No matter how much you deny it - money buys happiness.

I am speaking from experience.

My life became 10x better when I earned proper money. Not affiliate money or side hustle money - but real money.

Money that can improve your life.

The reason I’m saying money buys happiness is because of the freedom it gives you.

Many people work jobs they hate to survive.

• Without a job - you are a few weeks getting kicked out of your apartment.

• Without a job - you cannot pay bills.

• Without a job - your family suffers.

That is why people work even if their jobs are shitty - “to survive”.

Many people do not live good lives because they are burdened by work.

It’s good if you love your work - but a lot of people are not fortunate.

• If the work conditions are good - you have a shitty boss.

• If the boss is good - the work is miserable or dangerous.

Not always but often.

Making money on your own prevents a lot of problems.

You have less stress, more freedom, you do not have a boss to please -you do not have to beg customers to buy from you and best of all - you’re in control of your life.

Because honestly - if you have to rely on someone else for money - you are not free. You are dependent on your boss or employer.

It’s not a bad thing - but obviously you know this even if you don’t admit it. If you lose this job -you are weeks away on becoming homeless.

This causes you constant stress and fear.

It’s what you call living in the survival mode.

What is the survival mode?

Living in the survival mode means you do not have time to be stress free.

Simply means: Being in survival mode means your mind and body is pre-occupied to surviving. It does not think of how to thrive but just how to survive because you were never taught to.

Your brain thinks in ways to please your boss to keep your job. Your mind keeps on thinking how to cut and save money. Your only care about how to survive today and tomorrow but not the next year.

Basically you train yourself to be short sighted. Because honestly - it’s easier to care about today than to care for the future.

There’s 3 tiers to money.

• Job money = survival money. You’re dependent, stressed, one paycheck away from disaster. It keeps you in the cage, even if it’s a gilded one.

• Affiliate/side hustle money = doesn’t count. Maybe too small, too inconsistent, or still feels like begging.

• Real money = earned through your own business or client work or skills. This is the money that buys freedom.

Why job money sucks

Job money is survival money. It keeps you dependent, stressed, and one paycheck from disaster. A boss owns your time. You rent your life back in small increments. Even if the salary is good, you’re still in a cage. You’re still a rat no matter how high your position is. Because you still have a boss to answer.

Your lucky if you work on a corporation that respects employee’s but honestly - how many corporations does that? Probably 0.

I called you a rat but don’t get the wrong idea. I’m not insulting you (we’ll get to that later)

Psychological Tax

Working a job sucks because you are dependent. You might think this is normal (and yes it is) but it causes immense stress deep down.

That is why your father who works hard rarely spends time with you. Because the stress and psychological tax is a lot to take in.

Your father knows if he gets fired - your whole family gets hungry and has nothing to rely on. He knows if things go wrong -you might starve and not have a place to live.

So he carries this burden deep and have to please their boss in order to keep the peace and family going.

Basically bootlicking tactic. It makes you a pushover and someone docile. Basically the more you work in corporate settings - the more you become a rat.

Obedient and docile.

Boot licking

“Let me tell you something I wish someone had told me at twenty-five.

I spent fifteen years building someone else’s dream. I told myself it was a partnership. I was loyal. I showed up early, stayed late, took on the projects nobody wanted. I thought if I just worked hard enough, I’d eventually be rewarded with more than a paycheck. A seat at the table. Real say in my own direction.

But reality is not so kind. Every decision I wanted to make had to go through someone else. Every idea I had was filtered through my boss’s mood, his priorities, his insecurities. If he was having a bad week, my best ideas went nowhere. If he didn’t understand what I was proposing, it was dead. If my growth threatened him, he’d smile and give me a title change instead of real responsibility.

I spent years asking permission. Permission to take a vacation. Permission to work on a project I cared about. Permission to grow. A grown man asking another grown man if he could live his life. That’s what a job is when you really look at it. You surrender your agency and in the end you surrender your vitality.

The worst part isn’t the wasted time. It’s the wasted self. Every idea I didn’t push, every risk I didn’t take because it might upset the chain of command, every version of myself I kept locked away because it didn’t fit the company image is all gone. You don’t get those years back. You don’t get to be the person you would have become if you’d trusted yourself instead of waiting for someone else to approve you.

I look back now and I realize I wasn’t building my career. I was building his. His vision got executed. His reputation grew. His bonuses got bigger. Meanwhile I was just someone to be used as a stepping stone. I thought I was climbing a ladder. I was lying to myself.

The cruelest thing about being dependent on a job is It’s a slow leak. You wake up one day at fifty and realize you’ve spent thirty years making one person richer and more powerful while you stayed exactly where you were. A little more comfortable, maybe. But not freer. Not closer to anything that was really yours.

Don’t let that be you. If you have the skill to make someone else money, you have the skill to make your own. The only thing standing between you and your own direction is the belief that you need a boss to survive. You don’t. You need your own clients. Your own terms. Your own life.”

What is the rat race

“The rat race isn’t what they tell you it is. It’s not hustling too hard. It’s not working long hours. It’s not even the competition.

The rat race is waking up every day to someone else’s priorities. You trade your time for money because you have to. Then you spend that money on things that make life bearable. A nicer apartment to come home to after a day you didn’t want to have. A car that makes the commute slightly less miserable. A vacation that resets you just enough to go back to a miserable job and do it again.

People think the rat race is about speed. It’s not. You move constantly but stay in the same place. You earn more, so you spend more. Your salary goes up, so your lifestyle inflates to match it. You get promoted, which means more responsibility, more meetings, more stress. The reward for winning the rat race is more rat race.

The problem is the indignity. You’re spending your one life on someone else’s vision. Your energy goes toward making their dream bigger. Your creativity goes toward their problems. Your time goes toward their deadlines. And the best you can hope for is that they keep paying you enough to stay quiet about it.

The way out isn’t earning more within the system. That just buys a better cage. The way out is changing the system entirely owning your skills, your clients, your time. Trading your effort for money, not your hours. That’s the difference between survival money and real money. Freedom not comfort.

Now that you understand why so many people are miserable let’s talk about what you can do with your life to avoid being one.

What happens when you start earning real money

There’s a part most people forget to share once they earn money. Likely because their relationships are bad.

What I want to share with you is how it changes the way people deal with you.

Before I started earning real money. I was constantly dealing with passive aggressive behavior from my loved ones. Because honestly - even if you are the smartest person in your household - if you aren’t providing - you will receive zero respect.

Now that doesn’t mean my family was horrible. In fact they were lovely - the only problem was each of us was stressed because of our financial situation.

We were in survival mode and because everyone is constantly stressed about money - it translate in your words and actions.

That is why if your father or mother is always angry and irritated - it’s because they are letting out those emotions. Even if it’s the bad way.

Because in truth - living life in survival mode fucking sucks.

It’s a shit hole life experience.

So what happens when people finally have room to breathe and relax? They become normal. Their stress levels returns. Cortisol levels finally drop and get back to normal.

You finally have a chance to sleep deep at night and wake up refreshed.

Because this time - you do not have to worry about life suddenly fucking you up.

Money doesn’t solve everything but it does solve 90% of your problems.

The 10% are those beyond science and psychology - like changing a problematic person.

Although that is the case - if you have money you will not develop diseases or health problems.

Because you will have low stress. And having low stress makes your life quality better and makes you healthier in return.

If you think “but Rich people are miserable too!” Hah as if. The miserable people you see are those high in corporate hierarchy that’s why their life sucks. High company position means more stress.

Truly rich people have their own business and don’t have to play games.

if you already have tier 3 money and still aren’t happy, that’s a different problem. But most people are in tier 1 and 2, gaslit into thinking happiness has nothing to do with their bank account.

Most broke people say money doesn’t buy happiness to cope. And anyone who says that either want others to think the same to share misery. Avoid them at all costs.

I’ll leave you with this.

The people who say money doesn’t buy happiness are either already rich or coping. Don’t let their coping become your ceiling.

Money buys peace. It buys deep sleep. It buys the ability to say no. It buys respect from people who didn’t respect you before. It buys the freedom to spend your one life on what actually matters to you.

Best of all - it buys back your freedom.

The only people who will call you shallow for saying it are the ones who’ve never experienced real freedom.

Build your skills. Get your own clients. Get to tier 3.

Your future self will thank you.

I hope this helps

See you next time

-Noat

When you’re ready, check out:

• Live Intentionally: 90 Day Self-Improvement Program By Harsh Strongman. Over 10k+ sold. Get rid of your bad habits and addiction fast and build discipline in 90 days. A 90 day project which aims to help you control your urges, become more disciplined and replace bad habits with productive habits. I’ve specifically used the tactics described in the e-book in the past to help me work 12 hours everyday. 10k sold and over 400+ 5 star verified ratings.

• The Illimitable Men Audiobook (26.5 Hours of Narration) Learn how to become a top tier man that commands respect, understands women and never gets used by other people again. In this Audiobook you will learn how to play social games and win. “If you hate yourself or do not value yourself, it’s because you’ve not given yourself a reason to value yourself. We don’t just disrespect others who are low value, we disrespect ourselves for it too” a quote from the audiobook.

A while ago I wrote a letter titled “Stay horny and you’ll win”.

This letter contained lessons from semen retention and how weak men constantly release a powerful energy on their balls.

And guess what?

Most comments here are either saying it’s AI or some vodoo woodo concept.

Why am I telling you this?

Simple.

If you want to grow, the knowledge and wisdom you consume needs to offend your sensibilities.

You cannot grow on feel good knowledge.

Do you know why most people get stuck consuming self-help knowledge endlessly?

It’s because most content are feel good stuff. They are helpful but not life changing.

Knowledge and wisdom that changes your life will offend your sensibilities.

It breaks your spirit and character in order to create a new one.

Many people will never understand this. Either they are fools or ignorant smartasses. Even if you are intelligent - your life is not guaranteed for success.

You must understand what really matters in life is hard and painful to do.

And as a man - one of them is semen retention.

The Modern Psysop

Deep down we all know constant masturbation and watching porn is harmful. Yet how many people still protect their views?

Many.

And why is that?

Because of psyops.

From ancient times psyop’s have always happened.

Witch hunt, racism, culture warfare, and now in the modern world -we have the social media psyop.

You cannot change a persons mind who have believed on something their whole lives.

That is why it’s hard to change a person. When a person believes he cannot grow beyond what he thinks is capable of - he makes up imaginary beliefs that hold him back.

Like believing he is born socially awkward and shy. Believing his shyness cannot be cured and then stuck being a push over.

Such beliefs have been planted on us when we were young. Even know the belief that too much self-improvement is harmful is spreading.

Healthy people are not profitable. So what does the world do?

They feed you negative psyops.

• Constant comparison in social media to make you insecure 24/7 so you spend your money on make up, skin care products etc.

• Free porn consumption so most men stay satisfied watching another man bang someone and in the process he losses his drive for meaningful work.

• Tasty junkfoods so you keep eating even though you know its bad leading to guilt and eating more junkfood as a comfort food to ease the stress/guilt from eating unhealthy processed foods.

Well - what do you think?

The idea that masturbation and porn is healthy is also a psyop in order to profit from your attention span.

Do you know the total market value of NSFW, porn and adult entertainment?

Over $300B. Now what happens if 10% of those who consume suddenly stop consuming and actually put their life in order?

That’s a $30B loss.

It make me surprised I even have to write about this fact. Isn’t this pretty obvious?

Patreon makes a good chunk of money thanks to NSFW artists.

Understand now?

Do I have to say more?

These are rookie numbers. The depth and detail of this market is unsoundly insane consider how the creator economy barely makes in comparison even though the value is astronomical.

Every time I see someone ignorant ignore my points and straight up lash out in anger makes me sad.

Too ignorant to see the mistakes and too stupid to realize the dangers of future consequences.

Strength is put down and weakness is glorified

In the modern world - when you celebrate your progress online - there will be people who will put you down and condemn your progress.

Most of them are keyboard warriors.

Those who have nothing better to do than to shit on other people.

They are the worse people you can ever imagine.

Their happiness revolves around making people angry and irritated.

Most of them are bored. They have nothing better to do - so to feel strong emotions - they create problem and chaos.

And in today’s world. Such people are everywhere. Experts who say masturbation is healthy, people who say being fat is fine even though you risk chronic diseases and literally lower your life quality, people who defend psychotic beliefs that clearly destroys society and more.

Even now men who actively work hard to help other men get called names like mansplaining or having the manosphere called a problem even though what these men teaches are basic lessons young men need to know growing up without a proper father figure.

The world is weak because weakness is glorified.

• People tell you it’s okay to cry but ignore your pleas for help.

• People tell you it’s fine to be fat so you die early.

• People tell you it’s fine to masturbate so you can’t compete with top performers.

Reality is supposed to hurt. That is why when you embrace lies it makes your life worse.

You have this constant voice in your head that’s telling you what you’re doing is wrong and you need to change.

But because it’s been numb to the point all you hear are groans and attempts to speak - you never realize this - and most men die without ever living a proper life.

But you can avoid this.

In the next part I’ll tell you how.

Building new beliefs

You see most common knowledge and information is thrash.

Information accessible anywhere is worthless. So obviously anything accessible everywhere without some kind of friction is low quality.

Not saying they are pointlessly unhelpful but the quality of information you get when you pay or have something to trade is immense.

That is why people who just search the internet and say you don’t have to pay for courses are idiots.

How are you going to learn something specific if you don’t even know what to search or do?

Now you’ll say courses are all scams. Go unsubscribe I don’t need you here.

My point is simple - if you want to grow as a person - you have to pay something. Either that’s money for higher quality information and a roadmap to follow for faster progress, dedicated time to reading quality articles like this one you’re reading or trading something of equal value (the most common one is attention).

The reason I’m telling you this is simple.

Most of what you know about the world is wrong.

No not all courses are a scam. I bought Dan Koe’s 2 Hour Writer and here I am with 1,400+ subscribers 1 year later and have 100’s of viral reddit posts I wrote.

You must discard what you know about the world in order for you overcome weakness.

Because weakness stems from herd mentality. Most people who say courses are a scam probably haven’t even bought a $5 e-book or course.

They just say whatever bullshit they hear online. And that’s likely you (no offense).

I was as well. Until I needed to learn a specific skill.

There’s so much to teach. But right now we focus on specifying weakness and overcoming it.

Becoming unique

Everyone’s obsessed with being authentic but their idea of being authentic is actually putting on a show about being someone they are not which goes the very idea of being authentic. Ironic

Becoming unique is pretty simple.

It’s having:

• Personal opinions coming out of your own from your own knowledge and wisdom not because you heard someone say it

• Personal skills on what really interests you - for me it’s combining spirituality and psychology - that is why I write so personally as if I can read your mind yet make sense at the same time

• Personal hobbies other people consider weird - If people know I actively study spirituality - I will get labeled weird because most people are idiots who cannot see the value of something just because most people say it is bad and those who will not call you weird are those who will never understand what you are doing or at least see the value

• Personal goals and not being a robot like go to school, finish school, work a job you hate and die.

• Making people shut up through actions instead of arguments. No matter how strong your points are if you argue you lose - you must prove your point by action even if you’re not actually doing something valuable. My family didn’t believe in me - but now that I earn a lot they help me out. People only believe in results never in promises or verbal agreements.

Overcoming beliefs about what the world tells you is not easy but simple.

It’s pretty much rebelling on your self about what you know is wrong and actively changing it.

It’s a process that takes years to do. First time my consciousness (level of wisdom) shifted was when I learned about self-improvement. It’s when I realize a person has latent potential that can be activated through good habits.

Like a future physique or genetic strength a person can achieve.

The second time was when I dug deep into psychology. The third time was when I understood there were hidden rules and laws in the world. They work in principles and actively connect.

I’m nearing the fourth which is basically making a business on what I learn. In the future when my business have bigger results and I’m more interested in business and money in general- I will be more than qualified to teach you how to build business.

This is what I earn from working with clients (yes I’m bragging not lying).

I would never have reached this point if I did not pursue my intellectual curiosity and did not follow what I wanted to do.

I tell you - there are a lot of opportunities that come when you actually do what you want and not follow other people.

It’s hard to do however the results you reap are worth the trouble.

I wish you good luck.

In the future I will also share business lessons. For now we stick with what we know.

For your actionable step (we haven’t done this in a while):

• Write down beliefs you know didn’t come for you. Things like “In this economy” are stupid beliefs made to create excuses and blame the world instead of being responsible. Write down instead what you actually believe in the world even if it’s considered not okay for most people. No need to share this to others keep it to yourself.

• Read this for better understanding on what I mean on today’s letter: https://theimprovementletter.substack.com/p/most-people-are-becoming-dumber-and?utm_source=profile&utm_medium=reader2

• Proof that you just need to follow what you want and results come (more business screenshots): https://theimprovementletter.substack.com/p/you-need-delusional-self-belief

If I can do it so can you.

Good luck, in the future I plan to release a full self-improvement e-book guide full from 0-100 roadmap designed to help you overcome limiting beliefs, right action plan you should take and how to build a proper foundation in your life when it comes to the mind, health and body.

See you next time

-Noat

When you’re ready, check out:

• Live Intentionally: 90 Day Self-Improvement Program By Harsh Strongman. Over 10k+ sold. Get rid of your bad habits and addiction fast and build discipline in 90 days. A 90 day project which aims to help you control your urges, become more disciplined and replace bad habits with productive habits. I’ve specifically used the tactics described in the e-book in the past to help me work 12 hours everyday. 10k sold and over 400+ 5 star verified ratings.

• The Illimitable Men Audiobook (26.5 Hours of Narration) Learn how to become a top tier man that commands respect, understands women and never gets used by other people again. In this Audiobook you will learn how to play social games and win. “If you hate yourself or do not value yourself, it’s because you’ve not given yourself a reason to value yourself. We don’t just disrespect others who are low value, we disrespect ourselves for it too” a quote from the audiobook.

I’ve been wondering what could be the reason and have recently come across a good idea.

Everyone is suffering from hyperconnectivity.

When people are too connected - when everyone knows about something to someone - things are bound to go wrong.

Because as a person and not a robot - there is only so much data we can capture and create.

If we overflow our minds with useless data and information, we are bound to hit a wall that disrupts our cognitive processes.

Because as humans - there’s a limited amount of information we can gather, process, discard and store in our brain.

But what happens if we overload it?

What happens if we feed it negative news everyday?

What happens if we get rage baited and feel angry on a daily basis?

Today we’ll explore that problem.

Social media made personal problems public

Because most problems are personal. And when an outsider joins on the problem - it no longer becomes a matter of “you” - it becomes a matter of “them”.

Social media allowed us to connect with each other, but it also allowed us to hate people easily.

While technology isn’t bad- the way people use it is bad.

Look at your social media feed - everything you see is problems. Wars, inflation, crimes etc..

If this doesn’t make you crazy after years of consumption - then you probably already are.

We are slowly dying to negative exposure that slowly corrupts and erodes our spirit.

Back when social media didn’t exist, people didn’t didn’t know much of what was going on other people’s lives.

This meant - less gossip and more energy on what matters.

This meant - people actually don’t spend hours feeding on drama and actually do something.

So what happens if you make everyone hyperconnected? You kill boundaries and privacy.

The death of privacy

When there are no boundaries, ethics doesn’t have a place. And when ethics doesn’t have a place, the ugliest of human nature come out and cause chaos.

Most people are more narcissistic than you’d think.

Too overly egotistical for their own good.

Do you even wonder why people like to post in social media? It’s no longer about just likes or getting dopamine hits. It hits something more primal and deeper.

And that’s social validation.

Most people in the modern world live with broken families. When a child grows up with irresponsible parents - he doesn’t seek comfort with people he knows. He seeks it outside and somewhere hopeful.

That’s why most teenagers are so drunk on love nowadays. Their family and home is shitty - so to feel loved and accepted - they seek it outside not knowing it will only bite them back later.

Not saying all love is a coping mechanism but from what I’ve seen most of them are.

Most people I know that dated early had horrible family and parents.

They were neglected or worse straight up abandoned. So a child who knows nothing better seeks it outside.

And what do you think they do when love fails? They cope on social media.

This where you find the weirdos of the world hanging out on 4chan and other grey forums.

• They use social media to cope.

• They use rage bait to feel alive.

• They use the internet to satisfy their empty hearts.

But most people aren’t so smart to hang out to anonymous forums.

They would rather post about it on their personal social media page and have everyone see it.

Why? Because deep down they love and crave attention. When you grow up having neglected - you will seek attention whether it’s bad or good.

Hyperconnectivity made people delusional

When you stare at a wall for hours say 12 hours straight you will start to hallucinate and imagine things.

The same things happen when you live in the internet for too long and never step outside.

In a more popular sense these is something called being a “shut-in”.

I am aware a “shut-in” doesn’t become a shut in because they want to. There are many reasons trauma, bullying, negative self-esteem etc.

And that’s actually the most dangerous part.

You see the - internet provides limitless comfort.

You do not have to step outside your home to experience the world.

A few taps - taps and scroll and wallah - you get what you want.

You even get intimacy for free by watching porn.

Do you get what I mean?

People are becoming more and more depressed because instead of confronting the problem in front of them, they hide and numb the feelings they feel by living in the internet.

And it’s so easy nowadays and people choose it.

Human’s are suckers to easy options.

When you live in the internet for too long - you start to be delusional and create scenarios in your head that aren’t real.

Not stepping outside to experience real life - but rather experiencing it through a screen are 2 different things.

The true danger of the internet is it makes you a desensitized person.

To be desensitized means to have one’s emotional or physical responsiveness to a specific stimulus reduced or eliminated, usually as a result of repeated exposure. This can manifest psychologically (numbing to violence or trauma) or biologically (nerves blocking pain) -Google

You have lived life being crazy in the internet, you can experience romance with a single movie, you can make others angry with 3 words, of course normal life doesn’t make you excited.

Of course people will choose the internet life if their life already sucks anyway.

Humans crave emotions. Bad or good.

That’s why you get behaviors like:

• Internet experts who think having read 1 or 2 things about a topic makes them smart or an expert.

• Guys who spend their time with nothing but arguing endlessly with rando’s everywhere and getting nowhere.

• People who rage bait content to feel alive.

Do you get what I mean now?

Desensitization makes your spirit numb

When everyone knows too much they are bound to find everything boring. Because of the internet - over 70% of things we want are freely available.

You can get intimacy, entertainment, answers, studies, socialize without friction on the comfort of your home.

So if you’re someone who has low self-esteem and somehow landed an online job - you are more likely to never go out of your home and instead experience life on a digital screen

To enjoy life - you need to let go. To let your emotions go. To let go of the fake life inside a screen.

It’s a paradox. The more you spend inside time inside the internet- the more the outside world seems bland and boring. And the more you spend outside the more you will crave living in the internet.

What should you do?

The answer is simple - if you run an online business like I do or work with clients - schedule and dedicate time for the outside world.

The reason why so many people get addicted to social media is because their life is boring.

There’s no substance.

They go to work, watch TV, sleep go to work repeat.

It’s boring - so they want to experience exciting emotions -and what’s the fastest way to do that?

To watch someone do it.

Where do you do that? The internet.

If you want romance go watch romantic movies or look at your friends online post drama with his girlfriend.

If you want to laugh go watch funny videos.

Simple right?

That’s why people would rather live inside a box of screen - because it’s easy. And people are suckers for easy things.

Last week I talked to a friend - I asked how is your college life going - “he said not easy man”.

And I answered - “yeah nothing in life is easy”.

People want easy things.

It’s undeniable.

It’s wired inside everyone.

Spend more time in the outside world.

• Join a book club

• Join a martial arts gym

• Join a program

• Join an art club

• Join competitions

If you’ve got nothing better to do - spend your time productively and experience challenges.

Your life is boring because it’s too easy.

Make it a bit harder by forcing yourself to do hard things. If you fail try again. If you succeed you build proof and increase your self-esteem.

• Go to the gym

• Go hiking

• Join sports

• Anything

It’s win win either way.

That’s all for this week

See you next time

-Noat

When you’re ready, check out:

• Live Intentionally: 90 Day Self-Improvement Program By Harsh Strongman. Over 10k+ sold. Get rid of your bad habits and addiction fast and build discipline in 90 days. A 90 day project which aims to help you control your urges, become more disciplined and replace bad habits with productive habits. I’ve specifically used the tactics described in the e-book in the past to help me work 12 hours everyday. 10k sold and over 400+ 5 star verified ratings.

• The Illimitable Men Audiobook (26.5 Hours of Narration) Learn how to become a top tier man that commands respect, understands women and never gets used by other people again. In this Audiobook you will learn how to play social games and win. “If you hate yourself or do not value yourself, it’s because you’ve not given yourself a reason to value yourself. We don’t just disrespect others who are low value, we disrespect ourselves for it too” a quote from the audiobook.

He was talking about how his inner voice was saying shit about himself. How he is fat and how he will never be enough.

I gave him advice.

I told him - if you are fat and you deny it - obviously it’s not going to work.

What did you think he replied?

He got angry.

He told me I was wrong for calling him the truth.

I don’t blame the man.

He’s already grown up over 30+ years old yet can’t accept the truth.

You see most people are like this.

They are clearly fat but they will cope and make excuses like fat positivity to love themselves.

That shit is not going to work.

When you lie to yourself- you only make it worse.

Nothing you say will ever make lies a reality.

So many people are delusional about reality and that’s why they can’t improve.

The more you deny truth- the more you will hate yourself.

“No one is more hated than he who speaks the truth.” - Plato

Do you know why when we refuse to accept the truth we end up hating ourselves?

You see - when anyone who speaks the truth gets hated.

If you are fat and I call you a fat person without any insults but merely by the word “fat” because it is true you are fat - you will dislike me.

That’s because we as humans have a tendency to reject and deny truth.

We do not like hearing what we know is true.

Our minds subconsciously know what is real and what is delusion.

The difference is awareness.

Can you think of someone who speaks truth and gets hated for it?

Think of Jordan Peterson.

This man speaks the truth without sugarcoating and is disliked by people. He is not hated because of who he is - but because of what he makes people feel.

You see people are emotional creatures - we remember feelings more than anything.

The more intense the emotion felt- the stronger the memory carved in your brain.

And that’s exactly what I mean.

When your inner self talks about truth and reality - but you deny it - the emotion stays and grows.

That is why insecurity prospers and self-hate gets bigger.

Because you’re not letting the emotion out.

You keep it hidden inside you - then let it grow.

Then slowly -that leads to insecurity and self-hatred.

Because emotions are powerful. Humans are driven far more by emotions than by reason and logic.

And that is why most people are delusional. They prioritize their feelings over logic and reason.

You can’t blame them. They didn’t learn any of this.

My point here is simple: the key to overcoming insecurity and negative self-talk is awareness and acceptance.

Why is it hard to accept your imperfections?

There are many reasons why someone grows old and never overcomes their insecurity.

The first reason is societal condition.

What is societal conditioning?

Societal conditioning is how culture, programming and tradition shapes a persons life.

When you make people follow a certain path - their descendants and offspring will inevitably follow the same path.

This means what your parents have taught you- you will also teach your children.

Then the cycle repeats.

You see most parents aren’t exactly great.

They are full of insecurities and likely lacking in great pillars that could foster a child properly.

This means - if you had grown up with average parents - their is likely a chance you’ve never been taught how to deal with negative self-talk and other important things as well as choosing a proper career.

Your first teachers are your parents.

If they didn’t teach you properly how to live life- it is very unlikely of you to grow beyond what your parent taught you.

It’s like a hidden cage.

Only when you break off this path you truly - overcome your limitations.

This not only goes to negative self-talk but to your future success as well.

Most parents teach their children to be average or either have too much expectation that causes the child to rebel.

Some are completely absent.

Some are destroyed by broken families.

What I’m saying here - positive thinking won’t do you any help unless you fix the root cause.

And the root cause of that is - unlearning certain beliefs.

Learned beliefs

There are many of us who’ve been taught greatness and success are genetics.

Heck even some people being productive comes from genetics (it does not). It comes from your health. Your energy, your biological state as well as your mental health.

I cannot believe this thinking.

People will literally make up excuses out of thin air just to cope.

I cannot fathom this mindset.

Productivity and discipline explained by genetics is BS. It’s more driven by trauma and ambition.

But lets not get off track here.

From your very young age.

You’ve been taught about certain rules.

Some are good some are straight up limiting your potential.

You see the most common one is going to college to graduate and get a job.

I used to believe in this belief that going to college will make my life smooth by getting a good job.

But reality says otherwise. This is no longer the 1960’s.

Even if you have multiple degrees - getting a job is very hard nowadays.

That’s because college is no longer limited.

Everyone can go to college and get a degree.

And it’s becoming less valuable.

Even my parents think that going to college is the thing that will save us.

But no - it will just get you an average paying job and make your life shit.

This learned belief is believing there is only one way to success “The traditional path” of going to school graduate and work.

Why am I telling you this?

Because inside you - there’s a lot of limiting learned beliefs you have.

It’s usually:

• I can’t make mistakes

• I have to do everything perfectly

• I have to prove my worth to be accepted

• Everyone else has it all figured out

It’s thoughts that hinders your progress because of past experiences.

In order to overcome limiting beliefs like this - one must actively fight back.

If you think you are shy and will never be confident - go talk to people.

Be social.

Destroying limiting beliefs is by taking action.

Now you’ll say “easier said than done” and that right there is also a limiting belief.

Now do you see where I am getting at?

If you want to overcome negative self-talk you need to overcome limiting beliefs because that’s where insecurity thrives.

The more you let your self be limited by certain beliefs the more insecurity and negative self-talk grows.

Peer influence

Humans are wired to seek social comfort and acceptance.

And that’s exactly what holds most people back.

You see when someone sticks out by being different - it’s human nature to weed them out.

Because if you stand out and they don’t - people feel envious and want to be like you.

But they do not realize this because they lack critical thinking skills.

What I mean by this is simple.

You can always find that one person who didn’t fit in.

If he was charismatic - people would respect him.

But if he was anti-social or straight up doesn’t talk often - he would get labeled nerd or weird.

And that’s something everyone knows.

That is why some people unconsciously know to avoid certain behaviors that could get them labeled weird.

Because as humans- we feel happy if we are accepted by other people.

But that’s exactly a trap.

Your social circle limits you more than you think.

If you hang out with losers who think making money online is impossible - sooner or later you will also adopt that belief.

If you hang out with alcoholics - soon you’ll also be an alcoholic.

Do you get what I mean?

As they say hang out with 5 millionaire’s and soon you’ll be the 6th.

And how does this relate to overcoming negative thoughts?

It’s simple.

Your social circle might be soft bullying you.

Yes there’s hard bullying and soft bullying.

Soft bullying is getting treated like you’re replaceable and people don’t respect you.

They say things that can hurt you personally without meaning to.

They say certain things that with time gets solidified in your mind that you believe is a part of you.

A simple example is being constantly teased and embarrassed about what you say.

if people treat you like shit you’ll gain shit mental health.

Here’s a more clear example:

Imagine this:

A young man walks into a room full of people.

He has an idea he wants to pursue. A business. A dream. Something nobody around him is doing.

The moment he talks about it, people laugh.

“Why would you do that?”

“That’s weird.”

“Just get a normal job like everyone else.”

The young man feels the pressure immediately. The urge to fit in. The urge to be accepted.

So he has two choices.

He can ignore them and keep building.

Or he can abandon his dream and earn their approval.

Most people choose approval.

Years later, the same room is filled with the same people having the same trash conversations.

But the young man who endured being called weird is no longer there.

He’s somewhere else, living a life they once laughed at.

The price of fitting in was his future.

The price of standing out was temporary discomfort.

Most people pay the first price because it’s easier.

The few who pay the second price are the ones who change their lives.

This is more common than you think (watch this video):

There are many losers in the world.

Those who do nothing but laugh at other peoples dreams. Those who judge non-stop yet never take action.

They may even be your friends or family.

Anyone who tries to undermine you should be cut off completely.

If your social circle made your mental health worse- it’s time to leave them behind.

How to deal with insecurity and negative self-talk

I’ve already told you before - I’ve had shit friends who made me undermine my capabilities.

Those who would say hurtful things and give no care about the effects.

Well good to say I noticed this early and cut them off.

To truly overcome negative self-talk there’s 2 things you need to understand.

Being brutally honest

What I mean by this is simple - if you’re fat accept that you are fat.

• If you got rejected by a girl - accept that she didn’t like you.

• If you suck at something - admit it.

So many people play games with their selves thinking it will serve them.

No - the only thing that will truly help you is when you’re honest about your capabilities.

The more you lie - the more you need to lie to cover it up.

So what now?

The solution is simple “Be honest”

You see when I finally lost weight it was because I accepted that fact I was overweight and fat.

I weighed almost 85-90kg back then.

I was only like what 14 to 15 yrs old

I don’t exactly remember but I was that big.

I was a fat man.

I hated it.

Every time I would move it took too much effort.

And I could feel my fat flubbing in my lats.

I was honest with myself.

I told myself “If I wanted to lose weight I have to workout and that means accepting I am fat”

I always talk about this because most of my life I was fat.

Since I was young I was like overweight.

So I have a clear understanding of what it’s like to be fat and the issues that come with it.

Moving on

Taking action

Do you know why just be positive doesn’t work?

Because it only address the issue temporarily.

If you want to fix any insecurity and inferiority complex you have -you need to put in effort.

Instead of envying other people or ruminating about how much your life sucks and wish to be someone else - use that energy to create results instead.

• If you hate your body - go workout.

• If you don’t like your face - do looksmaxxing.

• If you hate your life - learn new skills to elevate your situation.

The reason most people stay stuck in life is because they aren’t honest and don’t take action.

Your insecurity and negative self-talk is the same.

If it says you’re fat go workout and lose weight.

If it says no girl will ever like you - go out and cold approach women.

Act agains’t it.

You need proof to fight it off.

Saying “I could do it if I wanted to” will not help.

It’s that simple.

And most people won’t even try.

That’s all for this week

See you next time

-Noat

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• The Illimitable Men Audiobook (26.5 Hours of Narration) Learn how to become a top tier man that commands respect, understands women and never gets used by other people again. In this Audiobook you will learn how to play social games and win. “If you hate yourself or do not value yourself, it’s because you’ve not given yourself a reason to value yourself. We don’t just disrespect others who are low value, we disrespect ourselves for it too” a quote from the audiobook.

What I mean by this is simple. If your Father is the one that provides your family with basic necessities in life and he is to suddenly never show up again - your life will become worse or catastrophic.

What I mean is simple.

If people know your worth and your disappearance causes great panic and damage - you are valuable.

That is why people on top of their fields get respected by others. Because people know their worth and capability. That also means if you bring significant results in your company and if you somehow leave - your boss knows it will cause damage and they don’t want that.

So they treat you with respect and offer you a raise or bonuses so you don’t leave.

Do you get what I mean? If you are valuable and worth it. People will respect you because they need you. Being needed is expensive.

Your time and skills have worth. That is why people need you and want you.

Most men are useless that is why they receive 0 respect (harsh I know). If you are useless - you are easily discarded and replaceable. It’s brutal but true. That is why there are millions of soldiers but few generals.

You might think giving respect is all it takes - but no. People will shove and step on you the moment they have the chance.

Most people are good but they are also prone to malicious intent.

The greatest benefit of being respected as a man is it boosts your self-esteem and self-respect. If you know you are capable and know your worth - you will naturally respect yourself. It’s true and worth the trouble.

So if you want to know how to get respect - keep reading.

Before I earned any money at my household - my opinions didn’t matter. My family would listen to me but not follow my advice.

But now that I earn a lot and help our family - suddenly everyone’s attitude changed. My word now has weight and intent. People listen. That is good. You might think you are already respected - but it’s very different.

Becoming indispensable makes people remember what you say and treat you with respect.

Of course there are snakes that do treat you with politeness just to leech off - however getting respect is a massive key if you wish to live life happily. It’s is mandatory for a man’s peace. Love is easy to get -respect is not

How do you become a person worthy of respect?

Simple:

“Make people understand your worth “

There are certain situation where you know you have the capabilities to pull off something but others will not see it. That is why you must make them see your worth. But there is a caveat - do not show off. Only show your skills when necessary.

Showing off your skills makes you a target of envy. It is not worth it. But showing your capabilities when necessary makes you a hero. And being a hero comes with a lot of perks especially in the corporate world.

Never let them leech off you - only show your skills when you absolutely have to. There is no indicator -you have to judge and decide when to show.

Making people understand your worth is easy. Let them feel the damage and problems that arise when you are absent.

If they know everything is fine without you - you’re worthless. However if they see chaos the moment you leave the team or have been absent for days - you are irreplaceable.

They have no choice but to respect your strengths. Respect is forced.

Become exceptional

When you are at the top of your industry or field - you will be sought out non-stop and respected.

Because your skills can make waves and change the industry standard. It is not easy but worth the trouble. Your wallet and bank account will grow as well.

Just make sure to work with the right people and not get exploited. Skilled people get exploited in life because they stick to one place - if you are skilled get a wider range of opportunities. It will be open to you.

Becoming exceptional makes you trust yourself as well. Because reaching that level requires you to overcome fear of failure and keep going despite setbacks.

You get respect when you respect yourself.

Keep your word

Any man who does not keep his word is seen as weak. You might not feel it but people remember whether you keep a promise or not.

However small or deep. You must train yourself to not say things that you know you cannot do. You must not make promises to help others when you know can’t help.

Keeping your mouth shut is good for you in general. So if you make a promise especially to someone important - keep it.

Do not make empty promises only to break it. It’s also wise to expect from other people on not keeping their promise and plan ahead of time. Saves you headaches.

Be polite

Being well mannered is a skill. Everywhere you go make sure to speak to others with respect. That is the standard. If you make insulting jokes or make improper remarks - you are a fool. Don’t be the person who makes fun of others.

There are a lot of idiots in the world who have no delicacy. Don’t be one of them.

Control your emotions

Do you know the easiest way to make people respect you? It is to remain calm in a chaotic situation.

It’s simple - if your coworkers are afraid of your boss but you remain calm in his/her presence- you will be respected.

Because it shows you are not the same as others. That is why brave people are respected.

It also goes - if most people are fearful of public speaking but you yourself do fine - you will be seen as above. And respect happens as a result.

And controlling your emotions has merit as well. If you enter an argument while you remain calm but the other party is about to burst from their anger - they look like a fool while you look trustworthy.

Because - anyone who cannot control their emotions are impulsive. And impulsive people cannot be trusted.

Without trust - there is no respect.

Become superior

That just right there might’ve misunderstood you. What I mean by this is simple.

Being superior doesn’t mean you go around telling others they are weak and you are strong.

No it’s simple: It means doing and being better than they are. You can be polite - you can be a good person but if you are useless - others will not hesitate to not help you when you need it most.

But by being helpful you naturally make others respect you and will help you in times of your need. Because they know you can repay them.

It’s a dog eat dog world. The more skilled, the more experienced you are at something the better. Your life quality improves as much as your worth as a person in whole.

No one says it - superior people are at the top. And people at the top are the most respected people.

You can deny it. You can ridicule that fact. But you can never run away from it.

That’s about it. I will discuss similar topics like this further in the future.

If you want me to tackle more topics about respect let me know. This letter is generalized so there’s potential here.

See you next time

-Noat

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• The Illimitable Men Audiobook (26.5 Hours of Narration) Learn how to become a top tier man that commands respect, understands women and never gets used by other people again. In this Audiobook you will learn how to play social games and win. “If you hate yourself or do not value yourself, it’s because you’ve not given yourself a reason to value yourself. We don’t just disrespect others who are low value, we disrespect ourselves for it too” a quote from the audiobook.

Today’s letter is kind of different.

I am someone very pragmatic and grounded on reality.

I dislike delusion and embrace reality.

Therefore today’s letter will be full of bittersweet truth.

Let’s start.

Anyone can make you promises but very few can follow through with action.

You know this as well.

The problem is - few actually put this into practice.

When someone makes you a promise of a better opportunity - you must not drool with imagination how much that will change your life.

You must stay practical and grounded.

Because it is yet to become reality.

Even if it is to become reality - there’s a high chance the deal you made can be revoked.

Promises are nothing. What truly matters in life is following through.

So many empires have been broken down because of kings believing in empty words.

This can be put into everyday life. If your boss told you he’ll give you a promotion or a raise- you must not believe it.

You must think “if they wanted to give me a raise why wait?” chances are they are using you for something and will get rid of you after they get it.

Do not trust what people say.

Faces lie , words lie - actions do not.

2. Life is hard

The earlier you realize this the better your life.

It is not good to take in every negative moment but you must take in what will happen if bad things occur.

If you want to be extra pragmatic - expect the worse case scenario.

Winners in life are those that never just expected things to go smoothly.

That is a losers mindset.

A winner must be able to take in account on “what could the worse that can happen?” and plan to prevent and mitigate if it ever happens.

Even if life is all giddy and hoops - you must remember to be on guard and pragmatic.

Not something too be too stiff - but something that you should always think ahead of whatever than can happen.

The longer you plan and think into the future - the better your plans go.

3. Willpower is everything

In life the strongest thing you can cultivate is willpower.

You must endure in the face of hardships and hell.

You must crawl your way from the bottom to the top.

People will use you and you will get disheartened.

But with having strong willpower - you never lose and never give up.

Life is dictated by those who have strong will and soul.

Every strong person you see have iron will.

They have strong conviction and will not falter easily.

If you ever wish to succeed in life - you will crawl through mud and spikes and you must have the willpower to push through pain.

4. Luck matters

Everyone who says luck does not matter overestimates themselves and underestimates life.

In order to increase your luck - you must be always thinking you are a lucky person.

What you think affects your life.

Because through the mind we see our individual lives differently.

Twins with the same body and face can see life very differently.

Because everyone’s experiences is unique.

Nobody has the same experience as you as everyone does not have the mind that you do.

And therefore those - who think they are lucky are incredibly lucky - because in their eyes luck happens everywhere.

5. The world works in principles

There are hidden laws and rules in the world.

They are not legal laws - but one you can feel and articulate as your consciousness shift to higher levels.

As you meditate - you start to see the world clearly and think differently.

You start to wonder why everyone gets so agitated by a single social media post and get infuriated with it for weeks.

You start to wonder why most people stay stuck when the answer is very clear to you.

I myself have understood how the world works.

One principle that is will aways be true is this: “Life favors the bold”

Confident people are always given opportunities

the timid cannot get

The timid is unworthy and will likely fail because of fear.

But the confident will not and that is why they are given the opportunity.

The timid only gets what the confident gets once they break out of their shell.

6. You can die today and be forgotten after a week

The only people that will truly care for you is your family.

No matter what you do unless you a celebrity or a superstar - people do not care about you.

You can roll over the mall and go back there the next day and no one will remember it was you.

Heck they won’t even care.

Because why would they?

They don’t even know you.

And this right here plagues a lot of people.

So much opportunities only to be wasted.

7. Potential is useless unless used

Everyone has certain skills and talents they posses.

But very few get to work and hone them.

Potential is useless if it’s never used.

You can be the greatest potential man but it’s all in vain if you never even used a fraction of your potential.

This is why gifted kids suffer after they grow up.

Things were easy on them and they didn’t have to put enough effort only to hit a plateau and quit because they don’t understand why they are unable to make progress.

Don’t be the potential man and be the man.

That’s about it.

I’ve decided to make a short one today as the last 3 letters were 2-2.5k words long.

I have so many more ideas to write about.

Look forward to them.

I can also write about human nature if you want.

Let me know

See you next week

-Noat

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• The Illimitable Men Audiobook (26.5 Hours of Narration) Learn how to become a top tier man that commands respect, understands women and never gets used by other people again. In this Audiobook you will learn how to play social games and win. “If you hate yourself or do not value yourself, it’s because you’ve not given yourself a reason to value yourself. We don’t just disrespect others who are low value, we disrespect ourselves for it too” a quote from the audiobook.

Being a man, getting results means staying horny.

You must use your sexual energy to create, invent and learn.

You must not jack off and waste your life energy.

No matter how much temptation there is, do not deprive your balls of life energy.

The more libido you have the more energy you have to spend

What is sexual energy?

Sexual energy is a life force that makes a man achieves the impossible.

It is the drive to f*ck and have children.

Every men have this energy.

The difference is how they use it.

Losers use it to watch porn and jack off.

Winners use it to create and be productive.

Why is this energy so powerful? If it is so powerful, why is everyone not doing it?

Because it’s a life force that’s been guiding all of us even our ancestors.

It’s the kind of energy that doesn’t deplete if you use it well. Men want to fuck, but if fucking is all a man does - he becomes weak.

So what should do man instead? Since man is very horny and has a lot of sexual energy - he should transmute this and use it to be productive.

“There is no energy whatsoever without the element of sexuality.”

-Carl Jung

Do you know why marketers use provocative and sexual ads? Because of energy! Being sexual sells.

That’s why marketers use them. That’s why they put on these hot models showing their bodies in a sexual and provocative way.

The moment you see a sexual ad - your energy is being harvested into buying a product turning you into a customer.

These marketers know how to leech off your energy and use it agains’t you for their benefit.

Sexual energy is where your creativity and passion lives.

Any man who has achieved great results all have strong energy. That’s why women flock to them. This energy is strong and it oozes out of them. You can feel it radiating.

They glow and you can feel it.

By then, winners are inspired and losers hate it.

They even go to say those who practice semen retention are ugly and fat.

To tell you - I’ve never seen a fat person do semen retention.

And anyone who says semen retention are for losers- they are the losers.

I’ve even had a friend called me gay because I don’t watch porn.

You see this psyop? They could be great - harvesting this great energy for results and do productive work.

But no -they just had to believe in the brainwashing that watching porn and jacking off everyday is normal.

They just had to go with their loser friends and boast about how much porn they’ve watched.

And no - most men who get addicted on this aren’t dumb or stupid - My friends are highly intelligent, able to do calculus and solve complex math problems.

But still fell to this psyop.

So what is the problem?

It’s in the mindset. I was lucky to come across truth.

That watching porn and masturbation makes you weak. I prefer truth over delusion. So therefore I did not make excuses about it.

“Was it hard”? Yes

“Was it worth it?” YES

My experience

Staying horny is a battle.

When you practice semen retention you become animal like. Full of energy, vitality and strength.

Almost all women you come across is attractive in your eyes.

You notice the sexy nape, you notice the cute haircut, you notice the half eye moon shape - you become hypersensitive to women.

Your dick stays hard for hours.

Even a picture of a girl that is non sexy gets you hard

When you sleep you remember the women you’ve come across and find them beautiful.

You become animal like with semen retention.

You wake up with morning wood.

You magnetized women with their gaze.

They look at you- you notice them and they stare hard.

You experience the female gaze - women seem to know you are full of vitality.

They understand your battle and respect it.

Your imagination runs wild - your dick gets hard easily - you get blue balls from imagination.

You become a man.

You experience nature more.

You appreciate life.

Your sex life gets 10x better.

Your self-respect sky rockets.

You attract women left and right.

It’s a cheat code.

Weak men can feel your energy and feel envious. Acting in passive aggressive behaviors.

People who watch porn and masturbate cannot know this experience.

They are simply too ignorant and focused on their world view.

The most dangerous part of improving with semen retention - is you lose relatability with your friends.

The people who once knew you will become entirely different.

Your worldview will be flipped outside down. You will start to see people on terms of who is strong and who is weak.

You will see those who are pretending to be strong and see their BS.

You will no longer bond with porn.

Slowly your relationships will start to fall off.

Because you as someone on semen retention, you will hate those who try to make you fall.

You’ve already understood the hard part of overcoming this addiction. Getting back will just hurt you and you know it.

So you cut all distractions and maintain your results.

Why do I advocate to retain

It’s because I HATE THE PSYOP.

• “Masturbation is healthy”

• “Porn is normal”

• “Your gay if you don’t watch porn”

These are just the many phrases weak men say.

And it’s fucking painful to see men believe them.

And it’s even more painful seeing boys believe them.

Grown men are one thing but boys aged 9-15 believing it’s normal for them to watch porn is straight up disgusting.

Can you see how this is destroying society?

• You’re teaching young boys to watch grown people fuck together.

• You’re teaching them it’s normal to fuck their hands.

• You’re teaching them it’s normal to be weak.

Porn is just the many ways why society is collapsing.

But teaching young boys that this is normal is incredibly damaging

Why does society want you weak?

When men are weak - they are easy to exploit and manipulate.

When men are deprived of sexual energy - it’s easy to get them hook on porn.

It’s easy to turn them into desperate degenerates that can be milked for money.

The weaker you are - the easier you are to exploit.

How to fight back

Do semen retention.

If you still think masturbation is normal - go unsubscribe.

“Most people call this no-fap but semen retention is different.

It’s the act of withholding sexual acts and experiences for a long period of time.

Legends have done this before.

Men who can fuck any woman they want.

Men who can get girls.

But they didn’t.

Because they had a goal and vision.

And when a man has a vision, he needs to be hungry and balls full.

Because men become docile when their sexual needs are artificially met.

And as a man - when you fuck a woman, you give your energy away to her.

Men are naturally born hunters. And Men perform the best when hungry.

It’s society that made you weak. It’s your peers telling you porn is normal so you don’t out compete them.

A hungry man is a lethal man. He’s obsessed about getting the food, about getting the hunt done. He’s focused and determined.

But when a man is satiated - he becomes docile and lethargic. It’s what happens after you eat.

• You suddenly want to sleep.

• You want to lie down.

• You want to rest.

This isn’t semen retention - but more like fasting.

And that’s what I want you to understand.

Semen retention with fasting is probably the ultimate hack for productivity.

Every time I do this - the quality of output and ideas I have is just top tier.

My letters get 20+ likes in one go.

My focus and flow lasts for 2 hours long.

When you couple this with semen retention - you become ecstatic and transmuted.

Semen retention is more appropriate to be called: sexual transmutation.

It’s the act of using libido to build, create and build a vision.

Men who’ve achieved significant results have done this - they didn’t go around fucking women every Saturday night and partying.

Because a man on a mission needs focus. And emptying your balls and indulging in sexual activities dull your mind.

If you have a wife sure. Go do it. F*ck her.

But if you’re a young man who’s hungry to get a GF - don’t.

You’ll just waste valuable energy and time.

If you are going to get a GF it must come from a place of relaxation and choice not out of desperation.

Getting a GF because you need intimacy never works out long term.

Anyways back to topic.

It’s been over 4 years since I’ve been on semen retention. And the first thing you would notice after 3-6 months of protecting this energy - is female attention.

It’s when women look at you and smile. It’s when they feel anxious interacting with you and somehow find a way to interact with you.

It’s when attraction works.

I know this because I experience it daily. Women will go out of their way to touch you and interact with you”

Read more here: https://substack.com/@dailytipsonself/p-191016706

This is one of my best letters that I’ve ever written.

And I’ll continue to quote what I said in the future.

Why being horny makes you win

When you practice semen retention - your body becomes honest.

Your mind says what it really wants.

It knows what it wants and it doesn’t deny it.

Most people do not know what they want. They have zero desires and just play along with life.

And that’s exactly why they don’t win.

They like a girl but they make excuses about how he can’t get her.

They want a high paying job but makes excuses that they’ll do it later.

Being horny or rather sexually transmuted makes your desire crystal clear.

You no longer doubt yourself but trust your intuition and gut.

Most men are not honest with themselves. They do not have the guts to say “I want wealth”, “I want a beautiful wife” without feeling shameful.

And honestly there’s many reasons to that.

Most men are trained to be docile and weak.

That’s why they get you hooked on porn and masturbation. Because that way you stay weak and stay out of being a competitor.

Being a strong man is dangerous. Not to others but to those who don’t want you to compete.

Being strong means having the guts to get a girl, having the skill to create wealth and be happy.

If you are happy you cannot be exploited. Because you already have what you want.

If you are deprived and miserable - it’s easy to get you to buy a product that will magically fix your life.

Do you understand what I mean?

The happier and fulfilled you are - the realer you become to yourself.

When you don’t lie to yourself - you become whole.

If you truly want something and get it- it’ll be yours. But you can’t- because deep down you just want it out of excuses to feel comfort that at least you tried.

Semen retention opens up your real desires.

That’s why it’s so powerful.

That’s why fappers are envious of you.

You have this superpower and they don’t.

If you still don’t have this super power. get it.

No excuses - if I can do it so can you.

That’s all

See you next time

-Noat

When you’re ready, check out:

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• The Illimitable Men Audiobook (26.5 Hours of Narration) Learn how to become a top tier man that commands respect, understands women and never gets used by other people again. In this Audiobook you will learn how to play social games and win. “If you hate yourself or do not value yourself, it’s because you’ve not given yourself a reason to value yourself. We don’t just disrespect others who are low value, we disrespect ourselves for it too” a quote from the audiobook.

Kortex was down for approximately 4-6 days. I was unable to access my letters and had to wait.

Thanks for your patience, here’s this weeks letter even if it’s delayed:

The modern man has a comfort addiction.

He eats before he’s hungry.

Sleeps before he’s tired.

Watches porn before he’s earned a woman.

And wonders why he feels dead inside.

People think motivation comes first.

Wrong.

Hunger comes first.

The wolf doesn’t need a morning routine.

The wolf doesn’t need a productivity app.

The wolf is hungry.

That’s enough.

Look around.

Most men have completely lost their hunger.

Their stomachs are full.

Their balls are empty.

Their minds are distracted.

Their spirit is asleep.

Everything they want has a synthetic version.

• Want status?

• Post a photo.

• Want intimacy?

• Watch porn.

• Want achievement?

• Play a video game.

• Want adventure?

• Watch somebody else live one.

The modern world has figured out how to sell men fake wins.

And men keep buying them.

That’s why so many guys look exhausted despite doing nothing.

Their lives are one giant dopamine binge.

They consume all day.

Then wonder why they have nothing to show for it.

You weren’t built to consume.

You were built to pursue.

To chase.

To hunt.

To build.

A man becomes sharp when something is missing.

• When his stomach growls.

• When his bank account is low.

• When his future is uncertain.

• When he has something to prove.

That’s when he comes alive.

That’s when he starts creating.

That’s when he starts taking risks.

That’s when he starts becoming dangerous.

The problem is most men run from that feeling.

The moment discomfort appears, they numb themselves.

• Food.

• Porn.

• Netflix.

• TikTok.

• Alcohol.

Anything to avoid feeling hungry.

Anything to avoid sitting alone with ambition.

Anything to avoid feeling like a loser.

But ambition is supposed to hurt.

If your dreams don’t make you uncomfortable, they’re probably too small.

Every great thing I’ve built came from a period of deprivation.

Not abundance.

Not comfort.

Deprivation.

The desire to escape where I was.

The desire to become someone else.

The desire to prove something.

A hungry man works differently.

He thinks differently.

He moves differently.

You can feel it when he walks into a room.

He’s carrying tension.

Purpose.

Direction.

Most people mistake that energy for confidence.

It’s not confidence.

It’s hunger.

And hunger is one of the most powerful forces on earth.

So stop trying to eliminate it.

Protect it.

Feed it slowly.

Use it.

Because the moment you become completely satisfied is the moment you stop growing.

Stay hungry.

Balls full.

Stomach empty.

Balls Full, Stomach empty

There’s something I’ve always noticed among men who achieve results. And it’s the way they control their primal desires.

Men who have empty balls are weak. Knowing if a man watches porn and masturbates is easy.

They have a weak aura or frequency. They repel people. Meanwhile you can always see the men who are magnetic. The one’s people turn their faces just to see when they enter the room.

When you masturbate and empty your balls - you repel the feminine energy. And the world is full of feminine energy.

I know I’m talking about some philosophical stuff right now but bear with me.

When you masturbate - you teach yourself to be weak. Instead of getting a girl - you are fine fucking your own hands.

Your balls is where your life force comes from. It’s where testosterones is made. And when you keep emptying it - you steal energy from your future self.

Look at cats. When a male cat gets neutered - it becomes weak and docile. It losses aggression and the need to be dominant.

The same happens to you. If you keep fapping and watching porn - you teach yourself to be weak and submissive.

You teach yourself to watch other men dominate and stay on the sidelines.

You may not agree with what I say right now - but the moment you witness a high quality man being magnetic- I’m sure you will feel envy and want to emulate him.

But that’s where most men cope.

Men are convinced that watching porn and masturbating is normal.

Yes - for losers it is normal.

But for men of substance - that idea is pointless.

You have this propaganda about how masturbating daily keeps you away from prostate cancer - but how do you not know if it’s just a way to make sure you stay weak?

Do you really think men who get women - fuck their own hands and watch a man dominate a woman in a screen? Fuck no.

They put out their own selves out there and approach women.

If you’ve been convinced watching porn is normal - it’s usually because your friends or peers you hang out with are most likely losers who do not understand the concept of semen retention.

Many of you will be reading this letter and laugh it off. But just know - after a year or 2 it will be us who will be laughing at you.

A while ago I wrote this piece titled “Balls full, stomach empty” and now I will continue on what I meant by it.

Most men have lost their drive and hunger.

Purely because of artificial options. If a man wants intimacy he can just pay an OF model to chat or call.

Now he doesn’t have to face the fear of rejection nor does he need to build his confidence to approach and fuck women.

And that makes men docile.

You see, for hundreds and thousands of years men and women meet organically and by face to face.

Your ancestors didn’t get to know each other through text or video calls. They met face to face.

When you deprive yourself from the experience and the hunt of finding a worthy prospect to be your wife, you settle for less and teach yourself how to stay weak.

This is why divorce rates are through the roof. Most men don’t have the balls to go and approach a woman.

He would rather marry the first girl who showed interest and not approach a lot of women to see which one he truly loves.

I blame porn and propaganda’s making men weak.

• With a few clicks - a man can see a beautiful woman naked and getting pumped.

• With a few clicks - a man’s carnal desire is easily satiated.

• With a few clicks -a man gets the comfort of his dreams.

Men are made through pain and struggle.

If a man skips the forge and uses artificial means to get what he wants, he becomes docile and woman like.

Do you see how many men look like women? how they have big boobs and have high estrogen?

Does this look normal to you? Well if you’re a loser yes.

The Improvement Letter is blunt and honest. If you dislike what I say go unsubscribe.

Why so many men are weak

We can go deep the rabbit hole and explain all sorts of reasons why most men are weak.

But here’s a few heuristics.

Most men are raised by single mothers

When WW1 and WW2 happened, most fathers died in battle. And that left the Mothers to fend and take care of their offspring.

Not say Mothers are bad at raising men, but without a father figure - a boy grows up weak and feminine.

You see a Mothers job is to nurture and care. And a Fathers job is to strengthen and toughen up his son.

The Mother teaches his son kindness and care, the Father teaches his son to be strong and independent.

What happens if all you teach to a boy is protection and nurturance?

What happens if the boy never has a Father figure he can learn on what it’s like to be a man?

He misunderstands.

He thinks he should be kind and selfless all the time. He thinks women’s romantic love is the same as paternal love.

He gets confused.

He becomes distracted and irritated at why it’s not the way he thinks the world is like he was taught to.

Ultimately he becomes broken.

Ultimately his life becomes broken and he creates broken families.

Ultimately the cycle repeats.

There are exceptions but not always. Like having an Uncle as a Father figure or a mentor. Most men aren’t that lucky.

Men are taught the wrong things

Men have been taught sex is more important than success.

Men have been taught pleasing a woman is more important than his mission.

Men have been taught he should never be aggressive or show confidence in the world.

Men have been taught to be weak by constant societal shame and stereotypes.

If a man publicly says he doesn’t like what a woman says or does, he gets labeled as a misogynist.

If a man pursues his dream and focus on his goals, his peers tell him he is stupid and crazy.

Most men are weak because they hang out with weak men.

They keep listening to the same BS advice that never once helped them improve their lives

A man’s life is not something a woman can or should teach.

A woman teaching what a man should be will never work.

That’s why if a man listens to a woman what a man should be, his life becomes miserable and he fails to understand why.

Most educators are women and their ideas about what a man should be is shit.

That’s why if a man listens to what the public and follows what they say what a man should be, his life becomes miserable.

If a man believes:

• masturbation is healthy

• being handsome is everything

• genetics are everything

• porn is okay

• happy wife happy life

• being nice will get him laid

• bluepill and purplepill is the answer

He becomes lost. He becomes a lost boy.

Mature in body but immature in mind.

The world is not exactly against you, just not designed for your success.

But don’t lose hope.

That’s exactly why The Improvement Letter exists.

There are people who help men get better.

There are men who shares their lessons about what is delusion and what is reality.

There’s hope.

And your life gets better when you act not just hope.

How do you win agaisn’t a rigged game?

Now that you understand a man’s life isn’t exactly his and why it leads to that point, what do you do?

First you accept reality.

The more you deny what is real, the more you will suffer.

Second you improvise.

Instead of following the game you break the rules, bend them and actualize your potential.

Third you keep consuming content that is valuable and includes real advice.

You stop consuming anything that is sugar coated lies.

Fourth you do self-improvement. A man’s life is determined by how much he grows.

You don’t need to be a billionaire. But it’s much better to be 10x better than you are now 10 years in the future than stay the same.

Fifth, never stop learning. That is the way. Keep accumulating knowledge and wisdom.

That’s they key

The key to a man’s happiness is constant improvement and a mission to fulfill. A man without a mission becomes weak.

He becomes a neutered cat. e losses his confidence, aggression and energy to face the world.

He needs energy and channel it to productive means.

No man is happy slowly dying of boredom.

Men must create and fulfill their purpose.

That is the answer.

That’s all and see you next time

-Noat

If you want to get to the next level check out:

• Live Intentionally: 90 Day Self-Improvement Program By Harsh Strongman. Over 10k+ sold. Get rid of your bad habits and addiction fast and build discipline in 90 days. A 90 day project which aims to help you control your urges, become more disciplined and replace bad habits with productive habits. I’ve specifically used the tactics described in the e-book in the past to help me work 12 hours everyday. 10k sold and over 400+ 5 star verified ratings.

• The Illimitable Men Audiobook (26.5 Hours of Narration) Learn how to become a top tier man that commands respect, understands women and never gets used by other people again. In this Audiobook you will learn how to play social games and win. “If you hate yourself or do not value yourself, it’s because you’ve not given yourself a reason to value yourself. We don’t just disrespect others who are low value, we disrespect ourselves for it too” a quote from the audiobook.

“In this economy?” I always hear this phrase being spun around and has it never occurred to them what this really means?

Today is the best time to be alive. If you lived in the 90’s you had to deal with wars and mafia’s raging blaze.

You get drafted to war for no reason.

But today you have the internet. You can learn whatever you want in just a click. Having no degree no longer makes you unemployable. You can build and learn whatever skills you want with time and effort using the internet.

This kind of behavior is very common.

It’s “Not gonna make it”.

But I call this “The brainwashed youth”

“In this economy” is a propaganda built to keep you weak and powerless.

Because you think it’s the economies fault that your life sucks - you wait for the economy to get better - but that never happens.

Inflation is going to keep getting higher and higher.

That’s inevitable. There’s no past record where inflation went down.

And this leads us to our main topic - most people have no original thought. They just spew whatever bullshit they hear in the internet and news.

Nobody really puts extensive and rigorous critical thinking that much. And that’s why when someone do - they always stand out.

Some are considered offensive and some who know how to navigate socially are seen as charismatic.

So next time when someone argues with you - just don’t. You’re talking to a robot who’s ideas are not even theirs.

And the more you question them - the more they will either keep defending their viewpoint with no logical fact and solid evidence but raise their voice to sound superior.

It’s always fascinating to see someone defend their herd ideas when they realize - they don’t know much about it.

And they only say things because most people say it.

A false fallacy.

Just because a lot of people believe in it -doesn’t mean it’s automatically true.

Realize this and you’ll become smarter.

Why the weird ones get called out

People hating the weird and autistic kid is common.

And it’s not because they are actually weird.

It’s because they break the norm. They don’t follow what most people do.

And that is seen as threat to the masses. Because the masses are bots who have no original thought.

So when someone stands out, they are either bullied or admired.

The charismatic ones who have good wit are liked and admired. The ones who do not know how to stop themselves from saying offensive statements are hated.

People do not like it when someone is better than them. Especially when you know something and they don’t. Sure some people are kind.

But the masses aren’t.

Most people are depressed and exhausted. They do not have the mental bandwidth to be happy.

So when someone stands out, instead of defending this person - they join the bullying.

Because for them it gives them happiness and meaning.

Their life sucks and they will not admit it.

So instead they’ll attack someone else online or offline.

Look at social media. You see people rage baiting each other.

You see them arguing on useless things.

You see them doing stupid things to prove their point to a stranger.

It is madness.

And why?

Because they do not think. They judge. Because judging is easier than thinking.

“Thinking is difficult, that’s why most people judge.” — Carl Jung

Most people do not have the capacity to go through logic and separate emotions. That’s why you have people fighting over stupid things.

That’s why they rage bait each other.

Because it’s easier.

It’s easier to numb the feelings we have inside ourselves than to confront reality.

It’s easier to follow emotions than think through with logic.

Delusion over reality

Everyone has delusion. The difference is when you learn to leave it.

The average person is more egotistical than humble.

They overestimate their intelligence and capacity.

So they make stupid remarks and delude themselves into thinking they are someone they are not.

You might think of narcissists but it is different.

Delusion plagues most people. And precisely why they are depressed.

The truth may hurt, but it will not betray you. Lies on the other hand keeps you stupid, naive and foolish.

Most people do not have a clear understanding of reality. Even as I write this letter I find it hard to think like I did before.

I’ve forgotten how the average mind thinks. That’s often why I write things that doesn’t seem to make sense.

And if you understand what I write and the meaning behind my words - know that your consciousness is on higher level than most people.

If you have trouble understanding what I say- fear not. Just keep reading.

I didn’t get this wise on a heartbeat. I read many and many things. To the point my eyes would get dry from reading.

The mediocre mindset

When I say “mediocre mindset” I do not mean average intelligence.

Someone who is incredibly intelligent can have a mediocre mindset unless they break it.

I have a friend who is incredibly smart and can do calculus. Yet he restrains himself because of fear and overthinking.

Your intelligence is not a measure of success in life.

It’s your courage (balls), wisdom and solid understanding of reality that is the break or make it factor.

The most painful thing I have to witness is incredibly smart people holding themselves back because they lack self-respect and self-confidence.

It always pain me to see so much potential only to be wasted. The problem is you cannot force people to change. It must come from within. No matter how much advice you give them, it will not work if they won’t change.

Everyone has potential. The competent ones you see are the ones who cultivated it.

You know the guy who has a lot of potential but wasted it. You’ve seen him. You know you could end up like him.

A person can be smart but not successful.

How to develop original thoughts

Being able to think wisely comes from solitude.

A lot of people have no original ideas because they are overstimulated and always want company.

But novel ideas do not come from noise. It comes from silence. From places where no noise can be heard.

From early morning walks.

And from early workout sessions.

Your mind has a lot of ideas. The problem is you’re not letting it say to you.

You overstimulate yourself with doom scrolling.

You listen to sad songs when you’re sad.

You binge watch movies day and night.

You grind games 24/7.

No wonder your ideas suck.

It used to be like that for me as well.

Your brain genuinely develops once you let it rest.

Not rest by idle time watching TV or scrolling in your phone.

But real rest. Idle time doing nothing.

You can lie around or go for a walk. Anything to give yourself a peace of mind.

This is why meditation is very helpful. Most people avoid their thoughts and deny it. But emotions just make it stronger next time.

When you come across a difficult thought, take responsibility and be honest. Your mind makes you remember it because it’s important. It will never go away unless you deal with it.

Don’t consume, create

Now I’m not saying you should never watch movies or shows.

I’m saying is you should create.

Whatever it is.

Art, essays, poem. dancing anything…

Just create.

I’m not you. So learn what you want to do.

Personally I like to write and do art.

I write everyday. Even when I don’t write a letter, I write in my journal. I always write. Whatever it is on my mind I write,

I write to exhaust my mind with ideas or else it gets heavy.

Whatever you want, just find something. Create. Be it building lego houses, cooking, sewing etc..

Just anything. Lean how to create.

Develop unique interests

The weird ones are always the most interesting.

People just do not see their charm.

The girl who reads Nietzsche is incredibly interesting.

The man who is both nerdy and jacked is interesting.

People are shallow so they don’t see their charm.

That also means you. When you were a child you had a genuine curiosity, be it science, health, spaceships or anything.

You had real curiosity.

Go back to them. Your inner child is the one guiding future you. You need to find out what makes it happy because it’ll make you happy as well.

Anyone who does not listen to their inner child end up depressed and unhappy. That is not to say you should go and numb yourself with addictions just because your inner child says it wants to play online games.

I’m saying real curiosity.

Genuine thought and genuine ideas.

Only by being interested you can create with joy. You need to find out what is it you really love doing.

Only you know. I can show you the way but you have to walk the path.

That’s all.

See you next time.

-Noat

When you’re ready, check out:

• Live Intentionally: 90 Day Self-Improvement Program By Harsh Strongman. Over 10k+ sold. Get rid of your bad habits and addiction fast and build discipline in 90 days. A 90 day project which aims to help you control your urges, become more disciplined and replace bad habits with productive habits. I’ve specifically used the tactics described in the e-book in the past to help me work 12 hours everyday. 10k sold and over 400+ 5 star verified ratings.

• The Illimitable Men Audiobook (26.5 Hours of Narration) Learn how to become a top tier man that commands respect, understands women and never gets used by other people again. In this Audiobook you will learn how to play social games and win. “If you hate yourself or do not value yourself, it’s because you’ve not given yourself a reason to value yourself. We don’t just disrespect others who are low value, we disrespect ourselves for it too” a quote from the audiobook.

PS: Image is not mine source here and ccto: pinterest.com/pin/834291899749441204/

“I am too shy, I lose valuable opportunities because I do not have the courage to speak, in fact I have currently just fallen very low ,I ruined my university career because of this problem and, now I want to recover, do things well, stop being afraid to act”

I’ve already talked about this.

As starters there is no university career unless you are working a job in university.

Going to uni is not a career.

You should take your university life seriously - but you shouldn’t depend on it for fun.

Your high school life is the most fun you can have.

I’m thinking you feel angry at yourself because you’ve become a social outcast. Or should I say you think everyone doesn’t care about you in uni.

I’m not sure what you mean by university career.

But let’s start here “I do not have the courage to speak”.

Not having any courage comes from cowardice.

You are afraid of what people think or will judge you for.

So you stay quiet because it’s easier that way.

Although it’s from cowardice - it doesn’t mean you should - stay as a coward your whole life - unless you never try to change.

So why does a person lack courage?

There are many reasons:

• Low self-esteem

• Trauma

• Effects of bullying

• Easy life never been to tough situations before

• Never breaking out of your shell

If you want to build courage what you need to do is simple: “Act despite feeling fear”

It means if you are afraid of talking to someone - you do it and talk to that someone.

• If you are afraid of talking to the girl you like - you force yourself to talk to her.

• If you are afraid of doing something - you go and do it.

No one is born courageous. What you have to do is get used to feeling fear and do it.

You will feel afraid but nonetheless you get it done.

That is how you build courage.

It’s uncomfortable but you put in the reps.

Courage is a numbers game.

The more you do what you’re afraid to do - the more courageous you become.

Evidence is key. The more you stack wins the bigger your courage.

So keep stacking them no matter how small. Every time you are afraid of doing something - remember one moment where you acted despite being afraid.

And you’ll become more confident as as result.

“I am too shy, I lose valuable opportunities because I do not have the courage to speak

I understand what you mean.

Your mind probably create scenarios out of your head of what could’ve happen if you didn’t let fear take over.

What I can say is this :Your mind lies and amplifies your mistakes.

So you might think you just lost a life changing opportunity - but if you reason without emotions - it will not seem like a big deal.

Do not let your mind go overboard. There are many ways to get similar opportunities.

“I have currently just fallen very low”

That’s normal. You are likely in a rut having failed yourself many times.

Just try again.

Nobody said you have to quit. Don’t let your mind convince you.

“I ruined my university career because of this problem and, now I want to recover, do things well, stop being afraid to act”

I do not know what kind of university career you mean but if you mean that you are not social with your peers in university- that’s irrelevant.

If you go to uni for 4 years most people you know there you will never see again unless you proactively keep the friendship.

If that’s the case - your mind is too preoccupied with being famous in uni. Discard that thought. Popularity will not serve you. Spend your time wisely instead.

I don’t even know why would you want to be popular in university - it’s just a waste of time.

The more viable answer is getting along - being popular makes you the target of rumors and drama.

Better to avoid.

"and, now I want to recover, do things well, stop being afraid to act"

Want is not enough.

Doing is.

I already mentioned how to overcome fear at the top.

But this time I’ll tell you another problem you have.

Your self-esteem is shit.

That’s likely why you don’t trust yourself and are too afraid to act.

If you had good self-esteem - speaking up will not be a problem.

In order to recover - you have to proactively accept that you have failed.

No need to deny emotions you have.

And no need to keep beating yourself because of it.

Next time you feel afraid to do something - act despite it.

You do not have to do anything grand just do something you’re afraid to do.

Even asking people that work in public places is something people fear. You can start there.

You are also likely too caged in your own home. Go out often and socialize.

Don’t lock yourself up in home scrolling everyday for hours.

Here’s your action step:

• Start greeting people you know. Good morning, good evening, good afternoon etc. Start there and small. If you are out of your home - ask directions from strangers even though you already know the way. That’s the first step. Talking to others will help discard some of your social anxieties.

• Journal your mistakes and tell yourself that I forgive myself for messing up and I will do better next time. This sounds simple yet so many people don’t do it because it feels cringey. Overcome that feeling as well. Being honest with yourself is the answer.

• Start stacking small wins. Talked to a person despite feeling afraid? Win. Woke up early? Win. Slept early? Win. Start stacking wins in your mind and write it down and read it everyday. You must re-create a new identity with yourself that is courageous and not afraid.

• Start talking to strangers. Workout to build confidence. Learn new skills so your mind stops beating you for feeling useless. It’s very common to see people who have shit mental health also be shit at what they do. Because their mind is not clear and full of negativity. Start replacing all of these by taking action. No matter how much you plan action is what gets you results.

That’s all.

See you next time

-Noat

Your excuses about height, genetics doesn’t matter. Those are cope. Men who allow themselves to be small don’t deserve growth.

If you are here to make excuses “but I am x,y,z” , “but what if I was born like this” stop reading and go back to making excuses.

Most men are ugly not because they are born like a troll, but because they don’t know how to take care of themselves.

They don’t know how grooming, increasing physique, body language works.

They have no knowledge about how to increase one’s attractiveness and don’t realize it’s possible to become more attractive.

You can start at the bottom and still come out on top. All excuses are cope. I was fugly and I became fit, made my body lean and lowered my body fat. You can cope all you want. It’s all excuses at the end.

You might think the more attractive you are the more people will accept you. Yes they will but that’s not the goal.

The single greatest benefit of increasing your attractiveness is self-respect and self-love.

A man who hates to look better hates himself. A woman who refuses to take action and improve her looks hates herself.

No man or woman who respect and loves himself/herself hates looking better. It’s only those who have self-hatred that dn’t put any effort into improving their looks.

The better you look the better your life becomes. It’s a fact.

The way you present yourself aka posture is important

Source: https://physiocure.in/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/posture.jpg

You can instantly go from 10 to 5 just from having a bad posture. People aren’t that smart.

Humans are judgemental. Weak body language signals you as unimportant and someone to be push around. Look around you, when you see a slouched person always looking down on their phone, you immediately think they are a push over. It’s a natural tendency to have.

Seriously, your posture dictates your status to everyone around you 24/7. People make snap judgments about your competence and attractiveness within 100 milliseconds of seeing you. Most of that comes from posture.

Rounded shoulders, forward head, collapsed chest. That’s what 90% of people look like. Hunching over screens, looking at the floor when talking to someone, avoiding eye contact makes you look insecure, low energy, and a loser. Weak body language signals “I’m not worth your time.”

The fix is annoying but simeple; Pull your shoulders back, keep your chin level, and maintain a neutral spine. It feels weird at first, almost like you’re puffing your chest out. But it works. You just have to get used at it

Master the art of strategic attention

People find you more attractive when you’re slightly less available than they expect. Not playing games, but genuinely having a full life that they’re being invited into.

Anyone who is always available, always shares what’s going on with their lives lack mystery and thus are seen as common.

What you need is actually have a life and have things you focus on. That means actually having things to do and being busy, like real busy.

So when someone gets your attention, sometimes, but not always, their brain releases more dopamine than if you’re constantly available.

Practically, this means don’t respond to texts instantly every time. Have hobbies and commitments that occasionally take priority. Show genuine interest when you’re together, but don’t be the person who drops everything constantly.

When you are always available and give people your attention freely, you become a commodity, someone common and average.

But if you choose your time and who you give your attention carefully, people respect that and makes you look more attractive.

That also means, if someone is actively ignoring you, ignore them back. Don’t give your attention freely like you’re someone begging for it.

Never give your attention freely.

Develop an unfair verbal advantage

Most people are TERRIBLE at conversation. They either interview the other person with boring questions or they monologue about themselves. Both are attractiveness killers.

But if you have a good vocabulary and is good at articulating yourself, you are seen as more interesting and someone worthy listening to.

When you share stories, be specific.

The keyword is specific. Don’t say, “I like hiking.” Say, “I got lost in the mountains last month and had this moment at sunset where I genuinely thought I might die out there, which was oddly peaceful.”

Specificity creates imagery, emotion, and connection.

It also makes people actively imagine what you are saying adding depth and creativity.

People connect better when they can imagine things.

I recommend you practice your social skills by recording yourself. Try telling a story. Without anyone around. Just you and the camera.

Smell better than everyone else (seriously)

Olfaction is directly wired to the limbic system, the emotional center of your brain. scent bypasses conscious processing and triggers immediate emotional responses.

Most guys either smell like a middle school locker room (too much Axe body spray) or like nothing (which is honestly worse than you think). Women are biologically more sensitive to scent than men, so this matters way more than most people realize.

The play here is layering. Good soap or body wash, then a subtle cologne. emphasis on SUBTLE. You want people to smell you when they’re close, not when they enter the room.

That also means take care of your hygiene properly. Don’t smell bad. Actually take care of how you smell.

Become genuinely interested in people

This sounds like basic advice, but most people fake this terribly. Humans are exceptional at detecting genuine interest versus performative interest.

The trick is curiosity. Not polite questioning, but actual fascination with how other people’s minds work. Everyone has an area where they are secretly obsessed with something.

• Find it.

• Ask follow-up questions.

• Let them teach you something.

This works because of mirror neurons and social reward systems. When you show genuine interest in someone, their brain lights ups. They associate you with feeling good about themselves, which is the foundation of attraction.

A lot of this stuff fails because people are working from a foundation of low self-worth.

You can fix your posture, smell amazing, and master conversation techniques. But if you fundamentally don’t believe you’re worth someone’s time, it shows in your body language and energy.

Most people connect over shallow things. So their relationships become shallow. They don’t really know each other and are just trying to be polite.

That doesn’t work. Humans are wired to see whether you really like them or not.

Anyone can fake interest but not curiosity.

The good news is that this is fixable. It’s not some inherent quality you’re born with. Self-worth is built through evidence, accomplishing small goals. Keeping promises to yourself. Gradually, you build self-worth over time.

Therapy helps if you have got deeper stuff going on with these frameworks.

Look, becoming genuinely attractive is possible for basically everyone. You don’t have to reincarnate or become someone else. You have to put in the work.. The science backs this up. The practical results back this up. I back this up.

Most people won’t do any of this because it requires sustained effort over months. But if you do, you’ll become completely different 95% of people out there.

Give it 6 months and you’ll become an entirely different person.

Anything else is an excuse.

There are more to this.

But that’s all I’ll share or else it gets overwhelming.

I haven’t touched specific traits like body building for a muscular physique, being lean, fashion style (what clothes to wear), hair styles etc..

Also if you think you can be attractive while being fat, just unsubscribe. Fat people are unattractive. You can’t cope your way out of this.

Being lean and muscular will make you look way better.

That’s all for this week.

See you next time.

-Noat

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“Hey noat . So my biggest problem has to do with social aspects of my life. Basically i want to build myself to be desirable and respected. I already know how to do these things through a bunch of research but the problem is i have no way of practicing it and when i do have the opportunity it slips out of my mind and i can’t apply the things i’ve learnt and go back to my habits which then leaves me feeling like i didn’t do enough to leave an impact on someone. For context im 20 years old and about to start university. So basically i want people to like me and treat me as an equal and also to be able to easily make friends. Thanks for listening”

From what I can tell this person we’ll call M struggles with self-respect and being social obviously.

Today’s specific advice will be about building self-respect and being social.

M here explicitly told us he wanted to be desirable and be respected.

Being respected comes from 3 things:

• Competence

• Confidence

• Charisma

They are what we’ll call the 3c’s.

If you are good at what you do and people have no choice but to come to you for help - that is competence.

If you are confident and able to proactively say things in an eloquent and articulate manner - you are confident and people respect it

If you are well liked and know how to be social - you are charismatic.

These are basically the 3 things that makes a person desirable and respected.

I already know how to do these things through a bunch of research but the problem is i have no way of practicing it and when i do have the opportunity it slips out of my mind and i can’t apply the things i’ve learnt and go back to my habits which then leaves me feeling like i didn’t do enough to leave an impact on someone

This sounds like an excuse more than truth.

You are likely scared and ashamed of talking to people. This means you either overthink too much when you’re about to practice being social and end up not doing it.

Which comes from 2 things; Low self-esteem and no self-respect.

A person with a good self-esteem does not need confidence to talk to people. He will just talk.

Why? Because he doesn’t overthink small details. His mind is clear and is not full of doubts and insecurity.

And that is your case.

Likely when you said; “i alredy know how to do these things through a bunch of research but the problem is i have no way of practicing it and when i do have the opportunity it slips out of my mind and i can’t apply the things i’ve learnt “ you have a lot of theory on what you should do but have no courage to execute it.

One thing I can think of is you watched a youtube video about being social and you’ve practiced in your mind but when it came to the real thing - you didn’t do it. You got too scared and decided it wasn’t worth it.

Which honestly all of us experiences. I didn’t become confident and charismatic without failure.

No one is born confident. It’s from practice.

And one thing I can think of why your practice isn’t working - is probably because you are targeting of practicing with women and not your fellow peers.

Before you can talk confidently to women (assuming you are a man) - you first need to talk to everyone.

You have no obligation to just cold approach women. Talk to the barber. Talk to that old grandpa. Talk to that uncle you haven’t seen in a while.

Being social and confident comes from practice and being social.

It’s comes from doing the act despite feeling fear.

What you need is to break through at least once and talk to people. It doesn’t matter if you mess up.

Do simple ones like:

• Ask for direction

• Ask for specific questions

• Ask for help about simple stuff

You don’t have to be this super articulate person when talking.

You just need to talk. I mean just talk at least once and talk!

No need to be super eloquent and super charismatic. Just one time - ask a simple question.

Like “ do you know where is the market here?” , “Hi I have a question , where can I find a public rest room? thanks”

It’s just that. Nothing special - you just have to put yourself out there.

Theory is useless without application. You have to apply what you’ve learned (researched) and then practice it.

But even so it will not be perfect. The reason why you’re not making much progress like you think you’d do - is because you want it to be perfect.

You want people to glaze you and be this king everyone respects. I know don’t lie.

Everyone has that dream.

And you know what- that’s possible. In your case you should slowly aim for it.

Your goal right now is too big.

That’s why you aren’t able to practice. Just talk at least once! no need to overthink it.

No one’s judging you that much. It’s all in your head. When you’re about to talk to someone and fear hits - push through. That’s the first break through.

“and go back to my habits which then leaves me feeling like i didn’t do enough to leave an impact on someone.”

This is exactly the problem. Why do you want to impact someone? Like what’s your reason. Is that person your Brother, Sister, Mother, Father or your best friend? If so that’s acceptable.

But if it’s a random person - why the fuck do you want to leave an impact? Like why?

Being a good person is good and it makes society better but why always leave an impact?

Leaving an impact on someone is very hard. It’s not something you can do under a day or two. Least in one conversation.

This is exactly the problem with overthinkers - there’s no need for you to impact someone.

Like bro be normal. You aren’t a president or a celebrity.

You’re a normal person and the people you talk to are also normal. They don’t want to leave an impact on you.

Just talk normally without any agenda in your mind. You have to empty your mind when you talk to people. It’s exactly stupid reasons like “I want to leave an impact on this person while we talk“ is keeping you socially awkward.

Like calm down. If you’re a professor or a teacher that’s acceptable.

But a fellow peer? No need to leave an impact. Just talk normally. And by normally I mean just talk without thinking that you have to make this person like you or love you.

Just go and talk without any goal. That’s the best social advice. Talk without any agenda in mind.

The more you carry things inside your mind while talking to someone - the more awkward you will look.

“ and go back to my habits”

I don’t exactly know what you mean by this one - I’m guessing you’re back to blaming yourself about not being able to do it and overthinking everything again.

Self-blame and self-hate won’t get you anywhere.

Get rid of it.

“For context im 20 years old and about to start university.”

University is a battle field. The better your social skills the better you thrive. It also means if you’re smart you’ll do well. If you’re a loner and smart you’ll do fine.

If you’re a loner and aren’t smart - your uni life will be shit unless you find a group you can rely on early.

In university you have no true friends. Your real friends in uni will come from those you know in high school years.

Everyone in university is fully grown. That means most people there are fake or are either too damage with their broken life.

You may not understand but university is like working on a job. You have colleagues but no friends.

You may get along but never bond deeply. People will play social games and if you lose even once - you get a unseen label.

"So basically i want people to like me and treat me as an equal and also to be able to easily make friends. Thanks for listening"

Here’s a real advice no one will tell you when you step on university: Give up on making friends and become exceptional instead.

This means become the most disciplined guy, the smartest guy, the most responsible guy and the most well liked person.

This is hard to do but achievable.

Do you know why most uni student are treated like shit?

Well it’s usually because they are:

• Irresponsible

• Cannot control what they say, likes to spread rumors, starts fights for no reason and get hated later

• Does not contribute to the group properly leading to isolation because you are useless.

You said you want everyone to respect you.

Well here you go something people will always respect: “competence”.

Being good at what you do will always make people respect you.

This also means you do not allow yourself to be disrespected and just eat whatever they want you to do.

This means you also set up proper boundaries and live your uni life like you’re working a job.

I say give up the idea of making a best friend in uni.

Your real friends will come from before those years. Well the probability isn’t zero that you find no real friend but everyone in uni is out there to graduate.

They aren’t there to enjoy life and party all weekend unless you are surrounded by idiots.

It’s also a different scenario whether the university you went to is at least A tier.

With universities that are less well known - you can basically just sift through without a care and still graduate.

However if you choose to do this - your life in adulthood will be miserable. The choice is yours.

Your life continues after university. Do not waste your time.

If your goal is just to live your uni life normally and have normal experience do this:

• Be responsible

• Study on time

• Pass all your subjects

• Don’t gossip or join fights

• When people try to pick on you which they will - treat them like a ghost and never react, if they get physical report them (a punch will be satisfying but has real consequences, reporting them makes the case easier to solve). You can easily defend yourself since you didn’t touch them. This is university life not high school life. If violence breaks out there are real consequences. Your all adults there. Remember that.

• Doo your best to pass and not create problems.

• Control what you say

• Assume that everyone is not your true friend (this gets rid of benovelent expectations)

Your worse case scenario here is you end up as a loner. Which is highly unlikely. You will have a group. Identify them early. Do not be the guy who tries to be friends with everyone. If you do get end up being bullied which I don’t think happens with university life - but if it does happen just stay away from that group and make excuses.

Never join their chats, never join them while eating, never follow their orders, never follow anything they say. And best of all - when they do try to pick on you with passive aggressive behavior - ignore them and shrug them off (never rely on them as well be responsible).

If you have no reaction they will move on. Stand your ground - you’ll be scared but you’ll be fine.

People only like to bully others to feel strong and see a reaction.

I’ve always seen it and observed how it plays out.

There’s always a group that will always bully one person. And that person just lets it happen because they are like a flea trapped in an open jar (boy or girl it happens).

They think they cannot make friends with other people so they stuck with that group.

And to tell you - being alone is so much better than being with a group who does nothing but disrespect you.

Your self-respect and confidence deteriorates fast when you allow people to walk all over you. You signal to yourself as someone below them by continuing to hanging out with a group that does nothing but stomp on your dignity. You are lucky if you land in a class where everyone is reasonable and not straight up an asshole.

If you really want to enjoy uni life find one person instead as a friend. Like someone you’ve identified as good person. You two will do great.

No need to be friends with everyone - go for quality instead of quantity. A friend of everyone is a friend of none. You should get along with everyone but only for a smooth uni life.

Verbal bullying usually happens in low class degrees. In hard to pass like degrees like law, medicine, engineering, bullying is unlikely to happen since people there are intelligent (I can talk about this for hours).

But can still happen since they’ll have a big ego.

Your best case scenario here is you live your life like a normal college student. Don’t be the one that wants everyone to respect them. The more you try hard to be respected the more it will back fire. You will look desperate for attention and needy.

Be responsible, study so you can answer the professors questions (and pass exams) be disciplined and you’ll do well.

Being exceptional makes people come and respect you. That’ll give you a much better result if you want respect. Be superior than everyone - not an equal but pretend like you’re all equal.

That is how you build real respect.

That’s all

See you next time

-Noat

PS: If you’re using substack feel free to send me a DM re reply to this letter if you have any questions. This time I’ll respond on time.

“Anyone who says looks doesn’t matter probably looks like a hobo or is outright lying”

No matter what you say, looks always matter.

“Personality over looks” is one of the many statements people use to hide their real opinions.

People always judge each other by how they look. If you’re someone who’s competent but you look like a hobo, people will judge that you are incompetent even though you are not.

We are visual creatures. Even the most intelligent people get swayed by looks. Only those who’ve understood facial beauty does not correlate to personality deeply, are those who do not get swayed by looks. But most people are not that wise.

Many people say they choose personality over looks but how many of them actually follow it? I say very low.

Even if people are wise, our minds have psychological biases toward attractive people. So even if you are aware, there’s a chance you will still be influenced by someone’s face.

Perks of being attractive

There is a certain prejudice that most people are aware of unconsciously but are not articulating consciously. Good looking people are treated better than ugly people (it’s a fact).

There’s levels to this. First let’s talk about the halo effect.

What is the halo effect?

The halo effect is a bias that if someone is attractive, we automatically assume they are smart or competent.

This means we assume that good looking people are smarter than us. Yes it is true good looking people can be smart. But the bias says “Every good looking people is smart and trustworthy”.

It works in a simple way. When we look at someone attractive man or woman, our brain floods with dopamine and happy hormones. It’s a simple biological reaction towards beauty.

So when our brain gets numbed with happiness with the mere sight of someone good looking, we often make assumptions that are not based on reality. And these assumptions usually happen without awareness, our minds say “He’s hot, he must be smart” or “she’s pretty, she must be attending a prestigious school”. Our brains are hard wired to see beauty corelate to competence, value and trustworthiness

This have been documented throughout generations. And with the invention of media it became worse.

Artist get casted roles of business man, doctors, pilots and guess what? They’re all good looking.

Basically, when you watch Television, your mind has solidified the idea that good looking people are smart because you see them all the time acting important and prestigious jobs. e.g. surgeon, doctor, lawyer etc…

My experience

When I was fat people treated me like shit. I would get called “pig” and I experienced bullying. People would act as if I was not human.

I would get treated badly and they’ll think it’s okay. Partly I was at fault for allowing myself to get fatter and not learning how nutrition and health works to lose weight.

Can’t blame myself. I was very young that time. Of course that changed now.

The way you look always matters.

When I lost weight, people became more lenient and caring (not to say everyone is an asshole towards fat people) but the difference is massive.

If you believe in fat positivity you are an idiot. Not only you are waiting for metabolic diseases to kill you early, your life quality goes down by a lot.

When you’re fat normal walking is hard. Standing up requires assistance. Your energy levels are always low. And worse, you feel like everyone judges you by how fat you are.

Why am I telling you this?

Your looks matter. Being fat and skinny sucks.

Get jacked or lean. I recommend you get lean first. Your energy, your focus is way higher.

If you’re skinny, people think they can push you around because you look like a twig.

If you’re fat, people think you’re fugly.

If your saying that you shouldn’t care about what other people say, you’re right about that.

But if you think your looks doesn’t matter. You will lose opportunities and good health.

By simply losing weight, I am able to work productively for a longer time period. I have very few energy crashouts during the day.

I no longer feel ashamed in my body.

If you’re someone who is trying to lose weight, you have my respect. That sh*t ain’t easy.

It took me multiple times until I got sick of it that I literally rawdogged my workout sessions.

I worked out even if my body hurst. I worked out even if it was late at night.

The pain of staying the same hurt more. And mind you. There will be people who will convince you don’t need to change.

Don’t listen to them.

The people who cheer and say you look better when you’re fat are lying.

These are the maggots of the world. You should avoid them.

Anyone who says to a fat/skinny person they’re okay as they are now, are fake. No good person wants someone to have a lower life quality.

I tell you.

Even teachers treat you better. Your family members treat you with more care when you lose weight and look better.

Taking care of your looks is essential. Anyone who says they don’t matter are stupid.

The cope: Why most people say looks don’t matter

Looks are superficial. Indeed they are. However they matter… A LOT.

People do not judge based entirely on personality. They judge the way you look, how good looking you are and your overall appearance.

People are judgmental. You can’t run away from this fact, If you think looks are superficial, you are right. But that doesn’t mean you should allow yourself to look like a hobo.

By being fat, you allow disrespect to happen. Because deep down, fat people are undisciplined and lazy.

We all know that’s a fact. Because, if they weren’t they would’ve lost weight already.

“I’ve been very fat and I’ve been skinny. I’ll just say that anyone who says looks don’t matter are full of shit”

“Same! Same! I was overweight, then fit, and am now overweight again. Even people who love you act differently, and tbf I don’t blame them because I have caught my self doing the same shit a couple of times. My opinions seem to matter less, and that subtle, unspoken attitude was internalized before I realized it. I’m back on my journey to be fit again, and just thinking about how much effort it takes to get there is freaking exhausting. Just not as tiring as trying to he visible all day!”

Even your looks matter on your family. You can’t escape this truth. For women looks are their life supply. If you are an ugly woman, everyone treats you badly. If you are an attractive woman, men will go out of their way to help you and sacrifice their time. Women know this.

They just don’t tell you about it because it makes them look bad.

So if you’re a man who thinks looks are superficial, you’ll lose.

People are suckers toward beauty

If you want to improve your life quality, take care of your looks. Not to obsessed about it, but to improve first impressions and image.

By looking better, people treat you better. It’s an undeniable fact.

The Halo Effect explained deeper

The halo effect is a cognitive bias where our overall impression of a person, brand, or product dictates how we judge their specific, unrelated traits.

It acts as a mental shortcut, causing us to unconsciously assume that “what is beautiful (or positive) is also good” in other areas.

At its core, the halo effect stems from our brain’s need to conserve energy. Instead of analyzing every single trait objectively, the brain relies on a single dominant characteristic (like physical attractiveness, charisma, or a famous brand logo) to fill in the blanks.

When we observe a prominent positive trait, our brain generates a positive emotional response. We automatically project that positive feeling onto ambiguous or unknown traits (e.g., assuming an attractive stranger is also highly intelligent and trustworthy.

Why should you care about the halo effect? Because of the horns effect.

The “Horns Effect”

The halo effect works both ways. When an initial negative impression occurs such as someone wearing unkempt clothing or a single failure by a company it acts as a “horn effect” (or devil effect).

This can cause us to unfairly assign negative traits to an individual or discount all of their positive qualities.

Basically if you look ugly, everyone treats you like shit. But if you’re pretty and handsome, people treat you way better.

The Caveat

Attractive people often are the target of envy. Because of their looks, others may find ways to harrass or outright harm attractive people.

Look at rich girls bullying poor pretty girl in school trope. Look up stories online how attractive men get treated like trash by their friends because jealousy.

So am I saying being attractive is bad? No, I meant it this way. If you are an attractive person, the majority you meet will treat you with respect and care mostly if it’s your first interaction.

But if you get too close and develop relationships with others, it can quickly lead to envy and resentment because now they see your pretty privilege. You must choose your friends carefully.

This is why women hate each other but act like besties. Because deep down women hate a girl who is more hot, cuter and prettier than her. Likewise it’s same for men.

Men do not like being around someone hotter than them because it causes competition.

It’s common people. You just have to be aware and actually recognize the patterns.

This letter will not include actionable steps. That letter deserves a separate one.

This time I’ll share to you why looks matter. The next one will be telling you how to improve your looks.

If you want tips about looking better you can reply below and I’ll respond,

That’s it.

See you next time.

-Noat

PS: To those who’ve been sending me replies on the welcome email, I’ll be going through them. I’ve been very busy the last couple of weeks. Mainly winning.

When you’re ready, check out:

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• The Illimitable Men Audiobook (26.5 Hours of Narration) Learn how to become a top tier man that commands respect, understands women and never gets used by other people again. In this Audiobook you will learn how to play social games and win. “If you hate yourself or do not value yourself, it’s because you’ve not given yourself a reason to value yourself. We don’t just disrespect others who are low value, we disrespect ourselves for it too” a quote from the audiobook.

If you’ve never had any woman fawn all over you - chances are your life sucks.

Women are spiritual creatures. They can smell success even if you’ve never posted anything online or told anyone.

That’s exactly why they are like a drug. When a woman gives you attention, your brain floods you with dopamine and happy hormones. This is where most men fail.

They let the happiness control them, create dumb decisions and as a result make massive mistakes. They overcommit. They tell her she’s the one, only for her to leave later.

“Women will get in your way. They are like a drug that can never be cured. Their attention, gaze and emotions are dangerous. If you don’t know how to control yourself- you will always be controlled by a woman”

Women are very good at social skills. This means they are also good at influencing you in the way they want you to act.

This is why most men who lack experience with women get exploited. They think women are this angelic creatures that can do no harm. But the truth can’t be further - they are just as capable of cruelty like men if not more.

But the way they do it is indirect. They don’t punch or hurt you. They use the law, the government or their family to do the dirty work (look at what happened to Will Smith and Johnny Depp).

Which brings us to the next lesson.

2. Never idolize a woman

Women are all cut from the same thread. Some are better, some of them complete garbage and few are great.

If you think women can never do you harm, you are up for a lot of pain in your life. I’m not trying to demonize women. I’m telling you as an experienced man - society lies to you about how these creatures work.

They are only good if they love you. If they don’t love you they will use and exploit you as they like. No author will tell you lessons like this. The Improvement Letter is unfiltered. If this pissed you off go unsubscribe.

If you are a brainwashed man who hates what I’m saying, your life will continue to suck lest you accept the truth.

Do not turn off your brain just because a woman looks hot and beautiful. That will be your first mistake.

3. A man’s confidence is his armor

You can be an ugly freak but if you are confident- people will respect you.

Look at UFC fighters, some of them aren’t that good looking - yet women fawn all over them.

Why? Because they have balls. They don’t squeeze their dicks behind their legs and actually penetrate the world with boldness.

A man’s armor is his confidence. The more confident you are the better. No man is ugly if he’s confident and fun.

People will treat you better and you will be given more opportunities. That is not to say you should ignore your looks. Social skills also matter on this point.

4. Looks matter

Your looks as a man is non negotiable.

Do your very best to improve how you look.

• If you are fat, go and lose weight.

• If you are skinny go to the gym and build muscle.

• If your face looks homeless without proper care and proper grooming, go to a salon and get groomed.

So many men think their faces don’t matter. Looks over personality is a facade.

People don’t care whether you’re kind or good. Most people judge the moment they see you. So instead of going against nature, improve your looks.

It will make you look proper. Your first impressions are going to land better. People will approach you and treat you better.

5. Stop fearing

Your overthinking does not matter. As a man your job is to be bold and confident.

Only women are allowed to cower in the corner and still get guys.

As a man your job is to approach women and penetrate the world with boldness. There’s no room for shyness.

A shy man will get overshadowed by a confident man.

• People hate a spineless man.

• People dislike shy men.

• A man that is shy will be scrutinized by society.

• A man who lets others trample him will be hated by society even though he is the victim.

That’s why male victim bullies suffer more than female victim bullies. Most people ignore male victims because they are men and everyone thinks should stand up for themselves.

6. If you lack value to society, your life is expendable (you’re a bot)

A man that’s useless to society is expendable. Nobody cares whether he lives or dies.

Nobody cares if a homeless man dies in the street today.

Nobody cares how many men are dying on war except their families.

If you are a man and you have deemed yourself “valueless to society” do your very best to become competent.

No one will extend their hand to you and help you out of your situation.

You got to do it yourself.

You got to be the one saving yourself.

You have to be the one.

No other man will sacrifice himself to save you except your father. Be your own hero because nobody else will.

7. Do not numb yourself on earthly desires, seek meaning and purpose

Pleasure from sex runs out fast without connection.

Joy from online games burn fast after a few days.

Novelty from hook up runs out fast without spiritual connection.

Relaxation from alcohol only last a few hours.

You must overcome your own suffering and raw dog life. You must take life raw and not use addictions to numb your feelings.

Your life as a man is decided by how much suffering you can take.

The more you can take, the better.

I’m not saying to pointlessly suffer. I’m saying, the more resilient you are on not quitting, the better your chances at success.

Because if you quit early, you will just cut yourself from better opportunities that might’ve come if only you stuck with discipline.

If you’re interested on how to suffer the right way I wrote a letter about it: https://theimprovementletter.substack.com/p/why-suffering-makes-you-a-better?utm_source=profile&utm_medium=reader2

That’s all for this week.

See you next time

-Noat

When you’re ready, check out:

• Live Intentionally: 90 Day Self-Improvement Program By Harsh Strongman. Over 10k+ sold. Get rid of your bad habits and addiction fast and build discipline in 90 days. A 90 day project which aims to help you control your urges, become more disciplined and replace bad habits with productive habits. I’ve specifically used the tactics described in the e-book in the past to help me work 12 hours everyday. 10k sold and over 400+ 5 star verified ratings.

• The Illimitable Men Audiobook (26.5 Hours of Narration) Learn how to become a top tier man that commands respect, understands women and never gets used by other people again. In this Audiobook you will learn how to play social games and win. “If you hate yourself or do not value yourself, it’s because you’ve not given yourself a reason to value yourself. We don’t just disrespect others who are low value, we disrespect ourselves for it too” a quote from the audiobook.

Last week I asked you a question

“Before we start I have some announcements.

6 months ago I was writing The Improvement Room twice a week.

I did a poll deciding whether I should do 1 or 2 letter a week. And the most answered choice was 1 time a week.

Now that I have more time - I plan to post 2 twice a week.

Sunday GMT+8 where I send a 1.5k-2k letter

And on Thursday evening where I send an actionable advice from my welcome email.

If you haven’t read my welcome email I have asked what is your problem and I’ll give you advice.

For those who’ve received my reply, you can look in your gmail. If I haven’t replied to you, chances are your email was sent to spam.

I will paste the question or statement seeking advice but not the name and post it as a letter to anyone who goes through the same problem so others can read it

Will you be interested in that? (answer the poll below)”

And here are the results

Now that it’s decided we’ll do 2 letters per week let’s start.

“Hey Noat,

I’m struggling with direction in life, staying consistent and dedicated and procrastinating.

I live in Germany and love making music. I’m 19 now, turning 20 this year and I feel like I’m behind, which deep down I know I’m not, but I’m still thinking I am.

I’m finishing my 3 year apprenticeship in a job I don’t want to be in (Insurance Broker). I started when I was 16 with the intention of “having something safe” to work with, that I can start focusing on my music after this apprenticeship. I’m a music producer and artist, but starting to manage an artist friend of mine which is working quite well.

To the point of “no direction in life”, I have a direction and I know that it’s the direction I want to go. I would love to work for a music label as an A&R. The point that I’m getting to is that I just don’t know how to get there. I know the job is not safe, since people come and go and labels always look for the newer and better A&R. I know I’ve got the mind for it and I’m very suitable for it. It’s just leaving this “comfort zone” of the apprenticeship, leaving my home town, moving on without “safeness”.

To the point of struggling with staying consistent is just things like the gym. I’ve lost a lot of weight around 4 years ago, I was fat and then looked like a stick ngl (still kinda do). Would love to be a little more muscular and look a little more “defined”, but I’m struggling being consistent and procrastinating going to the gym/doing workouts.

Would love to hear what you’ve got to say, if you’ve got anything to say lmao.

Best Regards”

-S

Let’s call our brother here “S’. And to tell you the advice I give is not absolute nor it is the path you should follow.

What I’m going to share is my perspective about your situation and what I would do instead.

Clearly “S” is afraid of doing what he wants. So right now he’s settling for a comfortable job.

Because it’ll pay well, will keep him fed and not ruin his future.

And I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. I agree with having a ffa

I do not agree with the notion you should quit your job and pursue your passion,

I’m struggling with direction in life, staying consistent and dedicated and procrastinating.

I live in Germany and love making music. I’m 19 now, turning 20 this year and I feel like I’m behind, which deep down I know I’m not, but I’m still thinking I am.

First let’s tackle this.

Our friend here says he struggles with staying consistent and being dedicated.

The problem is whether he is too stressed on his apprentice job that he is unable to work with music on his free time or he just doesn’t have the discipline to rawdog it.

But I think that’s all a cope.

I do not think anyone who wants to succeed cannot find time to dedicate and pursue his/her craft.

The advice here boils down to one thing “How bad do you want it?”

Are you just making excuses so you can feel good about failing as an artist?

Or are you just pretending to be serious about being a music label artist for an A&R?

I don’t know anything about the music industry but every struggle has the same themes. The difference is the person walking the path.

You see not to brag but I got 2 jobs I’m doing. I take care of clients work and have a day time job. And I’m running this newsletter business of mine which makes me affiliate money.

I sometimes barely get enough free time. Everything is done with a mind on the future.

What you lack right now is dedication.

You will suffer both ways. If you continue working on the job you don’t like as an insurance broker, you will feel good at first with the money you’re making but after 5-10 years you will feel miserable and hollow. Because deep down you know you don’t like it.

And if you quit your job and work as a music producer with no guaranteed future, your journey will be full of doubt and hardships.

Either way you’ll suffer.

And no I’m not telling you to quit your job and become immediately pursue doing A&R.

The smart way to go about this is finish your apprenticeship while doing music gigs at the side.

You mentioned “I’m a music producer and artist, but starting to manage an artist friend of mine which is working quite well”.

Managing people is harder than managing yourself. Your key skill here will be observation,

And since you’re doing both jobs just keep doing it. Do your insurance broker as your main source of income and gradually replace it doing A&R

Yes your output quality will be worse. Yes you will not be able to focus. But you have to responsible here. You can’t just cut out all money flow to your life. That will fuck you up. You need a safety net.

You need to preemptively take financial loss and still be functional (don’t end up homeless or you’ll lose all chances).

And you’re young. I mean you’re only 19. You aren’t supposed to get life figured out that fast.

Chances are you might even change careers as you get older.

You never know what life will give you.

So the key here is treat your apprenticeship like a failsafe.

As much as I want to say go quit your apprenticeship and go follow your passion —that is stupid.

This is real life. And real life has real consequences.

If you let emotions decide you will be up for a lot of pain.

To the point of “no direction in life”, I have a direction and I know that it’s the direction I want to go. I would love to work for a music label as an A&R. The point that I’m getting to is that I just don’t know how to get there. I know the job is not safe, since people come and go and labels always look for the newer and better A&R. I know I’ve got the mind for it and I’m very suitable for it. It’s just leaving this “comfort zone” of the apprenticeship, leaving my home town, moving on without “safeness”.

To the point of struggling with staying consistent is just things like the gym. I’ve lost a lot of weight around 4 years ago, I was fat and then looked like a stick ngl (still kinda do). Would love to be a little more muscular and look a little more “defined”, but I’m struggling being consistent and procrastinating going to the gym/doing workouts.

Honestly if you can’t even stay consistent to the gym and workout, how will you stay consistent on pursuing your life task doing A&R for music labels?

You need to blindly trust yourself with your direction. If you can’t even be disciplined and stay consistent going to the gym, being consistent with managing artists will be way harder to you.

Build your discipline first. Right now you are spread too thin and are thinking about the big problems when the answer is already present.

Your first job is being consistent and being disciplined. Dedicate time to being consistent to the gym.

What you need right now is not quitting your job or quit your music producer gigs. What you need is to build obsession and dedication.

If you cannot work with simple things like building discipline, you will not have them at things that really matter. You will quit being a music label for A&R because being consistent and managing people is way harder than going to the gym.

What you need right now is learn how to be disciplined and stay consistent.

When you follow your own path, no one tells you what to do. Most people waste their time and become lazy.

When you have a job, you have a boss to please, a set of rules to follow.

Following your own path is harder. Because you are your own boss and employer at the same time.

No one will get angry at you if you fail.

It will be your responsibility alone.

What you need is do rawdog both your apprenticeship and music gigs.

Take them seriously. That’s what you lack.

You are treating this like it’s child play. It’s your life be serious about it. Then you’ll be successful.

That’s all. You’ll be surprised how many people don’t take their life seriously and just go along with the flow.

See you next time

-Noat

PS: If you found this post help and need some clarification - feel free to reply and ask away. I will respond.

P.S.S: If you’re who’ve been reading The Improvement Letter for a while and you’re someone who wants to improve but can’t seem to no matter how much you’ve been trying and need accountability, reply ‘Interested” for personalized coaching.

The very first edition of “specific advice #1” will be sent on next week Thursday evening GMT+8 .

Look forward to it, now let’s start-

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The majority are slaves to trends, opinions, validation, status, attention, and comparison.

Many live their lives for validation from people who don’t care whether they live or die.

Our minds are hardwired to seek societal value. We are always seeking companionship and acceptance from others. Because in tribal times, living alone is a suic*de mission.

You are guaranteed to be killed and hunted by other tribes and predators. That’s why you seek acceptance. Because your brain thinks it can’t live when others don’t like you.

But the truth can’t be further.

“The less you need from the world, the freer you become.”

The moment you stop needing validation, the world somehow conspires with you. It teaches you how abundance mindset works and why your scarcity mindset have been holding you back.

The modern world profits from insecurity.

Do you know because of porn many men think they have small dicks?

Do you know why viagra is so popular?

Do you know why you can’t stop comparing yourself to others even when you know it’s bad.

It’s because the world profits from insecurity.

Many men are insecure their wives/girlfriends won’t be satisfied in bed. That’s why they take viagra.

Instagram profits from people’s looks.

You are always shown 10/10 male and female models. And you can’t help it but compare yourself. You know it’s bad but every day you keep coming back.

Porn profits from lonely men who can’t get a girlfriend.

They get addicted to pixels because deep down they are scared of rejection.

They are afraid women will not like them.

And that’s not all.

People are hardwired for social acceptance.

Most people care about:

• Being liked

• Looking rich

• Followers

• Social status

• Trends

• Approval

• Looking successful instead of becoming successful

This creates:

• Anxiety

• Comparison

• Jealousy

• Shallow identity

• Fear of judgment

People lose themselves trying to be accepted. This creates a gap on their identity.

When they could’ve just focus on themselves. But instead focus outwardly using other people’s validation as their source of happiness.

It makes you miserable and a slave.

You are always on the lookout whether this person likes you or not. Whether you said something bad that offended them. You become chronically anxious and hurt those around you, because they didn’t live up to your expectations.

Your insecurities flare up.

You know it ‘s bad but somehow you can’t stop it.

When you stop caring about what others care, you prioritize what really matters and your life improves magically. You cut out all the garbage that’s been poisoning you, and you heal slowly but surely.

But most people are stuck on listening to their insecurities instead of overcoming it.

What I learned

Back when I was naive and followed all this hollow and pointless stuff, I felt like a cog in a machine. Ordinary and no unique attribute.

Exactly like everyone else.

When you start to open your eyes how the world works and realize how similar people are, you stop looking up to popular people. Certain celebrities are average.

The only thing that made them look different are their fame.

Take away their popularity and they are just like you. Of course you can’t just brush of their hard work.

My point is: most people run on the same programming.

Have you heard how going to college, get in debt, work, then die early is a scam? Yes it’s a scam. And most people follow that script their whole lives.

Imagine putting all your life into paying off a debt that you won’t be able to enjoy because after paying all the debt you’ll be old and unable to travel/enjoy because your bones have become too weak.

That’s exactly what I witness daily. I see people working jobs they hate, spend on things that don’t improve their life just to repeat it again and again. (e.g. getting expensive tickets for a concert show, spending thousands to get the same designer bag a celebrity has only to not use it later).

You will be surprised how die hard some fans are.

And you will be surprised how so many people don’t realize how alike their lives are.

Attention Is the New Addiction

Everyone is on social media not because they like the app but because they want to gather likes and views. I had a friend who celebrated a friends birthday, recorded the surprise party all to upload it to Instagram and watch as how he checks the views and reaction count every 10 minutes.

Don’t you see this disease?

I myself have fallen into this trap.

How I posted a post and would occasionally check to see how many likes it got.

Do you know why so many men and women post thirst traps? So they can get likes and people sliding into their DM’s. It’s validation like a drug.

They do it so they feel validated and worshipped. It’s the modern worlds disease.

Even intelligent people fall into this trap. I remember this one smart girl who used to never post anything sexual, but after 3 years of using Instagram suddenly posted a picture of her wearing a bikini.

I tell you. Most people hate themselves. That’s why they rely on social media for validation. Because silence forces self-awareness. Distraction protects them from confronting parts of themselves they hate.

Modern Society Rewards Performance not novelty

Do you know why people chase likes and views? Because it makes them feel good. It makes you feel like you’re better than others. It makes you appear successful.

Most people don’t care about real results. They want to appear successful.. They want to appear as a 10/10 baddie on their Facebook profiles even if they are not.

People want to look impressive not be impressive. There’s a very big difference between actually being good and appearing good.

Society often rewards people who look impressive, not necessarily people who are genuinely original, wise, or valuable.

Performance = appearing successful

Novelty = creating something truly new or authentic

A lot of people today are not building real substance. They build the image not the result.

Examples:

• Looking productive instead of being productive

• Posting gym selfies instead of actually becoming disciplined

• Sounding intelligent instead of thinking deeply

• Pretending to be unique while copying trends

Social media amplified this problem because visibility became more valuable than depth.

Someone who:

• speaks confidently

• looks better in pictures than irl

• edits videos well

• dresses a certain way

• says popular opinions

Can appear more successful than someone quietly doing meaningful work (this is what most celebrities do).

That’s “performance.” And most people do it out of validation and wanting to be socially accepted. In the modern world, you just need to appear competent and you’ll be rewarded.

If you still don’t understand

Modern systems reward:

• attention

• virality

• emotional reactions

• branding

• aesthetics

Not necessarily:

• wisdom

• patience

• craftsmanship

• originality

• integrity

Which is why:

• loud people get noticed faster

• shallow confidence beats competence online

• trends spread faster than truth

The modern world is shallow. That’s why most people find their lives meaningless. Because they keep performing instead of creating.

If you constantly follow trends, always have the same opinions are others, you’re a bot.

Designed to be like everyone else. No wonder your life sucks.

Status games trap people forever

“Status games” are invisible competitions people constantly play to feel superior, important, or validated.

• who makes more money

• who looks better

• who has more followers

• who dates the prettiest person

• who seems smarter

• who gets more attention

Everyone is a slave to something. It just varies.

That’s why once you achieve your goal, you want another one.

You get:

• 1,000 followers → now you want 10,000

• a decent car → now you want a luxury car

• respect from peers → now you want admiration from strangers

Status games are a losing game.

The only winners are those who respect themselves. Because they don’t need external validation to survive and to like who they are. They don’t care if they are better than “John” or “Amanda”.

And those who play lose. Because comparison never ends.

There will always be:

• someone richer

• smarter

• taller

• more attractive

• more successful

Status is rented from other people’s opinions.

Which means your happiness becomes unstable because it depends on:

• applause

• recognition

• validation

• social hierarchy

You no longer live for yourself but for others. You live for the applause instead of doing what you really want to do.

It distorts your need from “this is my goal” to “what do I have to do so other people can see how competent I am?“ you basically become narcissistic and self-centered once you play status games.

The ego wants to become “somebody.”

But the harder you chase importance, the more disconnected you become from real life.

You stop experiencing life naturally because you are constantly measuring yourself against others. So people become psychologically enslaved chasing external worth.

I want you to remember this: “The freest people are often the ones no longer trying to look important.”

Wanting to appear important creates suffering

The more you need other people to see you as important, valuable, intelligent, successful, or superior, the more emotionally dependent you become on their opinions.

It’s similar to status games.

But this time you want everyone to depend on you. Your mind constantly find ways to make yourself look important on any situation. Your ego craves the stroking validation it wants. You appear needy and restless.

You cannot fully control:

• how people see you

• whether they admire you

• whether they respect you

• whether they notice you

So your emotional state becomes fragile.

You feel good when praised. You feel worthless when ignored

That creates constant inner instability.

And dependence creates suffering.

That’s why those who live for others attentions become depressed and miserable fast.

They look like they have it all, but deep down they feel stressed and overwhelmed on how life treats them.

Their trauma doesn’t allow them to see the world clearly. They survive on the need to be liked. And everyone time they aren’t - they feel betrayed, rejected and feel useless

Many adults grow up this way because of neglectful parents. In the WEST this is even worse because most boomers believe they should kick out their children once they hit 18.

You had a home and now you’re homeless. To survive you’ll have to depend on others. Now you have to ruthlessly curate everything that comes out of your mouth because it means survival.

• If you piss off your landlord he just might kick you out or increase your rent.

• If you piss off your boss while you’re parents no longer helps you out - you just might end up on the streets starving.

Many adults live this way for years and forget how to reclaim their inner values and principles.

This is why a lot of teenagers are miserable in the WEST. American parents failed to understand, “you have to support your kids until they can stand up on their own 2 feet, not kick them out when they have nothing”.

I don’t even know why this kind of culture exists. It’s just stupid. This should be made illegal.

It’s just cruelty and being a neglectful parent.

A free mind is the ultimate status symbol

Once you understand how stupid most things in the world are, you start to understand they aren’t worth any attention.

Many people die never realizing this truth.

Because their parents failed to teach it..

Most adults grow up following their parents, who follow the government and in tern end up dependent on any authority to live their life.

Like their boss, their manager etc..

Most people have never been taught the skill to think for themselves.

Many of them live their lives always relying on someone else’s opinions. So they end up depending on everything.

Bad parents teach their children how they have to always follow who’s in charge and never try out what they want, which turns them into a human bot.

You create an adult that’s capable of work but not capable of original thinking.

Free people are free for a reason.

Of course money is necessary if you want to have a free mind.

But what I want to tell you is this: you only become free once you take responsibility for your life.

Being free is not free of cost.

You have to sacrifice comfort, laziness and endure pain of hardships.

No monk overcomes suffering without suffering himself.

If you wish to have a free mind, you must reclaim your innate values and principles, then ruthlessly protect them with discipline.

That’s all for this week

See you next time

-Noat

When you’re ready, check out:

• Live Intentionally: 90 Day Self-Improvement Program By Harsh Strongman. Over 10k+ sold. Get rid of your bad habits and addiction fast and build discipline in 90 days. A 90 day project which aims to help you control your urges, become more disciplined and replace bad habits with productive habits. I’ve specifically used the tactics described in the e-book in the past to help me work 12 hours everyday. 10k sold and over 400+ 5 star verified ratings.

• The Illimitable Men Audiobook (26.5 Hours of Narration) Learn how to become a top tier man that commands respect, understands women and never gets used by other people again. In this Audiobook you will learn how to play social games and win. “If you hate yourself or do not value yourself, it’s because you’ve not given yourself a reason to value yourself. We don’t just disrespect others who are low value, we disrespect ourselves for it too” a quote from the audiobook.

6 months ago I was writing The Improvement Room twice a week.

I did a poll decided whether I should do 1 or 2 letter a week. And the most answered choice was 1 time a week.

Now that I have more time - I plan to post 2 twice a week.

Sunday GMT+8 where I send a 1.5k-2k letter

And on Thursday evening where I send an actionable advice from my welcome email.

If you haven’t read my welcome email I have asked what is your problem and I’ll give you advice.

For those who’ve received my reply, you can look in your gmail. If I haven’t replied to you, chances are your email was sent to spam.

I will paste the question or statement seeking advice but not the name and post it as a letter so anyone who goes through the same problem can read it

Will you be interested in that? (answer the poll below)

Now lets start

You’re life as a man is dictated by how much suffering you can bear.

Great men suffer.

They learn how to deal with it. Be forged by pain and use it as a catalyst for growth.

Men are built.

Men are made.

Men are shaped.

No strong man is ever born strong.

A while back ago I wrote a letter about suffering.

Then at the end of the letter I asked.: “Do you hate suffering”?

Many of you answered yes.

And that’s precisely why you’re weak.

You see strength is always made and shaped.

If you want strength, GOD will ruthlessly test you with hardships and struggles you thought are impossible.

Just a year ago I lost a client and my twitter account didn’t work out. I made $0 for months on end.

I got my accounts restricted and didn’t know what to do.

What went after that was grueling hours of boring repetitive work.

I had to acknowledge the fact - if I quit now my efforts will be for nothing.

This was before I started my 2nd newsletter “The Improvement Room”.

My first newsletter failed.

So what did GOD test me with?

I suffered with constant overthinking and self-blame.

I lost a client. I had to grind with nothing.

Literally, I stopped posting on my first newsletter and stopped my twitter account.

So what the hell was I doing?

Yeah I was drowning in self-doubt. I was talking to myself whether I could do it or not.

I was contemplating whether this will all work out or not. I was making excuses about my failed endeavors.

I didn’t know what to do.

Then after a month or 2 an idea hit me.

What if I wrote reddit posts instead?

I thought to my self “people on reddit who posts suck, I can take over them”.

And so I did.

Many of you are from reddit posts I’ve wrote.

You liked the story, the lesson behind it.

So you subscribed to “The Improvement Letter”.

This wasn’t the first time I struggled hard and suffered.

I had another stuff I was doing.

Instagram theme pages. You know phillosophaire in Instagram?

Yeah I know how to make videos like that.

I spent 5 months making videos like that daily. 2 videos a day which took me 2 hours to make because I had a run down laptop.

Every time I would make a Instagram video that lasted for 30seconds to a minute, my laptop would overheat and freeze.

I suffered daily with doubt, boring repetitive work and uncertainty of results.

I didn’t know what I was doing but I was moving.

All I had was vision to do something. To make something everyday. To make progress even just a little bit.

That’s what I had. The tolerance to accept suffering.

The work I do isn’t fun. People keep blabbering how you have to enjoy the process but it’s not enjoyable when you don’t know if it’ll work out or not.

Your mind is constantly in doubt and you wonder if this all makes sense or not.

You wonder if you’re doing the right thing or not.

You wonder whether this will make or break your success.

People who enjoy the process can go F(ck) themselves.

The process ain’t enjoyable when you have to deal with shit you’ve never encountered before.

When you’ve had to figure out how to make it work with 0 experience.

Success ain’t fun.

It’s a grueling work of hardships and suffering.

It’s only enjoyable after you’ve made progress and can enjoy it.

People always talk about enjoying the process.

Yes you can enjoy the process after not before.

When things finally click and you don’t have to stress yourself out anymore.

So what am I saying?

You’re going to suffer a lot.

if you truly crave for success you’re going to get hit a lot.

In order to make progress on anything on life- you need to build pain tolerance.

Anything that makes you not want to do something you should do.

Because that teaches your brain how to overcome certain programming in your mind.

Like sloth and gluttony.

Our minds always want to be lazy.

We always want to eat food.

It’s our discipline and lack of resources that stops us.

You need tolerance to pain. I don’t like to sugar coat things here.

I always wonder why people read feel good advice.

Like that’s pretty useless. I have no tolerance for sugarcoated lies and BS.

If you want growth you have to build real pain tolerance.

And that’s exactly why good habits are good for building foundational pain tolerance.

They are the standard.

• Meditating makes you confront boredom. It makes you unable to be in the presence of stimuli. You have to deal with your brain being stupid and rage baiting you with cringe memories. You have to deal with your overthinking straightforward with no excuses.

• Working out makes you confront your weak body. You have to deal with realizing you aren’t that strong as you think you were. You have to deal with sticking to a diet that you want to cheat with. You have to learn how to be consistent in the gym or you lose your progress.

• Journaling makes you confront your inner demons. The thoughts you’ve avoided and judged. The memories you keep replaying in your head. You have to write it out and it’s uncomfortable.

This why good habits are the foundational secret to progress.

The more you do them the easier things in life gets.

If you work out- you will be less exhausted.

If you meditate- you will be able to focus.

If you journal - your mind won’t control you.

Everything starts from good habits.

So if you want to build tolerance to pain and suffering - you need to do good habits first.

They are very simple but the ROI you get in your mental, physical and spiritual health is immense.

This letter today isn’t about teaching you how to get success but to slap you the importance of good habits and how it teaches you tolerance to pain.

I have more to talk about.

I will share that in the incoming weeks.

Today’s information is more than enough.

I will not overload you

See you next time

-Noat

When you’re ready, check out:

• Live Intentionally: 90 Day Self-Improvement Program By Harsh Strongman. Over 10k+ sold. Get rid of your bad habits and addiction fast and build discipline in 90 days. A 90 day project which aims to help you control your urges, become more disciplined and replace bad habits with productive habits. I’ve specifically used the tactics described in the e-book in the past to help me work 12 hours everyday. 10k sold and over 400+ 5 star verified ratings.

• The Illimitable Men Audiobook (26.5 Hours of Narration) Learn how to become a top tier man that commands respect, understands women and never gets used by other people again. In this Audiobook you will learn how to play social games and win. “If you hate yourself or do not value yourself, it’s because you’ve not given yourself a reason to value yourself. We don’t just disrespect others who are low value, we disrespect ourselves for it too” a quote from the audiobook.

How many men are blue pilled and hate women because they haven’t learned how to play game?

Look at how so many young men are delusional about the ways of women.

This letter isn’t going to be pretty and will piss off most of you. But that’s good. It’s a filter between those who truly want growth and those who only want to hear feel good advice that doesn’t change their life one bit.

Buckle up. You’ll get a lot of mental slaps today.

What do I mean exactly by calling someone a loser?

Many men are blue pilled and black pilled. And it makes them all losers. By definition, what makes someone a loser? The google definition is filtered.

Being a loser comes from giving up on life and constantly being an energy leech that only harms others in your presence while never being aware of it.

It’s when a man keeps saying he will achieve x,y,z and then blames the government for not putting any effort on his personal goals and fails to achieve it.

There are a lot of losers in the world. The type varies but they are all cut from the same blood.

I’ve been a loser for most of my life. I grew up poor with close to nothing. I have had nothing in my name. I have had friends who bullied me who I thought were my real friends.

Yet as I am now, I am on top.

The so-called friends I used to hang out with are either depressed and numb with addictions. I’ve grown so much that even if I speak of my progress, they will feel instant envy. I’m not saying this to brag.

I’m saying that most of you reading this have similar experiences. I’m saying you can change, and when you improve your life - you will witness your friends staying stuck wondering how you made it out.

As you walk the path of self-improvement and self-mastery - you will outgrow the people you know who don’t put any effort in their life.

If you’ve never made progress in your life and think you have true friends, just wait when you make real progress.

Most losers are friends with losers because they feel good being losers.

When a winner hangs out with losers, the losers will pick on the winner and bully the winner.

That’s why when someone outgrows their social circle, they get hated and exiled.

It’s a painful reminder for others that change is possible. But most of them will not even consider it. And that pisses them off.

Mind my words. You will be hated once you overcome your situation. It happens everywhere, not just in social circles.

If you used to play online games with your friends but suddenly stop one day. You will be called names, teases and anything to make you play games again.

If you used to brag about watching porn and suddenly advocate to no-fap, they will call you names just to make you a loser again.

What creates a losers mentality

Most men are losers because they refuse to accept they are losers. If you are fat/skinny, unapproachable, no skill, no value and your social skills suck - you’re a loser.

So many men could overcome their loser stigma inside their head if only they are willing to accept they are losers “now” but “in the future will not be“ (emphasize on the now and then).

People can’t make progress because they feel shame for starting low. They feel shame for admitting their faults and mistakes.

Instead of confronting certain emotions to make them stronger in the future- they instead create excuses about how good of a person they are in their delusional world but in reality they are losers.

I went from a loser to a winners mentality when I accepted the fact I had no value to society. If I died, the only people who would care about me would be my family. It’s a harsh and unapologetic truth.

But if you do understand my intent to bait you into becoming a better person, you would instead thank me and hate those who say sugar coated lies.

Let’s take fat positivity for an example. Instead of saving a person from diabetes or heart attack in their 40’s, people would rather say “you go queen” or “you go king” and create terms like fatphobic while so many people, men and women aged 40 up are dying of heart attack.

What does this do?

You kill people early.

You rob them of their future.

Men are strong and sharp when given a dose of reality.

That’s why so many men are weak nowadays. Because most advice in the modern world is garbage and full of sugar coated lies.

In the Improvement Letter we don’t sugar coat lessons. If you don’t like what I say here; go unsubscribe. I only want winners here.

If you consider yourself a loser listen carefully

If you’ve admitted the fact you are indeed a loser, don’t lose hope. It’s not the end of the world.

In fact you’re making progress. So many young men in the world are delusional and can’t take the truth. The fact you accept yourself “now” as a loser means you will grow.

Being a loser now doesn’t mean you will stay as one forever. Unless you actively sabotage your progress with addictive and junk activities (e.g. casual sex, porn, partying, useless social events etc..)

So what should you do instead?

Do monk mode

It’s bad to isolate yourself when you already are about to give up on life and have nothing in your name but that’s exactly what you must do.

Around 4-5 years ago I entered monk mode. I didn’t do monk mode for 3 weeks or 1 month focusing on myself.

I did 1 year of monk mode. I separated myself from anything that could stall my progress.

My Mother would look at me weirdly the first time she saw me meditating in our living room the first time.

My Brothers would look at me with awe when I became top 1 in my class.

And to tell you, my family was getting in the way. When I’d put on headphones and work on my personal tasks, they would deliberately try to distract me and call me to do something.

At that time I didn’t have anything on my name. I had no income. But now that I contribute to our household, they now respect my personal space and would even personally do things that help me without asking.

I am telling you. Monk mode works and it gives you results.

I spent 1 year doing introspection.

Exploring parts of myself I’ve buried deep inside me. All the shame and anger I had hidden away.

Only when I finally admitted the fact I was nothing was the day I had become something. This should motivate you because if I was able to do it, that means you can do it too.

So what is monk mode exactly?

Monk mode is the act of secluding yourself from external vices and focusing for your future self’s benefits.

That means no porn, no watching of movies, no casual sex, no going outside unless it’s really important, no wasting time on random shows etc..

Basically you get rid of anything that harms you and introduce all the good habits/hobbies to yourself.

For example:

• You replace porn with journaling.

• You replace doom scrolling with art or personal hobbies.

• You replace stress eating with meditation.

• You basically flip the switch and do everything that will benefit you one way or another.

It’s basically becoming like a monk but in modern style.

And no I’m not saying that you should completely isolate yourself from everyone.

I’m saying to cut off all activities that gives no positive benefits. If you have a friend who does nothing but complain to you about his/her circumstances you cut off that friend and don’t reply or say you are not interested.

If all you do everyday is waste time, you incorporate activities that will build your social value. Monk mode is the extreme act of self-isolation to build self-value.

Was it lonely? Yes. Was it worth it? YES.

I’d do it again and again.

Note: If you feel like your social skills dwindle when you do monk mode, every week find a leisure activity that forces you to go outside and socialize. Like hiking, trekking, going to a gym etc..

This keeps you from becoming autistic and overly anxious on social situations.

You will lose a lot

When you start to do monk mode you will lose friends and people you thought were close to you.

GOD will start cutting off anything from your life that’s been holding you back.

It will be painful. You will look back at the good ol’ days but it will be a scam.

Because between you “now” and you in the “future” will be immensely different. You will always have wished you started earlier.

You will want to quit

When my first newsletter didn’t work out I wanted to quit. When my twitter account didn’t amount to anything I wanted to quit.

When I lost money that didn’t give me results I wanted to quit. You will want to quit. The journey to turning yourself from a loser to a winner is incredibly painful. It’s you basically going from 0 to something.

And it will hurt a lot.

A word of advice

If you truly wish for change and growth you will stop making excuses and actually put in the work.

You will stop waiting for the perfect opportunity and instead create it.

You will be disliked once results become visible.

GOD will start to conspire with the universe to help you out.

If you’ve never made any difference in your life and think I’m spouting nonsense, in the future you will wish you have listened to me when your ego dies and it’s only you and nothing else (regret comes after never before).

That’s all for this week

See you next time,

-Noat

When you’re ready, check out:

• Live Intentionally: 90 Day Self-Improvement Program By Harsh Strongman. Over 10k+ sold. Get rid of your bad habits and addiction fast and build discipline in 90 days. A 90 day project which aims to help you control your urges, become more disciplined and replace bad habits with productive habits. I’ve specifically used the tactics described in the e-book in the past to help me work 12 hours everyday. 10k sold and over 400+ 5 star verified ratings.

• The Illimitable Men Audiobook (26.5 Hours of Narration) Learn how to become a top tier man that commands respect, understands women and never gets used by other people again. In this Audiobook you will learn how to play social games and win. “If you hate yourself or do not value yourself, it’s because you’ve not given yourself a reason to value yourself. We don’t just disrespect others who are low value, we disrespect ourselves for it too” a quote from the audiobook.

“All it takes is 2 weeks of consistent journaling, exercise and daily walks for your life to improve. But most people can’t even stick to 3 days. So most people suffer“

first month of working out was terrible. I mostly skipped days and didn’t work out.

But nonetheless I was able to proactively dedicate myself to working out at least once in a week.

That simple commitment of working out at least once, snowballed into twice and thrice a week. After 2 months I was working out for 4 days a week and not skipping.

Life becomes better when you stay consistent. The people who never make progress lack discipline and consistency.

Growth comes at a later time and with a longer time frame. If you think about it, learning anything new is hard at first. But as time goes on, you get used to it, you get good at it.

Like chess for example. If you know nothing about chess and want to learn it. You’ll most likely learn how each chess piece moves first, what the rules are and what the exceptions are.

At this stage you are a beginner. All you know is how to play, not how to win.

After learning how chess works - you learn strategies, you learn certain techniques and you learn how to win.

Everything goes for the same stuff.

First you learn nothing about it, then you get exposed to it, you understand stuff, then learn strategies and learn how to do it properly.

It’s like building a house.

• Foundation first

• Then the supporting pillars

• Then the floors

• Then the furnishing

(I don’t know how houses are built step by step but you get my point)

Being aware why your life sucks starts from being consistent

Before I started making any real progress I didn’t know why my life sucked. I mean life was just bleak. It was empty and felt like I was under a massive hole that I couldn’t get out of.

It felt like I was a candle about to get put out anytime by something I didn’t know. But that all changed from the day I started being consistent.

The reason why a lot of people are stuck at making progress - is because they want easy results.

But good results come from long periods of effort and execution. It takes a long time to actually feel something is worth it. It takes a massive amount of effort before you can see a return on investment.

I spent 1 year growing my twitter account but failed.

I spent another year working on my first newsletter and it didn’t work out.

That’s why consistency is hard. It takes a lot of effort and energy to get results that will come later (and not immediately) that makes people quit because most people are suckers for quick results.

That’s why there’s so many losers and very few winners.

That’s why few people get good results while many get mediocre ones.

Discipline is like a machine, it needs maintenance, rest and fixes

I know you’ve heard of this quote a thousand times already. But that’s not what I want to share with you about.

You see discipline, works like a machine. If you don’t maintain or improve it’s part- it dies and becomes broken.

Your body works the same way.

Your mind works the same way.

If you don’t train your body to get used to working out, you will get a soft and frail body that can’t lift anything.

If you don’t train your mind to persevere when something you do is boring and repetitive - it’s easy to quit and lose all your progress.

The mind is malleable. You can train your mind how to create discipline, how much stress, boredom and repetitive work you can tolerate.

Going to the gym for years can get boring. Doing the same work every day for 30 years gets boring.

Doing what doesn’t excite you is boring.

The sweet spot is finding things that you will genuinely enjoy. But that rarely comes to building discipline.

You will not enjoy working out especially if you’re fat. At first - you will hate it. But when results kick in - that’s where it starts to get addicting.

Because the satisfaction you get from your hard earned efforts and results is ecstasy.

It’s similar to a feeling of enlightenment.

Truly addictive and ecstatic.

That’s why most newbie gym goers quit while experience lifters lift for a lifetime.

Because it’s hard to stick at the start. It’s hard to get through the beginner phase when you don’t know anything about it.

It was hard for me as well. Before I worked out seriously - I’ve been working out on and off for years. I would work on 1-2x/wk this month and completely skip the next month then workout 2-3x/wk then stop altogether.

It’s a universal experience. So don’t get disheartened and quit altogether when you go through a similar experience (it’s normal).

If you don’t know what to do here’s a specific action plan: Do this for 2 weeks

1. Lower the bar

The motto here is: “Make it so easy you can’t skip”

If you hate working out. Only workout for 5 minutes a day and 3x/wk.

This advice is for people who do not workout but want to build discipline and lose weight.

Because I myself was fat and struggled to stay consistent working out. I recommend doing 5 minute warm up follow along videos as starters.

This video here I followed for years when I was fat. It looks simple but to people who don’t workout, this is can give you a good workout (yes most people are that unhealthy, myself included years ago)

(This comment gave me energy to keep doing this warm up routine for years, it’s from the Youtube video)

2. Set a non-negotiable minimum

Even 10 minutes counts. Get a timer and just start doing something.

When I sucked at staying consistent on drawing. I would get my phone and start 5 minute timers just drawing boxes.

I like to make progress on art so I spent most of my mornings starting to draw. I still do 5 minute sketches of boxes.

Just try it.

All of this compounds. If you complain this didn’t work - that’s most likely because you didn’t even try.

(Add my sketchbook pics here)

3. Track your days

It’s alright if you mess up. But don’t quit when you break the streak. The streak is evidence that you can actually do more than you thought you could.

Don’t get obsessed about the days. Just keep a simple tracker that you did X for today (show my tracker)

Put a date on the side and the habits above with a line.

Like this (show my tracker)

4. Focus on showing up, not results

Just remember that results come later than you think. It will take longer than you expect. So I suggest you completely shut down expectations you have and just get to work, It helped me a lot.

When I worked out I stopped looking at mirrors. It didn’t help me.

For some it motivates, but for me look until months later.

5. Forgive quickly, continue immediately

Miss one day, never miss two. Most people don’t get back on track because they can’t forgive themselves after missing a day or two.

Life happens and a lot of stuff will get in the way. Just get back on track and try again. What matters most is - you show up.

Reflect weekly

What got easier, what didn’t. Keep a journal about your progress. It makes you more committed and more likely to stay consistent because caring about what you can improve shows that you are serious about becoming better.

That’s it.

See you next time

-Noat

PS: In the future I will be making a full discipline guide detailing how I increased my productivity, energy and how biology affects your discipline levels. Look out for it. I’ll also be throwing out bonuses.

If you’re interested about that, reply below what is your biggest discipline problem and I’ll consider it.

For now check out this sources:

If you want to get to the next level check out:

• Live Intentionally: 90 Day Self-Improvement Program Program By Harsh Strongman. Over 10k+ sold. Get rid of your bad habits and addiction fast and build discipline in 90 days. A 90 day project which aims to help you control your urges, become more disciplined and replace bad habits with productive habits. I’ve specifically used the tactics described in the e-book in the past to help me work 12 hours everyday. 10k sold and over 400+ 5 star verified ratings.

• The Illimitable Men Audiobook (26.5 Hours of Narration) Learn how to become a top tier man that commands respect, understands women and never gets used by other people again. In this Audiobook you will learn how to play social games and win. “If you hate yourself or do not value yourself, it’s because you’ve not given yourself a reason to value yourself. We don’t just disrespect others who are low value, we disrespect ourselves for it too” a quote from the audiobook.

But instead of feeling comfortable - you feel stressed and overwhelmed.

You constantly imagine worst case scenarios.

You remember that cringe memory 5 years ago.

You feel stressed for no reason.

But what if there’s another version of you that’s actually calm and peaceful.

The one you control your thoughts and feelings.

That version of you that doesn’t feel shame and anxiety when you’re alone.

This version of you is attainable.

Because years before I started journaling, I was a very stressed and anxious person.

I always imagined someone was going to stab me in public.

My mind would think I’d get run over by a car because I didn’t do X.

All of us have anxiety and stress.

The difference is how you deal with it.

In this letter I’ll introduce to you one of the most effective ways to regulate your emotions and your nervous system.

The human mind is not built to constantly deal with stimulations fast.

It should run slowly and controlled.

The faster you work and do things - the more stressed you’ll feel.

How journaling can save you

The problem with the modern world and why so many people are depressed is because they refuse to confront who they really are.

They make excuses about their personality isn’t x, y and z.

They rationalize mistakes they could’ve learned from instead.

They run away from truth and embrace lies that are slow poisons to life. When you refuse to accept who you are - the world will reject you with much intensity and pain you wish you were someone else.

If you think journaling is girly, you will never experience the delight of writing. Being articulate is one thing. But understanding yourself is another.

Knowing yourself comes from understanding your experiences.

Your past, your emotions and the trauma’s you carry.

When you journal, you open your mind to what hurt you. To what’s been painful. And you allow it to regulate so in the future it doesn’t hold you back. A lot of people are afraid to do this.

So many people do not know how to overcome their fears.

My experience

I started journaling 4 years ago.

When you journal do not think of performing for an audience that doesn’t exist but think about how you can help your future self.

When I write my journals I feel all emotions. I feel the things I’m writing because I’m allowing it to regulate and pass.

People who refuse to journal suck at accepting truths. They suck at understanding life is a process.

• You will always make mistakes.

• Opportunities will also go away.

• You’ll lose momentum.

And you don’t need to beat yourself up for it mentally every time you remember something cringe.

What you need to do is writing down about your life experiences that sucked and how you can learn from them

No need to deny or reject. It makes your feelings worse.

I’m not talking about the raw journaling prompt about how you would want to be a “wizard or a sorcerer”.

I’m talking about writing to understand all your pains and traumas. This is hard journaling. We aren’t here to make delusions but accept reality. Not prompts about “What color of season do I want my life in the year 2026”.

We do “what mistakes have I made from the year 2025 and what can I learn from it?”

You see - most people don’t know how to journal. They do it like a diary about what life could’ve been.

We write the opposite way.

• We dissect our inner limiting beliefs and take over.

• We overcome insecurities that we haven’t faced for years.

Journaling is a the key to opening a greater life. When you confront what you fear- life becomes more freeing

Why you should journal

Like I said - most people are depressed because they don’t allow themselves to feel and regulate emotions. Journaling helps with this problem.

When you journal- you allow all your buried emotions to surface and feel them properly - you start to let go of what’s holding you back.

Before I journaled I carried a deep sense of anguish and sadness (too much in honesty).

I didn’t understand why I always felt stressed and felt like the world was moving too fast.

Only when I started writing my thoughts I realized - I had a lot of emotions I refused to face.

When I write about the experiences I’ve had - the pains I’ve gone through, somehow doesn’t hurt as bad as it used to be.

As a man it’s not good to show your emotions to others. But it is damn well good to feel your emotions with yourself.

Society has taught men to be weak by showing emotions outwardly. What men need is not outside approval, but approval within himself. And that starts with overcoming the deepest pain and trauma you have.

I as a boy evolved into a man when I realized I alone have the responsibility and hold my future. When I stopped depending and started taking responsibility - that’s when my life changed for the better.

• I have labored daily to write.

• I have practiced daily to be articulate.

• I have taught my self patience comes with results.

And that all started because I taught my self journaling.

Every great man has a journal

Marcus Aurelius a roman emperor wrote meditations as a journal. But because it was too good and useful to be left alone, people published it so the masses can learn from the wisdom of a roman emperor.

Every person you know that is considered great held a notebook and wrote down his thoughts.

Most of it is likely lost.

And the ones we know are the minority that survived.

What happens when you avoid thought

When you distract yourself instead of confronting whatever stressful or painful thought you have - you voluntarily accept stress and confusion.

Because a man unable to confront his feelings end up with a heavy mind.

A mind that’s never clear and sharp. No matter what you do- unless you confront whatever emotions or thought you have - it will always come back stronger and haunt you more.

Thought disappears when acknowledge not dismissed

Something I’ve realized after years of journaling is this; what you avoid to think about becomes stronger the more and more you deny it.

Our minds work in opposites, if you accept a thought early- the less emotional turbulence you’ll experience, but if you deny a thought or feeling- it will not go away but instead come back the next hour, the next day stronger and stronger until the day you accept it.

Denying what is real is true pain.

Most suffering comes from unexamined thoughts

Journaling gives us a way to understand and rationalize our thoughts properly. When you journal about a certain experience- you accept it as truth.

That’s why if you have a cringe memory or did something embarrassing years ago and still feel shame every time you remember it- it’s because you never once tried to acknowledge it’s existence.

The reasons so many people are devoid and stuck with shameful experiences is because they never tried to take accountability and actually acknowledge the truth what they did was something embarrassing.

Once you accept that was an embarrassing experience and not your identity- that’s when you loosen the grip of shame.

Just try it.

Write down about a recent embarrassing moment you’ve experienced.

You will feel bad the moment you write about it- but push through. It gets easier the more you do it.

Then once your done- it doesn’t feel as bad as it used to be.

How to start journaling

To journal all you need is pen, paper and a willingness to do.

Then write down whatever thing is on your mind right now.

This is hard to do at first because nothing will come to mind.

But as you practice and get better at it overtime- you’ll realize you have a lot of ideas stuck in your mind waiting to be written out.

The first time I journaled took me about 20 minutes to write. It’s not something you master by just trying out once. You get to write more and more as you keep writing daily.

To start- I suggest you get a clean notebook and paper. Then everyday write down the date and the topic you want to journal about.

For example today I wrote about how I deal with problematic people (I wrote a letter about this) In my journal it goes like this;

• Date: April 13, 2026

• Topic: Dealing with sh*theads

• Then proceed to write.

I’ve finished about 7-8 notebooks from writing daily.

If you don’t know where to start here’s some questions you can ponder about

• “What kind of life do I want to live?”

• “Do I like myself now (if not, how can I improve)?”

• “What’s something I’ve been avoiding even though I know I should be doing?”

• “What life experiences do I have that is worth writing about?”

• “If given the chance, what would I change about myself?”

Questions give you clarity. And clarity results to action.

Good luck and see you next time

-Noat

When you’re ready, check out:

• Live Intentionally: 90 Day Self-Improvement Program By Harsh Strongman. Over 10k+ sold. Get rid of your bad habits and addiction fast and build discipline in 90 days. A 90 day project which aims to help you control your urges, become more disciplined and replace bad habits with productive habits. I’ve specifically used the tactics described in the e-book in the past to help me work 12 hours everyday. 10k sold and over 400+ 5 star verified ratings.

• The Illimitable Men Audiobook (26.5 Hours of Narration) Learn how to become a top tier man that commands respect, understands women and never gets used by other people again. In this Audiobook you will learn how to play social games and win. “If you hate yourself or do not value yourself, it’s because you’ve not given yourself a reason to value yourself. We don’t just disrespect others who are low value, we disrespect ourselves for it too” a quote from the audiobook.