is protecting it out of fear.

You don’t improve your worth through flimsy affirmations.

You improve self-worth through deep, embodied, remembering.

And the part of you that hates the idea of this is holding you back from that.

Let’s speak to her.

How would it feel like if someone all of a sudden started going above and beyond for you. Out of nowhere they were showing up in a way that felt great, buying you gifts, showing you appreciation. Would that feel good or would it feel suspicious?

Years ago when my partner did something lovely out of the blue I would say “have you cheated or something?”, I mean I clearly had trust issues with people, but also I wondered what I had done to deserve this? Do I deserve this kind of treatment? It made me feel uneasy.

Take a moment to imagine you wake up one morning and your favourite breakfast is waiting for you, your coffee is hot on the bedside table, there’s fresh flowers in a vase with a note on saying how great you are. You open your phone and you have a email from your boss saying how much you are appreciated and your salary is going to triple right away. In the kitchen you notice your favourite cake is waiting for you in a box with a bow from the best bakery in town with some tickets on top for your favourite show.

What happens in your body imagining this?

Do you feel any tension?

What percentage of your body is on board with this treatment?

Is your jaw clenched?

Are your hips engaged?

Is your belly feeling activated?

There’s likely a part of your body, or lots of parts, that are not on board with being treated in this way. It is afraid. This fear can manifest as thoughts like, ‘why would someone treat me this well?’ ‘I don’t deserve this.’ ‘Something is wrong here.’

So we push it away. Throw the cake away, it must be poisonous, cut the tickets, it must be a scam and let the coffee go cold.

Back to the safety of normality.

And our body has evidence of why we should be suspicious. Because we have all been hurt by people we thought we trusted, we have all been disappointed by something that wasn’t what we thought it would be. We have all experienced pain.

And our body does not want us to experience this again. So it keeps us in the familiar. A place of low risk. The better things are, the more risk of eventual pain.

But you are DONE with the familiar. You want to get your spark back. You want to be treated well!

The good news this tension in the body is showing us EXACTLY where this fear lives. So with that information we can speak to it, sooth it, and let it know you are safe to be treated well. And when the body is on board, things move FAST!

I had a client shift chronic stomach pain in one session.

I had a client double income after one session.

I had a client go viral within a couple of weeks.

Because when your body is on board, you become a big walking YES to your desires.

Are you ready to become a walking yes?

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Thank you for being here. Send this to someone who deserves better!

Lots of love,

Emma x x x x

Changing your life for the better is never going to be convenient. The work it takes is never going to easily slot into your life. It’s going to challenge you, question you, cause tantrums (internal and external ones), bring you to your knees and all of that is completely and utterly.. inconvenient.

That’s why we put off going to the gym, we buy the ready made things instead of cooking from scratch, and we skip our morning meditation. It is inconvenient to do so and we have been babied since everything became so convenient for us. We can literally order something that will arrive the next day and we get annoyed when the wifi is slow and checkout takes more than 60 seconds. As if anything that doesn’t come easy is a burden.

I offer something that is a complete inconvenience. My work will bring up inconvenient emotions, question your relationships, and evoke deep and fundamental change within your mind and body. The convenient thing to do is not work with me.

But it will always be inconvenient to do the worthwhile thing.

Have you ever spent an afternoon cooking a pie from scratch? Rolling the pastry, chopping the filling, cooking the ingredients, delicately placing the pastry on the top, putting it in the oven. The experience of eating that pie is COMPLETELY different from eating the ready made frozen one. For one, homemade tastes so much better, but it also feels so much nicer to eat something you put love into while making it. It took you 4 hours and a ton of dishes but you got to feel the joy of baking and the reward of putting in the work.

I tease my dad for buying crap from TikTok shop. He has electric veg choppers, meat shredders, onion slicers, garlic peelers, all to spend less time in the kitchen and make things more convenient. And time savers sell, because we are all terrified of time slipping away from us so the flashy veg chopper that will chop in seconds is an easy buy. But most worthwhile things take time and effort and resources and energy and I am worried we don’t want that anymore.

My relationship is 14 years old. Do you think that has been passive? God no. Being in a long term committed relationship is actually really inconvenient. It brings up big emotions, disagreements happen and take time and effort to resolve and figuring out how we can grow separately and together simultaneously is a lot to navigate. But I wouldn’t change it for the world. I don’t want a passive partner. I want effort and communication and that is what I spend time on.

But I see this contradiction of what people want and what they are willing to work for. Wanting a devoted relationship but not wanting to put in the effort at the first bump in the road. Wanting to start a business but giving up when it gets tricky.

My work is not a quick and easy fix. Yes BIG shifts can happen quickly but it requires time and effort and facing the uncomfortable. It is not handed to you pre-chopped.

I have just finished my 21 day challenge Wake Up Worthy and those who completed it saw their worth improve in just 3 weeks! But that required commitment and focus and devotion from the participants showing up every single day. Sitting with discomfort. Feeling the big emotions. Allowing themselves to be honest about how they felt. All uncomfortable and SO inconvenient. But they have been rewarded for showing up.

We are used to being rewarded for minimum effort, so when we have to put in effort it’s not appealing. Like when I was a teenager and was told I needed to start doing the dishes after having them done for me my whole life. What?! I need to actually DO something?

With self-worth, yes you have to do something. Remembering your worth is not a switch, it is more like a plant that needs time to bloom again. It will not pop into your life. You have to work with it, water it, nourish it, to help it grow. That is the process I guide.

It will never be convenient to improve your self-worth.

It will never be convenient to spend the money investing in yourself and your future.

It will never be convenient to get the long lasting change you are looking for.

It will never be convenient to work with me.

My latest testimonial says “my only regret is that I didn’t do this sooner”. I don’t want you postpone your dream life because you are waiting for it to feel convenient. It is not going to.

If you are ready. Apply below.

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Thank you so much for being here!

Lots of love,

Em x x x x