Meghan Murphy’s sub on these two ex NBA players, Royce White and Enes Kanter, trying out for the women’s league next year in support of Sophie’s point protest about men being allowed into the women’s national basketball league lifted my maternal grief load, somewhat, and has continued to.

Normally politics is so draining on the personal, for all its stupidity, corruption and misogyny, but this and last month for me, the personal outdid the political for emotional drain, in particular with our children continuing their selfish and immature no-contact estrangement so not sending a single message to us or the wider family of condolence or remembrance of their Nana with whom they each had a pretty good and definitely loving relationship, before they collectively decided their mother was evil, and anyone associated with her was unworthy of their respect or time. That put a new sense of permanence on the estrangement.

But the service (in the grounds of our family home; photos below) went well and was otherwise well attended, and people appreciated my eulogy for which I bravely refrained from balling my eyes out or gnashing my teeth over the chronic lack of sibling (and wider family) support for me in this heartbreaking battle, siding instead with our children, though they only hear from our daughter these days. Our sons don’t contact anyone anymore, and none of them do public social media.

I will never get my head around how our super smart, funny and previously warm, loving and fabulous children could become so anti-me that they are 100% detached from the family. It appears they are so determined to hurt and effectively cancel me as a mother, they don’t feel any shame for not acknowledging my mother’s death, or contribute to her life celebration with a card or recorded message, or better still, showing up in person, as I had many times dreamed they might.

Mum only has/d one other grandchild. At least he was there. In fact he (14) carried his Nana’s coffin from the back garden, down the side of the house, then the sloping concrete driveway, and to the street where the hearse was waiting grandly. He did very well. But his older and stronger cousins should have helped him. Such a shame they weren’t.

But somehow, after returning from a hectic Sydney and a well run home and much stressed over service and send-off for Mum, I slumped into a sense of hopelessness and social media avoidance, then found myself obsessively building a new garden, “The Mums’ Garden” for all the lost and rejected mothers out there, including my mother, my mother-in-law, and me.

But I wasn’t feeling like writing, not even the Spinifex work that must be done, until I did a bit of scrolling on X and saw this point protest and these men’s cool protest in support of it and I felt better. I think it was a sense of sisterhood and community more broadly, something bigger than me and bigger than family, something shared by millions, so I don’t have to carry the burden alone, that lifted my spirits. Not being religious, or sporting, or particularly social these days, I don’t feel a sense of community easily or often. Mostly I feel like an outsider, but in Terlandia, I am on the inside, and that felt good.

I’m political and my children are political too. We’re on opposite sides of this trans thing and most other things besides that with the boys (men). It’s all very serious and sad, for all involved, but it’s not the end of the world. Men being allowed to play in women’s top level sports, or any sports, IS nearly the end of the world, and other men protesting this outrage in a very effective and attention-grabbing kind of way is Hope that the end of the world will be avoided, young men will have positive role models for a change, and everyone will come to their senses about “trans”.

I realise — but struggle to believe because it’s been so long — that Royce at 35 and Enes 34 are barely older than our sons, who are 33 and 27-8. We haven’t seen either of them for nearly eight years. We may not recognise them if we did or do.

These guys, who are clever and charming with their serious protest, give me hope for the internet-raised and warped young generation of men that came up with our sons as guinea pigs for the rise of the machines, gaming, social media, abusive porn, incel misogyny, the Taliban and Tates, etc.

Sophie (30 just turned) also gives me hope for my daughter (31).

Of course their good faith protest was labelled “bad faith” by the trans puppeteers in the WNBA, again saying the opposite of the truth, namely that men’s claim to be actual women needing sports affirmation on women’s teams is anything more virtuous that men intentionally lying about that, while cheating women and putting their safety at risk.

Trans activists and sportsmen are the epitome of bad faith actors. TERFs are as genuine as they come. There are no good faith trans males who want to join women’s sports teams or enter our bathrooms, prisons, etc. They are all bad faith actors.

These guys want people to know how much bigger they are than the women. Royce is 6ft 8, and told media his hands are registered as the third largest ever recorded. And his mate, Enes is even taller, at 6ft 10. Both men have made a point of emphasizing their masculine features, size and strength advantage over the women, even as they say they are women, which is all the WNBA requires them to do. To say it. Not show it. No hormones or any other change is required.

Kanter declaring “Let the transition to the WNBA begin”, uses the T-word more accurately than they use it, to describe what he is consciously doing by “transitioning” from being a former male NBA player to being a woman trying out for the national women’s basketball league, the WNBA. He was the first to step up for this novel, potentially game-changing male protest in support of women. Let there be more!

Because literal thousands of women and girls across the West have already been cheated out of sports placements, awards and scholarships across all the sports where male size and strength advantages matter, which is most sports.

Oddly (not), you don’t see (m)any men vying to join the women’s gymnastics teams. Could it have something to do with the fact that in gymnastics, women’s greater physical flexibility and generally smaller, lighter and finer skeletons than men have, are all advantages in this sport, and men’s greater bulk is a disadvantage.

This exposes the con. If “transwomen” were real, they’d be wanting to play in all women’s sports, and the female versions would be wanting to play in men’s sports. Instead, its only the men who say they are women who want to play in some women’s sports, only those where their greater male body strength and size and speed are advantages.

Cunningham’s brave, defiant and original “point protest”, at just 29, and while still playing in the national women’s basketball league, in fact being a top player, partly also relieves my angst about her generation of women being “woke” shills for the latest men’s rights movement, all while believing they are saving the world from all the mean mothers like their own.

Sophie, like her sporting TERF forebears, such as Riley Gaines, Martina Navratilova, Sharron Davies, Jennifer Sey, Angela Carini, April Hutchinson, and many more, screams alpha female bravery in her every move. They are the women who will save us or we won’t be saved. And I need saving right about now…

Meanwhile, over here in my remote corner of the world… A few shots from our homegrown send-off and life celebration for my mother who died at 102, just one week off 103.

Thanks for reading :-)

Thank you, in advance, to any and all participants in my survey. I will report back on the results shortly. 💌

Apologies for this slightly delayed sub. Let me just offer three letters of explanation: H R T, and leave it there. 🥴

This from the mainstream media on the day, methinks does protest Kellie-Jay’s alleged “anti-trans” stance a tad too much, given, among other things, that the image they used with this alleged “anti-trans” claim about Kellie-Jay, makes a liar of them by showing her looking clearly the victim, and seriously assaulted and in shock, with the fear of death still clinging to her face, from her experience of the conflict with trans activists that day. No sign of any trans looking embattled from all Kellie-Jay’s terrible “anti-transness’. And this was all without her having spoken a word of Terf politics, the whole reason for her visit, or even been able to shout a basic greeting to her supporters. The noise level was just far too crazy for that!

Clearly the conflict between Terfs and trans and allies that day was so much worse than boos and heckling the paper describes. Indeed Kellie-Jay was very open about having feared she was going to be trampled to death and would never see her four young children or husband again, nor they see her. And she is as fearless as they come, as I think maybe even the TRAs might concede.

Here Kellie-Jay emerges from the mob and scrum of marshals and security guards, and an off-duty police officer, that together saved her life that day, after just twenty minutes or half an hour max inside the park. And with the police only there to greet her — and get this photo — with her stunned face telling the truth that no number of captured journalists could or would ever report in words.

So with media like this, and so much of it, there is a pressing need to tell the truth of what happened that day in my adopted home city of Auckland, from the perspective of the silenced, terrorised and misrepresented women, including Kellie-Jay and the women who organised and marshalled the event. And that is what our book Don’t Let Women Speak aims to do. And with the help of Spinifex, it has a good chance of succeeding…

The full mission statement for Spinifex reads:

“Spinifex Press is an award-winning independent feminist press, publishing innovative and controversial feminist books with an optimistic edge”, emphasis added.

As a fairly world-weary feminist writer and researcher for many decades, I appreciate that it can feel like our only tone is critical and negative, and even more so in the age of trans tyranny where feminist words are more harshly censored and deliberately misrepresented to sound more negative. So I very much agree that an “optimistic edge” is important for modern feminist writing. And I hope our book is well placed to deliver that optimism — considering the very negative nature of the main event — in the bravery of the women, and in the growing Terf resistance and fightback that the event spurred on in NZ and beyond, as the accounts in part two report on.

We’ve also got the “controversial” covered — although the controversy is starting to change sides, if I may borrow Gisele Pelicot’s excellent conceptual addition to the modern feminist fight. We mean to change the shame from Terfs being relentlessly shamed as “anti-trans” and bigoted, to trans activists being repackaged as angry thugs with a woman problem, and that is putting their problem mildly. The truth is going to change sides with this book.

That Spinifex is still run by its formidable founders, Susan Hawthorne and Renate Klein, shows their deep commitment to the cause, as well as their abundant wealth of talents needed to keep a PROPER FEMINIST publishing house (in Australia!) running for any length of time, while also being prolific feminist writers themselves, and then winning awards. Most recently one of their fiction writers, Merlinda Bobis, was shortlisted for the 2026 ACT Literary Award for fiction for In the Name of the Trees.

This impressive list of titles for 2025-2026 shows the quality and integrity of their brand, not least with the excellent TERF ISLAND by Sex Matters’ Fiona McAnena, a similar book to ours in recording the voices and experiences of the leading frontline Terfs in the country, this time in the UK. It is fitting that this book precedes our recording of NZ Terf voices, as the UK is indeed considered to be the frontline of the Terf frontline, hence its name “Terf Island”, leading the way for others to follow. Indeed Kellie-Jay is featured in this book as one of Terf Island’s leading Terfs.

And this 2023 protest at Albert Park Auckland, would have been more accurately called the “Don’t Let Women Speak” protest, so that is now our working title (the subtitle yet to be finalised). It refers not only to the event, but to what preceded it by the way of some truly disgraceful and relentless media attacks on Kellie-Jay and her supporters, with activists whipping up a public rage against her/us and even tried to get our Minister of Immigration to revoke her British visa to enter the country, an entirely unprecedented move to even try. And all of it was, as we know, based on these hard-out lies that KJ and supporters were bigots, Nazis and white supremacists, anything bad at all, as well as “anti-trans”, as the above MSM news piece published the day of the riots (25 March 2023) shows, along with their readiness to lie about and contradict themselves for trans.

The photo in the context of the article that screams with sympathy for those that did this to her, while strongly implying she got what she deserved, shows that the media were not troubled by the usual journalistic values of impartiality and accuracy. I don’t think I have ever seen a more brazenly false and hateful media pile on.

So it would seem all the more important that we get the TRUE stories of the women who were at Albert Park in support of Kellie-Jay, who were also violently silenced that day, twenty-plus other women, from the event organisers and marshals, to some more reluctant participants that were “peaked” to join the local Terf resistance that day, having had their Terf consciousness radically raised by what they saw and experienced there, many of them left in shock and trauma from it, some too much so to make a contribution to the book.

In particular, women were left traumatised by the clearly planned inaction of the police who were there in significant numbers that dat, but who stood back and did absolutely nothing to protect Kellie-Jay and us from the severe rage and aggression that was levelled against us, in public, with thousands of witnesses. Indeed the head police officer, in the midst of the mobbing, even told the lead marshal, a tiny woman in her sixties, who begged him for help for the women being attacked all around him, that they were “not here to protect you”, revealing a callous, and indeed unprecedented disregard for women’s safety and our right to speak publicly at a council permitted event without being aggressively bullied, indeed terrorised into silence, a response that continues to traumatize her and many other women who were there or who watched it on the livestream.

The event is now considered a watershed moment in and awakening for the sex realist, gender critical movement for women’s rights to be restored against their undemocratic removal by a self-appointed men’s rights elite pretending to be vulnerable women. The twenty-something different women’s voices from that day that are shared in this book, including mine and Jill’s, and one young woman who was four months pregnant, as well as a few male allies, such as the photographer of that iconic shot, highlight the range of ways that trans activism can and has negatively impacted people and without the media ever reporting on it. In this way it hopes to shed much needed light and truth on what women like us actually care about and are fighting for, and why.

And in part two we can see more clearly from these first-hand accounts, how hard it has been, and continues to be, for women to continue to fight this open opposition to speaking the vitally important truth on trans, some of us even from our own, trans-allied or identified children. Though the resistance and fightback accounts have an optimistic tone overall.

This part two of the book includes a summary evaluation of the entirely inadequate report from the Police Complaints Authority responding to the hundreds of complaints lodged about the police failings that day, not least from the women at Albert Park. But despite some admission of failure, this was put down to poor communication and a lack of preparedness, nothing to do with ideological capture by the trans cult. Further accountability from the police continues to be sought.

Thanks also to some excellent photos of the crude placards — some of which will be included in the book — the trans activists brought that day, and the videos taken, one that ended up being seen by millions around the world, we saw all too clearly the anti-women sentiment and motive driving the trans activist frontline, more emphatically and graphically then we had been shown it before. This included Kellie-Jay’s live feed filmed defiantly from the rotunda, doused in blood-like tomato juice and eggs, even as she became trapped by the raging, deafening mob that surrounded her. All the while she called ‘Where are the police?’ repeatedly, but to no avail.

Let’s hope this book can help towards getting some accountability for the women who were so appallingly treated that day, with a possible appeal to the Minister of Justice to admit our fundamental right to freedom of expression and belief was denied by the agents of the state.

But first, we’ve got a final edit to do before Spinifex takes over the manuscript — all being well with that edit — and works its professional magic on the whole, to bring it together as a compelling account of the event that woke up a great chunk of the western world to the growing trans menace, and that made a legend of probably the tiniest, but certainly the most towering political activist of our trans-troubled times.

Thank you Kellie-Jay, and Spinifex, for giving us Kiwi Terfs the opportunity, and courage, to speak up for ourselves, and this time to be heard!

The cat cake post still very much fits our traans-mad times five years on, not least the fact that the fake ‘woman’ is still the one with the smug smile, while the real ‘woman’ looks confused, imploring and long-suffering, as well as being behind the fake one, which is roughly my permanent expression, mood and state vis-à-vis traans these days.

But never mind cake. Onto the drug charge…

Although spelling has never exactly been a strength, apparently my mistyping of the brave h-word for the drug one and visa versa is a common mistake. Also, when I googled ‘heroine’ to check this, they replied:

In truth, I am not exactly clear on the extent of the fb ban, except that text and photos are allowed, and they said links and videos are not. Also my account is listed as being ‘at risk’ (till 25 June). All for typing the word for brave woman and ‘good’ in close proximity.

And because this happened when I was on a rare Facebook roll at the time, getting thousands of likes and hundreds of shares and comments on several posts on the decision in the case I now refer to as Sall v Dickle, I suspect traans sabotage. Because it totally broke my stride and I was replying to a provocative comment on one of my posts. The commenter had told me off for using ‘shero’ to refer to Sall, and told me I should use the h-word instead, prompting me to type that this was a good word but I preferred shero for the sisterhood punch, or something like that. The ban notice was almost instant.

Of course Sall herself was Facebook banned (since lifted) from posting on her page around the same time. She was even told it was a permanent ban, for posting material on the decision in HER OWN CASE, and gaining a massive leap of 25,000 new followers and other supportive traffic on what Meta told her was a ‘controversial subject’. Yeah right:

Apparently fighting to establish in a court of law that:

‘MEN ARE NOT WOMEN!’

is ‘controversial’ in 2026. How is this even real?

Part of the problem, speaking as the mother of sons that were caught up in the anti-women wave of sentiment that traans has significantly contributed to in the last decade or two, is that too many men with inherited or otherwise easy money, like most of the traans’ leaders, have way too much freedom and not nearly enough real challenge or responsibility or purpose in their lives, especially in middle age. This leads to fantasies of world domination and with it, for so many men weakened by too little challenge in their lives, fantasies of dominating and destroying women, based on their deep resentment of women who have what they cannot have, a womb, ovaries, breasts, menstruation, softer facial features and skin, and so they resort to using violence and threats, etc., to force or scare women into obeying them and submitting to them.

This is the power trip that keeps men fighting to be allowed in the women’s pond in Hampstead, a fight that recently saw men peeing in the pond openly to literally piss off the women. How PETTY men can be! And ew yuk! I mean, seriously? How old are these pain-in-the-pond — and everywhere else — idiots?

But to get back to answer my own question above about how this can even be real, I reckon AI has a LOT to answer for. Like Wiki before it, it has now, it seems to me, been captured and programmed by traans-paid engineers (hopefully not our estranged firstborn who’s a senior SE) to lie for them. After the most recent (of several) traans matricides and patricides, I did a bit of research on rates of homicide for traans.

This is just flat out lying and even telling the opposite of the truth, a devious tactic that they favour, substituting ‘traans’ where women and misogyny would much better fit, and all in the name of a neutral robot. That’s some scary futuristic, machines working for the tyrants taking over, stuff.

I started another sub on it a while back, since abandoned:

I highlighted the recent Oxford Uni study just published and subbed on by , showing that ‘traans’ males are “more likely to be murderers than murdered.” I recommend tracking that study down on Katrina’s brilliant “A B’old Woman” sub.

The AI lying is insane and terrifying, though. The younger generations would not question it or bother to find the study to verify anything. No wonder they think traans are vulnerable and Terfs are tyrants for not caring about them.

But it is truly unbelievable that Sall Grover, a real world Wonder Woman is fighting this fight for women’s most basic rights, to be allowed to exclude men from our social spaces if we want to, like her women-only Giggle app for girls to socialize with each other, in a safe, private and fun place without male predators or pervs. The good men stay away without being asked or told.

But one good thing of it all is that the Sall v. Dickle outrage seems to have been the last straw for so many people who had kept quiet about it all till now, and so much so that this stampede of support for her, even a mini stampede of support (mostly) on accounts like mine, managed to wrong-foot the ever prepared traans mafia. So that is something to be grateful for and celebrate.

As Kara recently acknowledged on her sub after her X account was shut down by traans activists and ‘tech bros’, these men have advanced skills of digital manipulation far exceeding anything most of us have, which is certainly true for myself, and so we must expect to be outdone by them. I used to have a very tech savvy son, who helped me with such things, but not since I became a bigot and a bully to him, too bad to even text or talk to, at all let alone help.

Still, we battle on, we mothers and fathers and feminists and Terfs and LGB activists and de-transitioners and whistleblowers who know that technology cannot save us from this nightmare; because it has indeed done so much to facilitate it.

But only humanity at its most human — intelligent and caring — defending people who are actually vulnerable, which includes women, can save us from this dark side of misogynist inhumanity that has risen up in more recent years. And tech skills or not, we on these pages, on the right side of this so very modern battle, are the humans best positioned to do that saving, in our small and big ways, which is something. It’s a lot, in fact. We should all be proud. XX

This is far more ‘likes’ comments and shares than I am used to. The outpouring of support for Sall since this disgracefully sexist decision has been extremely encouraging, and evidence of James’ prediction of a mass awakening to the horrors and misogyny of the traans movement.

Sorry for the image, though, but the inside-and-out ugliness (of his own making) of this pink man being supported by the Australian state to go out of his way to silence and ruin the real-world Wonder Woman that is Sall Grover, and ALL women, especially the strong ones who won’t be cowed by bullies, the women who say NO! really does symbolize the whole absurd wrongness of this case.

But this very modern, if still classically patriarchal battle of the sexes is proving, once again, the absolute political necessity of having strong, smart women of integrity who will NOT be subordinated to men and ruled by their bullying, lies and prejudices in that space, something we almost have traans to thank for showing us. The women who have supported these men are not alphas.

The alpha females are the natural leaders of any mixed sex group, the only people capable of understanding and sympathizing with both women and men, while recognising, at an older age, and working to rein in, prevent and stop the power-mad Ted Bundys and other out of control alpha men. These male alphas have shown themselves over and over again to be positively disinclined to lead societies and battles that are fair and equal for women. Beta males, who are generally fairer to women, alas have shown they cannot control alpha males either. Obama is a classic example of what happens when a Beta male comes up against the power-mad alphas leading the traans movement, narcissistic billionaire (mostly inherited $) bullies who use bribes and threats of violence, and actual violence, to get what they want, same as it ever was for alpha male mafias. But the beta male leaders capitulated to the traans tyrants, as did Trudeau and many other male leaders across the West, including NZ’s former gay male deputy Labour PM when sex self-ID was passed.

And traans has also shown us the extent to which beta females, like these three flanking Tickle, including the ridiculously cosmetic blushing Sex Discrimination commissioner in pink, with two more pretend women MEN either side of Tickle, standing back to hide their man height while showing their thuggish alpha-male support for Tickle should anyone doubt the strength of their clenched male fists — 160% more power than a clenched female fist.

On that note, a court case between women and men when only men can come backed with a serious threat of violence, is already rigged against women. Imagine the state compounding that advantage and calling it democracy. In reality it is not only obscenely misogynist it is about as stupid as it gets if you want a healthy, functioning society. That’s what we get with alpha males and beta females running the show. That sex situation in politics needs a sex switch, as I see it.

But tough as Sall and her alpha female support team are, Sall made it crystal clear that she is gutted by the decision:

Rachel Wong, pictured above and below, Sall’s loyal ally throughout and fierce Aussie Terf in her own right, as CEO of Women’s Forum Australia, reported on Sky News Live soon after the verdict, and looking suitably pissed off, that Sall had broken down crying in court when she heard the unbelievable verdict.

I appreciate Rachel letting us know that Sall cried, while also respecting Sall not wanting her tears public for these bastards to feast on.

But there is of course NO shame, and indeed considerable dignity even courage in a woman stretched to beyond breaking point but fighting on against this evil insanity, showing her genuine despair and distress by crying to have her country put her through this outrageous trial process for four years, only to charge her with direct more than the previous indirect discrimination and fine her more than last time, and get her to pay his costs! She had to raise $1million for this trial and more for the first one, and now for the next and final one at the High Court; he, the sexual pervert who insists he’s a woman, gets his costs covered by the state or her.

I wish the whole country could see those rarely seen Alpha female truth tears and know what their own indifference or heartless opposition to her and this bloody fight for women looks like in the flesh.

But if James is right, and the signs are somewhat promising in the day and a half since the decision, this brazen abuse of women’s rights and public punishment of a good and courageous young woman (and all women) to benefit an outrageously bad, self-serving, entitled and creepy man, and others like him, as well as their misogynist backer$, will be the awakening of many on the sidelines of politics to encourage them to leave the sidelines of politics and join the main event to give regular support to all the alpha women and the best beta men, like James Dreyfus, fighting for everyone’s future free of self-serving, violent tyrants in positions of power and influence.

Bad men can be insanely cunning. For some time now I have been thinking of traans activists as the Ted Bundys of politics, with their extreme cunning and misogyny, with all the women they groomed into power to pass sex self-ID legislation and take the blame when it blows up. Work that is as sexist and — ultimately — self-destructive as any political work could be, and it is women leading the way. That’s by extremely cunning design, not the usual political processes.

Bundy who enjoyed raping and killing and even cutting off the heads of young women pretended to be unwell or injured on various university campuses to entice in dozens, even hundreds, some believe, of young women students that he went on to rape, murder and even behead, he had that much disgust for women and that little regard for their humanity, or even his own, for that matter. And he didn’t look like a monster. He looked some kind of charming, according to most assessments. But he was a monster. Moreover he was and is evidence that humanity has lost its way. Traans is more evidence of this.

And so for the traans males who ‘pass’ or think they pass as women and that that makes everything alright about them being called women and being allowed access to our single-sex spaces, etc., it doesn’t. It’s not about ‘passing’ or presenting one way or another. It’s about what’s inside these men’s heads and hearts that counts, just as it was with Bundy, and as it is for all the leaders and the majority of followers of traans, this desire to dominate and resubordinate if not destroy entirely womankind, if Jennifer Bilek is right about their trans-humanist endgame, to build technology that makes female wombs and breasts redundant.

This below has just come in from a new Facebook thread on my page on the Sall case and Graham’s X response that is also popular. Clearly from a man, it goes on far too long for my sub:

Trans women aren’t just women, they are biological women.

We are nothing if not our brains. You don’t love someone because of their chromosomes, liver, kidney, uterus or heart - you love them because of their brain. Brain development has far more meaning and validity as a marker for womanhood (or manhood) than chromosomes.

Suddenly we animals, like no other animal ever, has to disregard genitals for ‘brain’ connection? And by that they mean women, that is lesbians, must disregard penis and balls to focus on the wonderfully engaging, not at ALL self-loving, brains of these darling men with their girl names.

But enough of them!

The good news is the Terf resistance has already gained significant momentum overnight and will continue to do this, I suspect, in the lead up to the High Court challenge to this decision, which they are saying will be soon. And as seen the case has already catapulted Sall around the globe and is trending everywhere. Kara D dedicated much of her TERF report this week (link below) to Sall, and Graham Linehan wrote an excellent and already widely restacked sub on the case here.

The Australian Sex Discrimination Act simply MUST be changed back to what it was, and the country and world need to be woken up for good to the outrages that have been committed against humanity, especially in he West, and most particularly against its women and girls, in the name of traans!

But until that happens, let’s finish with the thank you to Sall that the brilliant US Terf alpha XX Kara Dansky posted from all women and girls on her latest TERF Report:

We all hear you, Sall. And we are going to win this together eventually. And eventually is coming sooner than you think. XX

The BBC article these two photos are taken from (Feb 15) is on Upton leaving the NHS after the Peggie case wrapped up. And even though Sandie won more than lost that case, the BBC report on it is openly sympathetic to Upton, a sympathy that these very different images reflect. Where Sandie is shown with an unsmiling, almost confused look, as well as being flushed, and unevenly, suggesting tampering of the image, with her left eye shadowed with red-pink and not the right eye, Upton is smiling while looking windswept and relaxed in soft focus, and blurred as if an action shot, to look more natural and not posed.

In reality, I very much suspect no shot was ever more posed, as it is clearly their favoured shot, or versions thereof, that appears all over his profile pages and other news on the Peggie case, and again now for his transfer last week to NSW, no doubt where he will set about abusing Australia’s women and girls’ rights to privacy and safety to exclude a fully intact male doctor who insists he is female from their work changing rooms and toilets. Registered as a female doctor, he is also entitled to treat female patients, young and old, who request a female doctor. I still can hardly believe I’m writing sentences like that one.

And they clearly favour this heavily curated shot because he ‘passes’ — at a glance, and heavily touched up no doubt, possibly even all prearranged in a photo shoot prior, with actors.

In fact, this and other MSM news on Upton has led me to put on my pointiest conspiracy hat to suggest that the local/global traafia involved in this case targeted Sandie, unknowingly, and Upton, knowingly, before that, to be the faces of this arm of the traans’ normalisation project, a project that media coverage like this significantly contributes to in their favour, is the end-game of this whole movement, to prove, with modern smoke and mirror deceptions, that men can ‘pass’ as women, making sex separation futile.

Of course he doesn’t remotely ‘pass’ in his 6ft hulking man-body, not image-enhanced, pervy-eyed flesh, as Sandie so thoroughly and courageously proved.

This also shows us how disgustingly powerful the traans lobby is globally, as the extensive favourable media coverage screaming:

“UK DOCTOR CLEARED OF ANY WRONGDOING”

— and curated publicity images and stories like this all do show, to add the intimidation of real-world harm that is also a central pillar of traa playbook.

And so, in sum, I think the whole expensive, drawn out and grueling case that is still going on for Sandie and her supporters, who are appealing the decision that cleared Upton of wrongdoing, was basically an elaborate publicity stunt and effective win for global traans. And the fact that he is now working as a doctor in Australia as if the case never happened, using the same promotional images, with the Aussie’s shamefully picking up the toxic traans baton and running with it, openly inviting the same work-place harassment of female nurses, doctors and patients as happened in the UK, tends to prove it. And Australia has enough traans shite to deal with as it is.

But I won’t go there today. Instead I will finish with this BEST recent news, and image shared, I have seen in a long bloody while, as retweeted and commented on by Helen Joyce on X yesterday. It made my day:

Our Graham has been cleared of the outrageous woe-is-traans mobile phone damage charge that saw him arrested at Heathrow last year, and Kemi is openly supporting him and saying how outrageous the arrest was. Kemi for PM, please, the first political Conservative I have ever endorsed. I guess I must be getting old(er)…

Ten percent of high-schoolers identifying as ‘traans’. That’s so scary when we know that there were no traans kids ten to twenty years ago, and that there is no such thing as a natural trans child or young person. And we know that no young person can consent to being socially ‘affirmed’ as the opposite sex, let alone the medical ‘affirmation’ they have shoved on our children. No children or YA can rationally want to change their sex. But today in Beth Bourne’s America, literally hundreds of thousands of young people have come out as traans.

So Beth will not back down. Here she is trying a different tactic of carrying a sign that reads: MORE MASTECTOMIES FOR MINORS! The girls 16-ish she asks about it seem a little thrown by this but then agree that girls of 16 should be allowed to get their breasts cut off. Beth, of course, immediately challenges them on this, and for that she was served with a ‘no trespass’ order by the school, as she announced a few days ago.

Below is from 2023 when she stripped off in front of her children’s school board to show them how uncomfortable it is for the women and the men present, as she very much showed, to illustrate how wrong it is to expect GIRLS to have to do this in front of boys at school every day.

It looks here as though she has successfully shamed these school board members into running away rather than facing the truth of what they are doing to girls. And what a total shero she is to have done this, particularly when she knew even then that every such move made her more hated by the the dangerous and fragile traas. There was little media coverage, of course, but naturally the traas had to weigh in by claiming victimhood for ‘trans kids, suggesting Beth made them feel “uncomfortable”:

Of course she is the one who is ANTI. Eye-roll.

They are masters of linguistic twisting with ‘traans kids’ seen as Beth’s victims when the reality, as we all know, is that these kids like Jazz Jennings and Chloe Cole, and so many others, are the victims of a dedicated and sustained child traans grooming system by some very rich and sick adults, resulting in thousands and thousands of double mastectomies on minor girls, and a crazy high number of castrations for boys told they will be happy living as girls without their male genitalia, all to normalise sex confusion, perversion and the removal of boundaries to accessing women and girls undressed. What about the actual girls and young women who actually do feel uncomfortable and afraid by males in their private spaces? What about women’s and girls’ discomfort? Actual law courts have failed to even ask this much for so many ‘traans’ cases.

And for the latest from Bilek’s sub, check out a piece written by a group of Physicians in Colorado on the billionaire “Four Horsemen” three Democrat men and a woman that got big traans off the ground, first in Colorado, by turning reliably Red Colorado Blue, in the early 2000s. These people spent mASSes of money to get the traans craze off the ground, offering bribes and blackmail across the state, and all to undermine women and feminism, to breach women’s and children’s sexual boundaries and dignity, and to build support for a VERY lucrative medical industry in trans hormone therapy and surgeries.

They must be held to public account for assaulting a generation of American and wider western children with their horrendous lying, perversion and greed. They must be shamed individually and together, as the only possible strong deterrent to others. In the meantime we must fight with Beth and sisters for:

NO MORE —

MASTECTOMIES FOR MINORS

LYING TO CHILDREN ABOUT THE SEX BINARY

MESSING WITH KIDS’ HORMONES

‘TRANSING’ GAY and AUTISTIC KIDS

LETTING MEN IN WOMEN’S SPORTS, ETC.

CLAIMING MEN CAN BE LESBIANS

PRETENDING ALLEGIANCE WITH GAY RIGHTS

DOING PHALLO or VAGINAPLASTIES < 25

Perhaps it is an unfair (to Elon and men in gen) comparison and contrast — though his likes and viewership and comments are so much higher, I think he can take it — but the two videos arriving back to back on my X feed last weekend struck me as so telling of what I all too often see as the VAST, and I think increasing difference between what women and men in the public eye, and in general, as studies show, do with their time and money.

Here, Maya Forstater, one of the four founding women directors of the Sex Matters charity, and supported by women mostly, is using her weekend to publicly protest the failure of the UK government to uphold the law regarding single-sex services, sports, etc., and for justice for women and children who are negatively impacted by traans in general, children that include Elon’s traans-captured son Xavier/Vivian, while a man celebrates the safe landing of one of his hundreds of rockets, all while making massive money hosting the X platform that women like Maya and Sex Matters pay him to use to raise awareness of this very pressing cause that ultimately concerns everyone.

This sex contrast is even more poignant considering the enduring sex pay-equity gap in favour of men in the West, and the fact that men are the richest sex by far — men make up 85-90% of the world’s billionaires, and all the by far richest billionaires. On top of this, and despite it, women also consistently give more of our time and money to charities than men do, something I have been aware of and bothered by for a while now. From AI on the difference in sum:

That’s quite the sex difference added up.

It probably didn’t help that this X post of what Maya and Elon were doing differently last weekend coincided with the Inbox arrival of my X invoice for $NZ691 dollars for my annual ‘premium’ account, which was much more than I realised I was paying and certainly more than I had signed up to pay three years ago (and hadn’t checked on since).

I mean, if I can get over the absurdly phallic symbolism of this dedicated rocketry of Musk’s and admit it is impressive in its way, and allow for the possibility that this rocketry could help humanity in some ways, maybe, I still feel that with all the money that is having to be raised by mostly women across the West to fight the traans assault on women, children and young adults, science, common sense and pretty much every principle of liberal democracy, that a man in his position might pitch in more publicly and financially to help these women better ‘fight the woke mind virus’, with traans dogma at its centre, as he famously promised to do in an interview with JP.

Meanwhile, women like Maya have been having to continually fundraise to take legal cases against traans attempts to shut down debate, subvert the law and remove women’s rights and child safeguarding. Maya’s first fundraising appeal in 2019:

I am proud to say I am a paid supporter of Sex Matters today, but am not sure if I supported this appeal. I was still kind of new to the debate then and with my heart in shreds over the recent estrangement of my sons. But given all that we know about sex and money, we can be sure that the majority of the 4617 pledges that helped Maya take her first Terf case to court, a case she eventually won on appeal, that established for all of that ‘gender-critical views are worthy of respect in a democratic society’, were from women.

And the fact that it is not Maya’s child but Elon’s who has been groomed and captured by the traans cult, after Elon was ‘tricked’, he says, into signing approval for his now 21-year-old son Xavier/Vivian to go on puberty blockers, when he was a minor. Now they are estranged and the traans tyrants are going out of their way to goad Elon for changing his mind.

This is Elon’s 21y/o, 6ft son Xavier/Vivian, being infantilized and sexualised as a girl toddler or baby, with nappy pins and frilly over-naps, for Cosmopolitan magazine last week (link in caption).

I have considered that perhaps Elon’s rocket celebration was an attempt to show his focus was on more important things, or anything other than this disgraceful celebration of one of his older sons being so publicly turned against him by a cult that pays his child to torment him in the sickest way possible, all while undermining the health of his son who is barely an adult. If so, I guess I can understand that too.

Still, we got to this point because powerful men like him did not see traans tyranny coming, or listen to the feminists shouting about its harms that were already evident, before he succumbed to the pressure to sign the approval (during Covid) for his teenage son to take puberty blockers and ‘identify’ as a girl.

The Covid years were distracting and challenging times, to be sure, but Maya, and so many other women, fought on for truth and justice for women, child safety and safeguarding, free speech, science and common sense through them, including many of us putting our MUCH more meagre financial assets where our mouths are in supporting this vital Terf work, as many of us continue to do. And the pleas for more money for this work are constant.

Surely an injection of some serious cash, together with a public statement of support from Elon for Sex Matters and any other group or individual publicly fighting this incredibly draining battle for women to be recognised and treated as humans with rights, and for children to be protected from traans ideology and medicine, would provide vital relief for the women leading this work, and, you would think, would wake up some of the key people in positions of power to stop the obvious money-chain keeping governments, media, universities and others obedient to the traans tyrants.

So I call ‘Ground control to Major Elon’: Please, before you build another rocket (or self-driving car!!), please come down to Earth for a bit longer and consider putting a financial rocket very publicly up the asses of the traans tyrants that have relentlessly lied to and destroyed the innocence and health of a whole generation of western children, and all but destroyed parents’ rights, women’s rights and free speech rights with it, to let them know that the richest man in the world is not going to stand for it! David would approve, I feel. He was essentially a feminist, operating on the light side of the political moon…

I hope it’s okay to share this photo here. I neglected to record the name of the person who posted it a week or so ago on an X thread, and possibly took the photo too.

I much appreciate that person’s comment and photo, and their courage to take active part in the great ‘trans’ reckoning that is coming — and not nearly soon enough — and contribute to the vital record-keeping of this extraordinary moment in time when humanity has reached its zenith of self-destruction. Nothing says this more graphically, to me, than these words writ enormous alongside this image, both with the clear intention of normalising and promoting breast amputation as a ‘loving’ act that will earn you more ‘love’, to girls and young women.

One day, I really do hope not too far away, this shamelessly anti-women image will be painted over and the powerful words left to accompany an image more like this one below, in a light-ish brown to represent the ethnic diaspora of the UK’s breast-feeding mothers and their babies.

In reality, the majority of women and teenage girls in the UK, and across the West, who have had their breasts cut off, are white, and disproportionately so. I subbed about this last year, drawing on a 2020 blog and image of an ad campaign for Tomboy X, a women’s underwear brand, I published on Blogger, my previous platform, here:

I hope, too, that all the flags celebrating and relentlessly promoting this abomination will be put away, or better still, burned in one giant fire on the beach large enough to be seen far and wide and to destroy the dangerous, devilish idea that humans can be born in the ‘wrong sex’ body that lies behind all this mindless and relentless symbolic misogyny.

So many more breast amputations on young women and girls have been performed since this 2020 blog, some of them, without doubt, influenced by this ad and the many others like it since then. I don’t know when the Bristol mural was done. I’d be interested to know that if any readers have that information. But it was likely done around the same time.

But even before this, stats on the breast amputations conducted on girls and young women in the name of ‘trans’ had already showed an rapid and radical increase. This 2018 research from PubMed Central on all ‘trans’ surgeries in the US between 2009 and 2015 clearly shows the extent to which this is true, with the significant increases starting in 2011, as well as the dramatic rise from that year and ever after, in all ‘trans’ surgeries during this period:

And, as the underwear ad suggests, the anti-women, if not transhumanist fashion trend has continued to rise ever since.

Indeed this grab is current, revealing that even pro-trans AI concedes that mastectomies are the most common ‘trans’ — they call it GAC (not spelling it out for them) — surgery, although they don’t bother to detail by how much they are the most common surgeries, a too-telling statistic, no doubt, when they are by far and away the most common surgery undergone in the name of ‘trans’.

And just finally, to finish with a few thoughts on the debate I got embroiled in on Substack last weekend on the agency of ‘transmaidens’ and was challenged for my core analysis that:

Most trans activism is patriarchal in intention, organisation and impact

From this perspective, while I can accept that ALL the women in politics and other spheres of public power, as well as in the ranks of street and social media protesters, going out of their way to defend ‘trans’ as a human rights cause, are many in number and, like the Aunt Lydia’s of Atwood’s famous tale, deserve our condemnation for embracing this openly anti-women activism, I also think that the vast majority of these handmaidens were in some form or other groomed for this work by the male patriarchs running the show, with the help of their male, and female, deputies. There are simply too many signs of a coordinated effort, and of comparable successes for some truly radical and misogynist and anti-democratic ideas and treatments across liberal-democratic countries and states for this not to be true. And the ongoing, West-wide promotion of breast amputations on young women and girls as something to celebrate seems to me to be enough evidence on its own to support this assertion. And there is SO much more evidence than that.

There is MUCH more to be said, but life is short, getting shorter. So I will leave it there and finish for real with a little something more positive from a week or so back, for balance, to finish: my X post expressing my frustration at the UK Labour women who, like my brainy daughter, are going out of their way to promote this deeply anti-women cause and the men’s rights agenda of the most cunning patriarchs to have stalked the planet who are leading it. I love Joan.

And a happy Easter to all those who celebrate it! 🐰

The Tweet in full suggests Ramla might be of help to Sex Matters as she, a champion boxer who has set up her own single-sex gyms for disadvantaged, ethnic minority, and battered women and girls, and who I presumed, it now seems wrongly, was still committed to these female-only spaces. This was in response to the following repost from Helen Joyce, who is quoted at length in the DM article, getting stuck into the King’s Trust:

But in response to my post, someone with a male name and attitude shared that Ramla had come out in support of Imane Khelif in Elle magazine soon after the Olympics, so was unlikely, he thought, to want to help these women and girls save their boxing club for girls only.

This was the post-Paris, 2024 article he was referring to:

In it we are led to believe these are Ramla’s words:

“I know Imane and I feel so sad for her. She’s a brilliant boxer and a good person, and nobody deserves the bullying she is currently being subjected to. I am a professional boxer, I competed in the 2020 Olympics, and Imane and I have sparred before in training camps. She is strong, and she is tall. And yes, taller opponents do have an advantage because it’s harder to get in their range.”

She is tall??? No. She is not. He is a man of average height, with balls and a penis to boot, and regular male levels of testosterone, muscle strength and punching power, which is around 60% more than a woman’s punching power, enough to prove that

MENS FISTS WERE NEVER MEANT TO BE USED AGAINST WOMEN!!! There is NOTHING to be gained and EVERYTHING to be lost by male violence against women.

Never mind men’s fists being used to win Olympic boxing gold medals for punching women in the women’s boxing event. How they must have laughed at us behind our backs at having pulled off this audacious stunt of brazen and deepest, darkest misogyny, of celebrating male violence against women on the global stage. No wonder Khelif the conman and ‘trans’ puppet was so openly happy and masculine in his victory lap. From my sub at the time “They don’t carry women like that”:

And with rates of male domestic violence against women and femicide being at appallingly high levels across the developed world today, this celebrated male violence on the Olympic stage in 2024 was all the more shocking and shameful. And where was Ramla at the Paris Olympic (she was at Tokyo with next to no support from the UK) games where women’s boxing was taken over and won by not one but two men?? That is not explained.

If I’m not mistaken, all the women Khelif beat up for Gold were white or light Asian. A brown victim like Ramla would have been a distinctly bad look for the men punching women in the face competition, or even if she was there, bearing witness to it.

Meanwhile, Khelif has XY chromosomes, as confirmed by world sporting bodies before the Paris Olympics:

So the claim that Ramla sparred with him surely has to be false. It would have been dangerous for her to spar with him, being not just female to his male, but a much shorter and finer-boned featherweight female to his heavier women’s boxing weight category. He is also clearly 100% male in these images, as in so many others.

In total I don’t believe these words or thoughts came directly from Ramla who was saved by FEMALE boxing and has been so passionate about helping girls and young women to fitness and confidence through female-only training and sports. She knows what a man is. She is a Muslim woman.

We know ‘trans’ are master manipulators and champion bullies and conmen. The fact that they managed to get sex testing removed from the Olympics in 1999 (around the time Khelif was born) against more than 80% of the female athletes voting to keep it, alone suggests an outrageous level of corruption and power in their hands.

I expect she was pressured to allow her name and image to be put to this obvious spin for Khelif back in 2024, a time when some, otherwise sane people, had also been convinced that Khelif was a boy/girl with a DSD and had been raised as a girl and was in some way a girl despite these tests proving he’s fully male.

This is what these disadvantaged girls who have lost their boxing training support from the King’s Trust this week lose, support that could, as it did for Ramla, totally turn a young, disadvantaged girl’s life around, solving her sudden and serious (and all too common for girls under pressure) weight gain challenges in her early teens, to improve both her fitness, comfort and confidence out of sight, and to enable her to do things and go places that very few Muslim girls can ever dream to go, even in the UK where her Somalian family had fled to when she was a child. That’s a lot to lose.

This is what AI said of the two boxers when I asked about them together (its’ emphasis):

What a load of rubbish.

When we can get the machines to call men women and compare these two, almost opposite people, as similar, especially when the female person, Ramla, fought so hard for her boxing success and the male person, Khelif, was given the most extraordinary help for him to beat women for Olympic boxing gold, we know we have lost our way entirely. So shame on the King for voting for the weak men and boys (all who are ready to compete against girls) against the strong woman and girls like Ramla, in this fight to end all fights for — or against — humanity.

Ramla inspired the shadow boxer on the back jacket of my book —

LET WOMEN SPEAK (LWS) AUCKLAND 2023

This striking image from Kellie-Jay’s very close escape from the male-heavy, 2,000-strong mob of mostly young people, as the leader of a mostly not young and female LWS supporters at Albert Park three years ago this month.

I (57) was there and close up to the woman being punched. I ran to help her but my husband pulled me back. But we, Jill Ovens, the co-editor and I, want everyone to know, and for there to be a clear and comprehensive record, of what really happened at Albert Park from the women’s perspective (and a few male supporters), not what the trans-twisted MSM continue to dish out, describing it as a ‘two-sided’ event with ‘bad behaviour’ on both sides. That’s total rubbish! They were the aggressors, we the victims, especially, of course, Kellie-Jay and Tania Sturt and ‘Emily’, the woman (71) who was punched in the eye. Tania was knocked to the ground in the scrum to get KJ to safety, and had to crawl out, expecting to be trampled.

Still, Kellie-Jay is clear that Tania and the three marshals in orange vests seen here saved her life that day, and it is pretty clear from this that she is right. The only men in this picture are being paid to protect her, apart from the undercover cop at the back there, another big man, but one that looks to me out of his depth, alarmed and even disbelieving of the intensity of the mob’s rage for KJK.

These four volunteer women who saved Kellie-Jay’s life that day, clearly put themselves at risk, and suffer trauma from it to this day. Of course the mainstream media weren’t interested in hearing their stories, being still firmly up the rear ends of the trans tyrants, painting them as our victims, even s even after they shut down the LWS rally so violently. Even after that, the national newspaper was bewailing the ‘anti-trans’ hate that Kellie-Jay had brought to NZ. Just shameless lies.

So we are going to set the record straight and tell it like it is and like it was for the 20+ women including myself and Jill, aged from 30+ to 80+, and four men, who were there that day, and who have recovered enough (some of the women there were not ready to think about it or write about it due to ongoing trauma) to revisit their experiences of it so to put their memories and reflections down on the page for the record. Also for their own satisfaction in knowing they have contributed something to the TERF movement by speaking up about what they saw and experienced at this deeply anti-women event. We are very grateful to them all for their courage and mahi (work).

I especially like the fact that the women marshals are putting their hands on her body so she is held by women, not men, and so that they offer their bodies to take the men’s hands and arms pushing them, instead of Kellie-Jay having to. It’s a perfect picture of the sisterhood. The head marshal being shoved in her back by a big man here was 66 at the time. Her account of that day taken from an interview is possibly the most extraordinary account of all, as she was also the lead police liaison.

In fact some of these volunteer women had helped pay for her security and organised and paid for the council permit for it, for the cancelled Wellington event as well. Some of the women who were planning to speak at that event speak in Part Two of the book on the ‘Albert Park Aftermath’.

So it’s all very exciting. And instead of adding a coda here on another ‘trans killer’, a female one, whose police interview has just come to light, but it’s too dark. I’ll leave you instead with another Albert Park image we hope to include in the book. Finally the police appear!! Kellie-Jay’s face says it all. Just incredible. Of course she is the ‘anti’ one. 🙄 Stupid bloody media.

So, after several months off the sub, Terf Vibes is back and posting on a somewhat positive note, which I decided was more fitting for the first sub back than the more usual dark stuff, even if my heart is far from positive this week, and much of the time, thanks to the twin ‘trans’ and estrangement nightmares in my life (and many other lives too.)

The birthday itself was only positive in so far as a 6oth (😟) birthday party in an impersonal (if quite nice) hotel room that was not attended by any one of our three children or four siblings, who all side with them in blaming me for everything bad between us, can be positive. And no cousins from my side either, after a Christmas text blow-up last year. It’s all very dysfunctional.

But the party can and should still be described as a very positive occasion, on balance, for me and, I am assured, for all those involved. My husband’s Sydney cousins were also there, and they are a lot of fun, as were, and are, these three fab friends from primary school and dance, and their partners, who were all got on well.

And of course my trusty main man, my husband of 38 years, was very much there. He is pretty much all the family I need (she said defiantly, having little choice in the matter). I look happy enough here at least. And I was. He took the photo up top.

Unfortunately, we were too busy hosting to remember to take any photos of us on the day. So I’ll share this selfie taken last month for our 38th anniversary, when I was still 59!!!!!

So, despite the crap family situation we are in, we were both very pleased we went to the trouble of arranging the trip and party, and before that, a trip to the Mountains to visit my mother in her rest-home. That went pretty well too. We both cried. She misses her grandchildren (and children) too. But it’s hard being 102, whatever the family situation.

But that is enough positivity for now. It feels a little unseemly to celebrate simple aging, or anything at all, really, when the world is reeling from another two totally appalling ‘trans’ related mass killings, with the male killers starting by killing women, one his mother, the other his ex-wife. Both men were ‘female identifying’ and in a dress when they did this and then went on to kill other family members, one a brother, the other a son, and one went on further to murder seven young children and their teacher, and to injure 28 others.

I will not show images of the killers.

One of these young female victims, Maya (12), was not expected to survive the bullets to her head and neck that the young men in a dress (18), who didn’t know her, fired into her when she was trying to save her friends. But she is still fighting hard for her life a week later. Cards and expressions of support can be sent here:

Of course the pro-killer ‘trans’ captured media there in Canada and internationally, including here in NZ, tripped over themselves to repeat ad nauseum, like the sickest of sexist jokes, the brazen and cruel lie that this child killer was ‘female’, or ‘a woman’, proving the evil insanity of this cult and the level of power they have over the political left media, politicians (mostly), public institutions, even women’s groups, etc. It’s bloody scary. This was shared on Milli Hill’s recent sub:

Apart from the biological facts, women so rarely if ever behave like this. As a mother of sons I don’t like drawing attention to this fact, but I believe we need to, and that is that sons are much more likely to kill their mothers and siblings than daughters are, as well as to kill strangers. And rising rates of murders like these have much to do with our culture’s tolerance for extreme male resentment of and rage against women and girls that we are seeing in the 21st century across the West and beyond, resentment and rage that I experienced from my sons, indeed. And resentment and rage that feels like it is the worst it has ever been, or worst at least since the witch-hunting and killing of thousands of accused ‘witches’ (primarily strong, wise women) for knowing too much truth (about men).

This week the UK’s Rape Gang Inquiry into hundreds of thousands of gang rapes and trafficking committed against mostly white girls in the UK’s north, by majority Pakistani Muslim men, has also revealed the evil lengths that boys and men can be groomed to go to commit sexual and inhumane crimes against especially young female humans when raised to believe they are a totally superior sex class of human, while proving the reverse true with every gang rape of a child.

And when they are taught that their religion is superior to all other religions, though these races of men abuse and kill their own daughters too, as do pretty much all races, cultures and religions of men. Sorry, but that is a hard fact that needs to be faced too. read Eve Ensler’s account of the abuse her father subjected her to from the age of five The Apology it’s about the apology she so desperately wanted but never got from her not Muslim father who ruined her tiny womb and broke her adoring heart from when she was five.

It doesn’t help when would-be rapists know they can get away with it, as these Muslim gang rapists across the UK have known and have gotten away with it throughout the 21st century decades now against hundreds of thousands of mostly white girls, and that is because their young 12-14 year-old victims are primarily white ‘working’ class girls, like almost any class of white girl today, the girls that no-one cares about anymore, or no one except for the strong women of all cultures and creeds, and a few, extremely rare men, fighting on the Terf frontline, like us, and our leaders.

Hopefully this publicly funded inquiry will expose the extreme evil of these men raised to hate and hurt women and girls, and convict them of ‘violent misogyny’ and imprison them with hard labour and radical feminist re-education from women for the rest of their lives.

I will leave it there, as I still haven’t finished Albert Park. But I started the sub inspired by the above quote from ‘Mother’s Roar Lydia’ substack a few weeks back, that I am hoping to include in my intro to the Albert Park book. This is the full quote about her young daughter’s social transition at school, and how she fought it when they wouldn’t listen to her:

I hired a lawyer to stop the social transition. And here’s the part the adults thinking they are doing something great for the child don’t want to hear. When the adults stopped, my daughter desisted. When the outside reinforcement stopped, the confusion settled. When the pressure stopped, she came back to herself…

That’s such a positive message. All it takes is for the adults to stop pushing unhealthy ‘trans’ ideas and medicines on our kids. Such a hopeful mother-daughter story too. A good note to leave/return on…

The many faces and forces of the 42-year-old American sex-realist firebrand Tish Hyman, the newest Terf on the block and an instant superstar and gamechanger for our cause I feel.

She has already inspired women to greater lengths and volumes of public protest, and stepped up for more public protests herself. That she has such a powerful, trained singer’s voice, as well as performing arts experience and an artist’s natural sense of drama and passion for truth, have all added to the strength and daring of her activism, and helped her go viral on social media and shatter the curated media silence and bias around this crap.

Later on X she calls bullshit on TQ rights’ claims and drops the 'fetish’ truth bomb with an image of the wannabe woman who stalked and flashed her, when she was naked, in the women’s locker room at the gym:

He called her a ‘bitch’ when she, in shock, had addressed him as ‘sir’ and told him politely that he shouldn’t be in the women’s locker room. He had been stalking her for some time too, Tish later revealed.

We also learned later that this man who calls himself a woman while standing with his dick out in front of an actual, and naked, woman in the female lockerroom, is a convicted wife beater who served prison time (not nearly enough) for shattering his ex-wife’s jaw to the point that she needed reconstructive surgery. These 21st century pretend women clearly have an extreme level of self-love and misogyny, as well as resentment of women, a resentment more devious and dangerous than all previous versions of the same were, which is saying something.

It was good to read at least that some men who were there that day at the gym helped her stand up to the pervert predator after the staff she complained to told her that this man they called ‘she’ was allowed into the women’s locker room because he identifies as the magic T word. I am reassured whenever I read about any men helping women.

And I reckon this young dude here in headphones, smiling approval and respect at Tish as she reaches full force female rage about a man getting his dick out in the Ladies, might have been one who helped her. If I am any judge, this smile shows a rare male respect for courageous female rage, and in a moment when everyone else present, male and female, stares and frowns or looks away.

In general I believe, as does Tish and Riley, that we need much more public female rage and much less male rage, as well as more male respect shown to such women. Yet most continue to endorse the anti-Terf, weak-man rage we faced in full force at Albert Park, over women’s right to simply speak the TQ truth, let alone shout it in anger.

But this rare male smile at a woman’s justifiable public rage actually gives me some hope for young males of my sons’ generation, especially given that Tish is raging about a widely censored feminist truth, the most dangerous and resentment-inducing type of truth for weak men. We need far more men to smile and then shout their appreciation and respect when women scream the truth like this, especially the feminist truth, the truth on which humanity’s survival most directly depends.

But most cultures of men instead reel back in horror at a female raising her voice at all, even to sing, as the Italians showed by cutting boys’ balls off rather than letting girls and women use, much less raise their voices, even in song, while in a holy (man-worshipping) place. The Taliban have banned women from singing in public. Stage actors and performers in Britain for hundreds of years of the theatre were all male, with boys and men playing girls’ and women’s parts rather than allow actual women and girls to use their voice, quiet or raised, something that was judged to be an unseemly vanity for females but not for males to do. No wonder the problem of male vanity has reached psychotic proportions today.

Weaker men’s fear-based silencing of women’s voice and self-expression, especially in anger and truth-telling about corrupt men, is one of the main pillars upholding the global patriarchy and its various male-god religions. But the minority of strong men, like this man in the crowd, actually appreciate women shouting the ever ‘inconvenient’ for weak men, but most essential first truth of human existence and survival over millions of years, namely that women’s courage and strength is central to humanity’s survival. Just as it is true that the men upholding the patriarchy for the last two to three millennia were/are the weakest (least talented and most corruptible) of men who band together to defeat the stronger and more talented women and men, will be the death of humanity. Today these weak men are all backing the TQ, men like the billionaire Pritzkers who inherited the Hyatt hotel chain’s extreme wealth and obscene power.

That Tish lost her gym membership for yelling the important truth before the perverted, wife-beating dick man who sexually harassed and stalked her lost his, is a classic weak men against strong woman decision. But she was almost immediately offered a free gym membership elsewhere, and now that she has found her political voice, she is not shutting up. So that weak-man move backfired.

Here she is, the following week, telling a Democrat state senator for California, Scott Wiener, what happened to her in the gym, and asking for his help to outlaw this danger and affront to women’s safety, etc.

And beginning earnestly, even quietly, reading her notes, she almost pleads with Wiener to understand her perspective and the importance of protecting women and girls’ safety in the bathrooms from these larping, all too often predatorial and abusive men.

But then, when he pushes back with the GARGANTUAN LIE that ‘tr*ns women are women’, she has to up her volume and sharpen her tone, as well as instinctively adding a strong, open-arm gesture to make herself larger, as he does the reverse, cowering away from her, down into his chair, with his clearly embarrassed, extra pink skin, giving away his cowardliness.

What a classic Dana and Goliath scenario: a strong woman alone standing up and speaking out against a weak man with a crowd of a loyal liars, other weak men and their handmaidens, behind him.

She fires back with ‘NO THEY’RE NOT!’, awakening a few of the pink zombie-like Democrats a little, who grumble their dissaproval at this outragous truth spoken so loudly and clearly FROM A WOMAN!!!

At this, Tish rises to her feet, where she is clearly at her mightiest, being tall and fit and with a very strong voice that carries far and clear, and goes off script to insist at volume that these people hear her rage and stop the shameful lie about changing sex they are all pushing onto vulnerable women and children.

With raised voice she turns her back to Weiner to face the stunned, left-leaning zombies in front of her, to tell them that the man who got his dick out in front of her in the women’s locker room had shattered his ex-wife’s jaw and served a (piddly) year in prison for it — I guess it’s one year in prison for every bone of a woman’s body a man shatters with his fists.

And indeed this woman’s violently shattered jaw bone is still not enough to get the slightest rise out of the majority of the pink Democrats who carry on sitting there tongue-tied and unmoving, as this towering, proud black lesbian woman tells and shows them what cowards they are. She is wearing Jennifer Sey’s XX/XY sportswear brand set up to fight to get males out of female sports, showing she represents many more women and girls than herself.

She reprsents ALL the strong women indeed, and tells Wiener that she has millions of people behind her, watching this video, trying to persuade him with potential votes, but the TQ mafia prevails.

She also says, with her voice raised, that this issue affects her because she is ‘a woman first and foremost’, to cut through all the white-women shaming and dividing of women that has been another central TQ rights strategy.

Then, when being ushered out of the room, she added, rising to full impressive wonder-woman pitch, that her sister in prison is not able to get free tampons or soap but she can get free ‘transition’ medicine — that total essential for incarcerated women’s health and well-being — if she wants. She does not want. To this there is more awkward silence from the sheepishly pink Democrats, followed by a sigh of relief and relaxed mumbling when Tish finally leaves the room and they can go back to thinking they are good people.

But the extremely inconvenient truth remained in the air and no doubt in the minds of the millions across the world who viewed these videos. And if anything can, this open female rage from someone we all know is neither corrupt nor hopelessly conservative, will raise the voices of many more strong women and girls to fight this first and last women’s rights battle against the lethally corrupt and weak TQ+ patriarchy.

And on that uplifting note, I am going to have to leave it for now. I am also pausing this sub for the foreseable future to focus on my creative writing and comedy, leaving Terfism in very good hands, including those of the many professional journalists now working in this very busy digital writing space. I’ve also got the Albert Park book to finish, which is of course taking much longer than anticipated, and will mean no total or quick reprieve from Terfing for Terf Vibes.

But I confess, too, that this retreat to the less enraging, more hopeful world of creative writing and comedy, is in some part because researching toxic masculinity for earlier drafts of this sub, including the most recent NZ domestic murder and burning in a house fire of three young children by their father (it seems), pretty clearly to spite their mother, cases I came across regularly in my PhD research on doemstic violence, has left me with no stomach for these weak men and their vile crimes and lies, TQ or otherwise.

Hell hath no fury like weak, women-blaming and hating men scorned, and secular ‘heaven’ for me, for now, hath no stomach left for these man Furies.

This is a slightly strange screen grab from the video of my recent comedy welcome (10 mins) for Helen Joyce on the first stop of her NZ tour for the NZ Women’s Rights Party last Saturday in Auckland (without TRA protest!), but it is the clearest image I could get. The lectern was too high for midget me — forgot my stilettos, darn — and it either hid my chin or appeared to prop it up like it’s doing here, a new version of taking it on the chin, I guess. 🥴

Anyhoo, I got through it, a bit rushed — there is never enough time for comedy — and enjoyed it. Jill, our party leader who had asked me to do it, pronounced my efforts ‘brilliant’ on my personal Facebook page, which was good.

I didn’t hear anything from Helen, but I’m doing my best not to take that as an indication she was not impressed. No doubt it has more to do with the fact that she was SLIGHTLY busy being the distinguished guest and keynote speaker for the day-long event.

Repeat after me: IT’S NOT ABOUT ME!

Helen was brilliant, of course, a fountain of clear-thinking insight and strategy for fighting the gender ideologues on our terms rather than theirs, and all delivered with that cool charm she oozes, in contrast to the feminist idealism and angry ranting raging at the injustice of it all that some of us, rather less cool TERFs tend to favour…

There were so many excellent — female-only —speakers, particularly on women’s health challenges in and beyond gender medicine, as well as on managing media engagement with the TRAs.

One recommendation of Helen’s that seems especially pertinent is for us to never use the T-word (rhymes with brans as in different types of bran) of the moment, because it normalizes it as a real and legitimate identity, when it is neither. And in fact, as we all know, it is a cunning Trojan horse plan to destroy women’s rights and gay rights, especially lesbian rights, because lesbians are the ultimate insult to the patriarchs of all stripes, while claiming it is kind and inclusive, and painting women like us as the hateful enemy, when we are the ones who want to protect children and women’s rights, protections and rights that everyone, including men, rely on at some point, if not always.

So it’s no more of that T-word for me here.

Well, except for my comedy show title, which, I referred to in this comedy welcome, and which, for now, is still ‘Trans-Tasmanian’, a play on my identity as an Australian living in New Zealand who regularly has to cross the Tasman Sea that divides us — as well as the TQ madness, of course, but ever so subtly…

I am not ready to change it just yet, but it may never see the light of day. The Melbourne Comedy Festival rejected it last year and the NZCF this year, although they haven’t yet bothered to tell me that. I’ve had to read it in the strained silence in response to my show pitch sent *checks notes* a month ago yesterday. Okay, so it felt longer. But given our history (my age and sex discrimination complaint against the Auckland comedy boss and owner of the main NZ comedy club in 2018), I am definitely not holding my breath.

On brighter comedy-ish news, Ricky Gervais liked another one of my tweets, this one on his record-breaking hit series Afterlife. And I saw it pop up on my screen, which adds to the fun:

It’s just a little like, but it feels big.

I’ll leave it there for now and get back with the promised grittier stuff on toxic masculinity and femininity soon. I just need to catch my breath.

This is a screen grab of Helen telling the above truth about the ‘‘‘not all men’ reflex’’ and ALL men’s inevitable overreaction against it, on a recent zoom chat with an international Terf group. I love her wry smirk. It’s helping me imagine her in the audience for this weekend’s women’s rights seminar in Auckland held by the NZ Women’s Rights Party, with HJ as the invited guest and keynote speaker, an event that I am formally welcoming her to, ideally by being funny.

But given the deeply unfunny cancellation of her event in Melbourne last week, and the fallout from FiLiA with some very nasty Terf in-fighting, a conflict that has had some ripples over here in NZ, as our NZWRP leader Jill Ovens attended it, comedy and laughter might be a bit of a high bar. I will settle for a smile or two from the mighty Helen Joyce and the other impressive NZ company due to attend, including many of our senior and most distinguished feminists, whose presence is adding to the challenge.

I mean, at this point I don’t even know if it is possible to make people you are in awe of laugh. I’m not sure it is. I’ll let you know.

In the meantime, my apologies again for promising subs on other subjects. I have one on ‘toxic masculinity’ and the shocking reports from NZ schools about boys in year nine (11-13yrs) barking at their female teachers and writing Tate-inspired essays on how women should be in the home raising kids, and another on ‘toxic femininity’ and the Terf in-fighting in the wake of the FiLiA conference, both in long draft form. There is just so much happening in those spaces right now that I can’t keep up with the updates.

Perhaps I’m a little jaded with it all too.

But here is at least something uplifting — hopefully in more ways than one — just in from the fabulous Faika El-Nagashi on her speech on banning the burqa at the Battle of Ideas festival:

“One: the burqa is not a piece of clothing. Framing this as the policing of clothing - or worse: women’s clothing - is to fall into a conceptual trap. The complete covering of a woman from head to toe is not a choice of clothes. The sole function of this piece of fabric designed by men is social and it is to make women and their autonomy disappear from the world around. This does not happen in a vacuum. It is not a theoretical or philosophical question about the (neutral) potential of fabric that covers a (neutral) body, and whether or when this might be considered (acceptable) clothing. There is one country - Afghanistan - that shows the world, in real time, what the burqa is made for; and many others that use approximations of it for precisely the same purpose. The burqa is not a piece of clothing.

Two: Some women‘s choices cannot be allowed to subjugate all women.

Three: If we agree that the burqa is a harmful symbol, an expression of the subjugation and hatred of women, shall we then proceed to ban it?”

Indeed, on all three counts. And yes we should proceed.

Faika gives these reasons for banning the burqa and even the Niqab — apparently to the disapproval of the young male beside her — and I am 100% in agreement with her on all of it. As with trans, subtle feminism does not work and the law combined with more direct and strident feminism, or women’s rights centered resistance, are the only ways to liberate any and all women under the thumb of extreme misogynists imposing their delusional and dangerous male superiority complex onto them.

These weak, inferior men, who exist in ALL cultures, openly disdain women and want to return us to the patriarchal slavery from which a few women have only recently, and partly, emerged. The rise of trans sexism shows us women and girls are still very much second-class citizens in the so-called liberal West, and the will to liberate us to full citizenship continues to be inadequate to the task of achieving anything like full liberation. Indeed we are going backwards.

But the truth about female equal if not greater strength, intelligence and courage than our male counterparts have, is coming out increasingly, and a lot of men (and boys) who are not dealing with it presently, and that is A LOT, will have to lift their game and work harder for female affection and support, as well as to compete successfully against women and girls for educational and employment opportunities. Many will not rise to the challenge once the patriarchal prop is removed. That is how it should be.

See you on the other side…

GNC: Gender non-conforming.

Boys and men need to be allowed to be more gender non-conforming without anyone making a bid deal about it or calling them women or girls and letting them enter female spaces, etc. But they must never again be allowed to identify as girls or encouraged to tuck their genitals away as young boys.

I read this letter from a PITT mother affected by trans, about her seeing some positive signs of awakening to the trans madness in the US, while writing a sub on ‘toxic masculinity’ — yes, another one — prompted by an alarming NZ report exposing rising male misogyny and ‘inhumanity’ in boys as young as 11-13yrs in our high schools shown towards their female teachers (coming soon). But reading the title information for this PITT essay about trans’ messaging to young boys to ‘tuck’ their penis away in a tight swimsuit to look and feel like a girl, jumped the ‘toxic masculinity’ queue. Somehow, that is even worse.

But that this trans-affected mother has noticed the massive clothing chain Target is no longer promoting these swim suits to ‘little’ boys — younger than these two, who I would guess are 12-14 yrs — is a very good thing and worth noting and celebrating. But at the same time, these retreats from trans madness must not be allowed to absolve our societies from having a reckoning over how we got to this point of pushing such harmful products on such young children, and all on the word of a bunch of mentally disturbed, sexually perverted, mostly straight men, some of whom are paedophiles who fancy boys never growing into men, like Peter Pan. And all our societies gave these men money and sympathy and attention, while they steadily eroded the family unit, children’s health, and women’s and girl’s safety and fairness. We will not forget.

The thought of this pressure to tuck being put on my sons, who wore boardshorts like these boys are wearing, as loose as they come, turns my stomach. It is such a corruption of a healthy childhood, innocent of sex and its messy realities, as well as the child’s physical health, to constrict a boy’s genitals in tight swimmers and let him or encourage him to pretend he is a girl. It’s all confusing enough at this age for boys (and girls) around their genitals; the literal LAST thing that would help boys with that would be to encourage them from a young age to tuck away their genitals that are supposed to hang loose, to try to look more like girls when they go swimming! To me this is one of the lowest blows against boys committed by the patriarchy, which is saying something. Because if it harms women and girls, and it does and increasingly, it harms men and boys as well. We are connected that way. Patriarchy only serves the arseholes, and even those men, like Andrew Tate, don’t strike me as the happiest of humans getting. Macho men are invariably weak inside. Strong men don’t have to strut their stuff.

Most Afghani men, I would wager, would miss seeing and hearing women in the public sphere, miss going out with their whole families and not want their women, sisters, wives and daughters, to be house bound, uneducated slaves, leaving all the medicine and nursing, teaching and pediatrics, shop-keeping, admin work, and even maternity medicine and age care work that women tend to dominate in to them. That’s a lot of work and a lot of wasted female work and knowledge. Women are very smart and hard working and generally more empathetic than men. Few men will be able to do many of these jobs as well as women could. Boys and men suffer under the patriarchy too. We should never forget that. It’s not workable.

Other promising signs this PITT author says she sees in the US include some ‘Famous people admitting they had some doubts all along’, and her child’s school principal ‘finally agreeing that secret pronoun forms are not such a good idea after all.’

Again, in ten years time we are not going to believe we ever accepted schools socially ‘transing’ children behind their parents’ backs, or using wrong-sex pronouns for their students, or that Hollywood stars put their kids on blockers and hormones and promoted this mad ‘medicine’ to the world. But it happened. And it must be recorded in every gruesome, stupid and bizarre detail, along with the Terf resistance, the ‘non-affirming’ parents, the girls fighting against boys in their sports and spaces, and of course all the detransitioners — the ‘de-Trans’ young people — and whistleblowers who bravely spoke up about their experiences that ultimately stopped it, or will stop it in countries like NZ and AUS where it continues to hold sway for now.

We will never believe that Trump (and the Republican feminists behind him) saved the day in the US. Unless we record it too. So we must at least do that.

Sorry for my delayed sub. I’ve been adjusting my mind meds that weren’t coping with all the incoming shit on both the personal and political fronts. And I think JK’s letter on X (Sep 29) to Emma Watson, her professional daughter of sorts, formerly at least, was some kind of ‘trigger’ for an emotional turmoil that brought tears of recognition and regret about my own broken relationship with my trans-allied daughter, five years younger than Emma, and the sense that it, like Jo and Emma’s once loving bond, can never be healed. As JK put it:

Adults can’t expect to cosy up to an activist movement that calls for a friend’s assassination, then assert their right to the former friend’s love, as though the friend was in fact their mother...

Of course no one has openly called for my assassination, though long-term estrangement from all three of my children, two sons and one daughter, like the Potter three, feels something akin to an assassination of our family, and especially of my role and identity (sorry) as the maternal head of that family. And one day I may well write ‘The Dead Parents Society’ about my estrangement experience, because it is definitely like a living death in so many ways, as far as I can know what that is like, which is hardly at all. Still…

The other difference between JK and Emma’s relationship and my relationship with my daughter is of course that she is my daughter, I am her mother, so my forgiveness and unconditional love is expected, as JK’s letter to Emma implies. I’m also the one pestering my daughter for some contact (maybe twice a year since 2022 ‘pestering’), not the other way round. Although Jo’s letter has helped me decide that I will not attempt to make contact again, hard as that is.

But there is no comparison really between our two sets of females, except for the fact that my daughter, a massive HP fan who re-read the books many times into her adulthood (she is now 30, five years younger than Emma), has joined Emma and others of her generation of daughters in condemning JK for her stance on trans, and me for agreeing with JK.

Not long before the estrangement she initiated she yelled at me when I expressed support for JK’s views: ‘What about Laverne Cox?! Don’t you feel any sympathy for her?!’ 🤔

I didn’t really. No.

My daughter was 19 when Cox, a 6ft 4 man, appeared as the trans poster ‘girl’ on TIME’s cover in 2014, a trans ‘tipping point’ for her generation of young white, middle-class females with internalised white guilt especially. My daughter definitely has that. And quite likely ‘Laverne’ was Emma’s tipping point too. She would have been 24, still a young and impressionable age in our immature internet times of youth arrogance and ignorance in their extended childhoods, apart from some of them earning well online or in business offline.

Here she is pushing trans four years later, a year before JK entered the trans fray on social media in defence of Maya Forstater:

That’s a lotta likes and retweets, my daughter probably among them (we haven’t had access to her social media activity for years).

And looking at this now, I can feel JK’s maternal instinct towards Emma upon seeing this post being torn between wanting to protect Emma — and all young women similarly caught in the ‘be kind (to men with a sexual fetish)’ clap trap that ‘Trans rights are human rights’ actually means — and perhaps offering her some advice about the possible dangers of such an ideology, on the one hand. And on the other hand, feeling at this relatively early stage in the trans takeover and aggression towards Terfs that it was better not to say anything and to hope it was a passing interest for her. Such are the mother-mother figure’s unenviable options when the child or young person shows poor judgement where it really matters, like this.

Then JK came out in support of Maya in late 2019 — not long after the above photo taken with Emma that year — and the MSM (NBC News, 20 Dec, 2019) reported it like this, emphasis added:

That ruling in Forstater’s trial for ‘transphobic’ tweets was later overturned in Maya’s favour.

Six months after this misrepresentation of JK’s position, Emma, now 28, doubled down with support for the UK’s child poisoning and mutilation ‘charity’ Mermaids:

Mermaids sells the core trans lie that children can be ‘born in the wrong (sex) body’, a lie that has harmed thousands and thousands of mostly girls but boys too, boys who have had their genitals removed in the name of trans, the majority coming to regret it sooner rather than later because they will never be girls. And my daughter and millions of other daughters of that generation especially across the modern west and beyond would have seen those posts of Emma’s and a percentage of them would definitely have been influenced in favour of believing this catastrophic lie, and the most vulnerable of them will potentially fall for the lie that they will be happier living as the opposite sex.

That would have been very hard to take for JK, not least because she admitted she was anxious about going public with her support for Maya in the first place with her ‘transphobic’ view that trans rights do not justify pushing a woman out of her job ‘for saying sex is real’, which is all Maya said in a few tweets.

JK also revealed in her recent letter about (not to) Emma that even now ‘it’s hard to shake a certain protectiveness’ towards her:

When you’ve known people since they were ten years old it’s hard to shake a certain protectiveness. Until quite recently, I hadn’t managed to throw off the memory of children who needed to be gently coaxed through their dialogue in a big scary film studio. For the past few years, I’ve repeatedly declined invitations from journalists to comment on Emma specifically, most notably on the Witch Trials of JK Rowling. Ironically, I told the producers that I didn’t want her to be hounded as the result of anything I said.

This maternal like protectiveness echoes all the thankless, unseen care-work all mothers do, often at a heavy cost to their freedom, to protect and support our children even when they are acting out and hurting us. So for Emma to use the wealth and influence that JK had created for her to so heartily lend her $$ support to this evil ‘charity’ (nothing charitable about it) and indirectly at least to oppose JK’s support for Maya and other women being cancelled or pushed out of their jobs for standing up to trans demands, must have felt like a deep betrayal indeed. But still she didn’t speak out then.

Even when in 2022 Emma made that public statement accepting an award about being here ‘for all the witches’ with an aside ‘bar one’ — meaning JK — and afterwards got someone else to hand JK a one line note saying she was sorry for ‘what she was going through’, as if she had had nothing to do with this struggle, she did not say anything publicly. But she now says that that was a tipping point for her, the casual way this formerly loving and daughter-like young woman that she had protected and made extremely rich and successful since she was a child, thought she could keep her sweet in private while publicly saying she is the one ‘witch’ (strong woman) she does not support. No. That is unacceptable ignorance, as JK aptly describes it.

All the while, Emma, like my daughter, knew and/or cared nothing about the grievous risks and proven harms of trans medicine for children that she merrily supported and encouraged others to support $$. Trans are already filthy rich. Yet she presumed to know better than her generous and brilliant benefactor, an actual mother, who creative a wonderful children’s world of drama and dragons, witches and wizards. My daughter presumed the same of JK, the woman that she had so loved and respected as the creator of this children’s fantasy world, a world in which, for a change, females were not entirely secondary — or absent altogether, as in Lord of the Rings, Lord of the Flies, etc.) — to the males. Emma was of course central to its appeal.

But I still cannot see how these inexperienced young women are able to believe they know so much more than JK, me and most of the other or actual adults, especially women, pushing back against trans, not least the mothers, with parenting experience up our sleeves, many of us, and so many more years of living than them. I am 29 years older than my daughter and always will be.

They even presume to know better how to do feminism than the older generation of women know, when they clearly know so much less than we know, despite both calling themselves feminists. I still struggle to get my head around how they can have this amount of arrogance and ignorance about their talents and understanding of how the world works compared with JK (and me, etc.).

Well, this is partly how, the spreading of the message that if your parent (mostly the mother) hurts your feelings for any reason at all, she is absolutely ‘toxic’ and should be shunned in a no contact arrangement. For years. Nothing has spread like wildfire on the internet faster and farther than mother blaming and shaming. From ‘Talkspace’ in Dec 2024, never mind TikTok, Reddit, Tumblr, etc.):

The reader’s note had to be added to clarify that the parental ‘abuse’ and ‘toxicity’ they are referring to is not physical or sexual abuse. It’s just pointy maternal fingers and a whole other 21 SIGNS OF ‘PARENT TOXICITY’ that effectively teach the disgruntled child and young adult, someone who is probably in truth missing the mother-daughter (or son) close bond of childhood more than anything, to see their mother’s pointy fingers, words and tone as so ‘toxic’ they can be ‘incredibly damaging to a child’s self-perception’, whatever that means. The father is listed second and without the ‘toxic’ in front of it. And of course it’s authored by two women on behalf of the alphabet army or arseholes. I doubt too many veterans are getting therapy here:

We (I) only have room — physical and mental—for two. And they are all saying the same thing, pretty much, defining ALL possible manner of ‘toxic’ parental (maternal) behaviour, from too much ‘controlling’ attention, to too little. It’s all reason to cut us off and ‘set boundaries’ between them (her) and you.

Here’s one more; emphasis added:

13. They don’t respect you

While toxic parents demand respect from their children, they rarely show it in return. Toxic parents who don’t respect their children often undermine their autonomy and dismiss their feelings, making it clear that the child’s opinions and desires are of little value.

I wonder how JK might have shown more respect for Emma. Did Emma show respect for JK when she dismissed her publicly as the only ‘witch’ she doesn’t support? How should I have shown more respect for my daughter’s opinion that Laverne Cox deserved my sympathy without betraying my feminist principles and instincts (honed through ten years of PhD research on male violence against women) and awareness of the men’s rights con that Cox was a front for?

And how does a parent ‘demand’ respect from a child? With three estranged children who respect me less than any other person they know (and there are millions of similarly disrespected estranged mothers across the west today), I have no idea what such a ‘demand’ would look like.

Surely the young owe more respect to the people who are providing for them than visa versa. Respect is earned and that takes time, experience and effort. And the point that JK made so well in her letter, that Emma is so privileged and removed from the life challenges that most mothers (and daughters), certainly JK, have had to face, she is ‘ignorant of how ignorant she is’. And that ignorance is fertile ground for turning into blaming ‘toxic’ mothers for all their own emotional pain, and supporting the more ‘respectful and loving’ (psychotic and devious) trans ‘community’ — it’s no community.

I think JK’s letter is also an attempt to send a clear message to Emma’s generation that they need to GROW UP already. In some ways western kids, especially middle-class kids, are more grown up today, often making money younger, and much easier in many cases than we did. But they are much less socially and emotionally mature than we were overall, precisely because they are constantly ‘affirmed’ in their youthful ignorance and victimhood, and sought out for their undeveloped youthful opinions — childsplaining, as it might be called. That is, for those opinions that follow the trends of the day.

At Emma’s current age of 35, I was married with three kids and working on a PhD on doctoral scholarship, while tutoring in Politics, having started uni late after a semi-professional career in ballet. JK, six months older then me, by 35 was a solo mother who had written and published the first four of her HP books that would go on to change and elevate the world of children’s literature and give endless joy and inspiration to the world’s children (and adults), as well as making billions of pounds for herself and her country (and Emma).

Parenting, especially mothering, will definitely grow you up in a hurry, but so will having to make your own way, to find and forge your own strengths and talents, especially against opposition, as so many feminists face. We both did and do, for sure. But young people today have access to so much more power than our generation of young women and even young men had, with their superior tech skills and youth visual appeal and savvy online. Increasing numbers of them are entering Parliament before they are 35, which is too young to know how to run a country. They should have lived longer as an adult first before claiming to know how to run a country.

They think being an adult is so much easier than it is, and speak with much more authority on matters like child transitioning, the Middle East conflict, race relations, ‘trans rights’ and of course ‘toxic parenting’, with next to no experience of any, or few of the downsides of these various conflicts they are such ‘experts’ in.

They also seem to complain so much more about the smallest realities of adulthood, like not expecting a former generous benefactor, mother figure and friend to still ‘love’ you — the word Emma used — despite your full-throated and repeated support for that person’s vicious enemies and the scam they are running against all women and children and gay men and others.

This generation of YAs needs to recognise they are no longer children and must take responsibility for their decisions and their own hurt feelings, as all adults must. They must start to forge their own more studied judgments about complicated social-political issues rather than going along with the latest trend, from trans identification to ‘no contact’ parental estrangement, both hopelessly destructive trends.

So even though I can’t tell my daughter, whom I do still love despite her sustained cruelty and betrayal, as almost all estranged mothers will continue to do for the children who have treated them so badly, ultimately JK’s letter telling Emma without equivocation that they are now ‘former’ friends and that she cannot expect her love after her repeated betrayals, has given me much needed strength to face my ongoing conflict with my trans-allied daughter. There is pain and there is power in enduring it and in standing up to the child now adult that inflicted it upon me. Even if I stand in silence from her. My father stands with me.

Last week’s PITT letter from a trans estranged mother is another inspiring story of maternal courage, strength and wisdom in the face of her daughter’s trans identification and estrangement. That’s the true frontline of maternal courage in the face of unimaginable evil this century. I would not survive that, I do not think. But it’s reassuring to know that some mothers can, though totally desperate that they have to.

All our survival ultimately depends on that female strength and courage. If trans has done anything good; it has shown us the power of strong, gutsy women. Women’s rights are human rights; trans rights are men’s rights, are human wrongs.

I’ve been trying to finish this sub for a week. But I just can’t tear my eyes away from reading about the extraordinarily bad world we are living in from some of the fiercest truth tellers in the business who naturally are very busy writing too.

Because what a time it is to be alive and paying attention and caring right now. Just fucking WOW! I mean, I still can’t fully believe the evil extent of it all, the killing of this charismatic, genuinely caring (if I am any judge) and hard-working young man and father, in front of his wife and two children, then the shameless celebration, verging on gloating over his death by so many, including this 20-year-old head of the Oxford Union pictured here debating with the deceased just a few months earlier.

Bob Vylan’s front-man, the man pictured at top, felt free to celebrate Charlie’s murder on stage in a music concert setting. How very festive! How very musical! What a GIGANTIC ego it must take to say that, and with a smile.

Is this anti-white racism out in the open?

Is their reaction to his murder in part because he drew attention to this brutal murder of a white girls by a black man?

He posted this on the morning of the day he was murdered, having complained about the lack of media coverage and public outrage over her brutal murder on a busy train, claiming race discrimination was a factor.

Then it’s the trans thing that, as we know here, is capable of the greatest depths of both self-pity and depraved male narcissistic rage and violence, especially at women, but also at men like Charlie who are (I hate the ‘was’) trying to help women stop these depraved men from ruining our sports and private spaces and lives in general. He was also helping detransitioners, showing genuine concern and care. And this was all the while many of his peers, including our firstborn son, who is just three months older than Kirk and reminds me a lot of him, with the same quick-fire debating brain and passion to win an argument, were supporting trans. Before our firstborn was 20 he was already telling me about the wonders of artificial womb technology and its potential to make women as baby-makers redundant in 20 years time — and with a note of triumph.

These bastards have been actively recruiting nerdy computer soldiers, including the one who killed Kirk, as the evidence and logic is starting to show, for a bloody long time.

And this is how trans-friendly the Oxford Union that did not discipline Abaraonye for openly and callously celebrating Kirk’s murder is; last year it invited our old ‘friend’ Khelif (Gold medal in women’s Olympic boxing in Paris) to a debate there, and he accepted. But at the last minute he pulled out siting ‘unforeseen circumstances’?

Only 22% of Oxford Union speakers since women were admitted to the men’s union in 1961, are women today, and one of those ‘women’ was almost a man. 🙄

And unforeseen my XX arse! This is how ‘unforeseen’ the cheat of men in women’s sports is. These three XY conmen won all the medals in the Olympic Women’s 800metres way back in 2016. Those they beat were all white women. They don’t contest the shorter distances because black women dominate those races, having higher muscle tone than white women, an advantage at the shorter distances, and disadvantage at the longer distances.

I don’t remember the media storm over this. I read more recently somewhere that the Canadian coach for the woman who would have won this race, who fought back tears to a reporter trackside, was told he would never work in the business again if he complained. Wow! I wonder how many black men saw that brazen cheating and got off on the racism and sexism of it combined. It seems fair to assume some. Perhaps that man on the train?

But the leading trans activists are mostly white men and they are adding to this sexism and even racism, as the vast majority of the girls being poisoned and mutilated by trans are white, by going out of their way to dehumanize women, white women especially, any which way they can. And Charlie was one of the rare young men speaking out to young people about all of this, and trans could not allow that. He was so credible, charming and sincere, and young people, men not least, were listening to him. That was not going to do at all.

Then, this vile murder of children happened only five days after the Ukrainian woman was murdered on the train, on the 27th, where this young white male who ‘identified’ as a woman, shot and killed two children, aged 8 and 10, and injured 18 others, at a Christian school in Minnesota

This murderer of children was so trans-deranged he wrote about his obsession with killing children, no doubt because it brings the most pain to the most people, and had an expressed hatred of most groups of people too. In other words, he was the opposite of Charlie Kirk, who opened his mind and heart to anyone who wanted to confront him in debate.

He also confessed that his five years of trans identification, since 17 (he was 22 at the time of the shooting I think), had stuffed him up and was a mistake — his mother had tried to challenge it, just for the record. But like most mothers of today, she was not up to fighting the trans and other youth culture corruptions that are out there to indoctrinate young males into violence and hate and self-pity.

When Trump’s response to this hateful killing by another trans-addled person, after other such killings in recent times, was to suggest ‘trans’ people, who he knows are often deranged, should be banned from owning guns published in the not so ‘Independent’, this is how the Left’s media responded:

That was five days before Charlie was murdered for bravely and effectively, and across the country, challenging trans where others wouldn’t.

In truth, of course, nobody has been smearing Trans. I cannot believe their brazen lies. Trans people have been indulged and lauded by everyone and NOT BEEN SMEARED NEARLY ENOUGH! These people, who used to care about truth and justice, know they have innocent people’s, including children’s, blood on their hands, not just Kirk’s, but clearly think it is worth it to regain power with the help of trans’ deep pockets. Nothing and no-one but trans could get the anti-gun Left to defend the right to own a gun and so soon after a tragic school shooting.

What a bloody stupid waste and mess it all is, and so much of it is a reflection of the same old problem for misogyny cults; the power goes to young men’s heads too often, and too totally, as it has done with our two sons, until they simply cannot be told no, and until they are so high on their power and freedom they find themselves celebrating the cold-blooded murder of a young man who was trying to help troubled and confused young men be better men, by giving them the motivation and inspiration to feel better about life and so to do better by working hard and understanding what they owe to others, not least to women and their parents. And a lot of young men were listening to him.

At 31, Charlie had already figured out a lot more than most, helped no doubt by him opening himself up to any and all who wanted to ‘prove him wrong’ in his countless public debates. That is how you learn about yourself, by listening and talking to people you disagree with. He did more of that in his short life than most of us do in a more regular lifetime.

I wish my sons would have opened themselves up to being challenged by those with different views. They would have been much less likely to think they are so superior to their highly-educated mother that they could cut her out of their lives entirely, as so many of them do these days. In truth the mother was the one to challenge them on their know-it-all male arrogance and so I had to be cancelled. Instead they relied on online gaming echo chambers of disgruntled young men like them who blamed others for their problems.

So for modern masculinity to find itself in this extremely dark and destructive situation, where one of the brightest, most decent and promising young male role models was killed by another bright young man, then his death was gleefully and very publicly celebrated by more bright young men, including the now head of the Oxford Union, and pretty surely all of them being led by some of the most evil men to ever stalk the earth, which is saying something, exposes the extremely bad state modern masculinity is in, no doubt in significant part due to women increasingly rising up out of our subjugation to prove ourselves equal or more to men.

But truth matters and men are going to have to deal with liberated women, trans-identifying men included. They are not in charge. Artificial wombs will never make human babies. Men’s machines and wizard-like technology will never outdo mother nature’s masterpiece.. And at some point men are going to have to get used to that fact and learn to respect and admire it. It’s the only way out of this.

At it looks like Charlie’s legacy could well be the final straw to exposing the insanity and corruption of ‘trans’ so that we might at least begin again to press on with this eternal battle to figure out what a good man looks like in 2025 and how to raise more of them.

In the meantime, I will finish with Kara’s quick, smart and sensitive response to Kirk’s murder that I shared here last week, and that shows what strong (feminist) women are made of and WHY WE NEED SUCH WOMEN TO RUN THE BLOODWORLD ALREADY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I won’t link to the video here. It’s revolting seeing it, as I did this morning shared by a politically engaged friend before we knew he had been killed, and it was such a cold blooded and cowardly killing of this young man trying to help that the killing will always chill me. I wouldn’t go as far as this in his praise otherwise, but it’s fitting in the circumstances.

#RIP Charlie Kirk

To echo and expand Kara’s sentiment, I hope WE as humans sharing this world that too many are increasingly hell bent on destroying — can survive this.

No clearer depiction of all that is right and wrong with the world of comedy — and men — today could there be than this twin shot. On the left we have Graham Linehan, the much awarded and loved 57-year-old comic genius (a rare and much needed species of male) who has all but lost his comedy career, marriage, reputation and friends for sticking up for women and children against harmful lies being told about sex and gender by trans activists, and the huge amount of public money being shoveled into all things ‘trans’ and out of women’s rights causes for the last eight years. Here he stands in the hospital where he spent hours on a blood pressure monitor after his pressure rose dangerously HIGH following HIS ARREST AT THE AIRPORT FOR SAYING MEN SHOULD NOT USE WOMEN’S SPACES EVEN IF THEY’RE WEARING MAUVE!

On the right we have the subject of my last sub, whose name I still haven’t learnt (remembered), and won’t if I can help it, who won the comedy Oscar, as the ‘Best comedy show’ at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival is known, for a show that he dressed up as female (ish) and identified as ‘trans’ — he appeared at the festival previously as a regular dude — joking about his wife now being a lesbian, while laughing at and demeaning women and our concerns about the trans assault on our freedoms throughout. Then he takes this selfie in the Ladies to show us women and TERFs how much fun he is having, doing whatever he wants wherever he wants.

NOTHING COULD BE LESS FUNNY FOR EVERTYONE ELSE THAN THIS!

I met Graham in Auckland last year at a free speech event at which he was the guest speaker; the subject: the widespread censorship of views critical of trans activism, in particular, his own.

At that time he was very optimistic that the UK's CASS review and report exposing the harms of puberty blockers and the lack of evidence that they help children who have been convinced by grownups, including their teachers and counsellors, to believe they are the other sex, would be the end of this epic trans scam and scandal. But it very much was NOT the end, though some slow progress back to sanity is being made here and there.

But to learn this week, about after this was taken, of Graham’s arrest at Heathrow, lengthy interrogation and then the hospitalisation for life-threateningly high blood pressure, all for telling the truth about trans tyranny in three tweets, felt stunningly surreal. Was it a joke? ‘Please let it be a joke?’ I told myself, knowing it wasn’t, though it’s going to make a damned funny comedy skit some day. But it’s too soon for that. It’s along way from funny yet.

In just a week we have a new low for the patriarchy. After proclaiming last week’s picture of this prick with his smug comedy award and grin in the Ladies the new low, then this happens. How low can we effing well go!?

Apparently the police were responding to a complaint by just ONE, already litigious cry-baby of a 'trans' male — it's always the men — and here’s Graham, a multiple BAFTA-winning creator/co-creator of at least three powerhouse TV comedy series, Father Ted, Black Books and The IT Crowd. But the crybaby prevails. 🤦🏼‍♀️

Graham’s crime, in essence, though, is not tweeting hard truths about trans; it’s standing up for women and children against these men, as he has been actively doing for years, and at great cost to his career and family life, and ‘betraying’ his sex, a language my sons used to use. There is zero sympathy or respect for this work sacrifice and achievement by those like the police who have been sold the lie that anyone who causes any claimed harm by WORDS to anyone (man) who says he’s ‘trans’, commits the WORST kind of crime that any person can commit and all that credit and trust in the integrity and respect bank is rendered null and void. If you are a man seen to have ‘betrayed’ men by standing up for women, the country you single-handedly kept entertained for decades will arrest you in a deeply traumatising and humiliating (if ridiculous) display of force and a temporary gagging order. It’s pretty shameful behaviour by the police alright, and the wider world is finally coming to know it.

Great to see JK coming out to support Graham as well, as he both deserves and desperately needs her support right about now. And Elon followed suit — perhaps taking the lead from JK:

Fighting language from the Telegraph, too:

Many of the outraged have also made the point about the UK’s increasingly low punishment rate for violent criminals, including child rape gangs, while shamefully spending all those police resources on arresting a local — but exiled — comedy genius over three tweets.

Tellingly Graham noted in his excellent sub written from hospital that the female officers were more sympathetic and well informed about the trans issue than the males, who were colder and ‘just doing their job’. But sympathetic or not, they all read him his rights and bundled him into a cell for many hours, and only checked on his blood pressure belatedly, and all for him sending a few tweets.

Hopefully this is the tipping point that we tireless TERFs, female and male, all need to finally wake up the not so tireless masses who have looked away and/or kept quiet to the harms and horrors of trans activism, as well as to the endless corruptions and mistakes made by so many public agents in dealing with trans activists and TERF resisters.

Then this just in:

I agree this is not a good look for the lunatics. Their mocking of the police probably won’t play quite as well as they hope.

The ‘Underground Trans Mafia’, now that’s a good joke. These arseholes have whole police forces captured, and they are the ‘underground’. Yeah, right. It really is begging for a comedy treatment.

‘One day we will look back on this and laugh’, they say. I sure fucking hope so.